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This conversation is a combination of books and focusing on the topic of friendship with our dear guest, Lindsey Simcik. If you haven’t listened to one of my most recent episodes, her co-host and sidekick Krista Williams was just on the podcasts. If you don’t know Lindsey, she is the co-host of the Almost30 Podcast with Krista. She is also the co-creator of the Almost30 Membership, which is a monthly/yearly membership that brings together like-minded souls for conversation, intimate healing seminars, they invite key note speakers, release bonus episodes, and so much more. Lindsey is also the founder of her latest program, The Sacredness of Being Single, an intimate container for those who are seeking more fulfillment and grace during your time as a solo partner.
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Hello hello and welcometo DogEared Book Club.
I am your host, Alexandra Shelly alsoknown as Bebe by many and here on DogEared
the mission is to connect you all tobooks, thought leaders in avid readers.
If you are new here, I am so excitedthat you have found me get ready to
join all the bookish love and goodness.
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And if you are a regular listener,thank you so, so much for your support.
You have no idea how much it means to me.
It really makes my heartjust burst was so much joy.
So, if you haven't listened to myepisode with Krista Williams yet.
This episode will be slightlysimilar in the format.
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I have another podcast called embodyyour soul, which is my podcast branching
off my psychic mediumship work.
And when I started working withKrista and this next guest.
I only had dog-eared book club.
And when I finally got the chanceto chat with Krista and this
next guest, I had two podcasts.
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So I'm a low key, just.
Taking advantage of that and marrying thetwo topics because these topics are just
not only so phenomenal on their own, butthey actually work perfectly together.
So now that you're all caught up,make sure to give DogEared Book Club
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uh, follow and a listenand especially a review.
It means the world to me.
And if you also haven't alreadymake sure to follow me on
instagram @dogeared.bookclub.
And if you have not listened to EmbodyYour Soul yet, definitely make sure
to follow the podcast wherever youlike to listen and leave a review.
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And if you haven't already makesure to check out embody your soul
on Instagram at @embodyyoursoul_.
So this guest is noneother than Lindsay Simcik.
She is the cohost and sidekick of KristaWilliams to the Almost 30 Podcast.
And this podcast is one of my regulars.
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One of my favorites.
I absolutely adore these women.
And how I connected with Lindseywas, again, same with Krista.
I was a part of their amazingpodcast intensive called your
podcast pro, which was a nine weekintensive, where they brought 20.
Five other podcast creators together.
And they helped us rebrand launchvamp, vamp, revamp our podcast, and
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really just everything in betweenat whatever stage we were at.
And it was so special and easily,one of the best investments.
I've ever made to my business and formy personal life, because I actually
made some sisters, lifelong friends.
So anyways, Lindsey is not only theco-host of the Almost 30 Podcast.
She's also the co-founder co-creatorof the Almost 30 Membership, which
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is a monthly to a year membershipthat really builds and nourishes the
secret container of kindred spirits.
Where there are bonus episodes,keynote speakers, guest,
healers, and just so much more.
It's really such a beautifulopportunity to get to know people from.
All over the world.
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Lindsey is also the creator of her newestprogram, the Sacredness of Being Single,
which is a beautiful, intimate container
For kindred spirits who are seekingmore fulfillment, more acceptance,
love, confidence in grace, intheir period of being single.
And it is so powerful.
I've heard nothing but amazing things.
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So if you are feeling called to this,if this really resonates with you,
I highly recommend to check it out.
So in this episode, we again do alittle hodgepodge of both DogEared
Book Club talking about books, butalso talking about some spiritual,
lovely mental health goodness.
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We begin with talking about the reallyimportant books in Lindsey's life.
We talk about some of her favoritebooks and how they've really impacted
her work and her relationships.
We then get into the beautiful,juicy topic of friendship.
How friendships evolve in ourtwenties and thirties, how to
show up as a friend to yourself.
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And that also means moving throughreally difficult emotions as an empath,
as a highly sensitive human being.
We get into protecting your energyand how to really view protecting
your energy as a good thing.
And not as a bad thing.
We get into being very primal withyour people with your time, with your
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energy, which I really love this topic.
And this conversation is justfilled with so many beautiful
wisdom bombs, so much love.
I just had the most fun with Lindseyand I left this conversation, honestly,
feeling so glittery and sunshiny.
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I just had so much warmth in my body.
After talking with her, she'ssuch an absolutely beautiful
soul in such a bright light.
I have looked up to her from adistance for quite some time.
And now that I have had the absolutehonor to get to know her through
her program, but also through thisconversation, I just admire her so
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much as a woman, as a business owner,as a spiritual being as a leader.
And.
Just as a human being, how,how she shows up in the world.
I just adore her.
And I cannot wait for you guys to listento this conversation and get to know her.
So, if you would like to connectwith Lindsey, make sure to give her a
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follow on Instagram at @lindseysimcik.
And give her and Krista's podcastto follow at @almost30podcast
and if you are feeling extra curious,definitely make sure to check out their
monthly, yearly, Almost 30 membership.
It is just amazing.
And of course, I will say this again.
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Make sure to give, Embody Your Souland DogEared Book Club a follow, a
listen and definitely leave a review.
It really, really means the world to me.
And it does so much for my workand how I show up and how I can
continue to show up for you guys.
All right, let's just getright into the episode.
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You guys.
Alexandra (06:32):
Also, thank God.
We both have the postshower hair, cuz I was like,
Lindsey (06:35):
oh my God.
Oh yeah, honey.
I, I, I do my showers rightbefore I begin my Workday and it's
like, it's the best?
Alexandra (06:43):
No, I have like my morning routine.
I was in the shower I'm like, I'm gettinga little worried, my morning routines.
Slowly and slowly getting likelonger, oh my God, I need to do
something like, who gave me theright to have like a three hour
milk it, baby milk it.
I know literally for the time Ihave, but anyways, think you was.
(07:04):
So much Lindsay's, I'm so excited andI'm excited too, because we haven't
really gotten like one on one time,but also like you're a silly goose.
I'm a silly goose.
Like this will just be so great.
I'm so excited.
Thank you so much.
Oh
Lindsey (07:20):
my gosh.
Thank you for having me.
I'm excited to just get freakingsilly and deep and, yeah.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm excited to be here.
Oh,
Alexandra (07:28):
thank you.
Oh my gosh.
So.
I will start off with some yummy,delicious, book questions, and
we can kind of weave that into atopic we really wanna talk about
today is like friendship mm-hmm isso relevant on both of our hearts.
And probably honestly, what'sbeen going on with evolvement
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and stepping into your own.
And I feel like that'sreally been happening for me.
And I feel like that's beensomething you and Christa have
been talking about a lot too.
So.
Anyways.
So what book are you reading right now?
If you're reading oneand how did you find it?
How did you come across it?
Lindsey (08:12):
Yeah.
So my whole thing with readingis that I am constantly
reading many books at one time.
Maybe that'll change at some pointin my life where like, I will
sit down with one book, finishit and then go on to the next.
But I literally have about40 books at my bedside.
I have like little stacks.
(08:33):
I've made a little gorgeous artsculpture of my books and yeah, I
just love the presence of books.
I know you can relate.
I love being near them.
I love being able to pick one up,intuitively and just open to a page
and ask for a message and just,yeah, it's a beautiful ritual that
I've been doing for a few years now.
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And my fiance also loves books.
So we have like, we have a bookshelf, we have all these things, so
it's, it's just really good company.
So right now, I'mreading just high level.
Maybe I'll mention the topthree that I'm reading.
So the book of the, of soul, the Book ofSoul by Mark Nepo it's 52 paths to living
what matters.
And the idea of this book is that you readone chapter a week and you kind of chew
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and contemplate, the chapter for a week.
So you have kind of like ayear's worth of material and it's
just a really powerful guide.
It's Mark Nepo work is his writingis just some of the most beautiful
expressions I've ever read in my life.
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But he really speaks to the,you know, we're born as babies.
Like we're physically born intothis life, but then we also must
be spiritually born a second time.
And, this process takesa lifetime, you know?
And so he speaks to being fullyrealized as being not only just a
human being, but a spiritual being.
(10:04):
And it's just really.
Really beautiful.
I am also reading Wired for Love.
This is by horrible.
Wait, am I gonna get that right?
Wired for love.
Let me just check.
I'm getting it confused cuz I havea Harble Hendricks book by my side,
but it's actually by Stan Tatkin.
And this is basically about how
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when you understand your partner'sbrain and attachment style, you
can help to diffuse conflict andbuild a really secure relationship.
I, I love to be reading on relationshipsnow that I'm, you know, engaged in, in a
relationship it's just really important tome that I'm always, yeah, just deepening
my understanding of being in relationshipssince I was single for so long.
(10:49):
Mm-hmm . And then I am also coming back toBringers of the Dawn by Barbara Marciniak.
So I'll pick that up, a few times aweek and I've already read it, but
I like to go back because you alwaysfind something new and this is a
channeled book, a channeled piece.
She is channeling the Paladians and I just
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I could not put it downwhen I first read it.
It's like a book of feeling, it'slike a homecoming it's like coming
home to yourself and expressed ina way that I've never heard before.
And it's, it's beautiful.
It's reassuring.
It's compassionate.
It's it feels like you're reallybeing seen by these beings.
(11:33):
And I really, I really love that one.
So those are my top three right now.
Wow.
Alexandra (11:38):
Those are gorgeous.
I can't wait to find those, oh my gosh.
How amazing.
And how did you get intothese kinds of texts?
Cuz also we can like get intothis one, but it was so funny.
I don't know if you felt like God,literally Tuesday, Monday, last week,
absolute shit show.
(11:58):
I was off center.
And then literally I go to likeApple Podcast that it's your episode
when you're feeling off center.
And I'm like, oh my God.
and I loved how you walkedus through Osho's texts.
It was so nice.
Well, again, like I just am such abook lover and I've, haven't really
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heard a podcast like that whereyou're going through a book, with
the friend mm-hmm but it was, Imean, it just was so called to me.
It was so great.
I think, I, I think I voice message you.
I listened to it in the bathtub.
I was like, I know, I love it.
I just need to chill out.
yeah.
Anyways, that was likequestion commentary, but yeah.
How did you get into these.
Lindsey (12:40):
Yeah.
It's so it's so fun.
, I really listen to my intuition.
If I see someone reading somethinglike on Instagram and it's calling
to me where I'm like, oh yes.
And they like link it or something.
I will just go ahead and buy it.
I don't.
I don't hesitate when itcomes to buying books.
Hence my collection of just likegetting them, and some I haven't read
(13:04):
yet and they've been sitting therefor like over a year, but, I know
that they will present themselves atthe right time, but the, and I heard
this the other day, I think Ramit sat.
He said it and I'll paraphrase, butit's like, don't hesitate to buy a
book if you're called to buy a book,because if you learn one thing.
that really sticks with youand is impactful to you.
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It will be worth it.
So I just love, I just love that idea.
And so I, I don't hesitate.
Right now those books called tome, I'm channeling through music.
So I really am interested in.
Just the, like the speak of our soulsof our journey back home to ourselves
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of these channeled, other channeledpieces that inspires me, and then
of course, you know, just on therelationship end, you know, when we
talk about friendships today, I think,you know that too, we're human beings
we're meant to be in relationship.
And so if I can make.
Studying a relationshipfun and interesting.
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And do so through books, you know, that's,that's kind of where I'm called lately.
Alexandra (14:15):
Mm.
I love that so much.
And, how do you find a friend in a book?
Like what kind of frienddoes a book feel like to you?
And I know that can mean so manydefinitions, but I'd love to hear yours.
Lindsey (14:28):
Yeah, I think that's a great question.
I really, you know , my knowingcomes from my felt sense, so.
the way it makes me feel.
Emotionally and I just love, I lovefeeling held by a book comforted.
I love being challenged by book.
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So it's, it's kind of like my idealfriendship where I want to be seen, heard.
I want to, feel a neutralityof sorts, whether it's not this.
You know, campaign of like, youmust believe this and this is right.
It's more so offering ofinformation or, of ideas.
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I like to be challenged.
I like, I like to be surprised.
I like to, you know, read about thingsthat I've never thought about before
never heard before and just kind oftake it and contemplate it myself
and to see whether it's true for me.
And lately, you know, reading, MarkNepo, I'm just reminded of like the
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ability for a book to transport you.
And I think like fr you know, agood friend can really take you
out of your own loop thoughts andjust ideas of what's going on and
really transport you to the truth.
And I think he does that so beautifullythrough his particular style of writing.
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And so I've just loved books likethat, where I'm like, wow, this is art.
This is truly art.
Alexandra (16:06):
Oh my goodness.
I know.
It's so interesting.
How books are such a quiet?
Oh my gosh.
I mean, there's so much I could saylike, there's such like a quiet act of
like solitude of like focus and, just,you know, being alone, you know, some
people, you know, need complete silence.
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Some people can be at a cafe and readit, but then I love how, like it expands
you and deepens your connection tolike the outside world into your peers.
It's just so fascinating to me.
Lindsey (16:37):
I completely agree.
I completely agree.
So magical.
Alexandra (16:41):
yes.
So also I would love to hear yourinspiration on how you conducted
your recent, solo episode with thebook and then walking us through.
Cause I just, well, that's a reallygreat inspiration for me when it came
to like DogEared like I don't know.
And I just, I loved it.
It just felt like I was sittingthere with you at like a summer
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party, a spiritual summer party.
. Lindsey: Thank you.
That means that means a lot.
So basically I've just beeninspired to bring in text that
I'm reading into my solos.
And, for me, it's about pullingparticular concepts quotes, and
just contemplations within thebook to these more, Conversational
(17:26):
solo episodes, and experiential.
So my most recent solo episodewas on holding your center.
And I, I in tandem was reading,tantra by Osho and I just found
it to be so beautiful, to not onlyunderstand like what tantra really
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means, because if I say tantra, Peoplemight be like, okay, yeah, like sex.
Right?
And, you know sure.
I, I suppose, that does have,there is a connection there to
sex to, to mindful present sex.
But really tantra isthis beautiful presence.
(18:14):
This like offering ofenlightenment right here.
And right now there's no time.
There's no postponement and really it'sabout rest and, noticing the restlessness
in a moment, which I think we all have.
And, and if you'llnotice when you're rest.
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And your mind is wandering.
You're worried about the past thefuture, and you are just caught
up in the melodrama of your mind.
You'll notice it creates like this,and he describes it in the book.
This like smoke around you andyou can't really see clearly, and
you can't really feel clearly.
And so tantra is just that practice of
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being right here right now.
It doesn't mean it's going to bepeaceful necessarily, but it means being
right here right now with what is, mm.
And so in this episode, I talkabout that idea of constantly
seeking outside of ourselves.
If we are, searching, you know, for theanswer, if we're searching for the person,
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if you're trying to get to somewhere youwant to be, because you're not there yet.
Osho says that like, nothingis needed on your part.
The divine has given allthat can be given to you.
You're just, you're not sent as likea beggar, trying to find all that you
need really, you are born as an emperor.
He says.
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so it's just a reallybeautiful shift in perspective.
And so I just wanted tobring about this idea that.
We have all that we need.
And so our centers aresomewhere within us.
We can cultivate a relationship withour center, , in many different ways,
which I explain in the episode and wecan get to know like the signature of our
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center so that it never feels so foreign.
And when we are off our center,we can immediately know, ah, okay.
Yeah.
I'm, I'm quite off my center,no judgment, but let's walk back
cuz we know how to walk back.
We know what it feels like to come back.
We know the way back, we know whatit feels like when we get there.
So yeah, it was a very like simpleconcept, but one that I feel like
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we could all use practice it.
Mm.
I love that so much.
I know.
It's interesting.
Cuz that was the first I feelit's probably just become
like such a commercial thing.
Like when.
Tantric sex is so sacred, but I waslike, oh, tantra just means like energy
or something so much more sacred.
It just doesn't have the, like,that's what it actually is.
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So I was like, oh, mm-hmm . I,I love that so much.
That is so wonderful.
And I feel like this is a perfectsegue into diving into friendship and
how Osho describes, I love that too,because we are emperors and Empress.
Like we are so divine and, , this word ofneeding, I remember something, something
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I realized my, my toxic trait is,
I can get very, , deep and dark whenI'm in just like a really dark place.
And I self-imposed this isolation,like no one understands me.
And it was actually funny because Idon't know too much about astrology,
but I'm really excited to learn more.
And I, recently interviewed someone forthe, for the Embody Your Soul podcast
(21:47):
who's an astrologer and she waslike, oh, well, your sun's in Pisces.
Your ascendant is Scorpio.
That makes a lot of sense becauseScorpio gets dark and deep and,
you know, Pisces about oscillation.
And I was like, oh, OK.
wow.
So it's so interesting.
Right.
And , and anyways,what, what I did was it.
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What I it's all, I guess it's kind oflike two, two topics, two questions
into one, but I am really empoweredto just show up on Instagram,
just with, actually being real.
Again, it's so easy to show up.
, just, I don't know, like,daisy's and butterflies.
And I also have cultivated sucha beautiful community of women,
(22:30):
especially on bookstagram.
It's it's like this beautifullittle niche community.
And there was a day where I justwas really self-expressive because
they've inspired me to be reallyself expressive, like they post
these long captions about theirfailures, their successes, their inner
thoughts, their emotions, their loves.
And I've actually found dear,dear, dear friends in these women.
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And so anyways, I postedsomething about like, I miss,
I miss like writing letters to friends.
I miss these like really lovinglittle acts of checking in.
I miss checking in and you know, II'm, I feel lonely and I didn't mean
to put it personally on my friends anda couple of my girlfriends, like dear
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friends, we're like Bebe, what the fuck?
Like we check in, whatare you talking about?
We all have lives and it was such, itwas kind of a really good wake up call
for me to be like, okay, what was I.
Doing in this moment, like I do, I wannacontinue being super honest and showing up
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with so much integrity on these platforms.
But also, you know, evaluating, okay.
I need to figure out like what Ineed first before I reach for needs.
, I think there was a, I know there wasa part of me that was absolutely being.
You know, acting on integrity and likebeing real and people were like, oh my
gosh, like I like, I feel you, I get you.
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But then it was interesting of like myclose, close friends that like God and
spirit were showing me, like, Bebe,you are so loved that, would you say
you're not loved people are offended.
it was kinda funny.
And it was like kinda a funny littlewake up call of , I am so loved.
And when I am in this dark deep moment,You know, oh, no one understands me.
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It's like, that's so silly.
That's just totally me.
So I guess kind of all of that,explaining these friendships and
like where to kind of understand what
you need before you need them,or you need their support.
And cause this world is so ever changing.
(24:42):
I mean, God, we get so busy and beingan adult, we have serious relationships.
We have commitments, we have parentsand siblings and dinners and yeah.
So I would love to hear your take on this.
Lindsey (24:55):
Yeah.
I think that's just areally beautiful example.
You know what I've realized in myadulthood, especially in my thirties
now, is that friendships, anyrelationship takes a lot of work.
You know, it takes, ittakes thoughtfulness.
It takes effort, it takes awareness.
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It takes keeping your side of the street.
Very much, yours and in order, whateverthat means to you , it's easy to
blame others for how you're feeling.
It's easy to just blame others in general.
I think we see that all the time,like in the media and things like
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that, but I think when it comes tofriendship, like I've really had to
step up and into the friendships.
That really mean a lot to me.
And on the other side of that, I've hadto, literally end or energetically end
some friendships in the last six months.
And it's been important that I havethat discernment because at the end of
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the day, or end of this life here onearth, that's the highest good of all.
If my, if my heart, if my soul istelling me, yeah, actually like
this was just a season with aperson and it no longer serves you.
And making a conscious choice to end thatrelationship with love and compassion.
It's actually the highest good ofall involved, even though it might
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be hard for the other person to takeor understand, or what have you.
So as far as like tending to my ownneeds and not depending on friendships
for certain things, This work happensin a lot in therapy where I am working
through my own misdirected needs.
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Sometimes I'm wondering why someoneimportant to me doesn't, anticipate my
needs or doesn't understand my needs.
And that's kind of the trickything about needs is that we must
between us and our souls, likeknow deeply that it is important.
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That the need has no SHA there requiresno shame or judgment and that we're
allowed to follow it and we're allowedto provide it for ourselves, and
not need another to satisfy it.
Does that mean another can't satisfy it?
No, but if we are projecting thisneed onto someone else, because we
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are afraid to give it to ourselves.
That intention makes it alittle bit murky and unclear.
And so it comes back to intention.
What's the intention in asking for blankfrom a friend or from a loved one mm-hmm
and if you can say in your heart, like,yes, that intention is true and grounded
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and, and based in love and not fear, then.
I'm sure it will turn out very well.
But we gotta check the intention.
If the intention is based in a fear basedemotion, you know, it's gonna be a little
bit of a longer, more, complicated walk.
Yeah,
Alexandra (28:24):
Absolutely.
So what has been like the greatestor some of the greatest lessons that
your friendships have taught you?
Lindsey (28:35):
Oh yeah.
So many.
I think first is that it's importantfor me to allow others to show up
for me, to love on me, to supportme, to help, to provide resources,
to provide, positive reinforcement.
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I am pretty independent.
Sometimes it overwhelms me to involvetoo many people in things that I'm doing.
But I've learned that my realclose friends want to be a part
of what I'm creating and in a waythat is really pure and beautiful.
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And so I've had to make aconcerted effort to practice.
Sharing with my dear friends, things thatI'm doing, working on or planning to do
and how they can, how they can support me.
I think that's really important toallow in a relationship because if you
are just always gonna be the one thatlistens to your friend when she vents or,
(29:44):
you know, when he has an issue to workthrough, it's like that is imbalanced.
You're a great friend.
Sure.
And I'm sure they appreciate it.
If there's not this equal vulnerability,it will eventually catch up to
you and there will need to be arecalibration of the relationship
mm-hmm . So, I've learned that I'velearned that it's important to have.
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For me support outsideof these friendships.
So that comes in the form of atherapist where I can talk to someone
who is neutral, who doesn't knowthese people, and really get clear
on how I'm feeling, what I need, andalso get clear on some language that
I can use in these conversations.
Some questions I can ask, how can I getmore curious rather than more defensive?
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Because if, if you have a sharedlanguage with your friendships,
I think that's a really big one.
Where if I say to Krista, for example, youknow, I feel like I'm projecting my fear
onto this situation, which is making me.
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See you in this light, right.
She knows exactly what I'm talking about.
Mm-hmm she, she understands that Ihave something that I have fear around.
That's probably rooted in my childhoodor whatnot, and I am bringing it to the
present moment and projecting it onto her.
Mm.
So to have a shared language, this likethis emotionally mature language, I
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feel like helps you to navigate those.
Hard times and friendships mm-hmm , sowhether it's therapy or reading books on
relationships or self development, you'reable to have this like shared language
I would highly recommend, you know,within your group of friends or maybe
with your partner having like a littlebook club where you read a particular
book that perhaps could support youin having these conversations and then
(31:42):
like your weekly meetings about thebook could be about practicing that.
Mm.
Alexandra (31:48):
I love that.
I know.
I really, I like get my shit together cuzI would actually like love a book club.
Like it would be so, so cute.
Ugh.
So you'll be a greatleader of a book club.
I think I would too.
I think what happened?
What?
Yeah, I tried a couple of years ago.
It just like didn't work,but also, I don't know.
(32:09):
It was like during the pandemic, I justlike was all over the place mentally.
So I think now.
That I like have a better idea.
I don't even know.
And that, but that's, what's reallyhard too, is part of the reason
why I love DogEared is because Ilike to read what I like to read.
(32:30):
I don't like peopletelling me what to read.
Lindsey (32:35):
Totally.
Actually feel that deeply.
Alexandra (32:37):
Yeah.
Because for instance, One of my reallygood friends is a part of this book club
with all these like really sweet girls.
And they're reading a book by anauthor, I'm kind of iffy about.
And I'm just , I don't thinkshe's that good right.
But it's hard.
So that's kind of like my internalbattle that it's, cause I don't even
think people would even care that much.
(32:58):
It's like I'm making myself care so much.
And, what I've found really interestingtoo, with that past example I gave,
what I also realized is because as alight worker, I feel so much and not it's
like, cuz I don't want this to come off
pompous, but I feel the weight ofthe collective so much without even
(33:25):
noticing it until sometimes I'm like,oh shit, I'm anxious because of
X, Y, Z, or because another personthat I walked by, even though it
sounds so ridiculous, but it's true.
And then I'm serving othersand I'm there for others.
Like it's a whole mind body experience.
Yeah.
(33:45):
And then sometimes it's like, oh, maybeI'm expecting others to give me what
I'm giving to the world kind of thing.
But it doesn't work that way.
yeah.
Really interesting becauseyeah, I realize that last week.
I'm like, I think just becauseconsciously, but also even subconsciously
(34:07):
I'm giving so much and it's like, wow, Iwish I had someone ask me how I'm doing.
Or whatever, give me this support.
But it's interesting.
So I guess, cuz I know you're, you'realso definitely a deep feeler and
you, can relate to me on some sense.
So yeah.
(34:27):
I love your take on that.
Lindsey (34:30):
Yeah.
I definitely feel very deeply.
And I think, you know,it's, it's a gift to be that
connected to our feeling center.
And I believe that like our feeling centeris our connection to God, to our soul.
So, it's, it's definitelynot a, a bad thing.
However, I've had to create personalcontainers for this deep feeling, because
(35:01):
sometimes if I didn't create theseintentional times and spaces, for my
myself to feel deeply and express, thenit would seep out in ways that felt,
Out of integrity and a little bit leakyand, yeah, it just didn't feel good.
(35:22):
So that could look like having a regularmeditation practice, where you bring in,
you know, to your heart space, a feelingthat you feel like you've been kind of
holding back on or, or holding, you know,for the past week or so, and going into
meditation and just having a conversationwith this feeling and allowing yourself
to feel letting the tears roll, lettingyourself laugh, letting yourself,
(35:44):
you know, be a little bit angry.
And then asking, like, what is,what is the root of this, you
know, what is this here to show me?
And, you know, how can I followthis guidance more closely?
Another way to do thatis to move your body.
You know, sometimes you don't needto know what the feeling is from you.
(36:05):
You just need to express an ecstaticmovement is a great way to do that.
So putting on just like a really highenergy playlist, where you can move
your body in a way that's very organicand almost like primal and releasing
with sound and, You know, obviouslyhaving enough space to do so and do so
safely, but, , that could be really,really helpful because, you know,
(36:29):
we're, we're people that are so manypeople are working, you know, in a chair
all day and we don't move our bodies.
We feel a lot of things,but we're not expressing it.
We're holding it in.
We're covering it up and it's like,can we use our bodies, you know, to
express at least the energy of it.
And then thirdly, you know,I, again, I'll say it probably
(36:53):
five more times, but therapy.
I think it's an incredible way to,bring awareness to feelings without
judgment, to be seen, to be heard,to be able to process, to be able to
contemplate with someone in real timeand be guided and shown alternative
perspectives, that you wouldn'tnormally, bring into your awareness.
(37:14):
And you know, if therapy's not anoption, maybe it's a trusted friend
who you feel can be neutral and whocan listen really well and offer
grounded advice or perspective.
But, yeah, that's, that's kindof how I create these containers
as a really intense feeler.
And last thing I'll say is alsohaving energetic hygiene practices.
(37:37):
So I use showers at the beginning andend of my day to just really, clear any
cords, any just residue from the day.
And even from like my sleeping,because sometimes you can have like
a dream or like travel off to likewherever and it's a little like funky.
And so I'll just use that as like, Ah!
(37:59):
I'm starting my day.
Okay.
I am clean.
I am clear.
I am here to serve.
I am here to experiencejoy and surprises today.
Okay, great.
And I kind of use the waterto cleanse and purify.
So yeah, that's another thingI do to kind of protect myself.
Alexandra (38:16):
Yes.
Yes.
So what I'm also really, I've just been, so intrigued by my own self-reflection
is kind of these standards versusexpectations, you know, like now
as women, like we're not girls anymore,even though, you know, we are always,
you know, children cuz we're silly.
(38:37):
Mm-hmm but yeah, that's, what'sbeen so interesting for me where I'm
like, okay, is this a standard, butis this like an expectation that I'm
holding too high over their head?
You know, there's somefriends where I'm like, okay,
they're just the way they are and I lovethem, but then one, is it like, okay,
like that's not okay because that'sbeen something, you know, throughout
(38:57):
my life, I'm so open and acceptingand forgiving, but then that's led
me to like getting walked all over.
And so that it's beenbecause it's funny because,
with like strangers and clients orpeople, I can discern pretty easily.
But when it comes to friends, I'vebeen friends with for so long.
(39:19):
I'm like, okay, where does likebenefit of the doubt, compassion,
understanding then come from, but thenwhere does , no, that's just not, okay.
So it's just been this interesting—
and I mean, not that my friends aredoing anything terrible, but it, it is
interesting evaluating that now withlike my values and integrity as I.
I'm gonna be 30 soon, so yeah.
(39:41):
Yeah.
Yep.
Totally.
Mm-hmm absolutely.
Absolutely.
I love that.
Um, wait, was there,was there a question in
there at all?
Sorry.
I know.
I was like, I totallyjust kind of went off.
No,
Lindsey (39:56):
I like it.
I love listening.
Alexandra (39:59):
no, and I would love, I guess I would love to kind of hear your take on
how you evaluate your now that you arein your thirties, like your values and
your standards and expectations for yourfriends now that we're not like in high
school, college, we're adults and stuff.
So it's just been interesting forme to be like, are these standards
that are becoming expectations andlike, are they too high or are these
(40:21):
standards that are , no, I deserve tohave the standard and a friendship.
Yeah.
Lindsey (40:24):
That's such a great point.
You know, are they,
standards or are they expectationsthat limit the relationship?
Yeah, I've had to become more discerningand it feels really good to be honest.
I, I feel like, you know, I'vehad to, consciously end some
friendships as I mentioned earlier.
, and it was because the relationship was.
(40:49):
For a big reason and a big season,and it was just time to part ways.
And I didn't want to just like, letit be how it was because that created
some murkiness that didn't feelcomfortable for either person and.
(41:10):
I think, especially , as I'm steppinginto, you know, marriage, as I'm
stepping into eventually like becominga mom, like I just feel more protective
of my life and I really want to be,Selective about who I allow really close.
(41:31):
And that sounds a little Savage,but it's more so, you know,
Alexandra (41:36):
like a primal mom with her cubs but
Lindsey (41:39):
not like, kind of, you know, I think for too long, I have been
someone who's just easy, you know,I'm easy peasy and I feel like there's
an energy with some people that.
They feel like they, theysubconsciously take advantage of that.
Mm.
And that's okay.
I've allowed it.
(41:59):
But I'm just not there anymore.
And so I think it actually makes myrelationship stronger when I can express
my needs express, and set boundaries.
Sometimes they don't need to be expressed.
They can just be placed.
Yes.
And then just.
Get really clear about likewhat's in integrity for me.
(42:21):
Mm.
And not worry so much about, and thisis like very , characteristic of my
twenties and late teens is just being soworried about, okay, well, what's this
person gonna feel and say, and thinkabout me because I do that or say that.
. And when you hit your thirties, at leastwhere I'm at, I, I care a lot less about
(42:46):
that and I trust myself a lot more.
And so I, for my friendships,I, I prioritize those people
who respect my choices.
They don't have to agree with me at all.
(43:06):
But there has to be a mutual respect.
There has to be a trust.
There has to be an intimacy, andjust an unconditional love.
Mm.
You know, that doesn't meanyou can't be real with me.
I then can take that and either takeit as my own truth or not take it.
(43:27):
But I just feel as thoughwe need to be very.
Clear in our friendships as we get older,because I don't wanna be like on the
Housewives when I'm 50 or 60 having likedrama that doesn't need to be happening.
Cuz we have yet to heal that wound thatwe dealt with when we were teenagers
(43:50):
or we're addicted to gossip or drama.
It's like, no, no, no.
Doesn't need to be like.
Alexandra (43:56):
Oh my God.
No, that is so funny.
But also I loved that point.
You said about getting really protectiveand honestly, primal, because that's,
I mean, first of all, that's how,like, we've in our DNA, that's how
we've always been, we've becomelittle softies, almost letting , just
letting down our boundaries and beingless compassionate towards ourselves.
(44:18):
Yeah, I.
I just, I love that point so much.
And I think what's also been reallyinteresting, especially during lockdown
is I've actually created, I'veformed some of my closest, long life
friendships to people that like, Ihaven't even met, like for instance, like.
(44:39):
Me and Andrea Alejandre, she's literally,has become one of my dearest friends.
Oh.
And I've yet to meet her.
It's just so funny how that works.
Oh.
And you know, and then it's almost oh mygosh, like how friendships are shifting,
you know I have a couple friends,you know, in LA and a couple friends
at home, but oh my gosh, like my.
(45:00):
It seems like growing up and you kind ofare finding, you know, your, your footing
and your purpose, your friendships, like,cuz obviously your community's gonna come
to you the closer you get to yourself.
So it's interesting how I'm wow, Ihave these friends that are kind of
not actually in the same city as me.
Some of 'em not all of 'em, but I don'tknow if that, if that's similar to you
(45:24):
or if that's happened to you throughout.
Lindsey (45:27):
Totally.
Yeah.
I mean, especially in this like day andage where there's such a community online,
you know, you can find your people truly.
I always prefer in real life, but oh yeah.
It's, you know, it's, it's funny,you know, even within the Almost 30
(45:48):
Membership, I really feel a deepconnection to the women in there.
And I've met, I've ran run into manyof them in real life, concise chance
in, in the world, in my neighborhood.
And it's so funny that like, when wemeet, there's just like a kindred spirit.
That, you know, we just, we are kindredspirits and we it's like, we've known
(46:11):
each other forever and we're like, hi.
Oh my God.
You know, like just have that likedeep understanding of one another.
And I really love that.
And I think that's how, you know,you're doing it right online, you
know, where you meet someone in personafter you've been friends with them
online and you're like, oh yeah.
So, yeah, I definitely thinkthat's that's possible.
(46:32):
And it requires, you know, to yourpoint of just being authentic, being
yourself, you know, like that's reallyimportant for just the law of attraction.
You will attract people, whoare attracted to you, your soul,
your heart, your expression.
And if you're trying to be somethingyou're not, it could get a little weird.
Alexandra (46:53):
Yeah, totally.
Oh my that's so funny.
A little funny.
So final couple of couple questions.
I know we're getting close to time.
So, what are you looking forward to asyou evolve more into yourself, into your
thirties, forties, fifties, sixties,mm-hmm what are you looking forward to,
(47:14):
with, your friendships evolving as you
evolve?
Lindsey (47:18):
Yeah, I'm looking forward to like, just doing life with my
friends, you know, and whether itis, you know, having kids together
and You know, it takes a village.
So like being the village tomy friends as they have kids
and them to me as I have kids.
And, I'm looking forward to,
(47:40):
yeah, I'm just looking forwardto advocating for myself within
my friendships as I get older.
Because I think that's an amazingcharacteristic of a friendship where
you can really just know what's bestfor you and do it and know that your
friend gonna be like, I love that.
I love that for you.
I might not do it, butlike, I love that for you.
And so I'm excited tojust keep practicing that.
(48:03):
And I'm excited to just keepsupporting my friends as they
step into who they really are.
You know, I.
I'm out of that phase of feeling jealous.
Mm-hmm , you know, I don'treally experience jealousy
that often I haven't for years.
Sometimes I'll have envy come in,but it's, it's purposeful and useful,
(48:24):
but yeah, I don't get jealous.
So I'm really excited to like, justsee my friends, like create what
they've been wanting to create andbe who they've like always been.
And.
Express themselves.
I'm just, I can't wait tolike, just be a cheerleader.
Alexandra (48:41):
Mm, I love that.
I know.
And that's what I've alsobeen really noticing.
In my twenties is honoring the friendsthat are genuinely happy for you.
Totally.
And the friends that, you know, that willtell you their wins because they know
that I will be genuinely happy for them.
(49:03):
And it's such an exciting exchange.
Cause I I'm that.
I resonate with you on that too,is like, yeah, like there is
maybe a little bit of envy, but Iknow that I'm freakin' awesome.
So , I don't wanna be anyone, like,I don't wanna be on anybody else.
100s, 100s.
(49:24):
It's nice to feel that now.
Oh my gosh.
Like if I could just goback to, to little Beebers.
So, okay.
Final question.
What could you tell our listeners?
What is.
How could they be a friend to themselves?
(49:44):
Mm, starting today.
Yeah.
Lindsey (49:48):
Yeah.
I, I would highly recommend like,creating a very unique practice to you,
especially in the morning where you canreally, and really connect with who you
are, what you need, how you're feeling.
Mm.
That could look like.
(50:08):
Oh, my gosh, it could be so many things.
It could be a celebration dance of like,just being alive today, putting on like
your favorite song in the morning, notlooking at your phone, turning on the
music and just like moving your body.
It could be, it could be, doing amirror practice where you're brushing
your teeth, doing your hair, doingyour skin routine, and just like
(50:29):
lovingly gazing into your own eyesand checking in, how are you doing?
What do you need?
It could be cookingyourself a nourishing meal.
It could be journaling.
It could be meditation, but it's thispractice and consistency that helps
you to in a moment where you feel alittle lost, a little disconnected,
(50:49):
a little overwhelmed to be like, Hey.
Yeah.
Hey, you . Yeah.
You like the soul, like,what is, what do you mean?
How are you?
Okay.
We're together.
We got each other let's moveforward, knowing that we got
each other, let's move forward.
That we're gonna come from a place of loveand groundedness and being in our bodies.
(51:12):
It's just, it's a practice.
You gotta work at it.
You gotta be consistent,but it's so, so worth it.
Mm,
Alexandra (51:20):
so amazing.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you so much.
I'm feeling.
So good.
This like this made me so happy.
Lindsey (51:29):
you're so kind.
Thank you for having me, Babe.
I had so much fun and I'm excited toshare this episode when it comes out
and I'm just so, so proud of you.
So thank you.
Oh,
Alexandra (51:39):
thank you.
No, honestly, thank you for it soundsso like corny, but thank you so much
for like believing in me and havingme be a part of the program, cuz yeah.
Again, like I told you, I've.
Some of my dearest friends and it, itwas so inspiring and it really just, led
me to hear it's a, it's probably oneof the best investments I've ever made.
(52:00):
Not only like in my business, but alsolike in myself and in my community.
So yes,
Lindsey (52:07):
it's an honor.
It's an honor to support you.
I'm proud of you.
Thank you.
Alexandra (52:14):
Hello hello listener.
Thank you so, so much for joining us.
I hope you enjoyed thisconversation as much as I did.
Lindsey is just such a frickinglight and so full of love.
I.
Love her voice so random.
But I also just love her perspective.
(52:35):
I.
I don't know.
I just love everything about her.
And this conversation is just so magical.
So again, if you haven't already makesure to follow, Embody Your Soul and
DogEared Book Club, wherever you getyour podcasts and definitely make sure
to leave a review because they are huge.
And they mean the world to me.
(52:55):
And if you haven't already again,make sure to follow me on Instagram
at @embodyyoursoul_ and if you'd liketo book a reading with me, simply go
to my website at embodyyoursoul.co.
And if you would like to experience somemore bookish love, make sure to follow
me at @dogeared.bookclub on Instagram,and you will be updated on all the goods.
(53:23):
And of course, who am I kidding?
Make sure to give a Lindsey Simcik offollow on Instagram at @lindseysimcik.
Check out her and Krista'spodcast Almost 30.
I swear it is so binge-worthy.
It is so incredible.
I love these women to bits and pieces.
(53:43):
And if you are interested andfeel called to definitely check
out their Almost 30 membership,because it is so freaking gorgeous.
And oh my gosh.
There's just so muchbeautiful shit going on.
Make sure to check out her program,the Sacredness of Being Single
and the next time that starts.
(54:03):
So anyways, you guys thank you so so much.
I cannot thank you enough for listening.
Make sure to just do all the follows allthe reviews whatever you're called to
and please do not ever be afraid to dmme and let me know what you thought let
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(54:25):
mean the world to me so again i love youguys obsessed with you and i will see you
next time
Hello hello and welcometo DogEared Book Club.
I am your host, Alexandra Shelly alsoknown as Bebe by many and here on DogEared
the mission is to connect you all tobooks, thought leaders in avid readers.
If you are new here, I am so excitedthat you have found me get ready to
join all the bookish love and goodness.
(00:21):
And if you are a regular listener,thank you so, so much for your support.
You have no idea how much it means to me.
It really makes my heartjust burst was so much joy.
So, if you haven't listened to myepisode with Krista Williams yet.
This episode will be slightlysimilar in the format.
(00:43):
I have another podcast called embodyyour soul, which is my podcast branching
off my psychic mediumship work.
And when I started working withKrista and this next guest.
I only had dog-eared book club.
And when I finally got the chanceto chat with Krista and this
next guest, I had two podcasts.
(01:04):
So I'm a low key, just.
Taking advantage of that and marrying thetwo topics because these topics are just
not only so phenomenal on their own, butthey actually work perfectly together.
So now that you're all caught up,make sure to give DogEared Book Club
(01:26):
uh, follow and a listenand especially a review.
It means the world to me.
And if you also haven't alreadymake sure to follow me on
instagram @dogeared.bookclub.
And if you have not listened to EmbodyYour Soul yet, definitely make sure
to follow the podcast wherever youlike to listen and leave a review.
(01:48):
And if you haven't already makesure to check out embody your soul
on Instagram at @embodyyoursoul_.
So this guest is noneother than Lindsay Simcik.
She is the cohost and sidekick of KristaWilliams to the Almost 30 Podcast.
And this podcast is one of my regulars.
(02:09):
One of my favorites.
I absolutely adore these women.
And how I connected with Lindseywas, again, same with Krista.
I was a part of their amazingpodcast intensive called your
podcast pro, which was a nine weekintensive, where they brought 20.
Five other podcast creators together.
And they helped us rebrand launchvamp, vamp, revamp our podcast, and
(02:33):
really just everything in betweenat whatever stage we were at.
And it was so special and easily,one of the best investments.
I've ever made to my business and formy personal life, because I actually
made some sisters, lifelong friends.
So anyways, Lindsey is not only theco-host of the Almost 30 Podcast.
She's also the co-founder co-creatorof the Almost 30 Membership, which
(02:56):
is a monthly to a year membershipthat really builds and nourishes the
secret container of kindred spirits.
Where there are bonus episodes,keynote speakers, guest,
healers, and just so much more.
It's really such a beautifulopportunity to get to know people from.
All over the world.
(03:17):
Lindsey is also the creator of her newestprogram, the Sacredness of Being Single,
which is a beautiful, intimate container
For kindred spirits who are seekingmore fulfillment, more acceptance,
love, confidence in grace, intheir period of being single.
And it is so powerful.
I've heard nothing but amazing things.
(03:39):
So if you are feeling called to this,if this really resonates with you,
I highly recommend to check it out.
So in this episode, we again do alittle hodgepodge of both DogEared
Book Club talking about books, butalso talking about some spiritual,
lovely mental health goodness.
(03:59):
We begin with talking about the reallyimportant books in Lindsey's life.
We talk about some of her favoritebooks and how they've really impacted
her work and her relationships.
We then get into the beautiful,juicy topic of friendship.
How friendships evolve in ourtwenties and thirties, how to
show up as a friend to yourself.
(04:20):
And that also means moving throughreally difficult emotions as an empath,
as a highly sensitive human being.
We get into protecting your energyand how to really view protecting
your energy as a good thing.
And not as a bad thing.
We get into being very primal withyour people with your time, with your
(04:42):
energy, which I really love this topic.
And this conversation is justfilled with so many beautiful
wisdom bombs, so much love.
I just had the most fun with Lindseyand I left this conversation, honestly,
feeling so glittery and sunshiny.
(05:02):
I just had so much warmth in my body.
After talking with her, she'ssuch an absolutely beautiful
soul in such a bright light.
I have looked up to her from adistance for quite some time.
And now that I have had the absolutehonor to get to know her through
her program, but also through thisconversation, I just admire her so
(05:26):
much as a woman, as a business owner,as a spiritual being as a leader.
And.
Just as a human being, how,how she shows up in the world.
I just adore her.
And I cannot wait for you guys to listento this conversation and get to know her.
So, if you would like to connectwith Lindsey, make sure to give her a
(05:46):
follow on Instagram at @lindseysimcik.
And give her and Krista's podcastto follow at @almost30podcast
and if you are feeling extra curious,definitely make sure to check out their
monthly, yearly, Almost 30 membership.
It is just amazing.
And of course, I will say this again.
(06:08):
Make sure to give, Embody Your Souland DogEared Book Club a follow, a
listen and definitely leave a review.
It really, really means the world to me.
And it does so much for my workand how I show up and how I can
continue to show up for you guys.
All right, let's just getright into the episode.
(06:28):
You guys.
Alexandra (06:32):
Also, thank God.
We both have the postshower hair, cuz I was like,
Lindsey (06:35):
oh my God.
Oh yeah, honey.
I, I, I do my showers rightbefore I begin my Workday and it's
like, it's the best?
Alexandra (06:43):
No, I have like my morning routine.
I was in the shower I'm like, I'm gettinga little worried, my morning routines.
Slowly and slowly getting likelonger, oh my God, I need to do
something like, who gave me theright to have like a three hour
milk it, baby milk it.
I know literally for the time Ihave, but anyways, think you was.
(07:04):
So much Lindsay's, I'm so excited andI'm excited too, because we haven't
really gotten like one on one time,but also like you're a silly goose.
I'm a silly goose.
Like this will just be so great.
I'm so excited.
Thank you so much.
Oh
Lindsey (07:20):
my gosh.
Thank you for having me.
I'm excited to just get freakingsilly and deep and, yeah.
I'm so proud of you.
I'm excited to be here.
Oh,
Alexandra (07:28):
thank you.
Oh my gosh.
So.
I will start off with some yummy,delicious, book questions, and
we can kind of weave that into atopic we really wanna talk about
today is like friendship mm-hmm isso relevant on both of our hearts.
And probably honestly, what'sbeen going on with evolvement
(07:50):
and stepping into your own.
And I feel like that'sreally been happening for me.
And I feel like that's beensomething you and Christa have
been talking about a lot too.
So.
Anyways.
So what book are you reading right now?
If you're reading oneand how did you find it?
How did you come across it?
Lindsey (08:12):
Yeah.
So my whole thing with readingis that I am constantly
reading many books at one time.
Maybe that'll change at some pointin my life where like, I will
sit down with one book, finishit and then go on to the next.
But I literally have about40 books at my bedside.
I have like little stacks.
(08:33):
I've made a little gorgeous artsculpture of my books and yeah, I
just love the presence of books.
I know you can relate.
I love being near them.
I love being able to pick one up,intuitively and just open to a page
and ask for a message and just,yeah, it's a beautiful ritual that
I've been doing for a few years now.
(08:55):
And my fiance also loves books.
So we have like, we have a bookshelf, we have all these things, so
it's, it's just really good company.
So right now, I'mreading just high level.
Maybe I'll mention the topthree that I'm reading.
So the book of the, of soul, the Book ofSoul by Mark Nepo it's 52 paths to living
what matters.
And the idea of this book is that you readone chapter a week and you kind of chew
(09:21):
and contemplate, the chapter for a week.
So you have kind of like ayear's worth of material and it's
just a really powerful guide.
It's Mark Nepo work is his writingis just some of the most beautiful
expressions I've ever read in my life.
(09:44):
But he really speaks to the,you know, we're born as babies.
Like we're physically born intothis life, but then we also must
be spiritually born a second time.
And, this process takesa lifetime, you know?
And so he speaks to being fullyrealized as being not only just a
human being, but a spiritual being.
(10:04):
And it's just really.
Really beautiful.
I am also reading Wired for Love.
This is by horrible.
Wait, am I gonna get that right?
Wired for love.
Let me just check.
I'm getting it confused cuz I havea Harble Hendricks book by my side,
but it's actually by Stan Tatkin.
And this is basically about how
(10:26):
when you understand your partner'sbrain and attachment style, you
can help to diffuse conflict andbuild a really secure relationship.
I, I love to be reading on relationshipsnow that I'm, you know, engaged in, in a
relationship it's just really important tome that I'm always, yeah, just deepening
my understanding of being in relationshipssince I was single for so long.
(10:49):
Mm-hmm . And then I am also coming back toBringers of the Dawn by Barbara Marciniak.
So I'll pick that up, a few times aweek and I've already read it, but
I like to go back because you alwaysfind something new and this is a
channeled book, a channeled piece.
She is channeling the Paladians and I just
(11:12):
I could not put it downwhen I first read it.
It's like a book of feeling, it'slike a homecoming it's like coming
home to yourself and expressed ina way that I've never heard before.
And it's, it's beautiful.
It's reassuring.
It's compassionate.
It's it feels like you're reallybeing seen by these beings.
(11:33):
And I really, I really love that one.
So those are my top three right now.
Wow.
Alexandra (11:38):
Those are gorgeous.
I can't wait to find those, oh my gosh.
How amazing.
And how did you get intothese kinds of texts?
Cuz also we can like get intothis one, but it was so funny.
I don't know if you felt like God,literally Tuesday, Monday, last week,
absolute shit show.
(11:58):
I was off center.
And then literally I go to likeApple Podcast that it's your episode
when you're feeling off center.
And I'm like, oh my God.
and I loved how you walkedus through Osho's texts.
It was so nice.
Well, again, like I just am such abook lover and I've, haven't really
(12:18):
heard a podcast like that whereyou're going through a book, with
the friend mm-hmm but it was, Imean, it just was so called to me.
It was so great.
I think, I, I think I voice message you.
I listened to it in the bathtub.
I was like, I know, I love it.
I just need to chill out.
yeah.
Anyways, that was likequestion commentary, but yeah.
How did you get into these.
Lindsey (12:40):
Yeah.
It's so it's so fun.
, I really listen to my intuition.
If I see someone reading somethinglike on Instagram and it's calling
to me where I'm like, oh yes.
And they like link it or something.
I will just go ahead and buy it.
I don't.
I don't hesitate when itcomes to buying books.
Hence my collection of just likegetting them, and some I haven't read
(13:04):
yet and they've been sitting therefor like over a year, but, I know
that they will present themselves atthe right time, but the, and I heard
this the other day, I think Ramit sat.
He said it and I'll paraphrase, butit's like, don't hesitate to buy a
book if you're called to buy a book,because if you learn one thing.
that really sticks with youand is impactful to you.
(13:28):
It will be worth it.
So I just love, I just love that idea.
And so I, I don't hesitate.
Right now those books called tome, I'm channeling through music.
So I really am interested in.
Just the, like the speak of our soulsof our journey back home to ourselves
(13:49):
of these channeled, other channeledpieces that inspires me, and then
of course, you know, just on therelationship end, you know, when we
talk about friendships today, I think,you know that too, we're human beings
we're meant to be in relationship.
And so if I can make.
Studying a relationshipfun and interesting.
(14:10):
And do so through books, you know, that's,that's kind of where I'm called lately.
Alexandra (14:15):
Mm.
I love that so much.
And, how do you find a friend in a book?
Like what kind of frienddoes a book feel like to you?
And I know that can mean so manydefinitions, but I'd love to hear yours.
Lindsey (14:28):
Yeah, I think that's a great question.
I really, you know , my knowingcomes from my felt sense, so.
the way it makes me feel.
Emotionally and I just love, I lovefeeling held by a book comforted.
I love being challenged by book.
(14:50):
So it's, it's kind of like my idealfriendship where I want to be seen, heard.
I want to, feel a neutralityof sorts, whether it's not this.
You know, campaign of like, youmust believe this and this is right.
It's more so offering ofinformation or, of ideas.
(15:12):
I like to be challenged.
I like, I like to be surprised.
I like to, you know, read about thingsthat I've never thought about before
never heard before and just kind oftake it and contemplate it myself
and to see whether it's true for me.
And lately, you know, reading, MarkNepo, I'm just reminded of like the
(15:35):
ability for a book to transport you.
And I think like fr you know, agood friend can really take you
out of your own loop thoughts andjust ideas of what's going on and
really transport you to the truth.
And I think he does that so beautifullythrough his particular style of writing.
(15:59):
And so I've just loved books likethat, where I'm like, wow, this is art.
This is truly art.
Alexandra (16:06):
Oh my goodness.
I know.
It's so interesting.
How books are such a quiet?
Oh my gosh.
I mean, there's so much I could saylike, there's such like a quiet act of
like solitude of like focus and, just,you know, being alone, you know, some
people, you know, need complete silence.
(16:26):
Some people can be at a cafe and readit, but then I love how, like it expands
you and deepens your connection tolike the outside world into your peers.
It's just so fascinating to me.
Lindsey (16:37):
I completely agree.
I completely agree.
So magical.
Alexandra (16:41):
yes.
So also I would love to hear yourinspiration on how you conducted
your recent, solo episode with thebook and then walking us through.
Cause I just, well, that's a reallygreat inspiration for me when it came
to like DogEared like I don't know.
And I just, I loved it.
It just felt like I was sittingthere with you at like a summer
(17:02):
party, a spiritual summer party.
. Lindsey: Thank you.
That means that means a lot.
So basically I've just beeninspired to bring in text that
I'm reading into my solos.
And, for me, it's about pullingparticular concepts quotes, and
just contemplations within thebook to these more, Conversational
(17:26):
solo episodes, and experiential.
So my most recent solo episodewas on holding your center.
And I, I in tandem was reading,tantra by Osho and I just found
it to be so beautiful, to not onlyunderstand like what tantra really
(17:51):
means, because if I say tantra, Peoplemight be like, okay, yeah, like sex.
Right?
And, you know sure.
I, I suppose, that does have,there is a connection there to
sex to, to mindful present sex.
But really tantra isthis beautiful presence.
(18:14):
This like offering ofenlightenment right here.
And right now there's no time.
There's no postponement and really it'sabout rest and, noticing the restlessness
in a moment, which I think we all have.
And, and if you'llnotice when you're rest.
(18:35):
And your mind is wandering.
You're worried about the past thefuture, and you are just caught
up in the melodrama of your mind.
You'll notice it creates like this,and he describes it in the book.
This like smoke around you andyou can't really see clearly, and
you can't really feel clearly.
And so tantra is just that practice of
(18:59):
being right here right now.
It doesn't mean it's going to bepeaceful necessarily, but it means being
right here right now with what is, mm.
And so in this episode, I talkabout that idea of constantly
seeking outside of ourselves.
If we are, searching, you know, for theanswer, if we're searching for the person,
(19:24):
if you're trying to get to somewhere youwant to be, because you're not there yet.
Osho says that like, nothingis needed on your part.
The divine has given allthat can be given to you.
You're just, you're not sent as likea beggar, trying to find all that you
need really, you are born as an emperor.
He says.
(19:45):
so it's just a reallybeautiful shift in perspective.
And so I just wanted tobring about this idea that.
We have all that we need.
And so our centers aresomewhere within us.
We can cultivate a relationship withour center, , in many different ways,
which I explain in the episode and wecan get to know like the signature of our
(20:10):
center so that it never feels so foreign.
And when we are off our center,we can immediately know, ah, okay.
Yeah.
I'm, I'm quite off my center,no judgment, but let's walk back
cuz we know how to walk back.
We know what it feels like to come back.
We know the way back, we know whatit feels like when we get there.
So yeah, it was a very like simpleconcept, but one that I feel like
(20:34):
we could all use practice it.
Mm.
I love that so much.
I know.
It's interesting.
Cuz that was the first I feelit's probably just become
like such a commercial thing.
Like when.
Tantric sex is so sacred, but I waslike, oh, tantra just means like energy
or something so much more sacred.
It just doesn't have the, like,that's what it actually is.
(20:56):
So I was like, oh, mm-hmm . I,I love that so much.
That is so wonderful.
And I feel like this is a perfectsegue into diving into friendship and
how Osho describes, I love that too,because we are emperors and Empress.
Like we are so divine and, , this word ofneeding, I remember something, something
(21:23):
I realized my, my toxic trait is,
I can get very, , deep and dark whenI'm in just like a really dark place.
And I self-imposed this isolation,like no one understands me.
And it was actually funny because Idon't know too much about astrology,
but I'm really excited to learn more.
And I, recently interviewed someone forthe, for the Embody Your Soul podcast
(21:47):
who's an astrologer and she waslike, oh, well, your sun's in Pisces.
Your ascendant is Scorpio.
That makes a lot of sense becauseScorpio gets dark and deep and,
you know, Pisces about oscillation.
And I was like, oh, OK.
wow.
So it's so interesting.
Right.
And , and anyways,what, what I did was it.
(22:09):
What I it's all, I guess it's kind oflike two, two topics, two questions
into one, but I am really empoweredto just show up on Instagram,
just with, actually being real.
Again, it's so easy to show up.
, just, I don't know, like,daisy's and butterflies.
And I also have cultivated sucha beautiful community of women,
(22:30):
especially on bookstagram.
It's it's like this beautifullittle niche community.
And there was a day where I justwas really self-expressive because
they've inspired me to be reallyself expressive, like they post
these long captions about theirfailures, their successes, their inner
thoughts, their emotions, their loves.
And I've actually found dear,dear, dear friends in these women.
(22:51):
And so anyways, I postedsomething about like, I miss,
I miss like writing letters to friends.
I miss these like really lovinglittle acts of checking in.
I miss checking in and you know, II'm, I feel lonely and I didn't mean
to put it personally on my friends anda couple of my girlfriends, like dear
(23:15):
friends, we're like Bebe, what the fuck?
Like we check in, whatare you talking about?
We all have lives and it was such, itwas kind of a really good wake up call
for me to be like, okay, what was I.
Doing in this moment, like I do, I wannacontinue being super honest and showing up
(23:36):
with so much integrity on these platforms.
But also, you know, evaluating, okay.
I need to figure out like what Ineed first before I reach for needs.
, I think there was a, I know there wasa part of me that was absolutely being.
You know, acting on integrity and likebeing real and people were like, oh my
gosh, like I like, I feel you, I get you.
(23:58):
But then it was interesting of like myclose, close friends that like God and
spirit were showing me, like, Bebe,you are so loved that, would you say
you're not loved people are offended.
it was kinda funny.
And it was like kinda a funny littlewake up call of , I am so loved.
And when I am in this dark deep moment,You know, oh, no one understands me.
(24:20):
It's like, that's so silly.
That's just totally me.
So I guess kind of all of that,explaining these friendships and
like where to kind of understand what
you need before you need them,or you need their support.
And cause this world is so ever changing.
(24:42):
I mean, God, we get so busy and beingan adult, we have serious relationships.
We have commitments, we have parentsand siblings and dinners and yeah.
So I would love to hear your take on this.
Lindsey (24:55):
Yeah.
I think that's just areally beautiful example.
You know what I've realized in myadulthood, especially in my thirties
now, is that friendships, anyrelationship takes a lot of work.
You know, it takes, ittakes thoughtfulness.
It takes effort, it takes awareness.
(25:16):
It takes keeping your side of the street.
Very much, yours and in order, whateverthat means to you , it's easy to
blame others for how you're feeling.
It's easy to just blame others in general.
I think we see that all the time,like in the media and things like
(25:37):
that, but I think when it comes tofriendship, like I've really had to
step up and into the friendships.
That really mean a lot to me.
And on the other side of that, I've hadto, literally end or energetically end
some friendships in the last six months.
And it's been important that I havethat discernment because at the end of
(26:01):
the day, or end of this life here onearth, that's the highest good of all.
If my, if my heart, if my soul istelling me, yeah, actually like
this was just a season with aperson and it no longer serves you.
And making a conscious choice to end thatrelationship with love and compassion.
It's actually the highest good ofall involved, even though it might
(26:24):
be hard for the other person to takeor understand, or what have you.
So as far as like tending to my ownneeds and not depending on friendships
for certain things, This work happensin a lot in therapy where I am working
through my own misdirected needs.
(26:52):
Sometimes I'm wondering why someoneimportant to me doesn't, anticipate my
needs or doesn't understand my needs.
And that's kind of the trickything about needs is that we must
between us and our souls, likeknow deeply that it is important.
(27:20):
That the need has no SHA there requiresno shame or judgment and that we're
allowed to follow it and we're allowedto provide it for ourselves, and
not need another to satisfy it.
Does that mean another can't satisfy it?
No, but if we are projecting thisneed onto someone else, because we
(27:43):
are afraid to give it to ourselves.
That intention makes it alittle bit murky and unclear.
And so it comes back to intention.
What's the intention in asking for blankfrom a friend or from a loved one mm-hmm
and if you can say in your heart, like,yes, that intention is true and grounded
(28:05):
and, and based in love and not fear, then.
I'm sure it will turn out very well.
But we gotta check the intention.
If the intention is based in a fear basedemotion, you know, it's gonna be a little
bit of a longer, more, complicated walk.
Yeah,
Alexandra (28:24):
Absolutely.
So what has been like the greatestor some of the greatest lessons that
your friendships have taught you?
Lindsey (28:35):
Oh yeah.
So many.
I think first is that it's importantfor me to allow others to show up
for me, to love on me, to supportme, to help, to provide resources,
to provide, positive reinforcement.
(28:58):
I am pretty independent.
Sometimes it overwhelms me to involvetoo many people in things that I'm doing.
But I've learned that my realclose friends want to be a part
of what I'm creating and in a waythat is really pure and beautiful.
(29:21):
And so I've had to make aconcerted effort to practice.
Sharing with my dear friends, things thatI'm doing, working on or planning to do
and how they can, how they can support me.
I think that's really important toallow in a relationship because if you
are just always gonna be the one thatlistens to your friend when she vents or,
(29:44):
you know, when he has an issue to workthrough, it's like that is imbalanced.
You're a great friend.
Sure.
And I'm sure they appreciate it.
If there's not this equal vulnerability,it will eventually catch up to
you and there will need to be arecalibration of the relationship
mm-hmm . So, I've learned that I'velearned that it's important to have.
(30:10):
For me support outsideof these friendships.
So that comes in the form of atherapist where I can talk to someone
who is neutral, who doesn't knowthese people, and really get clear
on how I'm feeling, what I need, andalso get clear on some language that
I can use in these conversations.
Some questions I can ask, how can I getmore curious rather than more defensive?
(30:36):
Because if, if you have a sharedlanguage with your friendships,
I think that's a really big one.
Where if I say to Krista, for example, youknow, I feel like I'm projecting my fear
onto this situation, which is making me.
(30:57):
See you in this light, right.
She knows exactly what I'm talking about.
Mm-hmm she, she understands that Ihave something that I have fear around.
That's probably rooted in my childhoodor whatnot, and I am bringing it to the
present moment and projecting it onto her.
Mm.
So to have a shared language, this likethis emotionally mature language, I
(31:18):
feel like helps you to navigate those.
Hard times and friendships mm-hmm , sowhether it's therapy or reading books on
relationships or self development, you'reable to have this like shared language
I would highly recommend, you know,within your group of friends or maybe
with your partner having like a littlebook club where you read a particular
book that perhaps could support youin having these conversations and then
(31:42):
like your weekly meetings about thebook could be about practicing that.
Mm.
Alexandra (31:48):
I love that.
I know.
I really, I like get my shit together cuzI would actually like love a book club.
Like it would be so, so cute.
Ugh.
So you'll be a greatleader of a book club.
I think I would too.
I think what happened?
What?
Yeah, I tried a couple of years ago.
It just like didn't work,but also, I don't know.
(32:09):
It was like during the pandemic, I justlike was all over the place mentally.
So I think now.
That I like have a better idea.
I don't even know.
And that, but that's, what's reallyhard too, is part of the reason
why I love DogEared is because Ilike to read what I like to read.
(32:30):
I don't like peopletelling me what to read.
Lindsey (32:35):
Totally.
Actually feel that deeply.
Alexandra (32:37):
Yeah.
Because for instance, One of my reallygood friends is a part of this book club
with all these like really sweet girls.
And they're reading a book by anauthor, I'm kind of iffy about.
And I'm just , I don't thinkshe's that good right.
But it's hard.
So that's kind of like my internalbattle that it's, cause I don't even
think people would even care that much.
(32:58):
It's like I'm making myself care so much.
And, what I've found really interestingtoo, with that past example I gave,
what I also realized is because as alight worker, I feel so much and not it's
like, cuz I don't want this to come off
pompous, but I feel the weight ofthe collective so much without even
(33:25):
noticing it until sometimes I'm like,oh shit, I'm anxious because of
X, Y, Z, or because another personthat I walked by, even though it
sounds so ridiculous, but it's true.
And then I'm serving othersand I'm there for others.
Like it's a whole mind body experience.
Yeah.
(33:45):
And then sometimes it's like, oh, maybeI'm expecting others to give me what
I'm giving to the world kind of thing.
But it doesn't work that way.
yeah.
Really interesting becauseyeah, I realize that last week.
I'm like, I think just becauseconsciously, but also even subconsciously
(34:07):
I'm giving so much and it's like, wow, Iwish I had someone ask me how I'm doing.
Or whatever, give me this support.
But it's interesting.
So I guess, cuz I know you're, you'realso definitely a deep feeler and
you, can relate to me on some sense.
So yeah.
(34:27):
I love your take on that.
Lindsey (34:30):
Yeah.
I definitely feel very deeply.
And I think, you know,it's, it's a gift to be that
connected to our feeling center.
And I believe that like our feeling centeris our connection to God, to our soul.
So, it's, it's definitelynot a, a bad thing.
However, I've had to create personalcontainers for this deep feeling, because
(35:01):
sometimes if I didn't create theseintentional times and spaces, for my
myself to feel deeply and express, thenit would seep out in ways that felt,
Out of integrity and a little bit leakyand, yeah, it just didn't feel good.
(35:22):
So that could look like having a regularmeditation practice, where you bring in,
you know, to your heart space, a feelingthat you feel like you've been kind of
holding back on or, or holding, you know,for the past week or so, and going into
meditation and just having a conversationwith this feeling and allowing yourself
to feel letting the tears roll, lettingyourself laugh, letting yourself,
(35:44):
you know, be a little bit angry.
And then asking, like, what is,what is the root of this, you
know, what is this here to show me?
And, you know, how can I followthis guidance more closely?
Another way to do thatis to move your body.
You know, sometimes you don't needto know what the feeling is from you.
(36:05):
You just need to express an ecstaticmovement is a great way to do that.
So putting on just like a really highenergy playlist, where you can move
your body in a way that's very organicand almost like primal and releasing
with sound and, You know, obviouslyhaving enough space to do so and do so
safely, but, , that could be really,really helpful because, you know,
(36:29):
we're, we're people that are so manypeople are working, you know, in a chair
all day and we don't move our bodies.
We feel a lot of things,but we're not expressing it.
We're holding it in.
We're covering it up and it's like,can we use our bodies, you know, to
express at least the energy of it.
And then thirdly, you know,I, again, I'll say it probably
(36:53):
five more times, but therapy.
I think it's an incredible way to,bring awareness to feelings without
judgment, to be seen, to be heard,to be able to process, to be able to
contemplate with someone in real timeand be guided and shown alternative
perspectives, that you wouldn'tnormally, bring into your awareness.
(37:14):
And you know, if therapy's not anoption, maybe it's a trusted friend
who you feel can be neutral and whocan listen really well and offer
grounded advice or perspective.
But, yeah, that's, that's kindof how I create these containers
as a really intense feeler.
And last thing I'll say is alsohaving energetic hygiene practices.
(37:37):
So I use showers at the beginning andend of my day to just really, clear any
cords, any just residue from the day.
And even from like my sleeping,because sometimes you can have like
a dream or like travel off to likewherever and it's a little like funky.
And so I'll just use that as like, Ah!
(37:59):
I'm starting my day.
Okay.
I am clean.
I am clear.
I am here to serve.
I am here to experiencejoy and surprises today.
Okay, great.
And I kind of use the waterto cleanse and purify.
So yeah, that's another thingI do to kind of protect myself.
Alexandra (38:16):
Yes.
Yes.
So what I'm also really, I've just been, so intrigued by my own self-reflection
is kind of these standards versusexpectations, you know, like now
as women, like we're not girls anymore,even though, you know, we are always,
you know, children cuz we're silly.
(38:37):
Mm-hmm but yeah, that's, what'sbeen so interesting for me where I'm
like, okay, is this a standard, butis this like an expectation that I'm
holding too high over their head?
You know, there's somefriends where I'm like, okay,
they're just the way they are and I lovethem, but then one, is it like, okay,
like that's not okay because that'sbeen something, you know, throughout
(38:57):
my life, I'm so open and acceptingand forgiving, but then that's led
me to like getting walked all over.
And so that it's beenbecause it's funny because,
with like strangers and clients orpeople, I can discern pretty easily.
But when it comes to friends, I'vebeen friends with for so long.
(39:19):
I'm like, okay, where does likebenefit of the doubt, compassion,
understanding then come from, but thenwhere does , no, that's just not, okay.
So it's just been this interesting—
and I mean, not that my friends aredoing anything terrible, but it, it is
interesting evaluating that now withlike my values and integrity as I.
I'm gonna be 30 soon, so yeah.
(39:41):
Yeah.
Yep.
Totally.
Mm-hmm absolutely.
Absolutely.
I love that.
Um, wait, was there,was there a question in
there at all?
Sorry.
I know.
I was like, I totallyjust kind of went off.
No,
Lindsey (39:56):
I like it.
I love listening.
Alexandra (39:59):
no, and I would love, I guess I would love to kind of hear your take on
how you evaluate your now that you arein your thirties, like your values and
your standards and expectations for yourfriends now that we're not like in high
school, college, we're adults and stuff.
So it's just been interesting forme to be like, are these standards
that are becoming expectations andlike, are they too high or are these
(40:21):
standards that are , no, I deserve tohave the standard and a friendship.
Yeah.
Lindsey (40:24):
That's such a great point.
You know, are they,
standards or are they expectationsthat limit the relationship?
Yeah, I've had to become more discerningand it feels really good to be honest.
I, I feel like, you know, I'vehad to, consciously end some
friendships as I mentioned earlier.
, and it was because the relationship was.
(40:49):
For a big reason and a big season,and it was just time to part ways.
And I didn't want to just like, letit be how it was because that created
some murkiness that didn't feelcomfortable for either person and.
(41:10):
I think, especially , as I'm steppinginto, you know, marriage, as I'm
stepping into eventually like becominga mom, like I just feel more protective
of my life and I really want to be,Selective about who I allow really close.
(41:31):
And that sounds a little Savage,but it's more so, you know,
Alexandra (41:36):
like a primal mom with her cubs but
Lindsey (41:39):
not like, kind of, you know, I think for too long, I have been
someone who's just easy, you know,I'm easy peasy and I feel like there's
an energy with some people that.
They feel like they, theysubconsciously take advantage of that.
Mm.
And that's okay.
I've allowed it.
(41:59):
But I'm just not there anymore.
And so I think it actually makes myrelationship stronger when I can express
my needs express, and set boundaries.
Sometimes they don't need to be expressed.
They can just be placed.
Yes.
And then just.
Get really clear about likewhat's in integrity for me.
(42:21):
Mm.
And not worry so much about, and thisis like very , characteristic of my
twenties and late teens is just being soworried about, okay, well, what's this
person gonna feel and say, and thinkabout me because I do that or say that.
. And when you hit your thirties, at leastwhere I'm at, I, I care a lot less about
(42:46):
that and I trust myself a lot more.
And so I, for my friendships,I, I prioritize those people
who respect my choices.
They don't have to agree with me at all.
(43:06):
But there has to be a mutual respect.
There has to be a trust.
There has to be an intimacy, andjust an unconditional love.
Mm.
You know, that doesn't meanyou can't be real with me.
I then can take that and either takeit as my own truth or not take it.
(43:27):
But I just feel as thoughwe need to be very.
Clear in our friendships as we get older,because I don't wanna be like on the
Housewives when I'm 50 or 60 having likedrama that doesn't need to be happening.
Cuz we have yet to heal that wound thatwe dealt with when we were teenagers
(43:50):
or we're addicted to gossip or drama.
It's like, no, no, no.
Doesn't need to be like.
Alexandra (43:56):
Oh my God.
No, that is so funny.
But also I loved that point.
You said about getting really protectiveand honestly, primal, because that's,
I mean, first of all, that's how,like, we've in our DNA, that's how
we've always been, we've becomelittle softies, almost letting , just
letting down our boundaries and beingless compassionate towards ourselves.
(44:18):
Yeah, I.
I just, I love that point so much.
And I think what's also been reallyinteresting, especially during lockdown
is I've actually created, I'veformed some of my closest, long life
friendships to people that like, Ihaven't even met, like for instance, like.
(44:39):
Me and Andrea Alejandre, she's literally,has become one of my dearest friends.
Oh.
And I've yet to meet her.
It's just so funny how that works.
Oh.
And you know, and then it's almost oh mygosh, like how friendships are shifting,
you know I have a couple friends,you know, in LA and a couple friends
at home, but oh my gosh, like my.
(45:00):
It seems like growing up and you kind ofare finding, you know, your, your footing
and your purpose, your friendships, like,cuz obviously your community's gonna come
to you the closer you get to yourself.
So it's interesting how I'm wow, Ihave these friends that are kind of
not actually in the same city as me.
Some of 'em not all of 'em, but I don'tknow if that, if that's similar to you
(45:24):
or if that's happened to you throughout.
Lindsey (45:27):
Totally.
Yeah.
I mean, especially in this like day andage where there's such a community online,
you know, you can find your people truly.
I always prefer in real life, but oh yeah.
It's, you know, it's, it's funny,you know, even within the Almost 30
(45:48):
Membership, I really feel a deepconnection to the women in there.
And I've met, I've ran run into manyof them in real life, concise chance
in, in the world, in my neighborhood.
And it's so funny that like, when wemeet, there's just like a kindred spirit.
That, you know, we just, we are kindredspirits and we it's like, we've known
(46:11):
each other forever and we're like, hi.
Oh my God.
You know, like just have that likedeep understanding of one another.
And I really love that.
And I think that's how, you know,you're doing it right online, you
know, where you meet someone in personafter you've been friends with them
online and you're like, oh yeah.
So, yeah, I definitely thinkthat's that's possible.
(46:32):
And it requires, you know, to yourpoint of just being authentic, being
yourself, you know, like that's reallyimportant for just the law of attraction.
You will attract people, whoare attracted to you, your soul,
your heart, your expression.
And if you're trying to be somethingyou're not, it could get a little weird.
Alexandra (46:53):
Yeah, totally.
Oh my that's so funny.
A little funny.
So final couple of couple questions.
I know we're getting close to time.
So, what are you looking forward to asyou evolve more into yourself, into your
thirties, forties, fifties, sixties,mm-hmm what are you looking forward to,
(47:14):
with, your friendships evolving as you
evolve?
Lindsey (47:18):
Yeah, I'm looking forward to like, just doing life with my
friends, you know, and whether itis, you know, having kids together
and You know, it takes a village.
So like being the village tomy friends as they have kids
and them to me as I have kids.
And, I'm looking forward to,
(47:40):
yeah, I'm just looking forwardto advocating for myself within
my friendships as I get older.
Because I think that's an amazingcharacteristic of a friendship where
you can really just know what's bestfor you and do it and know that your
friend gonna be like, I love that.
I love that for you.
I might not do it, butlike, I love that for you.
And so I'm excited tojust keep practicing that.
(48:03):
And I'm excited to just keepsupporting my friends as they
step into who they really are.
You know, I.
I'm out of that phase of feeling jealous.
Mm-hmm , you know, I don'treally experience jealousy
that often I haven't for years.
Sometimes I'll have envy come in,but it's, it's purposeful and useful,
(48:24):
but yeah, I don't get jealous.
So I'm really excited to like, justsee my friends, like create what
they've been wanting to create andbe who they've like always been.
And.
Express themselves.
I'm just, I can't wait tolike, just be a cheerleader.
Alexandra (48:41):
Mm, I love that.
I know.
And that's what I've alsobeen really noticing.
In my twenties is honoring the friendsthat are genuinely happy for you.
Totally.
And the friends that, you know, that willtell you their wins because they know
that I will be genuinely happy for them.
(49:03):
And it's such an exciting exchange.
Cause I I'm that.
I resonate with you on that too,is like, yeah, like there is
maybe a little bit of envy, but Iknow that I'm freakin' awesome.
So , I don't wanna be anyone, like,I don't wanna be on anybody else.
100s, 100s.
(49:24):
It's nice to feel that now.
Oh my gosh.
Like if I could just goback to, to little Beebers.
So, okay.
Final question.
What could you tell our listeners?
What is.
How could they be a friend to themselves?
(49:44):
Mm, starting today.
Yeah.
Lindsey (49:48):
Yeah.
I, I would highly recommend like,creating a very unique practice to you,
especially in the morning where you canreally, and really connect with who you
are, what you need, how you're feeling.
Mm.
That could look like.
(50:08):
Oh, my gosh, it could be so many things.
It could be a celebration dance of like,just being alive today, putting on like
your favorite song in the morning, notlooking at your phone, turning on the
music and just like moving your body.
It could be, it could be, doing amirror practice where you're brushing
your teeth, doing your hair, doingyour skin routine, and just like
(50:29):
lovingly gazing into your own eyesand checking in, how are you doing?
What do you need?
It could be cookingyourself a nourishing meal.
It could be journaling.
It could be meditation, but it's thispractice and consistency that helps
you to in a moment where you feel alittle lost, a little disconnected,
(50:49):
a little overwhelmed to be like, Hey.
Yeah.
Hey, you . Yeah.
You like the soul, like,what is, what do you mean?
How are you?
Okay.
We're together.
We got each other let's moveforward, knowing that we got
each other, let's move forward.
That we're gonna come from a place of loveand groundedness and being in our bodies.
(51:12):
It's just, it's a practice.
You gotta work at it.
You gotta be consistent,but it's so, so worth it.
Mm,
Alexandra (51:20):
so amazing.
Oh my gosh.
Thank you so much.
I'm feeling.
So good.
This like this made me so happy.
Lindsey (51:29):
you're so kind.
Thank you for having me, Babe.
I had so much fun and I'm excited toshare this episode when it comes out
and I'm just so, so proud of you.
So thank you.
Oh,
Alexandra (51:39):
thank you.
No, honestly, thank you for it soundsso like corny, but thank you so much
for like believing in me and havingme be a part of the program, cuz yeah.
Again, like I told you, I've.
Some of my dearest friends and it, itwas so inspiring and it really just, led
me to hear it's a, it's probably oneof the best investments I've ever made.
(52:00):
Not only like in my business, but alsolike in myself and in my community.
So yes,
Lindsey (52:07):
it's an honor.
It's an honor to support you.
I'm proud of you.
Thank you.
Alexandra (52:14):
Hello hello listener.
Thank you so, so much for joining us.
I hope you enjoyed thisconversation as much as I did.
Lindsey is just such a frickinglight and so full of love.
I.
Love her voice so random.
But I also just love her perspective.
(52:35):
I.
I don't know.
I just love everything about her.
And this conversation is just so magical.
So again, if you haven't already makesure to follow, Embody Your Soul and
DogEared Book Club, wherever you getyour podcasts and definitely make sure
to leave a review because they are huge.
And they mean the world to me.
(52:55):
And if you haven't already again,make sure to follow me on Instagram
at @embodyyoursoul_ and if you'd liketo book a reading with me, simply go
to my website at embodyyoursoul.co.
And if you would like to experience somemore bookish love, make sure to follow
me at @dogeared.bookclub on Instagram,and you will be updated on all the goods.
(53:23):
And of course, who am I kidding?
Make sure to give a Lindsey Simcik offollow on Instagram at @lindseysimcik.
Check out her and Krista'spodcast Almost 30.
I swear it is so binge-worthy.
It is so incredible.
I love these women to bits and pieces.
(53:43):
And if you are interested andfeel called to definitely check
out their Almost 30 membership,because it is so freaking gorgeous.
And oh my gosh.
There's just so muchbeautiful shit going on.
Make sure to check out her program,the Sacredness of Being Single
and the next time that starts.
(54:03):
So anyways, you guys thank you so so much.
I cannot thank you enough for listening.
Make sure to just do all the follows allthe reviews whatever you're called to
and please do not ever be afraid to dmme and let me know what you thought let
me know your favorite part or just anyinsights you picked up on because they
(54:25):
mean the world to me so again i love youguys obsessed with you and i will see you
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