When You Think You’re Going Backwards (You’re Not): How to Recognize Progress When Old Patterns Resurface (Ep 58)

This episode explores why old emotional patterns resurface during periods of personal growth, emphasizing that these moments are not regressions but signs of evolving to a deeper level. Using the metaphor of a spiral to illustrate how growth revisits familiar issues with increased awareness and maturity, it teaches listeners to see these patterns as opportunities for deeper integration and expanded capacity, rather than failures. Practical steps are provided to support the nervous system, ensure emotional regulation, and guide self-reflection, reinforcing that progress is a layered journey where each cycle offers new insights and strengths.

From the Episode:

• " You are hitting a dip deeper layer of the same pattern, which means that you're actually ready for the next level that you've been asking for."
• " Healing is not linear. Growth happens in a spiral. We come back to familiar triggers, wounds, fears. Not because we're failing, but because we're ready to meet them with more awareness and more capacity and more maturity and more truth."
• "   It's a reorganization of identity. You are literally becoming someone who can hold more—your capacity has expanded. Not just more success—more intimacy, more truth, more alignment, more life."
• "...sometimes that's what it feels like you're going around in circles. Okay? Shift your perspective. You look at it from the side instead of the bird's eye view. You're going up, you're going up, you're moving, you're going up."
•  " If you panic, you sink deeper. If you shame yourself, you reinforce the pattern. Please hear that."
• " Regulation is self-love in action...and then return to choice because this is ultimately where your power lives. In this moment, I get to decide who I am. In this moment, I might not be able to control the things that are happening, but I can control the way I choose to respond, the way I choose to show up."
• " Your next level does not arrive when you're fully ready. I can tell you that it arrives when you decide to allow it."
• " I want you to think of it like renovating a house that you're still living in. You don't bulldoze the whole thing and start from scratch. You're updating one room at a time."
• "  The real sign of success is a regulated nervous system."
• " And guys, if you're listening, there are some of you out there who want transformation, but fear being seen. You still have those visibility wounds to work through and hey, been there, done that." 

 

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