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Claire (00:00):
Welcome to the Elevate
with Grace podcast, for people
who are short on time and longto take steps to create success
on their own terms.
At school university.
And in our early careers, wework hard and we approach those
challenges with courage,ambition, and passion.
We have lots of hope and energyfor creating lifelong success on
our own terms.
And then something happens as wehead into our thirties and
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beyond.
We start to hold ourselves backand put limits on ourselves and
what we can do.
We put our head down into worktasks more and outwardly promote
ourselves less.
Fear and worries about standingout from the crowd start to set
in.
There's lots of research thatsupports the phenomenon that
women become less inclined totake risks, career leaps, and
maintain financial independenceas they move into their thirties
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and beyond.
This is what we want to explorewith you on at Elevate with
Grace podcast.
We are going to be laser focusedon curating and sharing, action
based ideas, insights andknowledge on the topics of smart
risk, taking cultivating careersuccess and creating financial
freedom.
At the end of each podcast, wewant to leave you feeling
inspired and pumped up to takeaction on some bite-sized steps
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for you to slot seamlessly intoyour life each week, that will
help propel you forward inreinvigorating your path to
success as you've defined it.
Miranda (01:10):
Welcome to Episode Four
of the Elevate with Grace
podcast.
I'm Miranda and with me is theever talented Claire.
In today's pod we are deliveringwhat I think a is absolute gold
and I'm excited to be sharingthis with you guys.
In the same way that it can bechallenging to work out your why
we found we were jumping intothe solve far too quickly that
can limit our achievement inthis area.
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We tick off our to do list andend up right where we start the
next year.
Weight loss is a very relatableexample for many.
So after many years of study andtrying different things out with
limited success, we are bringingyou the best of what helped
propel us forward long-term anda couple of new ideas that we
searched far and wide touncover.
If you haven't quite solved yourWhy last week don't stress as
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this episode might be the onethat unsticks it for you.
You can be evolving And growingyour why as we go, and your
intuitive style may need moretangible actions to inspire that
why.
So wherever you are have comfortThis is the right place for you,
it doesn't matter how we getthere as long as we show up and
get started.
Claire (02:08):
Good morning, Miranda.
I'm really looking forward todelving into what are some great
tricks tools and hacks to helpus narrow in on our personal
purpose.
We only have this one preciouslife, so we need to make sure
that we're doing things thatmake us feel like we're in flow
with that.
But first, as is our MO, let'sdo a quick recap of last week's
pod topic and action challenge.
Last week, we called out some ofthe benefits that will happen if
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we set aside some bite-size timeslots across our days and weeks
to get clear on our, why, ourvision, our personal purpose,
whatever you want to call it,that makes you get on with the
job of creating it for yourselfand not come up with those yes,
but excuses for not doing it.
We gave you three thoughtstarter hacks to help you leap
into some immediate action.
We spoke about starting smallwith some ideas, for certain
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elements of your life.
Using something like the moralinventory framework created by
Dom Price from Atlassian.
Or you can start really big andbroad and get out of your own
way to get that shitty firstdraft, that SFD down.
Or you can just start where youare by asking yourself some self
discovery questions building onyour love it and loathe it
activity from our first podepisode.
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The, action challenge for thisweek was to use the thought
starter hacks to get startedwith an SFD of your personal
purpose and come up with oneaction that you will do to get
started.
So for my SFD of my why, I cameup with it's to help as many
women as I can each day achievesuccess on their own terms.
My one action commitment I'vemade is to start my day quietly
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making a cup of tea andreminding myself of my why and
intentionally making sure I setsome small activities into my
day, which are related to thatgoal.
Whether that's to call or meetup with a friend I know who's
working through a change and seeif I can do anything, or to come
up with some inspirationalwords, to share it on socials,
to help people remindthemselves, to look after
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themselves and their ownsuccess.
How did you go with your SFD,Miranda of your why?
And what action did you come upwith?
Miranda (04:00):
What I loved about this
one is going back over my
previous work, into my why andpushing myself to dig deeper.
Starting on our own path andvarying degrees of work that
we've done in this area before,has been really interesting to
dig into.
I don't believe anyone's reallyfinished or done regardless of
age or roles so hopefullyeveryone got something out of
last week's pod.
In tackling our weeklychallenge, I used all of our
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hacks, making a start by justwriting down everything as an
SFD and using the seven pillarsand the personal moral
inventory.
I revised my draft why, so thisis just still in very draft
form.
I was seeking impactful,purposeful fulfilling life,
where I give more than Ireceive.
I elevate my actions andthoughts always, a student of
this world and its many culturesand lift up as many peers in my
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life as I can reach to all bebetter humans.
I'm driven to creating creativesolutions to every challenge.
Be thoughtful in my footprintand empathetic in this journey
of life well into my ninetiesand perhaps even beyond.
My focus has been a littlenarrow up till now so it was
really nice to dive into my why,interrogate this from all angles
before the next few weeks ofreally targeted action.
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Now the trick will be to pullthis into a single sentence, but
it will do for a first draft.
So last week we explored whyhaving clarity around visions
and intentions was so key tomoving you in the right
direction, offering you a clearsign post when you reached
crossroads for decision making.
These are not new years'resolutions, although you are
anytime resolutions, as I preferto think of them will fall out
from these.
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These are those big pictureviews of your world, how you
want to show up in the world andhow your tangible actions for
the world and your community,evidence of your big why.
So others can find support andbuild on shared visions.
For many of us, we learned tojump straight into the what, be
this, what do you do for work?
Or, what are you seeking to do?
Before unpacking the why and inthis instance, once you've
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unpacked, you will see how allthe other elements you have
working together, either towardsor against you achieving this
why, because of that clarity.
Hopefully some of those actionsin episode one and three have
given you some of those goodpointers as to your why.
In achieving such a big vision,we need to first firm up some
strategic goals before we getstuck into specific tasks.
That's for future episodes.
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So strategic goals should fireyou up and be realized through a
number of task orientated goalsand should have high impact.
Think a bout the weight lossdilemma.
If we focus on losing a fewkilos or running five ks, we can
achieve this, but chances arelife will kick us back into
about the same weight andfitness as last year.
If that's where our focus stops.
Instead, if we seek the biggervision to live a life of fitness
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and vitality, to find andembrace exercise that brings joy
and discover your health andwellness regime that aligns with
your way of life, this is a sortof a version of a strategic
goal.
For me, this is shown upslightly differently each year,
training for challenges, joiningcoaching groups, trialling
different foods.
And I stumbled when I've stoppedtelling myself other priorities
are more important.
Overall, when I reflect on theview of how I want to show up in
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the world, It's not aboutweight.
It's about energy, pure joy, anddiscovering new ways to work
towards your bigger vision.
The decisions you make, thechallenges you agree to, the
outsourcing you select underpinyour single vision year on year.
Claire (07:01):
It's good that you're
pointing this out Miranda is I
think it can be a tricky butimportant difference to get your
head around.
I was listening to an audio bookrecently called the Motivation
Myth by Jeff Hayden.
The main premise of the book isthat motivation isn't a feeling
that just comes to you like abolt of lightning, which I was
disappointed to find out, butanyway! It's that you get
motivated by taking smallactions each day consistently,
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and the satisfaction you getfrom taking that action gives
you more willingness to take thenext action and so on and so
forth.
So he talks about thedistinction, like you mentioned,
between setting your bigaudacious goal.
And then from there you cancreate processes around the what
and the how to make it happen.
So you can't create theprocesses until you've decided
on your purpose.
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And when you've created yourprocesses it's then that you can
focus on your daily work plan,forget about your big why, and
just do the small actions thatyou need to live your purpose.
So I really liked your example,Miranda of exercise and health
and wellbeing, and thedistinction.
Hayden uses an example ofgetting a university degree.
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So you might decide for example,that your why is to be, I don't
know, to be a family lawprofessional, to help families
in some of their lifedifficulties and so you need a
law degree.
The law degree will take youabout four years, which can seem
overwhelming.
So once you've decided that youwant to do that as your why,
then you simply focus on the twosubjects or however many, you
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have to pass that term and youplan your study and your time
and your days and your weeks onthose two subjects.
And then you keep through doingthat process for yourself of how
you allocate that time and spaceto get the subjects done each
term and all of the terms.
And then before you know ityou've smashed through a four
year degree.
So as you said earlier Mirandain today's episode, we're going
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to serve up some great contentthat you can use to refer to and
have a play around with in orderto figure out your why.
Miranda (08:53):
Absolutely.
So, let's start where westarted, which was a concept
from Simon Sinek, the book"Startwith Why".
In a followup book,"Find YourWhy", and again, loads of video
resources are out there.
So don't think you have to goand read them all, describes how
in doing this work for himselfhe actually asked a few friends
to describe him and then digdeeper into the how you show up
for them, how you make themfeel.
And in his case, he discoveredthat he was inspirational to his
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friends, they found himinspiring.
And so that set him on his pathand he's inspiring the world.
So I guess that was a great"why"to really uncover.
Another tip from his book is towrite down stories and moments
in your life that are stillquite present that light you up
and then ask a person maybe afriend, but someone that's not
too close to you, to actuallylisten really hard to these
stories and to help you findsynergies, to finding your why.
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So I think if you're a reallyextroverted person or you're
really social and it needs totalk these things through to
unpack them, then this is areally great tip.
I do recognise that some peoplePrefer a structured checklist
and doing that work internally.
And so if you prefer this, thenthere's a couple of different
tools out there.
One is around a missionstatement.
Forbes published a piece fromNick Leighton to help us to dig
in to our why by identifying andwriting up your personal mission
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statement, which can really tapinto the why.
This will support that deeperknowledge and understanding of
yourself.
It will help to align yourpersonal and professional
vision.
I think it's interesting that alot of people start with a
personal and professional visionand at some point try to merge
them.
And I think Simon Sinek and Nickboth very aligned that they need
to be aligned.
So aligning personalprofessional visions and then
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pointing that focus to help whenthings get cloudy.
I think that's Probably the mostimportant thing about this why
is really helping us to getwhere we're going with the fewer
write road blocks possible.
Because for most of us, I thinkit's been a windy path up til
now.
A little bit of clearerdirection, a little bit of,
efficiency would be great Andalso to help you identify when
you hit your champagne moment tocelebrate those wins in the
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moment and go yes, I've achievedthis.
Which is exactly what we say,Claire the achieving that
success on your own terms.
I included his checklist in theshow notes, but for me the tips
as I ran through them, it's notquite serving me.
But Claire, I feel your model,actually, aligns with our
listeners Did you want to talkthrough that one?
Claire (10:58):
Yes.
In last week's pod, I mentionedthe book,"The Purpose Project"
by Carolyn Tate and in one ofthe chapters in that book, she
talks about how to write apowerful purpose statement for
yourself.
And so I found a blog article onher website that is basically
the same approach that she setsout in the book.
It gives you 13 essentialingredients for a powerful
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purpose statement.
It's written for creating acompany purpose statement, but I
think it works just as well as aguide to help you create your
own personal statement.
The article has a bunch of greatexamples of purpose statements,
from companies that have greatones and I think that this can
help your brain get into acreative mode to come up with
what your purpose statement canbe.
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I always find that seeingexamples can help you work
through how you could translatethat into an example for
yourself.
I think the key here with all ofthis stuff is not to overthink
it.
No analysis paralysis, just grabone of those articles or both of
the articles, find 30 minutes oran hour to use these articles as
a springboard of ideas, to getthat SFD of your own why down on
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paper.
You can keep building on it andworking on it over time.
The main thing is that you getsomething written down as you're
starting point.
If you're finding it tough toconvince yourself to do this,
then in last week's pod episode,remember that we talked about
the benefits of doing this.
So maybe hop into there, just togive yourself a bit of
ammunition for doing the hardwork on this one.
A second technique that we'vecome up with that you could use
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to quickly try and shake outyour why is what we're calling
"The Power of One" hack.
In a nutshell, you pick oneword, one idea, one challenge
that you will set yourself tofocus your energy on.
Miranda, I think you've had abit of success on the idea of
the"One Little Word".
Can you share why you found thatto be a good approach to getting
out your why?
Miranda (12:44):
Absolutely my personal
frustration and something I'm
committed to setting right.
Is asking too many esotericquestions without clear guidance
of the journey that follows.
My journey of one little wordstarted a couple of years before
I found an actual tool aroundit.
Probably relying more onstrategic goals to realize my
bigger vision beforehand, bysetting this clear vision and
with most targeted strategicgoals, I noted feeling a greater
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feeling of control in more areasof my world.
So encouraged by this clarity ofvision and these strategic
goals, but unsure how to dial upthe needle so to speak, I went
on a hardcore search overseveral months and eventually
came across the idea of oneword.
This is the idea that you livewith a word to guide you.
Some years, there'll be a fairlypassive word, other years, a
strong action word.
And when I first found thispitched this idea of take
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control and wow, work and familylife moved from snail's pace to
lightspeed.
Instead of waiting for things tohappen, I'm envisaging how to
live the word in every area ofmy life with these monthly
prompts, holding myself toaccount each month, week with
prompts from one little word, aclass by Ellie Edwards, it was
so powerful that by May I choseto slow things down again, very
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happy with the outcomes that hadbeen dragging me down the past
few years.
Imagine that.
Four months, two years, thedifference was incredible.
It was absolute clarity on myvisions, my goals and what I was
prepared to accept goingforward.
I'm still planning or bothsetting these before, but
without that clear vision thingswere going really pear shaped.
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I realized that I was waitingfor others to be ready and in
doing so I was holding back.
I think that's what underpinsthis necessary finding your why,
if you don't, other people aregoing to implant theirs on you.
And so that clarity is likecracking open an egg it's like
lifting open the curtains andseeing the sun.
It's quite incredible.
Taking control also meant that Ihad to let some plans go.
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Some things that I was reallyworking hard towards.
And in hindsight it has provenabsolutely the right thing to
do.
So I'm so grateful for gettingthe clarity when I did.
In getting there I think it'sreally important to write down
the plans So I wrote them down.
I checked in weekly, I did theprompts and I achieved what I
achieved In Four months, like Isaid, just quite inspiring.
So visions and strategic goalsin your head without a plan,
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it's not going to give you theresults that you need.
Resolutions written in a book atthe start of the year, and never
referred back to probably stillnot going to get you the
results, but a big audaciousvision to help guide you and
taking small, actionable stepsconsistently have proven the
most successful to me.
Claire (15:05):
Yeah, I think, we spoke
about this out of the podcast
and I can see how that wouldwork.
So for my 2021 vision board,which by the way is actually
still in draft.
So it's a shitty first draft ofmy vision board, but it's not
too bad and it gives me someguidance.
But I have three, words on myvision board, which have balance
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flourish and inspiration for2021.
And, listening to you talk, Ithink I could just make it
flourish.
Like my 2021 word could just beflourished because in order to
flourish, I need to make surethat I'm doing the work to feel
like I'm in balance on any givenday or week, and reminding
myself to be mindful of findinginspiration as I go about my
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days and weeks for the year willalso feed into whether I'm
flourishing or not.
But I think in reality too, it'sgreat.
If you can get down to one wordand one thing, but it's not that
big of a deal to have threewords to start with and then
checking on them, right?
Miranda (16:00):
Absolutely not.
I so agree that you just startwhere you start and some years
it's so a word some years is itsbiggest strategic goals.
So I think, I really encouragepeople to do what's working for
you in the moment.
If this is really not servingyou, then put it away.
If this is like, oh my goodness,if I could just focus on this
I'm going to get somewhere.
Take it and run with it causethis is your year for that.
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So this year I started withthree, I really couldn't narrow
it down.
By March.
I was same sort of thing asyou'll flourish.
I was like, of course, by doingthis, it's going to serve all of
these points.
So I think if you've never triedit, I was definitely worth a
try.
It was very helpful for me.
And we'll put the details in theshow notes.
Claire (16:36):
Right.
So our last hack on how to getquickly stuck into some action
steps on your purpose this weekis to spend a bit of time
cementing for yourself, whatyour superpowers are.
And also the two or three keyvalues that you live your life
by.
In the reference articles thatwe suggested you check out
before for how to create yourpersonal purpose statement, some
of the questions the authorsrecommend that you work through
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is to identify your strengthsand your personal values.
This in itself can invoke thateye-rolling groany feeling, we
then put it in the too hardbasket and move on mindset.
Plus, a lot of us have beenconditioned to not talk about
how great we are.
And so we don't really thinkabout what our unique strengths
are that we bring to ourpersonal and work lives every
day.
And you do do this, you probablyjust not thinking about it much
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of the time in terms of whatthose things are that you're
bringing to the table wheneveryou're going about your day and
week at work and at home.
A really great free diagnosticthat only takes maybe about 10
or 15 minutes to do is the viacharacter strength survey.
The basic premise is that thereare 24 character strengths that
make up what's best about ourpersonality.
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Everyone has all of those 24character strengths, but in
different degrees.
So you answered the questionsand you get a report back, which
gives you the combination ofyour top five strengths I think,
maybe it gives you 10 in thefree version.
I've done this survey quite afew times over the years in
different contexts, and I'vefound it to be really helpful
bit of information about myselfthat I can reference in various
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ways when I'm thinking aboutstrengths that I bring to that
type of role.
If you find yourself gettingquite into this stuff, which we
really hope our podcast isconvincing you to do.
I also recommend the StrengthsFinder book by Tom Rath and the
Gallup group.
When you buy that book, you geta code to do the Gallup strength
finder survey online, and youget a very comprehensive report
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back, which you can use with thebook to get clear on what your
natural talents are.
So you can start to makedecisions about what you do and
you don't do that, leverage yourstrengths across your work and
your life.
So the concept in the book isthat you really do become your
best self, not by focusing ongetting better at the things
that you're not good at, but byreally capitalizing on your
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strengths.
And finally, I think a reallygood compliment to this is to
get solid on what your two tothree core values are.
Miranda, you brought up BreneBrown in the last couple of
pods.
And she produces a really goodcontent on this, in her books,
like"Dare To Lead" and also onher Dare to Lead website and
some of her YouTube videos.
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If you're finding it hard tonarrow it down and your two to
three core values, that'scompletely okay and
prettynormal, it can actually bequite a hard thing to do.
But like the power of one hackthat we chatted about before,
one way you can do this is tocircle 10 or so values from the
Brene Brown values list thatwe'll stick in the show notes
and you can just quickly look atthe list, pick 10 that maybe
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resonate with you off the bat.
And then over time, work outwhich ones are the two to three
key ones that you truly liveyour life by.
You can do that over time so forexample, when you get annoyed or
irritated about something, itcan be a bit of a flag to take a
quick pause and think toyourself, why is that annoying
me so much?
What is it about that thing thatsomebody is doing that's
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annoying me so much and often itwill be because it contradicts
one of your personal values.
And those things can really leadinto writing out your personal
purpose statement, coming upwith your one little word and
that sort of stuff.
Miranda (20:04):
No, a perfect reminder.
I think it's been a little whilesince I've done a character
study so check out that VIA one.
I think it's something that weshould be asking other people to
help you to dig into iscertainly one thing that can
also be their view and theirvision.
So it certainly helps tocompliment that with doing some
of this work on your own andreally digging it.
Because as you mentioned, wethink about our unique selling
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points.
The way we show up in the world,we think about day to day, what
are we doing?
The what, what, what, so yeah,all this work around purpose is
so powerful.
All right.
Well, as we've promised, thereis some absolute gold to help
you on your way to finding yourvision and setting up your clear
signposts to help your futurepath come clearer, I get this
like visual of Dorothy landingin Oz, reaching that iconic
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signpost and just knowing whichway she needs to go, leading her
companions with confidence andthis is what we want for you all
as well.
To help you articulate and seeyour vision come to life, we've
explored the value of strategicgoals before reaching in for
those short-term band-aids,we've explored the personal
mission statement or a powerfulpurpose statement to help you
define your why.
We've shared the value ofdialing your vision into your
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guiding words with a weekly ormonthly action to help you
realize your vision much faster,and offer tools to uncovering
your strengths and your personalvalues to further unpack your
why.
By this point, I am hoping youare so excited to get some big
ideas down, so we'll jumpstraight into the action
challenge for this week.
What we want to do this week isto really seek to articulate and
refine your vision to a clearstatement that you can relate
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to.
So take that first draft youcreated last week, possibly
rumble with those words, andtest it.
You can do this with someone asper the Simon Sinek method, or
you can go a little broader,understand your values and
refine your why.
And at the end of these, comeback to that first draft really
try to tighten that visionstatement or perhaps use the
purpose statement to really getsomething nice and tight and
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clear.
Generally, you want to aim forone sentence, but be a rebel,
you can have two, or you canhave one word.
Once you've done this start tothink about those big strategic
goals and how you are going toexecute on your vision.
Is it about having that one wordguide you.
Next week, we will get startedon realizing your vision and
their strategic goals to make ithappen.
Claire (22:08):
Challenge acceptance for
this week's action challenge.
I'll give it a good red hot go.
Like everyone, it always makesme feel a bit cringey and
uncomfortable to create bigaudacious goals for myself, but
we've talked about the benefitsof it.
So, as I mentioned earlier, andit's worth hollering out again,
a hugely important thing for usall to remember is to make sure
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we're not letting ourselvesgetting our own ways.
Big time channeling of thatconcept from Brene Brown and
Anne Lamott of getting thatshitty first draft of your
personal purpose statement downon paper.
Remember that perfectionismkills creativity.
And you just need to get overyourself and write down your
shitty first draft.
So peeps go forth and find evenjust a short slab of time this
week to create those SFDsbecause it will really come in
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handy for next week's episode.
Next week, Miranda and I arevery excited because we're going
to be doing our first bookreview of the podcast series,
which is (23:00):
The One Thing, the
Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind
Extraordinary Results, by GaryKeller and Jay Patterson.
There are some really greatsynergies between The One Thing
and our Elevate with Gracepurpose of curating the amazing
content that's out there in theworld, into bite-sized
actionable steps for you to takeon your journey of leading a
life of success on your terms.
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Miranda and I are pretty pumpedabout next week's episode so we
hope you can join us.
We've put all the curatedcontent we've mentioned today in
the pod episode notes so you cancheck them out over the next
week and dip into some of thestuff that resonates with you
and inspires you to take small,actionable steps on yourself.
Also check out our website,elevatewithgrace.com.au or hop
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onto our Instagram account formore curated content.
And we love, love, love to hearfrom you and how you're going.
So please drop us an email atelevatewithgrace@gmail.com.
And please, please, please like,and subscribe to this podcast
and tell your friends.
We can't wait to chat to younext week.
Thanks so much for listening.
Miranda (23:59):
Thank you.
Thank you.