April 9, 2025 • 33 mins
Ready for a fresh start? Reinvention isn't just for New Year's resolutions—it's a powerful journey you can embark on at any moment, especially as you navigate your 30s.
In this deeply reflective episode, we explore the transformative process of reinventing yourself and breaking free from outdated versions of who you once were. We dive into practical strategies like writing goodbye letters to your past self, visualizing your ideal future with stunning clarity, and making deliberate changes to your environment that support your evolution.
The beauty of reinvention lies in its flexibility. Whether you prefer Crystal's approach of gradual, organic change or Amanda's more structured visualization techniques, there's no single "right way" to transform. We share our personal reinvention goals—from learning tennis and swimming to revamping our wardrobes with quality investment pieces that reflect our evolving tastes.
Perhaps most importantly, we challenge the limiting belief that you can be "too old" for new beginnings. Your 30s aren't about settling—they're about claiming the life you truly want with confidence and purpose. As we discuss changing not just external factors but also consumption habits and digital environments, we offer a comprehensive roadmap for meaningful change.
What aspect of yourself are you ready to reinvent? Share your journey in the comments and join our community of people embracing new versions of themselves without apology or hesitation. The time for transformation is always now.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:27):
Applications close on april 25th 2025 hi, I'm crystal
vega, hi, I'm amanda booze, andthis is elevators podcast where
we talk about the peaks andvalleys of life's journey, from
relationships toentrepreneurships, friendships,
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modern womanhood, that's right.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
We're back again with another episode.
You know what I was justthinking about as I was getting
ready for this show, what I'mgoing to be repeating outfits on
this show and for the rest ofmy life, stop.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Get out of my head.
I am going to be repeatingoutfits.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
I said if I wear this shirt, one more time Because,
honestly, in this day and age,please stop thinking that if you
took a picture in somethingthat you cannot wear the outfit
again, sis, wear the outfitagain.
It's not sustainable to berepeating outfits and buying
outfits Like no one remembersthat you wore that shirt that
you have on today, two days ago.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
No one remembers that , no we really do have a bad
habit of being like.
I already took a picture inthat.
No, I, who do we think we arelike?
Speaker 3 (01:28):
who did we become?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
all of us like I took a picture in that like who?
Who do you think you are, whodo I think I am?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
and one thing about me if I wore something and I
didn't get a good picture in it,I'm wearing it again.
I'm gonna wear it again withsomeone else.
I might go out with my friendwho knows how to take the
picture and I might wear itagain.
You know what I mean Becauseyou know, sometimes you go out
with your man and he may nottake the picture.
Like your friend's going totake the picture, no girl.
I know that too well he standsright here and he doesn't like
give you the angles.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
He's the biggest hater.
He's the biggest hater.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Did I do good and you're like mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
But you know, deep down inside you had one job.
Why do we get so mad when ourboyfriends can't take the right
picture?
Speaker 3 (02:08):
I know why.
You know how much money goesinto getting ready.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
And time and effort.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
The makeup alone, that you count up one pump of
foundation got to cost $20.
You know what I mean, Like whenyou think about how much money.
The way they be pricing it forreal about the way they be
pricing it for real.
Three sprays of that perfumeabout 50.
You know what I mean.
Like when you think about, likethe hair, the makeup, the look
you're like.
I have to capture this becauseof the amount of preparation and
money that went into gettingdressed for this dinner or this
(02:34):
lunch.
I just need one good photothat's it, that's your job.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Just one, just one.
I agree, no, I'd be so mad whenmy man doesn't get a picture.
He's like, once you're, you'rereally mad over a picture.
I'm like, yes, yeah, I am, Ijust want one picture, that's it
.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
I had to say that because I'm like I'm not doing
that anymore.
And you know another thing Iused to be so such a stickler
about matching like nail polishto like toe polish.
I'm not that person anymore.
But it has to be neutral, solike if I do french, I might do
like white toes, or if I do likewhite toes I might do like a
solid nude.
They still gotta be they stillgotta compliment each other, but
(03:08):
it doesn't have to be the sameexact.
It trips me out when I see likered nails with like french.
It's just like why did you dothat?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
no, that's chaotic that's very like your brain told
you to get two different things.
I can't do that either.
It bothers me bad.
This is the most likedifference I've done, which is
like light gray nails and Frenchtoes and they look cute.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Thank you, but that matches.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Gray and French Same family Compliment.
Yes, I can't do like Pink andblue, like I don't do dark color
nails either, like I might do alittle burgundy in New York in
the winter yes, fall.
Yes, but I don't do it on myfeet.
I feel like you can't do darktoes, dark colors on your toes.
I don't know, maybe it'sunpopular opinion, but dark
colors on your toes just makethem so aggressive.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
My toes already aggressive and special, so you
can't do no dark colors.
I don't want to bring no moreattention to it.
Let it be neutral and calm andvery demure Because I start
bringing color Very in the cut.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
It's already gonna give to him some attention to it
.
It's like it's okay, baby.
Yes, no, for real.
I can't do no colors on my toesand I can't just do like random
, like hand versus feet.
Yeah, it's just not, it's notit how about y'all, what y'all
doing?
Yeah, what y'all doing?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I just these are the random thoughts I had as I was
getting ready for for our show.
But anyways, child, let's getinto this new episode for our
show.
We're going to be talking aboutreinventing yourself in your
30s, we're in our new season.
You know, we always say nowthat we're in our 30s, so let's
talk about reinventing and likespecific things that you can do
(04:40):
to reinvent yourself.
Okay, in this new season, takeit away, miss Pam, let's do it.
So one of the things that Ithink happens when it relates to
reinventing yourself is youhave to have a real conversation
about the old version ofyourself and the new version of
yourself and, as you're steppinginto this new realm or this new
element of who you want to be,one of the things that I
(05:03):
actually practiced and starteddoing was kind of that whole
like AI, like like what do you?
What do you envision your lifebeing like?
Right, if you're like what doyou mean?
Break that down?
Who does that?
Okay, so it was like this newprompt I've seen as the new year
started, right, and it was likepretty much, you write a story
about your life, like what thatperson drives, what they have,
(05:26):
what they do every day.
Um, you know what it is thatyou see yourself doing like five
years from now, or even like ina year or two from now.
Right, you write down like yourgoals at your highest level and
you write it in chat gtp thisis what this person is, this is
who I am GPT, chat, gpt.
That's what I said.
No, yeah, is it GPT?
(05:46):
What did?
I say Okay.
So basically you go into chatGTP.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Nope Chat.
Gpt, what is it?
G-p-t, what did I say?
Gtp Okay, go and chat girl.
Go on.
The chat thing that talk back,go on the AI thing that we talk
about?
Speaker 3 (06:10):
No, so you go on chat GTP.
Sure, it's GTP.
I got the app.
Y'all go keep correcting me onwhat this thing is.
It's AI.
It's new.
It's new.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Go for it, keep going , keep.
This thing is it's ai, it's new, it's new go for it keep going
they know, they know it's thething that talk back chat gtp.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
It's chat tpg.
Go ahead, which one is?
Speaker 2 (06:32):
it nah, you killing me chat gpt.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Okay, so you go on chat gtp, right?
I said that right.
Sorry, we had so many takes ofthis.
Anyways, you go on the chat,right.
You put in what it is that youenvision your life being, and
then it crafts a story and ittells you, like a story of who
it is that you are in thisfuture self that you envision
(06:59):
yourself being, and it's sodescriptive and it's like it
almost like like oh my gosh likeit's almost scary, but it's so
beautiful at the same time,because it literally makes you
think about the things that youneed to be doing now to get to
that future self Right.
So I think, as we're talkingabout reinventing ourselves, I
think we should challengeourselves to write a goodbye
(07:19):
letter to who we were, who wewere, and I think we should just
kind of like part ways withthat version of ourself, because
I feel like, as you're growingand evolving, you can't hold on
to things that you weren't ableto do, things that didn't happen
for you, and I think that yougot to operate from the space of
like you know, abundance andlike positivity, and you got to
(07:39):
like let go, like almost likegoodbye to my old self as I'm
entering this new chapter andlike write a reintroduction to
who you are today.
So I think that that's like thefirst step is acknowledging who
you aren't and who you want tobe in this new element yeah, I
love that.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I mean, that's something I've never done, not
talking to chat, gpt, or writinga letter to my old self, I
don't know.
I feel like, first of all,everybody is evolving, always
evolving.
You know out with the old andwith the new traits, people
around you, whatever that maylook like for you.
(08:17):
So I'm with you.
I think that's a great idea.
But I'm also like I feel likesome people are scared to
reinvent themselves.
That's true, you know, peopleare like very and I'm not,
that's not to say you're a badthing, because I also sometimes
feel the same way but I thinkwhen you approach it so boldly,
(08:37):
like that, like bye to the oldyou, it's so scary you know
what's even scarier?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Being the same, being the same, living your life day
in and day out, hoping andthinking about dang if I did
this and man, if I did that, orlike I want to and I, you will
and you can and you need to donow like it's.
Like the scariest part isliterally staying stagnant.
And I think, when you thinkabout that and you see how much
(09:03):
time has passed, if youliterally sat here today and
you're like the things that youwanted to do, that you didn't do
, what your life could be like,that should scare you more than
chat.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
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Speaker 2 (09:41):
You know what I mean?
I agree, yeah, yikes.
Oh, you reading, you readingpeople today.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
I'm just I'm just saying listen, it's a new day.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You know what I mean, you know so when's the last
time you did something for thefirst time, like, would you say,
like in this new, likereinvention of yourself, you
plan to do like new things andlike take on new things.
Like, what does that look like?
And should somebody be writingthose things?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
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Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hello to your new self Hello.
Let's talk about it.
What should that look like?
Speaker 3 (10:45):
As it relates to writing a letter or what.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Yeah, like writing a letter to your new self.
Um, kind of like you said, chatgpt wrote about like the
storyline.
So it's like what are you gonnasay to your new self?
Speaker 3 (10:58):
is it hello to crystal, who loves tennis now,
and no, hello to crystal, who'son her way to her tennis class.
Right, you know what I meanlike it's already.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
What is that?
What period?
So what needs to be in thatletter?
Yeah, what things that we dothe things that we do.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
What needs to be in the letter is what it is that
you want.
What does your daily life looklike like?
What are the daily habits?
Right, but keep in mind thatthe daily habits that you have
are created because of thesystems you put in place.
So be able to have the freedomto do the things that you want
to do.
So you have to create thebusiness to be able to have the
money to be able to go to tennislessons, right?
So what is that business?
How much are you making fromthat business?
(11:34):
When are you clocking in?
Are you going to your warehouselike are you driving up?
Are you pulling up to yourwarehouse?
Is your driver picking you upto take you to the warehouse?
You know what I mean.
It's that specific, like that'show specific you kind of have
to get.
Are you working for the firstthree months?
Because next month, for thewhole month, you're going to
tokyo on vacation because yousaved up and your business, your
business reached five hundredthousand dollars within the
(11:56):
first three months of the year.
You know what I mean.
So it's like what does it looklike to its specifics?
And that's what you put in.
It's exactly what it is thatyou want and you wish, down to
the color of the car that you'redriving, down to the specific
meal avocado toast that you'reeating in the morning and the
matcha latte no, seriously, likeI love that you know me for
life?
(12:17):
oh no, you can own.
You can own piramida, if theythey need to be franchise okay
let me franchise, pleaseseriously.
So it's that specific is how youhave to be.
So I would say that is in thethe new letter.
But to answer your question, Icould say that this week well,
last week I have done pilatesbefore, but I'm trying a new
pilates studio because I'm likeI want to try to do things like
closer to my area.
(12:37):
So I'm like I'm trying a newpilates studio in my area, but
I'm also signing up for tennislessons, which I've never done.
I want to do tennis, then let'sdo it I want to do tennis and
golfing, but tennis is so goodfor your body.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
It is it's so good cardio, but you know what?
I've never sat down and thoughtabout reinventing myself.
I think it's something that hasjust organically happened and
it's not intentionally, and itwasn't forced, like and I'm not
saying sitting down and likereinventing yourself as force is
that for me?
(13:09):
I know myself and I do betterwith change when I gradually
change instead of telling myselfyou need to do this, you need
to do this, because then I'mlike beating myself up about
things, that I'm like ciao, yougot so many other things you
need to be worried about versusgoing to Pilates and going to
tennis, you know.
So, um, for me, what reinvent?
(13:30):
Reinventing looks a little bitdifferent.
It looks a little bit likemaking a small change every day.
So it's not necessarily likedoing the big bye to you, hey to
you.
It's more like all right, todaywe are probably we are solving
today's problem and we areadding, implementing something
new today, you know.
So I say that to say likereinventing can look very
(13:52):
different.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
For everyone learn.
Learn what's best for you.
I agree because there's likepeople who will make lists or
to-do lists, or people who havelike vision boards, people who
don't.
There's some people that aremore action-based versus like
planning-based, and I think isit speaks to like learning
styles and like who you are as aperson.
Because some people need thatand some people don't.
Some people are like OK, Idon't like this, tomorrow I'm
not going to do it.
(14:13):
You know what I mean?
Some people are literally that,that are wired a little bit
different in that perspective.
Yeah, one thing I want toestablish and talk about for us
is we're talking aboutreinventing ourselves, but has
there ever been a time where youdidn't recognize yourself,
where you felt unrecognizable toyourself?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Oh my God, yes, I think owning a house for the
first year put me through theringer towel, yeah, and I think
that mentally I just felt weak.
I was like girl, like sincewhen you let a little bit of
stress take you over, but likethe stress of a house will do
you in different honey, Likereal different.
So because of that I felt veryunrecognizable to myself.
(14:55):
I'm like who?
are you Stand up, stand up andliterally I had to tell myself
to stand up for a whole yearBecause it was a lot.
Really, it was worth it.
Yeah, it was worth it.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
Definitely it was worth it.
Yeah, it was worth it.
Definitely it was really, I'msure, as I can imagine.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Yeah, you made it through made it your survivor.
I made it through thewilderness yeah it was a lot,
but yeah, how about you?
Speaker 3 (15:18):
um, absolutely, I would think everybody has had
that moment and if you haven't,blessings and kudos to you if
you've ever experienced yourlife and never felt
unrecognizable.
But I have felt unrecognizableplenty of times.
One was when I was goingthrough a really bad
relationship and I felt like Ikind of lost myself in a way.
(15:41):
So where I literally looked inthe mirror and I'm like who is
this person?
Because this is all the thingsyou said you wouldn't do.
You're doing.
You know what I mean.
So I feel like I lost myself alittle bit in that specific
relationship to where I feltlike I didn't recognize myself,
which I know we're gonna tap onin another, another show, but
yeah, it was like I had to reelit on in honey.
I had to start going back andreminding myself of the things
(16:03):
that I love, the things that Ienjoy doing, to get back to who
I was at my core.
So I feel like that was amoment, um, where I felt like I
wasn't um recognizable.
But I think it's so importantto establish those times and to
realize when you aren't, so thatyou can be at the space to be
able to reinvent yourself forlack of a better word or be able
to like walk into the new you,if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
So now, um that we are in a new year, you and I um
celebrated our birthday recently.
Happy birthday.
What does the new you do like?
What is this new reinvention ofyourself look like?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
yeah, I think to your also, to your point too.
It's like I feel like I'vealready been in that phase, um,
so I think it's justconsistently doing the things
that I have been doing right.
So for me it's likeimplementing better practices,
like I know I said, set out somegoals for, like, my spiritual
health, so like continuing onthat.
Um, physical health, continuingon that.
Like I told you, I'm about tostart tennis lessons, so doing
(17:00):
those things and then trying tocreate some other avenues as a
creative and in myentrepreneurial life, so like
tapping into those things andworking on them.
And also, I think it's importantto to also acknowledge you
can't do everything at one time.
Like you do things, whetherit's this month I'm going to
focus on this.
This week I'm going to focus onthis seasonally, you know or
(17:22):
you carve out your week, sowe're certain days you focus on
certain things.
You have your content days,things you have your content
days.
You have your days where you doyour podcast.
You have your days where youwork on your entrepreneurial
ventures.
Like I think everything isimportant to also not practice
burnout by structuring yourselfto have specific days or
specific time frames, that youwork on specific things, so that
you're not over, like you know,I'm saying like over indulging
(17:44):
yourself to the point where youbecome stressed.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Stretching yourself, yeah, stretching yourself then,
yeah, I agree, I think this yearto, in terms of like
reinventing myself, especiallylike, given that we've been so
consistent with the podcast, Ithink I want to just be more
consistent with my ownentrepreneurial stuff as well.
But, um, to stay more active,you know, it's so hard for me to
(18:09):
stay like active in the gym, sofor me, it's really about like
finding other ways, like funways to stay active and to stay
to stay excited about like doinglike fit, like fitness things.
So definitely tennis, like theythey said it's really good for
you, but even even golf, yes.
But most importantly, I want tolearn how to swim properly.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Girl, that's a part of my list too.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I can swim, I can't float on my back, and I just
want to learn how to float on myback.
I feel like that's such animportant part of knowing how to
swim.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
It is.
Swimming is definitely on mylist of learning this summer.
That's one of my goals.
I've tried to learn how to swim.
I'm embarrassed to say how manytimes oh my god, it's more than
five times I've had like acouple people try to teach me.
I've actually signed up.
I know you guys would say signup for the YMCA.
I signed up for the YMCA when Ilived in New Jersey in the
winter time, the worst time toprobably learn how to swim yeah,
(19:01):
like that was kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Why would you do that ?
Insane like why would I do that?
Speaker 3 (19:06):
so that is definitely on my list, because I'm like I
just want to jump out of a boatin the south of France and not
be worried about it.
Right, beyonce does it, I coulddo it.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
You know what I mean For sure.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
I'm like I can do it too.
So, yeah, I think, reinventingyourself, you have to have new
hobbies.
So that's good that you'resaying you won't have new
hobbies, that you want to do.
I have new hobbies that I wantto do too, and I think in
establishing those new hobbiesand those new things, you got to
be honest about whether youlike doing those things too,
like not just doing it becauseit's like on trend or it sounds
(19:39):
cuter.
All the girls are doing it.
Like, do you enjoy doing that?
If not, do you want to take apottery class?
Do you want to learn how to umpublic speaking?
Do you want to take atoastmasters class, like what it
is that looks for what?
What are you gonna?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
find enjoyment and I think it's important to make
sure you're happy in whatever itis, in this new version of
yourself yeah, oh, I would loveto do a pottery class too.
That sounds like so much.
Oh, my gosh, there's one, Ithink, by the gym.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
God, keep trying to get me to go to the gym no, not
that gym, the other gym, yeah,yeah, not too far from yeah,
yeah, no, I know, I know I'veseen it.
Speaker 4 (20:08):
Yes, yes I've seen it , I want to do a pottery class.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I also want to like create new habits, like new
hobbies, new habits, and youdon't have to do these things
like do do whatever is best foryou, but I think creating new
hobbies, new habits is great.
Um, for me, I want to make ahabit of getting up earlier in
the day.
What's earlier in the day foryou, you know?
(20:31):
Earlier than 9 am Right, that'searly with the regular folks.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That's crazy.
The regular folks getting up at9 am is crazy.
What time you need to go to bedearlier, that's the thing I do.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
I'm a night owl.
I work real good at night.
Also, maybe I need to stoptrying to wake up early and just
be who I am and just findalignment in other ways, that's
fine.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
I think that there's nothing.
I feel like, whatever your timeframe, I feel like, whether
you're a morning person or anight person, if it's getting
done, it's getting done.
You know what I mean?
So I think it's whatever is theperfect structure for your life
and your lifestyle, I thinkthat we have to stop
implementing this whole.
If you don't wake up at 5 am or6 am or 8 am, you're not that
right not a go-getter.
You can't be a millionaire ifyou don't do these things.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I don't really think that's true or realistic you
could spend your 12 hours on theother end of the day like you
don't gotta be from 6 am to 6 pm.
It could be from 12 pm to 12 am, I agree Whatever that looks
like.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
So I think for sure it depends on what it is for
whatever, whatever it is thatyou're trying to accomplish, but
I for sure think new hobbiesand like also new habits are
great.
A book I would love torecommend that people read is
Atomic Habits by James Clear.
I think that's a really goodbook to read, as you're talking
(21:48):
about reinventing yourself,because he taps a lot into
creating and building dailyhabits to where it almost
becomes unconscious.
You're doing it because it'ssomething that that's what I
like Exactly.
It's like an unconscious thingthat you're doing all the time,
to where it's already embeddedinto your life, so that you're
doing it, you don't have tooverthink about it.
That's me a simple habit yeahit's just simple habits.
(22:09):
It's really good.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
I recommend I like that you know what else you can
reinvent your fashion and Ithink I'm working on that right
now.
Like my sense of style downhere, living in florida, I have
to redo my entire wardrobe.
Like I have summer stuff in newyork and it's just a different
vibe now.
I need like the summer stuffthat I had in New York was like
going outside, right, but like Ineed functional summer clothes
(22:33):
all year round now yeah, so.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I think I am very much working on like reinventing
my fashion sense and like my,my wardrobe while I'm down here,
hot take maybe, but you can'twear what you wore in your 20s
and your 30s, like I think thatyou have to just think about
changing your wardrobe all thetime, and also it's a time and
place.
Like I think, if we're going tothe club, cool, going to a
(22:55):
restaurant, cool and I knowwe've talked about this all the
time on the show but, like, forme, I want a good blazer and if
it's expensive, I just want toinvest in it.
Are back to the club, not notblazers, but look, that's a
tongue twister not trying tobring blazers back to the club,
but I'm saying it in the senseof like you might need a couple
(23:16):
more blazers in your closet.
Sis, if you're looking in yourcloset, you don't have blazers.
You might need to get some.
You know what I mean.
Like, or just things that are alittle bit more.
Yeah, no, it's true it's verytrue.
Like I'm sorry I'm not giving upmy crop tops, but yeah, no, I
still have my crop tops and Imight still wear it on a blazer
here and there with some jeansor, you know, some slacks, or
however I want to do it.
But I'm just saying I want toalso to your point is invest in
(23:38):
quality pieces of clothes andnot just because it's zara or
you know, maybe it might be aysl blazer that I can use for
five years, like I know Jodicame on our show and talked
about that.
Investing in good qualityclothing and just like pieces,
like I want to have pieces.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yeah, for sure, pieces that you can bust out all
the time.
I agree, I'm into that.
Like investing in longevity ingeneral, yes, like I think,
especially this year, new year,everything longevity, quality
over quantity.
It's got to give new year.
I'm everything.
Longevity, quality overquantity gotta give me.
It's gotta give me weeks.
It's gotta give me years.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
It's gotta give me months it's gotta give me more
than just, yeah, this photo.
I just complimented you on aset that she had, so crystal had
on a set from juicy couture.
You had it for over since highschool.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So how many years is that you want me to tell my age?
No, I'm just kidding girl, Idon't know.
It was more than 10 years agoand it more than 10 years ago.
Yeah, and it looked brand new.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Like I'm like when did you get this set?
And I'm like, wow, like it waswhite at that.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Like I'm like Cream, yep, Cream colored and perfect
and usually like cream and white, like over time turns yellow.
No baby, I take care of mystuff.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
But quality, when you said taking care of your stuff
is when you buy these qualitypieces, you cannot put them in
the washing machine, in thelaundry, with all your other
pieces of clothing.
Like sometimes you might needto get something dry cleaned
here and there so that you'reable to, like, maintain it and
not wash it so often like why dowe wash clothes so many times?
Speaker 2 (24:57):
like that part.
Guys, you know you're notsupposed to wash your jeans
every time you wear them.
How many times do you wear yourjeans before you walk?
I wear my jeans two to threetimes before I actually wash
them.
You're not supposed to washyour jeans that often.
In fact, especially if you have, like good quality jeans, you
really shouldn't be.
But I also don't wear myoutside clothes in my house.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
I take it off as soon as I get home.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That's a New York City thing, though, because you
wear it from the train station,you go home, you take off your
clothes, you don't sit on thebed.
So you go home, you take offyour clothes, like immediately
on the bed, and so I can wear mydon't ever sit on jeans two or
three times before I actuallywash them and you're supposed to
, especially if they're goodquality jeans, absolutely yeah,
and I think that sometimes youcan just wear things multiple
times.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
It's not dirty, you wear it multiple times.
Yeah, unpopular opinion.
I repeat gym, gym outfits.
Don't judge me, really I do.
Oh, if I wore something to thegym and I didn't like sweat in
it profusely, I'll re-wear it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah For sure Ihave on undergarments, I'll
re-wear it, I'll be all right.
Okay, and those are alwaysclean.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
It depends on your own BO too.
I agree, yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
We gotta start not feeling like we can't repeat
things.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Right, what else can we do to redefine ourselves?
Changing your environment?
Ooh, that's a good one.
Yeah, sometimes you might needto move out that apartment
you've been in for a while thatmaybe you've had bad experiences
in.
You might got to let go of thatenergy and move somewhere else,
like somewhere new.
If you can, if you'refinancially able to Change up
your environment, like you mightnot have to move.
You might just need to giveyour face, your space, a
(26:31):
facelift.
That's a good one.
Um, I love giving things afacelift.
Matter of fact, will came intothe bathroom the other days and
I was painting the vanity black,like I, and he's like, oh, it
looks great.
And I'm like, damn it, like Ihated the vanity, and I'm like I
need a change in this bathroom.
Yeah, and I'm like maybe Idon't need something completely
new, I just need to tweak what Ialready have and I'm very happy
(26:53):
with it.
That's beautiful, yeah, I thinkchanging your environment is
also a part of reinventingyourself, and I don't think that
you can.
You don't have to limityourself on how much you
reinvent yourself either.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
I mean, you might want to find some sort of
stability, um, but yeah, you canreinvent yourself every every
five to 10 years Like, don't,don't worry about it, you know,
yeah, and you can, nobody'scounting.
Wake up tomorrow.
If you want to change something, change it.
You don't need any permissionbut I love that you said
changing your environment,because environment is a lot of
who we are.
You know what I mean, likewhere we are, and I think it's
small changes.
Sometimes we don't have to makethose huge drastic changes.
Sometimes you literally canjust change a picture frame or
(27:36):
change your bedding um a newcandle scent or like a new um
dishwashing liquid, or you knowwhat I mean.
Like you can do small changesand you may not realize how that
mess, like how that helps yourpsyche, like, oh my goodness,
this one shift.
Now I feel super motivated, I'msuper inspired in my space to
create um, to cook or to docertain things that you don't
(27:56):
normally do um all the time.
So yeah, I love that you saidchanging your environment.
I also think sometimes it'salso changing um that, your
consumption, what you consume.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
So maybe it's changing the shows you watch.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Maybe it's changing, like your instagram feed or what
you're watching.
Maybe it's deleting some stuffon your instagram feed.
Maybe it's like clearing outyour inbox in your mail, like.
You know what I mean.
Like it look can look likedifferent things as it relates
to like environment, and justlike different things that you
can change just to to help youget to the next level.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Yeah, I agree and while you're reinventing
yourself.
Do try different things seewhat you actually really like
and not what you see is likepopular right now.
Yeah, um, because I'm I'm verybig on that.
I have found that I I reallyenjoy painting and grooming my
dogs, so weird, but painting andgrooming my dogs um and I think
(28:45):
I'm gonna take that into thenext chapter with me and into
this new um invention.
You know what I've seen?
I've seen a tiktok the otherdays that actually it was not
the other days, it was literallylast night and it kind of like
goes along with thisconversation because the girl
was like she hates when peoplesay like they're too old for
things because it almost seemslike you're giving up on
yourself.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Like.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
I'm too old for that, like I'm too old for this, I'm
too old for that.
And sometimes, like I findmyself saying that about things
where I'm like girl, you're noteven old.
Like right, stop it Right.
And like, granted, there aresome things you are might be too
old for like being in the clubevery weekend, might be too old
for like being in the club everyweekend, you know.
But I mean, you should do it ifyou're in your 20s, get out
your system right.
But there's certain thingsthat's like you're not really
(29:26):
too old for that.
And and she was saying that,like it's almost like a sense of
like giving up on yourself, andI was like oh yeah, that's a
word, that's, that's, that'strue that is so true and same
for like having kids.
Like don't think because whenyou have kids your life stops.
Like, go to that restaurant,take your kid with you.
(29:46):
Go to that trip, take your kidwith you.
Like, don't let things stop youand make you feel like you're
too old for xyz.
It's not true.
You're as old as you feel.
It's a limiting belief, it'svery limiting.
And it's not true.
You're as old as you feel.
It's a limiting belief, it'svery limiting and it's very.
It's very like stunt, likegrowth stunting.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
Yeah, it's very limiting.
I even think saying like old islike is terrible.
It's a terrible concept, causeI feel like I feel young.
You know what I mean.
I feel lively and I feel likeyou, who and what you are.
So I think that I love that,that, that point I think that
you should be able to do andaccomplish whatever it is that
(30:27):
you want in the time that youhave.
Like we all are here onborrowed time.
We all are here with literallywe don't know that time.
Only God knows your end number,your end date, and I think,
while you're here on this planet, do what it is that you want to
do, unapologetically, and Ithink that's another thing.
When it comes to redefiningyourself, gone with the old
labels, whatever the new labelsare of who it is that you want
(30:48):
to do.
If you have to reintroduce somefriends and family members to
this new version of yourself, doit whatever it is that you want
to do that makes you happy.
Yeah, in this new season, do itunapologetically, and that's
like.
My other thing is like, makesure, whatever it is, you I'm
not apologizing for it.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Like this is it, and you know what it's so funny.
This also reminds me like whenI was in college and for those
of you who may not have beenactually or have gone to college
I remember like seeing olderpeople in my class and they were
like way older than me, so likethis is just a testament of
like you can do that thing youwant to do, no matter what age
you are.
(31:24):
Like I remember being in schooland I had classes with people
who are way older than me, butguess what?
Speaker 1 (31:29):
they went back to college and I was like that's so
dope.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
They did that's so dope.
Did you have classes withpeople?
Speaker 3 (31:34):
yeah, like, especially in new york city when
I did like my community course,I had classes with so many
older people, families theydon't live different lives yeah,
that's why I love hearingstories about like people who
become doctors and they werelike living and they had their
own careers like way before thatand then they just realized
they wanted to do this and theydid it yes, live different lives
if you're on this earth I meancats got nine why can't we have
(31:56):
multiple nine, so you're goingback to.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
You can go to law school too I do want to go to
law school, so listen let's makeit happen.
One day.
I'm gonna start a gofundme, soour listeners can fund my law
school journey it ain't cheap atall.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
Let's do it or we can get, or we can just continue to
grow on the show and get moreyeah, so that we can.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
We can do that.
We can put you through lawschool.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
I like the fundraising idea, but it's fine,
I love both of them I love bothof them, but know that,
whatever it is, in this newseason, as you're reinventing
yourself, do it, be bold, beconsistent, be you, be
consistent be, unapologetic andjust go for it and do it like
the time is now, you don't havetomorrow, you don't have next
week, like as you're watchingthis today, whatever the changes
(32:39):
, affirm it and affirm it andstand on business with it Mm-hmm
, and let us know how you guysare reinventing yourselves in
the comments.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
Are you changing your wardrobe?
Are you changing yourenvironment, like?
What does that look like fory'all?
I'm interested in knowing.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Same Tap in with us.
Thank you guys for anotherepisode.
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Speaker 3 (00:49):
We're back again with another episode.
You know what I was justthinking about as I was getting
ready for this show, what I'mgoing to be repeating outfits on
this show and for the rest ofmy life, stop.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Get out of my head.
I am going to be repeatingoutfits.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
I said if I wear this shirt, one more time Because,
honestly, in this day and age,please stop thinking that if you
took a picture in somethingthat you cannot wear the outfit
again, sis, wear the outfitagain.
It's not sustainable to berepeating outfits and buying
outfits Like no one remembersthat you wore that shirt that
you have on today, two days ago.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
No one remembers that , no we really do have a bad
habit of being like.
I already took a picture inthat.
No, I, who do we think we arelike?
Speaker 3 (01:28):
who did we become?
Speaker 2 (01:29):
all of us like I took a picture in that like who?
Who do you think you are, whodo I think I am?
Speaker 3 (01:34):
and one thing about me if I wore something and I
didn't get a good picture in it,I'm wearing it again.
I'm gonna wear it again withsomeone else.
I might go out with my friendwho knows how to take the
picture and I might wear itagain.
You know what I mean Becauseyou know, sometimes you go out
with your man and he may nottake the picture.
Like your friend's going totake the picture, no girl.
I know that too well he standsright here and he doesn't like
give you the angles.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
He's the biggest hater.
He's the biggest hater.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
Did I do good and you're like mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
But you know, deep down inside you had one job.
Why do we get so mad when ourboyfriends can't take the right
picture?
Speaker 3 (02:08):
I know why.
You know how much money goesinto getting ready.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
And time and effort.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
The makeup alone, that you count up one pump of
foundation got to cost $20.
You know what I mean, Like whenyou think about how much money.
The way they be pricing it forreal about the way they be
pricing it for real.
Three sprays of that perfumeabout 50.
You know what I mean.
Like when you think about, likethe hair, the makeup, the look
you're like.
I have to capture this becauseof the amount of preparation and
money that went into gettingdressed for this dinner or this
(02:34):
lunch.
I just need one good photothat's it, that's your job.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Just one, just one.
I agree, no, I'd be so mad whenmy man doesn't get a picture.
He's like, once you're, you'rereally mad over a picture.
I'm like, yes, yeah, I am, Ijust want one picture, that's it
.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
I had to say that because I'm like I'm not doing
that anymore.
And you know another thing Iused to be so such a stickler
about matching like nail polishto like toe polish.
I'm not that person anymore.
But it has to be neutral, solike if I do french, I might do
like white toes, or if I do likewhite toes I might do like a
solid nude.
They still gotta be they stillgotta compliment each other, but
(03:08):
it doesn't have to be the sameexact.
It trips me out when I see likered nails with like french.
It's just like why did you dothat?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
no, that's chaotic that's very like your brain told
you to get two different things.
I can't do that either.
It bothers me bad.
This is the most likedifference I've done, which is
like light gray nails and Frenchtoes and they look cute.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Thank you, but that matches.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Gray and French Same family Compliment.
Yes, I can't do like Pink andblue, like I don't do dark color
nails either, like I might do alittle burgundy in New York in
the winter yes, fall.
Yes, but I don't do it on myfeet.
I feel like you can't do darktoes, dark colors on your toes.
I don't know, maybe it'sunpopular opinion, but dark
colors on your toes just makethem so aggressive.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
My toes already aggressive and special, so you
can't do no dark colors.
I don't want to bring no moreattention to it.
Let it be neutral and calm andvery demure Because I start
bringing color Very in the cut.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
It's already gonna give to him some attention to it
.
It's like it's okay, baby.
Yes, no, for real.
I can't do no colors on my toesand I can't just do like random
, like hand versus feet.
Yeah, it's just not, it's notit how about y'all, what y'all
doing?
Yeah, what y'all doing?
Speaker 3 (04:19):
I just these are the random thoughts I had as I was
getting ready for for our show.
But anyways, child, let's getinto this new episode for our
show.
We're going to be talking aboutreinventing yourself in your
30s, we're in our new season.
You know, we always say nowthat we're in our 30s, so let's
talk about reinventing and likespecific things that you can do
(04:40):
to reinvent yourself.
Okay, in this new season, takeit away, miss Pam, let's do it.
So one of the things that Ithink happens when it relates to
reinventing yourself is youhave to have a real conversation
about the old version ofyourself and the new version of
yourself and, as you're steppinginto this new realm or this new
element of who you want to be,one of the things that I
(05:03):
actually practiced and starteddoing was kind of that whole
like AI, like like what do you?
What do you envision your lifebeing like?
Right, if you're like what doyou mean?
Break that down?
Who does that?
Okay, so it was like this newprompt I've seen as the new year
started, right, and it was likepretty much, you write a story
about your life, like what thatperson drives, what they have,
(05:26):
what they do every day.
Um, you know what it is thatyou see yourself doing like five
years from now, or even like ina year or two from now.
Right, you write down like yourgoals at your highest level and
you write it in chat gtp thisis what this person is, this is
who I am GPT, chat, gpt.
That's what I said.
No, yeah, is it GPT?
(05:46):
What did?
I say Okay.
So basically you go into chatGTP.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Nope Chat.
Gpt, what is it?
G-p-t, what did I say?
Gtp Okay, go and chat girl.
Go on.
The chat thing that talk back,go on the AI thing that we talk
about?
Speaker 3 (06:10):
No, so you go on chat GTP.
Sure, it's GTP.
I got the app.
Y'all go keep correcting me onwhat this thing is.
It's AI.
It's new.
It's new.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Go for it, keep going , keep.
This thing is it's ai, it's new, it's new go for it keep going
they know, they know it's thething that talk back chat gtp.
Speaker 3 (06:30):
It's chat tpg.
Go ahead, which one is?
Speaker 2 (06:32):
it nah, you killing me chat gpt.
Speaker 3 (06:36):
Okay, so you go on chat gtp, right?
I said that right.
Sorry, we had so many takes ofthis.
Anyways, you go on the chat,right.
You put in what it is that youenvision your life being, and
then it crafts a story and ittells you, like a story of who
it is that you are in thisfuture self that you envision
(06:59):
yourself being, and it's sodescriptive and it's like it
almost like like oh my gosh likeit's almost scary, but it's so
beautiful at the same time,because it literally makes you
think about the things that youneed to be doing now to get to
that future self Right.
So I think, as we're talkingabout reinventing ourselves, I
think we should challengeourselves to write a goodbye
(07:19):
letter to who we were, who wewere, and I think we should just
kind of like part ways withthat version of ourself, because
I feel like, as you're growingand evolving, you can't hold on
to things that you weren't ableto do, things that didn't happen
for you, and I think that yougot to operate from the space of
like you know, abundance andlike positivity, and you got to
(07:39):
like let go, like almost likegoodbye to my old self as I'm
entering this new chapter andlike write a reintroduction to
who you are today.
So I think that that's like thefirst step is acknowledging who
you aren't and who you want tobe in this new element yeah, I
love that.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I mean, that's something I've never done, not
talking to chat, gpt, or writinga letter to my old self, I
don't know.
I feel like, first of all,everybody is evolving, always
evolving.
You know out with the old andwith the new traits, people
around you, whatever that maylook like for you.
(08:17):
So I'm with you.
I think that's a great idea.
But I'm also like I feel likesome people are scared to
reinvent themselves.
That's true, you know, peopleare like very and I'm not,
that's not to say you're a badthing, because I also sometimes
feel the same way but I thinkwhen you approach it so boldly,
(08:37):
like that, like bye to the oldyou, it's so scary you know
what's even scarier?
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Being the same, being the same, living your life day
in and day out, hoping andthinking about dang if I did
this and man, if I did that, orlike I want to and I, you will
and you can and you need to donow like it's.
Like the scariest part isliterally staying stagnant.
And I think, when you thinkabout that and you see how much
(09:03):
time has passed, if youliterally sat here today and
you're like the things that youwanted to do, that you didn't do
, what your life could be like,that should scare you more than
chat.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
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Speaker 2 (09:41):
You know what I mean?
I agree, yeah, yikes.
Oh, you reading, you readingpeople today.
Speaker 3 (09:46):
I'm just I'm just saying listen, it's a new day.
Speaker 2 (09:49):
You know what I mean, you know so when's the last
time you did something for thefirst time, like, would you say,
like in this new, likereinvention of yourself, you
plan to do like new things andlike take on new things.
Like, what does that look like?
And should somebody be writingthose things?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
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Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hello to your new self Hello.
Let's talk about it.
What should that look like?
Speaker 3 (10:45):
As it relates to writing a letter or what.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Yeah, like writing a letter to your new self.
Um, kind of like you said, chatgpt wrote about like the
storyline.
So it's like what are you gonnasay to your new self?
Speaker 3 (10:58):
is it hello to crystal, who loves tennis now,
and no, hello to crystal, who'son her way to her tennis class.
Right, you know what I meanlike it's already.
Speaker 2 (11:08):
What is that?
What period?
So what needs to be in thatletter?
Yeah, what things that we dothe things that we do.
Speaker 3 (11:14):
What needs to be in the letter is what it is that
you want.
What does your daily life looklike like?
What are the daily habits?
Right, but keep in mind thatthe daily habits that you have
are created because of thesystems you put in place.
So be able to have the freedomto do the things that you want
to do.
So you have to create thebusiness to be able to have the
money to be able to go to tennislessons, right?
So what is that business?
How much are you making fromthat business?
(11:34):
When are you clocking in?
Are you going to your warehouselike are you driving up?
Are you pulling up to yourwarehouse?
Is your driver picking you upto take you to the warehouse?
You know what I mean.
It's that specific, like that'show specific you kind of have
to get.
Are you working for the firstthree months?
Because next month, for thewhole month, you're going to
tokyo on vacation because yousaved up and your business, your
business reached five hundredthousand dollars within the
(11:56):
first three months of the year.
You know what I mean.
So it's like what does it looklike to its specifics?
And that's what you put in.
It's exactly what it is thatyou want and you wish, down to
the color of the car that you'redriving, down to the specific
meal avocado toast that you'reeating in the morning and the
matcha latte no, seriously, likeI love that you know me for
life?
(12:17):
oh no, you can own.
You can own piramida, if theythey need to be franchise okay
let me franchise, pleaseseriously.
So it's that specific is how youhave to be.
So I would say that is in thethe new letter.
But to answer your question, Icould say that this week well,
last week I have done pilatesbefore, but I'm trying a new
pilates studio because I'm likeI want to try to do things like
closer to my area.
(12:37):
So I'm like I'm trying a newpilates studio in my area, but
I'm also signing up for tennislessons, which I've never done.
I want to do tennis, then let'sdo it I want to do tennis and
golfing, but tennis is so goodfor your body.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
It is it's so good cardio, but you know what?
I've never sat down and thoughtabout reinventing myself.
I think it's something that hasjust organically happened and
it's not intentionally, and itwasn't forced, like and I'm not
saying sitting down and likereinventing yourself as force is
that for me?
(13:09):
I know myself and I do betterwith change when I gradually
change instead of telling myselfyou need to do this, you need
to do this, because then I'mlike beating myself up about
things, that I'm like ciao, yougot so many other things you
need to be worried about versusgoing to Pilates and going to
tennis, you know.
So, um, for me, what reinvent?
(13:30):
Reinventing looks a little bitdifferent.
It looks a little bit likemaking a small change every day.
So it's not necessarily likedoing the big bye to you, hey to
you.
It's more like all right, todaywe are probably we are solving
today's problem and we areadding, implementing something
new today, you know.
So I say that to say likereinventing can look very
(13:52):
different.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
For everyone learn.
Learn what's best for you.
I agree because there's likepeople who will make lists or
to-do lists, or people who havelike vision boards, people who
don't.
There's some people that aremore action-based versus like
planning-based, and I think isit speaks to like learning
styles and like who you are as aperson.
Because some people need thatand some people don't.
Some people are like OK, Idon't like this, tomorrow I'm
not going to do it.
(14:13):
You know what I mean?
Some people are literally that,that are wired a little bit
different in that perspective.
Yeah, one thing I want toestablish and talk about for us
is we're talking aboutreinventing ourselves, but has
there ever been a time where youdidn't recognize yourself,
where you felt unrecognizable toyourself?
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Oh my God, yes, I think owning a house for the
first year put me through theringer towel, yeah, and I think
that mentally I just felt weak.
I was like girl, like sincewhen you let a little bit of
stress take you over, but likethe stress of a house will do
you in different honey, Likereal different.
So because of that I felt veryunrecognizable to myself.
(14:55):
I'm like who?
are you Stand up, stand up andliterally I had to tell myself
to stand up for a whole yearBecause it was a lot.
Really, it was worth it.
Yeah, it was worth it.
Speaker 3 (15:06):
Definitely it was worth it.
Yeah, it was worth it.
Definitely it was really, I'msure, as I can imagine.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
Yeah, you made it through made it your survivor.
I made it through thewilderness yeah it was a lot,
but yeah, how about you?
Speaker 3 (15:18):
um, absolutely, I would think everybody has had
that moment and if you haven't,blessings and kudos to you if
you've ever experienced yourlife and never felt
unrecognizable.
But I have felt unrecognizableplenty of times.
One was when I was goingthrough a really bad
relationship and I felt like Ikind of lost myself in a way.
(15:41):
So where I literally looked inthe mirror and I'm like who is
this person?
Because this is all the thingsyou said you wouldn't do.
You're doing.
You know what I mean.
So I feel like I lost myself alittle bit in that specific
relationship to where I feltlike I didn't recognize myself,
which I know we're gonna tap onin another, another show, but
yeah, it was like I had to reelit on in honey.
I had to start going back andreminding myself of the things
(16:03):
that I love, the things that Ienjoy doing, to get back to who
I was at my core.
So I feel like that was amoment, um, where I felt like I
wasn't um recognizable.
But I think it's so importantto establish those times and to
realize when you aren't, so thatyou can be at the space to be
able to reinvent yourself forlack of a better word or be able
to like walk into the new you,if that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (16:25):
So now, um that we are in a new year, you and I um
celebrated our birthday recently.
Happy birthday.
What does the new you do like?
What is this new reinvention ofyourself look like?
Speaker 3 (16:39):
yeah, I think to your also, to your point too.
It's like I feel like I'vealready been in that phase, um,
so I think it's justconsistently doing the things
that I have been doing right.
So for me it's likeimplementing better practices,
like I know I said, set out somegoals for, like, my spiritual
health, so like continuing onthat.
Um, physical health, continuingon that.
Like I told you, I'm about tostart tennis lessons, so doing
(17:00):
those things and then trying tocreate some other avenues as a
creative and in myentrepreneurial life, so like
tapping into those things andworking on them.
And also, I think it's importantto to also acknowledge you
can't do everything at one time.
Like you do things, whetherit's this month I'm going to
focus on this.
This week I'm going to focus onthis seasonally, you know or
(17:22):
you carve out your week, sowe're certain days you focus on
certain things.
You have your content days,things you have your content
days.
You have your days where you doyour podcast.
You have your days where youwork on your entrepreneurial
ventures.
Like I think everything isimportant to also not practice
burnout by structuring yourselfto have specific days or
specific time frames, that youwork on specific things, so that
you're not over, like you know,I'm saying like over indulging
(17:44):
yourself to the point where youbecome stressed.
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Stretching yourself, yeah, stretching yourself then,
yeah, I agree, I think this yearto, in terms of like
reinventing myself, especiallylike, given that we've been so
consistent with the podcast, Ithink I want to just be more
consistent with my ownentrepreneurial stuff as well.
But, um, to stay more active,you know, it's so hard for me to
(18:09):
stay like active in the gym, sofor me, it's really about like
finding other ways, like funways to stay active and to stay
to stay excited about like doinglike fit, like fitness things.
So definitely tennis, like theythey said it's really good for
you, but even even golf, yes.
But most importantly, I want tolearn how to swim properly.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
Girl, that's a part of my list too.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
I can swim, I can't float on my back, and I just
want to learn how to float on myback.
I feel like that's such animportant part of knowing how to
swim.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
It is.
Swimming is definitely on mylist of learning this summer.
That's one of my goals.
I've tried to learn how to swim.
I'm embarrassed to say how manytimes oh my god, it's more than
five times I've had like acouple people try to teach me.
I've actually signed up.
I know you guys would say signup for the YMCA.
I signed up for the YMCA when Ilived in New Jersey in the
winter time, the worst time toprobably learn how to swim yeah,
(19:01):
like that was kind of crazy.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Why would you do that ?
Insane like why would I do that?
Speaker 3 (19:06):
so that is definitely on my list, because I'm like I
just want to jump out of a boatin the south of France and not
be worried about it.
Right, beyonce does it, I coulddo it.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
You know what I mean For sure.
Speaker 3 (19:18):
I'm like I can do it too.
So, yeah, I think, reinventingyourself, you have to have new
hobbies.
So that's good that you'resaying you won't have new
hobbies, that you want to do.
I have new hobbies that I wantto do too, and I think in
establishing those new hobbiesand those new things, you got to
be honest about whether youlike doing those things too,
like not just doing it becauseit's like on trend or it sounds
(19:39):
cuter.
All the girls are doing it.
Like, do you enjoy doing that?
If not, do you want to take apottery class?
Do you want to learn how to umpublic speaking?
Do you want to take atoastmasters class, like what it
is that looks for what?
What are you gonna?
Speaker 2 (19:54):
find enjoyment and I think it's important to make
sure you're happy in whatever itis, in this new version of
yourself yeah, oh, I would loveto do a pottery class too.
That sounds like so much.
Oh, my gosh, there's one, Ithink, by the gym.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
God, keep trying to get me to go to the gym no, not
that gym, the other gym, yeah,yeah, not too far from yeah,
yeah, no, I know, I know I'veseen it.
Speaker 4 (20:08):
Yes, yes I've seen it , I want to do a pottery class.
Speaker 2 (20:10):
I also want to like create new habits, like new
hobbies, new habits, and youdon't have to do these things
like do do whatever is best foryou, but I think creating new
hobbies, new habits is great.
Um, for me, I want to make ahabit of getting up earlier in
the day.
What's earlier in the day foryou, you know?
(20:31):
Earlier than 9 am Right, that'searly with the regular folks.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
That's crazy.
The regular folks getting up at9 am is crazy.
What time you need to go to bedearlier, that's the thing I do.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
I'm a night owl.
I work real good at night.
Also, maybe I need to stoptrying to wake up early and just
be who I am and just findalignment in other ways, that's
fine.
Speaker 3 (20:54):
I think that there's nothing.
I feel like, whatever your timeframe, I feel like, whether
you're a morning person or anight person, if it's getting
done, it's getting done.
You know what I mean?
So I think it's whatever is theperfect structure for your life
and your lifestyle, I thinkthat we have to stop
implementing this whole.
If you don't wake up at 5 am or6 am or 8 am, you're not that
right not a go-getter.
You can't be a millionaire ifyou don't do these things.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I don't really think that's true or realistic you
could spend your 12 hours on theother end of the day like you
don't gotta be from 6 am to 6 pm.
It could be from 12 pm to 12 am, I agree Whatever that looks
like.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
So I think for sure it depends on what it is for
whatever, whatever it is thatyou're trying to accomplish, but
I for sure think new hobbiesand like also new habits are
great.
A book I would love torecommend that people read is
Atomic Habits by James Clear.
I think that's a really goodbook to read, as you're talking
(21:48):
about reinventing yourself,because he taps a lot into
creating and building dailyhabits to where it almost
becomes unconscious.
You're doing it because it'ssomething that that's what I
like Exactly.
It's like an unconscious thingthat you're doing all the time,
to where it's already embeddedinto your life, so that you're
doing it, you don't have tooverthink about it.
That's me a simple habit yeahit's just simple habits.
(22:09):
It's really good.
Speaker 2 (22:10):
I recommend I like that you know what else you can
reinvent your fashion and Ithink I'm working on that right
now.
Like my sense of style downhere, living in florida, I have
to redo my entire wardrobe.
Like I have summer stuff in newyork and it's just a different
vibe now.
I need like the summer stuffthat I had in New York was like
going outside, right, but like Ineed functional summer clothes
(22:33):
all year round now yeah, so.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
I think I am very much working on like reinventing
my fashion sense and like my,my wardrobe while I'm down here,
hot take maybe, but you can'twear what you wore in your 20s
and your 30s, like I think thatyou have to just think about
changing your wardrobe all thetime, and also it's a time and
place.
Like I think, if we're going tothe club, cool, going to a
(22:55):
restaurant, cool and I knowwe've talked about this all the
time on the show but, like, forme, I want a good blazer and if
it's expensive, I just want toinvest in it.
Are back to the club, not notblazers, but look, that's a
tongue twister not trying tobring blazers back to the club,
but I'm saying it in the senseof like you might need a couple
(23:16):
more blazers in your closet.
Sis, if you're looking in yourcloset, you don't have blazers.
You might need to get some.
You know what I mean.
Like, or just things that are alittle bit more.
Yeah, no, it's true it's verytrue.
Like I'm sorry I'm not giving upmy crop tops, but yeah, no, I
still have my crop tops and Imight still wear it on a blazer
here and there with some jeansor, you know, some slacks, or
however I want to do it.
But I'm just saying I want toalso to your point is invest in
(23:38):
quality pieces of clothes andnot just because it's zara or
you know, maybe it might be aysl blazer that I can use for
five years, like I know Jodicame on our show and talked
about that.
Investing in good qualityclothing and just like pieces,
like I want to have pieces.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Yeah, for sure, pieces that you can bust out all
the time.
I agree, I'm into that.
Like investing in longevity ingeneral, yes, like I think,
especially this year, new year,everything longevity, quality
over quantity.
It's got to give new year.
I'm everything.
Longevity, quality overquantity gotta give me.
It's gotta give me weeks.
It's gotta give me years.
Speaker 3 (24:11):
It's gotta give me months it's gotta give me more
than just, yeah, this photo.
I just complimented you on aset that she had, so crystal had
on a set from juicy couture.
You had it for over since highschool.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
So how many years is that you want me to tell my age?
No, I'm just kidding girl, Idon't know.
It was more than 10 years agoand it more than 10 years ago.
Yeah, and it looked brand new.
Speaker 3 (24:27):
Like I'm like when did you get this set?
And I'm like, wow, like it waswhite at that.
Speaker 2 (24:31):
Like I'm like Cream, yep, Cream colored and perfect
and usually like cream and white, like over time turns yellow.
No baby, I take care of mystuff.
Speaker 3 (24:43):
But quality, when you said taking care of your stuff
is when you buy these qualitypieces, you cannot put them in
the washing machine, in thelaundry, with all your other
pieces of clothing.
Like sometimes you might needto get something dry cleaned
here and there so that you'reable to, like, maintain it and
not wash it so often like why dowe wash clothes so many times?
Speaker 2 (24:57):
like that part.
Guys, you know you're notsupposed to wash your jeans
every time you wear them.
How many times do you wear yourjeans before you walk?
I wear my jeans two to threetimes before I actually wash
them.
You're not supposed to washyour jeans that often.
In fact, especially if you have, like good quality jeans, you
really shouldn't be.
But I also don't wear myoutside clothes in my house.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
I take it off as soon as I get home.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
That's a New York City thing, though, because you
wear it from the train station,you go home, you take off your
clothes, you don't sit on thebed.
So you go home, you take offyour clothes, like immediately
on the bed, and so I can wear mydon't ever sit on jeans two or
three times before I actuallywash them and you're supposed to
, especially if they're goodquality jeans, absolutely yeah,
and I think that sometimes youcan just wear things multiple
times.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
It's not dirty, you wear it multiple times.
Yeah, unpopular opinion.
I repeat gym, gym outfits.
Don't judge me, really I do.
Oh, if I wore something to thegym and I didn't like sweat in
it profusely, I'll re-wear it.
Yeah, yeah, yeah For sure Ihave on undergarments, I'll
re-wear it, I'll be all right.
Okay, and those are alwaysclean.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
It depends on your own BO too.
I agree, yeah.
Speaker 3 (25:59):
We gotta start not feeling like we can't repeat
things.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
Right, what else can we do to redefine ourselves?
Changing your environment?
Ooh, that's a good one.
Yeah, sometimes you might needto move out that apartment
you've been in for a while thatmaybe you've had bad experiences
in.
You might got to let go of thatenergy and move somewhere else,
like somewhere new.
If you can, if you'refinancially able to Change up
your environment, like you mightnot have to move.
You might just need to giveyour face, your space, a
(26:31):
facelift.
That's a good one.
Um, I love giving things afacelift.
Matter of fact, will came intothe bathroom the other days and
I was painting the vanity black,like I, and he's like, oh, it
looks great.
And I'm like, damn it, like Ihated the vanity, and I'm like I
need a change in this bathroom.
Yeah, and I'm like maybe Idon't need something completely
new, I just need to tweak what Ialready have and I'm very happy
(26:53):
with it.
That's beautiful, yeah, I thinkchanging your environment is
also a part of reinventingyourself, and I don't think that
you can.
You don't have to limityourself on how much you
reinvent yourself either.
You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
I mean, you might want to find some sort of
stability, um, but yeah, you canreinvent yourself every every
five to 10 years Like, don't,don't worry about it, you know,
yeah, and you can, nobody'scounting.
Wake up tomorrow.
If you want to change something, change it.
You don't need any permissionbut I love that you said
changing your environment,because environment is a lot of
who we are.
You know what I mean, likewhere we are, and I think it's
small changes.
Sometimes we don't have to makethose huge drastic changes.
Sometimes you literally canjust change a picture frame or
(27:36):
change your bedding um a newcandle scent or like a new um
dishwashing liquid, or you knowwhat I mean.
Like you can do small changesand you may not realize how that
mess, like how that helps yourpsyche, like, oh my goodness,
this one shift.
Now I feel super motivated, I'msuper inspired in my space to
create um, to cook or to docertain things that you don't
(27:56):
normally do um all the time.
So yeah, I love that you saidchanging your environment.
I also think sometimes it'salso changing um that, your
consumption, what you consume.
Speaker 1 (28:05):
So maybe it's changing the shows you watch.
Speaker 3 (28:07):
Maybe it's changing, like your instagram feed or what
you're watching.
Maybe it's deleting some stuffon your instagram feed.
Maybe it's like clearing outyour inbox in your mail, like.
You know what I mean.
Like it look can look likedifferent things as it relates
to like environment, and justlike different things that you
can change just to to help youget to the next level.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
Yeah, I agree and while you're reinventing
yourself.
Do try different things seewhat you actually really like
and not what you see is likepopular right now.
Yeah, um, because I'm I'm verybig on that.
I have found that I I reallyenjoy painting and grooming my
dogs, so weird, but painting andgrooming my dogs um and I think
(28:45):
I'm gonna take that into thenext chapter with me and into
this new um invention.
You know what I've seen?
I've seen a tiktok the otherdays that actually it was not
the other days, it was literallylast night and it kind of like
goes along with thisconversation because the girl
was like she hates when peoplesay like they're too old for
things because it almost seemslike you're giving up on
yourself.
Speaker 1 (29:04):
Like.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
I'm too old for that, like I'm too old for this, I'm
too old for that.
And sometimes, like I findmyself saying that about things
where I'm like girl, you're noteven old.
Like right, stop it Right.
And like, granted, there aresome things you are might be too
old for like being in the clubevery weekend, might be too old
for like being in the club everyweekend, you know.
But I mean, you should do it ifyou're in your 20s, get out
your system right.
But there's certain thingsthat's like you're not really
(29:26):
too old for that.
And and she was saying that,like it's almost like a sense of
like giving up on yourself, andI was like oh yeah, that's a
word, that's, that's, that'strue that is so true and same
for like having kids.
Like don't think because whenyou have kids your life stops.
Like, go to that restaurant,take your kid with you.
(29:46):
Go to that trip, take your kidwith you.
Like, don't let things stop youand make you feel like you're
too old for xyz.
It's not true.
You're as old as you feel.
It's a limiting belief, it'svery limiting.
And it's not true.
You're as old as you feel.
It's a limiting belief, it'svery limiting and it's very.
It's very like stunt, likegrowth stunting.
Speaker 3 (30:06):
Yeah, it's very limiting.
I even think saying like old islike is terrible.
It's a terrible concept, causeI feel like I feel young.
You know what I mean.
I feel lively and I feel likeyou, who and what you are.
So I think that I love that,that, that point I think that
you should be able to do andaccomplish whatever it is that
(30:27):
you want in the time that youhave.
Like we all are here onborrowed time.
We all are here with literallywe don't know that time.
Only God knows your end number,your end date, and I think,
while you're here on this planet, do what it is that you want to
do, unapologetically, and Ithink that's another thing.
When it comes to redefiningyourself, gone with the old
labels, whatever the new labelsare of who it is that you want
(30:48):
to do.
If you have to reintroduce somefriends and family members to
this new version of yourself, doit whatever it is that you want
to do that makes you happy.
Yeah, in this new season, do itunapologetically, and that's
like.
My other thing is like, makesure, whatever it is, you I'm
not apologizing for it.
Speaker 2 (31:03):
Like this is it, and you know what it's so funny.
This also reminds me like whenI was in college and for those
of you who may not have beenactually or have gone to college
I remember like seeing olderpeople in my class and they were
like way older than me, so likethis is just a testament of
like you can do that thing youwant to do, no matter what age
you are.
(31:24):
Like I remember being in schooland I had classes with people
who are way older than me, butguess what?
Speaker 1 (31:29):
they went back to college and I was like that's so
dope.
Speaker 2 (31:31):
They did that's so dope.
Did you have classes withpeople?
Speaker 3 (31:34):
yeah, like, especially in new york city when
I did like my community course,I had classes with so many
older people, families theydon't live different lives yeah,
that's why I love hearingstories about like people who
become doctors and they werelike living and they had their
own careers like way before thatand then they just realized
they wanted to do this and theydid it yes, live different lives
if you're on this earth I meancats got nine why can't we have
(31:56):
multiple nine, so you're goingback to.
Speaker 2 (31:58):
You can go to law school too I do want to go to
law school, so listen let's makeit happen.
One day.
I'm gonna start a gofundme, soour listeners can fund my law
school journey it ain't cheap atall.
Speaker 3 (32:10):
Let's do it or we can get, or we can just continue to
grow on the show and get moreyeah, so that we can.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
We can do that.
We can put you through lawschool.
Speaker 3 (32:18):
I like the fundraising idea, but it's fine,
I love both of them I love bothof them, but know that,
whatever it is, in this newseason, as you're reinventing
yourself, do it, be bold, beconsistent, be you, be
consistent be, unapologetic andjust go for it and do it like
the time is now, you don't havetomorrow, you don't have next
week, like as you're watchingthis today, whatever the changes
(32:39):
, affirm it and affirm it andstand on business with it Mm-hmm
, and let us know how you guysare reinventing yourselves in
the comments.
Speaker 2 (32:48):
Are you changing your wardrobe?
Are you changing yourenvironment, like?
What does that look like fory'all?
I'm interested in knowing.
Speaker 3 (32:55):
Same Tap in with us.
Thank you guys for anotherepisode.
Bye y'all, Bye.
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