April 23, 2025 • 26 mins
Are You Standing in Your Own Way? | Break Free from Imposter Syndrome & Start Thinking Bigger
Are you ready to stop *playing small* and finally claim the life you *deserve*? In this powerful and vulnerable episode, we unpack the invisible barriers holding so many of us back—*imposter syndrome*, *perfectionism*, and the fear of being “too much.” If you've ever felt stuck, like you're waiting for permission to chase your dreams—this conversation is your wake-up call.
✨ We share the real, raw lessons from our year-long podcast journey—including the mindset shifts that helped us step into our power. From redefining success on *your own terms*, to rewiring your inner dialogue and creating the *right environment* for growth, this episode will inspire you to take bold, imperfect action—starting now.
🔥 Key Topics:
- How *imposter syndrome* quietly sabotages success
- Why *perfectionism* is a lie that delays your dreams
- The power of being “delusional” enough to believe in yourself
- How your *circle* influences your self-worth and ambition
- Why *you don’t need to be chosen*—you can choose *yourself*
🎯 Whether you're a creator, entrepreneur, or dreamer waiting for the "right moment," this episode will give you the clarity and courage to *start before you're ready*. Because real talk? The only thing standing between you and the life you want… is *you*.
👇 Drop a comment below: What’s the dream you’ve been putting off? Let’s hold each other accountable to THINK BIGGER.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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(00:23):
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Speaker 3 (00:27):
Applications close on april 25th 2025 hi, I'm crystal
vega, hi, I'm amanda booze andthis is elevators podcast, where
we talk about the peaks andvalleys of life's journey, from
relationships, entrepreneurship,friendships, all of the ships
we're talking about it and evengive you a little sizzling taste
of social media's hot topics,all from our lens.
(00:49):
Child Right, really, because itis our perspective, right right
, you guys know the line by now.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Because we say it so much, we need to know the intro,
maybe for season two.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Season two, we're going to have a new intro and at
this point we've alreadyintroduced ourselves for the
year.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Maybe, we don't need a reintroduction.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Maybe we'll have like some type of graphic or
something.
Yeah, some fun somelighthearted.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I don't know you guys , tell us what you want to see.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Let us know, yeah, let us know.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So for today's episode, we are going to talk
about how you need to stopplaying small.
Yes, you playing small.
Yes, you, you listening, youwatching.
Stop playing small.
This episode is going to be allabout how to step into your
full potential and, I don't know, coming off the heels of doing
(01:35):
this podcast weekly for the fora whole year consistently, I
think we are equipped to discussthis very much, very much.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
So big sweetie, think big do big do, big do that no,
little nothing don't put alittle behind nothing I'm doing.
Don't put I don't like whenpeople do that big behind
everything.
Okay, it's not even a littlebusiness, it's a business.
It's a bit.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
It's not a small business, it's a big business
uh-huh period, love it businesssuit, wayne said but anyway, yes
, this is gonna be fun yes, Ilove this conversation but, yeah
, no, seriously, I think, comingoff the heels of, like you know
, just meeting a year ofpodcasting consistently, I feel
like you know we really did ourbig one.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
We did we did our big one.
We did, and you know what?
I think sometimes you just haveto put something out there and
see, like, where it can go.
Yeah, because I'm sure we werelike, oh, we don't know where
it's going to go, and then itpicked up a year later.
We've gotten some work.
We've traveled, we've done livepodcasts.
We've done so much, we'vecreated content outside of the
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podcast, so all you got to do isdo it.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
This is your sign, take, your take.
This is your sign, first andforemost, I feel like, in order
to stop playing small you haveto clear your palate.
Clear your palate of anypotential negative thought If it
might not work out, but becauseit might just work out.
Clear your palate of allnegativity.
(02:59):
Yeah, first and foremost, whenyou're about to dive into that
project you've been thinkingabout, or?
you know, doing that side hustlethat you've been thinking about
, whatever it is, or that newhobby that you've been thinking
about?
Clear your palate, first andforemost.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Also let go of imposter syndrome.
Yes, and outside of letting goof imposter syndrome on top of
clearing your palate, impostersyndrome on top of clearing your
palate.
I another thing I think thatyou have to do is you have to
almost be delusional.
Like you are delusional, like Iwant you to think that what
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you're working on or what it isthat you're trying to do, that
you're trying to think big about, you almost have to already act
as if you have this thing andit's happening, it's there and
you speak it into existence,even if you didn't start it yet.
My podcast, even if you didn'tstart recording my podcast, is
gonna be successful.
Like literally, just no, that'sso delusional.
(03:54):
No, it is, but you have to be.
You have to be delusional untilit.
It's only crazy until ithappens.
Like it literally is only crazyuntil it happens.
So, yeah, I'm gonna be crazyyeah, and it can happen
overnight.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Literally it can happen overnight.
But yeah, clearing your palate,getting rid of imposter
syndrome.
It's so funny because sometimespeople don't even realize that
they have it.
Like recently, I had to tell myboyfriend he has imposter
syndrome and he had no idea.
I'm like no, look up thedefinition and tell me what you
think.
And he looked it up.
He was like wow.
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I'm like yes, get out your ownway.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Get out your way.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Get out your way.
You are the only person in yourway, not nobody else can stop
you.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Okay, get out your way, it's true, it's true, and
we've all been there.
We've all been there.
We've all experienced impostersyndrome.
I don't care.
The most confident person inthe world cannot tell you that
they haven't experienced thepositive but if you live in it
for so long you don't realizeyou're in it.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
That's true.
You just think like naturally,that that's how you think.
No, and a lot of impostersyndrome could be related to
your ethnicity, your culturalbackground, the way you grew up,
like, especially as Caribbeans,like coming from, whether
you're first generation, secondgeneration, whatever generation.
Sometimes you hear like youneed to be a doctor, you need to
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be this, you need to be that.
And don't get me wrong, we doneed doctors, we do need
firefighters, we need all thempeople.
Ok, we need.
So that's what you want to do,go do it.
But in the world we live in, wehave more resources, more
opportunities, so exhaust thosethings.
And it might be you want to bean artist, you can make money in
any way, shape or form, soexhaust your resources.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I'm so happy that you said that.
I actually had to tell myparents that too, especially now
because I have two youngersiblings and my little sister.
She loves art so much, shewants to be an artist, and it's
one of those things where youjust have to like almost
reposition your thought processand I'm like she could make
money as an artist.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
A lot of money.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
You just have to retrain your brain sometimes.
And sometimes it's like, likeyou mentioned, like growing up
and whether it's a Caribbeanbackground, or if you're an
African American, whatever yourbackground is, or you're
Hispanic, whatever.
But I'm saying that sometimeswe as adults have to kind of
teach our parents to yes, yes,like you ever feel like you're
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the new parent as I feel likenot with my mom, but I can see
how other people feel that way,girl, me and my friends talk
about this all the time Likeshout out to like us as adults,
us being our parents, parents.
Now, like I feel like I'm likelove my parents and not I'm
being a little dramatic here butyou are literally teaching the
after that was chat gpt.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
He went what?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
yeah, like you're, like the new parent now new
things, and that's okay yeah butyou don't.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You just need to identify what it is that's in
your way, whether it's, like youknow, people's idea of what you
should be doing, whether it'syou in your own head or whatever
the case may be.
But then, like we said, clearthe palette of all that good
stuff and get ready to get inyour bag.
Okay, following after, likefiguring out what's holding you
back.
I think the next step isbreaking out of your comfort
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zone, like that's huge being.
Stagnant is also, like, to me,goes hand in hand with being in
your comfort zone, like if youare in a place where you are
comfortable.
To me, in my opinion, you'restagnant.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I think it's disrespectful You're too,
comfortable.
Yeah, I think when you'restagnant or you're not
progressing for yourself, you'redisrespecting yourself.
I feel like you're not tappinginto your full potential and
it's almost like I don't careabout who I am and I know it
sounds harsh, but it literallyis that like you're only
responsible for you.
No one is going to help you getto the next level.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
No one is going to help you get anything that you
have, that you're wanting inthis life if you're not going to
go out and get it for yourselffirst, yes, I love that you say
that, though, because that's thenumber one thing about like not
playing small is doing thatshit yourself, period, by
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yourself.
Okay, I say this all the time.
This is my little motto nobodywants to be on a ship that's
anchored, nobody.
But when that ship sails,everybody want to be on it,
everybody want to be on the wave.
Once things are doing goingwell, people want to join the
bandwagon and that's just thereality of it.
Unfortunately, that's humannature, but and I'm not it's in
(08:28):
the bible too yeah, I'm notsaying that in a salty way.
I'm saying that, like, expect itand take it with a grain of
salt.
You can't, you can't be madthat god blessed you with an
idea of something and didn't putit.
Didn't put that same idea intothe people around you's head, if
that makes sense, because thenthey would all be doing it.
That they not only would theyall be doing it, but like if,
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for whatever reason, like theydon't envision you doing it, or
whatever the case may be, likeit's your vision, honey, like
that wasn't meant for anybodyelse to see but you.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
That's why you got it , you know, yeah, and you're
fully equipped to do that thingtoo.
There's a reason why God hasplaced these certain visions and
these certain creative ideas onyou, and I know sometimes we
feel like, how am I going to dothis?
Or like, do I have the tools?
You do have the tools.
You just haven't realized wehaven't tapped into it yet, yeah
.
So I think that playing bigalso means learning new things
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and tapping into new versions ofyou that you haven't even
unboxed yet, you haven't evenlike seen if you can do it.
I feel like a lot of the timeswe stop ourselves right before
we try to launch that thing,start that business or whatever
it is that you're trying to do.
Like you you talk yourself outof doing it instead of just
physically just trying.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
To all the HBCU students making moves listen up.
For over 20 years, mcdonald'shas been at the side of college
hopefuls and, with over amillion in funding this year,
through the Black and PositivelyGolden Scholarship, Mickey D's
is helping HBCU students riseand flourish into their
graduating roles.
This scholarship season, getready to take your place when
you apply for a McDonald's Blackand Positively Golden
(10:07):
Scholarship.
Visit mcdblack scholarscom toapply now.
Applications close on april25th 2025.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
I do it.
Yes, and I think the number onereason a lot of people talk
themselves out of doing thingsis because they are in seek of
perfection.
Off the rip, like y'all, please.
Everything is ever changing.
Everything is ever, everevolving.
Like it's not gonna be perfectbecause your taste is gonna
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change.
What you like today, even ifit's perfect today, in a year I
promise you you're not gonnalike that website anymore, like
it's just naturally gonna happen.
So don't, don't give yourselfthe excuse that you are waiting
for X, y, z.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Think of trends, think of things that we loved
back in the day, we loved as wewere growing up, in the 90s, the
2000s, just even five years ago.
From trends, styles, cars allthose things change.
So why do you think youyourself can't change?
Or why do you think the thingsthat you like and that you
admire can't change?
Whatever it starts, as today,is not what it's going to be as
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it ends.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Not at all.
Not at all.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
What was it Think of?
Businesses Like?
Wasn't it Amazon?
Wasn't Jeff Bezos Get out of mymouth?
I was just going to say that itmouth like it was a bookstore
in his garage.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Yes, do you know?
This was a stationary store.
I think it was like for likepapers or like thank you cards
or something like that likethings are ever growing, ever
evolving, so if you're givingyourself the excuse of like, oh,
I need my website to be perfect, no, you don't.
I mean, you want it to befunctioning, obviously right,
like you want to make surepeople have a good experience on
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those things, but it's it'sdifferent from seeking
perfection, because when youtell yourself you're seeking
perfection, you're just honestlygiving yourself an excuse to
not do what you said you wasgonna do and you don't ever want
to be.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
That you want to say and do is be exactly who it was
that you want to be.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I have lost friendships over that really
yeah, what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (12:08):
in what way?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
I had amazing friends and they're still amazing women
in high school and I we grewapart because they were very
habitual in being stagnant and Iwas always a friend to be like
no, do this, do that, like trythis, try that.
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And like they weren't veryreceptive of that and I know
like now that I'm saying thiswith my own mouth, I'm like this
sounds bossy, but like not in abossy way, very like you can do
.
I'm a very like you can do it,like try this, like you could do
that, try that, like try this,try that.
And like I had a really goodfriend, loved her to death, to
death, and she always had anexcuse Like no, I can't do this,
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no, I can't do that, and itjust became a very exhausting
situation to be in.
So also like respectfully, ifyou don't want to change your
situation, that's fine, justdon't talk about it, yeah,
because you're probably drainingthe motivator in your circle,
not even probably draining themotivator in your circle, not
even realizing, not evenrealizing it, and who are trying
to pour into you, pour into youand they keep pouring and it's
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coming out the other side of thecup because you're not really
trying to grasp what they'regiving.
You know, like, and that was avery hard relationship for me to
like let go of and it wasn'tlike, oh, we can't be friends
anymore.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Just just parted ways apart, yeah we.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
We just naturally parted ways, but like that was
my dog like yeah, and, and youknow, she was just a very
stagnant person and it continuedto be that way in life.
And I'm not saying that youcan't be friends who want
different things or or or whoare content with a different
lifestyle or different things,but there's just certain, uh,
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similarities that you have tohave in a friendship.
That that maintains thatfriendship, and for me it's like
being surrounded by people whopour into you and pour back, but
also are like-minded very much.
So yeah, so I agree yeah, I'velost.
I've lost friendships overpeople who are like I'm gonna do
it, I'm gonna do, I'm gonna doit, and then don't do it and I'm
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like ciao, I'm done.
Yeah, because a lot of thetimes I don't know if you guys
realize or what kind ofconversations you have with your
friends, but the type ofconversation I'm having my
friends, like this is what I'mgonna do, this is what I want to
do, like in addition to likehow you been girl and that kind
of stuff, but like we are havingmotivational conversations,
like what business are youtrying to open?
Like how can I help you?
Like that's the conversation.
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So for me, when I can no longerhave those type of
conversations with the girls Iwas around, you don't really
have too much.
I don't really have too much totalk about, because I'm not a
men-centered person.
So if we're not talking aboutmen, you know I don't care.
I got other things to talkabout.
Right right, right right, youknow but some people could only
talk about that, that's true,which is fine, or they could
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only talk about their partnersthat's true, that's fine.
But I like to haveconversations about how we can
get to sleep.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Yeah, you just want to also be around like-minded
people who are growing, who arebuilding, because you know what
they say like you are the peoplethat you surround yourself with
.
So if you're surroundingyourself with go-getters
naturally going to be ago-getter.
If you're surrounding yourselfaround people who are lazy not
to say you're lazy, but you maynot be as ambitious or as much
of a go-getter as you'd like tobe so I think that your company
and who you surround yourselfwith is important.
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You don't necessarily have tonot be friends with these people
all the time, to where you'relike hear me out, I'm saying it
in the sense of if you want tobe friends with people that may
not have the same mindset as younot to say you can't be friends
with that person but you'regoing to realize at some point
the relationship isn't going tofeel the same, like it's going
to feel like there's no commonground, there's nothing we could
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talk about.
Yeah, I'm, I'm going to seeyou're telling you about my wins
.
You may not have anything elseto add to the conversation and
it almost makes me feel likedang, like I don't want to make
you feel bad based on the thingsthat I'm working on or
accomplishing, because you'renot doing those things currently
.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
You know what I mean I think that's a part of not
playing small anymore issurrounding yourself with like
minded people who are going tobe out there.
You know doing similar thingsor like helping you do.
Maybe they're not doing similarthings, but you know that's why
money flows in.
Like you know the rich getricher.
Like it flows in the same sortof circles.
Like you kind of got tosurround yourself by what you
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want to be around and what youwant to attract.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Oh, the sadness you feel when you realize you've
picked up your very last hotcrispy McDonald's fry.
But what's this?
More fries at the bottom ofyour bag.
Oh, the joy, the joy.
Oh wait, never mind they'regone again.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Think about it millionaires are friends with
other millionaires.
People who have money arefriends with people who have
money.
People who aren't don't havemoney they're around people who
don't have money too.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
So you do have to be if you're wanting I mean there's
other aspects to that, butgenerally, yeah, you get what
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Yeah for this conversation if you want to be.
You know you got to get thedisplay you got, you got to you
got to.
But, um, basically, yeah, youhave to just be in, put yourself
out there in circles of thesepeople who have these things.
And I know people are gonna say, well, how do I get if I want
to play big and I don't want toplay small and I want to be in
the community, or you knowamongst people who these things,
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but I don't know anybody.
Or I live in a small town, or Ilive in a place where I don't
know anything.
The internet is your friend.
Social media is so powerful.
You don't realize how manypeople didn't know each other
but created and cultivatedfriendships and relationships by
the internet.
I know people I've met on theinternet.
If we're in the same city wemay connect.
I know friends who have metpeople on the internet that
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they've connected.
You also have to go toconferences.
You have to go to retreats.
You have to go and do certainthings, to where you're in
atmospheres with new people, orif you're trying to tap into
people who are like-minded, youhave to go to those places.
If it's a book, somebody'sreleasing a book Um, we just had
mayel on the show.
She's having her book tour.
If you want to be in a circlelike that, go on, go to her book
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tour you know what I mean?
like just go to different thingsthat people are doing so that
you can surround yourself withlike-minded individuals.
Conferences, like, yeah, I'mlike, I'm like so big on doing
those things more and more,because it's true what they say
as you get older, it's hardmaking friends.
It is, I'm not gonna lie.
I was like when my parents usedto say that I'm like whatever,
but it is hard.
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And it's harder making thoselike-minded friends because,
also, you don't ever want tofeel like you're tapping into a
relationship to take fromsomebody.
You have to have something togive to, you know what I mean,
and that's huge.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
I was also going to say we're sitting here talking
about like what we like and andall this stuff, but like you
also define your own success,you know, like you define what
that looks like for you and whatnot playing small looks like
for you.
Maybe it's growing a garden,that's so true.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
I'm so glad you said that success is defined by what
it is that you want yes successdoes not also mean money.
It doesn't.
It doesn't, it literallydoesn't.
It could be not me money, girl.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
You got your house in order and now you could kick up
your feet because you ain't gotno more little diy projects.
Good for you, I wish I aspireto be there, okay, absolutely
like.
It looks very different for allof us, so don't let nobody make
you feel like you also got tobe out there chasing money in
the rat race with everybody elseto each his own.
Not at all To each his own.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
It's whatever is going to bring you overall joy,
like whatever is making youhappy.
That's what success should bedefined.
As to you, success is yourpersonal happiness.
Like you said, it could begrowing a garden.
It could be the freedom to gosomewhere with a loved one.
It could literally be yousitting on the couch and on the
phone with your friend.
It could be you sitting on thecouch and on the phone with your
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friend.
It could literally just be yougoing and dining at your
favorite restaurant whenever youfeel like it, or taking that
favorite pilates class, orwhatever it is that you want to
do or it could just be like youfinding your superpowers you
know, like you not playing small.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Could be you figuring out, like your, your strengths,
whether that be like you'refunny or whether that be like
you're you're a good friend totalk to, like just finding your
superpowers, like that's successin in itself, like finding your
strengths yeah, I agree that'sso true.
Yeah, and I think, um, when youdo kind of like check those
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things off, make sure youcelebrate it.
I love to say, I celebrateeverything, if you let me let's
go get some coffee.
I'm a very let's go celebratethis small thing because you it,
you inherently like.
Train your brain to to thinklike, okay, I want to do the
next celebration.
Like, I want that you know, thenext time, um, I get to check
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something off my list, I get todo this or I get to do that,
whatever the case may be.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
You just really train your brain to like just keep
going, keep pushing yourself tokeep growing you know, you know,
it almost feels like when youwent to McDonald's and you got
that little treat at the end ofyour happy meal like yeah your
happy meal.
You got your little prize.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
It's like I'm looking forward to my prize and I feel
like that every time I go there,still to this day.
Shout out to McDonaldcdonald's.
Shout out to mcdonald's honey.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
No, but yeah, I I do think that you should celebrate.
I agree, I feel like you shouldcelebrate your wins, big wins,
small wins, if it's just gettingover and conquering the day and
you want a little snack.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
You get some little snack whatever it is, be your
biggest cheerleader.
Nobody else is gonna cheer foryou as long as you cheer for
yourself yes, my god, nobody'sgonna work hard for you the way
you work hard for yourself.
So start that project likenobody's gonna take you serious
about your stuff and what youwant in life if you don't take
yourself serious.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, and that's that's.
That's what it is.
That's what it is and that'sfair.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
That's what it is because if you tell me you want
to, you want to write this bookfor three years.
Girl, why are you still talkingabout it?
Speaker 3 (21:47):
why you're not doing it, why you're not doing it and
have people around you that aregoing to be honest with you.
So I love that you said thattoo, because when you're trying
to get into the mindset of notplaying small and playing big,
you got to have not yes, men oryes women around you.
That's like, yeah, girl, it'sokay.
No, you need people that aregonna be honest with you.
It's gonna be blunt, sometimesit may be a little harsh and I
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think it might be a little okay.
It depends on what, how you,how you can take whatever
criticism it is that you need,but it's so important to have
people who are very, very honestwith you, because you need that
to push you to the next levelsometimes, yeah, it's important,
I think um a part of notplaying small anymore is like
stop waiting to be chose chosen,chosen let me, let me be
(22:31):
correct here.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yes, don't wait to be chosen.
Um, you really just got tochoose yourself and choose the
things that you want to do andlike all the, all the things
you're trying to check off onyour list, whatever that looks,
looks like.
Don't wait for nobody else todo it.
It's similar to saying like ifyou want to start that project,
start that project, don't.
You don't need no support bynobody else.
Success is not going to findyou.
(22:54):
You got to find success Facts.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
And I think, on top of what you're saying, not
waiting for someone to chooseyou or for you to be chosen
create the table, create theseat open the door for yourself.
Sometimes you have to putyourself in the position of
where you're creating theplatform that you're seeking to
be on, and this is a perfectexample of that.
We didn't ask for somebody tosponsor our show.
(23:18):
We created the show.
You know what I mean.
So I think that you have tocreate the opportunities that
you want for yourself.
Even if you have not one personfollowing the page, even if you
have not one person that islistening to the podcast, still
do it, because, as you reflectback a year and five years from
now, you're gonna be like I wishI would have started and you
(23:38):
never want to go through lifewishing that you did something
and you didn't just take theopportunity to do it now, when
you may not even have like abunch of responsibilities to be
able to do that thing you knowwhat I mean.
Like I can't imagine now if Ihad kids, family, this, that and
a third, not to say I wouldn'tdo these things but those are
just some other elements thatare, you know, that are into the
, that are thrown into the mix.
(24:00):
So I think a lot of the timestoo, is do what you can, where,
like do as much as you can inthe time that you have now and
while you're fully capable ofdoing it but I will say too it's
like I'm with you and likestarting your own thing.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
But if there's something that's already
existing out there that you feelpassionate about, join it.
Like join it and you never know, you could sit on the chair of
the board one day.
Like you don't necessarily haveto start things from scratch
either.
You can.
If you see something that youlike or like a community or
organization or a podcast orwhatever, like go try to be the
(24:33):
producer of the podcast andmaybe you'll be the executive
producer one day.
Like there's just it just looksvery different for everybody.
So it's not necessarily onlyabout like starting your own
thing.
It could be like going intosomething that's already
existing and finding like a firm, like position in that thing
too.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
I'm glad you said that.
I actually literally talked toone of my friends about um
fortunate forks this week.
Because of that.
She was like, oh my gosh, Ilove what the fortunate forks,
what they're doing.
I want to do something verysimilar.
I was like girl, you try to tapin.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You know what I mean?
I was.
I don't think people realizethat.
Look, I'm like they hiring?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Yeah, no, the thing is.
The thing is people don'trealize that.
I'm like this is a business.
They're hiring, there'spositions, there's ways that you
can help outside of what it is,that you may not even think of.
You're looking at it, it's likeit's an organization, but this
is an organization that haslevels, that is flowing in a the
way that it is.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
It needs support yeah , for sure, yeah, pull up, pull
up on us please.
But most importantly, we wantto challenge you guys to start
that project.
Yeah, I'm talking aboutstarting, um, think big think
think big, do not think small.
We talked about this on ourother episodes it's like you
could think one thing is for youand god got something so much
(25:43):
larger in store and you have noidea.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So think big yeah, very big all the time.
Yeah, every time, manifest it,think about it, pray over it,
write it down, but don't justdon't limit yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Be limitless no, be limitless and let us know what
that project is in the commentsthat you got up and you started,
and stop saying tomorrow, today, today's today.
Okay, let us know in thecomments baby, it's april.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah, it's gonna be december next week no, but for
real.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
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Subscribe.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Let us know what you guys are working on and what um
you guys have finally pulled theband-aid off of that's right
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tune in, support or whateverthat may be.
But yes, thank you guys.
So much for subscribing and fortuning in to another episode.
If this touched you, if youhave a friend or anyone else
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Speaker 3 (00:27):
Applications close on april 25th 2025 hi, I'm crystal
vega, hi, I'm amanda booze andthis is elevators podcast, where
we talk about the peaks andvalleys of life's journey, from
relationships, entrepreneurship,friendships, all of the ships
we're talking about it and evengive you a little sizzling taste
of social media's hot topics,all from our lens.
(00:49):
Child Right, really, because itis our perspective, right right
, you guys know the line by now.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Because we say it so much, we need to know the intro,
maybe for season two.
Speaker 3 (00:59):
Season two, we're going to have a new intro and at
this point we've alreadyintroduced ourselves for the
year.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Maybe, we don't need a reintroduction.
Speaker 3 (01:05):
Maybe we'll have like some type of graphic or
something.
Yeah, some fun somelighthearted.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
I don't know you guys , tell us what you want to see.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Let us know, yeah, let us know.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So for today's episode, we are going to talk
about how you need to stopplaying small.
Yes, you playing small.
Yes, you, you listening, youwatching.
Stop playing small.
This episode is going to be allabout how to step into your
full potential and, I don't know, coming off the heels of doing
(01:35):
this podcast weekly for the fora whole year consistently, I
think we are equipped to discussthis very much, very much.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
So big sweetie, think big do big do, big do that no,
little nothing don't put alittle behind nothing I'm doing.
Don't put I don't like whenpeople do that big behind
everything.
Okay, it's not even a littlebusiness, it's a business.
It's a bit.
Speaker 2 (01:55):
It's not a small business, it's a big business
uh-huh period, love it businesssuit, wayne said but anyway, yes
, this is gonna be fun yes, Ilove this conversation but, yeah
, no, seriously, I think, comingoff the heels of, like you know
, just meeting a year ofpodcasting consistently, I feel
like you know we really did ourbig one.
Speaker 3 (02:15):
We did we did our big one.
We did, and you know what?
I think sometimes you just haveto put something out there and
see, like, where it can go.
Yeah, because I'm sure we werelike, oh, we don't know where
it's going to go, and then itpicked up a year later.
We've gotten some work.
We've traveled, we've done livepodcasts.
We've done so much, we'vecreated content outside of the
(02:36):
podcast, so all you got to do isdo it.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
This is your sign, take, your take.
This is your sign, first andforemost, I feel like, in order
to stop playing small you haveto clear your palate.
Clear your palate of anypotential negative thought If it
might not work out, but becauseit might just work out.
Clear your palate of allnegativity.
(02:59):
Yeah, first and foremost, whenyou're about to dive into that
project you've been thinkingabout, or?
you know, doing that side hustlethat you've been thinking about
, whatever it is, or that newhobby that you've been thinking
about?
Clear your palate, first andforemost.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Also let go of imposter syndrome.
Yes, and outside of letting goof imposter syndrome on top of
clearing your palate, impostersyndrome on top of clearing your
palate.
I another thing I think thatyou have to do is you have to
almost be delusional.
Like you are delusional, like Iwant you to think that what
(03:34):
you're working on or what it isthat you're trying to do, that
you're trying to think big about, you almost have to already act
as if you have this thing andit's happening, it's there and
you speak it into existence,even if you didn't start it yet.
My podcast, even if you didn'tstart recording my podcast, is
gonna be successful.
Like literally, just no, that'sso delusional.
(03:54):
No, it is, but you have to be.
You have to be delusional untilit.
It's only crazy until ithappens.
Like it literally is only crazyuntil it happens.
So, yeah, I'm gonna be crazyyeah, and it can happen
overnight.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Literally it can happen overnight.
But yeah, clearing your palate,getting rid of imposter
syndrome.
It's so funny because sometimespeople don't even realize that
they have it.
Like recently, I had to tell myboyfriend he has imposter
syndrome and he had no idea.
I'm like no, look up thedefinition and tell me what you
think.
And he looked it up.
He was like wow.
(04:27):
I'm like yes, get out your ownway.
Speaker 1 (04:30):
Get out your way.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Get out your way.
You are the only person in yourway, not nobody else can stop
you.
Speaker 3 (04:37):
Okay, get out your way, it's true, it's true, and
we've all been there.
We've all been there.
We've all experienced impostersyndrome.
I don't care.
The most confident person inthe world cannot tell you that
they haven't experienced thepositive but if you live in it
for so long you don't realizeyou're in it.
Speaker 2 (04:52):
That's true.
You just think like naturally,that that's how you think.
No, and a lot of impostersyndrome could be related to
your ethnicity, your culturalbackground, the way you grew up,
like, especially as Caribbeans,like coming from, whether
you're first generation, secondgeneration, whatever generation.
Sometimes you hear like youneed to be a doctor, you need to
(05:13):
be this, you need to be that.
And don't get me wrong, we doneed doctors, we do need
firefighters, we need all thempeople.
Ok, we need.
So that's what you want to do,go do it.
But in the world we live in, wehave more resources, more
opportunities, so exhaust thosethings.
And it might be you want to bean artist, you can make money in
any way, shape or form, soexhaust your resources.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I'm so happy that you said that.
I actually had to tell myparents that too, especially now
because I have two youngersiblings and my little sister.
She loves art so much, shewants to be an artist, and it's
one of those things where youjust have to like almost
reposition your thought processand I'm like she could make
money as an artist.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
A lot of money.
Speaker 3 (05:53):
You just have to retrain your brain sometimes.
And sometimes it's like, likeyou mentioned, like growing up
and whether it's a Caribbeanbackground, or if you're an
African American, whatever yourbackground is, or you're
Hispanic, whatever.
But I'm saying that sometimeswe as adults have to kind of
teach our parents to yes, yes,like you ever feel like you're
(06:14):
the new parent as I feel likenot with my mom, but I can see
how other people feel that way,girl, me and my friends talk
about this all the time Likeshout out to like us as adults,
us being our parents, parents.
Now, like I feel like I'm likelove my parents and not I'm
being a little dramatic here butyou are literally teaching the
after that was chat gpt.
Speaker 2 (06:36):
He went what?
Speaker 3 (06:36):
yeah, like you're, like the new parent now new
things, and that's okay yeah butyou don't.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
You just need to identify what it is that's in
your way, whether it's, like youknow, people's idea of what you
should be doing, whether it'syou in your own head or whatever
the case may be.
But then, like we said, clearthe palette of all that good
stuff and get ready to get inyour bag.
Okay, following after, likefiguring out what's holding you
back.
I think the next step isbreaking out of your comfort
(07:06):
zone, like that's huge being.
Stagnant is also, like, to me,goes hand in hand with being in
your comfort zone, like if youare in a place where you are
comfortable.
To me, in my opinion, you'restagnant.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
I think it's disrespectful You're too,
comfortable.
Yeah, I think when you'restagnant or you're not
progressing for yourself, you'redisrespecting yourself.
I feel like you're not tappinginto your full potential and
it's almost like I don't careabout who I am and I know it
sounds harsh, but it literallyis that like you're only
responsible for you.
No one is going to help you getto the next level.
Speaker 2 (07:42):
No one is going to help you get anything that you
have, that you're wanting inthis life if you're not going to
go out and get it for yourselffirst, yes, I love that you say
that, though, because that's thenumber one thing about like not
playing small is doing thatshit yourself, period, by
(08:05):
yourself.
Okay, I say this all the time.
This is my little motto nobodywants to be on a ship that's
anchored, nobody.
But when that ship sails,everybody want to be on it,
everybody want to be on the wave.
Once things are doing goingwell, people want to join the
bandwagon and that's just thereality of it.
Unfortunately, that's humannature, but and I'm not it's in
(08:28):
the bible too yeah, I'm notsaying that in a salty way.
I'm saying that, like, expect itand take it with a grain of
salt.
You can't, you can't be madthat god blessed you with an
idea of something and didn't putit.
Didn't put that same idea intothe people around you's head, if
that makes sense, because thenthey would all be doing it.
That they not only would theyall be doing it, but like if,
(08:50):
for whatever reason, like theydon't envision you doing it, or
whatever the case may be, likeit's your vision, honey, like
that wasn't meant for anybodyelse to see but you.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
That's why you got it , you know, yeah, and you're
fully equipped to do that thingtoo.
There's a reason why God hasplaced these certain visions and
these certain creative ideas onyou, and I know sometimes we
feel like, how am I going to dothis?
Or like, do I have the tools?
You do have the tools.
You just haven't realized wehaven't tapped into it yet, yeah
.
So I think that playing bigalso means learning new things
(09:24):
and tapping into new versions ofyou that you haven't even
unboxed yet, you haven't evenlike seen if you can do it.
I feel like a lot of the timeswe stop ourselves right before
we try to launch that thing,start that business or whatever
it is that you're trying to do.
Like you you talk yourself outof doing it instead of just
physically just trying.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
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Speaker 2 (10:13):
I do it.
Yes, and I think the number onereason a lot of people talk
themselves out of doing thingsis because they are in seek of
perfection.
Off the rip, like y'all, please.
Everything is ever changing.
Everything is ever, everevolving.
Like it's not gonna be perfectbecause your taste is gonna
(10:36):
change.
What you like today, even ifit's perfect today, in a year I
promise you you're not gonnalike that website anymore, like
it's just naturally gonna happen.
So don't, don't give yourselfthe excuse that you are waiting
for X, y, z.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
Think of trends, think of things that we loved
back in the day, we loved as wewere growing up, in the 90s, the
2000s, just even five years ago.
From trends, styles, cars allthose things change.
So why do you think youyourself can't change?
Or why do you think the thingsthat you like and that you
admire can't change?
Whatever it starts, as today,is not what it's going to be as
(11:16):
it ends.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Not at all.
Not at all.
Speaker 3 (11:18):
What was it Think of?
Businesses Like?
Wasn't it Amazon?
Wasn't Jeff Bezos Get out of mymouth?
I was just going to say that itmouth like it was a bookstore
in his garage.
Speaker 2 (11:27):
Yes, do you know?
This was a stationary store.
I think it was like for likepapers or like thank you cards
or something like that likethings are ever growing, ever
evolving, so if you're givingyourself the excuse of like, oh,
I need my website to be perfect, no, you don't.
I mean, you want it to befunctioning, obviously right,
like you want to make surepeople have a good experience on
(11:47):
those things, but it's it'sdifferent from seeking
perfection, because when youtell yourself you're seeking
perfection, you're just honestlygiving yourself an excuse to
not do what you said you wasgonna do and you don't ever want
to be.
Speaker 3 (11:58):
That you want to say and do is be exactly who it was
that you want to be.
You know what?
Speaker 2 (12:04):
I have lost friendships over that really
yeah, what do you mean?
Speaker 3 (12:08):
in what way?
Speaker 2 (12:10):
I had amazing friends and they're still amazing women
in high school and I we grewapart because they were very
habitual in being stagnant and Iwas always a friend to be like
no, do this, do that, like trythis, try that.
(12:30):
And like they weren't veryreceptive of that and I know
like now that I'm saying thiswith my own mouth, I'm like this
sounds bossy, but like not in abossy way, very like you can do
.
I'm a very like you can do it,like try this, like you could do
that, try that, like try this,try that.
And like I had a really goodfriend, loved her to death, to
death, and she always had anexcuse Like no, I can't do this,
(12:52):
no, I can't do that, and itjust became a very exhausting
situation to be in.
So also like respectfully, ifyou don't want to change your
situation, that's fine, justdon't talk about it, yeah,
because you're probably drainingthe motivator in your circle,
not even probably draining themotivator in your circle, not
even realizing, not evenrealizing it, and who are trying
to pour into you, pour into youand they keep pouring and it's
(13:12):
coming out the other side of thecup because you're not really
trying to grasp what they'regiving.
You know, like, and that was avery hard relationship for me to
like let go of and it wasn'tlike, oh, we can't be friends
anymore.
Speaker 3 (13:24):
Just just parted ways apart, yeah we.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
We just naturally parted ways, but like that was
my dog like yeah, and, and youknow, she was just a very
stagnant person and it continuedto be that way in life.
And I'm not saying that youcan't be friends who want
different things or or or whoare content with a different
lifestyle or different things,but there's just certain, uh,
(13:49):
similarities that you have tohave in a friendship.
That that maintains thatfriendship, and for me it's like
being surrounded by people whopour into you and pour back, but
also are like-minded very much.
So yeah, so I agree yeah, I'velost.
I've lost friendships overpeople who are like I'm gonna do
it, I'm gonna do, I'm gonna doit, and then don't do it and I'm
(14:09):
like ciao, I'm done.
Yeah, because a lot of thetimes I don't know if you guys
realize or what kind ofconversations you have with your
friends, but the type ofconversation I'm having my
friends, like this is what I'mgonna do, this is what I want to
do, like in addition to likehow you been girl and that kind
of stuff, but like we are havingmotivational conversations,
like what business are youtrying to open?
Like how can I help you?
Like that's the conversation.
(14:29):
So for me, when I can no longerhave those type of
conversations with the girls Iwas around, you don't really
have too much.
I don't really have too much totalk about, because I'm not a
men-centered person.
So if we're not talking aboutmen, you know I don't care.
I got other things to talkabout.
Right right, right right, youknow but some people could only
talk about that, that's true,which is fine, or they could
(14:50):
only talk about their partnersthat's true, that's fine.
But I like to haveconversations about how we can
get to sleep.
Speaker 3 (14:59):
Yeah, you just want to also be around like-minded
people who are growing, who arebuilding, because you know what
they say like you are the peoplethat you surround yourself with
.
So if you're surroundingyourself with go-getters
naturally going to be ago-getter.
If you're surrounding yourselfaround people who are lazy not
to say you're lazy, but you maynot be as ambitious or as much
of a go-getter as you'd like tobe so I think that your company
and who you surround yourselfwith is important.
(15:20):
You don't necessarily have tonot be friends with these people
all the time, to where you'relike hear me out, I'm saying it
in the sense of if you want tobe friends with people that may
not have the same mindset as younot to say you can't be friends
with that person but you'regoing to realize at some point
the relationship isn't going tofeel the same, like it's going
to feel like there's no commonground, there's nothing we could
(15:42):
talk about.
Yeah, I'm, I'm going to seeyou're telling you about my wins
.
You may not have anything elseto add to the conversation and
it almost makes me feel likedang, like I don't want to make
you feel bad based on the thingsthat I'm working on or
accomplishing, because you'renot doing those things currently
.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
You know what I mean I think that's a part of not
playing small anymore issurrounding yourself with like
minded people who are going tobe out there.
You know doing similar thingsor like helping you do.
Maybe they're not doing similarthings, but you know that's why
money flows in.
Like you know the rich getricher.
Like it flows in the same sortof circles.
Like you kind of got tosurround yourself by what you
(16:18):
want to be around and what youwant to attract.
Speaker 1 (16:22):
Oh, the sadness you feel when you realize you've
picked up your very last hotcrispy McDonald's fry.
But what's this?
More fries at the bottom ofyour bag.
Oh, the joy, the joy.
Oh wait, never mind they'regone again.
Speaker 3 (16:50):
Think about it millionaires are friends with
other millionaires.
People who have money arefriends with people who have
money.
People who aren't don't havemoney they're around people who
don't have money too.
You know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
So you do have to be if you're wanting I mean there's
other aspects to that, butgenerally, yeah, you get what
I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (17:03):
Yeah for this conversation if you want to be.
You know you got to get thedisplay you got, you got to you
got to.
But, um, basically, yeah, youhave to just be in, put yourself
out there in circles of thesepeople who have these things.
And I know people are gonna say, well, how do I get if I want
to play big and I don't want toplay small and I want to be in
the community, or you knowamongst people who these things,
(17:25):
but I don't know anybody.
Or I live in a small town, or Ilive in a place where I don't
know anything.
The internet is your friend.
Social media is so powerful.
You don't realize how manypeople didn't know each other
but created and cultivatedfriendships and relationships by
the internet.
I know people I've met on theinternet.
If we're in the same city wemay connect.
I know friends who have metpeople on the internet that
(17:46):
they've connected.
You also have to go toconferences.
You have to go to retreats.
You have to go and do certainthings, to where you're in
atmospheres with new people, orif you're trying to tap into
people who are like-minded, youhave to go to those places.
If it's a book, somebody'sreleasing a book Um, we just had
mayel on the show.
She's having her book tour.
If you want to be in a circlelike that, go on, go to her book
(18:08):
tour you know what I mean?
like just go to different thingsthat people are doing so that
you can surround yourself withlike-minded individuals.
Conferences, like, yeah, I'mlike, I'm like so big on doing
those things more and more,because it's true what they say
as you get older, it's hardmaking friends.
It is, I'm not gonna lie.
I was like when my parents usedto say that I'm like whatever,
but it is hard.
(18:29):
And it's harder making thoselike-minded friends because,
also, you don't ever want tofeel like you're tapping into a
relationship to take fromsomebody.
You have to have something togive to, you know what I mean,
and that's huge.
Speaker 2 (18:40):
I was also going to say we're sitting here talking
about like what we like and andall this stuff, but like you
also define your own success,you know, like you define what
that looks like for you and whatnot playing small looks like
for you.
Maybe it's growing a garden,that's so true.
Speaker 3 (18:57):
I'm so glad you said that success is defined by what
it is that you want yes successdoes not also mean money.
It doesn't.
It doesn't, it literallydoesn't.
It could be not me money, girl.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
You got your house in order and now you could kick up
your feet because you ain't gotno more little diy projects.
Good for you, I wish I aspireto be there, okay, absolutely
like.
It looks very different for allof us, so don't let nobody make
you feel like you also got tobe out there chasing money in
the rat race with everybody elseto each his own.
Not at all To each his own.
Speaker 3 (19:26):
It's whatever is going to bring you overall joy,
like whatever is making youhappy.
That's what success should bedefined.
As to you, success is yourpersonal happiness.
Like you said, it could begrowing a garden.
It could be the freedom to gosomewhere with a loved one.
It could literally be yousitting on the couch and on the
phone with your friend.
It could be you sitting on thecouch and on the phone with your
(19:47):
friend.
It could literally just be yougoing and dining at your
favorite restaurant whenever youfeel like it, or taking that
favorite pilates class, orwhatever it is that you want to
do or it could just be like youfinding your superpowers you
know, like you not playing small.
Speaker 2 (20:00):
Could be you figuring out, like your, your strengths,
whether that be like you'refunny or whether that be like
you're you're a good friend totalk to, like just finding your
superpowers, like that's successin in itself, like finding your
strengths yeah, I agree that'sso true.
Yeah, and I think, um, when youdo kind of like check those
(20:21):
things off, make sure youcelebrate it.
I love to say, I celebrateeverything, if you let me let's
go get some coffee.
I'm a very let's go celebratethis small thing because you it,
you inherently like.
Train your brain to to thinklike, okay, I want to do the
next celebration.
Like, I want that you know, thenext time, um, I get to check
(20:42):
something off my list, I get todo this or I get to do that,
whatever the case may be.
Speaker 3 (20:45):
You just really train your brain to like just keep
going, keep pushing yourself tokeep growing you know, you know,
it almost feels like when youwent to McDonald's and you got
that little treat at the end ofyour happy meal like yeah your
happy meal.
You got your little prize.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
It's like I'm looking forward to my prize and I feel
like that every time I go there,still to this day.
Shout out to McDonaldcdonald's.
Shout out to mcdonald's honey.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
No, but yeah, I I do think that you should celebrate.
I agree, I feel like you shouldcelebrate your wins, big wins,
small wins, if it's just gettingover and conquering the day and
you want a little snack.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
You get some little snack whatever it is, be your
biggest cheerleader.
Nobody else is gonna cheer foryou as long as you cheer for
yourself yes, my god, nobody'sgonna work hard for you the way
you work hard for yourself.
So start that project likenobody's gonna take you serious
about your stuff and what youwant in life if you don't take
yourself serious.
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, and that's that's.
That's what it is.
That's what it is and that'sfair.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
That's what it is because if you tell me you want
to, you want to write this bookfor three years.
Girl, why are you still talkingabout it?
Speaker 3 (21:47):
why you're not doing it, why you're not doing it and
have people around you that aregoing to be honest with you.
So I love that you said thattoo, because when you're trying
to get into the mindset of notplaying small and playing big,
you got to have not yes, men oryes women around you.
That's like, yeah, girl, it'sokay.
No, you need people that aregonna be honest with you.
It's gonna be blunt, sometimesit may be a little harsh and I
(22:07):
think it might be a little okay.
It depends on what, how you,how you can take whatever
criticism it is that you need,but it's so important to have
people who are very, very honestwith you, because you need that
to push you to the next levelsometimes, yeah, it's important,
I think um a part of notplaying small anymore is like
stop waiting to be chose chosen,chosen let me, let me be
(22:31):
correct here.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yes, don't wait to be chosen.
Um, you really just got tochoose yourself and choose the
things that you want to do andlike all the, all the things
you're trying to check off onyour list, whatever that looks,
looks like.
Don't wait for nobody else todo it.
It's similar to saying like ifyou want to start that project,
start that project, don't.
You don't need no support bynobody else.
Success is not going to findyou.
(22:54):
You got to find success Facts.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
And I think, on top of what you're saying, not
waiting for someone to chooseyou or for you to be chosen
create the table, create theseat open the door for yourself.
Sometimes you have to putyourself in the position of
where you're creating theplatform that you're seeking to
be on, and this is a perfectexample of that.
We didn't ask for somebody tosponsor our show.
(23:18):
We created the show.
You know what I mean.
So I think that you have tocreate the opportunities that
you want for yourself.
Even if you have not one personfollowing the page, even if you
have not one person that islistening to the podcast, still
do it, because, as you reflectback a year and five years from
now, you're gonna be like I wishI would have started and you
(23:38):
never want to go through lifewishing that you did something
and you didn't just take theopportunity to do it now, when
you may not even have like abunch of responsibilities to be
able to do that thing you knowwhat I mean.
Like I can't imagine now if Ihad kids, family, this, that and
a third, not to say I wouldn'tdo these things but those are
just some other elements thatare, you know, that are into the
, that are thrown into the mix.
(24:00):
So I think a lot of the timestoo, is do what you can, where,
like do as much as you can inthe time that you have now and
while you're fully capable ofdoing it but I will say too it's
like I'm with you and likestarting your own thing.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
But if there's something that's already
existing out there that you feelpassionate about, join it.
Like join it and you never know, you could sit on the chair of
the board one day.
Like you don't necessarily haveto start things from scratch
either.
You can.
If you see something that youlike or like a community or
organization or a podcast orwhatever, like go try to be the
(24:33):
producer of the podcast andmaybe you'll be the executive
producer one day.
Like there's just it just looksvery different for everybody.
So it's not necessarily onlyabout like starting your own
thing.
It could be like going intosomething that's already
existing and finding like a firm, like position in that thing
too.
Speaker 3 (24:49):
I'm glad you said that.
I actually literally talked toone of my friends about um
fortunate forks this week.
Because of that.
She was like, oh my gosh, Ilove what the fortunate forks,
what they're doing.
I want to do something verysimilar.
I was like girl, you try to tapin.
Speaker 2 (24:58):
You know what I mean?
I was.
I don't think people realizethat.
Look, I'm like they hiring?
Speaker 3 (25:04):
Yeah, no, the thing is.
The thing is people don'trealize that.
I'm like this is a business.
They're hiring, there'spositions, there's ways that you
can help outside of what it is,that you may not even think of.
You're looking at it, it's likeit's an organization, but this
is an organization that haslevels, that is flowing in a the
way that it is.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
It needs support yeah , for sure, yeah, pull up, pull
up on us please.
But most importantly, we wantto challenge you guys to start
that project.
Yeah, I'm talking aboutstarting, um, think big think
think big, do not think small.
We talked about this on ourother episodes it's like you
could think one thing is for youand god got something so much
(25:43):
larger in store and you have noidea.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
So think big yeah, very big all the time.
Yeah, every time, manifest it,think about it, pray over it,
write it down, but don't justdon't limit yourself.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
Be limitless no, be limitless and let us know what
that project is in the commentsthat you got up and you started,
and stop saying tomorrow, today, today's today.
Okay, let us know in thecomments baby, it's april.
Speaker 3 (26:10):
Yeah, it's gonna be december next week no, but for
real.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Like comment.
Subscribe.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
Let us know what you guys are working on and what um
you guys have finally pulled theband-aid off of that's right
and let us know, because then wecould tap in and also listen,
tune in, support or whateverthat may be.
But yes, thank you guys.
So much for subscribing and fortuning in to another episode.
If this touched you, if youhave a friend or anyone else
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