June 6, 2025 • 31 mins
Have you ever wondered what really happens during a mediumship reading? The veil between what most people think mediumship is and what it actually entails is thicker than you might imagine. Even within spiritual communities, confusion abounds.
Mediumship isn't simply "talking to dead people" or a catch-all term for spiritual communication. It's specifically connecting with those who have crossed over—your departed loved ones—to provide evidence of their continued existence and deliver messages of love and healing. Unlike psychic readings where practitioners read your energy field or aura, true mediumship positions the medium as merely a translator receiving direct communication from the other side.
This episode peels back common misconceptions while offering a practical exploration of what makes mediumship unique among spiritual practices. You'll discover the difference between practical evidence (the "obituary checklist" as my team calls it) and essence evidence (the personality traits and private memories that truly validate a connection). I share why many skeptics focus on the wrong types of evidence, and how to recognize truly meaningful connections that go beyond what can be Googled.
Whether you're considering your first reading or you've had several, understanding how to approach a session with an open heart makes all the difference. Learn why the best responses are simple yes, no, or maybe answers, why you should never "feed" your medium additional information, and why even the most gifted practitioners aren't 100% accurate.
From one soul to another, this episode invites you to explore the beautiful gateway that mediumship offers into the greater spiritual reality that surrounds us all. Let me know if this Mediumship 101 approach resonates with you—I'd love to create more foundational content in the future.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everybody, welcome back to Empower your
Soul.
I thought I would do an episodeon Mediumship 101 and talk
about it because there's so muchinformation I want to share
about mediumship and I know thatmany of you who are listening
are very well versed inmediumship and I tend to skip
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over the basics and, just like Iwas talking about in the
previous episode, I need to,like, revisit the purpose, the
foundation of all of mymodalities right now, and I do
it.
I'm doing it in a lovely, fun,exploratory way that allows me
to really think and uncover alot more than people I think are
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supposed to know or like knowalready.
I don't know, because, like, atthe surface level, mediumship
is really basic, right, let'stalk to dead people, right, but
there's so many misconceptionsabout what mediumship is and
what mediumship isn't, and like,even in the metaphysical space.
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I have seen other professionalsuse the term mediumship very
loosely and when I say, like, Ihave seen other professionals
talking that mediumship isspiritual communication period,
and to me that's not true,because to me the big bucket is
spirit communication, and thenmediumship is a modality within
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there, just like Akashic Recordsis a modality within there, and
guides are modality withinthere, and so for me, if we
double click on mediumship, it'sso lovely.
That's why I'm here, everybody.
Mediumship is why I'm talkingto you, it is the gateway
spiritual drug, in my opinion,and it is the beginning of the
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tipping point for a lot ofpeople, I think, to waken up to
the reality that there's a wholespiritual world you can't see,
because if you come to me for amediumship reading and I
recommend you do if you havenever had one we uncover proof,
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evidence, validation that yourloved ones are still with you.
Now.
That's not to say that everymedium is great.
Okay, I'm not saying I'm, I'mthe best.
I will never say that, becauseI think there's always areas for
improvement.
But a lot of people who areless versed in what mediumship
is, is and what to look like,what it looks like, it can be
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very confusing.
And so if I talk about whatmediumship isn't and I can go
down this rabbit hole for aminute with all of you, I'm
going to go down the rabbit hole, the ding happened.
Mediumship can be confused withpsychic readings and as I think
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about this and this is where myguides are starting to step in
energetically and may be able tofeel them is that I think that
there's not a lot of educationoutside of the metaphysical
space about the differences ofall these modalities and
honestly, like chat, gpt is notgreat.
Ai can be very misleadingbecause it's only as good as the
data that you give it.
Right, and on the surface level, a lot of these readings look
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exactly the same if you arereceiving them, because it looks
like you sitting in front of meand I'm telling you information
.
It looks like a meeting, right,not a reading.
And so if you're not versed inthese modalities and you can't
really tell the difference onwhat to expect and what psychic
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feels like, what mediumshipfeels like, what kind of
information is coming from, whattype of reading, no wonder
there's so many misconceptionsof what mediumship is.
So I guess I'm going tosprinkle in some tips and tricks
that my guides are kind ofpointing out to me for anyone
that's doing this work, whetheryou're brand new or whether
you're advanced, but it's reallyimportant for all of us as a
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collective of readers to educateour sitters on what is this
reading style, and it's okay ifyou mix it.
That's fine If you want to domediumship with guides or
mediumship with psychic, it'stotally fine if you mix it up,
but still there's a duediligence that we have as
metaphysical practitioners, tobe high integrity and explain
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what the difference is.
And so when we're talking aboutpsychic, again, I am connecting
to your energy, I am readingthings out of your energy, your
aura, and so I'm not connectingto your spirit guides, I'm not
connecting to your departedloved ones.
I'm connecting to you and yourenergy and what is likely your
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path going forward, or and or.
What are some of theinformation that you're going to
?
I don't know what are some ofthe things you might run into if
you're going to make decision Aversus decision B, path one
versus path two, right, and sothis is not grounded in guides
or departed loved ones.
It comes from me reading yourenergy and it's crazy, right.
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I don't want to go down therabbit hole because I've already
done it on a couple episodes,like my psychic.
Why does my ex keep coming up inpsychic readings?
I think that was.
I don't remember the officialname of it, but that's why
there's so many really goodlooking mediums out there that
are psychics is because I canjust pick apart your energy and
tell you what your mother lookedlike and tell you all the
memories about your mother,right, but I'm not connected to
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her.
And I think there is a reallybig distinction there, because
when you're tapping inpsychically, you are limited to
the information that it's infront of you for your sitter.
That's it Like.
That's your limitation and youcan read the possibilities and
you're connecting to the higherself.
Sometimes Not always, I know,I'm not always, I'm going to
leave that there but you're nottapped into higher level
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information.
And so for me, psychic readingscan be really cool and I love
them and this is probably truewith all readings.
I kind of take a lot of themwith a grain of salt because I'm
still in my human, I still havefree will, I still need to make
the conscious decision of whatmy life is, what my path is,
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what decisions I need to make,and so psychic readings, again,
are really cool and I thinkthey're really good for giving
you perspectives.
But they're not mediumship,where I'm tapping into your mom
and actually getting informationfrom her.
I'm not pulling anything, I'mreceiving it from your mom and
your mom's going to tell meexactly what she wants me to
tell you.
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And there is the big differencewith mediumship, because I have
no say.
I am the translator, I am theconduit, full stop.
I don't necessarily get a sayin what comes through, how it's
said, what order it comesthrough.
I mean, there are aspects of itwhere I need to be open to
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receiving the information thatmom wants to send through and I
need to be strong enough to like, receive it, interpret it and
relay it to you, hopefullyminimizing the interpretations,
by the way, becauseinterpretations mean your brain
is going to be biased and maybechange it a little bit.
But I have no say in what comesthrough.
And that is what truemediumship is is that you're
opening up to the other side andreceiving evidence, messages of
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love, feedback, validation, etc.
From your departed loved ones.
So again, it's not psychic, I'mnot connecting to your energy,
it's not necessarily predictions, because a lot of the times,
mediumship, the whole purpose ofit, tends to be to prove that
life continues after physicaldeath, like that, like there's
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other purposes as well, butthat's really like the number
one purpose is yeah, this shitis real, okay.
The second purpose could behealing, helping people process
grief right, helping people whoneed closure.
I think those are all very,very valid reasons of mediumship
.
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Going to judge which one'sbetter or worse or anything, but
it's the continuation of theconversation.
I guess it's proof that theyexist in the continuation of the
conversation.
It does not mean I'm going togo tap into grandma and say,
should you marry your fiance ornot?
Right, like I can get heropinion on it.
I don't know where I'm going.
I feel like I felt the energyweirdly shift.
So I don't think I'm supposedto go down here.
But it's not necessarilypredictions unless they pony up
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that information.
I'm not asking for it.
It's not mind reading,obviously.
So I think that when we'rehaving, when you're going to a
mediumship reading, or if you'regoing to or if you are doing
the mediumship reading, I thinkit's a really good conversation
to say, like, what do you wantout of this?
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What do you want out of this?
Because a lot of people justaren't as versed into the other
modalities to know that, numberone, there's other modalities
out there and number two, toknow that there's different
purposes for these modalities.
Because for me, psychic islet's talk about what's going on
with you, let's talk aboutpotential futures.
I think those do havepredictions.
What's the best path for you?
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What you know, what are yourstrengths and like for me,
psychic really is oh, here we go, this is where they're coming
in.
It's like, almost like, let mehelp you tap into your
unconscious a little bit, let mecheck in with you and your
energy and see what's going onso I can help you.
Mediumship, obviously,connecting with departed loved
ones, and then like AkashicRecords, if you want to talk
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about the journey of your soul,either in this lifetime or many
lifetimes, past lifetimespossible, let's do that.
But there is a modality foreverything, okay, and it's our
jobs as the practitioners to usethem appropriately, with high
integrity, for our clients' bestinterest and to get what they
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want out of it.
So I don't know how to like,where am I going after this team
, this team, and it's okay, Ithink, to suggest a different
type of reading if your clientbooks it with you and you're
like I hear and this happenedthe other day, because this
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happens to me all the time andI've had to update the verbiage
on my website in terms of myreadings, because I think people
get really confused about whatto book and I feel like I want
to make a flowchart Maybe I willon what type of reading is best
for you Because I have peoplethat come to me that want
answers to questions and they'llbook an evidential mediumship
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reading.
So I'm walking in because theybooked a mediumship reading with
the expectation that they wantevidence, their loved ones
around them, they want to makethere's maybe some healing right
.
This is my human expectation,coming in about what I typically
see in mediumship readings, andthis actually happened with a
client of mine.
Now that I'm thinking aboutthis, because what we
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practitioners expect in areading might be very different
than what the client expects.
So that's why you have to havethat conversation up front and
case in point.
So the story of my client thiswas a while back but she had
booked several sessions withseveral mediums and all of them
jumped to you must be here forclosure, you must be.
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And I believe this was herdeparted spouse, significant
other.
I can't remember the exactcircumstances, but all of the
other mediums had said hey,she's okay, she's on the other
side, she's still with you, youknow she loves you.
Here's the healing messages,here's the love you know, here's
the closure.
And so they jumped to the factthat this person, her
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significant other, had passed.
There must be healing.
That needed to be done.
But this woman was veryintuitive, I like she was very
in tune with her significantother.
And she said and I think at theend of the reading, my reading
didn't go like that.
My reading was a whole bunch ofjokes, telling stories,
reminiscing.
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There was no like healing.
We were just there, chillingand talking and having a really
good time.
And she said that's exactlywhat I needed.
I needed a reading where itfelt like her.
And she said I didn't need thehealing, I didn't need closure.
I already had that.
I just wanted a medium whocould connect with her and make
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me feel like she was still there, who could connect with her and
make me feel like she was stillthere.
And so, like I'm not saying askthe medium at the beginning or
hang on timeout, because thereality is that my sitter didn't
need to tell me that at thebeginning of the reading.
I trusted that what spirit wasgoing to bring through was what
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they needed to bring through tofor my client to have the best
session possible and I just wentwith it.
I trusted that spirit knewbetter than I did what my client
needed and so I'm not evengoing to say, like you don't
need to ask, and if you're asitter like you probably
shouldn't lead the witnessanyway, because now you're.
But I'm just saying be open tothe fact that many people might
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be coming to mediums for manydifferent reasons and don't
limit the message based on yourpast, what you know, etc.
Wow, this is not where Ithought this was going to go at
all.
So I'm going to leave thatnugget there for the mediums as
well.
I guess that's nugget numbertwo.
Um, so I'm going to leave thatnugget there for the mediums as
well.
I guess that's nugget numbertwo.
Um, the only other thing I'mgoing to say about who should
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get mediumship readings becauseit's in my little notes that I
jotted down before this is thatanyone who feels a nudge to get
a mediumship reading and this istrue with any reading go follow
that nudge.
There's a reason we can'texplain physics or energy or any
of this stuff, but or intuition, but like, if you get that
nudge, go get that reading.
Okay.
And then, in terms of maybejust to take a step backwards in
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what to expect in a mediumshipreading, because I kind of
started there and then Idiverted down a different rabbit
hole but what to expect in amediumship reading in terms of
the flow of the session is youknow you should be sitting with
the medium.
The medium should be explainingin the very beginning of this
like session what's going on,what to expect.
This is how I connect.
This is how the informationcomes through.
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They should be giving you alittle bit of education at the
beginning.
Now they shouldn't be askingquestions right, and that's kind
of where I'm going to go nextbut they should be giving you
the 411 on what to expect forthe session that you paid for or
donated to, or maybe it's afree practice session.
That's two, but they should bestill setting expectations about
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what's going on, what's goingto happen.
Why?
Because it makes you feelcomfortable.
Because if you're comfortableand you're not nervous and that
really is the intention behindlet me give you this
introduction is to calm yournerves, because I understand it
can be very nerve wracking totalk to a medium.
We're just people, everybody.
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We're just people like you weare.
We're like spiders, like we'remore afraid of you than you are
of us, because we don't want toget it wrong.
We want to be able to representyour departed loved ones in the
best way possible.
And I'll tell you.
What if you walk away tellingme I was shit guaranteed?
I've already said it 10 timesin my head before you even
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thought at once because that'swhat we do.
We beat ourselves up because wewant to be the best mediums
possible, the best channels forspirit.
Like we don't get into thiswork because we want to be
assholes and we want to do ashitty job.
Like that's the scammers, right, we get into this work because
we want to connect, we want tohelp you.
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So know that probably no matterwhat reading you had very few,
I'm beating myself up, but Ihave a.
I personally, in addition, havea very hard time walking away
from a reading saying I did agood job, right, like that's the
reality of who we are asmediums.
We're perfectionists.
I'm working on it.
It's part of my trauma.
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I'm trying to unseat right, somoving along.
So part of the part of it isgetting you comfortable.
Part of you is making you notnervous about the session and
hopefully what I just said helpsyou realize how not nervous you
should be, because we are alsojust trying to do the do the
right thing too.
But but mediumship sessionsshould look and feel like
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unconditional love.
It should be loving messages.
It should be kind, it should beapologies where apologies are
needed.
It should be I love yous, I'mproud of yous.
Here's this memory right.
And it should also be acombination of evidence with
those loving messages.
It should be some sort of hereis a little bit of validation
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for what, for who this is that'scoming through on the other
side.
Now that evidence is whereyou're going to see a lot of
variation in terms of mediums,because there are literal
institutions and when I sayinstitutions, it's like the
spiritualist church and otherplaces that I've seen where they
really focus on practical blackand white evidence and my team
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likes to call this the obituarychecklist.
Okay, so if you are looking for,sometimes, names again, I
continue to beat myself up onthat but like age when they died
, how they died, and you'rereally looking for like check,
check, check, check, check.
I want to know their career, Iwant to know their family, I
want to know how many familymembers they had.
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I want to know their pets, Iwant to know where they lived, I
want to know the medals thatthey had in the war, like if you
are looking for.
So every medium should be ableto get some of that stuff.
But if you are truly justlooking for the black and white
I want the evidence that myloved one is around and I do not
want any personality, I don'twant to like feel like it's them
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then you need to find a mediumthat fits that criteria for you,
and most likely that issomebody who has trained under,
like the spiritualist churches,because that is their modality.
That is how they do this right.
But again, I taught this in mymediumship mastermind this week.
Have you heard of Spokio?
Anybody?
Has anyone heard of Spokio?
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Are you on a sales team?
And I'm sure there's othertools out there, since I've
worked with a sales team but alot of the stuff that is more
practical black and whiteevidence tend to be things that
I can Google about you right,and so pluses and minuses to the
types of evidence you're goingto get.
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So that's why I don't recommendnecessarily just going after
this black and white evidence,which I think a lot of skeptics
really want to hear, because Idon't think they know what data
exists out there on theinterwebs, how much information
is out there.
Like, if I put your name intoSpokio which, by the way, I can
you can just pay a little bit ofa monthly fee and have access
to everybody's everything.
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Spoiler alert it's freakingcrazy scary, but you can look.
Um it's.
It's like you know how you haveto go and and like apply for
credit cards or like go onexperience and like prove
yourself to check your creditscore.
It's shit like that.
That's on spokio, so I don'tknow how anyone doesn't like
have all of us probably probablyhave had credit card fraud at
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some point.
But it's like that like theytell you where you lived, your
age, who you're married to, your, your, your name, your kids
names, your kids ages, your kidsbirthdays, where were you born?
Like where did you work?
What were?
Like like they probably havewhat dorm room I was in in
college.
Like I'm not even kidding, sothat information is out there
for people to purchase and soit's cool in mediumship and
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that's why it's.
It's really neat when you getthat evidence.
But I really focus myself, myenergy, on the stuff you can't
Google, such as mannerisms,sayings, personality, you know,
like milestone things, like didyou lose a tooth because
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somebody hit you with a baseballbat when you were little?
Like stuff like that.
Like stuff you can't Google,stuff that's not going to show
up in the obituary, and that isthe essence evidence that comes
through.
So so just be aware, if you arelooking for more of that black
and white stuff, there aremediums that do that.
If you're looking for theessence stuff, there are mediums
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that do that too.
How do you know?
Let me know, I can point you ineither direction.
I know that are that rock inboth of those worlds and most of
the mediums I know do acombination of the two.
So you should be getting somesort of practical and essence
evidence in your readings andagain, you're going to get the
evidence, likely up front,followed by the message.
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Sometimes spirit likes to gobackwards, whatever, but
essentially as soon as you arein the session with the medium,
after they give you theinformation, they should be
connecting to your departedloved one, pulling in that
evidence and message, maybe atthe same time, at the end of the
reading, again to kind of closeout the conversation about what
to expect in a reading, theyshould be kind of thanking you,
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thanking the spirit, for comingthrough and asking if you're
okay and answering any questionsthat you might have.
That being said, I'm just goingto go down in this rabbit hole
for one second before I kind ofclose out with this last topic
before my kids get off the busfor the day.
But before questions, questions, questions, questions.
Some mediums will do it, somewon't, that's okay.
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If you don't get the chance,you can always ask.
Some mediums are like heck, no,I'm not answering questions,
that's totally fine.
Other mediums will try and theymight not get it.
Other mediums you can have aconversation because they're
clear audience and they can heareverything.
So again, ask if you, if youhave a question you can ask.
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Just don't be upset if theyturn you down.
And then, in terms of how to bea really good sitter, again, the
person receiving the reading.
So the best way to approach amediumship reading is with an
open heart and probably a box oftissues if you're me, the less
expectations you have about thesession the better, because
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expectations builds up anenergetic wall.
It makes it more difficult forthe medium to read the departed
loved ones without their braingetting in the way.
So I would say the more openyou can be about it, the better.
It really helps the medium'sconnection quite a bit.
The best thing again you needto do as a sitter is don't feed
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the medium, and that essentiallymeans your best responses are
yes, no, I don't know, and maybeand I need to say this more in
my introductions but you can, Idon't it's your session.
In terms of me, like I know,there's purists about the yes,
no, I don't know, maybe For meit's your session.
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If you want to talk andreminisce, like this is your
time to talk and reminisce.
Know that it takes time awayfrom being reading the departed
loved ones, but that's yoursession.
That's up to you.
Never, ever, ever, give me morethan I gave you.
If I tell you your grandfatherwas in the Navy, and they say,
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yes, you can go into a littlebit about the Navy if you feel
like explain, you don't have toexplain anything.
I don't need to know thedetails.
But don't go off and tell melike, oh yeah, he was in there
for six years.
He ended up like gettingdischarged with a purple hot.
Like don't go off and tell melike, oh yeah, he was in there
for six years.
Um, he ended up like gettingdischarged with a purple hot.
Like don't go into stuff Ihaven't said yet.
Don't talk about his navybuddies.
Don't talk about how he met hiswife in the navy.
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Like, don't go down that rabbithole, because what you're doing
is feeding the medium and you'recreating.
You're telling me things aboutthe departed loved one that I
haven't uncovered myself yet andmy brain will automatically
jump to that next.
And or, like, start going inthat direction.
Right, so like, just trust thatwhat's going to come through is
going to come through.
And if you want to explain itat the end, but I just say don't
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, don't give me more than I'vegiven you you can say, yes, give
me a little bit of validationif you feel like you want to
talk about it and givevalidation.
But normally that's just youtrying to be polite and we don't
need that as mediums where wecan just keep going.
Yeah, you can understand that.
Cool, let's keep going.
And the last thing I guess Iwould say, as somebody who is
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receiving a reading just knowthat mediumship is definitely an
art and not a science.
We will get it wrong.
The best mediums are 85, 90,95% accurate, like they're up
there, they're good.
But very, very few mediums are100% accurate and certainly
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everything you see on TV isscrubbed 100%.
They take out all the nose, allthe things that don't make
sense, which is why it's sorefreshing to watch Tyler
Henry's lives.
Say what you will about him,but I love that they can't scrub
the nose, which is fantastic,because now you're getting a
real picture of mediumship.
It's messy, okay, it's notright all the time, and that's
okay.
So don't feel bad for saying no.
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Don't feel bad.
It is kind of like thisenergetic experiment.
It is going to be differentevery single time, but don't
feel bad for saying no.
And also, don't get hung up onthe stuff the medium didn't get
right.
Don't get hung up on it,because that just means we
probably misinterpreted it.
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So I would honestly and it's Idon't know if I like saying this
, but this is what I generallyrecommend is like don't throw,
just throw out the stuff thatwas wrong.
Throw it out, because thatusually is just me
misinterpreting the information.
There might have been somethingthat I was there, that I was
trying to say that I didn'tactually get to.
Like, that's okay if you wantto kind of go into that rabbit
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hole, but don't bother, don't,don't waste your time, because
I've had clients come to me andbeing like oh well, they they
said the name Barbara in themeeting, so I couldn't figure
out who that was.
So I think it's like my, mybest friend's aunt's best friend
, you know like oh, I feel likeBarbara was coming through and
they get really stuck on theevidence that can't get.
Don't do that, don't just justit, let's.
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Let's call a spade a spade andsay the medium fucked it up.
All right, don't get stuckthere, it's not worth your
energy.
Whatever hit was supposed tohit, whatever didn't was
supposed to not land.
So there is like yourmediumship 101 today everybody a
little little bit about thepsychic, a little bit about you
know who should get readings, alittle bit about what to expect,
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how to be a good sitter lots ofrabbit holes in this one.
Let me know if you liked this,because I'd love to do more of
this mediumship 101.
And I'm sorry, some somebody is, I feel like somebody.
What is happening in my mouthright now is that and this is
like the fun part of spirit is Ifeel like my mouth is numb.
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I feel like I just went to thedentist.
So I don't know which one ofyou just went to the dentist and
you have like your tongue numbor like the back of your throat
numb.
You're welcome.
This was for you Ding, theweird things that come through
at the end of the reading,because it feels like I'm at the
dentist right now.
All right, I'm going to leaveit there.
I hope you all have a wonderfulday and, from my soul to yours,
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take care.
Hello everybody, welcome back to Empower your
Soul.
I thought I would do an episodeon Mediumship 101 and talk
about it because there's so muchinformation I want to share
about mediumship and I know thatmany of you who are listening
are very well versed inmediumship and I tend to skip
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over the basics and, just like Iwas talking about in the
previous episode, I need to,like, revisit the purpose, the
foundation of all of mymodalities right now, and I do
it.
I'm doing it in a lovely, fun,exploratory way that allows me
to really think and uncover alot more than people I think are
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supposed to know or like knowalready.
I don't know, because, like, atthe surface level, mediumship
is really basic, right, let'stalk to dead people, right, but
there's so many misconceptionsabout what mediumship is and
what mediumship isn't, and like,even in the metaphysical space.
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I have seen other professionalsuse the term mediumship very
loosely and when I say, like, Ihave seen other professionals
talking that mediumship isspiritual communication period,
and to me that's not true,because to me the big bucket is
spirit communication, and thenmediumship is a modality within
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there, just like Akashic Recordsis a modality within there, and
guides are modality withinthere, and so for me, if we
double click on mediumship, it'sso lovely.
That's why I'm here, everybody.
Mediumship is why I'm talkingto you, it is the gateway
spiritual drug, in my opinion,and it is the beginning of the
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tipping point for a lot ofpeople, I think, to waken up to
the reality that there's a wholespiritual world you can't see,
because if you come to me for amediumship reading and I
recommend you do if you havenever had one we uncover proof,
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evidence, validation that yourloved ones are still with you.
Now.
That's not to say that everymedium is great.
Okay, I'm not saying I'm, I'mthe best.
I will never say that, becauseI think there's always areas for
improvement.
But a lot of people who areless versed in what mediumship
is, is and what to look like,what it looks like, it can be
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very confusing.
And so if I talk about whatmediumship isn't and I can go
down this rabbit hole for aminute with all of you, I'm
going to go down the rabbit hole, the ding happened.
Mediumship can be confused withpsychic readings and as I think
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about this and this is where myguides are starting to step in
energetically and may be able tofeel them is that I think that
there's not a lot of educationoutside of the metaphysical
space about the differences ofall these modalities and
honestly, like chat, gpt is notgreat.
Ai can be very misleadingbecause it's only as good as the
data that you give it.
Right, and on the surface level, a lot of these readings look
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exactly the same if you arereceiving them, because it looks
like you sitting in front of meand I'm telling you information
.
It looks like a meeting, right,not a reading.
And so if you're not versed inthese modalities and you can't
really tell the difference onwhat to expect and what psychic
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feels like, what mediumshipfeels like, what kind of
information is coming from, whattype of reading, no wonder
there's so many misconceptionsof what mediumship is.
So I guess I'm going tosprinkle in some tips and tricks
that my guides are kind ofpointing out to me for anyone
that's doing this work, whetheryou're brand new or whether
you're advanced, but it's reallyimportant for all of us as a
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collective of readers to educateour sitters on what is this
reading style, and it's okay ifyou mix it.
That's fine If you want to domediumship with guides or
mediumship with psychic, it'stotally fine if you mix it up,
but still there's a duediligence that we have as
metaphysical practitioners, tobe high integrity and explain
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what the difference is.
And so when we're talking aboutpsychic, again, I am connecting
to your energy, I am readingthings out of your energy, your
aura, and so I'm not connectingto your spirit guides, I'm not
connecting to your departedloved ones.
I'm connecting to you and yourenergy and what is likely your
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path going forward, or and or.
What are some of theinformation that you're going to
?
I don't know what are some ofthe things you might run into if
you're going to make decision Aversus decision B, path one
versus path two, right, and sothis is not grounded in guides
or departed loved ones.
It comes from me reading yourenergy and it's crazy, right.
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I don't want to go down therabbit hole because I've already
done it on a couple episodes,like my psychic.
Why does my ex keep coming up inpsychic readings?
I think that was.
I don't remember the officialname of it, but that's why
there's so many really goodlooking mediums out there that
are psychics is because I canjust pick apart your energy and
tell you what your mother lookedlike and tell you all the
memories about your mother,right, but I'm not connected to
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her.
And I think there is a reallybig distinction there, because
when you're tapping inpsychically, you are limited to
the information that it's infront of you for your sitter.
That's it Like.
That's your limitation and youcan read the possibilities and
you're connecting to the higherself.
Sometimes Not always, I know,I'm not always, I'm going to
leave that there but you're nottapped into higher level
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information.
And so for me, psychic readingscan be really cool and I love
them and this is probably truewith all readings.
I kind of take a lot of themwith a grain of salt because I'm
still in my human, I still havefree will, I still need to make
the conscious decision of whatmy life is, what my path is,
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what decisions I need to make,and so psychic readings, again,
are really cool and I thinkthey're really good for giving
you perspectives.
But they're not mediumship,where I'm tapping into your mom
and actually getting informationfrom her.
I'm not pulling anything, I'mreceiving it from your mom and
your mom's going to tell meexactly what she wants me to
tell you.
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And there is the big differencewith mediumship, because I have
no say.
I am the translator, I am theconduit, full stop.
I don't necessarily get a sayin what comes through, how it's
said, what order it comesthrough.
I mean, there are aspects of itwhere I need to be open to
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receiving the information thatmom wants to send through and I
need to be strong enough to like, receive it, interpret it and
relay it to you, hopefullyminimizing the interpretations,
by the way, becauseinterpretations mean your brain
is going to be biased and maybechange it a little bit.
But I have no say in what comesthrough.
And that is what truemediumship is is that you're
opening up to the other side andreceiving evidence, messages of
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love, feedback, validation, etc.
From your departed loved ones.
So again, it's not psychic, I'mnot connecting to your energy,
it's not necessarily predictions, because a lot of the times,
mediumship, the whole purpose ofit, tends to be to prove that
life continues after physicaldeath, like that, like there's
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other purposes as well, butthat's really like the number
one purpose is yeah, this shitis real, okay.
The second purpose could behealing, helping people process
grief right, helping people whoneed closure.
I think those are all very,very valid reasons of mediumship
.
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Going to judge which one'sbetter or worse or anything, but
it's the continuation of theconversation.
I guess it's proof that theyexist in the continuation of the
conversation.
It does not mean I'm going togo tap into grandma and say,
should you marry your fiance ornot?
Right, like I can get heropinion on it.
I don't know where I'm going.
I feel like I felt the energyweirdly shift.
So I don't think I'm supposedto go down here.
But it's not necessarilypredictions unless they pony up
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that information.
I'm not asking for it.
It's not mind reading,obviously.
So I think that when we'rehaving, when you're going to a
mediumship reading, or if you'regoing to or if you are doing
the mediumship reading, I thinkit's a really good conversation
to say, like, what do you wantout of this?
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What do you want out of this?
Because a lot of people justaren't as versed into the other
modalities to know that, numberone, there's other modalities
out there and number two, toknow that there's different
purposes for these modalities.
Because for me, psychic islet's talk about what's going on
with you, let's talk aboutpotential futures.
I think those do havepredictions.
What's the best path for you?
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What you know, what are yourstrengths and like for me,
psychic really is oh, here we go, this is where they're coming
in.
It's like, almost like, let mehelp you tap into your
unconscious a little bit, let mecheck in with you and your
energy and see what's going onso I can help you.
Mediumship, obviously,connecting with departed loved
ones, and then like AkashicRecords, if you want to talk
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about the journey of your soul,either in this lifetime or many
lifetimes, past lifetimespossible, let's do that.
But there is a modality foreverything, okay, and it's our
jobs as the practitioners to usethem appropriately, with high
integrity, for our clients' bestinterest and to get what they
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want out of it.
So I don't know how to like,where am I going after this team
, this team, and it's okay, Ithink, to suggest a different
type of reading if your clientbooks it with you and you're
like I hear and this happenedthe other day, because this
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happens to me all the time andI've had to update the verbiage
on my website in terms of myreadings, because I think people
get really confused about whatto book and I feel like I want
to make a flowchart Maybe I willon what type of reading is best
for you Because I have peoplethat come to me that want
answers to questions and they'llbook an evidential mediumship
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reading.
So I'm walking in because theybooked a mediumship reading with
the expectation that they wantevidence, their loved ones
around them, they want to makethere's maybe some healing right
.
This is my human expectation,coming in about what I typically
see in mediumship readings, andthis actually happened with a
client of mine.
Now that I'm thinking aboutthis, because what we
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practitioners expect in areading might be very different
than what the client expects.
So that's why you have to havethat conversation up front and
case in point.
So the story of my client thiswas a while back but she had
booked several sessions withseveral mediums and all of them
jumped to you must be here forclosure, you must be.
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And I believe this was herdeparted spouse, significant
other.
I can't remember the exactcircumstances, but all of the
other mediums had said hey,she's okay, she's on the other
side, she's still with you, youknow she loves you.
Here's the healing messages,here's the love you know, here's
the closure.
And so they jumped to the factthat this person, her
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significant other, had passed.
There must be healing.
That needed to be done.
But this woman was veryintuitive, I like she was very
in tune with her significantother.
And she said and I think at theend of the reading, my reading
didn't go like that.
My reading was a whole bunch ofjokes, telling stories,
reminiscing.
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There was no like healing.
We were just there, chillingand talking and having a really
good time.
And she said that's exactlywhat I needed.
I needed a reading where itfelt like her.
And she said I didn't need thehealing, I didn't need closure.
I already had that.
I just wanted a medium whocould connect with her and make
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me feel like she was still there, who could connect with her and
make me feel like she was stillthere.
And so, like I'm not saying askthe medium at the beginning or
hang on timeout, because thereality is that my sitter didn't
need to tell me that at thebeginning of the reading.
I trusted that what spirit wasgoing to bring through was what
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they needed to bring through tofor my client to have the best
session possible and I just wentwith it.
I trusted that spirit knewbetter than I did what my client
needed and so I'm not evengoing to say, like you don't
need to ask, and if you're asitter like you probably
shouldn't lead the witnessanyway, because now you're.
But I'm just saying be open tothe fact that many people might
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be coming to mediums for manydifferent reasons and don't
limit the message based on yourpast, what you know, etc.
Wow, this is not where Ithought this was going to go at
all.
So I'm going to leave thatnugget there for the mediums as
well.
I guess that's nugget numbertwo.
Um, so I'm going to leave thatnugget there for the mediums as
well.
I guess that's nugget numbertwo.
Um, the only other thing I'mgoing to say about who should
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get mediumship readings becauseit's in my little notes that I
jotted down before this is thatanyone who feels a nudge to get
a mediumship reading and this istrue with any reading go follow
that nudge.
There's a reason we can'texplain physics or energy or any
of this stuff, but or intuition, but like, if you get that
nudge, go get that reading.
Okay.
And then, in terms of maybejust to take a step backwards in
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what to expect in a mediumshipreading, because I kind of
started there and then Idiverted down a different rabbit
hole but what to expect in amediumship reading in terms of
the flow of the session is youknow you should be sitting with
the medium.
The medium should be explainingin the very beginning of this
like session what's going on,what to expect.
This is how I connect.
This is how the informationcomes through.
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They should be giving you alittle bit of education at the
beginning.
Now they shouldn't be askingquestions right, and that's kind
of where I'm going to go nextbut they should be giving you
the 411 on what to expect forthe session that you paid for or
donated to, or maybe it's afree practice session.
That's two, but they should bestill setting expectations about
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what's going on, what's goingto happen.
Why?
Because it makes you feelcomfortable.
Because if you're comfortableand you're not nervous and that
really is the intention behindlet me give you this
introduction is to calm yournerves, because I understand it
can be very nerve wracking totalk to a medium.
We're just people, everybody.
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We're just people like you weare.
We're like spiders, like we'remore afraid of you than you are
of us, because we don't want toget it wrong.
We want to be able to representyour departed loved ones in the
best way possible.
And I'll tell you.
What if you walk away tellingme I was shit guaranteed?
I've already said it 10 timesin my head before you even
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thought at once because that'swhat we do.
We beat ourselves up because wewant to be the best mediums
possible, the best channels forspirit.
Like we don't get into thiswork because we want to be
assholes and we want to do ashitty job.
Like that's the scammers, right, we get into this work because
we want to connect, we want tohelp you.
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So know that probably no matterwhat reading you had very few,
I'm beating myself up, but Ihave a.
I personally, in addition, havea very hard time walking away
from a reading saying I did agood job, right, like that's the
reality of who we are asmediums.
We're perfectionists.
I'm working on it.
It's part of my trauma.
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I'm trying to unseat right, somoving along.
So part of the part of it isgetting you comfortable.
Part of you is making you notnervous about the session and
hopefully what I just said helpsyou realize how not nervous you
should be, because we are alsojust trying to do the do the
right thing too.
But but mediumship sessionsshould look and feel like
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unconditional love.
It should be loving messages.
It should be kind, it should beapologies where apologies are
needed.
It should be I love yous, I'mproud of yous.
Here's this memory right.
And it should also be acombination of evidence with
those loving messages.
It should be some sort of hereis a little bit of validation
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for what, for who this is that'scoming through on the other
side.
Now that evidence is whereyou're going to see a lot of
variation in terms of mediums,because there are literal
institutions and when I sayinstitutions, it's like the
spiritualist church and otherplaces that I've seen where they
really focus on practical blackand white evidence and my team
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likes to call this the obituarychecklist.
Okay, so if you are looking for,sometimes, names again, I
continue to beat myself up onthat but like age when they died
, how they died, and you'rereally looking for like check,
check, check, check, check.
I want to know their career, Iwant to know their family, I
want to know how many familymembers they had.
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I want to know their pets, Iwant to know where they lived, I
want to know the medals thatthey had in the war, like if you
are looking for.
So every medium should be ableto get some of that stuff.
But if you are truly justlooking for the black and white
I want the evidence that myloved one is around and I do not
want any personality, I don'twant to like feel like it's them
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then you need to find a mediumthat fits that criteria for you,
and most likely that issomebody who has trained under,
like the spiritualist churches,because that is their modality.
That is how they do this right.
But again, I taught this in mymediumship mastermind this week.
Have you heard of Spokio?
Anybody?
Has anyone heard of Spokio?
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Are you on a sales team?
And I'm sure there's othertools out there, since I've
worked with a sales team but alot of the stuff that is more
practical black and whiteevidence tend to be things that
I can Google about you right,and so pluses and minuses to the
types of evidence you're goingto get.
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So that's why I don't recommendnecessarily just going after
this black and white evidence,which I think a lot of skeptics
really want to hear, because Idon't think they know what data
exists out there on theinterwebs, how much information
is out there.
Like, if I put your name intoSpokio which, by the way, I can
you can just pay a little bit ofa monthly fee and have access
to everybody's everything.
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Spoiler alert it's freakingcrazy scary, but you can look.
Um it's.
It's like you know how you haveto go and and like apply for
credit cards or like go onexperience and like prove
yourself to check your creditscore.
It's shit like that.
That's on spokio, so I don'tknow how anyone doesn't like
have all of us probably probablyhave had credit card fraud at
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some point.
But it's like that like theytell you where you lived, your
age, who you're married to, your, your, your name, your kids
names, your kids ages, your kidsbirthdays, where were you born?
Like where did you work?
What were?
Like like they probably havewhat dorm room I was in in
college.
Like I'm not even kidding, sothat information is out there
for people to purchase and soit's cool in mediumship and
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that's why it's.
It's really neat when you getthat evidence.
But I really focus myself, myenergy, on the stuff you can't
Google, such as mannerisms,sayings, personality, you know,
like milestone things, like didyou lose a tooth because
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somebody hit you with a baseballbat when you were little?
Like stuff like that.
Like stuff you can't Google,stuff that's not going to show
up in the obituary, and that isthe essence evidence that comes
through.
So so just be aware, if you arelooking for more of that black
and white stuff, there aremediums that do that.
If you're looking for theessence stuff, there are mediums
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that do that too.
How do you know?
Let me know, I can point you ineither direction.
I know that are that rock inboth of those worlds and most of
the mediums I know do acombination of the two.
So you should be getting somesort of practical and essence
evidence in your readings andagain, you're going to get the
evidence, likely up front,followed by the message.
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Sometimes spirit likes to gobackwards, whatever, but
essentially as soon as you arein the session with the medium,
after they give you theinformation, they should be
connecting to your departedloved one, pulling in that
evidence and message, maybe atthe same time, at the end of the
reading, again to kind of closeout the conversation about what
to expect in a reading, theyshould be kind of thanking you,
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thanking the spirit, for comingthrough and asking if you're
okay and answering any questionsthat you might have.
That being said, I'm just goingto go down in this rabbit hole
for one second before I kind ofclose out with this last topic
before my kids get off the busfor the day.
But before questions, questions, questions, questions.
Some mediums will do it, somewon't, that's okay.
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If you don't get the chance,you can always ask.
Some mediums are like heck, no,I'm not answering questions,
that's totally fine.
Other mediums will try and theymight not get it.
Other mediums you can have aconversation because they're
clear audience and they can heareverything.
So again, ask if you, if youhave a question you can ask.
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Just don't be upset if theyturn you down.
And then, in terms of how to bea really good sitter, again, the
person receiving the reading.
So the best way to approach amediumship reading is with an
open heart and probably a box oftissues if you're me, the less
expectations you have about thesession the better, because
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expectations builds up anenergetic wall.
It makes it more difficult forthe medium to read the departed
loved ones without their braingetting in the way.
So I would say the more openyou can be about it, the better.
It really helps the medium'sconnection quite a bit.
The best thing again you needto do as a sitter is don't feed
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the medium, and that essentiallymeans your best responses are
yes, no, I don't know, and maybeand I need to say this more in
my introductions but you can, Idon't it's your session.
In terms of me, like I know,there's purists about the yes,
no, I don't know, maybe For meit's your session.
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If you want to talk andreminisce, like this is your
time to talk and reminisce.
Know that it takes time awayfrom being reading the departed
loved ones, but that's yoursession.
That's up to you.
Never, ever, ever, give me morethan I gave you.
If I tell you your grandfatherwas in the Navy, and they say,
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yes, you can go into a littlebit about the Navy if you feel
like explain, you don't have toexplain anything.
I don't need to know thedetails.
But don't go off and tell melike, oh yeah, he was in there
for six years.
He ended up like gettingdischarged with a purple hot.
Like don't go off and tell melike, oh yeah, he was in there
for six years.
Um, he ended up like gettingdischarged with a purple hot.
Like don't go into stuff Ihaven't said yet.
Don't talk about his navybuddies.
Don't talk about how he met hiswife in the navy.
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Like, don't go down that rabbithole, because what you're doing
is feeding the medium and you'recreating.
You're telling me things aboutthe departed loved one that I
haven't uncovered myself yet andmy brain will automatically
jump to that next.
And or, like, start going inthat direction.
Right, so like, just trust thatwhat's going to come through is
going to come through.
And if you want to explain itat the end, but I just say don't
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, don't give me more than I'vegiven you you can say, yes, give
me a little bit of validationif you feel like you want to
talk about it and givevalidation.
But normally that's just youtrying to be polite and we don't
need that as mediums where wecan just keep going.
Yeah, you can understand that.
Cool, let's keep going.
And the last thing I guess Iwould say, as somebody who is
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receiving a reading just knowthat mediumship is definitely an
art and not a science.
We will get it wrong.
The best mediums are 85, 90,95% accurate, like they're up
there, they're good.
But very, very few mediums are100% accurate and certainly
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everything you see on TV isscrubbed 100%.
They take out all the nose, allthe things that don't make
sense, which is why it's sorefreshing to watch Tyler
Henry's lives.
Say what you will about him,but I love that they can't scrub
the nose, which is fantastic,because now you're getting a
real picture of mediumship.
It's messy, okay, it's notright all the time, and that's
okay.
So don't feel bad for saying no.
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Don't feel bad.
It is kind of like thisenergetic experiment.
It is going to be differentevery single time, but don't
feel bad for saying no.
And also, don't get hung up onthe stuff the medium didn't get
right.
Don't get hung up on it,because that just means we
probably misinterpreted it.
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So I would honestly and it's Idon't know if I like saying this
, but this is what I generallyrecommend is like don't throw,
just throw out the stuff thatwas wrong.
Throw it out, because thatusually is just me
misinterpreting the information.
There might have been somethingthat I was there, that I was
trying to say that I didn'tactually get to.
Like, that's okay if you wantto kind of go into that rabbit
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hole, but don't bother, don't,don't waste your time, because
I've had clients come to me andbeing like oh well, they they
said the name Barbara in themeeting, so I couldn't figure
out who that was.
So I think it's like my, mybest friend's aunt's best friend
, you know like oh, I feel likeBarbara was coming through and
they get really stuck on theevidence that can't get.
Don't do that, don't just justit, let's.
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Let's call a spade a spade andsay the medium fucked it up.
All right, don't get stuckthere, it's not worth your
energy.
Whatever hit was supposed tohit, whatever didn't was
supposed to not land.
So there is like yourmediumship 101 today everybody a
little little bit about thepsychic, a little bit about you
know who should get readings, alittle bit about what to expect,
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how to be a good sitter lots ofrabbit holes in this one.
Let me know if you liked this,because I'd love to do more of
this mediumship 101.
And I'm sorry, some somebody is, I feel like somebody.
What is happening in my mouthright now is that and this is
like the fun part of spirit is Ifeel like my mouth is numb.
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I feel like I just went to thedentist.
So I don't know which one ofyou just went to the dentist and
you have like your tongue numbor like the back of your throat
numb.
You're welcome.
This was for you Ding, theweird things that come through
at the end of the reading,because it feels like I'm at the
dentist right now.
All right, I'm going to leaveit there.
I hope you all have a wonderfulday and, from my soul to yours,
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take care.
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I’m Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I’m so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you’re able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life’s ups and downs with more ease and grace. I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we’ve never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don’t take it for granted — click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can’t wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
Ridiculous History
History is beautiful, brutal and, often, ridiculous. Join Ben Bowlin and Noel Brown as they dive into some of the weirdest stories from across the span of human civilization in Ridiculous History, a podcast by iHeartRadio.