The question that reveals everything about why you're stuck (and how to get unstuck)
Before we dive in, I want you to do something. Right now, finish this sentence: "If I had more help, I'd..." Don't filter it. Don't edit it. Just let your brain complete that thought.
What came up for you? Was it "see more patients" or "finally start that exercise routine"? The answer reveals more about your relationship with help than you might realize.
What You'll Learn:
- Why women physicians are systematically under-resourced (and why acknowledging this matters)
- The stories we tell ourselves about help that keep us stuck
- How to distinguish between task help and cognitive load relief
- The difference between "done" and "done perfectly" (and why it matters)
- Practical strategies to reduce mental load without micromanaging
Key Insights:
- If your story is "more help means more work," you'll never accept help
- Most of us are already doing more work than we're given credit for
- Clear expectations aren't micromanaging - they're essential for actual support
- Cognitive load often weighs more than actual tasks
The Reality Check: You walk around with an instruction manual in your head for everything. Other people don't have access to that manual. The gap between what you expect and what others deliver isn't about their incompetence - it's about unclear communication.
Your Action Step: Identify one area where you need help, then get specific about what "done" actually looks like. Not perfect - just done.
Let's Connect
Need more support? Schedule a coaching consultation at https://calendly.com/healthierforgood/coaching-discovery-call
Connect with us:
- Website: healthierforgood.com
- Email: megan@healthierforgood.com
- Instagram: @meganmelomd
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To learn more about my coaching practice and group offerings, head over to www.healthierforgood.com. I help Physicians and Allied Health Professional women to let go of toxic perfectionist and people-pleasing habits that leave them frustrated and exhausted. If you are ready to learn skills that help you set boundaries and prioritize yourself, without becoming a cynical a-hole, come work with me.
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