December 3, 2024 • 15 mins
In this episode, Justin dives into the importance of balance in all areas of life.
Drawing inspiration from Goldilocks, David Lynch’s Twin Peaks, and electrical engineering, Justin explores how embracing the contrasts in life—light and dark, joy and sorrow—leads to fulfillment and growth.
Learn why balance isn’t about perfection, but about finding your “just right” through cycles of self-discovery and transformation.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- The wisdom of Goldilocks and how it applies to living a balanced life.
- Insights into how emotions like grief, joy, and longing are interconnected.
- The science of electricity and how it reflects human energy cycles.
- The dangers of avoiding discomfort and the power of leaning into the unfamiliar.
- Practical tips for integrating balance into your daily life for greater fulfillment.
Key Takeaways:
- True growth requires alternating between comfort and challenge, light and dark.
- Emotions you avoid might hold the key to your deepest desires.
- Balance is dynamic—it’s about ongoing adjustment, not achieving perfection.
- Small steps toward balance can lead to transformative results in health, relationships, and careers.
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(00:00):
Either one is necessarily betteror worse. It's when you get okay
(00:03):
with that. They're allimportant. They're all part of
the cycle of your life, justlike it's the cycle of AC
current flowing over a powerline, just like it's the balance
in the movie, in the story,between like, the boring, the
name, the whatever, with the thetension, the height and the
suspense that all of that leadsto the beautiful mystery that we
get to experience and gothrough. Are you ready to live a
(00:29):
life with enough time, money andenergy have relationships and
connections that delight you?
Are you ready for theextraordinary life you know
you've been missing? If so, thenthis is the place for you. I'm a
best selling author, coach,consultant and speaker who's
worked in technology for overtwo decades. I'm a leader at
transforming people andorganizations from operating in
(00:51):
fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
Justin Wenck PhD, today, I'mgoing to be talking about
Goldilocks. Why Goldilocks?
(01:12):
Because she knew the importanceof something being not too hot,
not too cold, not too hard, nottoo soft, but being just right,
and how this is very importantto living a long and joyful and
productive and happy life. I'vebeen noticing a lot. I've seen
(01:33):
in my life. I've seen in otherpeople's lives. There's a lot
going on. It's a it's stormingtoday. There's a fire engine
just cruising around. I livenear the ocean, so it's kind of
interesting. A giant fire enginego by the little, teeny road
that goes by the ocean. But eveneven this giant storm which came
through, it's still still goingon, it knocked out my power for
(01:54):
about a couple hours. I wasprepared. I had a backup battery
generator. So because I've hadpower outages that have lasted,
you know, day day and a halfhere, which I know in some parts
of the US, some parts of theworld, they'd be like, I wish I
only had, you know, a day and ahalf power outage. But you know,
one of the reasons I love livingwhere I live is because there's
(02:16):
balance where I used to live,which was in the Sacramento area
of California, in the summer, itpretty much just be fucking hot,
and in the winter, it would justbe fucking cold. Where I live
now, it's often neither too hotor too cold. Some days it's
sunny, some days it's cloudy,and some days there's some
(02:37):
clouds, and then some daysthere's some sun. There's
balance. I love it. There'sbalance, as opposed to too much
of one thing, not enough of theother. And I found this in my
life, and I've seen this withlots of people, where often
they're focusing and rightly so.
I'm not saying don't focus onit, don't want it, but that
happiness, oh, I want happiness.
(02:57):
Or I want money. I wantabundance, or I want prestige.
And the thing is that it's notabout not having those things.
It's about having them andhaving what is also not them.
Because if we focus too much onwhat we don't have, we end up
being out of balance andactually just having more of
what we don't have some of I'vetalked about this before. Many
(03:20):
of you have experienced thiswhere the things that you you
want now you've wanted for along time, and part of that is
because you haven't been theperson that has come into the
right balance to actually havewhat you want while also having
not having it, or being okaywith not having it, so that you
can actually go and to have it.
Because when we're so attachedto something, it becomes, it
(03:41):
becomes almost debilitating, orit becomes its own thing, in it
of itself. And I've been reallygetting into some David Lynch
stuff. If you're not familiarwith David Lynch, been around
since, I think the early, early,mid 80s. A couple things he's
really famous for is, he'sreally famous for Twin Peaks,
which was a show that aired inon ABC like prime time. Late
(04:02):
prime time is about to Smith themystery of who killed Laura
Palmer. And then he's also knownfor another show called another
movie, which was supposed to bea show kind of like Twin Peaks,
but didn't, so just became amovie Mulholland Drive. And the
thing that David Lynch is alwaystrying to get through in his
works. At least my understandingis this concept of balance, like
(04:24):
this murder mystery of TwinPeaks and Laura Palmer. It was,
it was a mix of everything.
Nothing had ever been like it onTV before, and it almost be one
of those things, like, if yousaw it now, it's still good, but
you might also go like, well,this isn't anything new. I mean,
this is a murder mystery, butlike, zaniness and apple pie,
(04:45):
actually, it's cherry pie andcoffee. What's, what's the big
deal? But at the time, it wasthere to bring balance to
television, because it used tojust be that there would just be
this profanity of basicallyconsumable violence on. On TV.
And what Twin Peaks did was it'slike, you're gonna have some of
that, but we're also gonna havesome of the mundanity of day to
(05:07):
day life in this small, littlemountain town of a diner where
there's just simple cherry pieand coffee and people getting
together and showing love. Butthen that's also gonna be
balanced with the CD underbellythat's going on, the drugs and
this show even had prostitutionand murder and all sorts of
stuff. And the point of it wasthat it really is the balance,
(05:30):
the back and forth between, sortof the dark and the light. And
we as humans, we are also meantto, sort of like, go back and
forth between the, you know, thethe feelings of joy,
satisfaction, ease, love, andthen you know, also, there's the
there's an importance toacknowledge and experience, the
fear, the sadness, the grief,the loss, the longing, right,
(05:54):
the anger, the rage. Like theseare, you know, these are two
sides of the same coin. If youdon't have the other side.
You're actually not even gettingthe coin. And as humans, we're
electrical beings. And mybackground is electrical
engineering, and it, you know,it's really things are not
static in most in mostelectrical systems, even though
(06:16):
it's sort of interesting, a lotof the devices we use, they use
DC Direct Current supplies,where it's just, it's a steady
voltage, and then however much,you know, the voltage doesn't
vary. Yet, our bodies, you know,what's an easy EKG or an
electrocepha that's showing thevariations in the various
(06:36):
voltages going on through ourhuman system. And when we're
talking about sharing bigamounts of power across large
distances, how is it done withAC alternating current, current
that isn't just one voltage, itchanges with time. That changing
with time allows large, largeamounts of power to go long
(06:58):
distances. And so when we ashumans tap into because there's
these, there's many principlesof the universe, but one of my
favorites is as above, so below,as within, so without, which
means that we see, we see rhymesor reflections in things at
various levels, where we seethat how something is outside is
also happening inside. So if wesee that, oh, large amounts of
(07:21):
power conveyed through ACvoltage and current. And how am
I living my life? Am I allowingthere to be alternation between
light and dark, positive andnegative and with Twin Peaks?
Where this comes in is, if youtake a take alternating current
that goes through a cycle oflight and a cycle of dark, what
you end up getting if yourectify that, meaning that you
(07:44):
only allow the positive right?
And I'll see if we can get somegraphics here to show this. I
pulled some that you basicallyget. You will get two peaks,
Twin Peaks. That Twin Peaks isthere to show the two phases of
alternating current, which is acomplete cycle of alternating
current. And we are here to livein complete cycles where we
(08:06):
experience not just the sunny,gorgeous days, but the cloudy,
rainy, the powers out, thingslike that, because that allows
us to have the contrast and ofand the experience the joy of
life, which might include I'vebeen experienced this more and
more where it's like, oh mygosh, I've I'm so sad that I've
lost this relationship, or thatthis isn't going for me yet, it
(08:31):
shows that there's something Icare about, something I want,
and being able to find the joyin that. And so Goldilocks, she
really did have something goingthere, because it wasn't that.
Yes, she knew, she knew themiddle way. But she also didn't
avoid trying things. She wasopen to trying something that
(08:51):
was a little too hard, tryingsomething that was a little too
soft, yet she realized that itwas the middle, the middle way,
which is often for those thathave studied, you know, the
Buddhism the Buddha, one of hisgreat teachings was this concept
of the Middle Way, not too much,not too little. And I got to
kind of experience, you know,sort of this, this middle path
at a recent workshop that wasended up being just phenomenal,
(09:14):
where I had such greatopportunities to
meet some great people, but alsoto you, you know, say what I
want, say what I don't want togo I've had enough of this, or
give me more of that. And it wasawesome. The the last, the last
they were, what were theycalling them? Section? Was it
(09:35):
calling them? Sections? System,structure, the last structure,
last structure we did, orexercise. There was, there was
an element of, there were threethree groups, and three people
got to choose which they neededto choose which group they would
be a part of. And so, you know,who are they going to partner
with? And basically they, sothere's three groups and three
(09:58):
people. And you. For me, theytook us and they said, okay, one
of you is going to have completechoice. The other it's going to
be up to destiny, and the otherone's going to be a little in
between, which means somebodygets to choose first, somebody
goes second, somebody goesthird, somebody immediately was
like, I want to go last.
Somebody else is like, I want togo first. And I was like, I want
(10:18):
to go first. And then thefacilitator is like, well, now
we just kind of like, see, youknow who feels into they're okay
with going second. And I knewthat I was okay being middle. I
knew it would work out for me.
And so the first person goesout, gets their group, and so
(10:39):
now there's only two groupsleft, and I go out and I see
what was group one, and that'salready taken. And these other
two groups, and I'm like, thegroup that I want, that I is
even better than I could haveimagined, is here, and it ended
up being a great, a great, greatexercise. Great, great end of
the workshop. Great, greatconnection, great use of my
(10:59):
voice. It was just a greatexperience, this, this workshop,
but to just kind of like that,that middle way, that like I
don't need to have, I don't needto have full choice necessarily,
and I also don't need tocompletely leave it up to chance
having a little bit and this iswhat life often is, where we
don't actually know everything.
We'll never get to knoweverything. Will not never have
(11:19):
perfect information. Yet. We dosome things, and we have agency.
We do have choice. So allowingthat simultaneous like, I'm
going to choose, but I'm alsogoing to be open to that some
stuff isn't up to me, and oftenthat what isn't up to us has a
big thing to do with timing,where it's like, you don't know
exactly when you're going to getwhat you want, but it's
(11:40):
important to put out what youwant, because you're likely
going to get it at some point.
And if you don't know what youwant, that's one of the things
to work with. And if you're not,if you do know what you want,
but you're not getting it,that's when it's time to be pay
attention to the feedback,because again, maybe you're out
of balance. You're not lookingat you're not acknowledging the
(12:02):
things that need to beacknowledged. You're focusing
too far on one end and not notthe other. Neither one is
necessarily better or worse.
It's when you get okay withthat. They're all important.
They're all part of the cycle ofyour life, just like it's the
cycle of of AC current flowingover a power line, just like
it's the balance in the in themovie, in the story, between
like the boring, the name, thewhatever, with the the tension,
(12:24):
the height and the suspense thatall of that leads to the
beautiful mystery that we get toexperience and go through. So
with that, I'm going to wrapthis up. And thank you so much,
and encourage you to look forways that you can find balance.
How can you let your own littleinner Goldilocks come out and
look for balance? What'ssomething that you've been
(12:46):
avoiding? And maybe it's timeto, like, lean into and you
don't have to lean into thisstuff alone. That's where, you
know, coaches like me, othercoaches out there, therapists,
friends, that if we're open tothe balance. It's out there
waiting because our body is inbalance while we're alive, and
so we're meant to do morebalance. Yeah, sometimes there's
coughing, sometimes there's notsometimes there's tears, but not
(13:10):
necessarily tears of sorrow,sometimes tears of joy, or
sometimes just tears of the bodyhaving a response that it needs
to have. Either way, I encourageyou to be open to what is
instead of trying to push awayone to make sure you get the
other, look at maybe what you'reavoiding, because what you're
(13:31):
avoiding likely is on the pathto what it is that you truly
want, which is going to be thatjoy, that ease, that love that
you can have that you deservejust because you're you, and you
can have it just because youwant it, but you are going to it
is going to require looking atthe full cycle of human
experience. And it doesn'tnecessarily have to be a bad
(13:53):
thing. It can be an amazingthing, but it is something that
is going to be different, anddifferent can sometimes just be
difficult, only at first. Itgets better and better, little
by little. The middle waybecomes useful. And just like a
tree when it's growing up andsprouts, one shoot gets a little
out another spot, another goes alittle bit. It's back and forth.
(14:14):
It's alternating. And it's howgrowth works. We see it in
nature. We see it in our bodies,and when we start to allow this
in our life, our life can happenin amazing, fantastical ways,
and it's going to impact ourbusiness, it's going to impact
our relationships, it's going toimpact our health. And I want
that amazing, beneficial impactfor you. So if you got any
(14:34):
questions, let me know. Sendsome messages over on the social
media or through the email,which is going to come up. Love
to hear what you think, what'san area of your life where you
could find some more balance?
Yeah, and balance doesn'tnecessarily just mean all the
good, but giving some space tomaybe some stuff that needs to
be looked at that you've beenavoiding. So let me know. I'd
(14:57):
love to hear with that. Thankyou and you. Good day. Thanks
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(15:19):
it just as much as you dotogether, we're engineering more
amazing lives you.
Either one is necessarily betteror worse. It's when you get okay
(00:03):
with that. They're allimportant. They're all part of
the cycle of your life, justlike it's the cycle of AC
current flowing over a powerline, just like it's the balance
in the movie, in the story,between like, the boring, the
name, the whatever, with the thetension, the height and the
suspense that all of that leadsto the beautiful mystery that we
get to experience and gothrough. Are you ready to live a
(00:29):
life with enough time, money andenergy have relationships and
connections that delight you?
Are you ready for theextraordinary life you know
you've been missing? If so, thenthis is the place for you. I'm a
best selling author, coach,consultant and speaker who's
worked in technology for overtwo decades. I'm a leader at
transforming people andorganizations from operating in
(00:51):
fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
Justin Wenck PhD, today, I'mgoing to be talking about
Goldilocks. Why Goldilocks?
(01:12):
Because she knew the importanceof something being not too hot,
not too cold, not too hard, nottoo soft, but being just right,
and how this is very importantto living a long and joyful and
productive and happy life. I'vebeen noticing a lot. I've seen
(01:33):
in my life. I've seen in otherpeople's lives. There's a lot
going on. It's a it's stormingtoday. There's a fire engine
just cruising around. I livenear the ocean, so it's kind of
interesting. A giant fire enginego by the little, teeny road
that goes by the ocean. But eveneven this giant storm which came
through, it's still still goingon, it knocked out my power for
(01:54):
about a couple hours. I wasprepared. I had a backup battery
generator. So because I've hadpower outages that have lasted,
you know, day day and a halfhere, which I know in some parts
of the US, some parts of theworld, they'd be like, I wish I
only had, you know, a day and ahalf power outage. But you know,
one of the reasons I love livingwhere I live is because there's
(02:16):
balance where I used to live,which was in the Sacramento area
of California, in the summer, itpretty much just be fucking hot,
and in the winter, it would justbe fucking cold. Where I live
now, it's often neither too hotor too cold. Some days it's
sunny, some days it's cloudy,and some days there's some
(02:37):
clouds, and then some daysthere's some sun. There's
balance. I love it. There'sbalance, as opposed to too much
of one thing, not enough of theother. And I found this in my
life, and I've seen this withlots of people, where often
they're focusing and rightly so.
I'm not saying don't focus onit, don't want it, but that
happiness, oh, I want happiness.
(02:57):
Or I want money. I wantabundance, or I want prestige.
And the thing is that it's notabout not having those things.
It's about having them andhaving what is also not them.
Because if we focus too much onwhat we don't have, we end up
being out of balance andactually just having more of
what we don't have some of I'vetalked about this before. Many
(03:20):
of you have experienced thiswhere the things that you you
want now you've wanted for along time, and part of that is
because you haven't been theperson that has come into the
right balance to actually havewhat you want while also having
not having it, or being okaywith not having it, so that you
can actually go and to have it.
Because when we're so attachedto something, it becomes, it
(03:41):
becomes almost debilitating, orit becomes its own thing, in it
of itself. And I've been reallygetting into some David Lynch
stuff. If you're not familiarwith David Lynch, been around
since, I think the early, early,mid 80s. A couple things he's
really famous for is, he'sreally famous for Twin Peaks,
which was a show that aired inon ABC like prime time. Late
(04:02):
prime time is about to Smith themystery of who killed Laura
Palmer. And then he's also knownfor another show called another
movie, which was supposed to bea show kind of like Twin Peaks,
but didn't, so just became amovie Mulholland Drive. And the
thing that David Lynch is alwaystrying to get through in his
works. At least my understandingis this concept of balance, like
(04:24):
this murder mystery of TwinPeaks and Laura Palmer. It was,
it was a mix of everything.
Nothing had ever been like it onTV before, and it almost be one
of those things, like, if yousaw it now, it's still good, but
you might also go like, well,this isn't anything new. I mean,
this is a murder mystery, butlike, zaniness and apple pie,
(04:45):
actually, it's cherry pie andcoffee. What's, what's the big
deal? But at the time, it wasthere to bring balance to
television, because it used tojust be that there would just be
this profanity of basicallyconsumable violence on. On TV.
And what Twin Peaks did was it'slike, you're gonna have some of
that, but we're also gonna havesome of the mundanity of day to
(05:07):
day life in this small, littlemountain town of a diner where
there's just simple cherry pieand coffee and people getting
together and showing love. Butthen that's also gonna be
balanced with the CD underbellythat's going on, the drugs and
this show even had prostitutionand murder and all sorts of
stuff. And the point of it wasthat it really is the balance,
(05:30):
the back and forth between, sortof the dark and the light. And
we as humans, we are also meantto, sort of like, go back and
forth between the, you know, thethe feelings of joy,
satisfaction, ease, love, andthen you know, also, there's the
there's an importance toacknowledge and experience, the
fear, the sadness, the grief,the loss, the longing, right,
(05:54):
the anger, the rage. Like theseare, you know, these are two
sides of the same coin. If youdon't have the other side.
You're actually not even gettingthe coin. And as humans, we're
electrical beings. And mybackground is electrical
engineering, and it, you know,it's really things are not
static in most in mostelectrical systems, even though
(06:16):
it's sort of interesting, a lotof the devices we use, they use
DC Direct Current supplies,where it's just, it's a steady
voltage, and then however much,you know, the voltage doesn't
vary. Yet, our bodies, you know,what's an easy EKG or an
electrocepha that's showing thevariations in the various
(06:36):
voltages going on through ourhuman system. And when we're
talking about sharing bigamounts of power across large
distances, how is it done withAC alternating current, current
that isn't just one voltage, itchanges with time. That changing
with time allows large, largeamounts of power to go long
(06:58):
distances. And so when we ashumans tap into because there's
these, there's many principlesof the universe, but one of my
favorites is as above, so below,as within, so without, which
means that we see, we see rhymesor reflections in things at
various levels, where we seethat how something is outside is
also happening inside. So if wesee that, oh, large amounts of
(07:21):
power conveyed through ACvoltage and current. And how am
I living my life? Am I allowingthere to be alternation between
light and dark, positive andnegative and with Twin Peaks?
Where this comes in is, if youtake a take alternating current
that goes through a cycle oflight and a cycle of dark, what
you end up getting if yourectify that, meaning that you
(07:44):
only allow the positive right?
And I'll see if we can get somegraphics here to show this. I
pulled some that you basicallyget. You will get two peaks,
Twin Peaks. That Twin Peaks isthere to show the two phases of
alternating current, which is acomplete cycle of alternating
current. And we are here to livein complete cycles where we
(08:06):
experience not just the sunny,gorgeous days, but the cloudy,
rainy, the powers out, thingslike that, because that allows
us to have the contrast and ofand the experience the joy of
life, which might include I'vebeen experienced this more and
more where it's like, oh mygosh, I've I'm so sad that I've
lost this relationship, or thatthis isn't going for me yet, it
(08:31):
shows that there's something Icare about, something I want,
and being able to find the joyin that. And so Goldilocks, she
really did have something goingthere, because it wasn't that.
Yes, she knew, she knew themiddle way. But she also didn't
avoid trying things. She wasopen to trying something that
(08:51):
was a little too hard, tryingsomething that was a little too
soft, yet she realized that itwas the middle, the middle way,
which is often for those thathave studied, you know, the
Buddhism the Buddha, one of hisgreat teachings was this concept
of the Middle Way, not too much,not too little. And I got to
kind of experience, you know,sort of this, this middle path
at a recent workshop that wasended up being just phenomenal,
(09:14):
where I had such greatopportunities to
meet some great people, but alsoto you, you know, say what I
want, say what I don't want togo I've had enough of this, or
give me more of that. And it wasawesome. The the last, the last
they were, what were theycalling them? Section? Was it
(09:35):
calling them? Sections? System,structure, the last structure,
last structure we did, orexercise. There was, there was
an element of, there were threethree groups, and three people
got to choose which they neededto choose which group they would
be a part of. And so, you know,who are they going to partner
with? And basically they, sothere's three groups and three
(09:58):
people. And you. For me, theytook us and they said, okay, one
of you is going to have completechoice. The other it's going to
be up to destiny, and the otherone's going to be a little in
between, which means somebodygets to choose first, somebody
goes second, somebody goesthird, somebody immediately was
like, I want to go last.
Somebody else is like, I want togo first. And I was like, I want
(10:18):
to go first. And then thefacilitator is like, well, now
we just kind of like, see, youknow who feels into they're okay
with going second. And I knewthat I was okay being middle. I
knew it would work out for me.
And so the first person goesout, gets their group, and so
(10:39):
now there's only two groupsleft, and I go out and I see
what was group one, and that'salready taken. And these other
two groups, and I'm like, thegroup that I want, that I is
even better than I could haveimagined, is here, and it ended
up being a great, a great, greatexercise. Great, great end of
the workshop. Great, greatconnection, great use of my
(10:59):
voice. It was just a greatexperience, this, this workshop,
but to just kind of like that,that middle way, that like I
don't need to have, I don't needto have full choice necessarily,
and I also don't need tocompletely leave it up to chance
having a little bit and this iswhat life often is, where we
don't actually know everything.
We'll never get to knoweverything. Will not never have
(11:19):
perfect information. Yet. We dosome things, and we have agency.
We do have choice. So allowingthat simultaneous like, I'm
going to choose, but I'm alsogoing to be open to that some
stuff isn't up to me, and oftenthat what isn't up to us has a
big thing to do with timing,where it's like, you don't know
exactly when you're going to getwhat you want, but it's
(11:40):
important to put out what youwant, because you're likely
going to get it at some point.
And if you don't know what youwant, that's one of the things
to work with. And if you're not,if you do know what you want,
but you're not getting it,that's when it's time to be pay
attention to the feedback,because again, maybe you're out
of balance. You're not lookingat you're not acknowledging the
(12:02):
things that need to beacknowledged. You're focusing
too far on one end and not notthe other. Neither one is
necessarily better or worse.
It's when you get okay withthat. They're all important.
They're all part of the cycle ofyour life, just like it's the
cycle of of AC current flowingover a power line, just like
it's the balance in the in themovie, in the story, between
like the boring, the name, thewhatever, with the the tension,
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the height and the suspense thatall of that leads to the
beautiful mystery that we get toexperience and go through. So
with that, I'm going to wrapthis up. And thank you so much,
and encourage you to look forways that you can find balance.
How can you let your own littleinner Goldilocks come out and
look for balance? What'ssomething that you've been
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avoiding? And maybe it's timeto, like, lean into and you
don't have to lean into thisstuff alone. That's where, you
know, coaches like me, othercoaches out there, therapists,
friends, that if we're open tothe balance. It's out there
waiting because our body is inbalance while we're alive, and
so we're meant to do morebalance. Yeah, sometimes there's
coughing, sometimes there's notsometimes there's tears, but not
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necessarily tears of sorrow,sometimes tears of joy, or
sometimes just tears of the bodyhaving a response that it needs
to have. Either way, I encourageyou to be open to what is
instead of trying to push awayone to make sure you get the
other, look at maybe what you'reavoiding, because what you're
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avoiding likely is on the pathto what it is that you truly
want, which is going to be thatjoy, that ease, that love that
you can have that you deservejust because you're you, and you
can have it just because youwant it, but you are going to it
is going to require looking atthe full cycle of human
experience. And it doesn'tnecessarily have to be a bad
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thing. It can be an amazingthing, but it is something that
is going to be different, anddifferent can sometimes just be
difficult, only at first. Itgets better and better, little
by little. The middle waybecomes useful. And just like a
tree when it's growing up andsprouts, one shoot gets a little
out another spot, another goes alittle bit. It's back and forth.
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It's alternating. And it's howgrowth works. We see it in
nature. We see it in our bodies,and when we start to allow this
in our life, our life can happenin amazing, fantastical ways,
and it's going to impact ourbusiness, it's going to impact
our relationships, it's going toimpact our health. And I want
that amazing, beneficial impactfor you. So if you got any
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questions, let me know. Sendsome messages over on the social
media or through the email,which is going to come up. Love
to hear what you think, what'san area of your life where you
could find some more balance?
Yeah, and balance doesn'tnecessarily just mean all the
good, but giving some space tomaybe some stuff that needs to
be looked at that you've beenavoiding. So let me know. I'd
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love to hear with that. Thankyou and you. Good day. Thanks
for tuning in to engineeringemotions and energy with Justin
Wenck PhD, today's episoderesonated with you. Please
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