July 22, 2025 • 18 mins
In this delayed episode of Engineering Emotions & Energy with Justin Wenck, Ph.D., he opens up about a personal bout of severe illness and the deeper lessons that came from it. More than a story about getting sick, this episode dives into what happens when life throws curveballs—and how we can find resilience, growth, and even joy in the moments that don’t go as planned.
Takeaways include:
- How to reframe illness or hardship as an opportunity for deeper rest and insight
- Recognizing support systems you may have overlooked
- Using setbacks to re-evaluate your life’s pace and purpose
- Why presence during painful times creates emotional strength
- The transformative power of self-care and perspective
This episode is a powerful reminder that life’s toughest moments often carry the seeds of our most profound breakthroughs.
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Justin Wenck (00:00):
What are some experiences that you've had in
(00:01):
the past that you wouldn't haveplanned yet? Maybe there? What
was the gift? What was thejewel? What was the gem that
came through? Sometimes we getstuck in a view, and these
things sometimes are meant toshake us out of it, but
sometimes we need a little helpto see that perspective, get
that shift, to get that gift, sothen we can move on and have
new, even more incredibleexperiences. So you are the
(00:25):
master of your world if you aredoing what the world is asking
of you and working inconjunction with it, by when the
world says, Hey buddy, you'resick, it's time to rest and it's
time to reevaluate some things.
If you go with that, then you'regonna get so much through the
process, and it's gonna go veryquickly, and you're gonna come
out the other side so muchbetter. Often. Are you ready to
(00:47):
live a life with enough time,money and energy have
relationships and connectionsthat delight you? Are you ready
for the extraordinary life youknow you've been missing. If so,
then this is the place for you.
I'm a best selling author,coach, consultant and speaker
(01:10):
who's worked in technology forover two decades. I'm a leader
at transforming people andorganizations from operating in
fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
Justin Wenck, PhD, today I'mgoing to be talking about how to
(01:34):
handle life when life does notgo how you planned it. You had
plans, you had ways you wantedthings to go, and you were doing
everything that you thought youshould be to for things to go
the way you wanted, and yet,boom, things just don't work
out. And this happened to mevery recently, as you might
(01:58):
might be noticing if you're aregular watcher, listener of
this program, that release everytwo weeks, and didn't get the
release last week. So this iscoming on a week later than it
should. You know that's that'sdoes my plan for this yet life
the universe, whatever you wantto call that had other plans,
(02:21):
and I was incredibly sick fortwo weeks, like, the first week
was miserable, just like a top,like, top five illness of my
entire life, type of illness,you know? And that included,
that includes having mono, fromwhen I was a freshman year of
college to the first time I gotCOVID, and, you know, some other
(02:44):
illnesses, is definitely high upthere, and how sick I was. And
so this episode, you're going tobe talking about how to handle
these things that, like younever would have gone like,
Yeah, I'm going to go throughthis experience, whether that's
an illness, an injury or, youknow, a breakup or a loss, you
(03:04):
know, these things that in life,that they just kind of happened
to us, and that nobody wouldhave planned, like, Oh, I think
on Tuesday I'm gonna, you know,lose my mom. And then let's,
let's see, let's, let's pencilin. Let's give myself about six
weeks to digest that. And thenlet's have a extreme illness or
and then, and then, I thinkabout a year and a half will be
(03:25):
good. And then let's, let's havea loss of, you know, lose, lose
the job, or have to change ormove or something like that.
Like, nobody's going to put thatin, right? That's not part of
anyone's plan. Yet, it is a partof life and how we handle it,
how we deal with it, determinesthe quality of our life and how
(03:47):
much we enjoy it, and how muchwe can benefit from these
experiences. The first week, itended up being this thing where,
as I got better, I slowlyrealized how sick I was like
after, after about a week and ahalf, I finally got a good
night's sleep. And I was like,Oh, I think I've been sleep
deprived for over a week,because at first I had such a
(04:08):
horrible headache that Icouldn't sleep, and then I had
such a horrible cough that Icouldn't sleep. And I don't
think I really realized howexhausted I was at just a deep,
deep level, until I finally gotlike, a first night of like,
good sleep, and I'm like, Oh mygosh, that's what's that's what
(04:28):
sleeps like. It had been awhile, and now I can kind of
understand how really, trulytired I am. You know, not to go
too much into, you know what,what happened and whatnot. But,
you know, brought up all thesememories of previous times that
I had been sick and I was ableto actually, you know, get some
help from some really amazingpeople in my life. You know,
(04:51):
even have one person that, youknow, brought me soups and
groceries and medicines andthings like that. And it was
like, Oh, I. This is somethinglike, really cool that I have,
you know, good people in my lifethat that care about me and are
here to help me when I'm sickand, you know, looking back and
just kind of realizing like, oh,things have really shifted in in
(05:11):
a positive direction. And if Ihadn't gotten sick like this, I
wouldn't have gotten to have theexperience of realizing that,
oh, I've got these greatresources, these great people,
these great connections in mylife, and that my my world is
here to care for me, that thereis help, that there is care
available in my world. So theseare the things to start to look
(05:35):
for when you're going throughyour own challenges, your own
things that happened in life.
And then also another thing thatis very important is to maybe
see the wisdom and that maybethere is some good planning,
that it's like, oh, maybe thisis actually working out. Okay.
So in my example, I recently,just got back from a short, long
(05:55):
weekend trip down to Cabo SanLucas, Mexico. So just, you
know, right, right on the beach,pool and things like that. And
it was literally, if that triphad been one day sooner, I would
have been too sick to go on it.
Yet, the illness that startedlong enough before and got
(06:18):
wrapped up enough that I wasable to go and, you know, was I
sleeping? Probably more than Iwould have. I had been
completely healthy, you know, ifI hadn't had this illness, yes,
yet it worked out. Because thepoint of the trip really was to
go, to relax, to reset, to getto be in some sunshine, eat some
good food, and to just, youknow, be somewhere soaking up
(06:42):
sun and, you know, goodconnection and a good good place
and good vibes. And so to not beat 100% was actually ended up
being a gift, because, since Iwas still like, tired, I wasn't
like, oh, i Let's go do jetskiing, and let's go do this
activity and that thing and thisthing.
(07:04):
Because I'll be honest with you,maybe you have this I can tend
to make my vacations just asbusy as the rest of my regular
life. And so to be a little bit,you know, off my game resulted
in, oh, I did it differently. Iwas able to just sit and be and
(07:28):
enjoy the views, enjoy thetemperatures, and enjoy the
atmosphere, and not needing todo anything, not needing to
accomplish. I didn't didn't getthrough any books. I didn't do a
lot of activities, but I did getto, you know, have some great
meals. I did get to enjoy somegreat views. I got to have some
good conversations. It was areally incredible trip, and it
(07:54):
was restful and rejuvenating.
And I came back actually feelinglike, oh yeah, I feel like, more
rested, more well, more at peacethan when I went, whereas often
in the past, I used to come backfrom a trip and it's like, okay,
now I got to recover from this.
And then now it's like, notreally any substantial need to
(08:19):
recover. It's like, a, you know,did, did some vacation eating,
and it's like, I'm back now I'mgonna eat, like, when I'm at
home, my normal, healthful way.
No big deal. And kind of sleep,how I sleep when I'm at home,
and, you know, get back to workin an easeful, joyful way. So
looking for, you know, thehidden gifts and you know,
(08:41):
basically when things lifedoesn't go the way that you
wanted it to do. So like, youknow, from getting to
experience, you know, the peoplehere to help me out and my world
caring for me, to getting to dosomething differently. And
another thing that I realizedthat was, you know, another gift
(09:02):
of not being, of not being well,was I wasn't able to do what I
usually did, like, you know, noteven really able to enjoy
watching, you know, TV or listento the same programs and things
like that. And so what thisallowed me to do is kind of
disconnect from my usual diet ofof digital media and kind of go,
(09:25):
oh, maybe I don't need some ofthat. Maybe some of that isn't
bringing me what I want it to.
Maybe there's some messages andsome things that are not helping
me cultivate the inner statethat I want to be cultivating.
And as we've talked about oftenin the show, it's your inner
(09:47):
state that really is whatcreates your outer world. So if
you look out in the world andyou see nothing, but you know
people being horrible things,tragedies and war and.
Destruction and all that kindsof stuff. It's reflection what's
going on inside of you, period.
End of story, not to say thatthere aren't things happening
(10:07):
out there and that, you know,there's a difference between
having an awareness and beingable to be in a state of
equanimity, where you can kindof go, Okay, how do I want the
world to be, how would I likethings to end up from a space of
calmness and peace and clarity,where you can create a vision
for what you want, versus beingin a frenzied state of fear, of
(10:31):
anger, depression, all thesethings and not being able and
just going like this sucks. Thissucks. This is bad. It just
needs to not be this way, andthat's all you can do. That
doesn't help anything thatdoesn't help the world, that
doesn't help you. And so ifthere's too much of that and
you're getting an emotionalstate, it's time to disconnect
(10:53):
from these things. And that'ssomething I guys able to get,
because it really is. It's aprocess. A lot of stuff isn't
one and done, where you're justgoing to suddenly, like, switch
everything off. Maybe you will.
I don't necessarily recommendthat. I'm okay with you do
things you live your life theway you want to live your life.
(11:14):
And if you want a life of like,you know, joy, ease and love, if
you do something like you know,very brutally. That's not joy,
ease and love. And so you'regonna, if you just cut yourself
off from something harshly andlike with anger and just like,
oh, that's bad, then you stilljust have that in your life. If
(11:34):
you That's the energy you bringto it. And so if you kind of go,
Okay, well, let me do a littleless of this and try a little
more of that. And you might haveto come back later and go, Ooh,
a little bit of less of that.
And, oh, maybe something addedin that's that's not quite still
what I'm looking for. And somaybe you shift it. And so
that's another thing, theopportunity of getting to see,
(11:54):
you know, what's been workingand what's not, takes a break
from, you know, my habitual wayof living, of consuming media,
of just being and getting tosee, like, well, what really
matters, what doesn't, whatreally is life and death.
Because there, there are timeswhere I'm just like, oh my gosh,
how much am I going to getbetter? Am I going to get worse?
(12:16):
If I get much worse? Am I goingto have to go to the hospital?
Or what point, at what point doI need to go to the doctor? And
so then when, you know, it'sthings like, well, do I force
myself to do a podcast when I'mI'm literally like, am I going
to make it or not? And it'slike, you know what? It can be
(12:37):
okay if it comes one week later.
It's like my health, my wellbeing, my state of being, that's
truly important. And again, thispodcast is important to me. You
guys are important to me. And sothat's why it's important that I
bring to you the best of I am,of someone who's cared, of
(13:02):
someone who is rested, assomebody who is energized and
able to bring my full self toyou. And if I'm in a diminished
state and I'm showing up and I'mlike, it's almost like a weird
Arnold
Unknown (13:19):
Schwarzenegger, you pump it. It's good coming. It's
the best thing to pump.
Justin Wenck (13:27):
Yeah, if you want Arnold, you go and see Arnold.
You didn't come here for Arnold.
You came here for Justin. And ifI'm diminished, then it's best
for me to take care of me, sothen I can come and take care of
you. You know, I'm responsiblefor me. You be responsible for
you. And so starting to noticewhen maybe it's time for you to
take care of yourself, then takecare of yourself. Because if,
(13:48):
again, it's one thing to haveothers there to support you, but
if you're not even willing toallow in the support, then it's
not going to do any good, andyou're just going to get worse.
And then you're kind of being anasshole. You're just being an
asshole to the people that docare for about you and do want
to help you and do want you forthe best if you're going to
(14:12):
actively work against them. Soagain, you are the master of
your world, and so if you aredoing what the world is asking
of you and working inconjunction with it, by when the
world says, Hey buddy, you'resick, it's time to rest and it's
time to reevaluate some things,if you go with that and work
(14:36):
with that, then you're going toget so much through the process,
and it's going to go veryquickly, and you're gonna come
out the other side so muchbetter off. And again, this
doesn't matter if it's, youknow, being sick or being
injured, because I've had, I'vehad knee surgeries, I've had
lots of other surgeries, youknow, or if this is a big loss
that's happened to your life,you know, whether it's a loss of
(14:57):
a job, a. Loss of arelationship, a loss of death of
a loved one, whatever it mightbe, there's gifts. There's gifts
in these experiences that youdidn't plan, and the reason that
they happen is so that you canget these gifts to create an
even more amazing world that'sbetter than you probably would
(15:19):
have if you'd just been goingaround with your plan that
didn't, that didn't bake inthese kinds of experiences that
truly give you that, that lifethat's worth living, that story
that is so rich and filled withvariety. You know if, if there
isn't the sorrows and theheartaches, then how are you
going to know that there's thejoy and the happiness and when
(15:42):
you're in these moments, andyou're not trying to just avoid
them, when you're truly in them,there can be the joy of living
even amongst you know, the thesnot and the tears and the angst
and the pain and the grief, youcan just kind of relax into it
and go, this is what's happeningright now, and I'm here, and I'm
(16:05):
experiencing it, and I'm workingwith it, and I'm seeing what's
here for me, because I choose, Ichoose to live a life where I
get out of my life so manygifts, no matter what's
happening, no matter what'shappening, there are gifts,
there are lessons, and there'sways to enjoy it. And I'm going
(16:27):
to enjoy living and I'm going toget through this, and I'm going
to see how much better my lifecan be as a result of what I'm
going through now. So I'mcurious what you think. What are
some experiences that you've hadin the past that you wouldn't
have planned yet? Maybe there?
(16:49):
What was the gift? What was thejewel? What was the gem that
came through? I'd love for youto you know, let me know in the
comments. Send me a note,because I and if not, you know,
again, maybe, you know, book asession with me where we can
talk about this, and we canfind, you know, the good thing,
and it's a shift in perspective,because it's there. Just
(17:10):
sometimes we get stuck in aview, and these things sometimes
are meant to shake us out of it,but sometimes it has. We need a
little help. We need a littlehelp to see that perspective,
get that shift, to get thatgift. So then we can move on and
have new, even more incredibleexperiences. So I'm very happy
to be back, getting back on theregular cadence of every two
(17:33):
weeks to do make sure thatyou're subscribed, that you're
following and you know rate,rate this, rate, this show, five
stars, five stars. Well, youknow, let people know. Share it
with a friend. Share it with afriend. You know, yeah, so, so
good to be back, to be to bebetter and to be on the way to
(17:56):
being even better than I wasbefore I got sick, to put out
even better shows to help evenmore people have some great
impact. And love to hear whatyou got out of the show. So with
that, thank you so much and goodday. Thanks for tuning in to
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more amazing lives you
What are some experiences that you've had in
(00:01):
the past that you wouldn't haveplanned yet? Maybe there? What
was the gift? What was thejewel? What was the gem that
came through? Sometimes we getstuck in a view, and these
things sometimes are meant toshake us out of it, but
sometimes we need a little helpto see that perspective, get
that shift, to get that gift, sothen we can move on and have
new, even more incredibleexperiences. So you are the
(00:25):
master of your world if you aredoing what the world is asking
of you and working inconjunction with it, by when the
world says, Hey buddy, you'resick, it's time to rest and it's
time to reevaluate some things.
If you go with that, then you'regonna get so much through the
process, and it's gonna go veryquickly, and you're gonna come
out the other side so muchbetter. Often. Are you ready to
(00:47):
live a life with enough time,money and energy have
relationships and connectionsthat delight you? Are you ready
for the extraordinary life youknow you've been missing. If so,
then this is the place for you.
I'm a best selling author,coach, consultant and speaker
(01:10):
who's worked in technology forover two decades. I'm a leader
at transforming people andorganizations from operating in
fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
Justin Wenck, PhD, today I'mgoing to be talking about how to
(01:34):
handle life when life does notgo how you planned it. You had
plans, you had ways you wantedthings to go, and you were doing
everything that you thought youshould be to for things to go
the way you wanted, and yet,boom, things just don't work
out. And this happened to mevery recently, as you might
(01:58):
might be noticing if you're aregular watcher, listener of
this program, that release everytwo weeks, and didn't get the
release last week. So this iscoming on a week later than it
should. You know that's that'sdoes my plan for this yet life
the universe, whatever you wantto call that had other plans,
(02:21):
and I was incredibly sick fortwo weeks, like, the first week
was miserable, just like a top,like, top five illness of my
entire life, type of illness,you know? And that included,
that includes having mono, fromwhen I was a freshman year of
college to the first time I gotCOVID, and, you know, some other
(02:44):
illnesses, is definitely high upthere, and how sick I was. And
so this episode, you're going tobe talking about how to handle
these things that, like younever would have gone like,
Yeah, I'm going to go throughthis experience, whether that's
an illness, an injury or, youknow, a breakup or a loss, you
(03:04):
know, these things that in life,that they just kind of happened
to us, and that nobody wouldhave planned, like, Oh, I think
on Tuesday I'm gonna, you know,lose my mom. And then let's,
let's see, let's, let's pencilin. Let's give myself about six
weeks to digest that. And thenlet's have a extreme illness or
and then, and then, I thinkabout a year and a half will be
(03:25):
good. And then let's, let's havea loss of, you know, lose, lose
the job, or have to change ormove or something like that.
Like, nobody's going to put thatin, right? That's not part of
anyone's plan. Yet, it is a partof life and how we handle it,
how we deal with it, determinesthe quality of our life and how
(03:47):
much we enjoy it, and how muchwe can benefit from these
experiences. The first week, itended up being this thing where,
as I got better, I slowlyrealized how sick I was like
after, after about a week and ahalf, I finally got a good
night's sleep. And I was like,Oh, I think I've been sleep
deprived for over a week,because at first I had such a
(04:08):
horrible headache that Icouldn't sleep, and then I had
such a horrible cough that Icouldn't sleep. And I don't
think I really realized howexhausted I was at just a deep,
deep level, until I finally gotlike, a first night of like,
good sleep, and I'm like, Oh mygosh, that's what's that's what
(04:28):
sleeps like. It had been awhile, and now I can kind of
understand how really, trulytired I am. You know, not to go
too much into, you know what,what happened and whatnot. But,
you know, brought up all thesememories of previous times that
I had been sick and I was ableto actually, you know, get some
help from some really amazingpeople in my life. You know,
(04:51):
even have one person that, youknow, brought me soups and
groceries and medicines andthings like that. And it was
like, Oh, I. This is somethinglike, really cool that I have,
you know, good people in my lifethat that care about me and are
here to help me when I'm sickand, you know, looking back and
just kind of realizing like, oh,things have really shifted in in
(05:11):
a positive direction. And if Ihadn't gotten sick like this, I
wouldn't have gotten to have theexperience of realizing that,
oh, I've got these greatresources, these great people,
these great connections in mylife, and that my my world is
here to care for me, that thereis help, that there is care
available in my world. So theseare the things to start to look
(05:35):
for when you're going throughyour own challenges, your own
things that happened in life.
And then also another thing thatis very important is to maybe
see the wisdom and that maybethere is some good planning,
that it's like, oh, maybe thisis actually working out. Okay.
So in my example, I recently,just got back from a short, long
(05:55):
weekend trip down to Cabo SanLucas, Mexico. So just, you
know, right, right on the beach,pool and things like that. And
it was literally, if that triphad been one day sooner, I would
have been too sick to go on it.
Yet, the illness that startedlong enough before and got
(06:18):
wrapped up enough that I wasable to go and, you know, was I
sleeping? Probably more than Iwould have. I had been
completely healthy, you know, ifI hadn't had this illness, yes,
yet it worked out. Because thepoint of the trip really was to
go, to relax, to reset, to getto be in some sunshine, eat some
good food, and to just, youknow, be somewhere soaking up
(06:42):
sun and, you know, goodconnection and a good good place
and good vibes. And so to not beat 100% was actually ended up
being a gift, because, since Iwas still like, tired, I wasn't
like, oh, i Let's go do jetskiing, and let's go do this
activity and that thing and thisthing.
(07:04):
Because I'll be honest with you,maybe you have this I can tend
to make my vacations just asbusy as the rest of my regular
life. And so to be a little bit,you know, off my game resulted
in, oh, I did it differently. Iwas able to just sit and be and
(07:28):
enjoy the views, enjoy thetemperatures, and enjoy the
atmosphere, and not needing todo anything, not needing to
accomplish. I didn't didn't getthrough any books. I didn't do a
lot of activities, but I did getto, you know, have some great
meals. I did get to enjoy somegreat views. I got to have some
good conversations. It was areally incredible trip, and it
(07:54):
was restful and rejuvenating.
And I came back actually feelinglike, oh yeah, I feel like, more
rested, more well, more at peacethan when I went, whereas often
in the past, I used to come backfrom a trip and it's like, okay,
now I got to recover from this.
And then now it's like, notreally any substantial need to
(08:19):
recover. It's like, a, you know,did, did some vacation eating,
and it's like, I'm back now I'mgonna eat, like, when I'm at
home, my normal, healthful way.
No big deal. And kind of sleep,how I sleep when I'm at home,
and, you know, get back to workin an easeful, joyful way. So
looking for, you know, thehidden gifts and you know,
(08:41):
basically when things lifedoesn't go the way that you
wanted it to do. So like, youknow, from getting to
experience, you know, the peoplehere to help me out and my world
caring for me, to getting to dosomething differently. And
another thing that I realizedthat was, you know, another gift
(09:02):
of not being, of not being well,was I wasn't able to do what I
usually did, like, you know, noteven really able to enjoy
watching, you know, TV or listento the same programs and things
like that. And so what thisallowed me to do is kind of
disconnect from my usual diet ofof digital media and kind of go,
(09:25):
oh, maybe I don't need some ofthat. Maybe some of that isn't
bringing me what I want it to.
Maybe there's some messages andsome things that are not helping
me cultivate the inner statethat I want to be cultivating.
And as we've talked about oftenin the show, it's your inner
(09:47):
state that really is whatcreates your outer world. So if
you look out in the world andyou see nothing, but you know
people being horrible things,tragedies and war and.
Destruction and all that kindsof stuff. It's reflection what's
going on inside of you, period.
End of story, not to say thatthere aren't things happening
(10:07):
out there and that, you know,there's a difference between
having an awareness and beingable to be in a state of
equanimity, where you can kindof go, Okay, how do I want the
world to be, how would I likethings to end up from a space of
calmness and peace and clarity,where you can create a vision
for what you want, versus beingin a frenzied state of fear, of
(10:31):
anger, depression, all thesethings and not being able and
just going like this sucks. Thissucks. This is bad. It just
needs to not be this way, andthat's all you can do. That
doesn't help anything thatdoesn't help the world, that
doesn't help you. And so ifthere's too much of that and
you're getting an emotionalstate, it's time to disconnect
(10:53):
from these things. And that'ssomething I guys able to get,
because it really is. It's aprocess. A lot of stuff isn't
one and done, where you're justgoing to suddenly, like, switch
everything off. Maybe you will.
I don't necessarily recommendthat. I'm okay with you do
things you live your life theway you want to live your life.
(11:14):
And if you want a life of like,you know, joy, ease and love, if
you do something like you know,very brutally. That's not joy,
ease and love. And so you'regonna, if you just cut yourself
off from something harshly andlike with anger and just like,
oh, that's bad, then you stilljust have that in your life. If
(11:34):
you That's the energy you bringto it. And so if you kind of go,
Okay, well, let me do a littleless of this and try a little
more of that. And you might haveto come back later and go, Ooh,
a little bit of less of that.
And, oh, maybe something addedin that's that's not quite still
what I'm looking for. And somaybe you shift it. And so
that's another thing, theopportunity of getting to see,
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you know, what's been workingand what's not, takes a break
from, you know, my habitual wayof living, of consuming media,
of just being and getting tosee, like, well, what really
matters, what doesn't, whatreally is life and death.
Because there, there are timeswhere I'm just like, oh my gosh,
how much am I going to getbetter? Am I going to get worse?
(12:16):
If I get much worse? Am I goingto have to go to the hospital?
Or what point, at what point doI need to go to the doctor? And
so then when, you know, it'sthings like, well, do I force
myself to do a podcast when I'mI'm literally like, am I going
to make it or not? And it'slike, you know what? It can be
(12:37):
okay if it comes one week later.
It's like my health, my wellbeing, my state of being, that's
truly important. And again, thispodcast is important to me. You
guys are important to me. And sothat's why it's important that I
bring to you the best of I am,of someone who's cared, of
(13:02):
someone who is rested, assomebody who is energized and
able to bring my full self toyou. And if I'm in a diminished
state and I'm showing up and I'mlike, it's almost like a weird
Arnold
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Schwarzenegger, you pump it. It's good coming. It's
the best thing to pump.
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Yeah, if you want Arnold, you go and see Arnold.
You didn't come here for Arnold.
You came here for Justin. And ifI'm diminished, then it's best
for me to take care of me, sothen I can come and take care of
you. You know, I'm responsiblefor me. You be responsible for
you. And so starting to noticewhen maybe it's time for you to
take care of yourself, then takecare of yourself. Because if,
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again, it's one thing to haveothers there to support you, but
if you're not even willing toallow in the support, then it's
not going to do any good, andyou're just going to get worse.
And then you're kind of being anasshole. You're just being an
asshole to the people that docare for about you and do want
to help you and do want you forthe best if you're going to
(14:12):
actively work against them. Soagain, you are the master of
your world, and so if you aredoing what the world is asking
of you and working inconjunction with it, by when the
world says, Hey buddy, you'resick, it's time to rest and it's
time to reevaluate some things,if you go with that and work
(14:36):
with that, then you're going toget so much through the process,
and it's going to go veryquickly, and you're gonna come
out the other side so muchbetter off. And again, this
doesn't matter if it's, youknow, being sick or being
injured, because I've had, I'vehad knee surgeries, I've had
lots of other surgeries, youknow, or if this is a big loss
that's happened to your life,you know, whether it's a loss of
(14:57):
a job, a. Loss of arelationship, a loss of death of
a loved one, whatever it mightbe, there's gifts. There's gifts
in these experiences that youdidn't plan, and the reason that
they happen is so that you canget these gifts to create an
even more amazing world that'sbetter than you probably would
(15:19):
have if you'd just been goingaround with your plan that
didn't, that didn't bake inthese kinds of experiences that
truly give you that, that lifethat's worth living, that story
that is so rich and filled withvariety. You know if, if there
isn't the sorrows and theheartaches, then how are you
going to know that there's thejoy and the happiness and when
(15:42):
you're in these moments, andyou're not trying to just avoid
them, when you're truly in them,there can be the joy of living
even amongst you know, the thesnot and the tears and the angst
and the pain and the grief, youcan just kind of relax into it
and go, this is what's happeningright now, and I'm here, and I'm
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experiencing it, and I'm workingwith it, and I'm seeing what's
here for me, because I choose, Ichoose to live a life where I
get out of my life so manygifts, no matter what's
happening, no matter what'shappening, there are gifts,
there are lessons, and there'sways to enjoy it. And I'm going
(16:27):
to enjoy living and I'm going toget through this, and I'm going
to see how much better my lifecan be as a result of what I'm
going through now. So I'mcurious what you think. What are
some experiences that you've hadin the past that you wouldn't
have planned yet? Maybe there?
(16:49):
What was the gift? What was thejewel? What was the gem that
came through? I'd love for youto you know, let me know in the
comments. Send me a note,because I and if not, you know,
again, maybe, you know, book asession with me where we can
talk about this, and we canfind, you know, the good thing,
and it's a shift in perspective,because it's there. Just
(17:10):
sometimes we get stuck in aview, and these things sometimes
are meant to shake us out of it,but sometimes it has. We need a
little help. We need a littlehelp to see that perspective,
get that shift, to get thatgift. So then we can move on and
have new, even more incredibleexperiences. So I'm very happy
to be back, getting back on theregular cadence of every two
(17:33):
weeks to do make sure thatyou're subscribed, that you're
following and you know rate,rate this, rate, this show, five
stars, five stars. Well, youknow, let people know. Share it
with a friend. Share it with afriend. You know, yeah, so, so
good to be back, to be to bebetter and to be on the way to
(17:56):
being even better than I wasbefore I got sick, to put out
even better shows to help evenmore people have some great
impact. And love to hear whatyou got out of the show. So with
that, thank you so much and goodday. Thanks for tuning in to
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