September 2, 2025 • 28 mins
What if your slow healing, stuck relationships, and “not enough” money story had nothing to do with effort—and everything to do with what you believe about time?
In this mind-bending episode, Justin Wenck, PhD, pulls back the curtain on our most limiting assumption: how long things are supposed to take.
Healing. Money. Breakups. Business growth.Who told you it had to take this long?And what if they were full of 💩?
You’ll never look at a “timeline” the same way again.
🔑 Key Takeaways & Topics Covered:
- Why healing timelines aren’t fixed—and how belief dictates biology
- What your dentist, doctor, breakup buddy, and business guru got wrong about “normal”
- How cultural expectations + unexamined assumptions quietly control your life
- The "Jesus in Nazareth" effect—and how other people’s beliefs limit your power
- How AI and automation are forcing us to drop outdated money myths
- The hidden perks of staying stuck—and how to stop unconsciously choosing them
- Why slowing down is just as rebellious as speeding up
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Justin Wenck (00:00):
Today, I'm going to be talking about time, and
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not those traditional timemanagement type techniques that
maybe you've heard on otherpodcasters and other places,
things like that. But what areyour beliefs about time? How
long is it supposed to take forthings to happen, like healing,
making money, hitting over arelationship? So get ready, open
your mind and enjoy this timethat we're about to spend
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together. Investigating, what isyour relationship with time, and
could it shift in ways thatallow for way more than you
could ever imagine in less time?
Are you ready to live a lifewith enough time, money and
energy have relationships andconnections that delight you?
Are you ready for theextraordinary life you know
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you've been missing? If so, thenthis is the place for you. I'm a
best selling author, coach,consultant and speaker who's
worked in technology for overtwo decades, I'm a leader at
transforming people andorganizations from operating in
fear, obligation and guilt torunning off joy, ease and love.
It's time for engineeringemotions and energy with me.
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Justin Wenck, PhD, so going tostart this conversation with
something that most of us canall relate to, and then we're
going to expand that out to alot of other areas of your life.
But how long does it take you toheal? Now that can be a little
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bit of a wide ranging topic, solet's just make it super simple
of how long does it take you tomaybe heal from getting a cut?
And maybe some of you haven'teven thought about this, and
then maybe others, it's like,okay, it's like, distant, it
takes like, a week or so. Like,you cut your finger in a week or
two. It's it's gone. Yeah. Maybesome of you are like, Why does
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it have to take so fucking long?
Why can't I be like Wolverine inthe Marvel movies, who can heal
like almost instantaneously? Andthere are statistics on how long
it takes for things to heal. Andone, one reason I know this is
because, back when I was 19, Iwas going to get my tonsils
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removed, and my my surgeon atthe time, wanted to do a test,
you know, in addition to a bunchof other blood work to make sure
I'm healthy and stuff like that.
But while I was getting theother blood work taken, the
phlebotomist, who ended up beingsomebody I went to high school
with, which was a little weird,you know, there's, there's some
of these things where it's justlike, Wait somebody, somebody
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who's exactly my age. This, thiswas new to me, being doing
things in a medical setting. Andthis is going to tie in a little
bit with what we're talkingabout, and it might have had to
do with why I had the experiencewith with this, with this woman
that I did, where she had achallenge of a time, you know,
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getting the blood out of myveins, then doing this test that
I'm about to tell you, andeventually a more experienced
phlebotomist. Phlebotomist, bythe way, that's the the title of
the person that draws your bloodwhen you get your blood taken at
a lab, or whatever.
Phlebotomist, anyway, so thetest is called bleeding time,
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and it's about as fancy as itsounds. They cut you, and then
they just see how long you bleedfor. Now they have a special
tool which ensures, for the mostpart, they get a consistent
depth and size of the cut, andwhich means that this is
something that has been studied,and it's also something that
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they don't really do anymore.
Because, you know, the ideawould have been, it's like,
well, if somebody takes foreverto stop bleeding, then maybe we
don't want to do the surgery onthem, because then they're just
going to bleed out during thesurgery or the operation.
Apparently, that's turned out tonot be a good correlation. I
don't know what they do now, maythey just ask you, like, Hey, do
you have any challengesbleeding? Or I don't know what
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they do, but I've only had thisdone once, and so apparently
these the stats on this is thatthe normal range of bleeding
time was two to nine minuteswith them, the average being
somewhere between three and six.
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Now, what's funny is, is it thefact that the normal range is
two to nine, that means that,you know, I mean, most often we
go like, well, the longer onethat's unhealthy, right? Does
that means you're bleeding andyou're not stopping and you're
supposed to stop bleeding? Soit's it's like, well, if it's
over 10 minutes, there'sprobably something, some
something else that needs to belooked at, right? But the fact
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that under two minutes is alsoconsidered not normal, because
the minimum observed,apparently, is as low as one and
a half minutes for this, which,if you only took a minute and a
half to stop bleeding from.
This, you would be not normal.
And it's like, well, why are wegoing to say that that's not
normal? So already starting tosee, you know, it's time, and
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labels we put on it that thingsare supposed to stay a certain
amount of time, otherwise what?
It's not normal. And you mightbe going like, Okay, this
bleeding time thing, but whatabout, you know, other things,
like superficial wounds, youknow, like a cut. You cut your
finger while, while slicing upsome fruit. And there's been
studies done on on this,because, you know, there's some
things where they they got tocut you. They got to cut you. I
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think this was something to dowith, with like grafting, where
they need to take some, someamount of skin, put it somewhere
else. I've had gum tissuegrafting done. So I've had the
palate of my mouth tissueremoved from there so that it
could be placed on my gums. Sothere's, there's legit, you
know, help, helpful reasons whythey might cut people. And
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they've used these to dostudies. And in this they've
basically the the average, themedian healing time in this, in
the studies for this is eightdays to heal. Yet, the range I
find, I find interesting, isseven to 14 days, meaning that
some people can take as long asdouble yet, there's nobody that
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takes less than seven days forthis, this healing to happen, at
least not in this study. And Ithink because, again, our
beliefs are so powerful. What webelieve is possible is so key
into what we allow to happen inour lives. A good example of
this is the story of whenEuropean sailing ships first
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started appearing on the shoresof, you know, what is now North
central South America. You know,to them, it was considered the
new world. To the people wholive there, it was just fucking
home. Yet these people are justgoing about their business,
checking out the ocean, andthey're just like, Cool. Looks
like a beautiful day. Yet therewere giant galleons. Is that?
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What is European sailing shipsof the pre 1800s variety, you
know, made of wood and, like,huge, huge. And some of these
ships were giant. Yet the storyis that the people that were
native there could not see them,so all of a sudden they're just
walking around, and then there'slike, people that are just like,
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hey, what's going up, buddy? Andthey don't know where they came
from. Why? Because they had noconcept of a ship like that
existing, that that wasn'tsomething that was possible. It
was not even in the conception,so therefore they weren't able
to see it. And so that's howpowerful beliefs can be, as if
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we don't see something aspossible. And the thing is, it's
not just an individual. There'sthe collective belief. And often
this is told of what the beliefis, because most people have
probably been told when they cutthemselves, especially if
they've ever gone to a doctor,they'll, even if you don't ask,
they'll often tell you asthey're bandaging you up. And
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now this is going to take, youknow, anywhere from one to two
weeks to heal. And so even if,in the study, they didn't ever
tell the people that this is acommon thing, because you
probably, I didn't, you know,read how the study was
constructed, but I would imagineit would be poor form to say the
healing takes between seven to14 days. And then the whole
point is to figure out how longpeople take to heal. And so they
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probably didn't say that. Butyet, everybody that's doing the
study believes that has thatexperience, and everybody going
into that has been told that andwitnessed that their entire
life. So there's a belief aboutthe amount of time, yet there
are cases where people healmuch, much faster. And the other
thing is, is that there's partsof the body that are known, that
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are documented to heal much,much faster. So like the the
mouth is widely known forhealing much faster, where,
where cuts and wounds and thingslike that can heal in one to two
days. And so there's, there'sexplanations, yet I do find
interesting is that a lot ofthings, when you really back up
and zoom where they go, like,Well, yeah, there's this and
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this and this and this, they'rejust observing what happens and
saying that that's the reasonit's not the reason it's just
you observe that, but because Ithink in the mouth, there's,
there's something of like,there's more
stem cells, or some, there'ssome, some extra magic in the
mouth. Yet, why is that extramagic in the mouth? I think
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they're not going to have agreat explanation, because
there's a little bit of, like,whatever's in one part of your
body could probably be inanother part of the body. Just,
why does it go one place and notthe other place? Maybe it's
because we believe it onlybelongs in the mouth area, not
in the other areas. Now, I don'twant to get too much off into,
you know, the healing, but justthat there's a rain. Change of
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how long people can take toheal, and questioning like, why
are there? Why do the certainlimits exist? Because often, you
know, in the healing spaces thatare a little bit more nebulous,
that aren't, you know, a cut,you know something where it's
like, okay, of a measurablewound has been inflicted, but
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something a little bit morenebulous, like, Oh, my back
hurts, or my shoulders tight, orsomething's been going on with
my skin, something that maybe itmight might seem like it
happened overnight, which isoften kind of funny, because,
you know, there's often like,oh, I woke up and I must have
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slept wrong. So that's why myneck hurts today, and it's like,
well, but you sleep every night.
And so nothing else changed. Sosomething, something else
shifted, and the only thing thatcan really be shifting is what's
going on, you know, mentally,emotionally, that has to do with
your, your nervous system, orneurologically. So there's a
little bit of like, well,something, something that's, you
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know, within the realm of, youknow, Mind Control, mind being
in control of it has shifted,something that has changed your
body that now you've carconsciously knowing it. And so
it's these are something thatdid happen overnight yet. Did it
really happen overnight? Or isit just a something happened
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overnight as a result of maybesome things that happened over a
long period of time? Becauseit's usually those cricks and
cranks and ouchies, whateverthey take, you know, days,
weeks, months to resolve. Andoften you go to a chiropractor,
you go to a massage therapist orwhatever. And they'll often say
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like, well, you know this couldtake some time, you know, to
release, to let go, to heal, andyou know that what got you to
this point didn't happenovernight. So it might not go
away overnight. So there's oftena level setting, and usually, at
least, I think, in myexperience, the real reason why
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that is done is not because itthere's any law of the universe
that says because, becauseoften, when something finally
gets better. It feels like itpractically went away overnight,
right? There's, there's notlike, Oh, it was a measurable it
got a little bit better, alittle bit better. It's, there's
usually a little of that, butthen at some point it's like,
oh, I just don't even worryabout the thing in my neck
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anymore, or I don't worry aboutthe pain in my in my my hip,
like it just kind of just kindof went away.
Because often these types ofthings that aren't, you know, a
direct, you know, physiological,tear rip, whatever that have
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kind of happened. You know, overtime, it's the causes, more
emotional, psychological, if youwill. There's starting to be
more and more evidence tosupport this, and so it's really
the physical is a symptom ofsomething psychological,
emotional, and it's usuallythose things that need to get
worked out, because these aresignals to say, like, hey, maybe
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you need to slow down, or maybethere's something you need to
say, or maybe you just needhelp, or maybe you just need
something to change in yourlife, and that's what is often
going to take the time that'sgoing to lead to the physical
healing. And so some of it is,what do you believe about how
long these things take tohappen, not just on the physical
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level, but the emotional level?
Because let's bring this to thearea of breakups, right? Or
endings of relationships. Like,I think I grew up hearing that
like, well, you know, for everyyear you're with somebody,
that's going to take a month toget over that person. And, you
know, yes and no. I mean, itcould just depend, right? It
depends on how, how the partinghappened. So it could, it could
be, like you could be oversomebody in almost an instant,
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depending on how it ended. Yetthere could be some cases where
maybe it was just a month, butit'll take you a year or 10
years to work through that.
Nothing is bad or wrong, betteror worse. But there's no magic
to oh, this month per year thingthat you have to do that, if
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not, you're not normal, becausewe do have this tendency where
we want to be, we want to benormal or be in relation to
normal, so either be exceptionalor be within range, or would not
be bad. Or maybe there's a partof us that does want to be bad,
because there's a benefit someof these things. There's a
benefit to not getting well,like, maybe you get time off,
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maybe you get attention, maybeyou get to have a I definitely
know this for myself. When Ilook back, it's like, well, if,
if I had a body that didn't haveany pains, then why would I go
get a massage? Why would I go tothese Why would I go to a
chiropractor? Or where I get tointeract with people and have a
little bit of time that's justfor me. I get to really relax
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and get to learn how to be calm,and all these things. And so
what is the secret benefit toyour current model of how long
things take? Now, I don't wantthis to be again all about, you
know, physical healing. Butbring this to what are your
opinions of how long it takes tomaybe make money or lose money,
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right? Like, for whatever reasonit's so easy to lose money, like
casinos really make thatapparent. Yet, do you have a
belief that it takes a long timeto make lots of money that,
like, oh, to get 10% more isgoing to take me, you know, two
to three years. And the thingis, is especially in money, is
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you're going to be able to findyou're going to be able to find
examples that will break anybelief that you have. Yet,
you're probably going to havebeliefs that reinforce your core
belief about the current timeframe, that allow you to just
ignore those like, well, butthat person that made you know
millions and billions of dollarswithin just a couple years, like
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they were a bad person. So youcan't be a good person and do
that. So therefore, my model ofhow the world works, as far as
money, is still valid, becauseI'm a good person, and good
people take, you know, years toslowly increase the amount of
money they have in their life.
And one of the things is as youstart to become aware of maybe
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what the beliefs you have abouttime and how long things take,
you know, both to heal, to makemoney, to shift in
relationships, whether it'screating new ones or getting
over old ones, is starting toexpand. Of well, who, who
benefits from these beliefs,right? You know, if we look at
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the medical system, there can bebeliefs of like, well, if you
takes a while to get better,then that's more appointments.
Then that's financiallybeneficial. If it goes to like,
relationships, and it's like,oh, can take so long to get over
somebody, and it's like, well,maybe you shouldn't leave
somebody. You should stay withthem. And it's like, oh, it
takes a long time to to connectto somebody new. Then like, oh,
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yeah, I guess I better. I betterjust keep things the way they
are. And then with the moneything, it's like, well, if only
bad people can, you know, befinancially secure or make lots
of money quickly. I want to be agood person. And if it's good,
you got to stick it out slowly,and you got to wait and be
patient. Doesn't that benefit?
You know, staying, staying in awage type job where you have an
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employer that will just kind oflike tease out these, you know,
some slow, socially acceptableamounts of increases. So if you
look at what you currentlybelieve about time and how long
things take or don't take,you'll see that it kind of
supports the life that you'vehad and the world that you had.
And if maybe some of thesethings started to shift, maybe
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your life would shift, maybeyour world would shift. Maybe
you could have less pain, maybeyou could have more loving
relationships, maybe you couldhave more financial security and
abundance. So the last thingthat I kind of want to bring up
is that has to do with this ofwhat's possible based off of
your beliefs. And again, I'mgoing to be really careful here,
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because when I'm talking aboutbeliefs, I'm not talking about
your religious beliefs. Of youknow, who's of you know, what's
a deity? Who's a deity? But justof like, what do you assume is
true without any facts? And thisis, again, like, you know,
there's, there's no there's,there's, although there's lots
of observances that a cut takesabout a week to heal, there is
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actually nothing that preventsit from healing much faster. And
there's documenter proof that onActually, I did look this up,
that children heal much, muchfaster. So there's something
inherent that is possible, butthen is it? As children learn,
collect what they collectivelylike, they know you can't heal
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fast, that fast. You gotta slowit down. So they go like, okay,
I guess I don't want to beweird, so I guess it'll take a
week to heal a cut. Whereas Ithink I saw something like can
be somewhere like five days orfour days, there is this
capability in the human systemalready to do things faster than
is supposedly normal. And if westart to question and start to
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allow things to maybe not benormal, or normalize the out of
range, and start to go like,well, what's often, what serves
me, what serves you, what servesall of us, instead of just going
with what we've gotten that ifwe start to have some of these
new beliefs in just these areas,you know, especially about
money, especially in the worldof AI and robotics, where. This,
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that only, only money earnedfrom hard work is going to be
beneficial. That's not going towork out well. If you want to
benefit from AI and robotics, ifyou want to live a shit, awful
life with those things aroundthose beliefs are perfect for
that. But if you want to believethat money can just flow in
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quickly and easily with littleeffort, then AI and robotics is
going to make that possible. Sostart to see how some of these
things that maybe you believeand have accepted, what kind of
world is that going to create,whereas if you start to question
them and go like, Well, yeah, Ibelieve that something else was
possible, then wow, that thewhole lot of things could change
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in my life, in my world, and forthose that I love. So bring this
back to the area where I'm like,Okay, now that we've got what a
belief is that I want to talkabout this, let this be a
thought experiment, because Idon't want you to believe this
is true. Because again, a lot ofwhat I'm about to share with
you, the language that we haveit in, has been modified over
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many, many, many centuries byvarious people with different
understandings, differentobjectives, different things,
and so we're not even gettingwhat the original words were and
what I'm going To be sharing,what I want to share with you is
this concept of basically Jesus,the historical Jesus, and what
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was stated in the Bible. Andjust use this more as a thought
experiment, because I recentlysaw this, and it really just, it
made me reconsider some thingsin a whole new light, that in
the Bible, you know, I'm notsaying you have to believe any
of this is true, but in theconstruct, in the story, Jesus
did miracles, healings, right?
Like, you know, and turned waterinto wine. I recently saw like,
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a really funny sketch where it'sJesus, Jesus and the apostles.
They go, they go into arestaurant, like in modern day,
and they get, they get sat down.
And the waitress goes to Jesus,like, so, yeah, so, so, what do
you what do you guys want towhat do you want to drink? And
everyone starts, all theapostles start chuckling, and
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and Jesus go like, Oh, I'm we'rejust quiet guys. We're just
going to have water. We're justgoing to have water. They all
laugh. And the waitress like, Idon't, what the fuck? And
because they're laughing,because Jesus can turn water
into wine, in the Bible says,like, they're going to get free
wine, you know, they just canget water and they're going to
turn it into wine. That was thejoke of the sketch. And so
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anyway, Jesus can do miracles,if you're not familiar in the
Bible, like magic. Can do magicshit. Yet it's interesting,
when Jesus goes back to hishometown of Nazareth, cannot to
do the magic. No magic. Why? Inthe Bible, it's uses the term of
like the people didn't havefaith. Yet, another interesting
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way to look at the term faith isis beliefs, like they didn't
have beliefs that Jesus could domiracles, because they knew him
as just a carpenter, thecarpenter's son the carpenter.
And it's like, well, thecarpenter's son works wood,
doesn't work miracles. And sothinking of this that what
others believe about you andwhat you believe about you can
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be part of a constraint many ofyou that maybe don't go and
visit. You know, your yourfamily of birth very often, you
know, it's like, you might dothese amazing things out in the
world, yet you go home and it'slike, well, you're just, you're
just the person who, you know,you cracked your pants when you
were, like, nine years old. Andyou know, you just say dumb
things and that they don't wantto let you do the magic that you
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can do, whether that's, youknow, amazing copywriting, or
maybe you are a medical doctor,or all these things. So it's
very common. And so something tobe aware of when you are going
to do something you know, that'sgoing to be magic compared to
what you came from. You know,even if it is just, you know,
you're a great a great speaker,great communicator to them. They
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might never see it, you know,whatever. You might be a great
coder, but they'll never allowyou to code something up to
improve their life. They'llnever use your app, whatever.
This is kind of a common thing,but just this thought experiment
that if you know, in the contextof the story that you know they
get to get this a Jesus guy,this literally Son of God and
that powerful that that humanbelief is still that powerful
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that it basically doesn't allowa deity to do stuff. Then
imagine what your beliefs andthe beliefs of those around you
have been doing to you and toyour life and and how long
things you need to take. Have totake and start to question that
of like, does it do I reallyneed to take this much time to
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heal? Do I really need to takethis much time to get to get
inspiration? I need to take thismuch time to make money, to feel
abundant? Do I need to take thismuch time to build a business?
Do I need to take this much timeto have a good. Relationship. Do
I need to take this much time toget over a loss right? Start to
question, and then the naturalthing is, like, okay, maybe I
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could, but how do I go about it?
Well, that's a whole othertopic, and something that really
it's doable, and something thatmaybe I'll do a podcast in the
future. It's something that Ican work with, with people, one
on one, with I'm going to startto figure out there's ways to do
it in groups. So if that'ssomething that just like, ah,
there's something I really wantto change. Like, you know, maybe
reach out to me. Yet, there's,there's many people that can
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help you shift beliefs. Lots ofways to shift beliefs. So
something you could go and lookinto, but you gotta be you gotta
believe you can change what youbelieve. Otherwise, none of
these things are going to work.
You're not even going to see it.
You're not even going to seethat. There's these ways to
shift your beliefs. So withthat, I'd love to hear like,
what are some, what are someareas where you might be
questioning, I might have a newperspective on does it have to
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be this way, and you're startingto question, I'd love for you
let me know in the comments, youknow, or find me on social
media. So Justin Wenck, PhD,love to hear what's something
you're starting to go like, ooh,does that have to be so you know
what amount of time is reallynecessary to do some things in
both ways? Because maybe youwant it. Maybe it's like, well,
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you're supposed to only takefour years to go through
college, but like, maybe youwant to take, like, six years,
seven years, because you want toreally enjoy it and take your
time. Ooh, yeah, it doesn't haveto be all about doing things
faster, right? What if it'sabout slowing down and allowing
yourself to really appreciateenjoy the experience. So yeah,
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Justin Wenck, PhD, so going tostart this conversation with
something that most of us canall relate to, and then we're
going to expand that out to alot of other areas of your life.
But how long does it take you toheal? Now that can be a little
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bit of a wide ranging topic, solet's just make it super simple
of how long does it take you tomaybe heal from getting a cut?
And maybe some of you haven'teven thought about this, and
then maybe others, it's like,okay, it's like, distant, it
takes like, a week or so. Like,you cut your finger in a week or
two. It's it's gone. Yeah. Maybesome of you are like, Why does
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it have to take so fucking long?
Why can't I be like Wolverine inthe Marvel movies, who can heal
like almost instantaneously? Andthere are statistics on how long
it takes for things to heal. Andone, one reason I know this is
because, back when I was 19, Iwas going to get my tonsils
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removed, and my my surgeon atthe time, wanted to do a test,
you know, in addition to a bunchof other blood work to make sure
I'm healthy and stuff like that.
But while I was getting theother blood work taken, the
phlebotomist, who ended up beingsomebody I went to high school
with, which was a little weird,you know, there's, there's some
of these things where it's justlike, Wait somebody, somebody
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who's exactly my age. This, thiswas new to me, being doing
things in a medical setting. Andthis is going to tie in a little
bit with what we're talkingabout, and it might have had to
do with why I had the experiencewith with this, with this woman
that I did, where she had achallenge of a time, you know,
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getting the blood out of myveins, then doing this test that
I'm about to tell you, andeventually a more experienced
phlebotomist. Phlebotomist, bythe way, that's the the title of
the person that draws your bloodwhen you get your blood taken at
a lab, or whatever.
Phlebotomist, anyway, so thetest is called bleeding time,
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and it's about as fancy as itsounds. They cut you, and then
they just see how long you bleedfor. Now they have a special
tool which ensures, for the mostpart, they get a consistent
depth and size of the cut, andwhich means that this is
something that has been studied,and it's also something that
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they don't really do anymore.
Because, you know, the ideawould have been, it's like,
well, if somebody takes foreverto stop bleeding, then maybe we
don't want to do the surgery onthem, because then they're just
going to bleed out during thesurgery or the operation.
Apparently, that's turned out tonot be a good correlation. I
don't know what they do now, maythey just ask you, like, Hey, do
you have any challengesbleeding? Or I don't know what
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they do, but I've only had thisdone once, and so apparently
these the stats on this is thatthe normal range of bleeding
time was two to nine minuteswith them, the average being
somewhere between three and six.
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Now, what's funny is, is it thefact that the normal range is
two to nine, that means that,you know, I mean, most often we
go like, well, the longer onethat's unhealthy, right? Does
that means you're bleeding andyou're not stopping and you're
supposed to stop bleeding? Soit's it's like, well, if it's
over 10 minutes, there'sprobably something, some
something else that needs to belooked at, right? But the fact
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that under two minutes is alsoconsidered not normal, because
the minimum observed,apparently, is as low as one and
a half minutes for this, which,if you only took a minute and a
half to stop bleeding from.
This, you would be not normal.
And it's like, well, why are wegoing to say that that's not
normal? So already starting tosee, you know, it's time, and
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labels we put on it that thingsare supposed to stay a certain
amount of time, otherwise what?
It's not normal. And you mightbe going like, Okay, this
bleeding time thing, but whatabout, you know, other things,
like superficial wounds, youknow, like a cut. You cut your
finger while, while slicing upsome fruit. And there's been
studies done on on this,because, you know, there's some
things where they they got tocut you. They got to cut you. I
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think this was something to dowith, with like grafting, where
they need to take some, someamount of skin, put it somewhere
else. I've had gum tissuegrafting done. So I've had the
palate of my mouth tissueremoved from there so that it
could be placed on my gums. Sothere's, there's legit, you
know, help, helpful reasons whythey might cut people. And
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they've used these to dostudies. And in this they've
basically the the average, themedian healing time in this, in
the studies for this is eightdays to heal. Yet, the range I
find, I find interesting, isseven to 14 days, meaning that
some people can take as long asdouble yet, there's nobody that
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takes less than seven days forthis, this healing to happen, at
least not in this study. And Ithink because, again, our
beliefs are so powerful. What webelieve is possible is so key
into what we allow to happen inour lives. A good example of
this is the story of whenEuropean sailing ships first
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started appearing on the shoresof, you know, what is now North
central South America. You know,to them, it was considered the
new world. To the people wholive there, it was just fucking
home. Yet these people are justgoing about their business,
checking out the ocean, andthey're just like, Cool. Looks
like a beautiful day. Yet therewere giant galleons. Is that?
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What is European sailing shipsof the pre 1800s variety, you
know, made of wood and, like,huge, huge. And some of these
ships were giant. Yet the storyis that the people that were
native there could not see them,so all of a sudden they're just
walking around, and then there'slike, people that are just like,
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hey, what's going up, buddy? Andthey don't know where they came
from. Why? Because they had noconcept of a ship like that
existing, that that wasn'tsomething that was possible. It
was not even in the conception,so therefore they weren't able
to see it. And so that's howpowerful beliefs can be, as if
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we don't see something aspossible. And the thing is, it's
not just an individual. There'sthe collective belief. And often
this is told of what the beliefis, because most people have
probably been told when they cutthemselves, especially if
they've ever gone to a doctor,they'll, even if you don't ask,
they'll often tell you asthey're bandaging you up. And
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now this is going to take, youknow, anywhere from one to two
weeks to heal. And so even if,in the study, they didn't ever
tell the people that this is acommon thing, because you
probably, I didn't, you know,read how the study was
constructed, but I would imagineit would be poor form to say the
healing takes between seven to14 days. And then the whole
point is to figure out how longpeople take to heal. And so they
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probably didn't say that. Butyet, everybody that's doing the
study believes that has thatexperience, and everybody going
into that has been told that andwitnessed that their entire
life. So there's a belief aboutthe amount of time, yet there
are cases where people healmuch, much faster. And the other
thing is, is that there's partsof the body that are known, that
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are documented to heal much,much faster. So like the the
mouth is widely known forhealing much faster, where,
where cuts and wounds and thingslike that can heal in one to two
days. And so there's, there'sexplanations, yet I do find
interesting is that a lot ofthings, when you really back up
and zoom where they go, like,Well, yeah, there's this and
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this and this and this, they'rejust observing what happens and
saying that that's the reasonit's not the reason it's just
you observe that, but because Ithink in the mouth, there's,
there's something of like,there's more
stem cells, or some, there'ssome, some extra magic in the
mouth. Yet, why is that extramagic in the mouth? I think
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they're not going to have agreat explanation, because
there's a little bit of, like,whatever's in one part of your
body could probably be inanother part of the body. Just,
why does it go one place and notthe other place? Maybe it's
because we believe it onlybelongs in the mouth area, not
in the other areas. Now, I don'twant to get too much off into,
you know, the healing, but justthat there's a rain. Change of
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how long people can take toheal, and questioning like, why
are there? Why do the certainlimits exist? Because often, you
know, in the healing spaces thatare a little bit more nebulous,
that aren't, you know, a cut,you know something where it's
like, okay, of a measurablewound has been inflicted, but
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something a little bit morenebulous, like, Oh, my back
hurts, or my shoulders tight, orsomething's been going on with
my skin, something that maybe itmight might seem like it
happened overnight, which isoften kind of funny, because,
you know, there's often like,oh, I woke up and I must have
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slept wrong. So that's why myneck hurts today, and it's like,
well, but you sleep every night.
And so nothing else changed. Sosomething, something else
shifted, and the only thing thatcan really be shifting is what's
going on, you know, mentally,emotionally, that has to do with
your, your nervous system, orneurologically. So there's a
little bit of like, well,something, something that's, you
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know, within the realm of, youknow, Mind Control, mind being
in control of it has shifted,something that has changed your
body that now you've carconsciously knowing it. And so
it's these are something thatdid happen overnight yet. Did it
really happen overnight? Or isit just a something happened
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overnight as a result of maybesome things that happened over a
long period of time? Becauseit's usually those cricks and
cranks and ouchies, whateverthey take, you know, days,
weeks, months to resolve. Andoften you go to a chiropractor,
you go to a massage therapist orwhatever. And they'll often say
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like, well, you know this couldtake some time, you know, to
release, to let go, to heal, andyou know that what got you to
this point didn't happenovernight. So it might not go
away overnight. So there's oftena level setting, and usually, at
least, I think, in myexperience, the real reason why
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that is done is not because itthere's any law of the universe
that says because, becauseoften, when something finally
gets better. It feels like itpractically went away overnight,
right? There's, there's notlike, Oh, it was a measurable it
got a little bit better, alittle bit better. It's, there's
usually a little of that, butthen at some point it's like,
oh, I just don't even worryabout the thing in my neck
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anymore, or I don't worry aboutthe pain in my in my my hip,
like it just kind of just kindof went away.
Because often these types ofthings that aren't, you know, a
direct, you know, physiological,tear rip, whatever that have
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kind of happened. You know, overtime, it's the causes, more
emotional, psychological, if youwill. There's starting to be
more and more evidence tosupport this, and so it's really
the physical is a symptom ofsomething psychological,
emotional, and it's usuallythose things that need to get
worked out, because these aresignals to say, like, hey, maybe
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you need to slow down, or maybethere's something you need to
say, or maybe you just needhelp, or maybe you just need
something to change in yourlife, and that's what is often
going to take the time that'sgoing to lead to the physical
healing. And so some of it is,what do you believe about how
long these things take tohappen, not just on the physical
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level, but the emotional level?
Because let's bring this to thearea of breakups, right? Or
endings of relationships. Like,I think I grew up hearing that
like, well, you know, for everyyear you're with somebody,
that's going to take a month toget over that person. And, you
know, yes and no. I mean, itcould just depend, right? It
depends on how, how the partinghappened. So it could, it could
be, like you could be oversomebody in almost an instant,
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depending on how it ended. Yetthere could be some cases where
maybe it was just a month, butit'll take you a year or 10
years to work through that.
Nothing is bad or wrong, betteror worse. But there's no magic
to oh, this month per year thingthat you have to do that, if
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not, you're not normal, becausewe do have this tendency where
we want to be, we want to benormal or be in relation to
normal, so either be exceptionalor be within range, or would not
be bad. Or maybe there's a partof us that does want to be bad,
because there's a benefit someof these things. There's a
benefit to not getting well,like, maybe you get time off,
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maybe you get attention, maybeyou get to have a I definitely
know this for myself. When Ilook back, it's like, well, if,
if I had a body that didn't haveany pains, then why would I go
get a massage? Why would I go tothese Why would I go to a
chiropractor? Or where I get tointeract with people and have a
little bit of time that's justfor me. I get to really relax
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and get to learn how to be calm,and all these things. And so
what is the secret benefit toyour current model of how long
things take? Now, I don't wantthis to be again all about, you
know, physical healing. Butbring this to what are your
opinions of how long it takes tomaybe make money or lose money,
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right? Like, for whatever reasonit's so easy to lose money, like
casinos really make thatapparent. Yet, do you have a
belief that it takes a long timeto make lots of money that,
like, oh, to get 10% more isgoing to take me, you know, two
to three years. And the thingis, is especially in money, is
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you're going to be able to findyou're going to be able to find
examples that will break anybelief that you have. Yet,
you're probably going to havebeliefs that reinforce your core
belief about the current timeframe, that allow you to just
ignore those like, well, butthat person that made you know
millions and billions of dollarswithin just a couple years, like
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they were a bad person. So youcan't be a good person and do
that. So therefore, my model ofhow the world works, as far as
money, is still valid, becauseI'm a good person, and good
people take, you know, years toslowly increase the amount of
money they have in their life.
And one of the things is as youstart to become aware of maybe
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what the beliefs you have abouttime and how long things take,
you know, both to heal, to makemoney, to shift in
relationships, whether it'screating new ones or getting
over old ones, is starting toexpand. Of well, who, who
benefits from these beliefs,right? You know, if we look at
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the medical system, there can bebeliefs of like, well, if you
takes a while to get better,then that's more appointments.
Then that's financiallybeneficial. If it goes to like,
relationships, and it's like,oh, can take so long to get over
somebody, and it's like, well,maybe you shouldn't leave
somebody. You should stay withthem. And it's like, oh, it
takes a long time to to connectto somebody new. Then like, oh,
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yeah, I guess I better. I betterjust keep things the way they
are. And then with the moneything, it's like, well, if only
bad people can, you know, befinancially secure or make lots
of money quickly. I want to be agood person. And if it's good,
you got to stick it out slowly,and you got to wait and be
patient. Doesn't that benefit?
You know, staying, staying in awage type job where you have an
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employer that will just kind oflike tease out these, you know,
some slow, socially acceptableamounts of increases. So if you
look at what you currentlybelieve about time and how long
things take or don't take,you'll see that it kind of
supports the life that you'vehad and the world that you had.
And if maybe some of thesethings started to shift, maybe
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your life would shift, maybeyour world would shift. Maybe
you could have less pain, maybeyou could have more loving
relationships, maybe you couldhave more financial security and
abundance. So the last thingthat I kind of want to bring up
is that has to do with this ofwhat's possible based off of
your beliefs. And again, I'mgoing to be really careful here,
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because when I'm talking aboutbeliefs, I'm not talking about
your religious beliefs. Of youknow, who's of you know, what's
a deity? Who's a deity? But justof like, what do you assume is
true without any facts? And thisis, again, like, you know,
there's, there's no there's,there's, although there's lots
of observances that a cut takesabout a week to heal, there is
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actually nothing that preventsit from healing much faster. And
there's documenter proof that onActually, I did look this up,
that children heal much, muchfaster. So there's something
inherent that is possible, butthen is it? As children learn,
collect what they collectivelylike, they know you can't heal
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fast, that fast. You gotta slowit down. So they go like, okay,
I guess I don't want to beweird, so I guess it'll take a
week to heal a cut. Whereas Ithink I saw something like can
be somewhere like five days orfour days, there is this
capability in the human systemalready to do things faster than
is supposedly normal. And if westart to question and start to
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allow things to maybe not benormal, or normalize the out of
range, and start to go like,well, what's often, what serves
me, what serves you, what servesall of us, instead of just going
with what we've gotten that ifwe start to have some of these
new beliefs in just these areas,you know, especially about
money, especially in the worldof AI and robotics, where. This,
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that only, only money earnedfrom hard work is going to be
beneficial. That's not going towork out well. If you want to
benefit from AI and robotics, ifyou want to live a shit, awful
life with those things aroundthose beliefs are perfect for
that. But if you want to believethat money can just flow in
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quickly and easily with littleeffort, then AI and robotics is
going to make that possible. Sostart to see how some of these
things that maybe you believeand have accepted, what kind of
world is that going to create,whereas if you start to question
them and go like, Well, yeah, Ibelieve that something else was
possible, then wow, that thewhole lot of things could change
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in my life, in my world, and forthose that I love. So bring this
back to the area where I'm like,Okay, now that we've got what a
belief is that I want to talkabout this, let this be a
thought experiment, because Idon't want you to believe this
is true. Because again, a lot ofwhat I'm about to share with
you, the language that we haveit in, has been modified over
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many, many, many centuries byvarious people with different
understandings, differentobjectives, different things,
and so we're not even gettingwhat the original words were and
what I'm going To be sharing,what I want to share with you is
this concept of basically Jesus,the historical Jesus, and what
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was stated in the Bible. Andjust use this more as a thought
experiment, because I recentlysaw this, and it really just, it
made me reconsider some thingsin a whole new light, that in
the Bible, you know, I'm notsaying you have to believe any
of this is true, but in theconstruct, in the story, Jesus
did miracles, healings, right?
Like, you know, and turned waterinto wine. I recently saw like,
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a really funny sketch where it'sJesus, Jesus and the apostles.
They go, they go into arestaurant, like in modern day,
and they get, they get sat down.
And the waitress goes to Jesus,like, so, yeah, so, so, what do
you what do you guys want towhat do you want to drink? And
everyone starts, all theapostles start chuckling, and
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and Jesus go like, Oh, I'm we'rejust quiet guys. We're just
going to have water. We're justgoing to have water. They all
laugh. And the waitress like, Idon't, what the fuck? And
because they're laughing,because Jesus can turn water
into wine, in the Bible says,like, they're going to get free
wine, you know, they just canget water and they're going to
turn it into wine. That was thejoke of the sketch. And so
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anyway, Jesus can do miracles,if you're not familiar in the
Bible, like magic. Can do magicshit. Yet it's interesting,
when Jesus goes back to hishometown of Nazareth, cannot to
do the magic. No magic. Why? Inthe Bible, it's uses the term of
like the people didn't havefaith. Yet, another interesting
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way to look at the term faith isis beliefs, like they didn't
have beliefs that Jesus could domiracles, because they knew him
as just a carpenter, thecarpenter's son the carpenter.
And it's like, well, thecarpenter's son works wood,
doesn't work miracles. And sothinking of this that what
others believe about you andwhat you believe about you can
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be part of a constraint many ofyou that maybe don't go and
visit. You know, your yourfamily of birth very often, you
know, it's like, you might dothese amazing things out in the
world, yet you go home and it'slike, well, you're just, you're
just the person who, you know,you cracked your pants when you
were, like, nine years old. Andyou know, you just say dumb
things and that they don't wantto let you do the magic that you
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can do, whether that's, youknow, amazing copywriting, or
maybe you are a medical doctor,or all these things. So it's
very common. And so something tobe aware of when you are going
to do something you know, that'sgoing to be magic compared to
what you came from. You know,even if it is just, you know,
you're a great a great speaker,great communicator to them. They
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might never see it, you know,whatever. You might be a great
coder, but they'll never allowyou to code something up to
improve their life. They'llnever use your app, whatever.
This is kind of a common thing,but just this thought experiment
that if you know, in the contextof the story that you know they
get to get this a Jesus guy,this literally Son of God and
that powerful that that humanbelief is still that powerful
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that it basically doesn't allowa deity to do stuff. Then
imagine what your beliefs andthe beliefs of those around you
have been doing to you and toyour life and and how long
things you need to take. Have totake and start to question that
of like, does it do I reallyneed to take this much time to
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heal? Do I really need to takethis much time to get to get
inspiration? I need to take thismuch time to make money, to feel
abundant? Do I need to take thismuch time to build a business?
Do I need to take this much timeto have a good. Relationship. Do
I need to take this much time toget over a loss right? Start to
question, and then the naturalthing is, like, okay, maybe I
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could, but how do I go about it?
Well, that's a whole othertopic, and something that really
it's doable, and something thatmaybe I'll do a podcast in the
future. It's something that Ican work with, with people, one
on one, with I'm going to startto figure out there's ways to do
it in groups. So if that'ssomething that just like, ah,
there's something I really wantto change. Like, you know, maybe
reach out to me. Yet, there's,there's many people that can
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help you shift beliefs. Lots ofways to shift beliefs. So
something you could go and lookinto, but you gotta be you gotta
believe you can change what youbelieve. Otherwise, none of
these things are going to work.
You're not even going to see it.
You're not even going to seethat. There's these ways to
shift your beliefs. So withthat, I'd love to hear like,
what are some, what are someareas where you might be
questioning, I might have a newperspective on does it have to
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be this way, and you're startingto question, I'd love for you
let me know in the comments, youknow, or find me on social
media. So Justin Wenck, PhD,love to hear what's something
you're starting to go like, ooh,does that have to be so you know
what amount of time is reallynecessary to do some things in
both ways? Because maybe youwant it. Maybe it's like, well,
(26:20):
you're supposed to only takefour years to go through
college, but like, maybe youwant to take, like, six years,
seven years, because you want toreally enjoy it and take your
time. Ooh, yeah, it doesn't haveto be all about doing things
faster, right? What if it'sabout slowing down and allowing
yourself to really appreciateenjoy the experience. So yeah,
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love to hear what you guys aregetting from this. Thanks so
much for listening, watching, dothe like the subscribe the rate
and love to hear from you. Sowith that, thank you and good
day. Thanks for tuning in toengineering emotions and energy
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