It's Therapy Thursday!
What happens when life breaks you completely? After losing her teenage son to a violent crime and surviving an attack by a serial killer just months later, Sylvia Moore Myers discovered a profound truth that transformed her understanding of trauma: we aren't designed to heal—we're designed to scar.
This realization sparked her journey to become a traumatologist and author of "Gold Scars," where she shares how trauma and grief can become beautiful parts of our story rather than permanent sources of pain. Drawing from Japanese Kintsugi—the art of mending broken pottery with gold—Sylvia teaches that proper mending actually makes us more beautiful and valuable than before.
Throughout our conversation, Sylvia dismantles common misconceptions about grief recovery. She explains why touching someone during emotional sharing disrupts the healing process, how our culture "broke grief" by making death sterile and ceremonial, and the importance of supporting the bereaved long after the funeral. Her practical wisdom offers hope without minimizing suffering—a rare combination in trauma recovery.
Most powerfully, Sylvia shares her personal miracle story of beating cancer during pregnancy against medical advice, demonstrating how faith sustained her through impossible circumstances. Her "seven H's" framework for healing provides actionable steps for anyone navigating their own trauma journey.
Whether you're personally working through grief or supporting someone who is, this episode offers transformative insights that honor pain while illuminating the path forward. As Sylvia explains, "I didn't need a way to forget what happened—I needed a better way to remember."
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Host Candace Fleming
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