In this episode of the EZ Conversations Podcast, Furkhan engages in a compelling conversation with Bruce Chalmer, a seasoned psychologist who has been focusing on couples therapy for over 30 years. They explore themes of betrayal, forgiveness, and resilience in relationships. Bruce shares insights from his extensive practice, discussing the evolution of mental health perceptions, the impact of ideologies on relationships, and the complexities of navigating modern marital issues. The discussion extends to societal changes, the effect of technology, and the significance of faith and curiosity in healing and maintaining healthy relationships. Bruce also introduces practical concepts from his works, including his podcast 'Couples Therapy in Seven Words' and his books on couples therapy.
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a psychologist in Vermont who has been working with couples for over thirty years. His ideas have helped thousands of couples and their therapists through his teaching, consulting, and books. With his wife, Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”
Dr. Chalmer is the author of three books:
Betrayal and Forgiveness: How to Navigate the Turmoil and Learn to Trust Again
It’s Not About Communication! Why Everything You Know About Couples Therapy is Wrong
Reigniting the Spark: Why Stable Couples Lose Intimacy, and How to Get It Back
Website: https://brucechalmer.com
Podcast website: https://ctin7.com
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:35 Bruce's Background and Career
02:37 Evolution of Mental Health
05:45 Changes in Couples Therapy
10:43 Challenges in Modern Relationships
19:37 Navigating Betrayal and Forgiveness
28:48 Understanding Betrayal and Forgiveness
29:41 Three Steps to Forgiveness
31:53 The Role of Faith in Healing
34:32 Self-Fulfilling Prophecies in Relationships
38:00 Weaponizing Knowledge in Therapy
44:11 The Impact of Ideologies on Conversations
53:21 Navigating Complex Issues in Relationships and Society
57:33 Conclusion and Resources
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