Fake Love and Flying Monkeys
A Toxic relationship and Fake love looks real—until it destroys you. Welcome to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, the podcast that exposes the hidden dynamics of toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, and emotional manipulation. Hosted by Nova Gibson, leading trauma-informed counsellor and Director of Brighter Outlook Narcissistic Abuse Counselling, this podcast is your guide to breaking free from the confusion, fear, and self-doubt that come with being entangled with a narcissist. In every episode, Nova draws from years of experience working with survivors to explore the complex, often covert tactics used in emotionally abusive relationships—from gaslighting, triangulation, and the silent treatment to smear campaigns and intermittent reinforcement. Whether you're struggling with a narcissistic partner, parent, boss, or friend, Fake Love and Flying Monkeys gives you the tools and knowledge to understand the abuse, trust your instincts, and reclaim your power—even if the narcissist has never been formally diagnosed. This is more than a podcast—it’s a lifeline. You’ll get: Clear explanations of narcissistic behaviour patterns Practical strategies for setting boundaries and detaching Real talk about the emotional rollercoaster of trauma bonding Validation, clarity, and a path toward healing from narcissistic abuse If you've ever felt trapped in a relationship that chips away at your self-worth, this podcast will help you name it, face it, and finally break free. You’re not alone, and you’re not crazy. You’re in the fog of narcissistic abuse—and Nova is here to help guide you out. Visit https://www.brighteroutlooknarcissisticabusecounselling.com.au/ for more support and resources. It’s time to expose the fake love, silence the flying monkeys, and rewrite your story.
Episodes
Trigger warning: Abuse doesn’t always start with obvious violence — it often begins with intimidation, manipulation, and control. The slammed fist into the wall beside your head, a plate hurled that just misses, your car blocked in so you can’t leave, or the threat of suicide if you try to walk away. These are deliberate tactics designed to dominate, silence, and keep you trapped in fear.
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For a narcissist, the most terrifying moment isn’t when you argue, fight, or even walk out the door. Their real breaking point comes when they finally realise you are never coming back.
(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website at
https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying I explo...
Ever wondered why some friendships leave you feeling drained, anxious, or doubting yourself? It might not be you — it could be a covert narcissist hiding in plain sight. In this episode, we dive into the subtle but serious dangers of having a covert narcissist friend.
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Ever find yourself constantly second-guessing your reality, apologising for things you didn’t do, or walking on eggshells to avoid someone’s anger? These are not just “relationship problems” — they may be signs you’re caught in the cycle of narcissistic abuse.
(For 1:1 online counselling/support in healing from and understanding your own toxic relationship please visit my website at www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au)
In this epis...
The female narcissist is often compared to a black widow spider — alluring, seductive, and deadly to her prey. In relationships, her weapon of choice is emasculation. She strips her victim of confidence, ridicules his masculinity, and weaves a web of control that leaves him doubting his worth.
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To outsiders, narcissistic families often appear flawless—supportive parents, successful children, and a picture-perfect life. Yet beneath the surface lies manipulation, control, and emotional abuse that remain hidden from the public eye.
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
Thi...
What do you do when the narcissist’s texts flip between “I love you” and radio silence? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the real meaning behind their late-night messages, sudden love bombs, ghosting tactics, and manipulative wordplay.
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Ever been hit with anger that comes out of nowhere — and somehow leaves you questioning yourself?
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive into narcissistic rage: what it really is, why narcissists explode over seemingly “nothing,” and why it’s never your fault.
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Have you ever had a narcissist in your life say, “Let’s be friends” after a breakup or fallout? In this episode, we dive deep into what they really mean, why it’s not about genuine friendship, and how these manipulative words keep you trapped in the trauma bond.
(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website at
https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/onlin...
Struggling with narcissistic abuse? Learn the 6 damaging lies narcissists tell others behind your back to manipulate, isolate, and control the narrative.
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode, I reveal six things narcissists commonly say about you behind your back ...
If you’ve been wondering why healing feels like a rollercoaster, why your body stays on high alert long after the abuse ends, or why everyday moments can trigger intense emotional reactions, this episode is for you.
(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website at
https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this Part 2 episode of ...
If you're still feeling anxious, jumpy, or emotionally raw long after leaving a narcissistic relationship, you're not alone.
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In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 common emotional triggers survivors ex...
Ever feel like the narcissist got away with everything while you were left to pick up the pieces?
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this powerful episode, I unpack the brutal aftermath of narcissistic abuse—why they seem to be thriving, why you're stuck with all the t...
Why does the narcissist feel so threatened by the person they once love-bombed, idealised, and tried to control?
(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website at
https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this powerful episode, I dive into the rising phenomenon of the Super Empath — the highly intuitive, emotionally intelligent i...
Do narcissists actually believe the stuff they say?
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down 7 of the most common—and most mind-bending—delusions all narcissists believe.
This is the deep dive every survivor need...
What really happens when the narcissist loses control of you, and realises their grip on you is gone?
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I break down the moment every survivor of narcissistic abuse eventually faces—the moment the...
Ever had someone say, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” and leave you feeling more dismissed than understood? If so, you might have just encountered one of the covert narcissist’s most manipulative tactics in action.
(For 1 on 1 online counselling in your own toxic relationship/narcissistic abuse recovery please visit my website at
https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode, we...
Think it's just romantic partners who can be narcissistic? Think again.
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m diving deep into how narcissism shows up in all types of relationships—not just the romantic ones. That charming ...
Ever had a “friend” who seems supportive, checks in on you sweetly… and then somehow everything you say magically makes its way back to the narcissist? Yep—that’s the flying monkey friend.
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this episode, we’re breaking down one of the most ...
They act like your best friend in the meeting... and your worst nightmare behind closed doors.
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https://brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au/online-counselling-services/ )
In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the manipulative world of the workplace narcissist—those c...
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