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January 13, 2025 10 mins

Do you think dating is a waste of time? I sure used to. It all seemed so futile. 

Year after year would slip by and all I’d have to show for it was another heartbreak or 2 if I’d managed to meet anyone I was interested in at all.

You cannot afford to spend your time this way. It’s time to make some changes.

Time is not your friend as a single woman. I know this is harsh, but I'm not here to blow smoke at you and tell you fairytales.If you want a great guy, it’s only going to get harder, so stop wasting your time asap. Here are the top ways I see women wasting their time in dating.

Not giving good guys a chance. You think you’re saving time by cutting them off early, but you’re shooting yourself in the foot.

Staying with the wrong guys too long. A man who is not in love with you or doesn’t share your relationship goals is a waste of time. Get rid of him.

Hiding and calling it healing. You need to be out meeting and dating men. When you take time off and don’t do anything with it or learn from what you’ve been through, you’re likely to repeat the same patterns the next time you date. Time alone doesn’t help anything. It’s like pausing in the middle of remodeling your house. When you come back, nothing has improved.

Waiting for the “right time”. There is no perfect time to do this. The right time is when you decide you want someone to share your life with. It gets harder the longer you wait.

Holding out for your prince. I see so many women holding out for a fantasy of a man who does not exist. What exactly are you hoping for? Do you know anyone like this in real life? If so, why aren’t you dating him? I want you to answer these questions.

If you’re doing any of these things, you’re not alone. But if you want to find a great guy, you’ll need to make some changes.

I can help you do this in 2025. 


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