Have you ever stopped seeing a man because you were afraid of leading him on? What exactly does it really mean to lead a man on?
I asked the Googles, and what I found was very interesting.
Leading someone on is sending mixed signals, deliberately giving a false impression of romantic interest, excessive friendliness or flirting with no intention of pursuing a romantic relationship, seeking validation or avoiding honest conversations.
My guess is that you would not intentionally do any of these things because you are a decent human being.
Continuing to see a man you’re uncertain about in order to give him a chance to grow on you is NOT leading a man on, it is giving a connection a chance to develop.
When you stop seeing a man who’s excited about you because you’re afraid of leading him on, you could very well be sabotaging your chances of getting into a good relationship at all.
This is because the best relationships tend to be the ones where the man is more excited about the woman and is motivated to move the relationship forward. He’s willing to do the work to get it off the ground.
Since there are 2 people in the relationship, it stands to reason that one of them will be the more excited one, and it works better when it’s the man.
If the only guys you ever give a chance to are the ones who aren’t as excited as you are, you’re shooting yourself in the foot.
So what should you do?I recommend continuing to see men who do not display red flags and that you have some level of attraction toward. This can generally be a 4 and above on a scale of 1-10.
You don’t find them seriously unattractive, you’re just not quite sure.This is not disingenuous, it’s just giving a chance for a connection to develop over time, which often can happen. You don’t need to be blinded by lust within minutes of meeting a man for him to be a real contender.There’s no need to lead a man on or be dishonest. You can be kind, open and friendly.
Men actually enjoy having the opportunity to court a woman and win her when they are excited about her.We all want a man to woo us and win us, and in order to do so we need to let him stay around long enough to do so.
The men who aren’t excited about you are never going to do this, so you need to be open to the men who are. It’s way more fun once you get used to it.
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