It really sucks to put your best foot forward, get on a dating app and start chatting with guys and then have them send you an inappropriate picture.It’s awful and beyond disrespectful.
It infuriates me that men do this and if this has happened to you, I’m so sorry.
People really should treat each other better than this.But before you delete your dating apps and swear off dating and/or men, I want you to hear me out.
I’m going to talk about why this happens and how you can shut it down.
Online dating can be a depersonalizing experience, just like being in traffic. We treat each other much worse in traffic than we would walking on the sidewalk.
Dating apps are a lot like this. We all tend to forget there are actual humans behind those pixels. So do your best to remember and not take this personally. It’s human nature.
I still want you to block and delete men who do this, but don’t take it personally or swear off the apps.
Now let’s talk about my best tips for making sure you never experience this again.
Make sure your profile is PG rated. You can show a little cleavage and look good, but no bikini shots or showing too much skin. You can save those kinds of things for when he’s your boyfriend. Pictures like this tend to attract the wrong kind of attention.
This extends to what you write in your profile. Nothing suggestive. No talk of massages or anything steamy.
When men send you messages or texts, they often start to test the waters by being flirty or suggestive. If you tolerate this it tends to escalate and that’s when they start sending this stuff. I suggest you shut it down immediately if there’s anything suggestive happening in those early messages.
If this resonates with you, I want you to go to bit.ly/ForeverMan or click here to apply or for a call with me where we’ll create your very own custom man plan to help you get into the kind of relationship you really want.
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