If you’re anything like me when I was single, you just want to skip to the good part and be in an amazing relationship.
Looking for a guy is hard. Early dating feels clunky and awkward.
You think that if you could just meet the right person and get into a relationship, everything would be fine.
I found out from experience that this is not true at all.
I think that dating being what it is is the Universe’s way of getting you ready for that relationship you want so much.
Relationships don’t just happen, they are built.
Healthy relationships take skills to build and maintain and if you don’t possess these skills you likely won’t be able to get into a relationship in the first place, and if you do it either won’t be healthy or it won’t last. Or both.
I know that is not what society tells us. We’ve been weaned on this narrative that we will meet the right person and then everything will fall into place, but if you’re over 40 and this has not happened yet, it is very likely that a skill gap is responsible for this, not bad luck.
Hoping that a relationship falls out of the sky is like trying to run a marathon when you haven’t trained for it. Even if you manage to make it for a couple of miles, you won’t finish and you’ll likely end up with an injury.You know you need to train for a marathon.
Dating is like training for a relationship.
Some people are naturally better at running, younger, or in better shape, but most people can train for a marathon and finish if they are willing to put in the effort.
Dating is similar.So, instead of complaining about how hard dating is, ask yourself if you are willing to take this on as a training program for getting into the relationship you want.And if the answer is yes, then let’s get to work.
I have a great resource to help you create your very own custom man plan so that you can find a quality man ASAP.
Click here to download it or go to bit.ly/MANPLAN
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