May 27, 2025 • 24 mins
Financial survival sometimes feels like a high-wire act without a safety net. Ever had that sinking feeling when you discover your car wasn't stolen—it was repossessed? That moment of panic when you realize you've lost your transportation, your independence, and possibly your dignity all at once?
This raw, unflinching conversation dives deep into the economic pressures crushing everyday Americans. When Tesla vehicles can now repo themselves and drive back to the dealership, we've entered a new era of financial humiliation. But beyond the technology, it's the human cost that matters—the shame of sitting across from someone who scolds you like a child while you scramble to get your life back on track.
The numbers tell a stark story: $215,000 annually for a family to live "comfortably" in Atlanta. College professors moonlighting at grocery stores just to make rent. Young adults with jobs who can't afford to move out. What happened to the American dream? We're examining how the gap between income and cost of living forces impossible choices—including people staying in unhealthy relationships purely for financial security.
Child support presents another complex dimension, where well-intentioned parents sometimes find themselves labeled "deadbeats" while struggling to support themselves on what remains after payments. The quick social media judgments miss the nuanced reality many face trying to fulfill obligations to multiple households on insufficient income.
Ready for an honest conversation about survival economics? Listen in, and maybe you'll feel less alone in your own financial struggles. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is push pride aside and acknowledge we weren't "designed in this life to be here by ourselves."
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
And now our feature presentation.
Yo, oh, I'm going to dump it.
You like a?
Yeah, hey, you know we got tolisten to that YN R&B.
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If you don't know what that YNR&B is, that means you ain't
never done something like that.
If I up this case, I'm dumpingit everybody.
I'm talking about everybody.
Hey, welcome to four only.
Hey, I'm that little nigga thaty'all know in real life I'm
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Jack.
Why the hell am I holding myhot sauce in my other hand like
it's a fucking beer?
But anyway, I want to welcomey'all to four only.
Yeah, we cooking over here.
We got fried fish.
You know we got to put a littlehot sauce on the fried fish.
This is not Tabasco.
By the way, this is not Tabasco.
You do not got to do like like.
We got to do like that shit,like graciously here on Four
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Steps Only.
But anyway, welcome to FourSteps Only.
Hey, man, I just got onequestion.
I don't hear been hearing thiswild ass shit about these tesla
trucks and these teslas.
How about them repoingthemselves, man?
I heard I was reading thisarticle the other day where the
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tesla truck backed out thedriveway while the guy was
walking out to his car and droveitself back to the dealership.
Do you know how disappointingthat shit that should have make
you be?
Do you know how shit that?
Because you were a couplepayments behind?
I know a lot of y'all don't knowhow the fuck that feels, but I
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know how that shit feels becauseI done had some shit repo
before man, I done walkedoutside my shit was gone.
I thought somebody stole myshit.
I'm like, oh my god, oh my god,my shit gone, my shit gone, man
.
I'm calling the police.
They're gonna tell it'sdepressing when the police tell
you no, sir, your shit wasn'tstolen, it was actually repoed.
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It's like what, like what isyour response back to that?
To where you, they tell you anddisrespectful to you, to let
you know they want to laughunder their breath at you
because you having a whole panicattack you, you about to damn
near cry.
You don't know how you're gonnaget to work.
You don't know how you're gonnaget the baby some goddamn food.
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Your, your shit just got repoed.
Well, what do you say?
Oh, appreciate it.
Oh, oh, let me go find my shit.
Let me call these folks.
Let me ask y'all a question howmany of y'all have actually had
some shit repoed?
Because that shit, that's somedepressing ass shit.
Because I remember that timewhen my shit got repoed oh my
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God I'm talking about.
I had shit that I needed in thecar, but they won't tell you
where the car is until you'reable to pay for it, unless you
want to come get some of yourstuff or some of your property
out the car.
And sometimes you better hopeto god you got an honest
motherfucker repo in your shitbecause they might take some
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shit out there.
I hope to god you ain't got nocash.
Hope to god you ain't gotnothing valuable in that
motherfucker, because while theygoing through it, they shifting
through it, they gonna betaking some of your shit.
I'm just letting you know thatthis is this some real deal shit
.
I'm just letting you know if,if, if I was a repo man and you
left some cash or some coins orsome you know some jingle
jingles in that motherfucker,I'm taking your shit.
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I'm just, I'm just gonna letyou know and you better, I pray,
I pray to god.
These repo men don't smoke or no, no, no, no, reefer nothing,
because I know half, I know alot of y'all out there leave
roaches and goddamn blunts iny'all's cars while y'all are,
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like you, smoking in traffic.
Because I mean, I've been on 85before.
I'm talking about 85 goddamnflying Car fly past me.
Only thing I smell is marijuanacoming through that
motherfucker.
Only thing I can think is, goddamn, if we on 85 and I know
that shit potent, I know damnwell the police can smell it if
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they pull up beside you.
So y'all, some bravemotherfuckers, will do so.
But just for a hint, just fory'all repo men, hey man, I'm
going to tell y'all like thisright now, I done seen too many
folks goddamn been lacing andsprinkling fairy dust, talking
about it's a fairy blunt thatthey smoking.
A fairy blunt.
What the fuck is a fairy blunt?
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That motherfucker ain't got noglitter in that bitch.
That motherfucker got somegoddamn.
That motherfucker got some toottoot in that motherfucker.
You hear me that motherfuckergot them 30-30ot in that
motherfucker.
You hear me that motherfuckergot them 30, 30s in that
motherfucker.
That motherfucker might gotsome fentanyl in that
motherfucker.
But that just tells you rightthere that you cannot smoke with
everybody.
You can't do shit witheverybody.
That that does certain habitsor you think does the same shit
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that you do.
But anyway, let's get back tothis repo shit.
Man, when my shit got repoed,I'm calling around.
I call the goddamn folks.
Yeah, you can get your car backif you got.
Um, they hit me with like 3800.
I said 3800, I know I ain'tbehind that far, bro.
They put taxes, fees, toes,everything else on top of that,
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motherfucker, just to get someextra shit out you, just because
they were inconvenienced.
Nah, motherfucker, I had tocall an Uber or call my mama to
bring me up, this motherfucker,just to get my shit back.
Man, I'm going to tell you likethis that's some depressing ass
shit that you'll ever do.
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I'm talking about depressing,depressing Shit.
I remember oh, another folks, mycousin called me one time.
I am not going to put hisbusiness out there, but my
cousin, like my locked in cousin, not the cousin that you don't
fuck with, really not the cousinthat's a junkie, the cousin
that you actually fuck with,that actually calls you every
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day and y'all just chop it upand y'all talk.
So he done, he done hit me upsomeone's on, bro, my car gone,
my car gone.
I don't know what the fuckhappened.
Tell me why.
Somebody done sold him a carwith a lien on it.
He ain't know it had a lien onit.
When, I think, when them carloan places had a lien on them
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title max places?
Yeah, boy, that motherfuckertold my son.
He told him he woke up at eighto'clock in the morning freaking
the fuck out.
Tell my son, bro, bro, I'm justabout to go buy me a goddamn
cigar from the store and my cargone.
Bro.
I said I'm stressed out overhere, bro, shit, what the fuck
I'm supposed to do?
Bro, they, they took his carfor five hundred dollars, five,
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five hundred dollars.
And that shit's depressingbecause I mean, if you, if you,
if your cousin ain't never beenthrough it, they're gonna be
judgmental as fuck, unless yougot a cousin that's been through
some shit and he's gonna belike this hey, bro, shit, it's
gonna be all right, this shitdidn't happen to me before.
It's fucked up, but we're gonnawork through it.
We're gonna figure out what thefuck did it take to get your,
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get your car back.
As long as it ain't anastronomical amount, shit, we're
gonna get that motherfuckerback, brother, there's no
worries.
And if they cause any damage toit, shit, you're gonna get that
motherfucker back and you'regonna get some shit out of him.
So he ended up getting his carback.
I got my car back also, butit's just the hoops and hurdles
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that you have to go through toget it back.
But even on top of that, it'sthe, the bullshit.
How you got to look at themfolks faces when you got to sit
down with them and they and theygot to talk to you, like you, a
parent, like they got to scoldyou.
When they talking to you it'slike, oh, you know, if you would
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have kept up with your payments, uh shit, this wouldn't happen.
No, no, shit, motherfucker,shit happens.
This is called life.
I might, I might have had to paya little extra over here to pay
a little extra over here.
I might have got flim flam outof some money.
I might I might have beenfucked up at work.
There's no telling what thefuck I would have to do to get
my shit back.
So what do I do?
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What, what, what, how?
How can you sit here and scoldme?
Just give me my shit back.
Y'all done took it.
Give me back, that's all I want.
Give me back so I can get thefuck on, because I can pay all
the rest of these motherfuckinggoddamn coins that I got to pay
you so I can get the fuck on.
I'm just saying just don't situp there and make me feel worse
than what I already got to do,because I already got to goddamn
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figure out how the fuck I'mabout to pay you this extra on
top of some extra if I ain'talready got it in the tuck.
I'm just saying but that's,that's the problem, that's the,
that's the times that we facing,because I mean, shit is fucked
up out here, shit is hard outhere, shit is expensive out here
, because it's like like I was.
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I was talking to a guy theother day.
He is a professor at athenstech.
This guy is over there workinga part-time job at Kroger just
to make ends meet.
A professor at Athens Tech.
How how do you say that I don'tmake enough as a professor and
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and now I gotta sit up here andgo work a bullshit job?
I'm sorry not to call crocobullshit job, but I mean it's a
low skill job where I gotta putminimal effort in just to do a
job.
A lot of jobs out here are arewhat I call bullshit, but and
they, they can, they can theytell you that you don't have
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experience.
But it takes ojt, which is onthe job, training to get you up
to speed, because every jobisn't the same.
You have the basics down.
I mean a lot of jobs out here.
You can teach a fucking monkeyto do.
You could teach a 16 year oldto do.
You can teach a 17 year old todo.
But where do you go from andwhat do you, what do you derive
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from to to get those certainthings to get you where you
gotta go?
Because if I don't have theskills and you're telling me
that I need the skills to dothis how do I get the skills,
how do I get the expertise inthis job field to grow?
But you're telling me I sawsomething funny like a
motherfucker it was a memesaying oh, you need a bachelor's
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degree and four yearsexperience to work at mcdonald's
.
And it should make me bust outlaughing because, honestly,
that's how the world is now,because some people don't even
make enough to work at like I.
Oh, change the subject.
I remember when I was growingup and I heard people say that
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$500 was a lot of money to payfor rent.
Shit.
$500?
$500 for a three-bedroom,two-bath townhouse man, you
would have thought you weredoing it up.
You would have thought you werebig dick money.
I'm talking about big dick Now.
Shit, that shit won't even getyou a box to live in.
I mean shit.
You gotta go get a damn uh,four walls with no bathroom, no,
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nothing.
Just to make, just to cut thatfor five hundred dollars.
I mean shit.
Like you think about it, if yougot.
They said that the statistic theother day for atlanta was that
you had for a two-parenthousehold and one child not two
children, one child was $215,000a year to live comfortably,
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comfortably.
How many people did you knowthat actually cleared that
amount that work?
Nine-to-fives that ain't outhere scamming, that ain't out
here doing some fuck shit.
That actually have climbedthrough the ranks a lot of jobs
ain't paying you that amount ofmoney for one person's salary
that, like we are divided by two.
You gotta.
You gotta make what 107, 107000 just to make that amount of
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money to clear, just to livecomfortably.
What's your definition ofcomfortably?
A car, no car insurance, rentlights, water bill, gas bill?
I mean that's not evenincluding none of the amenities
and some of the extra shit thatyou want to do in life.
That's just the bullshit thatyou want to do so.
I mean, what do you want to do?
What do you expect us to do?
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How do you expect us to thrivein this society?
How do you expect us to even?
How do you expect us to thrivein this society?
How do you expect us to evengrow and go even further?
What we are right now, becauseit's this shit is hard out here.
This shit is hard to where it'slike.
A lot of people are like what'sthe fucking point of me working
if I can work, if I'm stillstruggling?
But you see, folks that are onall these lavish trips this,
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that and the third they go inthis place, they go in that
place, and these motherfuckers,these motherfuckers are got them
living their best life.
Ain't got a job to first.
How are they surviving?
That's what I keep askingmyself.
Then, on top of that, I'm goingto take you the other route.
I'm going to take you the otherroute.
How is it that I sit back and Isee certain individuals smoking
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every day, popping pills everyday, drinking brews?
They enjoying their best life,they working a bullshit,
bullshit Burger King or someshit like that, and that's how
they surviving.
Well, how the fuck do they makeit?
And I'm over here trying to gotthem two pennies together just
to spark a match, just to keepmy make sure my lights on, just
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to make sure my water stillrunning, and that shit get
hectic, that shit get real.
But it's like when I there washopes for me, when I became 18
and got out there in the workfield.
Right now, shit, my son, shit.
Shout out to Zai.
Shit, congratulations, man, youdid your shit, you graduated,
bro.
Shit, that shit wasn't in thecards at first, man, but you did
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it.
Congratulations, bro.
And shit, I know you over therelaughing at my ass because your
daddy almost teared up like twoto three times while we were,
while we were sitting up therewaiting and you were walking and
I had all these big assballoons and it's then the third
and I was tearing up.
But back to the back to thestory, back to the notion.
How is it that I can tell himnow go out here and be a
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successful adult when he doesn'thave the experience in for the
workforce to do that?
Now he wants to go to schooland it's like, yeah, you can go
to school and do this, that andthe third now be going be great.
And it's like he can't evenmove out of my house yet because
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of how high everything is andthe expectation about everything
.
Now he has to go work two andthree jobs to make sure he ends
up ends me, make ends meet.
And it's like my sister said.
Told me one day, not too longago, well, a couple of months
ago, she said that when it waslast year year.
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It's been last year, yeah, shetold me.
Uh, she was proud of me.
I said proud of me for what shesaid, that she was proud that I
didn't have to live, live anddepend on a female to keep my
lights, on a female that I didnot like or did not see myself
with, to keep my lights on, tokeep a house, a roof over my
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head.
I was like damn motherfuckersreally out here fucking for a
place to stay.
Motherfuckers really out herefucking for a scooby snack?
Damn, that's, that's, that'ssome kind of fuck, that shit,
ain't it?
Well, when you, when you thinkabout it, some people out here
fuck for survival.
Some people out here suckingdick, they're just to make sure
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they can keep gas in their car.
I mean, some people out herejust fucking to keep food on
their table.
So, because I heard about astory when I was in my mid-20s,
which is crazy.
This dude I went to school withand this older gentleman I
think he was retired from Aschool district and my mother
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told me this story Like and Ifound this shit funny.
But this dude was saying thathe was dealing with this older
gentleman and this oldergentleman propositioned him to
pay his child support.
But there's a catch to pay hischild support.
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The catch is you have to sleepwith that man.
That means that man will be thebottom and that younger
gentleman that was working atMcDonald's at the time would be
the top, and it was just to makesure his child support was paid
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, that he would do theseextravagant things but he would
still portray as a straight manbecause he didn't want to get
those things about him said outthere into the masses because he
had an image to portray.
And that's crazy and and.
But that's that's where a lotof people get killed and get
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hurt because they, they, theirimage has been sullied.
It's like what would you do forI mean, what?
Honestly?
What would you do for aklondike bar?
I'm sorry I didn't say that,right, what would you do for a
klondike bar.
But I mean that's.
I mean that's where we're at insociety.
It's like, bro, where's yourmoral compass?
Where's's your, where's your?
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Where are the funds in yourpocket coming from?
Because I mean shit.
I know I'm prideful, I know I'mnot going to ask for help unless
I really really need it.
I know I will.
I will find myself strugglingbefore I will put myself down
low enough to ask for help,which is a bad thing, because I
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mean shit.
It's like put your pride to theside.
Sometimes you got to, sometimesyou got to suck that shit up
and say, hey, man, I need help.
Sometimes you and and and us asmen, sometimes don't understand
that.
So sometimes us, because we.
It's like man, I'm supposed tobe a provider, I'm supposed to
be this, I'm supposed to be that, I'm supposed to be this, I'm
supposed to be that, I'msupposed to be strong.
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I'm man, I'm supposed to be aprovider, I'm supposed to be
this, I'm supposed to be that,I'm supposed to be this, I'm
supposed to be that, I'msupposed to be strong, I'm
supposed to be da-da-da-da andyou can.
Why not?
Because this is where I'm at,this is where the world has
placed me, to where I'm sittinghere struggling trying to figure
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out where the fuck my next mealcoming from.
Because I'm gonna tell y'allsomething.
I'm gonna tell y'all somestraight-up truth.
I remember when I was working atKmart and my check was fucked
up so I had to overdraw myaccount just to make ends meet.
Just until the next two weeks Igot paid.
The crazy part about it is mycheck was so short that next
time I got paid I was still in anegative and it's like what the
fuck am I gonna do?
I gotta make it another twoweeks.
I gotta drive to work.
I got shit I want to do.
What am I?
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What am I forced to do?
So I mean shit.
Sometimes you got to push thatpride to the side.
I mean, thank god I had my mamaand my, I had my stepfather uh,
jimmy Ho, rest his soul.
That had my back 10 times outof 10.
Because a lot of people don'tunderstand that aspect of life,
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don't understand that aspect ofreality, to where sometimes we
gotta soak that shit the fuck upand ask for that help, reach
out that hand, because we werenot designed in this life to be
here by ourselves.
We were.
We were here to depend onothers and others to help us,
but this is the problem.
So many people have will makefun of you and talk behind your
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back or post shit about you onsocial media, because I saw I
saw this shit the other day, man, and well, not to earlier today
.
Honestly, what is what this girlwas talking about?
Her ain't shit, baby daddy,blah, blah, he, he, he got them
behind on child support.
He only obligated two, twohundred dollars and some change,
and she cleared up over ahundred thousand a year and blah
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, blah, blah, bro.
To be honest, why the fuck areyou putting that shit out though
?
Honestly, because it ain'tnobody's business the struggles
that y'all, y'all go through,except for y'all's own, because
shit, whoo that shit easy asfuck to get behind on child
support.
You fucking I mean you actinglike nobody don't lose a job,
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you acting like you don't changejobs.
I understand that themotherfucker man is up to saying
, hey man, I'm trying, I'mtrying, I'm trying to get back
right, because I mean, shithappens every day.
But as soon as you see some shitlike that, y'all quick as fuck
to call the man a deadbeat dador something like that, when
maybe that's not the realreality about it.
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Maybe that's the painting thatthey're drawing about this
individual and that's the onlything that will come forth about
this individual Is themiserableness being portrayed
about him.
Or I'm going to tell you likethis I'm going to be honest
there's always two sides to astory Well, three, but there's
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always two sides to a coin.
Sometimes you do have thoseain't shit baby daddies and
sometimes you had those, thosebaby daddies or those fathers
that actually try, they actuallygive a fuck, they actually want
to be in their child's livesand they do everything and above
to make sure they are okay andmake sure everything that they
get is what they get and makesure the things that they get to
survive is what they reallyneed, because sometimes we think
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we need certain things in lifeand we really don't.
We think we need certain itemsin life when we really don't and
it's like live, live, live.
Within your means so you canmake sure you got them ducats
and coins to make sure all yourshit is straight.
Your means, so you could makesure you got them ducats and
coins to make sure all your shitis straight.
Because, I mean, I remember onceupon a time, shit I was paying
what?
1600 a month and child support.
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And that shit was gruesome,it's like.
And I and I told my um, myex-wife at the time, my wife, um
, I said, shit, hell, I couldmake more unemployment and stay
in my ass at home than I make itat working at a job.
I just put in more more, um, Ijust paid out taxes, insurance
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and child support and barelybrought home 200.
And it's it's like, how is thatright?
Damn the father, damn the wayhe eat.
Y'all just got to make sure theother side of the other family's
over there straight, eventhough he might have a family
over here he got to take care of.
Now you've putting in, puttinghim in position to where he has
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to rely on a female to to tolive.
Now he's.
Now he's looked at it like aleech.
Now you're looking at him like,oh, you can't pay shit over
there because you got too muchresponsibility over here.
And blah, blah, blah, blah,blah.
Man, that ain't even the case.
Not when you, not when you opena book and you look at the
situation, not when you put the,the individual situation on a
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piece of paper.
So what do you?
Do you?
You still gonna be judgmentaloff of them.
You still gonna judge thembecause, hey, we listen and we
don't judge, and that's all Igot to say for four steppers
only we out, peace.
I'm finna, eat some of themmotherfucking fish.
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Fuck you, man, feel good.
I'm finna, eat some of themmotherfucking fish.
What the fuck you mean Feelgood?
Outro Music.
And now our feature presentation.
Yo, oh, I'm going to dump it.
You like a?
Yeah, hey, you know we got tolisten to that YN R&B.
(00:29):
If you don't know what that YNR&B is, that means you ain't
never done something like that.
If I up this case, I'm dumpingit everybody.
I'm talking about everybody.
Hey, welcome to four only.
Hey, I'm that little nigga thaty'all know in real life I'm
(00:53):
Jack.
Why the hell am I holding myhot sauce in my other hand like
it's a fucking beer?
But anyway, I want to welcomey'all to four only.
Yeah, we cooking over here.
We got fried fish.
You know we got to put a littlehot sauce on the fried fish.
This is not Tabasco.
By the way, this is not Tabasco.
You do not got to do like like.
We got to do like that shit,like graciously here on Four
(01:15):
Steps Only.
But anyway, welcome to FourSteps Only.
Hey, man, I just got onequestion.
I don't hear been hearing thiswild ass shit about these tesla
trucks and these teslas.
How about them repoingthemselves, man?
I heard I was reading thisarticle the other day where the
(01:37):
tesla truck backed out thedriveway while the guy was
walking out to his car and droveitself back to the dealership.
Do you know how disappointingthat shit that should have make
you be?
Do you know how shit that?
Because you were a couplepayments behind?
I know a lot of y'all don't knowhow the fuck that feels, but I
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know how that shit feels becauseI done had some shit repo
before man, I done walkedoutside my shit was gone.
I thought somebody stole myshit.
I'm like, oh my god, oh my god,my shit gone, my shit gone, man
.
I'm calling the police.
They're gonna tell it'sdepressing when the police tell
you no, sir, your shit wasn'tstolen, it was actually repoed.
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It's like what, like what isyour response back to that?
To where you, they tell you anddisrespectful to you, to let
you know they want to laughunder their breath at you
because you having a whole panicattack you, you about to damn
near cry.
You don't know how you're gonnaget to work.
You don't know how you're gonnaget the baby some goddamn food.
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Your, your shit just got repoed.
Well, what do you say?
Oh, appreciate it.
Oh, oh, let me go find my shit.
Let me call these folks.
Let me ask y'all a question howmany of y'all have actually had
some shit repoed?
Because that shit, that's somedepressing ass shit.
Because I remember that timewhen my shit got repoed oh my
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God I'm talking about.
I had shit that I needed in thecar, but they won't tell you
where the car is until you'reable to pay for it, unless you
want to come get some of yourstuff or some of your property
out the car.
And sometimes you better hopeto god you got an honest
motherfucker repo in your shitbecause they might take some
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shit out there.
I hope to god you ain't got nocash.
Hope to god you ain't gotnothing valuable in that
motherfucker, because while theygoing through it, they shifting
through it, they gonna betaking some of your shit.
I'm just letting you know thatthis is this some real deal shit
.
I'm just letting you know if,if, if I was a repo man and you
left some cash or some coins orsome you know some jingle
jingles in that motherfucker,I'm taking your shit.
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I'm just, I'm just gonna letyou know and you better, I pray,
I pray to god.
These repo men don't smoke or no, no, no, no, reefer nothing,
because I know half, I know alot of y'all out there leave
roaches and goddamn blunts iny'all's cars while y'all are,
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like you, smoking in traffic.
Because I mean, I've been on 85before.
I'm talking about 85 goddamnflying Car fly past me.
Only thing I smell is marijuanacoming through that
motherfucker.
Only thing I can think is, goddamn, if we on 85 and I know
that shit potent, I know damnwell the police can smell it if
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they pull up beside you.
So y'all, some bravemotherfuckers, will do so.
But just for a hint, just fory'all repo men, hey man, I'm
going to tell y'all like thisright now, I done seen too many
folks goddamn been lacing andsprinkling fairy dust, talking
about it's a fairy blunt thatthey smoking.
A fairy blunt.
What the fuck is a fairy blunt?
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That motherfucker ain't got noglitter in that bitch.
That motherfucker got somegoddamn.
That motherfucker got some toottoot in that motherfucker.
You hear me that motherfuckergot them 30-30ot in that
motherfucker.
You hear me that motherfuckergot them 30, 30s in that
motherfucker.
That motherfucker might gotsome fentanyl in that
motherfucker.
But that just tells you rightthere that you cannot smoke with
everybody.
You can't do shit witheverybody.
That that does certain habitsor you think does the same shit
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that you do.
But anyway, let's get back tothis repo shit.
Man, when my shit got repoed,I'm calling around.
I call the goddamn folks.
Yeah, you can get your car backif you got.
Um, they hit me with like 3800.
I said 3800, I know I ain'tbehind that far, bro.
They put taxes, fees, toes,everything else on top of that,
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motherfucker, just to get someextra shit out you, just because
they were inconvenienced.
Nah, motherfucker, I had tocall an Uber or call my mama to
bring me up, this motherfucker,just to get my shit back.
Man, I'm going to tell you likethis that's some depressing ass
shit that you'll ever do.
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I'm talking about depressing,depressing Shit.
I remember oh, another folks, mycousin called me one time.
I am not going to put hisbusiness out there, but my
cousin, like my locked in cousin, not the cousin that you don't
fuck with, really not the cousinthat's a junkie, the cousin
that you actually fuck with,that actually calls you every
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day and y'all just chop it upand y'all talk.
So he done, he done hit me upsomeone's on, bro, my car gone,
my car gone.
I don't know what the fuckhappened.
Tell me why.
Somebody done sold him a carwith a lien on it.
He ain't know it had a lien onit.
When, I think, when them carloan places had a lien on them
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title max places?
Yeah, boy, that motherfuckertold my son.
He told him he woke up at eighto'clock in the morning freaking
the fuck out.
Tell my son, bro, bro, I'm justabout to go buy me a goddamn
cigar from the store and my cargone.
Bro.
I said I'm stressed out overhere, bro, shit, what the fuck
I'm supposed to do?
Bro, they, they took his carfor five hundred dollars, five,
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five hundred dollars.
And that shit's depressingbecause I mean, if you, if you,
if your cousin ain't never beenthrough it, they're gonna be
judgmental as fuck, unless yougot a cousin that's been through
some shit and he's gonna belike this hey, bro, shit, it's
gonna be all right, this shitdidn't happen to me before.
It's fucked up, but we're gonnawork through it.
We're gonna figure out what thefuck did it take to get your,
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get your car back.
As long as it ain't anastronomical amount, shit, we're
gonna get that motherfuckerback, brother, there's no
worries.
And if they cause any damage toit, shit, you're gonna get that
motherfucker back and you'regonna get some shit out of him.
So he ended up getting his carback.
I got my car back also, butit's just the hoops and hurdles
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that you have to go through toget it back.
But even on top of that, it'sthe, the bullshit.
How you got to look at themfolks faces when you got to sit
down with them and they and theygot to talk to you, like you, a
parent, like they got to scoldyou.
When they talking to you it'slike, oh, you know, if you would
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have kept up with your payments, uh shit, this wouldn't happen.
No, no, shit, motherfucker,shit happens.
This is called life.
I might, I might have had to paya little extra over here to pay
a little extra over here.
I might have got flim flam outof some money.
I might I might have beenfucked up at work.
There's no telling what thefuck I would have to do to get
my shit back.
So what do I do?
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What, what, what, how?
How can you sit here and scoldme?
Just give me my shit back.
Y'all done took it.
Give me back, that's all I want.
Give me back so I can get thefuck on, because I can pay all
the rest of these motherfuckinggoddamn coins that I got to pay
you so I can get the fuck on.
I'm just saying just don't situp there and make me feel worse
than what I already got to do,because I already got to goddamn
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figure out how the fuck I'mabout to pay you this extra on
top of some extra if I ain'talready got it in the tuck.
I'm just saying but that's,that's the problem, that's the,
that's the times that we facing,because I mean, shit is fucked
up out here, shit is hard outhere, shit is expensive out here
, because it's like like I was.
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I was talking to a guy theother day.
He is a professor at athenstech.
This guy is over there workinga part-time job at Kroger just
to make ends meet.
A professor at Athens Tech.
How how do you say that I don'tmake enough as a professor and
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and now I gotta sit up here andgo work a bullshit job?
I'm sorry not to call crocobullshit job, but I mean it's a
low skill job where I gotta putminimal effort in just to do a
job.
A lot of jobs out here are arewhat I call bullshit, but and
they, they can, they can theytell you that you don't have
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experience.
But it takes ojt, which is onthe job, training to get you up
to speed, because every jobisn't the same.
You have the basics down.
I mean a lot of jobs out here.
You can teach a fucking monkeyto do.
You could teach a 16 year oldto do.
You can teach a 17 year old todo.
But where do you go from andwhat do you, what do you derive
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from to to get those certainthings to get you where you
gotta go?
Because if I don't have theskills and you're telling me
that I need the skills to dothis how do I get the skills,
how do I get the expertise inthis job field to grow?
But you're telling me I sawsomething funny like a
motherfucker it was a memesaying oh, you need a bachelor's
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degree and four yearsexperience to work at mcdonald's
.
And it should make me bust outlaughing because, honestly,
that's how the world is now,because some people don't even
make enough to work at like I.
Oh, change the subject.
I remember when I was growingup and I heard people say that
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$500 was a lot of money to payfor rent.
Shit.
$500?
$500 for a three-bedroom,two-bath townhouse man, you
would have thought you weredoing it up.
You would have thought you werebig dick money.
I'm talking about big dick Now.
Shit, that shit won't even getyou a box to live in.
I mean shit.
You gotta go get a damn uh,four walls with no bathroom, no,
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nothing.
Just to make, just to cut thatfor five hundred dollars.
I mean shit.
Like you think about it, if yougot.
They said that the statistic theother day for atlanta was that
you had for a two-parenthousehold and one child not two
children, one child was $215,000a year to live comfortably,
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comfortably.
How many people did you knowthat actually cleared that
amount that work?
Nine-to-fives that ain't outhere scamming, that ain't out
here doing some fuck shit.
That actually have climbedthrough the ranks a lot of jobs
ain't paying you that amount ofmoney for one person's salary
that, like we are divided by two.
You gotta.
You gotta make what 107, 107000 just to make that amount of
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money to clear, just to livecomfortably.
What's your definition ofcomfortably?
A car, no car insurance, rentlights, water bill, gas bill?
I mean that's not evenincluding none of the amenities
and some of the extra shit thatyou want to do in life.
That's just the bullshit thatyou want to do so.
I mean, what do you want to do?
What do you expect us to do?
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How do you expect us to thrivein this society?
How do you expect us to even?
How do you expect us to thrivein this society?
How do you expect us to evengrow and go even further?
What we are right now, becauseit's this shit is hard out here.
This shit is hard to where it'slike.
A lot of people are like what'sthe fucking point of me working
if I can work, if I'm stillstruggling?
But you see, folks that are onall these lavish trips this,
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that and the third they go inthis place, they go in that
place, and these motherfuckers,these motherfuckers are got them
living their best life.
Ain't got a job to first.
How are they surviving?
That's what I keep askingmyself.
Then, on top of that, I'm goingto take you the other route.
I'm going to take you the otherroute.
How is it that I sit back and Isee certain individuals smoking
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every day, popping pills everyday, drinking brews?
They enjoying their best life,they working a bullshit,
bullshit Burger King or someshit like that, and that's how
they surviving.
Well, how the fuck do they makeit?
And I'm over here trying to gotthem two pennies together just
to spark a match, just to keepmy make sure my lights on, just
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to make sure my water stillrunning, and that shit get
hectic, that shit get real.
But it's like when I there washopes for me, when I became 18
and got out there in the workfield.
Right now, shit, my son, shit.
Shout out to Zai.
Shit, congratulations, man, youdid your shit, you graduated,
bro.
Shit, that shit wasn't in thecards at first, man, but you did
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it.
Congratulations, bro.
And shit, I know you over therelaughing at my ass because your
daddy almost teared up like twoto three times while we were,
while we were sitting up therewaiting and you were walking and
I had all these big assballoons and it's then the third
and I was tearing up.
But back to the back to thestory, back to the notion.
How is it that I can tell himnow go out here and be a
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successful adult when he doesn'thave the experience in for the
workforce to do that?
Now he wants to go to schooland it's like, yeah, you can go
to school and do this, that andthe third now be going be great.
And it's like he can't evenmove out of my house yet because
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of how high everything is andthe expectation about everything
.
Now he has to go work two andthree jobs to make sure he ends
up ends me, make ends meet.
And it's like my sister said.
Told me one day, not too longago, well, a couple of months
ago, she said that when it waslast year year.
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It's been last year, yeah, shetold me.
Uh, she was proud of me.
I said proud of me for what shesaid, that she was proud that I
didn't have to live, live anddepend on a female to keep my
lights, on a female that I didnot like or did not see myself
with, to keep my lights on, tokeep a house, a roof over my
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head.
I was like damn motherfuckersreally out here fucking for a
place to stay.
Motherfuckers really out herefucking for a scooby snack?
Damn, that's, that's, that'ssome kind of fuck, that shit,
ain't it?
Well, when you, when you thinkabout it, some people out here
fuck for survival.
Some people out here suckingdick, they're just to make sure
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they can keep gas in their car.
I mean, some people out herejust fucking to keep food on
their table.
So, because I heard about astory when I was in my mid-20s,
which is crazy.
This dude I went to school withand this older gentleman I
think he was retired from Aschool district and my mother
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told me this story Like and Ifound this shit funny.
But this dude was saying thathe was dealing with this older
gentleman and this oldergentleman propositioned him to
pay his child support.
But there's a catch to pay hischild support.
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The catch is you have to sleepwith that man.
That means that man will be thebottom and that younger
gentleman that was working atMcDonald's at the time would be
the top, and it was just to makesure his child support was paid
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, that he would do theseextravagant things but he would
still portray as a straight manbecause he didn't want to get
those things about him said outthere into the masses because he
had an image to portray.
And that's crazy and and.
But that's that's where a lotof people get killed and get
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hurt because they, they, theirimage has been sullied.
It's like what would you do forI mean, what?
Honestly?
What would you do for aklondike bar?
I'm sorry I didn't say that,right, what would you do for a
klondike bar.
But I mean that's.
I mean that's where we're at insociety.
It's like, bro, where's yourmoral compass?
Where's's your, where's your?
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Where are the funds in yourpocket coming from?
Because I mean shit.
I know I'm prideful, I know I'mnot going to ask for help unless
I really really need it.
I know I will.
I will find myself strugglingbefore I will put myself down
low enough to ask for help,which is a bad thing, because I
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mean shit.
It's like put your pride to theside.
Sometimes you got to, sometimesyou got to suck that shit up
and say, hey, man, I need help.
Sometimes you and and and us asmen, sometimes don't understand
that.
So sometimes us, because we.
It's like man, I'm supposed tobe a provider, I'm supposed to
be this, I'm supposed to be that, I'm supposed to be this, I'm
supposed to be that, I'msupposed to be strong.
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I'm man, I'm supposed to be aprovider, I'm supposed to be
this, I'm supposed to be that,I'm supposed to be this, I'm
supposed to be that, I'msupposed to be strong, I'm
supposed to be da-da-da-da andyou can.
Why not?
Because this is where I'm at,this is where the world has
placed me, to where I'm sittinghere struggling trying to figure
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out where the fuck my next mealcoming from.
Because I'm gonna tell y'allsomething.
I'm gonna tell y'all somestraight-up truth.
I remember when I was working atKmart and my check was fucked
up so I had to overdraw myaccount just to make ends meet.
Just until the next two weeks Igot paid.
The crazy part about it is mycheck was so short that next
time I got paid I was still in anegative and it's like what the
fuck am I gonna do?
I gotta make it another twoweeks.
I gotta drive to work.
I got shit I want to do.
What am I?
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What am I forced to do?
So I mean shit.
Sometimes you got to push thatpride to the side.
I mean, thank god I had my mamaand my, I had my stepfather uh,
jimmy Ho, rest his soul.
That had my back 10 times outof 10.
Because a lot of people don'tunderstand that aspect of life,
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don't understand that aspect ofreality, to where sometimes we
gotta soak that shit the fuck upand ask for that help, reach
out that hand, because we werenot designed in this life to be
here by ourselves.
We were.
We were here to depend onothers and others to help us,
but this is the problem.
So many people have will makefun of you and talk behind your
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back or post shit about you onsocial media, because I saw I
saw this shit the other day, man, and well, not to earlier today
.
Honestly, what is what this girlwas talking about?
Her ain't shit, baby daddy,blah, blah, he, he, he got them
behind on child support.
He only obligated two, twohundred dollars and some change,
and she cleared up over ahundred thousand a year and blah
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, blah, blah, bro.
To be honest, why the fuck areyou putting that shit out though
?
Honestly, because it ain'tnobody's business the struggles
that y'all, y'all go through,except for y'all's own, because
shit, whoo that shit easy asfuck to get behind on child
support.
You fucking I mean you actinglike nobody don't lose a job,
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you acting like you don't changejobs.
I understand that themotherfucker man is up to saying
, hey man, I'm trying, I'mtrying, I'm trying to get back
right, because I mean, shithappens every day.
But as soon as you see some shitlike that, y'all quick as fuck
to call the man a deadbeat dador something like that, when
maybe that's not the realreality about it.
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Maybe that's the painting thatthey're drawing about this
individual and that's the onlything that will come forth about
this individual Is themiserableness being portrayed
about him.
Or I'm going to tell you likethis I'm going to be honest
there's always two sides to astory Well, three, but there's
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always two sides to a coin.
Sometimes you do have thoseain't shit baby daddies and
sometimes you had those, thosebaby daddies or those fathers
that actually try, they actuallygive a fuck, they actually want
to be in their child's livesand they do everything and above
to make sure they are okay andmake sure everything that they
get is what they get and makesure the things that they get to
survive is what they reallyneed, because sometimes we think
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we need certain things in lifeand we really don't.
We think we need certain itemsin life when we really don't and
it's like live, live, live.
Within your means so you canmake sure you got them ducats
and coins to make sure all yourshit is straight.
Your means, so you could makesure you got them ducats and
coins to make sure all your shitis straight.
Because, I mean, I remember onceupon a time, shit I was paying
what?
1600 a month and child support.
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And that shit was gruesome,it's like.
And I and I told my um, myex-wife at the time, my wife, um
, I said, shit, hell, I couldmake more unemployment and stay
in my ass at home than I make itat working at a job.
I just put in more more, um, Ijust paid out taxes, insurance
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and child support and barelybrought home 200.
And it's it's like, how is thatright?
Damn the father, damn the wayhe eat.
Y'all just got to make sure theother side of the other family's
over there straight, eventhough he might have a family
over here he got to take care of.
Now you've putting in, puttinghim in position to where he has
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to rely on a female to to tolive.
Now he's.
Now he's looked at it like aleech.
Now you're looking at him like,oh, you can't pay shit over
there because you got too muchresponsibility over here.
And blah, blah, blah, blah,blah.
Man, that ain't even the case.
Not when you, not when you opena book and you look at the
situation, not when you put the,the individual situation on a
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piece of paper.
So what do you?
Do you?
You still gonna be judgmentaloff of them.
You still gonna judge thembecause, hey, we listen and we
don't judge, and that's all Igot to say for four steppers
only we out, peace.
I'm finna, eat some of themmotherfucking fish.
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Fuck you, man, feel good.
I'm finna, eat some of themmotherfucking fish.
What the fuck you mean Feelgood?
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