FreedHearts

Ever wonder what God REALLY thinks of your LGBTQ+ child, friend or family member... or what God really thinks of YOU??

We want to address the ultimate question today. The big one.
 
Often we are so scared of the answer, we don’t even want to go there.
 
But hear me now… you have NOTHING to be afraid of. Nothing!
 
Beloved, You really need to hear and take in the answer to the question: “What Does God Really Think of Me?”

When someone comes out – it often changes everything in relationships.  
 
Sometimes for the better as they get deeper, richer, more authentic, more inclusive and accepting.  But sometimes not, and these relationships - parent-child, friends, family – that we considered a given – may now seem unsure and shaky. And at times, they are unsafe.
 
But how do we know? 

How can we tell if a relationship is safe??

How do you think people feel about the IRS? I can tell you the answer: People don’t love the IRS. It’s intimating—it wields unrestrained power, and you have no recourse—it’s virtually impossible to fight back.
 
Let’s be honest, a lot of us have the same experience with religion. Hurt so badly by manipulative false teaching given with unrestrained power, and then told it’s just the way it is.

We feel like we have no recourse, like ...

Sometimes we feel like if we take care of ourselves, focus on ourselves, love ourselves – it means that we are NOT doing that for others. Wrong!

But, we often feel guilty for taking care of ourselves. So we don’t!  It can even make us resent serving others, especially compared to false expectations placed on us.

So, we want to talk today about if we can please ourselves AND please others.

Every day via email, social media, comments we get questions from non-affirming Christians that are supposed to stop us in our tracks.  Stump us.  Be unanswerable. 

Recently, someone shared two questions from their pastor.  Did they stump us? Nah. Are they unanswerable? Nope. 

Does this sounds familiar?? Religious leaders approached Jesus with questions they thought would undo all his teaching – but what it really did was reveal thei...

Many of you came out of the church - out of nonaffirming religion.  The evangelical church, denominations.  
 
And many of you are now deconstructing your faith. Discovering what the Bible does and does not say about a lot of things including LGBTQ.  God has gotten bigger.  The universe, spirit has gotten more personal. It is beautiful! As we have said: When we open the box we have God in, all heaven breaks loose.
 
But now what? Espec...

What does and does not work when talking to non-affirming evangelical Christians? 
 
It can certainly be tough and frustrating. 
 
We are dealing with patriarchal, moral-majority driven false teaching. All taught with God’s name attached to it – and grave consequences if you don’t just fall in line.
 
But we, like a growing number of people, were surprised when we opened that box we had God in. 
 
In this episode, we will talk about how we...

We hear from so many people who have been deeply wounded by parents, by family, by friends, by those in the church who claim to speak with God’s voice.  
 
Deep wounds. Physical, spiritual, emotional.
 
Sometimes there is an apology from the person who did the wounding, but sometimes that is just not enough. Does an apology mean we have to reconcile?? Absolutely not! 
 
We’re often made to feel guilty—but we know that sometimes, an apolo...

Selfcare is so important, now more than ever. 

A listener wrote us about being triggered by something and going into a full blown panic attack. Scary. Things like that, and even the rapid pace of deconstruction, can cause a lot of stress. And we often forget to take care of ourselves. 

So, in this episode, we want to talk about what effective selfcare looks like.

Beloved, you deserve it! 

In this very special episode, we’re going to share something that came from the mom of a transgender daughter. (With her permission, of course.)

She wrote it to share with her pastor, with anyone, who is trying to sort out transgender, gender nonconforming, nonbinary—trying to understand what that community, and their families, go through.

This is an incredibly powerful story.

It is beautifully written and conveys so well the heart ...

Some Christians mistakenly suggest that if you take the Bible seriously, you must stand against the existence – as well as the health and even humanity of transgender people.

Actually, the OPPOSITE is true!

In this episode, we are going to talk about how the Bible AFFIRMS transgender and gender non-conforming people.  And, how misinterpretations and binary thinking cause people to follow harmful false teachings.

So, how are you doing?  Any family issues?? We have some... we have family holding events, celebrating and we were not invited.  We have celebrations with part of our chosen family.

When family is at odds over core beliefs and major heart issues, it can certainly get tricky.  

So, we thought it might be an ideal time to ask… What in the world IS family anymore. 

And… Is this even still my family???

“What if you’re wrong?”  People ask us this all the time, and then usually follow up with “Aren’t you afraid of leading people astray?”  This seems to be the underlying fear for so many Christians.

We have addressed this on an individual level but, today, we want to talk to the church!

It has so consumed the Church, with this fear being spoonfed to people for decades, it hardly thinks to turn the question around on itself.

So we are a...