August 19, 2022 • 19 mins
Interludes are short segments between regular episodes with no editing but WITH leather creaking. It's a chance to hear a little more about what's going on in my life. In this interlude, I talk about leaning in to a recent trend of 25-24 year old men approaching me.
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Edge (00:00):
Welcome to another interlude on full cow.
interludes are the episodesbetween the episodes where I
share in a raw and uneditedformat, things that are going on
in my life. And in thisinterlude, I would like to focus
a little bit on age. But beforeI do that, I really have to
(00:23):
acknowledge for myself, that mywealth has been extraordinarily
low lately. And part of that isbeing single. And I really
adjusted to the fact that it'sentirely possible, I could be
single for quite a while. Andit's not about loneliness. But
for means an introvert, apartner provides me a kind of
(00:46):
extra well of energy, andsomeone who fills my own well.
And when I'm single, I simplyhave less energy to move through
the world. But then on top ofthat, like trying to meet people
and talk to people and go ondates, and look for people, it
just costs energy. So I amconstantly running at this
(01:07):
slight energy deficit. I didn'teven know if I'd be able to find
it in me to get this interludedone. But here we are. I'm also
a little concerned about futureepisodes of the podcast. But
hopefully, I will fill my wellsoon. So ah, now I did a whole
series on age and aging, onTwitter, and Instagram. And it
(01:29):
really focused more aboutgrowing older, in leather and
kink. But really what I want totalk about instead is something
a little different. And I'll getto it by telling you this, you
know, I have a quote unquote,professional graphic account on
Instagram, which really doesn'tmean all that much. But it does
provide me some more insightsinto people who are visiting my
(01:52):
profile, I'm looking at mycontent. And every now and then
Instagram will pop up and say,Hey, this post is doing better
than 90% of your other blogposts, consider boosting it. And
so every now and then I'll besure, sure, here's 30 bucks,
Instagram, Go, Go show this postto more people go boost me. And
(02:13):
then I look at the insights andwithout fail. The largest bar
when it comes to the agecategories, the one where I am
striking the most where peopleare coming in, the people who
come to my content, more thananyone else are aged 25 to 34.
(02:33):
And Instagram is not wrong.
Because recently in my life,I've only been approached by men
who are 25 to 34. And really, Isay the key demographic recently
has been 26 to 28. There's a 23year old here and there's a 34
year old there, but 26 to 28that is my beautiful sweet spot.
(02:53):
And for a long time this wasn'tI'm not gonna say it was
upsetting for me. Because youknow, it's kind of great to be
attracting really young men. Butit was discouraging to me
because I'm really impartlooking for someone a little bit
more my age as a life partner.
(03:14):
I'm looking for someone with alittle bit more life experience
if they're going to be my boy.
I've been looking for someone alittle closer to me. However, I
recently met a boy throughTwitter. We met at ramrod cages
in town for Fort Lauderdalepride, hello, if you're
listening, and when I got homefrom meeting him, I mean, he was
really he was the kind of boythat pushed my buttons. And I
(03:37):
was like, Oh, this isn't goodstuff. He's 26. But he had eight
years of experience. I was 26.
And when I got home, I decidedyou know what, if the universe
is bringing me men of this age,then it's time for me to lean
in. And so I am and thatincludes my 28 year old cuddle
(04:02):
buddy. The 27 year old I've beenon a couple of dates with the 26
year old boy in Orlando, the 23year old boy I'm chatting with
in the southwest. There's a 35 Ithink he's 35. Now he might have
aged out in the mid Atlanticregion. There are also a couple
(04:25):
of mentees who are in their 20sI am. I am just going with it. I
am going with men in their 20sand as part of this process, you
know, I really, I stopped and Ithought, gee edge. What were you
doing when you were 2627 28 andwhat I was doing when I was
(04:46):
2627 28 I was seeing men intheir mid 40s to mid 50s. So
there's a beautiful sense ofthings coming full circle
and you know growing up up, Iwas always into older men. And I
thought that was my thing. Ithought I was an altar into
older men, what I'm realizingnow through this experience and
(05:09):
through reflecting on age, andthe men I'm attracted to, and
the men who are attracted to mewhat I'm realizing now. So I was
never really into older men, Iwas just into men in their mid
40s to mid 50s. And now that I'm51, right, right in the middle,
that target range, I'm attractedto men my age, I had to grow
(05:30):
into the demographic I desired.
And now that I am thedemographic I desired, I
primarily want men of my age.
And yet at the same time, Icertainly suddenly realized,
like, wow, I mean, I can't blamethese beautiful young men for
coming after me, because JesusChrist, that's what I was doing.
(05:51):
And it felt suddenly, it feltkind of right for me to open
myself up to thesepossibilities. Because part of
how I became the leather man Iam, is because of these men in
their 40s and 50s, who sawsomeone in their early 20s and
said, Hey, that's kinda nice. Iwant to play with that. And
(06:15):
because they did, and because Igot to spend time with them, and
learn from them, and gainexperience from them. That's
been a huge factor in shaping myleather path and my leather
journey, and turning me into theleather man I am today. So yes,
yes, it's time for me to openthe doors to men in their 20s 25
(06:35):
to 34. That's, that's mydemographic. And if that happens
to be you, what can I say youwill probably have a chance with
me that you did not have before.
I will say it's not immature,you know, we tend to think that
gay culture, so youth obsess,and it's not that I am
attracted, or obsessed withtheir youthfulness, if anything,
to some extent, their youthpneus is almost something I have
(06:56):
to put to the side, because I'ma little suspicious of youth. I
like stability. I like peoplewho are established people who
knew they know who they are. Ilike people who have experience
and the truth is, looking at myown journey through my 20s could
vote I didn't have any of that Iwas still figuring out who I was
(07:17):
still on my way. So I'm notdrawn to these men, simply
because of their extraordinarilysmooth, supple, wrinkle free
skin. Yes, thank you very much.
I'm drawn to them, as I'm drawnto most men by something they
have inside some energy. And youknow, if you listen to my stuff,
(07:39):
you know, I go back and forth onthe woowoo. But the truth is, I
like the woowoo. And there'ssomething in them. Maybe we
don't call it energy, maybe wecall it their disposition, their
submission, their desires. Idon't know there's something in
these young men that I would bejust as drawn to, if they were
(08:00):
my age. It's something specialand unique. Primarily,
primarily, except for the Sefer.
Okay, well, the 28 year oldcuddle, buddy, no, he's a little
submissive, the 27 year old thatI've been on a couple of dates
with, I don't really get thatenergy from him. But the rest of
the men I'm going after the restof my young cohort are
submissive boys. At the sametime, being young is not enough,
(08:22):
right? It's not just even aboutthat beautiful, submissive
energy. I have. I have a certainset of expectations. I don't
know I hate saying that. Butit's reasonable. And it's true.
I like men with some set ofexperience, right? I'm not, I am
not. I am not the greeter, Iwhich I've talked about in some
(08:45):
of my other content. I am notthe person who says, Oh, you've
never experienced leather. Letme show you. I will teach you
from scratch. I, I like to playheavy. And I like to play hard.
And I like to take men reallydeep, pretty fast. And for that,
I need men who have somebaseline of experience. So what
(09:06):
makes the men coming after mefairly remarkable. isn't just
that they're young isn't justthat they have this particular
vibration of submission thatresonates for me. But they have
experience, which is not at allsurprising.
I suppose. In my head. It'ssurprising. But if I think about
(09:27):
it now as I'm recording this,that's not surprising at all,
because wow man if I was gettingexperienced in my early 20s, and
that was at a time when theInternet didn't even exist.
Certainly these men who haveaccess to Twitter and recon and
Instagram and all of theresources that the web offers in
(09:48):
relation to leather and kink.
Surely we are we are finding thegeneration who are not only
coming out early, not onlyfinding their gender identity
and their sexual identity early,not only are they finding kinky,
curly, but they are experiencingthis kink in particular, at a
very young age. And that justsounds really hopeful to me, it
gives me great hope. And, and Ido think there's a part of me
(10:11):
that's like, I really like, God,what I do, and all my content is
about passing on a particularway of doing leather. That is
important. Now I can do it withthese men who are young, who
have beautiful leather journeysahead of them great leather
careers, who already have enoughexperience to kind of cross the
(10:32):
threshold of my play room, theyalready have enough experience
for that. But I see what I cando with them. And to them, and
for them. And so I suspect it'sgoing to be a really kind of
interesting journey. Now. Youknow, as I've noted, most of
these men are in the context ofboys who are approaching the
(10:53):
boys who are submissive. Andthen there's the 27 year old
I've been on a couple of dateswith who is not that and I've,
I've told him, I've made itvery, I like being on a
subprime. I've told him, it'sreally hard for me to imagine
having a boyfriend who isessentially half my age is not
(11:14):
exactly half my age, but he'spractically half my age, right?
I certainly could literally behis father, which I find, I
guess some men would find thatsuper hot. I find it slightly
disturbing. And I've been veryhonest with him. But you know,
he does have a sort of a treeabout him. He's like, hey, we
(11:35):
don't have to cross that bridge.
Let's just take it one day at atime. Like, okay, I can resonate
with that. So my journey rightnow is about young Leatherman.
They are everywhere returnwithout me even really having to
look for them. And I don't knowif that's always been the case.
That's what's interesting. I,honestly, if I, if I go back in
(12:00):
my memory, this is new. And it'sinteresting, because when I
turned 40, I was I was like, Oh,now, I probably put this on
Tumblr. Oh, now I'm officially adaddy, where all the young boys
who went daddy come. I and theydidn't. And then I was half
(12:21):
joking about that whole line ofthought, and certainly
reevaluated that but for alittle while, I thought, oh,
it'd be nice to have someone youknow, like, really young and hot
and horny all the time. Rightnow, I think that's going to be
kind of exhausting. But anyway.
So yeah, there was a moment,right when I turned 40, where I
thought, Oh, yes, bring the boysthe boys may come to daddy. But
(12:42):
it was only a moment. And forthe past, no now for for all of
my life, right? I've not reallybeen attracting younger guys, I
can think of one other guy inhis 20s, who really is
extraordinary.
And God, I hope we met in NewYork, at the train station. And
(13:06):
that's how you know, I'm talkingabout you if you're listening to
this content. And he'sextraordinary in his ability to
connect with other men ofquality much older than him. And
you know, normally like, it'sreally hard. It's really hard to
connect with me, in part becauseI'm an introvert, in part
because I have strong filters,in part because I have a busy
life, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah. But he was the first 20
year old to really connect withme. And I spent time with him.
(13:28):
And I enjoyed him. And I kept intouch with him. Probably not as
much as I should. But he was thefirst one. And oh, actually,
that wasn't that long ago. Letme think that was maybe 2017.
Maybe, okay, but historically,I've not attracted a lot of men
in their 20s. And he was one ofhe was exceptional. It's really
(13:50):
only very recent, that I've hadthis cavalcade of boys coming to
me and young boys I shouldspecify since boy is not age
dependent. And I'm not entirelysure what that's about. I think
certainly part of it is, youknow, Twitter in particular is
(14:11):
not something I ever thoughtwould happen the way my Twitter
has happened. I've talked aboutthis in places I think, but it
was all kind of accidental. Andnow I've got all these followers
and all this content, and somany of my followers are so
young. I like to say jokinglymind you that my typical Twitter
follower is a 19 year old pupgamer. And that's not entirely
(14:36):
inaccurate, but it might beslightly overstated. So part of
the reason I may be getting allthese 20 year old boys coming
after me is because of a greatervisibility and a greater sort of
presence on Twitter. I do alsowonder, now that I've reached my
50s If that was some turningpoint, that I had not enough
(15:00):
acting. And if it's simply thefact that now I've really
reached tagging age, the salt ismuch greater than the pepper
now. So maybe now, I'm finallydaddy. And it could be a
absolute combination of both. Ido have to admit, though, that
it must be something in me too.
And it might have to do with theboy who changed my life. And if
(15:23):
you've listened to the dominanceepisode, which should be coming
out a couple of weeks beforethis interlude, then you've
heard the story of the boy whochanged my life. And it might
have been that I simply, these20 year old boys were not on my
radar with their particularflavor of submission, and their
particular set of experiences,simply because I had not yet
(15:45):
unlocked within me the dominancethat would connect with that,
probably, it's a combination ofthings. And, and certainly, it's
also, not entirely but partiallyrelated to the fact that I am
currently single. You know, I'lljust also pause and say, the
kind of the kind of made acommitment to not talk about my
(16:06):
relationship status or dating,or if I have a partner, that I'm
trying to keep that a little bitout of my social media. Because
my experience has been with mypast boyfriend with every one of
my boyfriends, like, it can be alittle challenge to date me,
because I come with edge. Andedge is a thing, right? And I
(16:27):
don't want I don't want whoeverI'm in love with to have to be
exposed to that too much. So awhile of couple months ago, I
made a commitment to really pullback talking about any of that
stuff on social media. And it'show this is slightly crossing
that line. But it's also thisinterlude format, it's very
(16:51):
important for me to talk aboutthe things that are going on.
And right now the things thatare going on have to do with
finding a boy, finding apartner, and the men that I'm
finding are in their 20s. Andreally reflecting on the
beautiful justice of that. WhenI think about my journey and the
beautiful potential. That's angift that's been given me to
shape the lives of others atsuch a young age. And that's
(17:13):
what's on my mind, as I recordthis. On July 10. I'm also
getting ready for aninternational trip I'm going to
Dublin Ireland, which issomething I'm also not talking
too much about. It's so shiny, Italked about it when I made the
arrangements, but I'm not. I'mmy plan is to not take my phone
out, not post, not even takepictures while I'm there.
(17:36):
Because I just want to bepresent. And I feel like every
time I'm taking off, taking outmy phone, I'm losing that sense
of presence. So yeah, so that soso this is the interlude.
Young men are coming at me, I'mopen to that I am leaning into
it, if you are 25 to 34 and havea certain flavor of submission,
(18:03):
which I cannot describe. Butwe'll know when we interact if
you have a certain level ofexperience, which I can't
quantify, but which will I willknow when we interact, then
now's the time, because thatdoor is like placed that wide
open. Because there's somelesson there, right? Like if I
am attracting that. And ifthat's what's attracting me,
(18:25):
then there is some thing to belearned there. And that is why
the universe has made it so. Sowe're going to take that ride,
we're going to take that ridewith the young men across the
country, young leather boys andyoung men on dating and cuddling
with we're going to take thatride. And we're going to learn
what we can learn and we'regoing to grow and hopefully in
the process, we will help othersto grow as well. And that's
(18:47):
about it for this interlude as Iprepare for my slightly anxiety
ridden travel to another countrydealing with air travel in the
late pandemic. That's it fornow. I hope that right now, as I
record this on July 10 I havethere's something beautiful in
your life. And certainly whenyou listen to this, I hope
(19:10):
there's something wonderfulhappening, whether you know
about it, or it's about tosurprise you. And as always,
always, always, I really do hopeyour leather journey is utterly
blessed.
Welcome to another interlude on full cow.
interludes are the episodesbetween the episodes where I
share in a raw and uneditedformat, things that are going on
in my life. And in thisinterlude, I would like to focus
a little bit on age. But beforeI do that, I really have to
(00:23):
acknowledge for myself, that mywealth has been extraordinarily
low lately. And part of that isbeing single. And I really
adjusted to the fact that it'sentirely possible, I could be
single for quite a while. Andit's not about loneliness. But
for means an introvert, apartner provides me a kind of
(00:46):
extra well of energy, andsomeone who fills my own well.
And when I'm single, I simplyhave less energy to move through
the world. But then on top ofthat, like trying to meet people
and talk to people and go ondates, and look for people, it
just costs energy. So I amconstantly running at this
(01:07):
slight energy deficit. I didn'teven know if I'd be able to find
it in me to get this interludedone. But here we are. I'm also
a little concerned about futureepisodes of the podcast. But
hopefully, I will fill my wellsoon. So ah, now I did a whole
series on age and aging, onTwitter, and Instagram. And it
(01:29):
really focused more aboutgrowing older, in leather and
kink. But really what I want totalk about instead is something
a little different. And I'll getto it by telling you this, you
know, I have a quote unquote,professional graphic account on
Instagram, which really doesn'tmean all that much. But it does
provide me some more insightsinto people who are visiting my
(01:52):
profile, I'm looking at mycontent. And every now and then
Instagram will pop up and say,Hey, this post is doing better
than 90% of your other blogposts, consider boosting it. And
so every now and then I'll besure, sure, here's 30 bucks,
Instagram, Go, Go show this postto more people go boost me. And
(02:13):
then I look at the insights andwithout fail. The largest bar
when it comes to the agecategories, the one where I am
striking the most where peopleare coming in, the people who
come to my content, more thananyone else are aged 25 to 34.
(02:33):
And Instagram is not wrong.
Because recently in my life,I've only been approached by men
who are 25 to 34. And really, Isay the key demographic recently
has been 26 to 28. There's a 23year old here and there's a 34
year old there, but 26 to 28that is my beautiful sweet spot.
(02:53):
And for a long time this wasn'tI'm not gonna say it was
upsetting for me. Because youknow, it's kind of great to be
attracting really young men. Butit was discouraging to me
because I'm really impartlooking for someone a little bit
more my age as a life partner.
(03:14):
I'm looking for someone with alittle bit more life experience
if they're going to be my boy.
I've been looking for someone alittle closer to me. However, I
recently met a boy throughTwitter. We met at ramrod cages
in town for Fort Lauderdalepride, hello, if you're
listening, and when I got homefrom meeting him, I mean, he was
really he was the kind of boythat pushed my buttons. And I
(03:37):
was like, Oh, this isn't goodstuff. He's 26. But he had eight
years of experience. I was 26.
And when I got home, I decidedyou know what, if the universe
is bringing me men of this age,then it's time for me to lean
in. And so I am and thatincludes my 28 year old cuddle
(04:02):
buddy. The 27 year old I've beenon a couple of dates with the 26
year old boy in Orlando, the 23year old boy I'm chatting with
in the southwest. There's a 35 Ithink he's 35. Now he might have
aged out in the mid Atlanticregion. There are also a couple
(04:25):
of mentees who are in their 20sI am. I am just going with it. I
am going with men in their 20sand as part of this process, you
know, I really, I stopped and Ithought, gee edge. What were you
doing when you were 2627 28 andwhat I was doing when I was
(04:46):
2627 28 I was seeing men intheir mid 40s to mid 50s. So
there's a beautiful sense ofthings coming full circle
and you know growing up up, Iwas always into older men. And I
thought that was my thing. Ithought I was an altar into
older men, what I'm realizingnow through this experience and
(05:09):
through reflecting on age, andthe men I'm attracted to, and
the men who are attracted to mewhat I'm realizing now. So I was
never really into older men, Iwas just into men in their mid
40s to mid 50s. And now that I'm51, right, right in the middle,
that target range, I'm attractedto men my age, I had to grow
(05:30):
into the demographic I desired.
And now that I am thedemographic I desired, I
primarily want men of my age.
And yet at the same time, Icertainly suddenly realized,
like, wow, I mean, I can't blamethese beautiful young men for
coming after me, because JesusChrist, that's what I was doing.
(05:51):
And it felt suddenly, it feltkind of right for me to open
myself up to thesepossibilities. Because part of
how I became the leather man Iam, is because of these men in
their 40s and 50s, who sawsomeone in their early 20s and
said, Hey, that's kinda nice. Iwant to play with that. And
(06:15):
because they did, and because Igot to spend time with them, and
learn from them, and gainexperience from them. That's
been a huge factor in shaping myleather path and my leather
journey, and turning me into theleather man I am today. So yes,
yes, it's time for me to openthe doors to men in their 20s 25
(06:35):
to 34. That's, that's mydemographic. And if that happens
to be you, what can I say youwill probably have a chance with
me that you did not have before.
I will say it's not immature,you know, we tend to think that
gay culture, so youth obsess,and it's not that I am
attracted, or obsessed withtheir youthfulness, if anything,
to some extent, their youthpneus is almost something I have
(06:56):
to put to the side, because I'ma little suspicious of youth. I
like stability. I like peoplewho are established people who
knew they know who they are. Ilike people who have experience
and the truth is, looking at myown journey through my 20s could
vote I didn't have any of that Iwas still figuring out who I was
(07:17):
still on my way. So I'm notdrawn to these men, simply
because of their extraordinarilysmooth, supple, wrinkle free
skin. Yes, thank you very much.
I'm drawn to them, as I'm drawnto most men by something they
have inside some energy. And youknow, if you listen to my stuff,
(07:39):
you know, I go back and forth onthe woowoo. But the truth is, I
like the woowoo. And there'ssomething in them. Maybe we
don't call it energy, maybe wecall it their disposition, their
submission, their desires. Idon't know there's something in
these young men that I would bejust as drawn to, if they were
(08:00):
my age. It's something specialand unique. Primarily,
primarily, except for the Sefer.
Okay, well, the 28 year oldcuddle, buddy, no, he's a little
submissive, the 27 year old thatI've been on a couple of dates
with, I don't really get thatenergy from him. But the rest of
the men I'm going after the restof my young cohort are
submissive boys. At the sametime, being young is not enough,
(08:22):
right? It's not just even aboutthat beautiful, submissive
energy. I have. I have a certainset of expectations. I don't
know I hate saying that. Butit's reasonable. And it's true.
I like men with some set ofexperience, right? I'm not, I am
not. I am not the greeter, Iwhich I've talked about in some
(08:45):
of my other content. I am notthe person who says, Oh, you've
never experienced leather. Letme show you. I will teach you
from scratch. I, I like to playheavy. And I like to play hard.
And I like to take men reallydeep, pretty fast. And for that,
I need men who have somebaseline of experience. So what
(09:06):
makes the men coming after mefairly remarkable. isn't just
that they're young isn't justthat they have this particular
vibration of submission thatresonates for me. But they have
experience, which is not at allsurprising.
I suppose. In my head. It'ssurprising. But if I think about
(09:27):
it now as I'm recording this,that's not surprising at all,
because wow man if I was gettingexperienced in my early 20s, and
that was at a time when theInternet didn't even exist.
Certainly these men who haveaccess to Twitter and recon and
Instagram and all of theresources that the web offers in
(09:48):
relation to leather and kink.
Surely we are we are finding thegeneration who are not only
coming out early, not onlyfinding their gender identity
and their sexual identity early,not only are they finding kinky,
curly, but they are experiencingthis kink in particular, at a
very young age. And that justsounds really hopeful to me, it
gives me great hope. And, and Ido think there's a part of me
(10:11):
that's like, I really like, God,what I do, and all my content is
about passing on a particularway of doing leather. That is
important. Now I can do it withthese men who are young, who
have beautiful leather journeysahead of them great leather
careers, who already have enoughexperience to kind of cross the
(10:32):
threshold of my play room, theyalready have enough experience
for that. But I see what I cando with them. And to them, and
for them. And so I suspect it'sgoing to be a really kind of
interesting journey. Now. Youknow, as I've noted, most of
these men are in the context ofboys who are approaching the
(10:53):
boys who are submissive. Andthen there's the 27 year old
I've been on a couple of dateswith who is not that and I've,
I've told him, I've made itvery, I like being on a
subprime. I've told him, it'sreally hard for me to imagine
having a boyfriend who isessentially half my age is not
(11:14):
exactly half my age, but he'spractically half my age, right?
I certainly could literally behis father, which I find, I
guess some men would find thatsuper hot. I find it slightly
disturbing. And I've been veryhonest with him. But you know,
he does have a sort of a treeabout him. He's like, hey, we
(11:35):
don't have to cross that bridge.
Let's just take it one day at atime. Like, okay, I can resonate
with that. So my journey rightnow is about young Leatherman.
They are everywhere returnwithout me even really having to
look for them. And I don't knowif that's always been the case.
That's what's interesting. I,honestly, if I, if I go back in
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my memory, this is new. And it'sinteresting, because when I
turned 40, I was I was like, Oh,now, I probably put this on
Tumblr. Oh, now I'm officially adaddy, where all the young boys
who went daddy come. I and theydidn't. And then I was half
(12:21):
joking about that whole line ofthought, and certainly
reevaluated that but for alittle while, I thought, oh,
it'd be nice to have someone youknow, like, really young and hot
and horny all the time. Rightnow, I think that's going to be
kind of exhausting. But anyway.
So yeah, there was a moment,right when I turned 40, where I
thought, Oh, yes, bring the boysthe boys may come to daddy. But
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it was only a moment. And forthe past, no now for for all of
my life, right? I've not reallybeen attracting younger guys, I
can think of one other guy inhis 20s, who really is
extraordinary.
And God, I hope we met in NewYork, at the train station. And
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that's how you know, I'm talkingabout you if you're listening to
this content. And he'sextraordinary in his ability to
connect with other men ofquality much older than him. And
you know, normally like, it'sreally hard. It's really hard to
connect with me, in part becauseI'm an introvert, in part
because I have strong filters,in part because I have a busy
life, blah, blah, blah, blah,blah. But he was the first 20
year old to really connect withme. And I spent time with him.
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And I enjoyed him. And I kept intouch with him. Probably not as
much as I should. But he was thefirst one. And oh, actually,
that wasn't that long ago. Letme think that was maybe 2017.
Maybe, okay, but historically,I've not attracted a lot of men
in their 20s. And he was one ofhe was exceptional. It's really
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only very recent, that I've hadthis cavalcade of boys coming to
me and young boys I shouldspecify since boy is not age
dependent. And I'm not entirelysure what that's about. I think
certainly part of it is, youknow, Twitter in particular is
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not something I ever thoughtwould happen the way my Twitter
has happened. I've talked aboutthis in places I think, but it
was all kind of accidental. Andnow I've got all these followers
and all this content, and somany of my followers are so
young. I like to say jokinglymind you that my typical Twitter
follower is a 19 year old pupgamer. And that's not entirely
(14:36):
inaccurate, but it might beslightly overstated. So part of
the reason I may be getting allthese 20 year old boys coming
after me is because of a greatervisibility and a greater sort of
presence on Twitter. I do alsowonder, now that I've reached my
50s If that was some turningpoint, that I had not enough
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acting. And if it's simply thefact that now I've really
reached tagging age, the salt ismuch greater than the pepper
now. So maybe now, I'm finallydaddy. And it could be a
absolute combination of both. Ido have to admit, though, that
it must be something in me too.
And it might have to do with theboy who changed my life. And if
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you've listened to the dominanceepisode, which should be coming
out a couple of weeks beforethis interlude, then you've
heard the story of the boy whochanged my life. And it might
have been that I simply, these20 year old boys were not on my
radar with their particularflavor of submission, and their
particular set of experiences,simply because I had not yet
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unlocked within me the dominancethat would connect with that,
probably, it's a combination ofthings. And, and certainly, it's
also, not entirely but partiallyrelated to the fact that I am
currently single. You know, I'lljust also pause and say, the
kind of the kind of made acommitment to not talk about my
(16:06):
relationship status or dating,or if I have a partner, that I'm
trying to keep that a little bitout of my social media. Because
my experience has been with mypast boyfriend with every one of
my boyfriends, like, it can be alittle challenge to date me,
because I come with edge. Andedge is a thing, right? And I
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don't want I don't want whoeverI'm in love with to have to be
exposed to that too much. So awhile of couple months ago, I
made a commitment to really pullback talking about any of that
stuff on social media. And it'show this is slightly crossing
that line. But it's also thisinterlude format, it's very
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important for me to talk aboutthe things that are going on.
And right now the things thatare going on have to do with
finding a boy, finding apartner, and the men that I'm
finding are in their 20s. Andreally reflecting on the
beautiful justice of that. WhenI think about my journey and the
beautiful potential. That's angift that's been given me to
shape the lives of others atsuch a young age. And that's
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what's on my mind, as I recordthis. On July 10. I'm also
getting ready for aninternational trip I'm going to
Dublin Ireland, which issomething I'm also not talking
too much about. It's so shiny, Italked about it when I made the
arrangements, but I'm not. I'mmy plan is to not take my phone
out, not post, not even takepictures while I'm there.
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Because I just want to bepresent. And I feel like every
time I'm taking off, taking outmy phone, I'm losing that sense
of presence. So yeah, so that soso this is the interlude.
Young men are coming at me, I'mopen to that I am leaning into
it, if you are 25 to 34 and havea certain flavor of submission,
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which I cannot describe. Butwe'll know when we interact if
you have a certain level ofexperience, which I can't
quantify, but which will I willknow when we interact, then
now's the time, because thatdoor is like placed that wide
open. Because there's somelesson there, right? Like if I
am attracting that. And ifthat's what's attracting me,
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then there is some thing to belearned there. And that is why
the universe has made it so. Sowe're going to take that ride,
we're going to take that ridewith the young men across the
country, young leather boys andyoung men on dating and cuddling
with we're going to take thatride. And we're going to learn
what we can learn and we'regoing to grow and hopefully in
the process, we will help othersto grow as well. And that's
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about it for this interlude as Iprepare for my slightly anxiety
ridden travel to another countrydealing with air travel in the
late pandemic. That's it fornow. I hope that right now, as I
record this on July 10 I havethere's something beautiful in
your life. And certainly whenyou listen to this, I hope
(19:10):
there's something wonderfulhappening, whether you know
about it, or it's about tosurprise you. And as always,
always, always, I really do hopeyour leather journey is utterly
blessed.
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