September 3, 2025 • 29 mins
Have you ever noticed your shoulders creeping toward your ears during a stressful day? Or caught yourself holding your breath without realizing it? These physical manifestations might be trying to tell you something profound about your emotional state.
In this deeply relatable episode, we dive into the fascinating world of bottled emotions and the surprising toll they take on our bodies and relationships. Drawing from both personal experiences and therapeutic insights, we explore why so many of us unconsciously repress our feelings instead of learning to regulate them in healthy ways.
The conversation takes unexpected turns as we examine how modern communication patterns—texting instead of calling, avoiding eye contact with service workers, and even our addiction to constant phone accessibility—have created new barriers to authentic emotional expression. We share vulnerable moments from our own lives, including how the COVID pandemic forced us to reevaluate our relationship with isolation and connection.
Most compelling is our discussion of "emotional trance"—that autopilot mode where we move through life barely noticing our feelings until something or someone interrupts our patterns. These pattern interrupts, while sometimes uncomfortable, might be exactly what we need to reconnect with ourselves and others in meaningful ways.
For anyone who's ever wondered why they feel physical pain during emotional distress, or why certain feelings seem impossible to express even to those closest to them, this episode offers both validation and practical insights. You'll learn the difference between unhealthy repression and skillful regulation, and how simple practices like making eye contact, breathing deeply, or having one real conversation each week can transform your emotional landscape.
Join us for this thought-provoking exploration of what it truly means to feel our emotions in an increasingly disconnected world. We'd love to hear your thoughts on Instagram @getrealpodcast about how you navigate your own emotional terrain.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
bottling up emotions.
What, yes, what a feeling, allthese feelings that we can feel
and that we don't allowourselves to feel more than
anything.
Yeah, that's what we're goingto be talking about in this
week's episode of get real withthe english sisters.
So join us.
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We're now in over 86 countries.
People are listening, as southkorea, japan, usa, uk, italy and
so many more india.
I mean, it's just amazing,isn't it?
Thank you so much.
Thank you so much, and do goand follow us and come and see
us on instagram, too, at getreal with the english sisters.
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With english sisters, I amfeeling ever so excited about
this and I am not bottling upthese emotions.
Oh, no way, no way.
We certainly know how to feelexcited, even though sometimes I
do feel as if I have like a bitof imposter syndrome, because
sometimes, when I see that, youknow, when I look at the charts
and I see that we're in allthese countries and people are
(01:08):
listening, I can't reallybelieve it, I suppose, because
it's a podcast and we don'tactually get feedback.
We don't see you and, of course, those of you that do come and
say hi on Instagram.
It's great.
It makes it more real, though,doesn't it?
Yeah, otherwise it's just likeoh, is it true?
Yeah, and sometimes I feel likeI can't, just a little bit of
(01:29):
when, when, yeah, when you sendme all these things, I think, oh
, my gosh, what?
Like?
We've had, like I don't know,67 downloads in in a remote part
of the world for me.
I I have a difficulty in notsort of believing it's true,
because I know it's true becauseit's not like, but it's like
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because you think we can'tactually touch it and feel it.
If we went, then we see thepeople in the room, like what
they say, you can see the peoplein the room and then you can go
and say hi to them.
Well, that's it, isn't it?
After all, we kind of need thatconnection, we need the human
connection.
We're not like trying to makeyou feel guilty here, saying
right to us, but it's kind oflike we don't.
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It's like, yes, you can't sortof I'm sure that you, you must
have had that experience wheresomething's happened to you and
then you just feel as if didthat really happen?
Or, you know, am I just kind ofimagining it?
I think.
I think it's because when youdon't have like real life
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conversations with people,that's why, even when you do,
because sometimes when you gosomewhere, you might be told
like, oh, you're really good atthat and you're really good at
that, and you just go, oh, thankyou, but you don't actually
believe it.
Yeah, yeah, maybe, yeah, and Ithink that is something to do
with what we're talking abouttoday about emotions, how we
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process them.
Do we actually take the time weneed to actually really think
about how we're feeling, or itdoes it just go like in one ear
and out the other, like theyused to say?
Is that a question of lowself-esteem?
Do you think, like, because youdon't really believe what other
people are telling you like, Idon't know, you don't some human
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?
Um, it's just something thathumans do.
What Do they?
Or do we just do it?
I mean all the humans, thepeople sometimes that we see,
like for therapy.
We know that they may besuffering from that as well and
we actually coach them intobelieving more in themselves.
So, come on, I think it's alsomaybe because we tend to, like,
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not believe in ourselves thatmuch, but I do believe in us and
I do believe in the and I dobelieve in the work we do, but I
don't know, I think.
I think it's because it'sonline.
I don't think, yeah, I don'tthink it's because we don't
believe in ourselves.
I think it's because it'ssomething.
When it's a bit too much foryour brain to absorb, it becomes
overwhelming, and then you justthink it's just easier to go
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because, let's face it, okay,we're hypnotists, we're
hypnotherapy.
We know how the mind works, weknow what we do and most of the
time I mean people are scared ofhypnosis, but really most of
the time, all of us are like ina hypnotic trance, which means
we are just in autopilot.
That is the classification of ahypnotic trance.
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It doesn't mean you're asleep,it just means you're in
autopilot and you're goingaround your day without thinking
about things.
And I think that's what happenswhen someone breaks that and
they say, oh, you're really goodat that.
Oh, thank you.
Oh, you receive a compliment.
It's like, hey, you're back inthe world again.
You're not just sipping yourcoffee and looking through your
phone or doing your work, you'rehere with me.
(04:52):
You mean it's like a patterninterrupt as of, like they've
interrupted your, your dailythinking pattern and and um,
your daily trance that we all goaround in.
Do you think this is somethingthat we do in order to repress
emotion, then Do you think thisis what we all do?
I think we do do it in order torepress emotion, because when
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we're going around in our dailytrance, so to speak, we brush
our teeth, we have the samethoughts going through our head,
whether it's negative orpositive, and it's like and then
it's, and then it's hey, it'slike a wake up, yeah, it's like
an interaction, even for thesurprising thing is that, even
for good things because we'retalking about good things you've
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been interrupted here.
Now you're you.
You you have to.
Yeah, you're right, you have tocome out of yourself, come out
of your shell and come into theworld.
Yeah, you're right.
Yeah, gosh, I mean, that isquite impressive, that, the fact
that you've just said that.
Yeah.
So I think what we have to do is, like with our emotions, maybe
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we should aim for regulation,not repression.
That's a good thing.
Maybe we should learn we shouldI'm all chuffed about that very
happy, yeah, because I thinkthat if we learn to regulate our
emotions to uh, to a certainpoint whether they're extreme
happy emotions or extremely youknow other kind of more intense
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emotions if we learn to regulatethem in a way that we can still
feel them, but we're not andwe're not repressing them, but
we're not like sometimes thenobviously you have to regulate
them, don't you, to a certainpoint, if, for normal kind of
activities, if you want to feellike jumping up and down for joy
because something great hashappened to you, but you're in
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that kind of uh you knowatmosphere where you don't think
other people are going toappreciate that or you know you
might well you have to read theroom.
Obviously, if you are in a in a, in a I don't know I've just
thought of something really sadsay, you're in a hospital room
and you've got other peoplereceiving diagnosis that aren't
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aren't good, and yours is reallygood, well, that's a good,
that's a fair point, and peoplearound you are crying, and that
you're not going to start saying, yeah, you know, I've, I mean
you, you can inside, butobviously you're going to go
away to another place which ismore appropriate, and then, yeah
, be happy there, but I mean,that's just part of being human,
that't it?
That is, yeah, that's kind ofunderstanding it.
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Yes, if you have, you know, butin general, I think, if you
understand, like human behaviourand other people's emotions,
and that is something you know,even if you're on the on the
spectrum people, you can learnhow to do that.
You could learn, yes, so that'sa bit of an extreme example
there, but in general I think,if we learn to regulate our
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emotions, you know, on a largerscale, for everything in life, I
think that could be reallyuseful, like a nervous emotion
and frustrating emotions thatcan come up.
I think, if we learn how toregulate them by understanding
that they're coming up, well,yeah, I mean, there's anger,
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there's happiness, there's somany.
There's jealousy, sadness,grief, feeling melancholic,
feeling nostalgic, which hashappened a lot in the past, you
know, over the past few years.
I think if we do learn toregulate that we, we won't be
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repressing it so much.
It's like, you know, we couldjust imagine like, how can you
regulate it?
Though, you have to, you have tolet it out, you have to talk
about it.
Yes, you have to talk about itand let it out slowly.
It has to be like, not nottaboo.
You have to say how you feeling.
You okay, you okay, mate, howare you?
You know what's it, what'sgoing on with you.
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I think that you need to havelike, once again, you know, have
a human connection withsomebody and actually have a
real conversation with somebody,um, friends, the family,
whoever it is, therapists, youknow the thing is a lot of the
time you don't want to be theone that's that, like you know,
the emotional one, the emotionalone, the one that's going to be
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putting a downer on everything,especially if the emotions
aren't that great, if they'renot happy, even if they are
happy.
I mean you.
You don't, you can't alwaysshare happy emotions either no,
people are not, can get on otherpeople's nerves, or they can be
a sensitive, like you're havinga baby and you know your friend
can't have one.
You're not going to startjumping up and down saying how
happy you are when your bestfriend, you know she's maybe
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struggling for years, or youknow, or they've been struggling
for years to have children.
And you can't.
Obviously you have to.
You have to know, you knowwhat's going on around you.
You have to be sensitive, don'tyou?
I think it's.
I think that's important andsometimes being too sensitive is
what is what causes all theseemotions?
Yeah, because you think it cannever be my turn.
Exactly, it's never kind ofappropriate, because everything
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else is so overwhelming foreveryone else.
There's so much heartbreakgoing on in the world, there's
so many people struggling withso many different things, who am
I to be able to express my joynow?
That's also that's a good point, because I think when you are
an emotional person, you do tendto bottle your emotions up even
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further because you feel as ifyou can't express your emotions,
because you also tune into whatother people's emotions are and
you know about them, becausethere's some people they just
they just they go around.
They go around as if therearen't any more.
You know they couldn't give,they couldn't give a, they
couldn't care, care less ifother people.
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They're just like not eventhinking about them, they're
just thinking about themselves.
So, hey, I'm great.
You know I'm doing this.
I want everyone to to to kindof listen and see what I'm doing
and how I'm feeling.
And you know I've got a rightto this.
Hmm, yeah, sometimes being toooverly or thinking that you're
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too overly emotional as well,because I don't think.
I think we we're we're allemotional beings.
It's just that we've somepeople have learned to repress
it more than others and that'snot really doing them any good
either.
We suppress it and then it justall pressure, then it then it
comes out, or come out in yourhealth, in a chronic illness or
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a heart attack god forbid, oryeah, so you know it or backache
, yeah, you'll repress theseemotions and your body will
stiffen up.
And it'll stiffen up it willnot in a good way, not in a bad
way.
No, yeah, and it will.
Yes, absolutely not in thatkind of way it'll stiffen up in
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a bad way, like on your shiitake, on your backache, on your neck
, where you actually might needit.
No, and it's no good,definitely not good for you.
And and you'll, you'll thinkwhy do I get these?
You know pains now in my body.
What's happened?
Like, I mean, I got a terriblebackache.
Backache last time I went tothe hospital, but I knew what,
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what it was.
I was fully aware.
I knew I was so tense sittingon that chair waiting to get the
results and everything, and Iknew I was tense and stressed
about it.
I knew, fine, well, I mean, Ijust can't believe it.
The next day I have thisterrible backache.
Well, it's obvious, becauseyou're holding your body in a
tense state.
I mean, if you do the test athome and you just clench your
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fist and you're holding yourbody in a tense state.
I mean, if you do the test athome and you just clench your
fist and you'll stiffen your armup, I give you.
If you're watching the videoyou can see us.
But anyway, I've got my handout straight with my fist,
really tense, tight, yes, andthen you hold it like that for a
few seconds and then yourelease it.
You take a deep breath in andyou release it and you'll
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actually feel how much tensionyou're actually holding in your
arm and your hand and it'll goright through your body and
you'll feel release.
So that's what we do with ourbodies all day long.
It's like we clench them, weclench them.
We clench them in certainsituations.
Yeah, we keep them tightwithout realising it because
we're so tense.
We do that to our breath aswell.
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The breath we hold it, hold itin.
We stop breathing properly.
Yeah, that's what some peoplesay Stop, you don't breathe
properly.
I mean that's annoying in perse, isn't it?
When they say you don't knowhow to breathe, I mean it's a
subconscious action.
Yeah, but what we do is whenwe're very stressed we've got
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cortisol going through ourbodies, adrenaline we stop
breathing properly.
So we stop taking those extradeep breaths that we have.
If we have to do every now andagain, yes, we do, and we start
breathing rather rapidly and andso we're actually, you know,
receiving less oxygen and so thewhole.
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It causes a whole series ofproblems that we're kind of not
really aware of because we'verepressed it once again.
So you have to become, I think,aware of the repression that
you're doing to your ownemotions and, um, yeah, whatever
it is like, yeah, and so if you, if you are feeling an emotion
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and I mean I suggest that ifyou're going through, say, grief
or some other emotion, anger,if you're feeling anger there,
there are things you can do.
Like, if you're feeling anger,you can go into a room and
scream when there's no onearound you and you're not going
to hurt anyone with your voice.
But, yeah, do physical activity.
You can also sport and exerciseexcellent ways.
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That's why people feel they'reso great after they go for a run
or a walk.
Yeah, definitely.
And also, when you're walking,you're breathing properly
because your body just requiresit, so, subconsciously, you just
start breathing properly.
Yeah, and then definitely tryand talk to somebody, have a
real conversation with somebody,not just texting.
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It's different, like if youhave nothing else, texting does
help a lot, texting like you cantext the friends and say I'm
feeling rotten today, you know,and that.
Like you can text the friendand say I'm feeling rotten today
, you know, and that.
But if you can actually Even,rather than texting, I think you
can phone them.
Or if you if it's not phone,but even the voice memos,
because you can hear theperson's voice, which is very
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calming.
It can be very calming.
Yes, and it's because we doneed that kind of connection.
Why don't we say I want to hearyour voice?
It's because we do need thatkind of connection.
Why do we say I want to hearyour voice?
Yes, absolutely.
Like the other day my son phonedme, he texted me and he said
Mom, I don't feel well.
So I said, well, can you do avideo call Because I want to see
you?
No, no, there's no need.
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And I said I just want to seeyour face, can you just call me?
And then, when he called me, Isaw he had this massive lump
here, like under his yeah, underhis ear and near the jaw, and
it was a mandibular gland thathad actually really swollen up.
This probably had something Idon't know.
So I said no, now that I'veseen you, I want you to go and
see a doctor.
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However, I just wanted to seehim.
You know like just check in,check in, check in, even though
I mean I see him.
You know like just check in onhis status, check in, check in,
even though I mean I see him alot, but he doesn't actually
live with me anymore.
I just wanted to see him.
And, and sometimes I think wecan forget that when we text um,
the importance of actually,because I think what happens is
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when you're texting, thoughyou're, you're not, you can be
texting, you're not reallythinking about that person, so
there's no intention in it,you're just writing and you're
not writing.
Or sometimes you can just say,yeah, everything's okay, you
know all okay, mate, you knowlike especially.
But then when you actually hearsomebody's voice, you can pick
up and say you know, you canpick up on so many things and
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say, right, I don't really thinkmy friend is okay.
No, you can hear like cryingover the voice.
Well, I mean, that's quiteextreme if it's crying, but you
can hear.
Crying is one of these emotionsthat we need to be able to do?
No, absolutely.
But I mean, they might notactually be crying, they might
just be feeling whatever they'refeeling.
Yeah, but you can't see cryingin a text, can you?
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Unless you put a teary face?
Yes, but it's not the samething.
That's what I'm saying.
Yes, yeah, so I I think it'simportant if we can at least
talk to somebody for real, likefor real talk to somebody,
because that can help us expresssome of what's been going on,
at least once a week, you know,with somebody that you care
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about.
If you can, and if you don'thave that kind of relationship,
then yeah, I think with friendsas well.
If you, if you've got onefriend that's hogging all the
conversation all the timebecause they're going through a
particularly a tough time orwhatever, that's fine.
But I think then you have tosay, okay, now it's my turn.
I need to, I need to talk aboutwhat's going on with me now.
(17:55):
Can you just listen for a fewminutes and give me you know,
give me some support, support,yeah, because all you need is
just to really be listened to.
Yeah, I mean, obviously youmight need a hug as well, but
you need somebody to actuallyreally listen to you.
Um, yeah, actively.
Yeah, well, yeah, because Ithink we forget about that
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nowadays.
You know, it's all not, not,not, just I'm not.
You know I'm a.
I'm addicted to my phone as well.
I'm not saying it's because of,and a lot of the times I prefer
to text because I don't wantpeople to actually hear my voice
, because I might not be feelinggreat, and so I think, no, you
know, like I just say you know,how are you?
Oh, great, thanks, all good,you know, and I, and what's she
(18:42):
doing?
She's suspicious.
Now I'm just thinking of thelast few texts I got off you,
yeah, yeah.
Or you on the text you writeyippee, you know all great, but
then really you're, you know,you've been through something
quite intense and and andobviously, when I see you, I
always tell you, I always tellyou and that's why I find it
very therapeutic, yeah, and youtell me you know what, what's
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been going on?
But yeah, definitely it's.
We can lack that in today'smodern society, even more now,
because I think we have to put abrave face on, don't we?
Yeah, and there's times when wecan just be walking around,
even like in our normal lives,and we've got our ear pods on,
like you're going to asupermarket, you're buying some
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foods and you you couldn't.
You're not even looking at thecashier that's serving you
anymore, if you're lucky enoughto have one, otherwise it's just
most of them don't have themnow.
Well, here they still do.
In Italy, a lot of the timesyou have somebody, but, like the
other day, I just saw thisperson just going in with their
ear pods on and not evenlistening and looking at the
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lady who was you know, and Ithought, yeah, I get that
because you're on a conversationor you know.
In the past that would beconsidered rude to go around
like that, you know, and notactually look at the person or
still be on the or doing yourown stuff.
And nowadays it's like becomemore normal, but it does mean
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that we kind of lose connection,even with you know, the few
people that we have around us,with the locals.
Yeah, and I think that'simportant, it's really important
not to do it.
Yesterday I went into a coffeeshop and I was actually on the
phone while I was ordering uncappuccino.
(20:31):
And I said un cappuccino and Ithought I haven't even really
acknowledged the lady that'sserving me.
And afterwards I went and Iordered another one and I
actually looked into her eyesand I connected with her and I
thought, wow, and I gave her asmile and I thought, god, I was
rude before.
Yeah, I would consider that abit rude.
(20:51):
It was rude, but I had.
I was actually on the phone,but did I really have waited to
order?
You didn't have to order, Ididn't have to answer my phone
right there.
And then, exactly that's what Imean.
Yes, I'm addicted.
I answered this client's phonecall.
I thought I didn't have toanswer it.
I could have just phoned backlater.
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But I did and then, and then Ithought, look, I'm as guilty as
everybody else around here and Igot the human connection.
I still remember her face now.
Well, obviously, and it was amoment, and I thought we need
more of these moments.
Well, we do, because that'swhat's going on now.
There aren't enough of thesemoments.
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I know these mirror neurons.
We reflect each other.
We need these scientifically.
We need these mirror neurons.
So every time we stare atsomeone or look at them in a
nice way obviously don't givethem filthy stares.
We give them a nice smile and alook and acknowledge their
presence we are getting mirrorneurons back in return which are
giving us dopamine.
(21:53):
They're giving us feel goodhormones, yes, so it's like
having a shot of feel-goodhormones.
Every time when you smile atsomeone, if they're not feeling
great, you're going to make themfeel better and in return, you
will feel better as well youwill.
So I know this podcast is aboutyou know, um, how to express
emotion.
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But this is all part of it,because I think that the new
world that we're into nowadaysis kind of not really helping us
to express our human emotionsthat much, even though an emoji
and everything can help.
But it's not the same.
No, it has become more loving.
I think, with all these littlehearts and emojis, you kind of
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feel, I think, can say I feel Ilove you more than maybe in our
times when I, you know, our dadwouldn't even tell us he loved
us.
It was.
We was understood that, we knewthat he loved us deeply, but he
wouldn't actually say it I loveyou.
It was like taboo to say it forsome reason, like you couldn't
like express these things.
Yeah, so now you can say I loveyou to your friends and I love
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you, you send hearts and yousend hearts and kisses, and.
But it's different to say to afriend you know, I really love
you.
You know, when looking at themin their eyes, you know then
sending hearts out on a text,it's a big deal.
You probably, if you say to afriend, I love you, especially
men I know that men don't hardlyever do this yeah, you know, or
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I miss you.
You know, like may you know menthey don't say to their best
friends I've really missed you.
I don't think they say thatmore now, maybe more now.
But like I was asking my sonhe's 26 I said did you tell your
friend he hasn't seen him forages how much you're actually
missing?
Because no, mom, we don't talklike that, you know, as if don't
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be weird.
But I don't think you wouldtell your girlfriends either.
No, I think I think women arebetter at this.
If you were really good friends, you would.
Otherwise you can sound a bitneedy, especially if they're off
doing their own thing andthey're really happy, not like
that.
I mean not yeah, well, yeahyeah.
Because sometimes in youryou've got your best friend
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that's going off and doing theirown thing and they're really
happy and you're going through amore tough time and then you're
really missing, saying I reallymiss you.
I really miss you.
In the end, you're gonna put adampener on that person, aren't
you?
Yeah, not yet.
It's just like, sort of, whenyou do manage to set a time to
actually meet in real life, thento give them a hug and say,
gosh, I miss you.
(24:26):
No, but maybe lovely seeing you, that's right.
What are you saying?
Lovely seeing you, yeah,instead of so much I miss you
because that is talking aboutyour emotions, I suppose but
it's saying I miss you.
It could make the other personfeel as if they, like they've
been, like they feel they canfeel like, oh, I haven't, like
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you know being there.
Yeah, yeah, I know what youmean.
Yeah, but then again, you'renot allowed to, so you're not
allowed to say that you have torepress it.
I think that's where you wouldrepress it.
You would repress it and youwouldn't say I miss you,
especially if they're busy.
Yeah, you just say, oh, it'sbeen lovely.
Well, yeah, because you'resuddenly getting.
You have suddenly invented thispersona.
That's really, really needy.
I didn't.
(25:09):
I don't know where you've justinvented that from, as if
there's some kind of weirdstalker.
I miss you.
I mean, I just met it in areally nice way.
You know like you're bothreally busy and you're both
doing your normal stuff, butthen when you manage the other
person, of course the otherperson will say I really miss
meeting up.
It's really sweet.
Do you remember in the pandemichow much we missed each other?
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Oh, my god, that was awful.
We couldn't see each other foryears what, yeah, we're not
years, but it was like likelocked into our own villages,
yeah, and that was horrible.
That that's when you kind ofrealize what really is like.
Since then.
You know that ever since thepandemic, I have not wanted I
before I used to love staying athome all day and just staying
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in the garden, maybe working abit online, and, yes, put me off
.
But now I I always want to gosomewhere.
Yeah, I know we've beentraumatized by go somewhere
because you haven't got thepolice on.
In here in italy we used tohave the police at the end of
the road checking documents andasking where you were going.
I mean, it was, it was ahorrible time.
It was a horrible time.
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Yeah, that was really horrible.
That's when you really realizedhow important connection is and
actually seeing people becauseyou could be online.
Or I remember once we talked toour colleague in um in America
and he he was saying, oh my god,I can't believe I can't go out
and see anyone.
It's so hard, and yet we weretalking from Italy to America
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but it's not the same as seeingsomeone in person.
No, well, that's my pointexactly.
So we know, I know, know, theCOVID was a big trauma for
everybody, whether you realiseit or not, because some people
say it wasn't traumatic.
They'd say it was lovelybecause they've managed to be at
home and connect with theirfamily, connect with their
families and maybe feel moreemotions that maybe in their
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everyday Were so repressed, yeah, run of the mill lives, when
they're just doing, you know,going about their day every day.
They didn't have time to domaybe.
Yes, for a lot of people theydid manage to reconnect and
they've managed to say now Idon't want that lifestyle
anymore where I'm always runningaround and always, you know,
going to work.
And it made you stop,definitely made you stop and
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reflect and then hopefully youknow we've risen from this a
little bit more wiser, you know,and we understand more what we
need as well as to make us feelokay in our lives.
Definitely, yeah, well, it doesmake you stop anyway.
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Yeah, I mean, I think we'regoing to put it over to you now,
give you the mic and let usknow, even like you know on
instagram at get real with theenglish sisters, what you think
about this.
And do you suppress youremotions?
Do you find that it's difficultto actually absorb?
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You know, really feel things.
Is it really hard for you tofeel things?
Do you give yourself thepermission to feel things?
Yeah, and I do think you know,if we do learn that, instead of
to repress, we can learn toregulate them in a way that they
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come out like what you said,you know, in a in, in, in a nice
way.
You know reading the room, asyou were saying, you know
understanding the situation, butallowing them to come out,
without sounding like a needyfreak or anything, but allowing
yourself to, to say things, likeyou know, to your friends I, I
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do, I have missed you and I wantto connect more or, when it's
possible, and uh, or I love you,you know saying allowing these
things to come out more, will,will, somehow.
This is really nice.
Yeah, not, not just.
This was really nice.
You know, this was, this wasgreat.
You know, let's let, let'sconnect again.
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No, that sounds fake, I don'tknow.
Yeah, because everyone alwayssays that and then you never
really do connect many times.
No, I think they have to begenuine, genuine moments.
You will know how to do.
Yes, we're, because we're human, we know how to do these things
automatically.
Of course we do.
Yes, there's no need for us totell you how to do them.
But let's do them more, becauseI think it will all make us
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feel better.
It certainly does, definitely.
Okay, see you soon.
And thank you so much forlistening and for downloading.
Get Real with the EnglishSisters.
We really appreciate you Verymuch so, and we love you all in
the way we can, in the way wecan.
Yes, definitely See you soon.
Bye-bye, lots of love andsmiles from the English Sisters.
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Bye.
bottling up emotions.
What, yes, what a feeling, allthese feelings that we can feel
and that we don't allowourselves to feel more than
anything.
Yeah, that's what we're goingto be talking about in this
week's episode of get real withthe english sisters.
So join us.
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People are listening, as southkorea, japan, usa, uk, italy and
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I mean, it's just amazing,isn't it?
Thank you so much.
Thank you so much, and do goand follow us and come and see
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With english sisters, I amfeeling ever so excited about
this and I am not bottling upthese emotions.
Oh, no way, no way.
We certainly know how to feelexcited, even though sometimes I
do feel as if I have like a bitof imposter syndrome, because
sometimes, when I see that, youknow, when I look at the charts
and I see that we're in allthese countries and people are
(01:08):
listening, I can't reallybelieve it, I suppose, because
it's a podcast and we don'tactually get feedback.
We don't see you and, of course, those of you that do come and
say hi on Instagram.
It's great.
It makes it more real, though,doesn't it?
Yeah, otherwise it's just likeoh, is it true?
Yeah, and sometimes I feel likeI can't, just a little bit of
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when, when, yeah, when you sendme all these things, I think, oh
, my gosh, what?
Like?
We've had, like I don't know,67 downloads in in a remote part
of the world for me.
I I have a difficulty in notsort of believing it's true,
because I know it's true becauseit's not like, but it's like
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because you think we can'tactually touch it and feel it.
If we went, then we see thepeople in the room, like what
they say, you can see the peoplein the room and then you can go
and say hi to them.
Well, that's it, isn't it?
After all, we kind of need thatconnection, we need the human
connection.
We're not like trying to makeyou feel guilty here, saying
right to us, but it's kind oflike we don't.
(02:12):
It's like, yes, you can't sortof I'm sure that you, you must
have had that experience wheresomething's happened to you and
then you just feel as if didthat really happen?
Or, you know, am I just kind ofimagining it?
I think.
I think it's because when youdon't have like real life
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conversations with people,that's why, even when you do,
because sometimes when you gosomewhere, you might be told
like, oh, you're really good atthat and you're really good at
that, and you just go, oh, thankyou, but you don't actually
believe it.
Yeah, yeah, maybe, yeah, and Ithink that is something to do
with what we're talking abouttoday about emotions, how we
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process them.
Do we actually take the time weneed to actually really think
about how we're feeling, or itdoes it just go like in one ear
and out the other, like theyused to say?
Is that a question of lowself-esteem?
Do you think, like, because youdon't really believe what other
people are telling you like, Idon't know, you don't some human
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?
Um, it's just something thathumans do.
What Do they?
Or do we just do it?
I mean all the humans, thepeople sometimes that we see,
like for therapy.
We know that they may besuffering from that as well and
we actually coach them intobelieving more in themselves.
So, come on, I think it's alsomaybe because we tend to, like,
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not believe in ourselves thatmuch, but I do believe in us and
I do believe in the and I dobelieve in the work we do, but I
don't know, I think.
I think it's because it'sonline.
I don't think, yeah, I don'tthink it's because we don't
believe in ourselves.
I think it's because it'ssomething.
When it's a bit too much foryour brain to absorb, it becomes
overwhelming, and then you justthink it's just easier to go
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because, let's face it, okay,we're hypnotists, we're
hypnotherapy.
We know how the mind works, weknow what we do and most of the
time I mean people are scared ofhypnosis, but really most of
the time, all of us are like ina hypnotic trance, which means
we are just in autopilot.
That is the classification of ahypnotic trance.
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It doesn't mean you're asleep,it just means you're in
autopilot and you're goingaround your day without thinking
about things.
And I think that's what happenswhen someone breaks that and
they say, oh, you're really goodat that.
Oh, thank you.
Oh, you receive a compliment.
It's like, hey, you're back inthe world again.
You're not just sipping yourcoffee and looking through your
phone or doing your work, you'rehere with me.
(04:52):
You mean it's like a patterninterrupt as of, like they've
interrupted your, your dailythinking pattern and and um,
your daily trance that we all goaround in.
Do you think this is somethingthat we do in order to repress
emotion, then Do you think thisis what we all do?
I think we do do it in order torepress emotion, because when
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we're going around in our dailytrance, so to speak, we brush
our teeth, we have the samethoughts going through our head,
whether it's negative orpositive, and it's like and then
it's, and then it's hey, it'slike a wake up, yeah, it's like
an interaction, even for thesurprising thing is that, even
for good things because we'retalking about good things you've
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been interrupted here.
Now you're you.
You you have to.
Yeah, you're right, you have tocome out of yourself, come out
of your shell and come into theworld.
Yeah, you're right.
Yeah, gosh, I mean, that isquite impressive, that, the fact
that you've just said that.
Yeah.
So I think what we have to do is, like with our emotions, maybe
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we should aim for regulation,not repression.
That's a good thing.
Maybe we should learn we shouldI'm all chuffed about that very
happy, yeah, because I thinkthat if we learn to regulate our
emotions to uh, to a certainpoint whether they're extreme
happy emotions or extremely youknow other kind of more intense
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emotions if we learn to regulatethem in a way that we can still
feel them, but we're not andwe're not repressing them, but
we're not like sometimes thenobviously you have to regulate
them, don't you, to a certainpoint, if, for normal kind of
activities, if you want to feellike jumping up and down for joy
because something great hashappened to you, but you're in
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that kind of uh you knowatmosphere where you don't think
other people are going toappreciate that or you know you
might well you have to read theroom.
Obviously, if you are in a in a, in a I don't know I've just
thought of something really sadsay, you're in a hospital room
and you've got other peoplereceiving diagnosis that aren't
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aren't good, and yours is reallygood, well, that's a good,
that's a fair point, and peoplearound you are crying, and that
you're not going to start saying, yeah, you know, I've, I mean
you, you can inside, butobviously you're going to go
away to another place which ismore appropriate, and then, yeah
, be happy there, but I mean,that's just part of being human,
that't it?
That is, yeah, that's kind ofunderstanding it.
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Yes, if you have, you know, butin general, I think, if you
understand, like human behaviourand other people's emotions,
and that is something you know,even if you're on the on the
spectrum people, you can learnhow to do that.
You could learn, yes, so that'sa bit of an extreme example
there, but in general I think,if we learn to regulate our
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emotions, you know, on a largerscale, for everything in life, I
think that could be reallyuseful, like a nervous emotion
and frustrating emotions thatcan come up.
I think, if we learn how toregulate them by understanding
that they're coming up, well,yeah, I mean, there's anger,
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there's happiness, there's somany.
There's jealousy, sadness,grief, feeling melancholic,
feeling nostalgic, which hashappened a lot in the past, you
know, over the past few years.
I think if we do learn toregulate that we, we won't be
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repressing it so much.
It's like, you know, we couldjust imagine like, how can you
regulate it?
Though, you have to, you have tolet it out, you have to talk
about it.
Yes, you have to talk about itand let it out slowly.
It has to be like, not nottaboo.
You have to say how you feeling.
You okay, you okay, mate, howare you?
You know what's it, what'sgoing on with you.
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I think that you need to havelike, once again, you know, have
a human connection withsomebody and actually have a
real conversation with somebody,um, friends, the family,
whoever it is, therapists, youknow the thing is a lot of the
time you don't want to be theone that's that, like you know,
the emotional one, the emotionalone, the one that's going to be
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putting a downer on everything,especially if the emotions
aren't that great, if they'renot happy, even if they are
happy.
I mean you.
You don't, you can't alwaysshare happy emotions either no,
people are not, can get on otherpeople's nerves, or they can be
a sensitive, like you're havinga baby and you know your friend
can't have one.
You're not going to startjumping up and down saying how
happy you are when your bestfriend, you know she's maybe
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struggling for years, or youknow, or they've been struggling
for years to have children.
And you can't.
Obviously you have to.
You have to know, you knowwhat's going on around you.
You have to be sensitive, don'tyou?
I think it's.
I think that's important andsometimes being too sensitive is
what is what causes all theseemotions?
Yeah, because you think it cannever be my turn.
Exactly, it's never kind ofappropriate, because everything
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else is so overwhelming foreveryone else.
There's so much heartbreakgoing on in the world, there's
so many people struggling withso many different things, who am
I to be able to express my joynow?
That's also that's a good point, because I think when you are
an emotional person, you do tendto bottle your emotions up even
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further because you feel as ifyou can't express your emotions,
because you also tune into whatother people's emotions are and
you know about them, becausethere's some people they just
they just they go around.
They go around as if therearen't any more.
You know they couldn't give,they couldn't give a, they
couldn't care, care less ifother people.
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They're just like not eventhinking about them, they're
just thinking about themselves.
So, hey, I'm great.
You know I'm doing this.
I want everyone to to to kindof listen and see what I'm doing
and how I'm feeling.
And you know I've got a rightto this.
Hmm, yeah, sometimes being toooverly or thinking that you're
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too overly emotional as well,because I don't think.
I think we we're we're allemotional beings.
It's just that we've somepeople have learned to repress
it more than others and that'snot really doing them any good
either.
We suppress it and then it justall pressure, then it then it
comes out, or come out in yourhealth, in a chronic illness or
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a heart attack god forbid, oryeah, so you know it or backache
, yeah, you'll repress theseemotions and your body will
stiffen up.
And it'll stiffen up it willnot in a good way, not in a bad
way.
No, yeah, and it will.
Yes, absolutely not in thatkind of way it'll stiffen up in
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a bad way, like on your shiitake, on your backache, on your neck
, where you actually might needit.
No, and it's no good,definitely not good for you.
And and you'll, you'll thinkwhy do I get these?
You know pains now in my body.
What's happened?
Like, I mean, I got a terriblebackache.
Backache last time I went tothe hospital, but I knew what,
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what it was.
I was fully aware.
I knew I was so tense sittingon that chair waiting to get the
results and everything, and Iknew I was tense and stressed
about it.
I knew, fine, well, I mean, Ijust can't believe it.
The next day I have thisterrible backache.
Well, it's obvious, becauseyou're holding your body in a
tense state.
I mean, if you do the test athome and you just clench your
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fist and you're holding yourbody in a tense state.
I mean, if you do the test athome and you just clench your
fist and you'll stiffen your armup, I give you.
If you're watching the videoyou can see us.
But anyway, I've got my handout straight with my fist,
really tense, tight, yes, andthen you hold it like that for a
few seconds and then yourelease it.
You take a deep breath in andyou release it and you'll
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actually feel how much tensionyou're actually holding in your
arm and your hand and it'll goright through your body and
you'll feel release.
So that's what we do with ourbodies all day long.
It's like we clench them, weclench them.
We clench them in certainsituations.
Yeah, we keep them tightwithout realising it because
we're so tense.
We do that to our breath aswell.
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The breath we hold it, hold itin.
We stop breathing properly.
Yeah, that's what some peoplesay Stop, you don't breathe
properly.
I mean that's annoying in perse, isn't it?
When they say you don't knowhow to breathe, I mean it's a
subconscious action.
Yeah, but what we do is whenwe're very stressed we've got
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cortisol going through ourbodies, adrenaline we stop
breathing properly.
So we stop taking those extradeep breaths that we have.
If we have to do every now andagain, yes, we do, and we start
breathing rather rapidly and andso we're actually, you know,
receiving less oxygen and so thewhole.
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It causes a whole series ofproblems that we're kind of not
really aware of because we'verepressed it once again.
So you have to become, I think,aware of the repression that
you're doing to your ownemotions and, um, yeah, whatever
it is like, yeah, and so if you, if you are feeling an emotion
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and I mean I suggest that ifyou're going through, say, grief
or some other emotion, anger,if you're feeling anger there,
there are things you can do.
Like, if you're feeling anger,you can go into a room and
scream when there's no onearound you and you're not going
to hurt anyone with your voice.
But, yeah, do physical activity.
You can also sport and exerciseexcellent ways.
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That's why people feel they'reso great after they go for a run
or a walk.
Yeah, definitely.
And also, when you're walking,you're breathing properly
because your body just requiresit, so, subconsciously, you just
start breathing properly.
Yeah, and then definitely tryand talk to somebody, have a
real conversation with somebody,not just texting.
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It's different, like if youhave nothing else, texting does
help a lot, texting like you cantext the friends and say I'm
feeling rotten today, you know,and that.
Like you can text the friendand say I'm feeling rotten today
, you know, and that.
But if you can actually Even,rather than texting, I think you
can phone them.
Or if you if it's not phone,but even the voice memos,
because you can hear theperson's voice, which is very
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calming.
It can be very calming.
Yes, and it's because we doneed that kind of connection.
Why don't we say I want to hearyour voice?
It's because we do need thatkind of connection.
Why do we say I want to hearyour voice?
Yes, absolutely.
Like the other day my son phonedme, he texted me and he said
Mom, I don't feel well.
So I said, well, can you do avideo call Because I want to see
you?
No, no, there's no need.
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And I said I just want to seeyour face, can you just call me?
And then, when he called me, Isaw he had this massive lump
here, like under his yeah, underhis ear and near the jaw, and
it was a mandibular gland thathad actually really swollen up.
This probably had something Idon't know.
So I said no, now that I'veseen you, I want you to go and
see a doctor.
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However, I just wanted to seehim.
You know like just check in,check in, check in, even though
I mean I see him.
You know like just check in onhis status, check in, check in,
even though I mean I see him alot, but he doesn't actually
live with me anymore.
I just wanted to see him.
And, and sometimes I think wecan forget that when we text um,
the importance of actually,because I think what happens is
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when you're texting, thoughyou're, you're not, you can be
texting, you're not reallythinking about that person, so
there's no intention in it,you're just writing and you're
not writing.
Or sometimes you can just say,yeah, everything's okay, you
know all okay, mate, you knowlike especially.
But then when you actually hearsomebody's voice, you can pick
up and say you know, you canpick up on so many things and
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say, right, I don't really thinkmy friend is okay.
No, you can hear like cryingover the voice.
Well, I mean, that's quiteextreme if it's crying, but you
can hear.
Crying is one of these emotionsthat we need to be able to do?
No, absolutely.
But I mean, they might notactually be crying, they might
just be feeling whatever they'refeeling.
Yeah, but you can't see cryingin a text, can you?
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Unless you put a teary face?
Yes, but it's not the samething.
That's what I'm saying.
Yes, yeah, so I I think it'simportant if we can at least
talk to somebody for real, likefor real talk to somebody,
because that can help us expresssome of what's been going on,
at least once a week, you know,with somebody that you care
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about.
If you can, and if you don'thave that kind of relationship,
then yeah, I think with friendsas well.
If you, if you've got onefriend that's hogging all the
conversation all the timebecause they're going through a
particularly a tough time orwhatever, that's fine.
But I think then you have tosay, okay, now it's my turn.
I need to, I need to talk aboutwhat's going on with me now.
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Can you just listen for a fewminutes and give me you know,
give me some support, support,yeah, because all you need is
just to really be listened to.
Yeah, I mean, obviously youmight need a hug as well, but
you need somebody to actuallyreally listen to you.
Um, yeah, actively.
Yeah, well, yeah, because Ithink we forget about that
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nowadays.
You know, it's all not, not,not, just I'm not.
You know I'm a.
I'm addicted to my phone as well.
I'm not saying it's because of,and a lot of the times I prefer
to text because I don't wantpeople to actually hear my voice
, because I might not be feelinggreat, and so I think, no, you
know, like I just say you know,how are you?
Oh, great, thanks, all good,you know, and I, and what's she
(18:42):
doing?
She's suspicious.
Now I'm just thinking of thelast few texts I got off you,
yeah, yeah.
Or you on the text you writeyippee, you know all great, but
then really you're, you know,you've been through something
quite intense and and andobviously, when I see you, I
always tell you, I always tellyou and that's why I find it
very therapeutic, yeah, and youtell me you know what, what's
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been going on?
But yeah, definitely it's.
We can lack that in today'smodern society, even more now,
because I think we have to put abrave face on, don't we?
Yeah, and there's times when wecan just be walking around,
even like in our normal lives,and we've got our ear pods on,
like you're going to asupermarket, you're buying some
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foods and you you couldn't.
You're not even looking at thecashier that's serving you
anymore, if you're lucky enoughto have one, otherwise it's just
most of them don't have themnow.
Well, here they still do.
In Italy, a lot of the timesyou have somebody, but, like the
other day, I just saw thisperson just going in with their
ear pods on and not evenlistening and looking at the
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lady who was you know, and Ithought, yeah, I get that
because you're on a conversationor you know.
In the past that would beconsidered rude to go around
like that, you know, and notactually look at the person or
still be on the or doing yourown stuff.
And nowadays it's like becomemore normal, but it does mean
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that we kind of lose connection,even with you know, the few
people that we have around us,with the locals.
Yeah, and I think that'simportant, it's really important
not to do it.
Yesterday I went into a coffeeshop and I was actually on the
phone while I was ordering uncappuccino.
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And I said un cappuccino and Ithought I haven't even really
acknowledged the lady that'sserving me.
And afterwards I went and Iordered another one and I
actually looked into her eyesand I connected with her and I
thought, wow, and I gave her asmile and I thought, god, I was
rude before.
Yeah, I would consider that abit rude.
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It was rude, but I had.
I was actually on the phone,but did I really have waited to
order?
You didn't have to order, Ididn't have to answer my phone
right there.
And then, exactly that's what Imean.
Yes, I'm addicted.
I answered this client's phonecall.
I thought I didn't have toanswer it.
I could have just phoned backlater.
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But I did and then, and then Ithought, look, I'm as guilty as
everybody else around here and Igot the human connection.
I still remember her face now.
Well, obviously, and it was amoment, and I thought we need
more of these moments.
Well, we do, because that'swhat's going on now.
There aren't enough of thesemoments.
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I know these mirror neurons.
We reflect each other.
We need these scientifically.
We need these mirror neurons.
So every time we stare atsomeone or look at them in a
nice way obviously don't givethem filthy stares.
We give them a nice smile and alook and acknowledge their
presence we are getting mirrorneurons back in return which are
giving us dopamine.
(21:53):
They're giving us feel goodhormones, yes, so it's like
having a shot of feel-goodhormones.
Every time when you smile atsomeone, if they're not feeling
great, you're going to make themfeel better and in return, you
will feel better as well youwill.
So I know this podcast is aboutyou know, um, how to express
emotion.
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But this is all part of it,because I think that the new
world that we're into nowadaysis kind of not really helping us
to express our human emotionsthat much, even though an emoji
and everything can help.
But it's not the same.
No, it has become more loving.
I think, with all these littlehearts and emojis, you kind of
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feel, I think, can say I feel Ilove you more than maybe in our
times when I, you know, our dadwouldn't even tell us he loved
us.
It was.
We was understood that, we knewthat he loved us deeply, but he
wouldn't actually say it I loveyou.
It was like taboo to say it forsome reason, like you couldn't
like express these things.
Yeah, so now you can say I loveyou to your friends and I love
(23:01):
you, you send hearts and yousend hearts and kisses, and.
But it's different to say to afriend you know, I really love
you.
You know, when looking at themin their eyes, you know then
sending hearts out on a text,it's a big deal.
You probably, if you say to afriend, I love you, especially
men I know that men don't hardlyever do this yeah, you know, or
(23:21):
I miss you.
You know, like may you know menthey don't say to their best
friends I've really missed you.
I don't think they say thatmore now, maybe more now.
But like I was asking my sonhe's 26 I said did you tell your
friend he hasn't seen him forages how much you're actually
missing?
Because no, mom, we don't talklike that, you know, as if don't
(23:44):
be weird.
But I don't think you wouldtell your girlfriends either.
No, I think I think women arebetter at this.
If you were really good friends, you would.
Otherwise you can sound a bitneedy, especially if they're off
doing their own thing andthey're really happy, not like
that.
I mean not yeah, well, yeahyeah.
Because sometimes in youryou've got your best friend
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that's going off and doing theirown thing and they're really
happy and you're going through amore tough time and then you're
really missing, saying I reallymiss you.
I really miss you.
In the end, you're gonna put adampener on that person, aren't
you?
Yeah, not yet.
It's just like, sort of, whenyou do manage to set a time to
actually meet in real life, thento give them a hug and say,
gosh, I miss you.
(24:26):
No, but maybe lovely seeing you, that's right.
What are you saying?
Lovely seeing you, yeah,instead of so much I miss you
because that is talking aboutyour emotions, I suppose but
it's saying I miss you.
It could make the other personfeel as if they, like they've
been, like they feel they canfeel like, oh, I haven't, like
(24:49):
you know being there.
Yeah, yeah, I know what youmean.
Yeah, but then again, you'renot allowed to, so you're not
allowed to say that you have torepress it.
I think that's where you wouldrepress it.
You would repress it and youwouldn't say I miss you,
especially if they're busy.
Yeah, you just say, oh, it'sbeen lovely.
Well, yeah, because you'resuddenly getting.
You have suddenly invented thispersona.
That's really, really needy.
I didn't.
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I don't know where you've justinvented that from, as if
there's some kind of weirdstalker.
I miss you.
I mean, I just met it in areally nice way.
You know like you're bothreally busy and you're both
doing your normal stuff, butthen when you manage the other
person, of course the otherperson will say I really miss
meeting up.
It's really sweet.
Do you remember in the pandemichow much we missed each other?
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Oh, my god, that was awful.
We couldn't see each other foryears what, yeah, we're not
years, but it was like likelocked into our own villages,
yeah, and that was horrible.
That that's when you kind ofrealize what really is like.
Since then.
You know that ever since thepandemic, I have not wanted I
before I used to love staying athome all day and just staying
(25:51):
in the garden, maybe working abit online, and, yes, put me off
.
But now I I always want to gosomewhere.
Yeah, I know we've beentraumatized by go somewhere
because you haven't got thepolice on.
In here in italy we used tohave the police at the end of
the road checking documents andasking where you were going.
I mean, it was, it was ahorrible time.
It was a horrible time.
(26:12):
Yeah, that was really horrible.
That's when you really realizedhow important connection is and
actually seeing people becauseyou could be online.
Or I remember once we talked toour colleague in um in America
and he he was saying, oh my god,I can't believe I can't go out
and see anyone.
It's so hard, and yet we weretalking from Italy to America
(26:32):
but it's not the same as seeingsomeone in person.
No, well, that's my pointexactly.
So we know, I know, know, theCOVID was a big trauma for
everybody, whether you realiseit or not, because some people
say it wasn't traumatic.
They'd say it was lovelybecause they've managed to be at
home and connect with theirfamily, connect with their
families and maybe feel moreemotions that maybe in their
(26:55):
everyday Were so repressed, yeah, run of the mill lives, when
they're just doing, you know,going about their day every day.
They didn't have time to domaybe.
Yes, for a lot of people theydid manage to reconnect and
they've managed to say now Idon't want that lifestyle
anymore where I'm always runningaround and always, you know,
going to work.
And it made you stop,definitely made you stop and
(27:17):
reflect and then hopefully youknow we've risen from this a
little bit more wiser, you know,and we understand more what we
need as well as to make us feelokay in our lives.
Definitely, yeah, well, it doesmake you stop anyway.
(27:38):
Yeah, I mean, I think we'regoing to put it over to you now,
give you the mic and let usknow, even like you know on
instagram at get real with theenglish sisters, what you think
about this.
And do you suppress youremotions?
Do you find that it's difficultto actually absorb?
(27:59):
You know, really feel things.
Is it really hard for you tofeel things?
Do you give yourself thepermission to feel things?
Yeah, and I do think you know,if we do learn that, instead of
to repress, we can learn toregulate them in a way that they
(28:19):
come out like what you said,you know, in a in, in, in a nice
way.
You know reading the room, asyou were saying, you know
understanding the situation, butallowing them to come out,
without sounding like a needyfreak or anything, but allowing
yourself to, to say things, likeyou know, to your friends I, I
(28:41):
do, I have missed you and I wantto connect more or, when it's
possible, and uh, or I love you,you know saying allowing these
things to come out more, will,will, somehow.
This is really nice.
Yeah, not, not just.
This was really nice.
You know, this was, this wasgreat.
You know, let's let, let'sconnect again.
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No, that sounds fake, I don'tknow.
Yeah, because everyone alwayssays that and then you never
really do connect many times.
No, I think they have to begenuine, genuine moments.
You will know how to do.
Yes, we're, because we're human, we know how to do these things
automatically.
Of course we do.
Yes, there's no need for us totell you how to do them.
But let's do them more, becauseI think it will all make us
(29:26):
feel better.
It certainly does, definitely.
Okay, see you soon.
And thank you so much forlistening and for downloading.
Get Real with the EnglishSisters.
We really appreciate you Verymuch so, and we love you all in
the way we can, in the way wecan.
Yes, definitely See you soon.
Bye-bye, lots of love andsmiles from the English Sisters.
(29:50):
Bye.
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