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YOLO, yolo.
You only live once.
Today, we'll be discussing YOLO.
You only live once.
Well, most of us do anyway,unless you believe in
reincarnation.
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You only live once.
I mean, that's just like sayingcarpe diem, isn't it?
You know the old Latin phrasereally Well, carpe diem, I think
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, think, is a bit different forme.
In my eyes, your eyes, what doyou mean?
It's different.
It feels as if it would bedifferent, because carpentium
would be like whatever.
I would just say like whatever.
Let's, well, whatever happens,okay, so it happened.
So what?
Oh, I see it's like let it go.
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Yeah, let it go.
It just it happened, so okay,let that's what happened.
So cap and diem, that's whathappened.
It's so sort of don't live withregrets or don't you know, don't
dwell on something.
Well, I guess it, you know,underlying it's kind of the same
, meaning you only live once, sodon't waste time regretting and
worrying about stuff.
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But is that what you mean byonly live once?
Is now, it's the way it's used.
It's like oh, let's do thisdangerous thing because you only
live once.
Well, I do think that mighthave been the case when the
first, when the term first cameout yeah, yeah.
But nowadays, do you think it'sstill like that today?
Well, I don't know, because Idon't particularly use it that
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much, no, no, yeah, I would useit in the sense that it's you
should go and do things that youmight be scared of doing.
You would use it like that yes,so uh, let's, let's go and do
it, because you only live once,so you might as well go and
enjoy that holiday or enjoy that, that, that experience.
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Yeah, since you only live once,you need to leave, live your
life to the fullest, kind ofthing.
Yeah, what about you?
Well, I would definitely use itlike that.
I would think about it, I mean,I, I think that is kind of my
philosophy, and if I do kind offind myself wasting a day
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because I might just be doingmindless stuff or tired, yeah
it's not really wasting, thougheven if I'm just like chilling
and you know lying on the sofaor something, I'm still enjoying
myself.
So I do kind of I don't.
I mean, I said wasted, but whatI mean?
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You can't always live your lifeto the fullest, and sometimes
does living your life to thefullest mean lying on the couch
and relaxing?
I think it does.
I think so, but I think thatthere can be a lot of pressure
on this.
You only live once as well,because who cares if you only
live once?
That's how we were designed.
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Unless you do, unless you arereligious and you believe in you
know that you live in theafterlife.
But if you don't, you only liveonce.
But you're here to fulfill yourpurpose, aren't you?
So I think there can be a lotof pressure on this.
You only live one thing,because I think once sort of
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humans realize that they'remortal, yeah, and that that's
when all the pressure comes onto you to to like really
experience every single thing.
You don't have to experienceevery single thing in the world.
No, you know, you can bedecisive and say no, I don't
want to experience that.
It can be harmful for me.
I just don't feel like doing it.
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I don't feel like going throughthat risk.
Yeah, yeah, absolutely.
And even if it's not, there'slike like, where was it
somewhere?
Ah, it was.
I think it was on a podcast Iwas listening to One of the.
This guy said that he did toprove to his partner that he
loved, that.
He loved him.
He did something that for him,he would never, ever do.
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And it was skydiving and he wasreally scared of heights.
And I was thinking, yeah, no,why'd you do that?
You shouldn't have done that.
It was like an ultimate.
It was supposed to be like alove thing.
Oh, I'm doing this for youbecause I know that, to prove,
to prove that, if you know thatI'm so scared of doing this and
I'm going to do it for youanyway that I'm so frightened
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and I thought, no, you shouldn'treally be doing that, I think
if I was his partner, I wouldsay, no, don't do that, I love
you.
I don't want to put you throughthat, exactly Because I know
you're frightened of heights.
Let's do something that we'reboth, that we both like doing.
Yeah, let's have an adventuretogether.
Just do something that we'reboth.
It might be something new.
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I'm not really into thesethings.
No, I would never put mypartner through that.
No, it's horrific.
I think it's.
There's something I don't, Idon't know about the partner.
Well, it didn't work out intheir relationship, so it goes
to show, but it's like.
It's almost like emotionalblackmail the the next, you know
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the next podcast we'll bediscussing.
Yeah, it's almost like that,because the.
I think the partner should havesaid no, don't worry, you're
like what you said.
Well, I think, unless it waslike a total surprise and he
just presented him with these, Ithink I'm gonna go and do this
for you and and yeah, no, Iwould.
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I think I would say look,unless it's something you really
desire to do and you've never,because you want to prove to
yourself that you can do it,yeah, and you want to overcome
this particular fear and reallyhave this experience and we'll
do it together, okay, but not ifyou're terrified of doing it
and you're not ready to to deal,you don't want to overcome it
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at the moment, just just chill.
I wouldn't know.
I would always say no, no,darling, it's not something you
want to do right now.
Let's not, you don't, don't doit.
I think that's what love is aswell.
In my, you know, my, in my mind, in my, I would never do that.
No, no, not, I don't agree withthat at all.
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But anyway, yeah, this YOLO canbring upon this fear in all of
us that we're not enjoying ourlife to the fullest, that we're
not doing enough, once again,which is a shame.
That's pressure, isn't it?
How much do we have to reallydo in this life?
I mean, before you would haveone career and that would be it.
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Now we have to have three orfour careers.
We might have to go back andstudy three or four times, which
is really beautiful and we lovedoing it.
Yes, if you enjoy doing that.
But why?
You know why?
All this pressure, all the time?
That's why people are soanxious.
There is a lot of anxiety evenaround the phrase YOLO.
That's why we decided to talkabout it.
Yes, because, because just thefact that exists already makes
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you feel, oh, I've got to go anddo something.
I've got to go and make themost of my life.
I've got to go and visit thatrestaurant, and then with social
media as well.
You see what everyone else isdoing, yeah, and you tend to,
you know, think I should bedoing that as well.
Definitely it does tie in.
I think the YOLO ties in alittle bit with the FOMO, the
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fear of missing out.
You can go and, you know, checkthat episode out.
We've done an episode on that.
It does tie in with that,doesn't it Closely intertwined?
They're close brothers andsisters.
They're definitely brothers andsisters because you do have it.
Yolo is, you know, you think,yes, you only live once, so go
for it, do everything, try anddo as much as you can, yeah, and
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then it reminds me of that film.
It reminds me of that film,that horrible film.
I was going to say that it wasnot a horrible film.
It's, but it's.
It's horrible because the worldends.
Oh, that one would don't lookup.
Oh, yeah, and but what dopeople want to do in the end,
when you only live once?
They want to be with theirloved ones and cuddle up and and
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have a lovely meal together.
That's it.
That's it.
So if you think about that, inthe end that's what most people
want, and you also see peoplethat are really famous.
I remember I was watching EdSheeran the other few days ago
and he was saying in hisdocumentary that what he really
loves most is just being at homewith his family and friends
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sitting around in his little pubthat he's created.
That's exactly right.
So we're always trying to findthe most wonderful experiences.
And in the end, what are themost wonderful experiences?
The most simple, the simpleones are one being close to your
family, to your friends, oreven just enjoying time by
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yourself.
Exactly, you know, justenjoying.
That's underestimated, that'sso underestimated.
Just walking around by yourself, enjoying your own company.
You like that, don't you?
I'm laughing because you'realways trying to get time alone.
I do like it, I do really enjoytime alone as well, not too much
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, but like, yeah, it's reallylovely as well just to have time
alone, just with your ownthoughts, if they're pleasant,
obviously, but even if they'renot, you can just allow them to
go away and you'll you'll find aserenity.
You'll just allow them tosoothe, you know, to soothe and
quieten down.
If you have anxious thoughts orthoughts that aren't that
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pleasant, and then maybe thinkof a time that you did have Good
thoughts and a pleasantexperience, yeah, you can always
go back to that.
If you haven't, unfortunately,had a time like that, you can
imagine what a time like thatwould be In the upcoming future,
in the days and weeks to come,what you would like to have
happen to you.
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You can imagine the scenariosomething relaxing, yeah, yeah,
definitely.
I do think that's why I like tospend time, because I do know I
have learned how to use my mindto my own advantage, because
the mind is a very powerful tooland we really can get the most
from it once we understand howto utilise it really.
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Yeah, we use it to our ownadvantage, our own minds.
I do like to Going back to theYOLO thing.
I do like to think of, like notturning things down that I would
normally feel a little bit lazyabout doing.
Oh, definitely.
So if I'm like this weekendcoming, we've both had invites
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and normally I would think, nah,it's too hard, yeah, it's a bit
of an effort, it's a bit of a,yeah, new people.
I've also got kind of like I'veonly met them once.
Yeah, it's kind of like a newpeople were invited and but then
I think yes, and thenafterwards, once you commit to
it, then I'm actually reallylooking forward to it me too.
So they're actually lovelypeople, exactly.
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I'm actually quite excited,actually.
No, I mean, whereas it could bejust a business meeting, I find
it funny.
Yeah, she's surprised.
They're actually nice.
Uh, good, yep, okay, they arevery nice.
They're very nice people.
Well, most people are, aren'tthey?
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If you give them a chance, ifyou actually bother to talk to
them, yeah, real connections.
When you make real connections,that's right, you get away from
the superficial.
That's what we like doing yeah,I love doing that and you can
get a real connection with aperson.
It can turn into a long-lastinga lot of people if you actually
bother to talk to them andthey're so surprised by it as
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well, because a lot of peoplereally just in their own heads
and we all are, but sometimesmore so than other times and if
you do take a moment to actuallyget to know another person
properly and ask them some nicequestions and I'm thinking she's
giving me dodgy looks becauseI'm thinking of that story that
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we wrote in stress free, inthree minutes, I think, or
enchanted tales for change, I'mnot sure which one it's in, but
I can put that in thedescription as well.
About the do not disturb signs,remember, yeah, and it's like in
the hotel when you say please,you know, do not disturb.
I don't think they say thatanymore in the hotels.
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They have a nicer thing now.
Yeah, don't service my room.
Yeah, but before it used to bedo not disturb.
And I think a lot of us, evenwhen we make the effort to go
out, we've still got that do notdisturb, sign on, haven't we?
Where we can't be bothered totalk to people and we're just in
our own heads.
It's very obvious when youcan't really be, and that's when
I think, you don't reallyconnect with people, and that's
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when you don't have fun, and forme, that's not living my life
to the fullest.
So I think that's when youwould have the yeah, the yola
would come in, where you onlylive once and make the most of
talking to someone and trying toenrich your own life.
And there's you.
There's always something tolearn from the person you're
talking to.
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If you want to learn, if you'reopen to learn, yes, that's when
you think, ok, you only liveonce.
I'm spending moments and perhapseven hours of my life with
these people, this person.
So let me have a realconnection.
Yes, as today will never, evercome back again in my life, or
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even these two hours will never,ever be replaced.
Well then, let me, you know,let me enjoy it.
Yes, that is, but it's true,isn't it?
Yeah, yeah, that is for me themeaning of yolo, without too
much pressure, because I don't.
It's not exactly.
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I want to live my life everyday yolo, yolo.
Yeah, it's, it's, it's too,it's exhausting.
We can't live like it's nicejust to switch off and recharge.
Oh, yes, to put our brains onhold for a bit.
Absolutely, you also need thatmoment.
Absolutely.
That's what dreams about are,aren't they Dreaming?
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Dreaming is about, like, justgoing off to sleep and not
having to think about things.
Yeah, absolutely, I mean,that's when our brains process
all the information, isn't it?
Yeah, I guess so.
Yeah, well, absolutely, yeah,that's when you process your
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information and when youelaborate the thoughts.
And what's happened to youduring the day.
Yeah, I had some weird dreamslast night.
Really, I can't remember them,but I know they were weird.
I was just thinking why am Idreaming this?
Obviously processing something,processing, you were processing
something.
Yeah, it's funny that we havelike this.
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We have this.
You only live once, but really Ithink you kind of live twice
because you're in, when you'rein your sleep mode, you're
having all these dreams, aren'tyou?
Yeah, like an alter reality.
So having your little avatardoing something in your dreams,
yeah, when you're not actuallyreally moving and you're not
aware of it.
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You're not aware of it, but youkind of like that's actually
quite a nice way of thinkingabout it, because you get like
double the time, don't youactually talking about?
You have it because you havesuch weird dream.
I mean, I was having all thesedreams going to places.
I can't even remember what theywere, but I remember them.
They were being pretty odd, oddand strange, feeling as if it
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was like in another world, likeas I, if, as if I was in another
world but this world.
But they weren't.
Were they okay?
Yeah, they weren't unsettlingor anything, they were just
strange.
Yeah, when I, when I woke up, Ithought, oh, that's strange.
Now I remember I think I was inEngland somewhere travelling.
No, because that's where werecently travelled.
No, but it was around in thecountryside.
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It wasn't where we went Littlecountry lanes and going to
little coffee shops.
How pretty, it was quite pretty.
Yeah, it was quite nice, thatlittle coffee shops and how
pretty.
It was quite pretty, yeah, itwas quite lovely.
Especially now I was thinkingwhat am I doing here in italy?
What am I doing in here?
I go into a little antique shop.
Now I remember cute, yeah, itwas cute, it was cute.
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I was thinking it's cute.
You know, I'm thinking this is,this is me.
When I woke up I go that was mein the dream.
It's weird.
Yeah, that's so odd, it's sounusual that we can do this.
Yes, it really is unusual.
So I was saying our mind issuch a tool.
I know it's incredible, it is,it really is Amazing.
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Anyway, we'd like to hear whatyou're thinking about.
You only live once?
Would you like to live like acat nine times?
If only that was true.
Do you believe in reincarnation?
If you do, you're lucky, you'reone of the lucky ones.
I mean, well, not lucky,obviously religious.
So you're, it's your.
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That's cool because, yeah,because you have, you know, you,
it takes a pressure off it.
Where you have to be nice andgood in this life.
Well, that's already a given,isn't it?
We all want to do that.
Yeah, nice people, exactly.
Yeah, that is a lovely thoughtactually.
Yeah, you think, oh, I'll bereincarnated.
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But, yeah, cool, that's givenus food for thought.
Food for thought, yeah,definitely.
Well, we're going to go andhave a cup of coffee.
So let us know what you thinkabout this episode.
Yeah, and about YOLO.
How does it make you feel whenyou think about that phrase?
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Do you use the phrase?
Do you use the phrase?
Do you use it?
Or do you often think toyourself oh well, you only live
once.
I'm going to go ahead and dothat, you know, plan that trip
and think that in those casesit's good.
It's good if you can afford it.
If you can afford it,definitely.
Yeah, not just splashing out onyour credit cards and then
coming home and think, yikes,what have I done?
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No, absolutely.
And feeling terribly anxiousabout it.
No, oh gosh.
No, no, absolutely.
Let's use yolo to our ownadvantage.
So let's think wisely.
Use it wisely when, wheneveryou find yourself thinking, okay
, you only live once, just takea deep breath and think that you
can live a lot longer if you'remore in the present moment and
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you actually experience theworld, and your world will
become so much more filled withdepth and you'll find your
sensory experiences will beheightened and it really is like
living double, triple, so muchmore than you normally would, if
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you can experience the presentmoment more well.
Yes, absolutely, it's just likeliving so much longer.
So that's all you really haveto do if you want to think yolo,
you know you live in thepresent moment.
Yes, it's just that sometimes,live in the now.
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Yeah, sometimes our clientsthink that's really difficult,
but it well, it is difficult ifyou don't know how to do it.
If you don't know, you've got aracing mind.
Yes, so that's when you have toput a stop on it.
Definitely, a little bit ofmeditation or hypnosis,
absolutely, and come back.
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