June 18, 2025 • 17 mins
Have you ever wondered if the life you're living is truly yours or a script handed down by family, society, or tradition? That feeling when you wake up in the morning and something doesn't quite resonate is your authentic self trying to speak.
The English Sisters dive deep into what it means to become the author of your own life story, examining how we often unconsciously follow patterns and expectations set by others. Through personal anecdotes and powerful insights, they explore the liberation that comes from picking up the metaphorical pen and writing your own narrative—even when faced with opposition from those closest to you.
Breaking free doesn't mean rejecting all traditions or making dramatic overnight changes. It can begin with small steps: a side hustle that fulfills your passion, quiet boundary-setting, or simply affirming to yourself that you deserve to live authentically. The sisters address the emotional manipulation and guilt often used to keep us in old stories, offering practical wisdom on how to respectfully but firmly claim your right to self-determination.
Perhaps most powerfully, they remind us that rewriting your life story is a daily practice requiring courage, commitment, and self-compassion. It's about recognizing that while the familiar may feel comfortable, true peace comes from living in alignment with your authentic self—even when that path looks different from what others expected for you.
Ready to pick up your pen and start writing? Listen now, and share your story with us in the comments. Are you writing your own narrative, or still finding the courage to begin?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
What life story are you telling yourself, and is it
a productive, beautiful story,or is it a story you'd rather
ditch, and would you ratherlearn to rewrite your story or
edit your own life story script?
Exactly that's what we're goingto be chatting about in this
(00:21):
week's episode of Mind Healthand Anxiety In Get Real With the
English Sisters.
Yeah, I mean, there are lots ofthings you know that we tell
ourselves in our old stories andit's kind of the things that we
repeat to ourselves, aren'tthey?
Well, it makes me think of that.
(00:42):
The fairy tale story of findingthe prince and you know all the
princess, and getting marriedand having children and doing
all these things that you know.
This it's not always, it's notalways suitable for us, is it?
It can be, it can be changedand you can.
Maybe that's somebody else'sstory and that was great for
(01:04):
somebody else, but it might notbe actually your story.
Yeah, it might be a story thatwas fine for for someone you
knew, for a family member, butmaybe your story is a different
one and maybe you are living outsomebody else's story for
because you're frightened ofchange or you're frightened of
(01:25):
being judged, and you know, Ithink, until we learn to really
write our own story, then we arefinally free.
Yeah, that reminds me of LisaBilyeu.
She was saying that her, hermum and dad, she's from a Greek
family very traditional, whichshe thought they were anyway,
and was saying that her, her mumand dad, she's from a Greek
family very traditional, whichshe thought they were anyway,
(01:47):
and she said that her mum, theyset her mum and dad separated
and then her mum had this lovelyfriend come and live with them
and she was always there and itwasn't till years later that she
actually came out that she washer, her partner, that they were
in love.
(02:07):
They were in love and nowthey've got married.
She'd been hiding the fact thatshe was gay and that she had
this relationship with this,with this woman.
That was just supposed to belike a family friend.
And, yeah, lisa was saying it'ssuch a shame that she could,
she didn't have the confidencejust to come out and say it to
us, because we, we really didlove her and we do love her now,
(02:30):
but it's it's.
It wasn't.
It wasn't a story that wasacceptable exactly in her, in
her the way it was.
It was an old script thatbelonged to somebody else and
it's certainly this old scriptthat we all tend to follow.
Yeah, and there's one scriptwritten by one person years and
years ago, or by by some kind ofpolitics or religion that wants
(02:52):
us to follow the flock andbehave, and we all tend to
follow that story, especiallywhen it comes to things like
what you were saying, you know,marriage, and a lot of the time
we don't realize as well.
They're like subconsciouspatterns that we've been like
hypnotized into thinking thatthis is what we have to do.
Yes, you don't realize it, orwe're just following in our
(03:13):
father's footsteps or ourmother's footsteps, or living up
to somebody, uh, somebodyelse's dream for their
expectations that they have that.
But I mean.
But I mean, when you grab yourown story, say, no, I'm going to
start writing.
This is very freeing, very,very freeing.
(03:34):
You can start with a newaffirmation, like every day.
You can start with, you know,imagining that you've got a new
pen in your hand.
It's a pen that has never beenheld by anyone before and this
is your pen, and it's your pen,and you can write your own
script.
You can write the story day byday, the story of how you're
(03:58):
going to live your life exactly,and and you can respect other
people's stories, no judgment,but you can let go of the fear
and decide to write your story,and you may say that's easier
said than done.
I'm just gonna say that can bereally tricky for some.
Yes, it can be for most people,for all of us it's really
(04:19):
tricky we all because we'rebreaking away from what is,
especially if we're breakingaway from what is expected of us
, especially if we're breakingaway a lot.
You know it's a big thing andwe've decided that no, we don't
want to go to law school, wewant to go and do this.
Or we don't want to havechildren.
Oh, especially with thechildren Grandma and granddad
are expecting to have grandkids.
(04:39):
Our mum and dad want babies.
Yeah, how do we deal with that?
That's their story.
They have the babies, exactly.
And is it really?
They say, it's my right tobecome a granddad or a
grandmother?
Why, why?
Yes, it's not really your right.
It was your right to createyour story.
(05:01):
But when your story has tobecome my story at all costs and
change the whole script of mylife, is that really going to be
?
Is that really helpful or fair?
I wanted to say the word fair,but I thought it's not fair.
(05:22):
Is it really fair?
And and just because it's beena past script that has gone on
and on and on, is it really fairtoday?
And, and you know some peoplemay say yes, it's fair and don't
ask so many questions,otherwise there'd be no kids
around.
Yeah, and it's respectful forthe elders, exactly.
And how can you respect yourelders?
(05:43):
You can respect them byspeaking your truth and gently
explaining to them that, nomatter how much you respect them
and you are so grateful for thevalues and beliefs that they
have passed on and all thoseuseful lessons you've learned
from them, at the same time,you've also learned to become
(06:03):
independent and you mustprioritize your own self in this
case.
And because you have to writeyour own story, they cannot
write it for you, because youwill never be happy, no, and if
there isn't, if you don't writeyour own story, you will live in
resentment most people do andregret and regret so, and you'll
(06:24):
look back on your life andthink, wow, yes, exactly what
happened, because it doesn'tlast that long our lives and we
have to think about that.
We have to think, okay, youknow, am I writing this for my
father, for my mother for forthe elders, like what you were
saying, or do I have to sort ofunderstand that?
(06:46):
This is me.
I've come into the universe andI've got something to say, and
something may be different, andif you don't have something
different, then your story canintertwine really comfortably
with their story and it becomeone long story of continuous
tradition, etc.
(07:07):
And that's also reallybeautiful.
There may be something elsethat you want to express about
yourself, though, because itmight be you might be very happy
to to continue in many of thetraditions.
It doesn't mean you're going tobreak free of all of them, no.
It doesn't mean that your storyhas to be something spectacular
no, no, absolutely.
(07:28):
You know and film worthy thatmillions of people are going to
go and watch you.
You just have to feel as ifyou're just calm and just happy
and just serene, but you'refollowing your truth.
You're not like living a lie.
You can ask yourself am Iliving a lie?
Am I living someone else'sstory?
It's my story.
This is what I really want todo.
(07:49):
I think there is a moment ofgreat reflection there for all
of us.
Yeah, my daughter's fiance, he,he, he said he didn't have the
courage to tell his parents.
He's from Chile.
He didn't have the courage totell his parents he didn't want
to become um a doctor, becausethey wanted him to study
medicine or law and he, hedidn't want to.
(08:11):
He wanted to study science, andso he didn't.
What he did is he didn't tellthem, he escaped.
Well, he didn't tell them untilit was too late and that he'd
already, you know, practicallyfinished his studies.
He just kind of told a whitelie and said he was at
university without specifyingokay, that's probably a good
idea.
In the dark dark were they veryannoyed about that?
(08:32):
No, in the end they kind of hadto accept it because he was
older, I suppose.
And then he came to the UK andthat, and then he met my
daughter and everything's fineand dandy now, but he's living
his story.
So it's not like his parentsoriginally didn't want him to
study that and they wanted himto do something else.
(08:52):
So in the end you have to askyourself is that going to make
me happy?
Because if you're not, you know, if you're not, am I?
If your heart isn't in there,your mind's not in it.
What's the point that you're?
You're absolutely right, yeah.
What is the point of living alife that was designed for
somebody else.
That is so true and you canrealize that at any time, even
(09:19):
if you're in the story andyou've decided to go ahead and
do something, you can alwaysthink about something that you
can change to make it more yourstory.
So say, you did have childrenand you've got your kids now and
you're obviously in the endyou're happy.
(09:40):
You know you can be a happyfamily.
But perhaps you choose to go towork, for example, because you
realize that you've alwayswanted to do something I don't
know know, work in own your ownbusiness or something you know
don't.
You know you can.
You can still live that story.
You know, if you have a dream,it's a bit like a side job,
(10:04):
isn't it?
What's a side job?
What you're doing, somethingelse sometimes, if you think you
can't get away because there'stoo many difficulties in the,
you know in the story thatyou're living and you feel as if
you can't just break free fromit.
You can have, like, start yourlittle side hustle where you're
actually doing what you want todo.
Yes, without you know, makingtoo many waves.
(10:26):
Yeah, until one day maybe youcan break free.
Yeah, absolutely.
You may have been silent, butyou can slowly find your voice.
You can whisper at first andtalk, you know, tell yourself
about what you want to do, andwhen you feel safe enough, you
can also tell others that youknow are going to support you in
(10:48):
your journey, because perhapssomebody around you may way you
know that business idea isreally bad or whatever, I don't
know.
But you can find people thatare gonna support you and help
you because because it is,because it's worth it ultimately
, absolutely it's totally worthit to to become the author of
(11:09):
your story, and and it is adaily practice, I think so it's
not something we can just Well,you have to work on it, yes,
it's not something you can justsay yes, I want to be the author
of my story.
It's a bit like writing a realbook.
You have to put some effortinto it, don't you?
You have to make sure that it'sdiscipline, isn't it?
Yes, you're going to Takingthose steps every day.
(11:29):
You're going to hold that penand not let it go and carry it
through every day, settingboundaries as well, exactly that
.
Boundaries, especially, perhaps, from people that you know are
not going to become part of yournew story.
They don't want you to have anew story.
(11:50):
They want you to stay in theold story that you were stuck in
in the past and um and that canhappen a lot of the times does
a lot, but you can't livesomeone else's life ultimately.
That's why they have their ownlife, exactly.
They've had their choices thatthey've had to make.
(12:11):
A lot of times they will tryand guilt you in saying I
sacrificed everything for youVery common.
I did everything for you.
What are you doing in return?
You're not even letting me havethis satisfaction of having.
You know, you go to universityor you study medicine or you do
this, become the dancer, becauseI put you through dance, I put
(12:33):
you through university.
You know they'll come up withall this like emotional
blackmail to you know, to stopyou from, from pursuing your own
story.
Yeah, making it all about themagain.
And you might know that youmight.
You'll feel this.
You'll feel that when you getup in the morning, you'll feel
(12:55):
that you're not.
There's something that's notresonating with you.
You'll know.
You know what we're talkingabout, the people.
You know those of you that arelistening to this and do feel
this way.
You know exactly what we meanwhen we're saying this.
You, you're not living the wayyou were supposed to live
(13:15):
because, let's face it, each oneof us was supposed to do that.
You know, it doesn't reallymatter what it is, it could be
doing absolutely anything,doesn't matter whether you
believe in fate or not, but weknow our things that we have to
be doing.
Yes, we do have to be doing andwe know we have to be doing
them.
And the things that we we feelthat satisfy us, satisfy us and
(13:38):
that make us feel calm and notalways calm, because there are
certain things that can bring agreat difficult, difficult, yeah
, and you have to overcome,overcome hurdles, yeah,
absolutely.
We know all about that.
Yes, but when you?
(14:00):
The thing is that when you knowthat you're narrating your own
story, there's a lot ofsatisfaction in the you know, in
your failures or in yoursuccesses, because you know it's
true, it's true for you, itrings true to you, yes, so so
you feel satisfied, you feel asif you know you're doing the
right thing, kind of thing.
Because you're going to writeyour own story.
Yes, you can, and it doesn'thave to be written all at once.
(14:23):
You can just say, right fromnow on, I'm going to write or
rewrite part of my story, and byrewriting we mean going back to
the past moments that may havehurt you, as we were saying in
the other episode.
You know about emotionalbaggage and trying to see them
through a different light,perhaps through a light of
empathy or a different kind ofseeing it in somebody else's
(14:47):
shoes, as to speak.
And you can go ahead like that,can't you?
You can become the author ofyour own story, yeah, and step
by step as well, day by day,even if it's something as simple
, like you're living in ahousehold that no one likes to
work out, and you suddenly thinkyou want to become fit and
(15:10):
healthy.
Well, you know, you can.
You maybe you don't have to,you know publicize it, but you
can just say in your mind,affirm in your mind that, day by
day, I'm going to get fit andhealthy and make those food
choices and stop by, buy somehealthy food, exactly.
Make those changes, becauseyou'll find that not everyone
wants to be on the same journeythat you're on, and you will
(15:32):
have opposition to it.
Yeah, especially when it comesto things like that, you know
that you might be.
Oh, come on, don't bother, sitdown here, let's just, let's
just have all the peace out,even coming to like, if you want
to become, say, sober and youknow people around you don't
agree with you you know peoplearound you don't don't agree
with you, but that's especially.
(15:52):
You know it's you have to thinkit's.
This is my story.
How do I want to live my life?
And just go, go, go, go with it, go with it and be brave and
make sure that you, you holdthat pen in your hand and don't
worry if you start writing itand then you don't know how it's
(16:13):
going to turn out, but you canstill write a few words every
day.
But you know you're on theright path.
When, like what you said, youfeel at peace and you feel
inspired and you feel andexcited, there's something
exciting.
I might be scared of this, butI'm excited at the same time
because it's something exciting.
I I, I might be scared of this,but I'm excited at the same
time because it's something newand it's not in my comfort zone,
(16:36):
because your comfort zone mayhave been some one that you've
got used to now, that you'realways repeating the same things
that don't make you happy, andso, yeah, it could even be like
a career change, couldn't it.
You might be in a career thatyou're not really that happy
with.
Very often it's a career changeand you can start with a side,
you know, a side hustle, andthen just take it from there,
(16:56):
see how that goes, and then youknow, maybe take some, do some
more studying or something, butyou will feel that it's you,
it's something that you want todo, you that you want to do.
You will feel good about it,you will in your heart of hearts
.
Absolutely so.
Let us know what you think.
Are you gonna start writingyour own story?
Or maybe you have been writingit for years and maybe you've
(17:18):
had opposition?
You can let us know it in thecomments on youtube or on
instagram, or send us a text onwherever you get your podcast
and let us know you know what,what it's been like for you,
because we are excited.
We'd love to hear from you.
Thank you so much.
Thank you so much.
Bye, see you soon, bye-bye.
What life story are you telling yourself, and is it
a productive, beautiful story,or is it a story you'd rather
ditch, and would you ratherlearn to rewrite your story or
edit your own life story script?
Exactly that's what we're goingto be chatting about in this
(00:21):
week's episode of Mind Healthand Anxiety In Get Real With the
English Sisters.
Yeah, I mean, there are lots ofthings you know that we tell
ourselves in our old stories andit's kind of the things that we
repeat to ourselves, aren'tthey?
Well, it makes me think of that.
(00:42):
The fairy tale story of findingthe prince and you know all the
princess, and getting marriedand having children and doing
all these things that you know.
This it's not always, it's notalways suitable for us, is it?
It can be, it can be changedand you can.
Maybe that's somebody else'sstory and that was great for
(01:04):
somebody else, but it might notbe actually your story.
Yeah, it might be a story thatwas fine for for someone you
knew, for a family member, butmaybe your story is a different
one and maybe you are living outsomebody else's story for
because you're frightened ofchange or you're frightened of
(01:25):
being judged, and you know, Ithink, until we learn to really
write our own story, then we arefinally free.
Yeah, that reminds me of LisaBilyeu.
She was saying that her, hermum and dad, she's from a Greek
family very traditional, whichshe thought they were anyway,
and was saying that her, her mumand dad, she's from a Greek
family very traditional, whichshe thought they were anyway,
(01:47):
and she said that her mum, theyset her mum and dad separated
and then her mum had this lovelyfriend come and live with them
and she was always there and itwasn't till years later that she
actually came out that she washer, her partner, that they were
in love.
(02:07):
They were in love and nowthey've got married.
She'd been hiding the fact thatshe was gay and that she had
this relationship with this,with this woman.
That was just supposed to belike a family friend.
And, yeah, lisa was saying it'ssuch a shame that she could,
she didn't have the confidencejust to come out and say it to
us, because we, we really didlove her and we do love her now,
(02:30):
but it's it's.
It wasn't.
It wasn't a story that wasacceptable exactly in her, in
her the way it was.
It was an old script thatbelonged to somebody else and
it's certainly this old scriptthat we all tend to follow.
Yeah, and there's one scriptwritten by one person years and
years ago, or by by some kind ofpolitics or religion that wants
(02:52):
us to follow the flock andbehave, and we all tend to
follow that story, especiallywhen it comes to things like
what you were saying, you know,marriage, and a lot of the time
we don't realize as well.
They're like subconsciouspatterns that we've been like
hypnotized into thinking thatthis is what we have to do.
Yes, you don't realize it, orwe're just following in our
(03:13):
father's footsteps or ourmother's footsteps, or living up
to somebody, uh, somebodyelse's dream for their
expectations that they have that.
But I mean.
But I mean, when you grab yourown story, say, no, I'm going to
start writing.
This is very freeing, very,very freeing.
(03:34):
You can start with a newaffirmation, like every day.
You can start with, you know,imagining that you've got a new
pen in your hand.
It's a pen that has never beenheld by anyone before and this
is your pen, and it's your pen,and you can write your own
script.
You can write the story day byday, the story of how you're
(03:58):
going to live your life exactly,and and you can respect other
people's stories, no judgment,but you can let go of the fear
and decide to write your story,and you may say that's easier
said than done.
I'm just gonna say that can bereally tricky for some.
Yes, it can be for most people,for all of us it's really
(04:19):
tricky we all because we'rebreaking away from what is,
especially if we're breakingaway from what is expected of us
, especially if we're breakingaway a lot.
You know it's a big thing andwe've decided that no, we don't
want to go to law school, wewant to go and do this.
Or we don't want to havechildren.
Oh, especially with thechildren Grandma and granddad
are expecting to have grandkids.
(04:39):
Our mum and dad want babies.
Yeah, how do we deal with that?
That's their story.
They have the babies, exactly.
And is it really?
They say, it's my right tobecome a granddad or a
grandmother?
Why, why?
Yes, it's not really your right.
It was your right to createyour story.
(05:01):
But when your story has tobecome my story at all costs and
change the whole script of mylife, is that really going to be
?
Is that really helpful or fair?
I wanted to say the word fair,but I thought it's not fair.
(05:22):
Is it really fair?
And and just because it's beena past script that has gone on
and on and on, is it really fairtoday?
And, and you know some peoplemay say yes, it's fair and don't
ask so many questions,otherwise there'd be no kids
around.
Yeah, and it's respectful forthe elders, exactly.
And how can you respect yourelders?
(05:43):
You can respect them byspeaking your truth and gently
explaining to them that, nomatter how much you respect them
and you are so grateful for thevalues and beliefs that they
have passed on and all thoseuseful lessons you've learned
from them, at the same time,you've also learned to become
(06:03):
independent and you mustprioritize your own self in this
case.
And because you have to writeyour own story, they cannot
write it for you, because youwill never be happy, no, and if
there isn't, if you don't writeyour own story, you will live in
resentment most people do andregret and regret so, and you'll
(06:24):
look back on your life andthink, wow, yes, exactly what
happened, because it doesn'tlast that long our lives and we
have to think about that.
We have to think, okay, youknow, am I writing this for my
father, for my mother for forthe elders, like what you were
saying, or do I have to sort ofunderstand that?
(06:46):
This is me.
I've come into the universe andI've got something to say, and
something may be different, andif you don't have something
different, then your story canintertwine really comfortably
with their story and it becomeone long story of continuous
tradition, etc.
(07:07):
And that's also reallybeautiful.
There may be something elsethat you want to express about
yourself, though, because itmight be you might be very happy
to to continue in many of thetraditions.
It doesn't mean you're going tobreak free of all of them, no.
It doesn't mean that your storyhas to be something spectacular
no, no, absolutely.
(07:28):
You know and film worthy thatmillions of people are going to
go and watch you.
You just have to feel as ifyou're just calm and just happy
and just serene, but you'refollowing your truth.
You're not like living a lie.
You can ask yourself am Iliving a lie?
Am I living someone else'sstory?
It's my story.
This is what I really want todo.
(07:49):
I think there is a moment ofgreat reflection there for all
of us.
Yeah, my daughter's fiance, he,he, he said he didn't have the
courage to tell his parents.
He's from Chile.
He didn't have the courage totell his parents he didn't want
to become um a doctor, becausethey wanted him to study
medicine or law and he, hedidn't want to.
(08:11):
He wanted to study science, andso he didn't.
What he did is he didn't tellthem, he escaped.
Well, he didn't tell them untilit was too late and that he'd
already, you know, practicallyfinished his studies.
He just kind of told a whitelie and said he was at
university without specifyingokay, that's probably a good
idea.
In the dark dark were they veryannoyed about that?
(08:32):
No, in the end they kind of hadto accept it because he was
older, I suppose.
And then he came to the UK andthat, and then he met my
daughter and everything's fineand dandy now, but he's living
his story.
So it's not like his parentsoriginally didn't want him to
study that and they wanted himto do something else.
(08:52):
So in the end you have to askyourself is that going to make
me happy?
Because if you're not, you know, if you're not, am I?
If your heart isn't in there,your mind's not in it.
What's the point that you're?
You're absolutely right, yeah.
What is the point of living alife that was designed for
somebody else.
That is so true and you canrealize that at any time, even
(09:19):
if you're in the story andyou've decided to go ahead and
do something, you can alwaysthink about something that you
can change to make it more yourstory.
So say, you did have childrenand you've got your kids now and
you're obviously in the endyou're happy.
(09:40):
You know you can be a happyfamily.
But perhaps you choose to go towork, for example, because you
realize that you've alwayswanted to do something I don't
know know, work in own your ownbusiness or something you know
don't.
You know you can.
You can still live that story.
You know, if you have a dream,it's a bit like a side job,
(10:04):
isn't it?
What's a side job?
What you're doing, somethingelse sometimes, if you think you
can't get away because there'stoo many difficulties in the,
you know in the story thatyou're living and you feel as if
you can't just break free fromit.
You can have, like, start yourlittle side hustle where you're
actually doing what you want todo.
Yes, without you know, makingtoo many waves.
(10:26):
Yeah, until one day maybe youcan break free.
Yeah, absolutely.
You may have been silent, butyou can slowly find your voice.
You can whisper at first andtalk, you know, tell yourself
about what you want to do, andwhen you feel safe enough, you
can also tell others that youknow are going to support you in
(10:48):
your journey, because perhapssomebody around you may way you
know that business idea isreally bad or whatever, I don't
know.
But you can find people thatare gonna support you and help
you because because it is,because it's worth it ultimately
, absolutely it's totally worthit to to become the author of
(11:09):
your story, and and it is adaily practice, I think so it's
not something we can just Well,you have to work on it, yes,
it's not something you can justsay yes, I want to be the author
of my story.
It's a bit like writing a realbook.
You have to put some effortinto it, don't you?
You have to make sure that it'sdiscipline, isn't it?
Yes, you're going to Takingthose steps every day.
(11:29):
You're going to hold that penand not let it go and carry it
through every day, settingboundaries as well, exactly that
.
Boundaries, especially, perhaps, from people that you know are
not going to become part of yournew story.
They don't want you to have anew story.
(11:50):
They want you to stay in theold story that you were stuck in
in the past and um and that canhappen a lot of the times does
a lot, but you can't livesomeone else's life ultimately.
That's why they have their ownlife, exactly.
They've had their choices thatthey've had to make.
(12:11):
A lot of times they will tryand guilt you in saying I
sacrificed everything for youVery common.
I did everything for you.
What are you doing in return?
You're not even letting me havethis satisfaction of having.
You know, you go to universityor you study medicine or you do
this, become the dancer, becauseI put you through dance, I put
(12:33):
you through university.
You know they'll come up withall this like emotional
blackmail to you know, to stopyou from, from pursuing your own
story.
Yeah, making it all about themagain.
And you might know that youmight.
You'll feel this.
You'll feel that when you getup in the morning, you'll feel
(12:55):
that you're not.
There's something that's notresonating with you.
You'll know.
You know what we're talkingabout, the people.
You know those of you that arelistening to this and do feel
this way.
You know exactly what we meanwhen we're saying this.
You, you're not living the wayyou were supposed to live
(13:15):
because, let's face it, each oneof us was supposed to do that.
You know, it doesn't reallymatter what it is, it could be
doing absolutely anything,doesn't matter whether you
believe in fate or not, but weknow our things that we have to
be doing.
Yes, we do have to be doing andwe know we have to be doing
them.
And the things that we we feelthat satisfy us, satisfy us and
(13:38):
that make us feel calm and notalways calm, because there are
certain things that can bring agreat difficult, difficult, yeah
, and you have to overcome,overcome hurdles, yeah,
absolutely.
We know all about that.
Yes, but when you?
(14:00):
The thing is that when you knowthat you're narrating your own
story, there's a lot ofsatisfaction in the you know, in
your failures or in yoursuccesses, because you know it's
true, it's true for you, itrings true to you, yes, so so
you feel satisfied, you feel asif you know you're doing the
right thing, kind of thing.
Because you're going to writeyour own story.
Yes, you can, and it doesn'thave to be written all at once.
(14:23):
You can just say, right fromnow on, I'm going to write or
rewrite part of my story, and byrewriting we mean going back to
the past moments that may havehurt you, as we were saying in
the other episode.
You know about emotionalbaggage and trying to see them
through a different light,perhaps through a light of
empathy or a different kind ofseeing it in somebody else's
(14:47):
shoes, as to speak.
And you can go ahead like that,can't you?
You can become the author ofyour own story, yeah, and step
by step as well, day by day,even if it's something as simple
, like you're living in ahousehold that no one likes to
work out, and you suddenly thinkyou want to become fit and
(15:10):
healthy.
Well, you know, you can.
You maybe you don't have to,you know publicize it, but you
can just say in your mind,affirm in your mind that, day by
day, I'm going to get fit andhealthy and make those food
choices and stop by, buy somehealthy food, exactly.
Make those changes, becauseyou'll find that not everyone
wants to be on the same journeythat you're on, and you will
(15:32):
have opposition to it.
Yeah, especially when it comesto things like that, you know
that you might be.
Oh, come on, don't bother, sitdown here, let's just, let's
just have all the peace out,even coming to like, if you want
to become, say, sober and youknow people around you don't
agree with you you know peoplearound you don't don't agree
with you, but that's especially.
(15:52):
You know it's you have to thinkit's.
This is my story.
How do I want to live my life?
And just go, go, go, go with it, go with it and be brave and
make sure that you, you holdthat pen in your hand and don't
worry if you start writing itand then you don't know how it's
(16:13):
going to turn out, but you canstill write a few words every
day.
But you know you're on theright path.
When, like what you said, youfeel at peace and you feel
inspired and you feel andexcited, there's something
exciting.
I might be scared of this, butI'm excited at the same time
because it's something exciting.
I I, I might be scared of this,but I'm excited at the same
time because it's something newand it's not in my comfort zone,
(16:36):
because your comfort zone mayhave been some one that you've
got used to now, that you'realways repeating the same things
that don't make you happy, andso, yeah, it could even be like
a career change, couldn't it.
You might be in a career thatyou're not really that happy
with.
Very often it's a career changeand you can start with a side,
you know, a side hustle, andthen just take it from there,
(16:56):
see how that goes, and then youknow, maybe take some, do some
more studying or something, butyou will feel that it's you,
it's something that you want todo, you that you want to do.
You will feel good about it,you will in your heart of hearts
.
Absolutely so.
Let us know what you think.
Are you gonna start writingyour own story?
Or maybe you have been writingit for years and maybe you've
(17:18):
had opposition?
You can let us know it in thecomments on youtube or on
instagram, or send us a text onwherever you get your podcast
and let us know you know what,what it's been like for you,
because we are excited.
We'd love to hear from you.
Thank you so much.
Thank you so much.
Bye, see you soon, bye-bye.
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