July 2, 2025 • 21 mins
That voice in your head saying you're not good enough, smart enough, or capable enough? It's not telling the truth. It's a limiting belief – and it may have been programmed into you decades ago without your knowledge or consent.
We had a lightbulb moment when we first learned about limiting beliefs at a seminar years ago. The life coach asked us to identify beliefs holding us back, and suddenly we realized how many thoughts we'd accepted as truth were actually just installed beliefs from childhood experiences. For me, it was an art teacher who dismissed my creative work at age six, making me believe I had no artistic talent – a belief that later prevented me from pursuing fashion design despite my natural creativity and sewing skills. For my sister, it was struggles with what was likely undiagnosed dyscalculia being treated as stupidity, creating a lifelong belief about her mathematical abilities.
These limiting beliefs don't just create small obstacles – they fundamentally reshape our lives, our choices, and even our dreams. The most insidious part is how they become self-fulfilling prophecies through constant reinforcement. We tell ourselves "I'm not good at that" or "I don't know how to do that" so often that we never even try. We might even forget what we originally wanted to do as our perceived limitations overwhelm our aspirations.
The good news? Once you identify a limiting belief, you can challenge it. Is it actually true? Could you learn? What if you simply added "yet" to the end of "I don't know how to do that"? This small cognitive shift opens doors to possibilities that limiting beliefs had previously closed. Whether it's learning to drive, starting a business, becoming a parent, or pursuing art – the first step is recognizing the belief that's holding you back.
What limiting belief will you break free from this week? Share your journey with us on social media or leave a comment on YouTube. Remember, it's never too late to challenge these beliefs and rediscover dreams you might have abandoned long ago.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Break free from your limiting beliefs this week.
Yay, yay, let's do it.
Let's try and become more awareof what's weighing us down and
what kind of beliefs that weactually have.
Could be a number of them,could be lots of them.
We used to have so many,definitely.
(00:21):
We did so.
Listen to this week's episodeon get real with the english
sisters.
Come and see us on youtube, too, where we have the full video
and podcast version, bothavailable and wherever you get
your podcasts.
Thank you for listening.
Take a deep breath.
I remember when we first howmany times have we said this?
(00:44):
When we first learned aboutlimiting beliefs, it was a light
bulb moment for us.
It was such a light bulb momentYou're so right because it was
a shock.
Yeah, I really didn't know theyexisted.
No, when the life coach we wentto this like seminar, wasn't it
?
And he said just each one ofyou, think about what kind of
(01:06):
beliefs do you have that areactually limiting you?
And and and there was, therewas just so many old beliefs.
Well, I just thought, justdidn't even know that you had
these beliefs in the first place.
I thought belief was just likea religious belief or a I don't
know.
I didn't think that we had webelieved things about ourselves
(01:30):
that could make such a hugedifference to our lives.
And to stop our emotionalawareness, to stop stopping us
from being able to do things,yeah, just like the belief.
Um, no, I'm not good enough todo that, I'm not competent
enough, I'm not clever enough,I'm not artistic or creative
(01:52):
enough.
I mean, how many times have weall said these things to
ourselves?
And where do they actually formthese beliefs?
Well, they're forming childhood, don't they?
A lot of the times, or frompast trauma, we have a voice in
our head saying that you're notgood enough to do that or you're
just not that kind of person.
I mean, I remember in our artlessons, do you remember?
(02:15):
We had that art teacher who wasall full of herself but really
she was not a good teacher.
And I remember doing somedrawings and I was so little
they said she would say theywere rubbish.
And yeah, she came by and likeI think I had a piece of clay
and I was doing something.
Really she goes well, what areyou trying to do with that?
(02:36):
And it was that kind ofexpression on her face that sort
of made me start believing.
Oh, I'm not good at this, andthen afterwards it was just the
whole of art in general.
You know, if I ever wanted todraw something and I had a
natural tendency to want topaint and to want to draw, like
99% of kids do but I was stuntedby the belief that was set like
(03:03):
six or seven already so youngby this very egocentric teacher
who who was not a good teacher,it was a contrary and and
installed those beliefs.
There was only one or twochildren in the class that she
loved and she would clap and say, oh, now that's good.
(03:23):
Peace, you know, that's what wecan define good.
And all the rest of the stuffthat all of us did was just.
And then she wouldn't teach youhow to do things either.
No, no, because she would justgive you a piece of clay and say
, yeah, she wouldn't say, look,this is how to draw a house or
this is how to give you somestructure.
To teach you how to do things.
Nothing, you, how to do thingsnothing.
I mean now, if you look onlineon, on YouTube, how to draw a
(03:46):
human face, yes, it's so easy.
The way they break things downof how to draw things, yes, yes,
yes.
But that that in me blocked allof my creativity as a kid, you
know, and I still think aboutthat today, because there was
some.
I love color, I love, I lovepainting, I would, but but that
kind of limited me and I thought, you know, as an adult that's
(04:09):
definitely one limiting belief.
So are you going to break freefrom that this week?
I already have, I already have,yeah, but you're going to
actually draw something or paintsomething I might?
You said you love colour.
I do love it.
I love it so much.
And you know my husband, heloves painting.
Yeah, you know, yes, so much.
And you know my husband, heloves painting.
Yeah, you know, yes, very much.
So maybe you could have thatproject this week.
(04:29):
I could.
That would be very relaxing Topaint something together.
Maybe that would be lovely.
I think I will.
If we've got time, definitely.
Well, if that's not good enough, it's making time, it's making
time.
You're right If we've got time.
You see you're already blockingus now.
No, because I was just thinkingthis weekend he actually has to
work, so it's a particular.
(04:50):
But next weekend you can stillhave an hour though, can't you?
If he has to work, yeah,absolutely, an hour in the
evening or whatever.
Yeah, he's actually got a lotof his paint brushes and, yeah,
his paints.
Well, even if he has to work,you don't.
So you could do it, I could doit and I think I would really
enjoy it.
Actually, some margaritas orflowers, yeah, something,
(05:13):
something I like absolutely andjust mixing colors, I love it.
And I was thinking, you know,she, she, that teacher,
installed that belief in me, andthe other teacher was the other
one who was like I had greatdifficulty understanding numbers
and they would just like mix up, and which is what nowadays are
(05:37):
probably part of dyslexia.
You know, I don't know exactlywhat it's called Dyscalculus.
Yes, it's like when you couldthe numbers just, and the
numbers were just moving aroundon the blackboard.
So I had really really greatdifficulty in being able to add
up or subtract, and so that wasanother great disadvantage for
(05:59):
me and, once again, instead ofbeing helped, I was, I used to
hide under the table, you know,and I used to get hit, because
in those days we were, you know,they would still hit in schools
, in English schools, and sothat certainly formed the belief
that I was very, very bad atanything to do with mathematics,
(06:22):
and I formed a very quickbelief that numbers would always
run away from me and I wouldnever be able to to make them
stand still and being able to dothings with them, and so I
totally gave up on that.
Now, as an adult, I've kind of Ifind ways to to help myself.
(06:43):
I found ways to help myself andto understand it a little bit
more and to learn.
You can learn how to do things.
I learn how to do things andI've learned how to.
Just because you haven't got uh, maybe with numbers
particularly, but you could, youstill got very much a business
mind now.
Yes, so that doesn't.
You know.
Things can translate indifferent ways.
(07:04):
Yes, absolutely you can use.
So if you're thinking here, I'vegot a limiting belief that's
stopping me from whatever.
It is learning how to drive, oroh, yeah, that's another big
one.
Isn't it difficult?
I mean I had to take my drivingtest seven times, or six or
seven, I can't remember exactly.
I just kept going until I gotit and I just thought, no, I'm
(07:27):
not giving up on this.
No, it was a really importantskill.
Now, if I had to, I mean, Ijust didn't even understand what
the roads did or anything.
It was just like it was part of.
I think, yes, because we bothhave it.
Yeah, this is this dyslexia,dyspraxia, whatever it is, but
we were never diagnosed.
But now, as as adults,obviously we realize that's what
(07:50):
it was.
Yeah, that's absolutely what itwas.
Anymore, as an adult, I can lookand see things in different
ways.
I've broken free from thosebeliefs as well that maybe I had
about myself.
Yeah, yeah, you still mighthave it to a certain extent, but
what you can do is you canappreciate the fact that you've
got it and and help yourself inother ways.
(08:10):
You can find tools to helpyourself or you know.
So, in the end, we've got toall realize that we all do have
limiting beliefs, and they areformed very young many times, or
they're formed by a parent alot of the time that you know
that might make us feel we'renot good enough, or I think that
(08:31):
as well.
I'm thinking we do often, um,try to combat this, this thing,
naturally, but then we getdemoralised because we don't
actually understand it's alimiting belief.
I think once you can classify it, it's a limiting belief, it
just makes things so much easierbecause you can just say no, is
(08:54):
that true?
No, well, maybe it is truetoday.
Maybe today I'm not good atpainting, but if I took an art
class, I would be good at it.
Or painting, but if I took anart class, yes, I would be good
at it.
Or maybe I don't need an artclass and I can just do what.
Whatever I want to do on a, ona piece of paper, on cameras, I
can just paint for myself.
Do you know?
You know, yes, but I'm can.
I'm imagining, if you're alittle bit of a perfectionist,
(09:15):
you might not be happy with justmessing around, dabbling, no,
so dabbling.
So then you would.
You, would you, if you reallywanted to become competent at
something?
There's nothing actuallystopping you from actually
learning how to do it properlywith someone that's going to
motivate and inspire you andteach you as an, as as teaching
(09:36):
should be, yeah, as as learn, toreally learn, and not to be
demoralized and put down, andput down exactly and made to
feel that you're not good enoughat something, that you'll never
be good enough at that.
And I think you're right.
(09:57):
All of these beliefs that wehave once we suddenly it's like
the light bulb that we had Oncewe realize, hey, is this true?
Or maybe that's also a limitingbelief of mine.
Maybe I have a belief that I'mnever going to be good at
driving, or I I'm never going tobe able to own my business
because I don't have good mathskills, for example or is that
(10:22):
really true, yeah?
Or good business, businessmindset to know how to, like, do
my taxes and everything.
But you can actually get peopleto help you do that.
Nobody knows that at thebeginning.
You learn it as you go along,and nowadays you can really read
stuff online.
You can learn so much so so you, you don't necessarily have to
(10:45):
know everything immediately.
No, you might be one of thesepeople that's had this limiting
belief about yourself that youcouldn't say become a doctor
because you just wouldn't beable to go through with it,
because someone's told you andput you down, and you can just
say today could be the day whenyou just free yourself from that
and say, no, I'm actually goingto study to be a doctor, I'm
(11:07):
going to take a degree, I'mgoing to do whatever it takes to
do it, and you can maybe startsmall by being helping out or
being, you know, doing somethingof a voluntary thing.
It's step by step, it is stepby step and literally step by
step, you will start knockingdown those blocks, yeah, that
that are limiting you and thatare forming this belief.
(11:30):
Because what happens is thatonce you see yourself actually
achieving something, then youcan question whether that belief
is really 100 accurate and whatexactly was it based on?
Because if it's, if it'ssomething that you do not want
to do, then that's not alimiting belief.
(11:52):
That is perhaps a belief thatis actually helping you in some
way.
You know, you believe, yeah,but you might have had a dream
of something that, secretly, youwould have loved to do, but you
just feel that, deep down inyour heart, you're not good
enough and that deep down inyour heart is not a real deep
down in your heart.
It's because you have alimiting belief around that.
(12:12):
That is so true Because someonehas installed it in you, or the
environment, because we're allborn with that being able to the
capacity to have infinitepossibilities to do whatever we
want to do.
Yes, you're so right, it's deepdown inside.
What is this deep down inside?
Deep down inside your gut tellsyou one thing and then your
(12:33):
limiting belief pushes it down.
So that's what happens, becauseyou know there's something that
you want to do, but then thelimiting belief comes along and
pushes it.
And pushes it sometimes so deepdown that you even forget.
You even forget to dream, youforget to dream, you forget what
(12:53):
you actually wanted to do inthe first place and you become
just overwhelmed by it and youstart listening to everybody
else and all of their ideas.
Yeah, and a lot of people mighttry and discourage you as well,
saying it's too difficult, it'stoo expensive, you haven't got
this, you weren't born in theright place, you do not have the
(13:14):
right kind of culture for that.
You're not, we're not that kindof family.
I mean, I've heard this so manytimes, this belief installed in
younger people no, we're not in, we don't, you know, that's not
in our family sort of lie.
You know we don't, we're not.
You know like, for example,business people.
(13:36):
No, no, you know we're alldoctors or something the
opposite, academics.
You can't start just suddenlyopening up your own business.
That's not you, that's not thekind of people we are.
Come on, each one of us hassomething that we know we are.
Yeah, and I think a lot of itgets reinforced with
(14:01):
auto-suggestion, because youauto-suggest to yourself again
and again about this limitingbelief.
So you keep saying you're notgood at it, you don't know how
to do that.
I don't know how to do that.
I don't know how to do that.
I'm not good at that.
Oh, my drawing is terrible.
Oh my my driving is.
Oh, I'm a really bad driver.
(14:21):
We had that funny story aboutour dad and we.
Once we went away and we saidcan you look after the fish for
us, because we had a little fishpond.
And he said I don't know how tofeed the fish.
And I thought what?
You don't know how to feed thefish, dad, come on, you just put
(14:41):
a little bit of food.
So now, whenever we reinforceour limiting belief that we say
we don't know, I don't know howto feed the fish, yeah, you can
have that as well.
I mean, you learn to feed thefish.
It's easier.
It's easier than what you thinkit is, and even if it's not,
it's putting yourself throughthat little challenge.
(15:03):
Isn't it all that big challenge?
But you're going to challengeyour own belief set and you want
once you understand that it'sthere because it's a sneaky
thing, and it can become aself-fulfilling prophecy once
you start repeating that beliefto yourself over and over again.
So let's use this to ouradvantage.
(15:25):
We can say things like I don'tknow how to do that yet exactly.
I maybe wasn't competent atthat, but I'm going to, you know
, do my very best to becomecompetent at that.
You can change things.
You can have a belief set thatfor you, anything is possible.
(15:46):
You can believe that.
You can start believing thatand say I don't know how to do
it, no, but I can learn, and Isure as hell I'm going to try
and learn, and you all know thatwe're all about lifelong
learning, so there's plenty oftime for everything isn't there.
There is, there is.
Learning doesn't stop when youget to 18 or 20 or 24.
(16:11):
Let us know what you're goingto break free from this week.
Yes, which limiting belief youare and I'm sure you may have a
few, as we did and it's amazinghow it can really change your.
I mean, you might be decidingwhat to do now, what university
to go to, or maybe you're a bitolder and you're deciding what,
(16:35):
like some people have the belief, for instance, I couldn't be a
parent, I'm not a good mother,or I'm not a good father.
That's rubbish, it's just, it'snot if you want to be a mother
or a father or a parent.
You can do it, because all youreally need is love and good
intention, and then you canlearn how to do all the tricky
(16:55):
bits in between.
I remember once when I wasgoing to become a mum, I
remember reading in this bookand it said if you've already
bought this book about how tobecome a good parent, you
already are.
Exactly that was in theintroduction.
So I think, like what you weresaying, the intention of even
already even worrying aboutbecoming a good parent is
(17:18):
because your intention is tobecome a good parent, and if you
didn't have good parents, youcan break free from that too.
It doesn't mean that you're notgoing to be a good parent.
You're going to become aware ofeverything in a different kind
of way for your future, exactly.
And I didn't go to fashionschool.
(17:40):
I wanted to go to fashionuniversity because I thought I
wasn't good at drawing becauseof this, this teacher that we
both had.
That said, we weren't artisticand I never did learn how to do
it.
And they're just simplesketches you have to do, which
now, as a fully grown adult, Irealize it was the most stupid
thing of all time, but anyway,my life turned out very well and
(18:01):
I have no regrets that I didn'tdo that and I can still do it
if I want to.
That I didn't do that and I canstill do it if I want to.
But it just goes to show how alimiting belief can really
change the the course of yourlife, and for the better or for
the worse.
In my case, it was for thebetter, because I'm perfectly
happy and satisfied with it.
But it does.
It does make you wonder.
(18:23):
I do think about it and I think, gosh, it was.
Could have been a totallydifferent life.
Absolutely it could have been.
Just imagine if you hadsomebody you didn't have the
free, for example, freedom tochoose, because you just had
this limiting belief.
So it's not like I said okay, Icould easily learn to sketch,
but I still want to do languagesor philosophy or whatever I did
(18:44):
.
But it's, it's because ityou're hurting yourself because
you're thinking, no, I won't dothat because I'm not good at
that.
Exactly just for one smallthing.
Yes, yeah, because for the restof it I was excellent at sewing
and very creative, so the restof it I could have easily done.
It would have been a breeze?
Yeah, it would have been abreeze because you were very,
(19:04):
very creative.
Yeah, I think we were bothcreatives and we were both put
down.
Put down, yeah, I was gonna sayyes, I won't.
No, no, no system not by ourparents.
Entirely true, because I didhave a lovely English teacher
who would always say lovelystories you're writing, well
(19:24):
done, well done.
So she did encourage that partof the storytelling, you know,
and that has continued.
But apart from that, you know,the rest of it was pretty.
I do hope it's not like thattoday.
But if it is and you're a parent, become aware of it.
And you know, if you do havekids and they start talking
(19:44):
about, start saying no, I'm notgood at that, you know you can
always question it and remindthem.
You know you can teach themabout limiting beliefs because
once they do understand yeah,they do.
You know children understandthis.
We taught our children at veryyoung age what they were.
Now they come back with it ifever I say anything.
(20:05):
My grown-up.
So to my mom, that's a limitingbelief you have.
What happened to limiting?
I actually said, no, I can'tdrive at night the other day and
my 25 year old son, mom, thatis a limiting belief.
You've got special glasses fordriving at night, you can easily
do it and I thought, yes, thatis that is.
That is very true.
(20:25):
It's also a belief that youknow it's not.
It's kind of something that Ifind quite convenient.
Yes, you know, because I don'twant to do it, but it's also
because, yeah, I was frightenedof it.
Yeah, but wouldn't it be freeingif you could drive?
Yes, absolutely, I mean, Ithought you'd drive at night
because I really can't see atnight.
I've got that night blindness.
(20:49):
But you can, I can now.
So you should probably freeyourself from that.
No, I have free practice.
I have.
Yes, I've done it.
I mean, when I needed to do it,I've done it exactly.
Yes, okay, let us know whatyou're gonna break free from
this week and, as always, thankyou for listening, available on
wherever you get your podcasts,also on youtube.
Come and say hi.
Lots of love and smiles fromthat english sisters.
(21:11):
Bye.
Break free from your limiting beliefs this week.
Yay, yay, let's do it.
Let's try and become more awareof what's weighing us down and
what kind of beliefs that weactually have.
Could be a number of them,could be lots of them.
We used to have so many,definitely.
(00:21):
We did so.
Listen to this week's episodeon get real with the english
sisters.
Come and see us on youtube, too, where we have the full video
and podcast version, bothavailable and wherever you get
your podcasts.
Thank you for listening.
Take a deep breath.
I remember when we first howmany times have we said this?
(00:44):
When we first learned aboutlimiting beliefs, it was a light
bulb moment for us.
It was such a light bulb momentYou're so right because it was
a shock.
Yeah, I really didn't know theyexisted.
No, when the life coach we wentto this like seminar, wasn't it
?
And he said just each one ofyou, think about what kind of
(01:06):
beliefs do you have that areactually limiting you?
And and and there was, therewas just so many old beliefs.
Well, I just thought, justdidn't even know that you had
these beliefs in the first place.
I thought belief was just likea religious belief or a I don't
know.
I didn't think that we had webelieved things about ourselves
(01:30):
that could make such a hugedifference to our lives.
And to stop our emotionalawareness, to stop stopping us
from being able to do things,yeah, just like the belief.
Um, no, I'm not good enough todo that, I'm not competent
enough, I'm not clever enough,I'm not artistic or creative
(01:52):
enough.
I mean, how many times have weall said these things to
ourselves?
And where do they actually formthese beliefs?
Well, they're forming childhood, don't they?
A lot of the times, or frompast trauma, we have a voice in
our head saying that you're notgood enough to do that or you're
just not that kind of person.
I mean, I remember in our artlessons, do you remember?
(02:15):
We had that art teacher who wasall full of herself but really
she was not a good teacher.
And I remember doing somedrawings and I was so little
they said she would say theywere rubbish.
And yeah, she came by and likeI think I had a piece of clay
and I was doing something.
Really she goes well, what areyou trying to do with that?
(02:36):
And it was that kind ofexpression on her face that sort
of made me start believing.
Oh, I'm not good at this, andthen afterwards it was just the
whole of art in general.
You know, if I ever wanted todraw something and I had a
natural tendency to want topaint and to want to draw, like
99% of kids do but I was stuntedby the belief that was set like
(03:03):
six or seven already so youngby this very egocentric teacher
who who was not a good teacher,it was a contrary and and
installed those beliefs.
There was only one or twochildren in the class that she
loved and she would clap and say, oh, now that's good.
(03:23):
Peace, you know, that's what wecan define good.
And all the rest of the stuffthat all of us did was just.
And then she wouldn't teach youhow to do things either.
No, no, because she would justgive you a piece of clay and say
, yeah, she wouldn't say, look,this is how to draw a house or
this is how to give you somestructure.
To teach you how to do things.
Nothing, you, how to do thingsnothing.
I mean now, if you look onlineon, on YouTube, how to draw a
(03:46):
human face, yes, it's so easy.
The way they break things downof how to draw things, yes, yes,
yes.
But that that in me blocked allof my creativity as a kid, you
know, and I still think aboutthat today, because there was
some.
I love color, I love, I lovepainting, I would, but but that
kind of limited me and I thought, you know, as an adult that's
(04:09):
definitely one limiting belief.
So are you going to break freefrom that this week?
I already have, I already have,yeah, but you're going to
actually draw something or paintsomething I might?
You said you love colour.
I do love it.
I love it so much.
And you know my husband, heloves painting.
Yeah, you know, yes, so much.
And you know my husband, heloves painting.
Yeah, you know, yes, very much.
So maybe you could have thatproject this week.
(04:29):
I could.
That would be very relaxing Topaint something together.
Maybe that would be lovely.
I think I will.
If we've got time, definitely.
Well, if that's not good enough, it's making time, it's making
time.
You're right If we've got time.
You see you're already blockingus now.
No, because I was just thinkingthis weekend he actually has to
work, so it's a particular.
(04:50):
But next weekend you can stillhave an hour though, can't you?
If he has to work, yeah,absolutely, an hour in the
evening or whatever.
Yeah, he's actually got a lotof his paint brushes and, yeah,
his paints.
Well, even if he has to work,you don't.
So you could do it, I could doit and I think I would really
enjoy it.
Actually, some margaritas orflowers, yeah, something,
(05:13):
something I like absolutely andjust mixing colors, I love it.
And I was thinking, you know,she, she, that teacher,
installed that belief in me, andthe other teacher was the other
one who was like I had greatdifficulty understanding numbers
and they would just like mix up, and which is what nowadays are
(05:37):
probably part of dyslexia.
You know, I don't know exactlywhat it's called Dyscalculus.
Yes, it's like when you couldthe numbers just, and the
numbers were just moving aroundon the blackboard.
So I had really really greatdifficulty in being able to add
up or subtract, and so that wasanother great disadvantage for
(05:59):
me and, once again, instead ofbeing helped, I was, I used to
hide under the table, you know,and I used to get hit, because
in those days we were, you know,they would still hit in schools
, in English schools, and sothat certainly formed the belief
that I was very, very bad atanything to do with mathematics,
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and I formed a very quickbelief that numbers would always
run away from me and I wouldnever be able to to make them
stand still and being able to dothings with them, and so I
totally gave up on that.
Now, as an adult, I've kind of Ifind ways to to help myself.
(06:43):
I found ways to help myself andto understand it a little bit
more and to learn.
You can learn how to do things.
I learn how to do things andI've learned how to.
Just because you haven't got uh, maybe with numbers
particularly, but you could, youstill got very much a business
mind now.
Yes, so that doesn't.
You know.
Things can translate indifferent ways.
(07:04):
Yes, absolutely you can use.
So if you're thinking here, I'vegot a limiting belief that's
stopping me from whatever.
It is learning how to drive, oroh, yeah, that's another big
one.
Isn't it difficult?
I mean I had to take my drivingtest seven times, or six or
seven, I can't remember exactly.
I just kept going until I gotit and I just thought, no, I'm
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not giving up on this.
No, it was a really importantskill.
Now, if I had to, I mean, Ijust didn't even understand what
the roads did or anything.
It was just like it was part of.
I think, yes, because we bothhave it.
Yeah, this is this dyslexia,dyspraxia, whatever it is, but
we were never diagnosed.
But now, as as adults,obviously we realize that's what
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it was.
Yeah, that's absolutely what itwas.
Anymore, as an adult, I can lookand see things in different
ways.
I've broken free from thosebeliefs as well that maybe I had
about myself.
Yeah, yeah, you still mighthave it to a certain extent, but
what you can do is you canappreciate the fact that you've
got it and and help yourself inother ways.
(08:10):
You can find tools to helpyourself or you know.
So, in the end, we've got toall realize that we all do have
limiting beliefs, and they areformed very young many times, or
they're formed by a parent alot of the time that you know
that might make us feel we'renot good enough, or I think that
(08:31):
as well.
I'm thinking we do often, um,try to combat this, this thing,
naturally, but then we getdemoralised because we don't
actually understand it's alimiting belief.
I think once you can classify it, it's a limiting belief, it
just makes things so much easierbecause you can just say no, is
(08:54):
that true?
No, well, maybe it is truetoday.
Maybe today I'm not good atpainting, but if I took an art
class, I would be good at it.
Or painting, but if I took anart class, yes, I would be good
at it.
Or maybe I don't need an artclass and I can just do what.
Whatever I want to do on a, ona piece of paper, on cameras, I
can just paint for myself.
Do you know?
You know, yes, but I'm can.
I'm imagining, if you're alittle bit of a perfectionist,
(09:15):
you might not be happy with justmessing around, dabbling, no,
so dabbling.
So then you would.
You, would you, if you reallywanted to become competent at
something?
There's nothing actuallystopping you from actually
learning how to do it properlywith someone that's going to
motivate and inspire you andteach you as an, as as teaching
(09:36):
should be, yeah, as as learn, toreally learn, and not to be
demoralized and put down, andput down exactly and made to
feel that you're not good enoughat something, that you'll never
be good enough at that.
And I think you're right.
(09:57):
All of these beliefs that wehave once we suddenly it's like
the light bulb that we had Oncewe realize, hey, is this true?
Or maybe that's also a limitingbelief of mine.
Maybe I have a belief that I'mnever going to be good at
driving, or I I'm never going tobe able to own my business
because I don't have good mathskills, for example or is that
(10:22):
really true, yeah?
Or good business, businessmindset to know how to, like, do
my taxes and everything.
But you can actually get peopleto help you do that.
Nobody knows that at thebeginning.
You learn it as you go along,and nowadays you can really read
stuff online.
You can learn so much so so you, you don't necessarily have to
(10:45):
know everything immediately.
No, you might be one of thesepeople that's had this limiting
belief about yourself that youcouldn't say become a doctor
because you just wouldn't beable to go through with it,
because someone's told you andput you down, and you can just
say today could be the day whenyou just free yourself from that
and say, no, I'm actually goingto study to be a doctor, I'm
(11:07):
going to take a degree, I'mgoing to do whatever it takes to
do it, and you can maybe startsmall by being helping out or
being, you know, doing somethingof a voluntary thing.
It's step by step, it is stepby step and literally step by
step, you will start knockingdown those blocks, yeah, that
that are limiting you and thatare forming this belief.
(11:30):
Because what happens is thatonce you see yourself actually
achieving something, then youcan question whether that belief
is really 100 accurate and whatexactly was it based on?
Because if it's, if it'ssomething that you do not want
to do, then that's not alimiting belief.
(11:52):
That is perhaps a belief thatis actually helping you in some
way.
You know, you believe, yeah,but you might have had a dream
of something that, secretly, youwould have loved to do, but you
just feel that, deep down inyour heart, you're not good
enough and that deep down inyour heart is not a real deep
down in your heart.
It's because you have alimiting belief around that.
(12:12):
That is so true Because someonehas installed it in you, or the
environment, because we're allborn with that being able to the
capacity to have infinitepossibilities to do whatever we
want to do.
Yes, you're so right, it's deepdown inside.
What is this deep down inside?
Deep down inside your gut tellsyou one thing and then your
(12:33):
limiting belief pushes it down.
So that's what happens, becauseyou know there's something that
you want to do, but then thelimiting belief comes along and
pushes it.
And pushes it sometimes so deepdown that you even forget.
You even forget to dream, youforget to dream, you forget what
(12:53):
you actually wanted to do inthe first place and you become
just overwhelmed by it and youstart listening to everybody
else and all of their ideas.
Yeah, and a lot of people mighttry and discourage you as well,
saying it's too difficult, it'stoo expensive, you haven't got
this, you weren't born in theright place, you do not have the
(13:14):
right kind of culture for that.
You're not, we're not that kindof family.
I mean, I've heard this so manytimes, this belief installed in
younger people no, we're not in, we don't, you know, that's not
in our family sort of lie.
You know we don't, we're not.
You know like, for example,business people.
(13:36):
No, no, you know we're alldoctors or something the
opposite, academics.
You can't start just suddenlyopening up your own business.
That's not you, that's not thekind of people we are.
Come on, each one of us hassomething that we know we are.
Yeah, and I think a lot of itgets reinforced with
(14:01):
auto-suggestion, because youauto-suggest to yourself again
and again about this limitingbelief.
So you keep saying you're notgood at it, you don't know how
to do that.
I don't know how to do that.
I don't know how to do that.
I'm not good at that.
Oh, my drawing is terrible.
Oh my my driving is.
Oh, I'm a really bad driver.
(14:21):
We had that funny story aboutour dad and we.
Once we went away and we saidcan you look after the fish for
us, because we had a little fishpond.
And he said I don't know how tofeed the fish.
And I thought what?
You don't know how to feed thefish, dad, come on, you just put
(14:41):
a little bit of food.
So now, whenever we reinforceour limiting belief that we say
we don't know, I don't know howto feed the fish, yeah, you can
have that as well.
I mean, you learn to feed thefish.
It's easier.
It's easier than what you thinkit is, and even if it's not,
it's putting yourself throughthat little challenge.
(15:03):
Isn't it all that big challenge?
But you're going to challengeyour own belief set and you want
once you understand that it'sthere because it's a sneaky
thing, and it can become aself-fulfilling prophecy once
you start repeating that beliefto yourself over and over again.
So let's use this to ouradvantage.
(15:25):
We can say things like I don'tknow how to do that yet exactly.
I maybe wasn't competent atthat, but I'm going to, you know
, do my very best to becomecompetent at that.
You can change things.
You can have a belief set thatfor you, anything is possible.
(15:46):
You can believe that.
You can start believing thatand say I don't know how to do
it, no, but I can learn, and Isure as hell I'm going to try
and learn, and you all know thatwe're all about lifelong
learning, so there's plenty oftime for everything isn't there.
There is, there is.
Learning doesn't stop when youget to 18 or 20 or 24.
(16:11):
Let us know what you're goingto break free from this week.
Yes, which limiting belief youare and I'm sure you may have a
few, as we did and it's amazinghow it can really change your.
I mean, you might be decidingwhat to do now, what university
to go to, or maybe you're a bitolder and you're deciding what,
(16:35):
like some people have the belief, for instance, I couldn't be a
parent, I'm not a good mother,or I'm not a good father.
That's rubbish, it's just, it'snot if you want to be a mother
or a father or a parent.
You can do it, because all youreally need is love and good
intention, and then you canlearn how to do all the tricky
(16:55):
bits in between.
I remember once when I wasgoing to become a mum, I
remember reading in this bookand it said if you've already
bought this book about how tobecome a good parent, you
already are.
Exactly that was in theintroduction.
So I think, like what you weresaying, the intention of even
already even worrying aboutbecoming a good parent is
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because your intention is tobecome a good parent, and if you
didn't have good parents, youcan break free from that too.
It doesn't mean that you're notgoing to be a good parent.
You're going to become aware ofeverything in a different kind
of way for your future, exactly.
And I didn't go to fashionschool.
(17:40):
I wanted to go to fashionuniversity because I thought I
wasn't good at drawing becauseof this, this teacher that we
both had.
That said, we weren't artisticand I never did learn how to do
it.
And they're just simplesketches you have to do, which
now, as a fully grown adult, Irealize it was the most stupid
thing of all time, but anyway,my life turned out very well and
(18:01):
I have no regrets that I didn'tdo that and I can still do it
if I want to.
That I didn't do that and I canstill do it if I want to.
But it just goes to show how alimiting belief can really
change the the course of yourlife, and for the better or for
the worse.
In my case, it was for thebetter, because I'm perfectly
happy and satisfied with it.
But it does.
It does make you wonder.
(18:23):
I do think about it and I think, gosh, it was.
Could have been a totallydifferent life.
Absolutely it could have been.
Just imagine if you hadsomebody you didn't have the
free, for example, freedom tochoose, because you just had
this limiting belief.
So it's not like I said okay, Icould easily learn to sketch,
but I still want to do languagesor philosophy or whatever I did
(18:44):
.
But it's, it's because ityou're hurting yourself because
you're thinking, no, I won't dothat because I'm not good at
that.
Exactly just for one smallthing.
Yes, yeah, because for the restof it I was excellent at sewing
and very creative, so the restof it I could have easily done.
It would have been a breeze?
Yeah, it would have been abreeze because you were very,
(19:04):
very creative.
Yeah, I think we were bothcreatives and we were both put
down.
Put down, yeah, I was gonna sayyes, I won't.
No, no, no system not by ourparents.
Entirely true, because I didhave a lovely English teacher
who would always say lovelystories you're writing, well
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done, well done.
So she did encourage that partof the storytelling, you know,
and that has continued.
But apart from that, you know,the rest of it was pretty.
I do hope it's not like thattoday.
But if it is and you're a parent, become aware of it.
And you know, if you do havekids and they start talking
(19:44):
about, start saying no, I'm notgood at that, you know you can
always question it and remindthem.
You know you can teach themabout limiting beliefs because
once they do understand yeah,they do.
You know children understandthis.
We taught our children at veryyoung age what they were.
Now they come back with it ifever I say anything.
(20:05):
My grown-up.
So to my mom, that's a limitingbelief you have.
What happened to limiting?
I actually said, no, I can'tdrive at night the other day and
my 25 year old son, mom, thatis a limiting belief.
You've got special glasses fordriving at night, you can easily
do it and I thought, yes, thatis that is.
That is very true.
(20:25):
It's also a belief that youknow it's not.
It's kind of something that Ifind quite convenient.
Yes, you know, because I don'twant to do it, but it's also
because, yeah, I was frightenedof it.
Yeah, but wouldn't it be freeingif you could drive?
Yes, absolutely, I mean, Ithought you'd drive at night
because I really can't see atnight.
I've got that night blindness.
(20:49):
But you can, I can now.
So you should probably freeyourself from that.
No, I have free practice.
I have.
Yes, I've done it.
I mean, when I needed to do it,I've done it exactly.
Yes, okay, let us know whatyou're gonna break free from
this week and, as always, thankyou for listening, available on
wherever you get your podcasts,also on youtube.
Come and say hi.
Lots of love and smiles fromthat english sisters.
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Bye.
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