July 9, 2025 • 33 mins
We explore how to recognize and transform perceived mental weaknesses into sources of strength through reframing techniques and mindfulness practices. This episode offers practical strategies for moving from frustration and fear to empowerment and understanding.
• Mental weakness often appears as frustration, anger, procrastination, and fear
• Self-awareness is the foundation for transforming limitations into strengths
• Empathy is a learnable skill that reduces your own anxiety while improving relationships
• Reframing techniques can transform procrastination into purposeful action
• Being present and practicing mindfulness helps filter out overwhelming information
• Our brains naturally adapt to filter out distractions – we can consciously direct this ability
• Connection with others provides perspective and diminishes feelings of fear and isolation
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
recognizing your mental weaknesses and how to
empower yourself.
This week, that's what we'regoing to be talking about.
It's going to be a veryexciting episode, motivational
that'll get you from sitting onyour backside to moving in the
right direction for you, tofinding some solutions and to
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understanding a little bit moreabout what's actually going on
in your mind.
Yes, recognizing your habitsand what makes you think that
you're mentally weak, becauseyou may find that you're
actually mentally strong, a lotstronger than what you believe
you are, and I think that'swhat's so exciting.
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Yes, there are possibilitieshere, lots of them.
So listen in to this week'sepisode on get real with the
english sisters mind, health andanxiety.
We are therapists and we arehere to help you.
Yes, feel calmer, feel moreempowered and generally feel
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better.
Feel better because the moreyou understand how your own mind
works, the more you're, you canfeel in control and calmer.
So I think that's very, very'tit.
Well, who doesn't want to feelcalm in today's frenetic world?
Yes, exactly who doesn't?
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We all need it.
We all need to feel a littlebit calmer we do and to have
more empathy for ourselves aswell, and, I think, to have more
empathy for others too.
Yes, good point.
Yeah, definitely have moreempathy for others, because a
lot of us are so quick to judgeand quick to get on our high
horse about things on oursoapbox or whatever.
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Yes, yes, and what we'refinding more and more is that,
um, the society is becoming morea lot about self-care and
looking after you know all ofyour own things, but it is
becoming a little bit moreindividualistic.
So I do think that sometimes,looking outside of the I,
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looking outside of me and seeinga broader view, can definitely
help you become less anxious andless concerned as well, because
you're thinking, well, if otherpeople may be feeling that way,
or maybe I can understand thatpoint of view now.
Well, I think that we'regetting.
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We we're in an age now where Idon't think we've ever been more
divided, exactly.
So there's like polar oppositesin politics.
In just everyday life.
We get fed the stuff that wewant to see, so we can only see
one side of things.
Yes, everyone has their own newsfeed.
Yes, and it's all.
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Each person.
It's individual.
The more you click on thatbecause you like it and you're
interested, the more you'regoing to get that.
But that's going to give youyour point of view and it's
going to reinforce that point ofview, whether it's political or
whatever it is, it's going toreinforce that and it can be
dangerous.
It can.
So I think we have to be alittle bit more aware that other
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people may be getting their ownnews feed and that's why
they're reacting to what we'resaying in that particular way.
Yeah, in such a polar oppositeway.
So like the opposite way towhat, to how you're thinking,
which is very divisive.
It could be.
Yes, I mean, I'm just thinkingabout family arguments, for
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example.
A lot of the times, it'sdifficult to see somebody else's
point of view, definitely, sowe all have to have the ability.
I think and this is this, is,this is a tool, isn't it really?
You learn how to do this.
You can learn how to step outof your own mind and go into
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somebody else's shoes, like whatthey, you know, those that
express and step into somebodyelse's shoes, try and see their
point of view.
Why are they speaking to youthat way?
What's going on?
What kind of hurt is going onin their mind?
Why do they feel as if you're,that you're attacking them, or
why do they feel that they haveto be so defensive?
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These are all things that youknow.
We can discuss at length, Ithink, and I think if you just
it's what we always say ifyou're listeners, you'll hear
this in every episode.
Yeah, self-awareness is the keyto everything.
Once you become self-aware,just everything just gets so
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easy.
Yes, you can just seeeverything for what it is.
You can see other people'spoints of view.
You can.
You can understand them.
You can stop feeling sofrustrated.
It's like you're in the car andyou're driving and you're
thinking why is that personbeing so slow?
Gosh, they're so.
You know that that I, I oftenhear my husband say things like
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that.
Yeah, say what's wrong withthem, what an idiot.
And I always think you don'tknow what kind of day that
person has had.
This is going to sound reallycliche, but it's so true.
How do you know what's going on, what's happened?
What kind of news has thatperson received?
You have no idea and you'remaking a judgment based on what?
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The fact that they're goingslowly, the fact that they
didn't speed off because thegreen light turned on?
Well, would you say that you'relike this would be mentally
weak.
Then your husband reacting likethat is a mental weakness,
frustration is.
I think it can definitely beclassified as a mental weakness.
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Anger can definitely beclassified as a mental weakness.
Anger is a normal thing toexperience, but if you feel that
you're getting over angry andyou always feel frustrated and
angry about certain situationsthat perhaps you can see other
people cope with in a differentway, then you can think perhaps
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that might be one of myweaknesses, maybe I could work
on that, maybe I can.
Like my husband, he listened tome and then he just smiled and
he thought I wish I could seethe world the way you see it.
And I said it's something Ilearned, how to do.
I learned, learned how to dothis.
It's a skill.
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Maybe I am naturally empathetic, but I think 70% is the skill
To learn.
It's mastering the skill ofstepping out of your own mind
and thinking I don't know whatthat other person is
experiencing, I do have no idea.
Let me be respectful of thatand let me try and understand
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that, and so you learn how to dothis.
So it's definitely I do likethat.
I like the fact that you arerespecting that person.
Yes, yes, because I thinkthere's so much disrespect
nowadays.
Yes, it's so easy to bedisrespectful and not to
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understand and see the otherperson as a vulnerable human
being.
And the thing is that I thinkpeople that are being
disrespectful they don'tactually realize they're being
disrespectful.
No, it's what you said.
If you're not aware of the factthat you do have any mental
weaknesses as we've decided touse that word here then you're
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not aware of it.
No, you, you have to becomeaware of it in the first place,
and I think if you have them,you'll probably know, because a
lot of the times I getcriticized by family members or
friends and they say that you'retoo kind.
You always see the nice, thegood side in people.
You're, you're too nice.
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That's their reaction when Isay something like that, like if
I say much to my husband, oh,you don't know, you don't know
who's driving, they might havehad a bad day or they might be
really frenetic at the momentbecause they're stressed out and
he says, oh, but you're tookind, that's how you see things.
So he would consider yourkindness to be almost a mental
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weakness from his point of view.
Obviously, it's all subjective,isn't it?
Yes, this is very subjective.
It's how you decide to liveyour life, that that kind of
life choices that make your lifefuller and less filled with
stress and anxiety.
So that's how you choose tolive your life, so for you it's
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not.
For me as well, it gives meserenity and peace of mind to be
kind and, and even though Imight find some situations
frustrating, like in long queuesand I, like I went to the post
office the other day, I had tophysically go, which I already
think oh, how boring.
This is so boring, you know,because you could receive an
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email and and I think why.
But then at the same time, thelady behind the desk she was
picking up her phone every fiveminutes and there was like three
or four people going.
Can't she put her bloody phonedown?
What the hell is she doing?
And in my mind that could havebeen my first thought.
I thought, oh yeah, drag.
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Then I thought how do I knowwhat she's going on?
Maybe she's got this reallyimportant, important message.
Maybe she has an elderly parent, maybe she's got a kid at
school.
How do I know what kind ofnotification she was she was
anxious to receive?
And that instantly calmed medown.
So that's my way that I cancope, and I find it very, very
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helpful to me to think like that, because it reduces my anxiety
levels.
I instantly calmed down when Ithought, thought of it that way.
I wished I could have toldother people, but I probably
would have got shouted at, youknow.
So I kept quiet and just bybeing calm, I think, in the end,
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and sending out a few smilesand calmness to other people,
they kind of caught that vibe.
Well, there was one lady, yeah,she, she like smiled back and
we just, you know, I let's justchill In the end.
How long has it really been?
It has been 30 minutes, butwe'll be okay.
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I think a lot of people as well.
I mean, she might have beenworking, because now you get
work emails on your phone, yeah,who knows what she was doing.
So she might have been gettingnotifications about the work
she's supposed to be doing atthe post office.
Yeah, we don't know, we, aboutthe work she's supposed to be
doing at the post office?
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Yeah, we don't know.
We don't know exactly, so wedon't know.
So I think a lot of the time wejudge without knowing and that
can also be the signs of gettingvery frustrated, very angry.
That could be something that'sdefinitely worth working on if
you're feeling it.
Yeah, because these kinds ofemotions can be you know they
are there's something that'sgoing to limit your life.
They're going to they, in theend, from seeing other things,
doesn't it?
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It stops you from actuallyseeing the world in a different,
with a different perspective,with a different lens.
Well, definitely stops you andit definitely and it makes
causes you to feel anger andmore sympathetic and more
empathetic to people's needs.
Definitely, um, I mean.
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Another one is when you'reconstantly procrastinating.
That's another thing that couldbe something.
Definitely that, if you'reaware of mental weakness, yes,
well, yeah, because it'ssomething you're delaying.
You're you're, you're kind of,in the end, you're delaying your
whole life.
If you, especially if you'reone of these procrastinators
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that are very good at it, youknow you're like, you're an
expert strength, isn't it beingan expert procrastinator?
Well, yes, if you think I'mreally good at this, it's a
skill, isn't it?
You can reframe it.
Well, use a reframing techniqueto say I'm, if I am, so amazing
at procrastinating, I have thisamazing skill, this ability.
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I can use this to my advantageand stop procrastinating.
Basically, use that strength andperseverance that you have To
procrastinate To procrastinateto actually go and do something
Because you Like.
Force yourself to do something,actually force yourself,
discipline yourself into doingsomething you need to do.
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As you are so disciplined notto do a particular task, you can
be just as disciplined to do it, because you do have the
strength not to do it.
So what's going on in your mind?
You may not see as a strength,but you are capable of
procrastinating.
So you are saying that sinceyou're capable of
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procrastinating, you can also becapable of doing something else
with just as much determination.
As you say, no, I won't do thatnow, I don't want to do my
whatever it is you've got to do,you can be just as determined
to say well, if I can do that, Ican also do the opposite.
I can do it, I can do it and Ican do it now because I'm
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capable of procrastination tosuch a good level.
You can do it and we've done it, we've tried this out.
You just do the opposite.
Just do the opposite.
Just do the opposite.
I don't want to make that phonecall.
I don't want to make that phonecall.
I don't want to book thatappointment.
Go, book it.
Make, yeah, make it.
Do it, do it now, do it, do itquickly.
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Yes, everything you thinkyou've been procrastinating.
I don't want to.
I used to have it with asupermarket.
I used to hate going shopping.
I mean, now my husband goes.
That's how I've got around it.
You delegate.
Sometimes you can delegatethings, a lot of things that you
find particularly tedious, andthen you can do something else
that you don't find as tedious.
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Yes, yes, I do that as well.
I say to my husband if you goand buy the groceries, I will do
this and we're.
But you know we have a littlebarter.
It's like teamwork.
I think that's very useful inrelationships, because if you
find something particularlytedious and you just don't, you
know it, just find it boring,then you can get.
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You know, teamwork, yeah, butwhen I used to have to go to the
supermarket and get thegroceries, I would just reframe
it and think how lucky I was tobe able to afford to go to the
supermarket to have such abeautiful selection.
I mean, we live in Italy, but ifyou're living in any age of
town, you've probably got thesame, hopefully, and if you
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haven't, you know it's somethingto appreciate.
Whatever you've got, it'ssomething.
If you're appreciative, that'sa big mental strength to be
appreciated.
Oh, yes, to be grateful.
Yes, definitely one of the topstrength.
I do think that if you feel thatyou're always criticizing,
always in a position, or notalways, but very often that's
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that's.
That's already a lot, isn't it?
Very often most of your day isspent.
Think about this now.
If you do a little mentalexercise, if you think, what are
the thoughts that you're havingduring your day?
Are most of them moaning aboutsomething or somebody,
complaining and moaning andfeeling ungrateful for things,
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criticizing, judging, feelinganger.
Think about those things.
Is most of my day spent thatway.
And do you like living likethat?
How does that make you feel?
I think most people say itmakes me feel bad, because we
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know it makes you feel bad.
We're therapists and we've also.
Whenever we experience thesekind of feelings.
It doesn't make me feel good tofeel like that.
Now I quickly turn it around.
Yes, I think I'm beingjudgmental now, or I'm doing
this.
Don't do it.
Stop it.
Stop it, yes, change it around.
So we use this technique calledreframing, which is an actual
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nlp technique, and it just meansthat you're like literally
changing the frame of what youcan see, which is the picture or
your life situation.
What can you see and how canyou reframe that.
So if we put it into practicalexamples, you can have a
positive spin.
How can you have a positivespin on that?
On whatever like?
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If you're waiting in traffic orin a queue, the positive spin
is that you could discoversomething new.
I like because I remember once,when I was waiting in traffic,
I started looking around.
I discovered this lovely littlerestaurant on the side of the
road that I had never seenbefore.
Or if you're waiting in a queue,you might strike up a lovely
conversation with someone andthey might live next to you and
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you might be able to go to theirhouse for tea or to have a
coffee.
Or you might make a newfriendship or a new love, love
interest, we don't know, becausejust by talking with somebody
else it's you know that can openpossibilities, can't it?
Just talking literally?
Oh, you can just, it's lovely,you can still do that nowadays.
Yeah, you have comfort in it.
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You can find out.
You were talking to the gardenerthe other day, weren't you?
Yes, to your gardener, and hewas worried because he's buying
a car from a different city.
Yeah, he didn't know whetherthey were trustworthy or not,
and you, immediately you Googledit for him and you found out,
yeah, and like he was supergrateful and happy and felt
comforted, didn't he?
He did yeah because he spoke tosomebody and I mean, I just
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found out through online,through the reviews, and I
thought, well, look, it's got 38000 reviews.
I think you can be calm inthinking this is a trustworthy
place for you to go and spendyour money.
I think you'll be okay.
Obviously, you never reallyreally fully know, but I mean,
based on what I could find, Itold him and he was very calmed
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down by that.
So actually, yes, notforgetting that talking to other
people is really good for yourpsyche and for your mental
health as well.
So, once again, we're talkingabout connection, connecting If
you find that you do feelfrustrated and angry and maybe
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you're living in fear as well.
A lot of fear, yeah, a lot offear, yeah, a lot of fear is
masked by anger, yes, and that'ssomething that you can.
Perhaps, if you decide, youknow you can share that with
other people.
Well, I mean, what happens whenyou're fearful?
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Once you share it with someone,they might say, yeah, I'm
fearful of that too, I'm scaredof that too.
I don't like that, or I'mscared about this situation and
I feel fear when I do that.
But you know, feel the fear anddo it anyway, kind of thing you
can.
You can face your fears andconquer them, like my son.
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He's 25 now and the other day hecame in and he was all looking
all miserable.
I said what's happened?
He goes, mom, haven't you heardthe news?
And I thought, oh my gosh, thenews this news is is 99, is
filled with doom and gloom,darling.
You know, if you're going tobase, look, look at your face,
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look at how stressed out you are.
He goes, mum.
But it's just the news.
I mean, I don't know.
I go.
Obviously, if I listen to itand I tune in, I will be
affected by it, but if it's out,I can't do anything about this
right now.
So let's look at where you arenow.
You're here, you're, you'reworking in the family business.
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We've got another familybusiness.
You're working with your mother, your father.
You know that everybody's okayaround you.
We're going to have a lovelycappuccino.
So let's think about thepresent moment now and let's
focus on that.
And then I could see thatslowly he began to calm down.
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Yeah, so I think one of thetechniques isn't it just to be
mindful, be in the presentmoment.
Don't allow your mind to runaway with.
Just think this this is myreality, and people may say that
that's selfish.
It's selfish to be like thatbecause that means you don't,
you don't care about anythingthat's going on.
It doesn't mean you don't care,it just means too much.
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Yes, things that you actuallyabsorb the information and think
about it, and they will makeyou feel ill, and that's and
that's.
Though is that going to behelpful to anybody for you to
feel ill?
No, no.
Is that going to prove a pointthat you can be empathetic with
the whole world and yet shout atthe person that's next to you?
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Because that's what oftenhappens with these situations
that you become so involved insituations you actually can't
help or do anything about that.
If there's somebody that's justsitting next to you, you don't
see them, so what is thattelling us?
That's a tragedy, it's aparadox.
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You become completely absorbedin things that are all the side
of the world, or things that youcannot help, and yet the things
that you really can help youbecome blind to, and you can't
see or listen to these peoplearound you, and that is a big
tragedy, and I think if we focusmore on the present and on the
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things that we can do, we canbuild our mental strength.
Yeah, and then everybody, orthe people all around us, will
become more mentally strong aswell and feel calmer and feel
good, and then that can radiateinto our own little world, but
it radiates out into the biggerworld.
It does, it does.
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In the end, it does radiateinto the bigger world.
Everybody's on the edge ofburnout in a world of today
because there's just so muchinformation that's like
attacking us every day, it'sbombarded.
We have to stop it and push itaway and look at our own little
worlds and have a more simplelife based on mindfulness.
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Mindfulness, for instance, theother day, I know I'm extremely
lucky because I've got abeautiful garden and I we've
created the life that we wantedto create for ourself.
We've been extremely fortunate.
But we've also made manychallenges, though.
The best of everything, haven'twe?
Yes, with our health and withour parents being ill and
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everything, but we've alwaysmanaged to just look at, enjoy
that cappuccino or look out thewindow.
The other day I looked out thewindow.
It was sunrise and the crowswere crowing.
First they were driving me nuts, because they woke me up then I
thought no, this is thewildlife.
They're here, they're havingtheir own little conversation
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yes, with each other, and thegarden is looking beautiful
because it rained overnight.
And isn't this beautiful?
And if you live in a city, youcan do the same.
You can open, look out thewindow and look at your
neighbors and think about theirlittle lives that are going on
and just be in the presentmoment.
And it is so beautiful when youjust stop and nothing else
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matters and it's just you andwhat's around you, and you could
connect with others that way,because we do need other people.
You need it in order to feelbetter.
So if you connect with somebodyand you smile at them, or you
just connect, even if theirmusic imagine you're living in
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an apartment.
The music is so loud, the nextdoor neighbor's driving you nuts
, like you gave the example ofthe crows, which is nicer.
But sometimes you know otherpeople can also drive you crazy
with their music and that youcan reframe it and think okay,
then maybe they're having aparty.
You know it sounds like fun.
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Yes, maybe I can dance too.
Or I can just enjoy the factthat there are other people
enjoying themselves, or just, ifanything, become neutral to it
and tune in to my own thoughts,if you can.
There are.
There are different ways ofdealing with this.
You can, your mind can choose.
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It's funny how we're able toblock out things when we want to
, isn't it?
Yeah, so you can focus on thatparticular noise with all your
intent and let it become driveyou crazy and drive you mad.
Or you can decide to first ofall, become to understand that
noise and become empathetic toit, whatever it is.
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Or just think, oh, they'reyoungsters or they're having a
party, whatever it is, I, youknow and and and go along with
it.
Or you can decide to tune outand start focusing on other
things and you will have thatcapacity.
You can do that.
You can tune out as well, andyou can also get some noise
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cancelling headphones if it getsreally bad.
If it gets really bad yes, Iwas just thinking it was going
to be a one-time thing.
Obviously, sometimes it justbecomes part of your you.
You just become used to it.
Yeah, do you remember when wewent on holiday that time we
went to Barbados, and how wecouldn't sleep because of the
birds?
Yeah, I do.
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I mean that was a beautifulexperience.
It was just so loud.
It was so loud for us Becausewe live here and we have lots of
birds here, but we can't hearthem because we've just tuned
them out.
Yeah, they'rean sounds.
Now they're european littlebirds, but when you hear the
different sounds the tropicalbirds, so loud and I thought I'm
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never going to be able to sleephere with this loud.
When we first got out of theairport, I thought I could even
talk to you.
I couldn't hear you.
It's so ridiculous, because itwas only like how long were we
there?
For 10 days or something.
Oh, it was like five days.
It was a work trip from myhusband.
You remember we all went along,we all went along with all the
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kids.
Yeah, it was wonderful.
Oh, was it only five days?
It was short, maybe six.
Well, I'm so glad we enjoyed itso much.
At time we had this kind of liketime distortion.
Yeah, oh, yeah, I remember.
Yeah, that's because our mum,when she passed away, she she
would always, always say to us Idon't want you to be sad and
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gloomy, I want you to go onholiday, I want you to go on
holiday, go on holiday, have anexperience.
So we thought, okay if she hadany little leftovers.
She wasn't rich, but she had alittle tiny bit of money left
over and we, we did.
We all decided, yeah, all of myfamily as well, my husband, my
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two children and you, all of uswent on this Barbados trip just
after she had died and and itbecame this celebratory
experience.
It was beautiful.
It was so beautiful.
We were just so much in themoment there.
Yeah, and it did feel like timewas much longer.
Maybe that's why we could hearthe birds more as well, because
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our senses were heightened.
We were kind of like in thistrance experience because for
all our lives, ever since wewere children, I think, the fact
that our mom I mean, she had mewhen she was 42, yeah, I knew
when she was 41, so I do believethat she had, like this sense
that she wouldn't live that longshe used to say she might die.
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She did yeah, which is very youknow not exactly yeah, she did
used to say that, and she wouldalways when she was going
through menopause I remember hersaying it.
She was obviously morefrightened at the time.
She became more anxious.
Yeah, she did, yeah, she wouldsay that.
So I do believe that when wegot there, we've all our lives
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she would say don't cry, go on aholiday, enjoy yourselves, have
a party, go on a holiday, go ona holiday.
So we went on this holiday andit was the best.
It's true, we could hear thebirds, but I remember asking my
husband can you, can you speakthe birds?
And he, he said I can't.
What birds?
I think my husband could hearthem, yes, a little bit more,
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but not like us, not like us.
He was just, yeah, fine, yeah,we were asking the kids can you
hear?
Like when you go to a nightclubor something, the music's so
loud?
Yes, that's how it felt for us,that when we because I remember
we went out to, to the littlelocal, little place where you
eat, and I remember that I can'there because the birds are
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making so much noise, it's sofunny and you were thinking the
same thing, same thing Me, andyou were like, wow, the birds.
I mean they're amazing, they'rebeautiful.
We couldn't see them, though.
No, tony Town a bit.
I felt like you could just hearthem.
I felt like this is amazing.
But I mean, as soon as we gotto the airport, I mean we saw
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that hummingbird coming towardsus.
It felt like some kind of uhyou know, this was inside the
airport, which was really weirdthis little tiny hummingbird.
And my son, who was obsessedwith nature, he was only like 10
he said, wow, mom, there's ahummingbird.
So I turned around and I saw itand I thought, wow, this is
already becoming this magicalexperience.
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But then, with this loud noise,but then the whole point of it
is that we were saying wecouldn't hear it.
It's because at the end of theholiday, the birds had like gone
.
Yeah, we were asking ourselveswhat's happened to the birds?
Have they stopped singing?
And then we realized it.
No, our brains have deletedthat sound now.
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So this is the power of the mind.
Exactly this is what your mindcan do, wasn't it?
Yes, the light bulb moment.
You can see and hear things,depending on how you're feeling,
and you can also delete otherthings that, if not unrelevant,
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aren't relevant.
So you can do this.
Our mind does this, naturallyto help us, but you can also do
this.
You can learn to think okay,this is a momentary moment.
Well, that's not the right word, but anyway, this is something
that's just happening for now,but I can realize that I have
the ability to tune this out andtune this sound out, or these
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feelings that I'm experiencingat the moment Of overwhelm.
Overwhelm and frustration Canalso be, you know, deleted from
my mind.
They can be tuned down.
So we've gone back on our tripagain.
We have.
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It was very beautiful, verybeautiful indeed.
So we do hope this episode hasbeen of help.
If you have any thoughts on it,please write to us, send us a
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Please do come and say hi,because it makes such a
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We love hearing from you andlet us know if any of your
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actual mental strength in theend.
In the end, turn everythingaround you can.
So see you soon.
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recognizing your mental weaknesses and how to
empower yourself.
This week, that's what we'regoing to be talking about.
It's going to be a veryexciting episode, motivational
that'll get you from sitting onyour backside to moving in the
right direction for you, tofinding some solutions and to
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understanding a little bit moreabout what's actually going on
in your mind.
Yes, recognizing your habitsand what makes you think that
you're mentally weak, becauseyou may find that you're
actually mentally strong, a lotstronger than what you believe
you are, and I think that'swhat's so exciting.
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Yes, there are possibilitieshere, lots of them.
So listen in to this week'sepisode on get real with the
english sisters mind, health andanxiety.
We are therapists and we arehere to help you.
Yes, feel calmer, feel moreempowered and generally feel
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better.
Feel better because the moreyou understand how your own mind
works, the more you're, you canfeel in control and calmer.
So I think that's very, very'tit.
Well, who doesn't want to feelcalm in today's frenetic world?
Yes, exactly who doesn't?
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We all need it.
We all need to feel a littlebit calmer we do and to have
more empathy for ourselves aswell, and, I think, to have more
empathy for others too.
Yes, good point.
Yeah, definitely have moreempathy for others, because a
lot of us are so quick to judgeand quick to get on our high
horse about things on oursoapbox or whatever.
(01:50):
Yes, yes, and what we'refinding more and more is that,
um, the society is becoming morea lot about self-care and
looking after you know all ofyour own things, but it is
becoming a little bit moreindividualistic.
So I do think that sometimes,looking outside of the I,
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looking outside of me and seeinga broader view, can definitely
help you become less anxious andless concerned as well, because
you're thinking, well, if otherpeople may be feeling that way,
or maybe I can understand thatpoint of view now.
Well, I think that we'regetting.
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We we're in an age now where Idon't think we've ever been more
divided, exactly.
So there's like polar oppositesin politics.
In just everyday life.
We get fed the stuff that wewant to see, so we can only see
one side of things.
Yes, everyone has their own newsfeed.
Yes, and it's all.
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Each person.
It's individual.
The more you click on thatbecause you like it and you're
interested, the more you'regoing to get that.
But that's going to give youyour point of view and it's
going to reinforce that point ofview, whether it's political or
whatever it is, it's going toreinforce that and it can be
dangerous.
It can.
So I think we have to be alittle bit more aware that other
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people may be getting their ownnews feed and that's why
they're reacting to what we'resaying in that particular way.
Yeah, in such a polar oppositeway.
So like the opposite way towhat, to how you're thinking,
which is very divisive.
It could be.
Yes, I mean, I'm just thinkingabout family arguments, for
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example.
A lot of the times, it'sdifficult to see somebody else's
point of view, definitely, sowe all have to have the ability.
I think and this is this, is,this is a tool, isn't it really?
You learn how to do this.
You can learn how to step outof your own mind and go into
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somebody else's shoes, like whatthey, you know, those that
express and step into somebodyelse's shoes, try and see their
point of view.
Why are they speaking to youthat way?
What's going on?
What kind of hurt is going onin their mind?
Why do they feel as if you're,that you're attacking them, or
why do they feel that they haveto be so defensive?
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These are all things that youknow.
We can discuss at length, Ithink, and I think if you just
it's what we always say ifyou're listeners, you'll hear
this in every episode.
Yeah, self-awareness is the keyto everything.
Once you become self-aware,just everything just gets so
(04:55):
easy.
Yes, you can just seeeverything for what it is.
You can see other people'spoints of view.
You can.
You can understand them.
You can stop feeling sofrustrated.
It's like you're in the car andyou're driving and you're
thinking why is that personbeing so slow?
Gosh, they're so.
You know that that I, I oftenhear my husband say things like
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that.
Yeah, say what's wrong withthem, what an idiot.
And I always think you don'tknow what kind of day that
person has had.
This is going to sound reallycliche, but it's so true.
How do you know what's going on, what's happened?
What kind of news has thatperson received?
You have no idea and you'remaking a judgment based on what?
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The fact that they're goingslowly, the fact that they
didn't speed off because thegreen light turned on?
Well, would you say that you'relike this would be mentally
weak.
Then your husband reacting likethat is a mental weakness,
frustration is.
I think it can definitely beclassified as a mental weakness.
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Anger can definitely beclassified as a mental weakness.
Anger is a normal thing toexperience, but if you feel that
you're getting over angry andyou always feel frustrated and
angry about certain situationsthat perhaps you can see other
people cope with in a differentway, then you can think perhaps
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that might be one of myweaknesses, maybe I could work
on that, maybe I can.
Like my husband, he listened tome and then he just smiled and
he thought I wish I could seethe world the way you see it.
And I said it's something Ilearned, how to do.
I learned, learned how to dothis.
It's a skill.
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Maybe I am naturally empathetic, but I think 70% is the skill
To learn.
It's mastering the skill ofstepping out of your own mind
and thinking I don't know whatthat other person is
experiencing, I do have no idea.
Let me be respectful of thatand let me try and understand
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that, and so you learn how to dothis.
So it's definitely I do likethat.
I like the fact that you arerespecting that person.
Yes, yes, because I thinkthere's so much disrespect
nowadays.
Yes, it's so easy to bedisrespectful and not to
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understand and see the otherperson as a vulnerable human
being.
And the thing is that I thinkpeople that are being
disrespectful they don'tactually realize they're being
disrespectful.
No, it's what you said.
If you're not aware of the factthat you do have any mental
weaknesses as we've decided touse that word here then you're
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not aware of it.
No, you, you have to becomeaware of it in the first place,
and I think if you have them,you'll probably know, because a
lot of the times I getcriticized by family members or
friends and they say that you'retoo kind.
You always see the nice, thegood side in people.
You're, you're too nice.
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That's their reaction when Isay something like that, like if
I say much to my husband, oh,you don't know, you don't know
who's driving, they might havehad a bad day or they might be
really frenetic at the momentbecause they're stressed out and
he says, oh, but you're tookind, that's how you see things.
So he would consider yourkindness to be almost a mental
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weakness from his point of view.
Obviously, it's all subjective,isn't it?
Yes, this is very subjective.
It's how you decide to liveyour life, that that kind of
life choices that make your lifefuller and less filled with
stress and anxiety.
So that's how you choose tolive your life, so for you it's
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not.
For me as well, it gives meserenity and peace of mind to be
kind and, and even though Imight find some situations
frustrating, like in long queuesand I, like I went to the post
office the other day, I had tophysically go, which I already
think oh, how boring.
This is so boring, you know,because you could receive an
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email and and I think why.
But then at the same time, thelady behind the desk she was
picking up her phone every fiveminutes and there was like three
or four people going.
Can't she put her bloody phonedown?
What the hell is she doing?
And in my mind that could havebeen my first thought.
I thought, oh yeah, drag.
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Then I thought how do I knowwhat she's going on?
Maybe she's got this reallyimportant, important message.
Maybe she has an elderly parent, maybe she's got a kid at
school.
How do I know what kind ofnotification she was she was
anxious to receive?
And that instantly calmed medown.
So that's my way that I cancope, and I find it very, very
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helpful to me to think like that, because it reduces my anxiety
levels.
I instantly calmed down when Ithought, thought of it that way.
I wished I could have toldother people, but I probably
would have got shouted at, youknow.
So I kept quiet and just bybeing calm, I think, in the end,
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and sending out a few smilesand calmness to other people,
they kind of caught that vibe.
Well, there was one lady, yeah,she, she like smiled back and
we just, you know, I let's justchill In the end.
How long has it really been?
It has been 30 minutes, butwe'll be okay.
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I think a lot of people as well.
I mean, she might have beenworking, because now you get
work emails on your phone, yeah,who knows what she was doing.
So she might have been gettingnotifications about the work
she's supposed to be doing atthe post office.
Yeah, we don't know, we, aboutthe work she's supposed to be
doing at the post office?
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Yeah, we don't know.
We don't know exactly, so wedon't know.
So I think a lot of the time wejudge without knowing and that
can also be the signs of gettingvery frustrated, very angry.
That could be something that'sdefinitely worth working on if
you're feeling it.
Yeah, because these kinds ofemotions can be you know they
are there's something that'sgoing to limit your life.
They're going to they, in theend, from seeing other things,
doesn't it?
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It stops you from actuallyseeing the world in a different,
with a different perspective,with a different lens.
Well, definitely stops you andit definitely and it makes
causes you to feel anger andmore sympathetic and more
empathetic to people's needs.
Definitely, um, I mean.
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Another one is when you'reconstantly procrastinating.
That's another thing that couldbe something.
Definitely that, if you'reaware of mental weakness, yes,
well, yeah, because it'ssomething you're delaying.
You're you're, you're kind of,in the end, you're delaying your
whole life.
If you, especially if you'reone of these procrastinators
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that are very good at it, youknow you're like, you're an
expert strength, isn't it beingan expert procrastinator?
Well, yes, if you think I'mreally good at this, it's a
skill, isn't it?
You can reframe it.
Well, use a reframing techniqueto say I'm, if I am, so amazing
at procrastinating, I have thisamazing skill, this ability.
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I can use this to my advantageand stop procrastinating.
Basically, use that strength andperseverance that you have To
procrastinate To procrastinateto actually go and do something
Because you Like.
Force yourself to do something,actually force yourself,
discipline yourself into doingsomething you need to do.
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As you are so disciplined notto do a particular task, you can
be just as disciplined to do it, because you do have the
strength not to do it.
So what's going on in your mind?
You may not see as a strength,but you are capable of
procrastinating.
So you are saying that sinceyou're capable of
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procrastinating, you can also becapable of doing something else
with just as much determination.
As you say, no, I won't do thatnow, I don't want to do my
whatever it is you've got to do,you can be just as determined
to say well, if I can do that, Ican also do the opposite.
I can do it, I can do it and Ican do it now because I'm
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capable of procrastination tosuch a good level.
You can do it and we've done it, we've tried this out.
You just do the opposite.
Just do the opposite.
Just do the opposite.
I don't want to make that phonecall.
I don't want to make that phonecall.
I don't want to book thatappointment.
Go, book it.
Make, yeah, make it.
Do it, do it now, do it, do itquickly.
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Yes, everything you thinkyou've been procrastinating.
I don't want to.
I used to have it with asupermarket.
I used to hate going shopping.
I mean, now my husband goes.
That's how I've got around it.
You delegate.
Sometimes you can delegatethings, a lot of things that you
find particularly tedious, andthen you can do something else
that you don't find as tedious.
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Yes, yes, I do that as well.
I say to my husband if you goand buy the groceries, I will do
this and we're.
But you know we have a littlebarter.
It's like teamwork.
I think that's very useful inrelationships, because if you
find something particularlytedious and you just don't, you
know it, just find it boring,then you can get.
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You know, teamwork, yeah, butwhen I used to have to go to the
supermarket and get thegroceries, I would just reframe
it and think how lucky I was tobe able to afford to go to the
supermarket to have such abeautiful selection.
I mean, we live in Italy, but ifyou're living in any age of
town, you've probably got thesame, hopefully, and if you
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haven't, you know it's somethingto appreciate.
Whatever you've got, it'ssomething.
If you're appreciative, that'sa big mental strength to be
appreciated.
Oh, yes, to be grateful.
Yes, definitely one of the topstrength.
I do think that if you feel thatyou're always criticizing,
always in a position, or notalways, but very often that's
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that's.
That's already a lot, isn't it?
Very often most of your day isspent.
Think about this now.
If you do a little mentalexercise, if you think, what are
the thoughts that you're havingduring your day?
Are most of them moaning aboutsomething or somebody,
complaining and moaning andfeeling ungrateful for things,
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criticizing, judging, feelinganger.
Think about those things.
Is most of my day spent thatway.
And do you like living likethat?
How does that make you feel?
I think most people say itmakes me feel bad, because we
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know it makes you feel bad.
We're therapists and we've also.
Whenever we experience thesekind of feelings.
It doesn't make me feel good tofeel like that.
Now I quickly turn it around.
Yes, I think I'm beingjudgmental now, or I'm doing
this.
Don't do it.
Stop it.
Stop it, yes, change it around.
So we use this technique calledreframing, which is an actual
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nlp technique, and it just meansthat you're like literally
changing the frame of what youcan see, which is the picture or
your life situation.
What can you see and how canyou reframe that.
So if we put it into practicalexamples, you can have a
positive spin.
How can you have a positivespin on that?
On whatever like?
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If you're waiting in traffic orin a queue, the positive spin
is that you could discoversomething new.
I like because I remember once,when I was waiting in traffic,
I started looking around.
I discovered this lovely littlerestaurant on the side of the
road that I had never seenbefore.
Or if you're waiting in a queue,you might strike up a lovely
conversation with someone andthey might live next to you and
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you might be able to go to theirhouse for tea or to have a
coffee.
Or you might make a newfriendship or a new love, love
interest, we don't know, becausejust by talking with somebody
else it's you know that can openpossibilities, can't it?
Just talking literally?
Oh, you can just, it's lovely,you can still do that nowadays.
Yeah, you have comfort in it.
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You can find out.
You were talking to the gardenerthe other day, weren't you?
Yes, to your gardener, and hewas worried because he's buying
a car from a different city.
Yeah, he didn't know whetherthey were trustworthy or not,
and you, immediately you Googledit for him and you found out,
yeah, and like he was supergrateful and happy and felt
comforted, didn't he?
He did yeah because he spoke tosomebody and I mean, I just
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found out through online,through the reviews, and I
thought, well, look, it's got 38000 reviews.
I think you can be calm inthinking this is a trustworthy
place for you to go and spendyour money.
I think you'll be okay.
Obviously, you never reallyreally fully know, but I mean,
based on what I could find, Itold him and he was very calmed
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down by that.
So actually, yes, notforgetting that talking to other
people is really good for yourpsyche and for your mental
health as well.
So, once again, we're talkingabout connection, connecting If
you find that you do feelfrustrated and angry and maybe
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you're living in fear as well.
A lot of fear, yeah, a lot offear, yeah, a lot of fear is
masked by anger, yes, and that'ssomething that you can.
Perhaps, if you decide, youknow you can share that with
other people.
Well, I mean, what happens whenyou're fearful?
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Once you share it with someone,they might say, yeah, I'm
fearful of that too, I'm scaredof that too.
I don't like that, or I'mscared about this situation and
I feel fear when I do that.
But you know, feel the fear anddo it anyway, kind of thing you
can.
You can face your fears andconquer them, like my son.
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He's 25 now and the other day hecame in and he was all looking
all miserable.
I said what's happened?
He goes, mom, haven't you heardthe news?
And I thought, oh my gosh, thenews this news is is 99, is
filled with doom and gloom,darling.
You know, if you're going tobase, look, look at your face,
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look at how stressed out you are.
He goes, mum.
But it's just the news.
I mean, I don't know.
I go.
Obviously, if I listen to itand I tune in, I will be
affected by it, but if it's out,I can't do anything about this
right now.
So let's look at where you arenow.
You're here, you're, you'reworking in the family business.
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We've got another familybusiness.
You're working with your mother, your father.
You know that everybody's okayaround you.
We're going to have a lovelycappuccino.
So let's think about thepresent moment now and let's
focus on that.
And then I could see thatslowly he began to calm down.
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Yeah, so I think one of thetechniques isn't it just to be
mindful, be in the presentmoment.
Don't allow your mind to runaway with.
Just think this this is myreality, and people may say that
that's selfish.
It's selfish to be like thatbecause that means you don't,
you don't care about anythingthat's going on.
It doesn't mean you don't care,it just means too much.
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Yes, things that you actuallyabsorb the information and think
about it, and they will makeyou feel ill, and that's and
that's.
Though is that going to behelpful to anybody for you to
feel ill?
No, no.
Is that going to prove a pointthat you can be empathetic with
the whole world and yet shout atthe person that's next to you?
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Because that's what oftenhappens with these situations
that you become so involved insituations you actually can't
help or do anything about that.
If there's somebody that's justsitting next to you, you don't
see them, so what is thattelling us?
That's a tragedy, it's aparadox.
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You become completely absorbedin things that are all the side
of the world, or things that youcannot help, and yet the things
that you really can help youbecome blind to, and you can't
see or listen to these peoplearound you, and that is a big
tragedy, and I think if we focusmore on the present and on the
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things that we can do, we canbuild our mental strength.
Yeah, and then everybody, orthe people all around us, will
become more mentally strong aswell and feel calmer and feel
good, and then that can radiateinto our own little world, but
it radiates out into the biggerworld.
It does, it does.
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In the end, it does radiateinto the bigger world.
Everybody's on the edge ofburnout in a world of today
because there's just so muchinformation that's like
attacking us every day, it'sbombarded.
We have to stop it and push itaway and look at our own little
worlds and have a more simplelife based on mindfulness.
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Mindfulness, for instance, theother day, I know I'm extremely
lucky because I've got abeautiful garden and I we've
created the life that we wantedto create for ourself.
We've been extremely fortunate.
But we've also made manychallenges, though.
The best of everything, haven'twe?
Yes, with our health and withour parents being ill and
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everything, but we've alwaysmanaged to just look at, enjoy
that cappuccino or look out thewindow.
The other day I looked out thewindow.
It was sunrise and the crowswere crowing.
First they were driving me nuts, because they woke me up then I
thought no, this is thewildlife.
They're here, they're havingtheir own little conversation
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yes, with each other, and thegarden is looking beautiful
because it rained overnight.
And isn't this beautiful?
And if you live in a city, youcan do the same.
You can open, look out thewindow and look at your
neighbors and think about theirlittle lives that are going on
and just be in the presentmoment.
And it is so beautiful when youjust stop and nothing else
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matters and it's just you andwhat's around you, and you could
connect with others that way,because we do need other people.
You need it in order to feelbetter.
So if you connect with somebodyand you smile at them, or you
just connect, even if theirmusic imagine you're living in
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an apartment.
The music is so loud, the nextdoor neighbor's driving you nuts
, like you gave the example ofthe crows, which is nicer.
But sometimes you know otherpeople can also drive you crazy
with their music and that youcan reframe it and think okay,
then maybe they're having aparty.
You know it sounds like fun.
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Yes, maybe I can dance too.
Or I can just enjoy the factthat there are other people
enjoying themselves, or just, ifanything, become neutral to it
and tune in to my own thoughts,if you can.
There are.
There are different ways ofdealing with this.
You can, your mind can choose.
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It's funny how we're able toblock out things when we want to
, isn't it?
Yeah, so you can focus on thatparticular noise with all your
intent and let it become driveyou crazy and drive you mad.
Or you can decide to first ofall, become to understand that
noise and become empathetic toit, whatever it is.
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Or just think, oh, they'reyoungsters or they're having a
party, whatever it is, I, youknow and and and go along with
it.
Or you can decide to tune outand start focusing on other
things and you will have thatcapacity.
You can do that.
You can tune out as well, andyou can also get some noise
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cancelling headphones if it getsreally bad.
If it gets really bad yes, Iwas just thinking it was going
to be a one-time thing.
Obviously, sometimes it justbecomes part of your you.
You just become used to it.
Yeah, do you remember when wewent on holiday that time we
went to Barbados, and how wecouldn't sleep because of the
birds?
Yeah, I do.
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I mean that was a beautifulexperience.
It was just so loud.
It was so loud for us Becausewe live here and we have lots of
birds here, but we can't hearthem because we've just tuned
them out.
Yeah, they'rean sounds.
Now they're european littlebirds, but when you hear the
different sounds the tropicalbirds, so loud and I thought I'm
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never going to be able to sleephere with this loud.
When we first got out of theairport, I thought I could even
talk to you.
I couldn't hear you.
It's so ridiculous, because itwas only like how long were we
there?
For 10 days or something.
Oh, it was like five days.
It was a work trip from myhusband.
You remember we all went along,we all went along with all the
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kids.
Yeah, it was wonderful.
Oh, was it only five days?
It was short, maybe six.
Well, I'm so glad we enjoyed itso much.
At time we had this kind of liketime distortion.
Yeah, oh, yeah, I remember.
Yeah, that's because our mum,when she passed away, she she
would always, always say to us Idon't want you to be sad and
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gloomy, I want you to go onholiday, I want you to go on
holiday, go on holiday, have anexperience.
So we thought, okay if she hadany little leftovers.
She wasn't rich, but she had alittle tiny bit of money left
over and we, we did.
We all decided, yeah, all of myfamily as well, my husband, my
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two children and you, all of uswent on this Barbados trip just
after she had died and and itbecame this celebratory
experience.
It was beautiful.
It was so beautiful.
We were just so much in themoment there.
Yeah, and it did feel like timewas much longer.
Maybe that's why we could hearthe birds more as well, because
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our senses were heightened.
We were kind of like in thistrance experience because for
all our lives, ever since wewere children, I think, the fact
that our mom I mean, she had mewhen she was 42, yeah, I knew
when she was 41, so I do believethat she had, like this sense
that she wouldn't live that longshe used to say she might die.
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She did yeah, which is very youknow not exactly yeah, she did
used to say that, and she wouldalways when she was going
through menopause I remember hersaying it.
She was obviously morefrightened at the time.
She became more anxious.
Yeah, she did, yeah, she wouldsay that.
So I do believe that when wegot there, we've all our lives
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she would say don't cry, go on aholiday, enjoy yourselves, have
a party, go on a holiday, go ona holiday.
So we went on this holiday andit was the best.
It's true, we could hear thebirds, but I remember asking my
husband can you, can you speakthe birds?
And he, he said I can't.
What birds?
I think my husband could hearthem, yes, a little bit more,
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but not like us, not like us.
He was just, yeah, fine, yeah,we were asking the kids can you
hear?
Like when you go to a nightclubor something, the music's so
loud?
Yes, that's how it felt for us,that when we because I remember
we went out to, to the littlelocal, little place where you
eat, and I remember that I can'there because the birds are
(29:25):
making so much noise, it's sofunny and you were thinking the
same thing, same thing Me, andyou were like, wow, the birds.
I mean they're amazing, they'rebeautiful.
We couldn't see them, though.
No, tony Town a bit.
I felt like you could just hearthem.
I felt like this is amazing.
But I mean, as soon as we gotto the airport, I mean we saw
(29:52):
that hummingbird coming towardsus.
It felt like some kind of uhyou know, this was inside the
airport, which was really weirdthis little tiny hummingbird.
And my son, who was obsessedwith nature, he was only like 10
he said, wow, mom, there's ahummingbird.
So I turned around and I saw itand I thought, wow, this is
already becoming this magicalexperience.
(30:14):
But then, with this loud noise,but then the whole point of it
is that we were saying wecouldn't hear it.
It's because at the end of theholiday, the birds had like gone
.
Yeah, we were asking ourselveswhat's happened to the birds?
Have they stopped singing?
And then we realized it.
No, our brains have deletedthat sound now.
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So this is the power of the mind.
Exactly this is what your mindcan do, wasn't it?
Yes, the light bulb moment.
You can see and hear things,depending on how you're feeling,
and you can also delete otherthings that, if not unrelevant,
(30:57):
aren't relevant.
So you can do this.
Our mind does this, naturallyto help us, but you can also do
this.
You can learn to think okay,this is a momentary moment.
Well, that's not the right word, but anyway, this is something
that's just happening for now,but I can realize that I have
the ability to tune this out andtune this sound out, or these
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feelings that I'm experiencingat the moment Of overwhelm.
Overwhelm and frustration Canalso be, you know, deleted from
my mind.
They can be tuned down.
So we've gone back on our tripagain.
We have.
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It was very beautiful, verybeautiful indeed.
So we do hope this episode hasbeen of help.
If you have any thoughts on it,please write to us, send us a
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Please do come and say hi,because it makes such a
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The other day, someone saidI've listened to your episode
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We love hearing from you andlet us know if any of your
mental weaknesses you think youcan work on them or you know,
help yourself, become aware ofthem and, yes, they may be your
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actual mental strength in theend.
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