A star-filled sky in Northern Minnesota forever changed fourteen-year-old Howard Falco's perception of reality. That breathtaking moment—where time stood still and thousands of questions about existence flooded his mind—planted the seeds for a spiritual journey that would eventually transform him from a finance professional into one of today's most insightful spiritual teachers.
Howard shares the fascinating story of his awakening at age 35 when he found himself profoundly unsettled despite achieving all the markers of the American dream—education, marriage, children, and homeownership. His desperate plea to understand life's deeper workings led to a remarkable expansion of consciousness that changed everything.
What makes our conversation particularly valuable is Howard's unflinching honesty about spiritual awakening being "not for the weak of heart." He addresses the challenging reality that true transformation requires facing everything within yourself, including the ego's desperate attempts to maintain the status quo through fear.
Howard discusses his latest book, "Invincible: The Mindset of Infinite Potential and the Secret to Inevitable Success," which distills his two decades of working with thousands of clients into an eight-step process for expanding consciousness and unlocking potential.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Well, hello, hello, hello and welcome to Glow Up
with Shaman Isis.
I am psyched for today's show.
I have a good friend with metoday.
Author, spiritual teacher andmindset coach, would you?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I would say that's it , you got it.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Howard, the amazing Howard Falco.
Welcome Howard, I'm so glad tohave you on the show.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Oh, thank you.
Thank you for having me,cynthia.
It's good to see you again ohthank you.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Thank you for having me, cynthia, it's good to see
you again.
Yeah, yeah I, I want to get toall the juicy stuff about your
journey, and then I know youhave a new book out, so of
course we have to talk about thebook.
But, um, if you could, you know, just share a little bit about
your practice to start off, andthen we'll get into your uh,
into your uh journey.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Yeah, uh.
So I'm a spiritual teacher,author, mindset coach.
I've written three books on thenature of self-awareness and
the mind and the power of themind.
I've worked with hundreds,thousands actually of people
over the last 20 years, helpingthem to understand the power
that they have to direct thenarrative of their life and how
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life begins to meet them withthat narrative and flow with
that narrative.
And so this has worked foreveryday individuals going
through anxiety, depression,everything you can imagine,
everything you can't imagine.
And then I've also worked withathletes at the college and
professional level in all thesports, helping them to get
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their mind in a place where moreof their talent can flow freely
, unrestricted, and so they cansort of get out of their own way
, reduce the amount of limitingbeliefs they have so that they
can achieve the performancethey're looking for, more of
their potential and peakperformance.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
That sounds exciting.
I have to hear about your.
We've talked about some other.
We've done an episode about ayear and a half ago, which is
one of my most popular episodes,mind you, oh it's awesome.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
And we didn't get a chance to really get tooed up
who've moved on and be able toshare with people so that they
can appreciate the ability thatthey have themselves for
changing their own lives.
So can you tell our audience alittle bit about kind of your
journey to spiritual guru?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Sure, I'll talk about the journey to what opened the
door to all this wisdom andclarity that allows me to work
in a way that's really effectivefor my own life and for the
life of others.
The beginning of the story is Iwas always very curious about
the nature of life and existence, or in general.
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In class in grammar school, Iwas the one always raising my
hand, challenging the teacher,wanting to understand the whys,
not just be told, don't tell me.
Help me understand why, so thatI can take that wisdom with me.
I've told this story many times, but it was really truly
sparked.
The first time I was on acamping trip into deep nature.
(03:03):
I grew up in the suburbs ofChicago and I was taken by my
aunt and uncle on a trip toNorthern Minnesota, which was 10
miles.
We were at this remote lake,like out of a movie really, with
this rustic cabin on a lake.
We were less than 10 miles fromthe Canadian border.
We got there, it was a moonlessnight, so it was extremely dark
and everybody went to sleepafter the 10 hour car ride and I
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wanted to explore, and so, at14, I went out the cabin door,
walked to the end of this oldcreaky dock and just stared into
this darkness and the firstthing that just hit me, like a
ton of bricks, was the sound ofsilence.
I'd never experienced thatoxymoron before and, um, it
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stunned me.
It was an out of bodyexperience.
And the lake was as placid ascould be.
It wasn't moving, um, it wasstill.
There, wasn't a breath of wind.
And then I started to see whatlooked like light shining in one
part of the lake and thenanother part.
And then I started to see whatlooked like lights shining in
one part of the lake and thenanother part.
And then I realized theselights were shining over the
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entire lake and I didn't knowwhat it was.
And then I looked up.
And when I looked up, in thatmoment everything changed,
because I could not believe theamount of stars that were in the
night sky.
There were more stars in thesky, I believe, than there was
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space in between them, as Iwrite in the introduction to all
my books.
And it was a breathtakingmoment.
And what I mean by breathtaking?
We hear that term a lot andusually it's an inhale, but this
was a breathtaking moment, anexhale where all the breath left
my body and, for a moment ofstillness.
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Everything sort of changed inthat moment.
When I looked up, I was justfrozen in time and thousands of
questions filled my mind on thenature of existence.
And I just, laid down on thedock, put my hands behind my
head, and thousands of questionsfilled my mind on the nature of
existence.
And I, just laid down on thedock, put my hands behind my
head and, for like what seemedhours, just stared at the Milky
Way, at the galaxies, the starsand the what I, you know I could
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see potential satellite movingacross as look like a star
moving, you know, I mean, it wasmind blowing.
So I left that moment on even adeeper quest to understand life
and meaning.
And then I'll fast forward thestory.
In my mid 30s I thought I hadeverything I needed to be happy.
I got my education, put myselfthrough school, left home when I
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was 18 and went out west, gotmarried, fell in love, had two
kids, was starting to do okay,bought our first home.
And yet I was as more unsettledthan I've ever been and I
thought this is crazy.
You're supposed to be happywhen you start to build all
these things that are thechecklist on the American dream.
And I thought, okay, the lastthing is money, millions of
dollars.
But one day it hit me that Iwas working with a lot of people
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that had endless amounts ofmoney and they weren't happy.
And when that hit me, cynthia,that's what shook me to the
ground, where I said I don'tknow how I'm going to go on and
live another day of life withoutunderstanding.
And so I threw my arms up andhands up to the sky and I said
life, universe, god, which I hadno concept of or understanding,
I'm ready to understand howlife works.
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Show me this the answers.
I want them now.
I can't go another day.
Then I let it go, went backinto my life.
Two weeks later.
I'm in a class for trading themarkets.
I had read a book on thepsychology of trading markets I
was in the finance business atthe time and I was amazed that
the guy was teaching this fromthis idea that you're creating
the whole experience, or whetheryou make money or lose money,
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by what you choose, what yourthoughts are, what your
reactions are, what vehicle youchoose, how much money you put
in, when you get in, when youget out.
And it just hit me, cynthia,that we're doing this for life
every day, and so we're creatingthe mindset and the experience
that we have.
But what was so stunning aboutthat was that I realized it
wasn't just for finance.
Being for life, that means thatthe control was in me.
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It wasn't on anything externalthat I had to gain, and it was
such a relief to know that thisroom that I had been in, that
was windowless and doorless, nowhad a window or a door.
I just had to figure out how todo it, but I knew it was there
now and then the second thingthat really blew my mind was
that I had asked these questionstwo weeks ago to life, and here
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life was answering me byconnecting with me on insight
and information.
In that moment, and I realizedthat this is how it works Every
day of our life, life's talkingto us and what?
The more present and the moremindful we are, the more we hear
it, the more we gain theinformation that life's trying
to get to us, because it'strying to work with us to help
us survive.
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Whatever we determine we needto do to create, life is trying
to get the awareness to us, andso I was in this present state.
And then, to wrap this up.
Six months later, I had anexperience where information was
just dropping into my mindMoment by moment.
There was no time anymorebetween question and answer, and
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I got this great awakening andunderstanding that changed
everything and that's why Iwrote my first book.
I left my job and wrote I Am,and that in I Am is everything
that was sort of downloaded orrevealed in this expansion of
consciousness, which I felt sograced and humbled.
I knew I was going to be aservant of this awareness the
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rest of my existence, and that'sall I was going to do was just
serve it.
And that's what I have donesince 2002, for 20 to 23 years.
Now, almost 23 years, 22 and ahalf years of sharing and
putting this wisdom out into thediscourse, and I feel just
blessed beyond belief.
So that's the short story,cynthia.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I love that.
I love that you had.
How old were you when you hadthat existential conversation?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
So I asked those 35, it was right around my 35th
birthday, the one by the lake.
Oh, it was 14.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, that seems to be 13,.
14 seems to be like 12 to 14,seems to be like a real, like
anyone who's going to seems tohave the first existential
conversation.
It seems like that's when theyhappen, because that's the same
thing it happened for me at 13,like staring at the stars and
being like, oh, my mind is beingblown.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Yeah, it's hard not to.
When you look at that and whenyou see it in such a remote area
where every star is shining,it's your mind just wiggles on
it.
It's your mind just wiggles onit.
It's just.
How is that over our head everynight and we don't understand
more yet, and that's what droveme to understand more.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I love that you said servant of this awareness, oh
that's so good, it was juicy.
I was like oh, I can taste that.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Yeah, it's so true I do.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I feel humbled, humbled servant is what I feel
like Do you have any advice forpeople who find, because a lot
of people are having spiritualawakenings.
It's like a big thing you knowwhere we've entered the age of
Aquarius happening at the sametime as the age of AI, which I
do not think is an accident.
I think that we need that ageof Aquarius to be able to have
enough consciousness, higherconsciousness, on the planet to
(10:06):
be able to manage yeah.
Yeah, Do you have any?
Because there's so many peoplewho are going through those
kinds of existentialconversations and they're coming
to a new awareness of what'sbeen going on in our world for a
long time.
I know three years ago when Italked about the financial
situation in America andquestioned the American dream
and what was going on with allour money, People were like you
sound like a conspiracy theorist, but now we're all seeing a lot
(10:27):
of truths.
What would your advice?
Something a very long way ofasking what your advice would be
.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
You mean in terms of when they have these awakenings.
What my advice?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
to them is yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The litmus test on the awakening is whether or not
you feel more of a sense ofunity with life, mankind, with
people, whether or not you seemore of the perfection of what's
happening, whether or not youunderstand how much life is
connected to you and helping youto see more of your worth
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perfection, love, self-respect,self-honor in you whether or not
you see more forgiveness inothers through the understanding
of your own self.
You know, there's a quote.
My, actually my son saidsomething when I saw him.
He came in town last week andhe said well, dad, he's like you
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know, I've learned to justalways assume good intent with
people and I thought wow, that'spretty profound, because we've
lost our way in that right.
We've gotten so scared ofeverything.
We're always assuming negativeintent.
You know, and we're spreadingit across millions of people
You're not on the spiritual path.
Then You're off the spiritualpath when that becomes the
mindset, because it's taking youto a darker place.
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When what spiritual awakeningdoes is it allows you to see
infinite possibility, it allowsyou to see that the universe is
working to shed awareness.
And, yeah, we go through upsand downs through that process.
But what I would tell anybodyon this path is, if you're going
down a path where it getsdarker, you're on the wrong path
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and there's more to be learnedand understood.
Now, that doesn't mean therearen't dark things in the world
that happen, because there are,but to be able to see things
from a broader perspective andto see that everybody this
doesn't condone anything, butthat everybody's doing the best
they can and what they're tryingto do, based on who they think
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they are versus what the truthis about them.
It can help with your energy,your mindset and the way you
carry yourself in the world.
And even, most importantly,cynthia, what comes back to you
in terms of your own experience.
Because if it's shrouded innegativity, that aura, that
energy is going to attract that,because life has to give you
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the experience of what youbelieve is true, not what you
think is true, but what youbelieve is true.
That's why self-awareness is soimportant.
So for me, in that experience,I had to drop my beliefs and my
conditioning in order to havesomething else revealed, and I
mean these were deep truths andbeliefs about life.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
And that's a process that is not.
You don't just go.
Oh, I need to drop thesebeliefs.
I mean, for me it took practiceat seeing the new beliefs and
releasing the beliefs, thebuilt-in system I had developed
for understanding the world,which was really corrupted by
cynicism yeah, or personalexperiences trauma.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, it can deep-seat itself because you're
trying to protect yourself,right?
And so it's totallyunderstandable that that would
be the case For me.
I was at a point where I wasready to let anything go.
At that point, there werecertain beliefs I had that gave
me boundary in life, you know,like death exists.
Therefore, I need to doeverything I can for me before
my time runs out.
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And when I realized that deathdoesn't exist, I mean I'm
throwing a big one out right now, but it was like then I can.
Instead of be about me, I couldbe more about we, because, you
know, I'm here forever.
So it's not a matter of if I'mgoing to exist, it's only a
matter of how I'm going tochoose to exist while I'm here
or while I'm here in thisparticular go around.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Do you do you do you practice any of the sort of
spiritual practices that are arelike yoga or meditation, to
focus your energy?
What, what's sort of sort ofyour method for managing your
energy?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Yeah, so for me, when I'm off or I feel off a little
bit, I take quiet time.
I like silence and I like to gointo that meditative space that
just sort of just a tiny littlebit of recalibration, refocus,
rebalance.
When I get to that quiet placeI remember the grand, infinite
oneness of it all, and theneverything else is a small
detail that I don't want tosweat anymore, right, because I
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realized something greater andmore empowering.
So that's something that I cando Once in a while.
I'll do yoga.
I'm not a direct or consistentpractitioner of yoga, but I do
do it once in a while.
So those are a couple of thepractices that I do.
I'm trying to think if there'sanything else I like to read.
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You know, for me, the one sportI've hung onto in my life, for
my competitive side, just tostay grounded in something that
I used to do I used to be acompetitive in all sports in my
life, but I play golf.
So you know hitting golf ballsfor me at the end of the range
when no one's there at six inthe morning, it's like a very
meditative process pure quiet.
It's nature.
So those are the types ofthings I do to ground myself.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Yeah, yeah.
So it's so important.
You know, I uh going throughall the stages of the spiritual
journey.
It's not for the weak at heart.
I think a lot of people have amisconception.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
That's a great point.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Yeah, and the first I remember when I first woke up
in 2021 or 2022, I was so elatedjust to be awake that I coasted
through the next year justalmost high off of my spiritual
awakening.
And the most but interestinglyenough, after I did a ton of
work, it's that last.
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It's the ego death and thosereally deeply rooted practices
that are unhealthy thoughthabits that have really been
like.
That's been a real brutalexperience for me.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, spirituality.
You made a great that's a greatstatement, cynthia.
It is not for the weak of heart, because it is going to bring
everything up.
You're going to have to faceeverything and the fear, the
place your ego will go in itstoolbox to prevent you from this
expansion will be knee bending,gut wrenching.
You know fear that takes you tothe ground and tells you you
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can't and lies to you, andyou're going to have to be
prepared for that and getthrough that, because you can
and you will.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I don't think there's enough conversation, honestly,
about that aspect of it.
I think we talk a lot about thesynchronicities, dark night of
the soul, yeah, those sort ofinitial things, and it's kind of
like we uh, we sort of drop off, but uh, it really is.
Uh, I mean and I'm not tryingto deter anybody from having a
spiritual awakening?
Speaker 2 (17:03):
No, but you just want to be ready.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, just know that you will lose a lot of people,
places and things.
Potentially.
Some of them you know, some ofthem you may not want to lose,
but it'll be for your best.
And digging up the most deeply.
I did not realize how deeplyrooted my issues about societies
like things like nepotism andcronyism.
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Those are two things that stillI still struggle with not
getting set off about.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Nepotism and cronyism you mean in the world.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Yeah, like I still will like in terms of triggers
that show me I still havehealing to do.
I still get occasionallytriggered by what I can see as
people being just handed thingopportunities in life and that
goes back to feeling like I hadto work so hard for every
opportunity.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, Um I, I can totally understand that.
Um yeah, that's that can.
Yeah, and it sticks with youwhen you go through life.
Sometimes it doesn't shed allat once, but then sometimes you
can have a very big, powerfulawakening that you get through
it immediately, you know, andyou're able to transcend
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immediately through that.
But sometimes it's layers thathave to peel sometimes it's
layers that have to peel.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Yeah, yeah, I think for me it was definitely an
onion.
So what did you?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
get a calling to go into spiritual teaching, or was
it just a slow transition?
For me, the profound nature ofthe experience was so big that I
couldn't keep it in my body, soit was like coming out of me,
you know, in terms of likespeaking and teaching and
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writing, and it just I felt likea letter carrier that would be
given a huge letter and I had todeliver it and I had to toe the
line between proselytizing,evangelizing and just putting it
in a discourse.
So I had to learn that, becauseI wanted to run around and put
my hands on the shoulders ofevery human being and say, hey,
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it's right in front of you here.
I mean, like one of my favoritesongs of all time says it's,
you know, your stairway lies onthe whispering wind.
I mean, that's how close it isto you and so, um, uh, that's,
that's what I knew, that was mycalling and that what.
I was going to do and you know,fortunately, in writing the
books they got out there in abig way, um, and I'm, you know
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I'm, I'm continuing on that pathbecause there's more to talk
about after 20 years.
You know it's, it's the worldhas changed and people are more
open to this, and so there's anew way of putting it out.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Yeah, it's uh.
It's been fascinating to watchover the last couple of years is
uh, so many people started tofinally have conversations more
openly about spirituality andand I love seeing the trend it's
really trending with youngergenerations, which I think is
great because they need it withthe mental health crisis Yep.
Yeah, you brought up the ego,the ego death, the ego death is.
That's brutal.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
That was brutal for me.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Because your ego will fight.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Correct.
It's designed to do that?
Yeah, yeah, that's a greatpoint.
So it's designed to protect anddefend who you are, and so,
when these beliefs are underattack, or they're being changed
or they're dissolving, the egowants to fight for their
existence, and it flares up withas much as it can, even even
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some deep stuff in the bag oftricks that are usually
connected with fear, in order todo it.
But it's not really ego death,it's the change of what the ego
is doing to support you.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Hmm, I like that.
Yeah, do you have any advicefor um, for people who have um?
So you mentioned um, thoseblocks.
So, like I know, a lot ofpeople have money blocks.
They have you know they don'tbelieve in that.
I don't believe abundance, orthey're trying to manifest
things, but they're reallystruggling with getting into
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that energy of being what, thatwhich, uh, which they're trying
to to bring about.
Do you have any advice forpeople who are struggling with
that?
Speaker 2 (21:27):
um, what I would say is, if you have blocks, the key
is how badly do you want to getthrough it right, how badly you
really have to test yourself interms of what you're looking to
get to.
Um, and what I mean by testyourself is you have to ask
yourself does it still serve youto believe the thoughts you
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have that are giving you theblocks?
Or can you replace some ofthese thoughts of can't with can
?
Can you replace some of theideas that you have in your head
that have limited you with moreof the ideas that you have in
your head that have limited youwith more of the truth of what's
possible for you?
You really have to dissect whatit is that's keeping you
blocked and you really have tobe honest with yourself.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Okay, that's great advice.
So so you've written threebooks now.
I love it.
I love it.
Can you share uh sort of that?
That author journey uh in inending with the new book?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, so, um, uh, the first book, um, I don't know if
this is going to be audio orvisual, but, um, the first book
was I am, okay, great, so I am.
The power of discovering whoyou are.
Is the first book?
Um, the second book and youknow that's a full book on on
self-awareness andself-understanding that reveals
everything in my experience.
They asked me to write a secondbook and there was a piece
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edited out on time, so I wrotetime in a bottle, which is how
time works in your life.
Um, so that was the second bookand then for the last 10 years,
I've been working on the newbook, which is a result of
everything I've worked on withindividuals and how to break
through and get to either thetop level in sports or the, the,
what they want to inrelationships or business or
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anything that they're dealingwith that they've been quoted,
as you say, blocked from becauseof their ego, uh, which has
kept them in sort of a constantloop, and how to break through
that, and it's called invincible, the mindset of infinite
potential and the secretvitableSuccess.
This just came out recently, soI'm really excited about this
piece of work.
This is sort of the I don'tknow it's everything.
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I poured my soul into this, sothat's what I've been working on
.
This is the new one that'scoming out.
Like you know, I'm so honoredto get a chance to talk to you,
with you about it, cynthia, andshare with your audience.
But that book is an eight stepprocess to an expanded state of
mind, a more empowered state ofmind, a more mindful presence,
and it leads you to become amore powerful creator.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
I love that.
I love the simplicity of thecover.
It's it really lets you focuson what it's about.
It's really beautiful.
But all your books are yourbooks are all beautiful.
I'm a bit of a graphic art snob.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
I appreciate that so much.
Thank you, I absolutely.
That's a great compliment fromyou, so thank you.
Yeah, I'm excited because thepresence of what they offer on
the outside, I believe, has beendelivered on the inside.
That's what I'm most excitedabout is they turn the pages and
you know, but you have to beready, like you say.
(24:24):
You have to be ready for thiswork because it's really gonna
challenge you on some things.
But what's on the other side ofthat, cynthia, as you know, is
so beautiful and so comfortingand so Exciting and so
empowering, so that yourpresence and how you think, and
you're so aware of it when yougo into life every day and it
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just it takes you to anotherlevel of being.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It really does.
You know, I, uh, I've been onthe journey now for four years
and, uh, some of it was it wasbrutal but worth it.
Uh, in facings, you know, welike to tell ourselves stories
about who or what we're aboutand sometimes, when you're
really, when you're trying toevolve to the higher version of
yourself, you're confronted withsome aspects of yourself that
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you don't actually like verymuch, and that was hard for me
because I talk about a lot onthe scale of consciousness at
the bottom of it.
I lived in that energy of guiltand shame at the very bottom of
Hawkins' consciousness scale,for decades decades, and it was
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such a hard moment to see thaton the chart and realize that I
was at the very bottom of it,when I had gifted myself with
being this kind of person whatwas clearly going to be higher
in the charts and to see that mypredominant energy was that of
shame and guilt for such a longtime.
But once I broke through theother side of that and just
accepted that that really waswhat it was and that guilt and
shame aren't about us doingsomething wrong necessarily.
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It's the way that we feel aboutthe things that have occurred
or happened in our life.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Exactly.
Wow, well said, that's exactlyright.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, that was a powerful moment and I still, you
know, I try to talk reallyopenly about the journey not
being complete, because it's not, it's a lifetime journey.
And I think sometimes, withspirit, both of us are spiritual
teachers.
Sometimes I get a little bitirritated with the spiritual
community because there's such afocus on perfection and
behaving.
It's almost like, well, we'reback in church now again, where
we're telling people to beperfect.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yeah, no, that's.
That's really well said, and apoint on that I want to make is
that it's like this yeah, wehave to be perfect when we
already are in terms of ourunfolding, because at each
moment we're doing the best wecan.
And the reason that guilt, shameand regret are such poisons to
the mind is because they're notwho you are.
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They're who you were in termsof the way you saw the past
right or what you did.
That just gave you reflectionon who you don't want to be.
But to carry it into thismoment is to poison this moment
and who you are, because in thismoment you can renew the spirit
of your mind, you can renewyour soul, you can redefine who
you choose to be in this moment.
And it can be free of shamebecause and free of guilt and
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free of remorse and free ofregret, where you just say I
forgive my former self.
That was the best I had in thatmoment, because if I could have
done better, I would have.
So what I'm going to do is I'mgoing to choose to own this
moment with the newunderstanding of who I am one
who is free of guilt, shame andregret, and one who sees and
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believes in more worth andpossibility.
That's the goal of this book.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
I love that.
Yeah, I was going to say who'sthis a good book for, besides
everybody.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I love that you say that today so intuitive.
So who's this a good book for?
It's for anybody who's lookingfor the deepest, most
life-changing wisdom they canfind.
I mean, there's a lot ofbeautiful stuff out there from a
lot of people, includingyourself, but people that are on
a path that want to reallyunderstand the mechanics of how
life comes together, how torelease the past, how to step
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into the present moment and ownthe ego and direct the ego, how
to get rid of limiting beliefs,how to own self-respect,
self-awareness and self-worth.
And then how to, how to use thepower of I am then from that
moment, from a more authentic,authentic, grounded belief in
who you are, so that it canreally create for you.
And then you know, step seven ishow to master the traps and
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negativity of life and how you,when you have to go back into
life with this new thing, butwith this new understanding and
new identity.
But life's still going to bethere with all its negativity
and all its traps, and it'sprobably going to increase
because you're shining morelight.
So it's you know, darkness islike, try and come a little
harder at you, but as I say inthe book, you know, um, light
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will always overcome thedarkness, but darkness can never
overcome the light.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
So anyway, so it prepares you for that.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
So that's what it's for Athletes, individuals,
anybody going through anythingin life that's ready for some
new insight to empower theirmind.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
That's it.
I love that Beautifully said.
You're always so well-spoken.
You can tell how muchexperience you have because it
just comes.
So it's just a gift that comesso natural to you.
If people wanted to order yourbooks and learn more about you,
where would they go?
Speaker 2 (29:23):
Yeah, so Invincible is available on Amazon, barnes
and Noble and at any independentbookstore, and if they don't
have it at your independentbookstore, please let them know
about it so you can get it there.
My website is howardfalcobookstore and if they don't have
it at your independentbookstore, please let them know
about it so you can get it there.
My website is howardfalcocomand you can follow me there or
follow me on Instagram, where Iput up daily inspirational stuff
and teachings.
So those are the main places.
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Yeah, it should be available atAmazon, barnes, noble and any
independent store.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Thank you, howard.
I'm so glad that we got achance to catch up and to talk
about your new book, invincible,beautiful name.
I love the word.
I'm hearing a song in my head.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, it's Pat Benatar, is it?
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, that's exactly what
it is.
What can I say?
I'm a kid of the 80s.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Yeah, me too, so I'm right there with you.
But, cynthia, thank you so muchfor having me on.
I truly appreciate you and yourbeautiful energy.
And yeah, it's been an honor totalk to you and it's always fun
to have a conversation with you.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
Thank you Howard.
Ah, you guys heard it here.
Go check out Howard Falco'sInvincible and go check out his
website, howardfalcocom, If youare just watching the show or
listening to the show for thefirst time.
Well, hello and welcome.
I'm Shaman Isis, your spiritualteacher and also three-time
author.
If you are not familiar with mywork, go check out
shamanisiscom and you can see mybooks.
(30:45):
There you can see my glow upcollection of courses and books
and meditations and, of course,my magazine, soul Tech.
So go check it out.
Free newsletter you must signup for it, especially if you
want event invitations to theevents I do around the world.
Thank you so much for stoppingby, and if you're not already
subscribed, what are youthinking?
Thanks you guys for listeningand have an amazing day.
(31:06):
Thank you, howard.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Thank you.
Well, hello, hello, hello and welcome to Glow Up
with Shaman Isis.
I am psyched for today's show.
I have a good friend with metoday.
Author, spiritual teacher andmindset coach, would you?
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I would say that's it , you got it.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Howard, the amazing Howard Falco.
Welcome Howard, I'm so glad tohave you on the show.
Speaker 2 (00:20):
Oh, thank you.
Thank you for having me,cynthia.
It's good to see you again ohthank you.
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Thank you for having me, cynthia, it's good to see
you again.
Yeah, yeah I, I want to get toall the juicy stuff about your
journey, and then I know youhave a new book out, so of
course we have to talk about thebook.
But, um, if you could, you know, just share a little bit about
your practice to start off, andthen we'll get into your uh,
into your uh journey.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Yeah, uh.
So I'm a spiritual teacher,author, mindset coach.
I've written three books on thenature of self-awareness and
the mind and the power of themind.
I've worked with hundreds,thousands actually of people
over the last 20 years, helpingthem to understand the power
that they have to direct thenarrative of their life and how
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life begins to meet them withthat narrative and flow with
that narrative.
And so this has worked foreveryday individuals going
through anxiety, depression,everything you can imagine,
everything you can't imagine.
And then I've also worked withathletes at the college and
professional level in all thesports, helping them to get
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their mind in a place where moreof their talent can flow freely
, unrestricted, and so they cansort of get out of their own way
, reduce the amount of limitingbeliefs they have so that they
can achieve the performancethey're looking for, more of
their potential and peakperformance.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
That sounds exciting.
I have to hear about your.
We've talked about some other.
We've done an episode about ayear and a half ago, which is
one of my most popular episodes,mind you, oh it's awesome.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
That's great.
Speaker 1 (02:01):
And we didn't get a chance to really get tooed up
who've moved on and be able toshare with people so that they
can appreciate the ability thatthey have themselves for
changing their own lives.
So can you tell our audience alittle bit about kind of your
journey to spiritual guru?
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Sure, I'll talk about the journey to what opened the
door to all this wisdom andclarity that allows me to work
in a way that's really effectivefor my own life and for the
life of others.
The beginning of the story is Iwas always very curious about
the nature of life and existence, or in general.
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In class in grammar school, Iwas the one always raising my
hand, challenging the teacher,wanting to understand the whys,
not just be told, don't tell me.
Help me understand why, so thatI can take that wisdom with me.
I've told this story many times, but it was really truly
sparked.
The first time I was on acamping trip into deep nature.
(03:03):
I grew up in the suburbs ofChicago and I was taken by my
aunt and uncle on a trip toNorthern Minnesota, which was 10
miles.
We were at this remote lake,like out of a movie really, with
this rustic cabin on a lake.
We were less than 10 miles fromthe Canadian border.
We got there, it was a moonlessnight, so it was extremely dark
and everybody went to sleepafter the 10 hour car ride and I
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wanted to explore, and so, at14, I went out the cabin door,
walked to the end of this oldcreaky dock and just stared into
this darkness and the firstthing that just hit me, like a
ton of bricks, was the sound ofsilence.
I'd never experienced thatoxymoron before and, um, it
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stunned me.
It was an out of bodyexperience.
And the lake was as placid ascould be.
It wasn't moving, um, it wasstill.
There, wasn't a breath of wind.
And then I started to see whatlooked like light shining in one
part of the lake and thenanother part.
And then I started to see whatlooked like lights shining in
one part of the lake and thenanother part.
And then I realized theselights were shining over the
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entire lake and I didn't knowwhat it was.
And then I looked up.
And when I looked up, in thatmoment everything changed,
because I could not believe theamount of stars that were in the
night sky.
There were more stars in thesky, I believe, than there was
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space in between them, as Iwrite in the introduction to all
my books.
And it was a breathtakingmoment.
And what I mean by breathtaking?
We hear that term a lot andusually it's an inhale, but this
was a breathtaking moment, anexhale where all the breath left
my body and, for a moment ofstillness.
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Everything sort of changed inthat moment.
When I looked up, I was justfrozen in time and thousands of
questions filled my mind on thenature of existence.
And I just, laid down on thedock, put my hands behind my
head, and thousands of questionsfilled my mind on the nature of
existence.
And I, just laid down on thedock, put my hands behind my
head and, for like what seemedhours, just stared at the Milky
Way, at the galaxies, the starsand the what I, you know I could
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see potential satellite movingacross as look like a star
moving, you know, I mean, it wasmind blowing.
So I left that moment on even adeeper quest to understand life
and meaning.
And then I'll fast forward thestory.
In my mid 30s I thought I hadeverything I needed to be happy.
I got my education, put myselfthrough school, left home when I
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was 18 and went out west, gotmarried, fell in love, had two
kids, was starting to do okay,bought our first home.
And yet I was as more unsettledthan I've ever been and I
thought this is crazy.
You're supposed to be happywhen you start to build all
these things that are thechecklist on the American dream.
And I thought, okay, the lastthing is money, millions of
dollars.
But one day it hit me that Iwas working with a lot of people
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that had endless amounts ofmoney and they weren't happy.
And when that hit me, cynthia,that's what shook me to the
ground, where I said I don'tknow how I'm going to go on and
live another day of life withoutunderstanding.
And so I threw my arms up andhands up to the sky and I said
life, universe, god, which I hadno concept of or understanding,
I'm ready to understand howlife works.
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Show me this the answers.
I want them now.
I can't go another day.
Then I let it go, went backinto my life.
Two weeks later.
I'm in a class for trading themarkets.
I had read a book on thepsychology of trading markets I
was in the finance business atthe time and I was amazed that
the guy was teaching this fromthis idea that you're creating
the whole experience, or whetheryou make money or lose money,
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by what you choose, what yourthoughts are, what your
reactions are, what vehicle youchoose, how much money you put
in, when you get in, when youget out.
And it just hit me, cynthia,that we're doing this for life
every day, and so we're creatingthe mindset and the experience
that we have.
But what was so stunning aboutthat was that I realized it
wasn't just for finance.
Being for life, that means thatthe control was in me.
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It wasn't on anything externalthat I had to gain, and it was
such a relief to know that thisroom that I had been in, that
was windowless and doorless, nowhad a window or a door.
I just had to figure out how todo it, but I knew it was there
now and then the second thingthat really blew my mind was
that I had asked these questionstwo weeks ago to life, and here
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life was answering me byconnecting with me on insight
and information.
In that moment, and I realizedthat this is how it works Every
day of our life, life's talkingto us and what?
The more present and the moremindful we are, the more we hear
it, the more we gain theinformation that life's trying
to get to us, because it'strying to work with us to help
us survive.
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Whatever we determine we needto do to create, life is trying
to get the awareness to us, andso I was in this present state.
And then, to wrap this up.
Six months later, I had anexperience where information was
just dropping into my mindMoment by moment.
There was no time anymorebetween question and answer, and
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I got this great awakening andunderstanding that changed
everything and that's why Iwrote my first book.
I left my job and wrote I Am,and that in I Am is everything
that was sort of downloaded orrevealed in this expansion of
consciousness, which I felt sograced and humbled.
I knew I was going to be aservant of this awareness the
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rest of my existence, and that'sall I was going to do was just
serve it.
And that's what I have donesince 2002, for 20 to 23 years.
Now, almost 23 years, 22 and ahalf years of sharing and
putting this wisdom out into thediscourse, and I feel just
blessed beyond belief.
So that's the short story,cynthia.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
I love that.
I love that you had.
How old were you when you hadthat existential conversation?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
So I asked those 35, it was right around my 35th
birthday, the one by the lake.
Oh, it was 14.
Speaker 1 (08:59):
Yeah, that seems to be 13,.
14 seems to be like 12 to 14,seems to be like a real, like
anyone who's going to seems tohave the first existential
conversation.
It seems like that's when theyhappen, because that's the same
thing it happened for me at 13,like staring at the stars and
being like, oh, my mind is beingblown.
Speaker 2 (09:16):
Yeah, it's hard not to.
When you look at that and whenyou see it in such a remote area
where every star is shining,it's your mind just wiggles on
it.
It's your mind just wiggles onit.
It's just.
How is that over our head everynight and we don't understand
more yet, and that's what droveme to understand more.
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I love that you said servant of this awareness, oh
that's so good, it was juicy.
I was like oh, I can taste that.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Yeah, it's so true I do.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
I feel humbled, humbled servant is what I feel
like Do you have any advice forpeople who find, because a lot
of people are having spiritualawakenings.
It's like a big thing you knowwhere we've entered the age of
Aquarius happening at the sametime as the age of AI, which I
do not think is an accident.
I think that we need that ageof Aquarius to be able to have
enough consciousness, higherconsciousness, on the planet to
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be able to manage yeah.
Yeah, Do you have any?
Because there's so many peoplewho are going through those
kinds of existentialconversations and they're coming
to a new awareness of what'sbeen going on in our world for a
long time.
I know three years ago when Italked about the financial
situation in America andquestioned the American dream
and what was going on with allour money, People were like you
sound like a conspiracy theorist, but now we're all seeing a lot
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of truths.
What would your advice?
Something a very long way ofasking what your advice would be
.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
You mean in terms of when they have these awakenings.
What my advice?
Speaker 1 (10:34):
to them is yeah.
Speaker 2 (10:36):
The litmus test on the awakening is whether or not
you feel more of a sense ofunity with life, mankind, with
people, whether or not you seemore of the perfection of what's
happening, whether or not youunderstand how much life is
connected to you and helping youto see more of your worth
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perfection, love, self-respect,self-honor in you whether or not
you see more forgiveness inothers through the understanding
of your own self.
You know, there's a quote.
My, actually my son saidsomething when I saw him.
He came in town last week andhe said well, dad, he's like you
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know, I've learned to justalways assume good intent with
people and I thought wow, that'spretty profound, because we've
lost our way in that right.
We've gotten so scared ofeverything.
We're always assuming negativeintent.
You know, and we're spreadingit across millions of people
You're not on the spiritual path.
Then You're off the spiritualpath when that becomes the
mindset, because it's taking youto a darker place.
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When what spiritual awakeningdoes is it allows you to see
infinite possibility, it allowsyou to see that the universe is
working to shed awareness.
And, yeah, we go through upsand downs through that process.
But what I would tell anybodyon this path is, if you're going
down a path where it getsdarker, you're on the wrong path
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and there's more to be learnedand understood.
Now, that doesn't mean therearen't dark things in the world
that happen, because there are,but to be able to see things
from a broader perspective andto see that everybody this
doesn't condone anything, butthat everybody's doing the best
they can and what they're tryingto do, based on who they think
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they are versus what the truthis about them.
It can help with your energy,your mindset and the way you
carry yourself in the world.
And even, most importantly,cynthia, what comes back to you
in terms of your own experience.
Because if it's shrouded innegativity, that aura, that
energy is going to attract that,because life has to give you
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the experience of what youbelieve is true, not what you
think is true, but what youbelieve is true.
That's why self-awareness is soimportant.
So for me, in that experience,I had to drop my beliefs and my
conditioning in order to havesomething else revealed, and I
mean these were deep truths andbeliefs about life.
Speaker 1 (13:07):
And that's a process that is not.
You don't just go.
Oh, I need to drop thesebeliefs.
I mean, for me it took practiceat seeing the new beliefs and
releasing the beliefs, thebuilt-in system I had developed
for understanding the world,which was really corrupted by
cynicism yeah, or personalexperiences trauma.
Speaker 2 (13:27):
Yeah, it can deep-seat itself because you're
trying to protect yourself,right?
And so it's totallyunderstandable that that would
be the case For me.
I was at a point where I wasready to let anything go.
At that point, there werecertain beliefs I had that gave
me boundary in life, you know,like death exists.
Therefore, I need to doeverything I can for me before
my time runs out.
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And when I realized that deathdoesn't exist, I mean I'm
throwing a big one out right now, but it was like then I can.
Instead of be about me, I couldbe more about we, because, you
know, I'm here forever.
So it's not a matter of if I'mgoing to exist, it's only a
matter of how I'm going tochoose to exist while I'm here
or while I'm here in thisparticular go around.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Do you do you do you practice any of the sort of
spiritual practices that are arelike yoga or meditation, to
focus your energy?
What, what's sort of sort ofyour method for managing your
energy?
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Yeah, so for me, when I'm off or I feel off a little
bit, I take quiet time.
I like silence and I like to gointo that meditative space that
just sort of just a tiny littlebit of recalibration, refocus,
rebalance.
When I get to that quiet placeI remember the grand, infinite
oneness of it all, and theneverything else is a small
detail that I don't want tosweat anymore, right, because I
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realized something greater andmore empowering.
So that's something that I cando Once in a while.
I'll do yoga.
I'm not a direct or consistentpractitioner of yoga, but I do
do it once in a while.
So those are a couple of thepractices that I do.
I'm trying to think if there'sanything else I like to read.
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You know, for me, the one sportI've hung onto in my life, for
my competitive side, just tostay grounded in something that
I used to do I used to be acompetitive in all sports in my
life, but I play golf.
So you know hitting golf ballsfor me at the end of the range
when no one's there at six inthe morning, it's like a very
meditative process pure quiet.
It's nature.
So those are the types ofthings I do to ground myself.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Yeah, yeah.
So it's so important.
You know, I uh going throughall the stages of the spiritual
journey.
It's not for the weak at heart.
I think a lot of people have amisconception.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
That's a great point.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Yeah, and the first I remember when I first woke up
in 2021 or 2022, I was so elatedjust to be awake that I coasted
through the next year justalmost high off of my spiritual
awakening.
And the most but interestinglyenough, after I did a ton of
work, it's that last.
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It's the ego death and thosereally deeply rooted practices
that are unhealthy thoughthabits that have really been
like.
That's been a real brutalexperience for me.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Yeah, spirituality.
You made a great that's a greatstatement, cynthia.
It is not for the weak of heart, because it is going to bring
everything up.
You're going to have to faceeverything and the fear, the
place your ego will go in itstoolbox to prevent you from this
expansion will be knee bending,gut wrenching.
You know fear that takes you tothe ground and tells you you
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can't and lies to you, andyou're going to have to be
prepared for that and getthrough that, because you can
and you will.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
I don't think there's enough conversation, honestly,
about that aspect of it.
I think we talk a lot about thesynchronicities, dark night of
the soul, yeah, those sort ofinitial things, and it's kind of
like we uh, we sort of drop off, but uh, it really is.
Uh, I mean and I'm not tryingto deter anybody from having a
spiritual awakening?
Speaker 2 (17:03):
No, but you just want to be ready.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
Yeah, just know that you will lose a lot of people,
places and things.
Potentially.
Some of them you know, some ofthem you may not want to lose,
but it'll be for your best.
And digging up the most deeply.
I did not realize how deeplyrooted my issues about societies
like things like nepotism andcronyism.
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Those are two things that stillI still struggle with not
getting set off about.
Speaker 2 (17:32):
Nepotism and cronyism you mean in the world.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
Yeah, like I still will like in terms of triggers
that show me I still havehealing to do.
I still get occasionallytriggered by what I can see as
people being just handed thingopportunities in life and that
goes back to feeling like I hadto work so hard for every
opportunity.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
Yeah, Um I, I can totally understand that.
Um yeah, that's that can.
Yeah, and it sticks with youwhen you go through life.
Sometimes it doesn't shed allat once, but then sometimes you
can have a very big, powerfulawakening that you get through
it immediately, you know, andyou're able to transcend
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immediately through that.
But sometimes it's layers thathave to peel sometimes it's
layers that have to peel.
Speaker 1 (18:25):
Yeah, yeah, I think for me it was definitely an
onion.
So what did you?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
get a calling to go into spiritual teaching, or was
it just a slow transition?
For me, the profound nature ofthe experience was so big that I
couldn't keep it in my body, soit was like coming out of me,
you know, in terms of likespeaking and teaching and
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writing, and it just I felt likea letter carrier that would be
given a huge letter and I had todeliver it and I had to toe the
line between proselytizing,evangelizing and just putting it
in a discourse.
So I had to learn that, becauseI wanted to run around and put
my hands on the shoulders ofevery human being and say, hey,
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it's right in front of you here.
I mean, like one of my favoritesongs of all time says it's,
you know, your stairway lies onthe whispering wind.
I mean, that's how close it isto you and so, um, uh, that's,
that's what I knew, that was mycalling and that what.
I was going to do and you know,fortunately, in writing the
books they got out there in abig way, um, and I'm, you know
(19:38):
I'm, I'm continuing on that pathbecause there's more to talk
about after 20 years.
You know it's, it's the worldhas changed and people are more
open to this, and so there's anew way of putting it out.
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Yeah, it's uh.
It's been fascinating to watchover the last couple of years is
uh, so many people started tofinally have conversations more
openly about spirituality andand I love seeing the trend it's
really trending with youngergenerations, which I think is
great because they need it withthe mental health crisis Yep.
Yeah, you brought up the ego,the ego death, the ego death is.
That's brutal.
Speaker 2 (20:16):
That was brutal for me.
Speaker 1 (20:18):
Because your ego will fight.
Speaker 2 (20:21):
Correct.
It's designed to do that?
Yeah, yeah, that's a greatpoint.
So it's designed to protect anddefend who you are, and so,
when these beliefs are underattack, or they're being changed
or they're dissolving, the egowants to fight for their
existence, and it flares up withas much as it can, even even
(20:43):
some deep stuff in the bag oftricks that are usually
connected with fear, in order todo it.
But it's not really ego death,it's the change of what the ego
is doing to support you.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Hmm, I like that.
Yeah, do you have any advicefor um, for people who have um?
So you mentioned um, thoseblocks.
So, like I know, a lot ofpeople have money blocks.
They have you know they don'tbelieve in that.
I don't believe abundance, orthey're trying to manifest
things, but they're reallystruggling with getting into
(21:18):
that energy of being what, thatwhich, uh, which they're trying
to to bring about.
Do you have any advice forpeople who are struggling with
that?
Speaker 2 (21:27):
um, what I would say is, if you have blocks, the key
is how badly do you want to getthrough it right, how badly you
really have to test yourself interms of what you're looking to
get to.
Um, and what I mean by testyourself is you have to ask
yourself does it still serve youto believe the thoughts you
(21:49):
have that are giving you theblocks?
Or can you replace some ofthese thoughts of can't with can
?
Can you replace some of theideas that you have in your head
that have limited you with moreof the ideas that you have in
your head that have limited youwith more of the truth of what's
possible for you?
You really have to dissect whatit is that's keeping you
blocked and you really have tobe honest with yourself.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Okay, that's great advice.
So so you've written threebooks now.
I love it.
I love it.
Can you share uh sort of that?
That author journey uh in inending with the new book?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Yeah, so, um, uh, the first book, um, I don't know if
this is going to be audio orvisual, but, um, the first book
was I am, okay, great, so I am.
The power of discovering whoyou are.
Is the first book?
Um, the second book and youknow that's a full book on on
self-awareness andself-understanding that reveals
everything in my experience.
They asked me to write a secondbook and there was a piece
(22:46):
edited out on time, so I wrotetime in a bottle, which is how
time works in your life.
Um, so that was the second bookand then for the last 10 years,
I've been working on the newbook, which is a result of
everything I've worked on withindividuals and how to break
through and get to either thetop level in sports or the, the,
what they want to inrelationships or business or
(23:08):
anything that they're dealingwith that they've been quoted,
as you say, blocked from becauseof their ego, uh, which has
kept them in sort of a constantloop, and how to break through
that, and it's called invincible, the mindset of infinite
potential and the secretvitableSuccess.
This just came out recently, soI'm really excited about this
piece of work.
This is sort of the I don'tknow it's everything.
(23:32):
I poured my soul into this, sothat's what I've been working on
.
This is the new one that'scoming out.
Like you know, I'm so honoredto get a chance to talk to you,
with you about it, cynthia, andshare with your audience.
But that book is an eight stepprocess to an expanded state of
mind, a more empowered state ofmind, a more mindful presence,
and it leads you to become amore powerful creator.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
I love that.
I love the simplicity of thecover.
It's it really lets you focuson what it's about.
It's really beautiful.
But all your books are yourbooks are all beautiful.
I'm a bit of a graphic art snob.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
I appreciate that so much.
Thank you, I absolutely.
That's a great compliment fromyou, so thank you.
Yeah, I'm excited because thepresence of what they offer on
the outside, I believe, has beendelivered on the inside.
That's what I'm most excitedabout is they turn the pages and
you know, but you have to beready, like you say.
(24:24):
You have to be ready for thiswork because it's really gonna
challenge you on some things.
But what's on the other side ofthat, cynthia, as you know, is
so beautiful and so comfortingand so Exciting and so
empowering, so that yourpresence and how you think, and
you're so aware of it when yougo into life every day and it
(24:47):
just it takes you to anotherlevel of being.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
It really does.
You know, I, uh, I've been onthe journey now for four years
and, uh, some of it was it wasbrutal but worth it.
Uh, in facings, you know, welike to tell ourselves stories
about who or what we're aboutand sometimes, when you're
really, when you're trying toevolve to the higher version of
yourself, you're confronted withsome aspects of yourself that
(25:14):
you don't actually like verymuch, and that was hard for me
because I talk about a lot onthe scale of consciousness at
the bottom of it.
I lived in that energy of guiltand shame at the very bottom of
Hawkins' consciousness scale,for decades decades, and it was
(25:34):
such a hard moment to see thaton the chart and realize that I
was at the very bottom of it,when I had gifted myself with
being this kind of person whatwas clearly going to be higher
in the charts and to see that mypredominant energy was that of
shame and guilt for such a longtime.
But once I broke through theother side of that and just
accepted that that really waswhat it was and that guilt and
shame aren't about us doingsomething wrong necessarily.
(25:54):
It's the way that we feel aboutthe things that have occurred
or happened in our life.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Exactly.
Wow, well said, that's exactlyright.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
Yeah, that was a powerful moment and I still, you
know, I try to talk reallyopenly about the journey not
being complete, because it's not, it's a lifetime journey.
And I think sometimes, withspirit, both of us are spiritual
teachers.
Sometimes I get a little bitirritated with the spiritual
community because there's such afocus on perfection and
behaving.
It's almost like, well, we'reback in church now again, where
we're telling people to beperfect.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Yeah, no, that's.
That's really well said, and apoint on that I want to make is
that it's like this yeah, wehave to be perfect when we
already are in terms of ourunfolding, because at each
moment we're doing the best wecan.
And the reason that guilt, shameand regret are such poisons to
the mind is because they're notwho you are.
(26:45):
They're who you were in termsof the way you saw the past
right or what you did.
That just gave you reflectionon who you don't want to be.
But to carry it into thismoment is to poison this moment
and who you are, because in thismoment you can renew the spirit
of your mind, you can renewyour soul, you can redefine who
you choose to be in this moment.
And it can be free of shamebecause and free of guilt and
(27:08):
free of remorse and free ofregret, where you just say I
forgive my former self.
That was the best I had in thatmoment, because if I could have
done better, I would have.
So what I'm going to do is I'mgoing to choose to own this
moment with the newunderstanding of who I am one
who is free of guilt, shame andregret, and one who sees and
(27:29):
believes in more worth andpossibility.
That's the goal of this book.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
I love that.
Yeah, I was going to say who'sthis a good book for, besides
everybody.
Speaker 2 (27:42):
I love that you say that today so intuitive.
So who's this a good book for?
It's for anybody who's lookingfor the deepest, most
life-changing wisdom they canfind.
I mean, there's a lot ofbeautiful stuff out there from a
lot of people, includingyourself, but people that are on
a path that want to reallyunderstand the mechanics of how
life comes together, how torelease the past, how to step
(28:05):
into the present moment and ownthe ego and direct the ego, how
to get rid of limiting beliefs,how to own self-respect,
self-awareness and self-worth.
And then how to, how to use thepower of I am then from that
moment, from a more authentic,authentic, grounded belief in
who you are, so that it canreally create for you.
And then you know, step seven ishow to master the traps and
(28:28):
negativity of life and how you,when you have to go back into
life with this new thing, butwith this new understanding and
new identity.
But life's still going to bethere with all its negativity
and all its traps, and it'sprobably going to increase
because you're shining morelight.
So it's you know, darkness islike, try and come a little
harder at you, but as I say inthe book, you know, um, light
(28:49):
will always overcome thedarkness, but darkness can never
overcome the light.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
So anyway, so it prepares you for that.
Speaker 2 (28:58):
So that's what it's for Athletes, individuals,
anybody going through anythingin life that's ready for some
new insight to empower theirmind.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
That's it.
I love that Beautifully said.
You're always so well-spoken.
You can tell how muchexperience you have because it
just comes.
So it's just a gift that comesso natural to you.
If people wanted to order yourbooks and learn more about you,
where would they go?
Speaker 2 (29:23):
Yeah, so Invincible is available on Amazon, barnes
and Noble and at any independentbookstore, and if they don't
have it at your independentbookstore, please let them know
about it so you can get it there.
My website is howardfalcobookstore and if they don't have
it at your independentbookstore, please let them know
about it so you can get it there.
My website is howardfalcocomand you can follow me there or
follow me on Instagram, where Iput up daily inspirational stuff
and teachings.
So those are the main places.
(29:46):
Yeah, it should be available atAmazon, barnes, noble and any
independent store.
Speaker 1 (29:51):
Thank you, howard.
I'm so glad that we got achance to catch up and to talk
about your new book, invincible,beautiful name.
I love the word.
I'm hearing a song in my head.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Yeah, it's Pat Benatar, is it?
Speaker 1 (30:02):
Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah, that's exactly what
it is.
What can I say?
I'm a kid of the 80s.
Speaker 2 (30:13):
Yeah, me too, so I'm right there with you.
But, cynthia, thank you so muchfor having me on.
I truly appreciate you and yourbeautiful energy.
And yeah, it's been an honor totalk to you and it's always fun
to have a conversation with you.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
Thank you Howard.
Ah, you guys heard it here.
Go check out Howard Falco'sInvincible and go check out his
website, howardfalcocom, If youare just watching the show or
listening to the show for thefirst time.
Well, hello and welcome.
I'm Shaman Isis, your spiritualteacher and also three-time
author.
If you are not familiar with mywork, go check out
shamanisiscom and you can see mybooks.
(30:45):
There you can see my glow upcollection of courses and books
and meditations and, of course,my magazine, soul Tech.
So go check it out.
Free newsletter you must signup for it, especially if you
want event invitations to theevents I do around the world.
Thank you so much for stoppingby, and if you're not already
subscribed, what are youthinking?
Thanks you guys for listeningand have an amazing day.
(31:06):
Thank you, howard.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Thank you.
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