10 Minute Thoughts - Who is speaking for you?

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Have you ever felt like a stranger within your own voice, a spectator to the words tumbling out of your mouth? Join me, Jamie, on '10 Minute Thought' for a personal voyage into the heart of self-expression and the voices that vie for control—from the jealous fragments of ourselves to societal whispers and the echoes of our inner child. We tackle the tough questions about who's really at the helm when we speak and act, and how to claim back our authentic power.

This episode weaves together wisdom from voices like Danae Logan, who reminds us that taking responsibility for our energy is a cornerstone of true power, and Abraham, who offers the liberating perspective that people's love or hate for us often reflects their own inner battles. Marianne Williamson and Miriam Hassan gift us with insights on interpreting human behavior through compassion and self-worth. It's an exploration of inner healing and finding a voice that resonates with love and self-acceptance, guiding us to respond to the world not as a conduit for our unmet needs, but as the fullest expression of who we truly are.

Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and good morning.
Welcome back to Go Ask Sawyer.
This is Jamie, your host of GoAsk Sawyer, and this is a new
series called 10 Minute Thought.
Today, my thoughts are aroundwho is speaking for you?
Are you speaking for you, areyour actions speaking for you,
or is society speaking for you?

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Or maybe even your inner child?
So these past two weeks I havehad some stuff come up.
In the last few episodes I'vetalked about jealousy, I've
talked about dimming your light,I've talked about staying in
your own lane, and I realizesome of the ways I am speaking,
some of the ways I have explodedon people or wanted to explode

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on people, are just unhealedparts of myself that are coming
up, are just some parts of myinner child, you could say, or
parts of me that I have feltshame around, or parts of me
that have been silenced for along time, coming and exploding
all the way out.
And I've really kind of satwith it this last week Like why

(01:06):
am I doing this?
Why am I still getting upset?
Why am I still allowing whatothers say to pull me into a
place that is not who I want tobe, that is not who I am, and so
I feel like recently I have notbeen speaking for me.
There are unhealed parts of methat are speaking for me, and

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that's what I kind of want toget into on today's 10 minutes.
Our first quote starts withauthentic power is taking
responsibility for your ownenergy, no matter what is
happening with the world aroundyou.
By Danae Logan and I thoughtthat was really key around
what's happening, because it'sbeing in yourself enough to
understand that you need to takeresponsibility for the energy

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you're putting out there.
Again, kind of back to thatbeing in your own lane, even if
someone triggers you and you gooff on them.
Yeah, okay, something inside ofyou is triggered, someone said
something offensive, but youalso need to take responsibility
of how you responded and howyou react.
That is the most authentic,strong part of being a human is

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saying, yeah, what you said isnot okay, is not appropriate, is
you name it?
But what are you gonna do aboutit?
Are you gonna let yourself bepulled out of wherever you are?
Are you gonna throw back thesame kind of negative energy?
Are you going to match word forword and the way you respond?
Is that who you are or is thatsomething else inside of you

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that clearly is being unmet.
Our next quote comes fromAbraham.
People will love you, peoplewill hate you, and none of it
will have anything to do withyou.
That one was just veryeye-opening and I have to remind
myself all the time on.
How people treat you has moreto do with them than it has to
do with you.
People who hate you are usuallyprojecting some sort of sad,

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unhappy wound inside them on you.
Maybe you have something theywant.
Maybe you have an energy theydon't even know how to get.
Maybe people love you becausethere is something inside them
that you pull out of them.
You make them feel safe.
That is why they love you so sooften.
People again will love us andhate us, and it doesn't have

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anything to do with us.
It's something inside them thatyou are either fulfilling or
you are showing and mirroringthem.
Our next quote comes fromMarianne Williamson.
I believe I read a poem by herlast week See all human behavior
as one of two things eitherlove or a call for love.
That whole idea of hate.

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Right, love and hate.
Both have four letters.
They are very opposite eachother and most of the time hate
is fueled by a love.
Somebody does not have.
A peace someone does not have,so they need to hate, because
that is the only way they knowhow to be.
Next is by Miriam Hassan.
How would someone who lovesthemselves and knows their worth

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respond?
Embody that?
I really like this one andagain, kind of going back to our
theme today is who is speakingfor you?
If you loved yourself and youknew your worth, when someone
comes at you with something thathas nothing to do with you, how
would that type of personrespond?
And just practice embodyingthat?
Most of the time, my embodimentof that is more silence or

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responding in.
Okay, if that is how you feeland leave it at that.
If that is how you feel andleave it at that, because, at
the end of the day, you are notliving that other person's life,
you are not in their thoughts,you are not receiving the
consequences of their life.
It just needs to be what it is.
And how often could things justkind of go away if more silence

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was had?
And again, I'm not usingsilence or going away as numbing
or, as you know, pushing underthe rug with issues.
I'm just saying when thingsthat really don't need you don't
need to be a part of.
How can you respond to somebodywho truly loves who you are and
you know you're worth?
How would that person respond?
And then, finally, I don't havea person who said this, but I'm

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sure a million people have, orplease let me know who did.
Let them criticize who theythink you are.
They don't know you anymore.
This goes out to every personwho has gone through these
journeys, who has disconnectedfrom people in their life, who
has maybe taken a left insteadof going a right, who, for those
of us who have played thevillain in other people's

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stories that is true, I've beena villain in many stories, but
the person I am today is notthat same person.
The person I'm working on todayis not that same person, and
the person I am today hasaccepted, prayed for forgiveness
, written it out, and I stilllove myself.
So any voices out therecriticizing you for what you're
doing starting that project,going back to school, changing

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the job, getting into a newrelationship, changing your idea
of the perfect favorite colorlet them criticize you.
They don't know who you aretoday and, honestly, I might
change my favorite color againtomorrow.
Each day we get to decide if weare going to be a healed person
or unhealed person, and I lovethat meme.
There's a meme I've been seeingover and over about like a

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situation and who's going tohandle the situation the healed
or the unhealed person.
And every time I let myunhealed person take care of the
situation, I got to tell you Iwake up the next day with a lot
of regrets Not even regrets, butjust like, oh dang, that's not
even me, and an unhealed personcan find offense in pretty much
anything someone does.

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If you don't use your blinkerat a light, which I can't stand,
but that's me because I'm arunner and a biker and an
unhealed person is going to findextreme offense in that,
whereas I'm just like, okay, andagain I'm not here, I'm just
saying, like the littlest thingsor the biggest things an
unhealed person will findoffense in.
A healed person can understandthat actions of others again

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have nothing to do with me.
Do I want that person at thelight to use their blinker and
look both ways?
Because I am someone that usesa crosswalk, I am someone that
crosses the street on a run.
I've almost been hit by a carplenty of times because someone
did not look.
Yes, it is very frustrating,but I don't know what's going on
with that person in the car.
Maybe they were never taught touse their blinker, maybe they

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have never been a runner before,or a person that uses
crosswalks, or a biker in whichyou rely on people around you to
pay attention and look, ifyou've never been taught that,
how would you know?
If you've never been taught theimportance of a blinker, how
would you know?
Is it frustrating?
Yeah, do I want to lose my life?
I do not, but it's just a smallthing that people do that I can

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either take offense to and belike, oh my gosh, they're trying
to kill me, or just realizemaybe they were never taught,
maybe they were in a hurry,maybe they have so much on their
mind that, honestly, theyweren't even thinking about it.
Because I know I've done that.
I've been under a light and Idid not use my blinker and I
felt real bad.
I was like, oh my gosh, I'm sosorry, I know better and I knew
better and I fixed it.

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So where in your life can youtake more responsibility for
your own energy and what you'reputting out there?
Where in your life do you needto start putting things down and
realizing that others' actionsand words again are more about
them than you.
And where are you starting tonotice that it's you showing up

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to speak for you?
You, this beautiful human beingwho is working hard to be
better every single day and takeresponsibility?
You, I am speaking for me.
And where are there stillplaces in your life where you're
allowing society or an oldversion of you speak for you?
Make sure you stand on whatyou're saying and what you're

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doing.
Make sure you know who isspeaking for you and never, ever
, allow anyone else to speak foryou when you have the power to
do it for yourself.
Have a beautiful day.
I hope this thought resonated.
If not, maybe next week.
Bye.