Faith, Cord Cutting, and Zero Fucks

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Today we're taking a break from our series on lying to explore the liberating concepts of faith, cord cutting, and not giving a fuck anymore—where true freedom lives when we're tired of explaining ourselves or hoping others will finally see us.

• Faith isn't the kind you might have been forced to accept growing up, but the messy, grounded faith that chooses you before knowing the outcome
• True faith means saying yes to alignment and no to disrespect, even when your voice shakes
• Cord cutting recognizes that some connections aren't connections—they're chains that keep us bound
• Release relationships that no longer serve you with love and finality, whether they're exes, expired friendships, or family members who make you feel small
• Not caring what people think isn't rebellion—it's self-preservation
• Remember that no one is really thinking about you as much as you believe; everyone is caught up in their own lives
• You don't need to explain your healing or justify your boundaries to anyone
• The most authentic parts of yourself are the best parts; the edited version is harder to maintain
• Care deeply about your peace, joy and purpose rather than others' opinions

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, hey you.
Thanks for coming back.
This is Go Ask Sawyer.
Let's take a breath.
We're going to take a littlebit of pause away from the lying
.
This week we were going to talkabout why we lie in
relationships and what that does, but we're going to take a deep
breath and we're going to pauseand we're going to talk about

(00:21):
faith, cord cutting and notgiving a single fuck anymore.
This one is for the personwho's tired of holding on, tired
of explaining, tired of hopingpeople will finally see them,
respect them, choose them orstop draining them.
Today we're talking about faith, cord cutting and, like I said,

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not giving a single fuckanymore, because, honestly,
that's where the freedom lives.
This is where we are able tostep into who we are, and this
is one of those moments whereyou can feel your most free and
anything can happen.

(01:03):
I have been tested a lotrecently.
I've talked about this,whatever, and I'm just so done.
I am so done.
That's all I can say.
I am just so done, not done inthe sense of I'm giving up, but
I just do not care, I don't givea fuck, I don't want to know, I

(01:24):
don't want to be a part ofthings anymore.
So we are taking just a shortpause on our digging up our lies
and why we lie, and we aregoing to take maybe another one
of those weeks where we're goingto do some fun stuff.
Philippians 4, 6 to 7, do notbe anxious about anything, but
in every situation, by prayerand petition, with thanksgiving

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and present, by request to God,and the peace of God, which
transcends of all understanding,will guard your hearts and your
minds in Christ.
Let's get into our journaling.
Whatever you have in front ofyou journal note app, I'm going
to ask you to set your timer onyour phone and maybe even think
about what the theme of today isLetting go, having faith,

(02:08):
cutting cords, not caring.
Maybe take your three minutestoday and write about some
things that you wish you wouldhave more faith in.
Write about some things inwhich you're like I got to cut
this out of my life, I have gotto cut this out of my life.
Or just write about some thingswhere you're like I just don't
give a fuck anymore, I don'tcare, I don't care, I don't care
.
Okay, take a moment right now,hit pause, set that timer for

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three minutes and meet me backhere.
Welcome back.
How'd that feel Weird.
Good, let's start with faith,Not the kind you were maybe
forced to swallow growing up,not the pray it away or trust
God and ignore your gut kind.
I'm talking about real, messy,grounded faith, the kind that

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says I don't know what's next, Idon't know what God has for me,
but I know I'm not staying hereanymore.
Faith is choosing you beforethe outcome is granted.
That is so Choosing you beforethe outcome is granted.
Faith that is so Choosing youbefore the outcome is granted.
Faith is cutting the cordbefore you know where you're
going to land.

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Faith is saying yes to alignmentand no to disrespect, even if
your voice shakes.
I have one of those voices thatwhen I'm being disrespected and
I'm trying to stand up formyself, my voice will shake, I
will want to cry and I hate that.
I hate that.
I hate that I'm beingdisrespected and I'm trying to
stand up for myself, my voicewill shake, I will want to cry
and I hate that.
I hate that.
I hate that.
I hate that.
But I'm still learning to sayno.

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Even when I feel that way.
I have a note on my computerthat says leap and the net will
appear faith.
I have been living that way.
Now for the past, I would saythree months, maybe three and a
half, and nothing but greatnesshas come from every situation in
which I've done that.
Okay, so think about moments,think about things in your life

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in which you need to have morefaith.
Walking into a completely darkroom, knowing you're going to
find the light switch and notfall, oh, that's good.
I should try that All right.
Now let's talk cord cutting.
Some connections aren'tconnections, they're chains.
Let's be real.
Oh my gosh, let's be so real.

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Let's say it again Someconnections aren't connections,
they're chains.
And let's be real, it's hard towalk forward when you're still
spiritually dragging someone orsomething, or whatever it is,
behind you.
Cord cutting doesn't mean youhate them, it means you release
them.
I release you, you release theillusion, the story, the

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responsibility to fix what wasnever yours to hold in the first
place.
It's the moment you say I sendthis back with love, but it's
not mine anymore.
Your emotions, your feelings,your sadness, your bitterness,
your toxicity is not mineanymore, whether it's an ex, a

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friendship that expired monthsago, lifetimes ago, a family
member who only shows up to makeyou feel small.
Cut the cord with love, withfire and with finality, Think
about what are you holding sotight to?

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I saw this quote that one saidlike God, please, please, please
, please, let me let this go.
It's just so stressful.
And he replied open your handand let go.
You're the one holding on to it.
No one else, like you, controlyour thoughts, positive and
negative.
You control holding on tothings or just releasing them.

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Things or just releasing them.
And finally, let's talk aboutnot giving a fuck, because guess
what?
Not caring what people thinkisn't rebellion, it's
self-preservation, it'sself-love, it is self-caring and
at the end of the day, no oneis really thinking about you.
I think that's one of thecoolest things to think about,

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right, like when you're doingsomething or something happens,
whatever.
A lot of times we think thewhole world is looking at us, or
the whole world is thinkingabout us, or the whole world is
talking about us and, at the endof the day, no one is.
No one is, because everyone istoo caught up and too scared and
too in their own head aboutwhat is going on in their own
life.
Wear the outfit, do the dancehave going on in their own life.
Wear the outfit, do the dance.

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Have the stupid conversation.
Go somewhere all by yourself.
Try something brand new.
No one cares.
You don't have to explain yourhealing, you don't have to
justify your boundaries, youdon't have to shrink so someone
else feels comfortable.

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There's power in letting go ofthe performance and not editing
your soul just to be digestible.
I think about this, as inpictures also.
Right Like I have friends thateverything has to be like edited
right, but like, why Just postit, just do it, just say it If
it feels good.
What are you editing for?

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Are you editing how you show up?
Are you editing how you speak?
Are you editing how you look onsocial media?
Are you editing how you comeacross to certain groups of
people?
I promise you, the mostauthentic part of yourself is
the best part of yourself.
The edited part is harder tokeep up with.
Did I crop my picture last time?

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I got to do it the same way?
Was I super loud the last timeI met these people?
I should probably do it thesame way.
So when I say don't give a fuck,I don't mean stop caring, that
is not at all what I'm saying.
But I'm saying care more deeplyabout you.
Care deeply about not just likeanger or whatever, but care so

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deeply about your peace and yourjoy and your purpose that it
just oozes out everywhere you go.
Let everything else go Today.
Today is Sunday.
Today you get to choose to cutthe cord, to keep the faith and
to walk away with your head heldhigh from anything that you

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have healed, fromunapologetically, because when
you give fewer fucks, you allowmore room for freedom.
So, y'all, please remember,stay cute.
Freedom.
So, y'all, please remember,stay cute, stay loud, keep
dancing even when everyone iswatching.
Peace, y'all.
Let's talk about lives andrelationships next week.