April 20, 2025 • 13 mins
This journaling podcast focuses on worthiness and how to recognize your inherent value without external validation. Through guided exercises and personal reflections, we explore how to break free from patterns of seeking validation from people who don't choose us back.
• Bring your journal and something to write with, or use your notes app
• Set aside 15-20 minutes for reflection and journaling exercises
• Complete a three-minute free writing exercise to clear your mind
• Reflect on the guiding verse from Isaiah 41:10 and the concept "God already chose me"
• Consider how women are taught their worth is tied to serving others while men are taught to take up space
• Identify areas where you play small versus areas where you show up confidently
• Practice self-forgiveness for times you've given your power to people who didn't deserve it
• Complete the prompt: "If I fully believed in my worth, I would..."
• Embrace the "Horseman" card's message to spread good news and recognize possibilities
Stay cute, stay loud, keep dancing, even when everyone is watching.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Hey y'all, happy, happy Sunday.
Welcome to Go.
Ask Sawyer, this is my fifthtime trying to record this,
because my animals just do notwant to agree with me, but I
think I think we're on a roll.
So, since we're here, I'mreally excited.
This is the first officialpodcast of this journaling
(00:22):
series that we have Every Sunday.
When I post, you will need thesethings.
Number one you'll need yourjournal and something to write
with, or your notes app, becauseI know some people just don't
like to write, or maybe youwanna do a voice memo.
I am saying there is somethingso cathartic and beautiful about
(00:42):
pen to paper or even typing inyour notes, so I'm just going to
say that, but do what you needto do.
Again, you're showing up tothis podcast.
You're showing up for yourself.
The next thing you're going toneed is a three minute timer and
then just time.
I'm going to ask for maybe atleast 15 to 20 minutes of your
time, so make sure you have amoment when you can sit down and
(01:02):
just write and then listen andwrite.
So, to start us off, today, ourfocus is going to be worth
specifically worthiness, yourworthiness.
If you could pause the podcast,start your timer and for three
minutes.
This is your three minute timer.
I am just going to ask you towrite at least three pages, or
(01:25):
for three minutes, and when Isay pages like front, back front
is fine, or just three minutesnonstop.
And for those of you who thisis maybe your first time doing
this, you can write dear, writeyourself a letter, or write I
don't know over and over, orwrite lyrics to a song song, or
write this is stupid, or startjust naming things around your
(01:47):
house.
That's usually how I start.
So I'm going to ask you rightnow hit pause, start your three
minute timer, and I'll see youback here in a moment.
All right, so we did it.
I'm so proud of you and I hopeyou're proud of yourself.
The next thing I need you to dois put your hand on your heart
and either look up at the sky orclose your eyes, and I just
(02:08):
want you to say thank you.
Thank you to me for doing this,thank you for showing up for
myself, thank you for showing up.
You can always say your nametoo.
That makes me cry, for whateverreason, like whenever I say
thank you for showing up, jamie,like, I instantly get teary
eyed.
Our verse that's going to guideus today is Isaiah 41 10.
So do not fear, for I am withyou.
(02:28):
Do not be dismayed, for I amyour God.
I will strengthen you and helpyou.
I will uphold you with myrighteousness right now.
So, very dear friend of mine,when I was having issues with
like why won't anyone choose me?
And I was having so manyproblems with that, she said I
asked her, like, how does sheget through hard moments in her
(02:50):
life where she feels alone?
And she said God already choseme.
And that phrase has stuck withme for so long.
Like the people I chase, thethings I chase, the
opportunities I chase, and Ihave this spirit and again, this
is also, however you believe,universe spirit.
God, you have these people inyour corner that keep showing up
(03:14):
and choosing you and rootingfor you and for some reason, I
cannot, or I'm still struggling.
This is the work, right.
I'm still struggling to choosemyself because I have so many
people in my corner choosing mealready.
Why do I keep chasing thingsthat are not for me?
And I saw this quote it saidsomeone said why do I keep
(03:35):
choosing people who don't chooseme?
And the therapist said it'sbecause you're still trying to
earn a kind of love you neverfelt safe in and that, like man
that hit me hard, like I, amsearching for something I've
never had.
I'm searching to feel safe whenI feel safe with myself, but so
(03:56):
often I abandon and discard me.
So in today, we're focusing onhow do we truly feel worthy?
So here's the sentence that atthe end of our podcast we're
going to write about If I fullybelieved in my own worth, I
would.
What would you do different?
How would you show up different?
(04:16):
How would you act different?
How would you speak your truthdifferently?
If you truly believed in yourworth, how would you show up
different?
How would money look differentto you?
How would money look differentto you?
How would relationships lookdifferent to you Jobs Speaking
up If you truly believed in yourworth?
Women are taught so often from avery young age that we are
(04:39):
supposed to.
Our worth is in serving,playing down, taking care of
other people, being soft and notruffling feathers, which is why
, when we do opposite of thosethings, society sometimes views
us as aggressive, too much, tooloud.
We don't care about others whenreally no, it's because I feel
(05:00):
worthy.
Women are taught that theirworth is tied to how they are in
relationship to other people.
Yet men seem to be taught thatthey automatically get to take
the lead, they automaticallydeserve the rights of a leader,
they automatically deserve tohave light shined on them, they
automatically deserve to betaken care of and they
(05:22):
automatically deserve to be loud, and I cannot stand that.
That's a different podcast.
But when we think about worth,when we think about who we are
and why we stay in jobs I'vetalked about this before why do
we stay in jobs?
Oh my gosh, like yeah, it'sreally hard to find another job
sometimes and it's really hardto put yourself out there and
(05:43):
write on your resume likeeverything you're worthy of.
But If we truly understood howgreat we were, the light that we
had inside of us, how bright weshine, at the end of the day,
no one is really qualified forany of the jobs.
Now, yes, we have master'sdegrees, qualifications I get
that.
I'm not downplaying any of thatstuff.
(06:04):
But how many people do you seein positions where you're like
how did they even get there?
I had to work my butt off andgo to school and get all these
certificates and I'm still noteven where I want to be.
Yet this person didn't do anyof that and they're up there.
It's this like blind confidence,this blind feeling so
optimistic about who you are,this delusional idea of I am
(06:29):
worth it, not like an arrogance,but like someone who just knows
their worth.
And that's what I really wantyou to think about today as
you're writing.
Think about the last moment,and actually I want you to do
this.
I'm going to say two things,and I want you just to pause the
podcast and write it down.
When is the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
(06:50):
Pause the podcast, write itdown.
When's the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
Pause the podcast, write itdown.
When's the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
Go ahead, welcome back the nexttime.
I want you to pause.
I want you to think about thelast time someone made you feel
that you were not worth it, thelast time someone made you feel
like you were not worth it.
I want you to write down, like,maybe, either the event that
(07:13):
happened or what they said orthe feelings in it.
And it's going to feel grossand ucky and I completely
understand because I've beensitting in a lot of my own
puddles of feelings lately, butsit in it.
Okay, pause, and I want you towrite about that now.
Okay, welcome back.
I just want you to reflect onthose two moments, and I'm going
(07:34):
to say this and I've had toswallow some big pills and big
horse pills, but, like when Iwas feeling my most worthy, my
validation was not attached toanyone.
And in the moments that I wasmade to feel that I was not
worthy were moments where I putmy needing to be seen or
(07:55):
validated on someone else.
So I really want us to reflecton, like, where are we
downplaying different areas inour life?
Like, where are there areaswhere we're playing small or
we're like I don't know, likeeven this podcast?
I don't know what I'm doing,I'm just doing it Like there are
so many things, like I keepgetting information in my brain
(08:18):
about ideas I want and I'm like,nah, like literally right away,
I sabotage it.
Nah, I can't make that happen.
That's silly.
Who do?
I think I am Like, I amliterally telling myself, even
though these ideas are cominginto my head, which are from
somewhere, that I am not worthy.
I am telling myself that.
So where are there areas inyour life that you're
downplaying and where are thereareas in your life that you do
(08:42):
not even look for validation,like you do not give a fuck
about anyone's two cents, andthen think about how those two
areas are different.
Okay, so what's area you playdown, play in, and what is an
area that you just do not give afuck about?
Maybe pause here and take a fewminutes and journal.
All right, welcome back.
(09:03):
I want you, in this next moment,to think about how can you
accept responsibility in thosetimes when you have given your
power and worth to someone who,someone or something who did not
deserve it, and I want you to.
We're gonna do it again.
Put your hand on your heart andsay I forgive you.
I'm gonna use my name.
(09:23):
I forgive you, jamie, forgiving your power to someone
that did not deserve it.
I forgive you for staying inplaces you did not deserve to be
.
When I talk like that to myself,sometimes I can start to see
like the younger version of mesitting down, like looking at me
, like you know that inner childwork like choose me, choose me,
(09:46):
like, and I'm finally choosingme.
I'm apologizing to myself andI'm finally choosing me.
I'm apologizing to myself.
I'm apologizing to myself fornot showing up for me the way I
want other people to show up forme, and I think that's the
hardest part of all, becauseit's no one else's fault.
People are going to move andact how they are because that's
(10:10):
who they are.
And if I can't for my own self,see it and feel it and be like
I don't want this, why do westay?
Relationships, marriages,environments, jobs.
I know it's comfortable, I lovecomfort, but guess what?
When I'm comfortable, I gainweight and I get lazy.
We just don't grow.
(10:30):
But this is about you.
This is, at the end of the day,about you and how you show up
for you and how you loveyourself.
So, as we come to the end of mypodcast and the focus today of
feeling worthy, I hope you havehad a moment to kind of reflect
on just again areas of your lifewhere you play small and areas
(10:52):
where you're big and beautifuland bold and loud, and what is
the difference between the twoand how can you take that big
boldness and apply it to thatother part?
So right before I started thefirst recording not the fifth
one, the first one I pulled acard and we have the horseman
(11:13):
herald of change and it saysgood news.
Caution.
Herald of change.
When the horseman appears, heis inviting you to spread the
good news.
Everyone already knows the badnews, don't we all?
Your task is to point out thebeautiful when others only see
the ugly.
Note the possible, no matterhow implausible it may seem.
(11:34):
This does not mean becominggiddy or blindly optimistic, but
rather reminding yourself thatevery storm cloud has a silver
lining.
Become a herald of the positive.
Put away the attitude, the direpredictions, the dreadful
expectations about the world orabout your life.
Declare the arrival of a newand better.
(11:55):
You Proclaim that you haverisen from the realms of the
dead, woken from the long anddreadful slumber and are back on
the world stage.
The show is on again.
The horseman cautions you tonot allow your exuberance to
become hollow or trivial.
Be sure that there is asubstance to the news you spread
and you're willing to live upto the expectations you raise.
(12:18):
The world will welcome you withopen arms as you share an
uplifting message.
How can we turn things intopositive Looking at the bright
side of things yourself?
This series is really about youshowing up for you.
This series is about feeling soworthy of who you are that
(12:38):
you're able to move and buildthe relationships you've always
wanted, and I'm going to sharemy if I believe with you before
we end.
If I fully believed in my worthand power, I would not hold back
about what I put out into theworld.
I would use all of myheartaches and make a crap ton
of money, like Taylor Swift, andI would leave situations that
(12:59):
made me feel bad as soon as theymade me feel bad.
I would be so delulue aboutunderstanding the power I have
within.
I would move like no one couldstop me.
I would wear a crown every damnday.
So to that, friends, that ishow I would move.
That's how I'm practicingmoving this last few weeks and
(13:20):
I've definitely felt like, oh,I'm doing too much.
And then I'm like, no, I'mdoing too much, and then I'm
like, no, I'm not, no, I'm not,no, I'm not, no, I'm not.
Show up for yourself.
As we end the podcast, I wantyou to set your timer for five
minutes and I just want you toreflect on your thoughts today,
your thoughts of worthiness.
Do you really feel worthy inall parts of your life?
Do you show up for you?
(13:44):
Where are there places again,you're still not showing up?
And where are there places thatyou show up fully Till next
Sunday?
Stay cute, stay loud, keepdancing, even when everyone is
watching.
Peace.
Hey y'all, happy, happy Sunday.
Welcome to Go.
Ask Sawyer, this is my fifthtime trying to record this,
because my animals just do notwant to agree with me, but I
think I think we're on a roll.
So, since we're here, I'mreally excited.
This is the first officialpodcast of this journaling
(00:22):
series that we have Every Sunday.
When I post, you will need thesethings.
Number one you'll need yourjournal and something to write
with, or your notes app, becauseI know some people just don't
like to write, or maybe youwanna do a voice memo.
I am saying there is somethingso cathartic and beautiful about
(00:42):
pen to paper or even typing inyour notes, so I'm just going to
say that, but do what you needto do.
Again, you're showing up tothis podcast.
You're showing up for yourself.
The next thing you're going toneed is a three minute timer and
then just time.
I'm going to ask for maybe atleast 15 to 20 minutes of your
time, so make sure you have amoment when you can sit down and
(01:02):
just write and then listen andwrite.
So, to start us off, today, ourfocus is going to be worth
specifically worthiness, yourworthiness.
If you could pause the podcast,start your timer and for three
minutes.
This is your three minute timer.
I am just going to ask you towrite at least three pages, or
(01:25):
for three minutes, and when Isay pages like front, back front
is fine, or just three minutesnonstop.
And for those of you who thisis maybe your first time doing
this, you can write dear, writeyourself a letter, or write I
don't know over and over, orwrite lyrics to a song song, or
write this is stupid, or startjust naming things around your
(01:47):
house.
That's usually how I start.
So I'm going to ask you rightnow hit pause, start your three
minute timer, and I'll see youback here in a moment.
All right, so we did it.
I'm so proud of you and I hopeyou're proud of yourself.
The next thing I need you to dois put your hand on your heart
and either look up at the sky orclose your eyes, and I just
(02:08):
want you to say thank you.
Thank you to me for doing this,thank you for showing up for
myself, thank you for showing up.
You can always say your nametoo.
That makes me cry, for whateverreason, like whenever I say
thank you for showing up, jamie,like, I instantly get teary
eyed.
Our verse that's going to guideus today is Isaiah 41 10.
So do not fear, for I am withyou.
(02:28):
Do not be dismayed, for I amyour God.
I will strengthen you and helpyou.
I will uphold you with myrighteousness right now.
So, very dear friend of mine,when I was having issues with
like why won't anyone choose me?
And I was having so manyproblems with that, she said I
asked her, like, how does sheget through hard moments in her
(02:50):
life where she feels alone?
And she said God already choseme.
And that phrase has stuck withme for so long.
Like the people I chase, thethings I chase, the
opportunities I chase, and Ihave this spirit and again, this
is also, however you believe,universe spirit.
God, you have these people inyour corner that keep showing up
(03:14):
and choosing you and rootingfor you and for some reason, I
cannot, or I'm still struggling.
This is the work, right.
I'm still struggling to choosemyself because I have so many
people in my corner choosing mealready.
Why do I keep chasing thingsthat are not for me?
And I saw this quote it saidsomeone said why do I keep
(03:35):
choosing people who don't chooseme?
And the therapist said it'sbecause you're still trying to
earn a kind of love you neverfelt safe in and that, like man
that hit me hard, like I, amsearching for something I've
never had.
I'm searching to feel safe whenI feel safe with myself, but so
(03:56):
often I abandon and discard me.
So in today, we're focusing onhow do we truly feel worthy?
So here's the sentence that atthe end of our podcast we're
going to write about If I fullybelieved in my own worth, I
would.
What would you do different?
How would you show up different?
(04:16):
How would you act different?
How would you speak your truthdifferently?
If you truly believed in yourworth, how would you show up
different?
How would money look differentto you?
How would money look differentto you?
How would relationships lookdifferent to you Jobs Speaking
up If you truly believed in yourworth?
Women are taught so often from avery young age that we are
(04:39):
supposed to.
Our worth is in serving,playing down, taking care of
other people, being soft and notruffling feathers, which is why
, when we do opposite of thosethings, society sometimes views
us as aggressive, too much, tooloud.
We don't care about others whenreally no, it's because I feel
(05:00):
worthy.
Women are taught that theirworth is tied to how they are in
relationship to other people.
Yet men seem to be taught thatthey automatically get to take
the lead, they automaticallydeserve the rights of a leader,
they automatically deserve tohave light shined on them, they
automatically deserve to betaken care of and they
(05:22):
automatically deserve to be loud, and I cannot stand that.
That's a different podcast.
But when we think about worth,when we think about who we are
and why we stay in jobs I'vetalked about this before why do
we stay in jobs?
Oh my gosh, like yeah, it'sreally hard to find another job
sometimes and it's really hardto put yourself out there and
(05:43):
write on your resume likeeverything you're worthy of.
But If we truly understood howgreat we were, the light that we
had inside of us, how bright weshine, at the end of the day,
no one is really qualified forany of the jobs.
Now, yes, we have master'sdegrees, qualifications I get
that.
I'm not downplaying any of thatstuff.
(06:04):
But how many people do you seein positions where you're like
how did they even get there?
I had to work my butt off andgo to school and get all these
certificates and I'm still noteven where I want to be.
Yet this person didn't do anyof that and they're up there.
It's this like blind confidence,this blind feeling so
optimistic about who you are,this delusional idea of I am
(06:29):
worth it, not like an arrogance,but like someone who just knows
their worth.
And that's what I really wantyou to think about today as
you're writing.
Think about the last moment,and actually I want you to do
this.
I'm going to say two things,and I want you just to pause the
podcast and write it down.
When is the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
(06:50):
Pause the podcast, write itdown.
When's the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
Pause the podcast, write itdown.
When's the last time you trulybelieved in yourself?
Go ahead, welcome back the nexttime.
I want you to pause.
I want you to think about thelast time someone made you feel
that you were not worth it, thelast time someone made you feel
like you were not worth it.
I want you to write down, like,maybe, either the event that
(07:13):
happened or what they said orthe feelings in it.
And it's going to feel grossand ucky and I completely
understand because I've beensitting in a lot of my own
puddles of feelings lately, butsit in it.
Okay, pause, and I want you towrite about that now.
Okay, welcome back.
I just want you to reflect onthose two moments, and I'm going
(07:34):
to say this and I've had toswallow some big pills and big
horse pills, but, like when Iwas feeling my most worthy, my
validation was not attached toanyone.
And in the moments that I wasmade to feel that I was not
worthy were moments where I putmy needing to be seen or
(07:55):
validated on someone else.
So I really want us to reflecton, like, where are we
downplaying different areas inour life?
Like, where are there areaswhere we're playing small or
we're like I don't know, likeeven this podcast?
I don't know what I'm doing,I'm just doing it Like there are
so many things, like I keepgetting information in my brain
(08:18):
about ideas I want and I'm like,nah, like literally right away,
I sabotage it.
Nah, I can't make that happen.
That's silly.
Who do?
I think I am Like, I amliterally telling myself, even
though these ideas are cominginto my head, which are from
somewhere, that I am not worthy.
I am telling myself that.
So where are there areas inyour life that you're
downplaying and where are thereareas in your life that you do
(08:42):
not even look for validation,like you do not give a fuck
about anyone's two cents, andthen think about how those two
areas are different.
Okay, so what's area you playdown, play in, and what is an
area that you just do not give afuck about?
Maybe pause here and take a fewminutes and journal.
All right, welcome back.
(09:03):
I want you, in this next moment,to think about how can you
accept responsibility in thosetimes when you have given your
power and worth to someone who,someone or something who did not
deserve it, and I want you to.
We're gonna do it again.
Put your hand on your heart andsay I forgive you.
I'm gonna use my name.
(09:23):
I forgive you, jamie, forgiving your power to someone
that did not deserve it.
I forgive you for staying inplaces you did not deserve to be
.
When I talk like that to myself,sometimes I can start to see
like the younger version of mesitting down, like looking at me
, like you know that inner childwork like choose me, choose me,
(09:46):
like, and I'm finally choosingme.
I'm apologizing to myself andI'm finally choosing me.
I'm apologizing to myself.
I'm apologizing to myself fornot showing up for me the way I
want other people to show up forme, and I think that's the
hardest part of all, becauseit's no one else's fault.
People are going to move andact how they are because that's
(10:10):
who they are.
And if I can't for my own self,see it and feel it and be like
I don't want this, why do westay?
Relationships, marriages,environments, jobs.
I know it's comfortable, I lovecomfort, but guess what?
When I'm comfortable, I gainweight and I get lazy.
We just don't grow.
(10:30):
But this is about you.
This is, at the end of the day,about you and how you show up
for you and how you loveyourself.
So, as we come to the end of mypodcast and the focus today of
feeling worthy, I hope you havehad a moment to kind of reflect
on just again areas of your lifewhere you play small and areas
(10:52):
where you're big and beautifuland bold and loud, and what is
the difference between the twoand how can you take that big
boldness and apply it to thatother part?
So right before I started thefirst recording not the fifth
one, the first one I pulled acard and we have the horseman
(11:13):
herald of change and it saysgood news.
Caution.
Herald of change.
When the horseman appears, heis inviting you to spread the
good news.
Everyone already knows the badnews, don't we all?
Your task is to point out thebeautiful when others only see
the ugly.
Note the possible, no matterhow implausible it may seem.
(11:34):
This does not mean becominggiddy or blindly optimistic, but
rather reminding yourself thatevery storm cloud has a silver
lining.
Become a herald of the positive.
Put away the attitude, the direpredictions, the dreadful
expectations about the world orabout your life.
Declare the arrival of a newand better.
(11:55):
You Proclaim that you haverisen from the realms of the
dead, woken from the long anddreadful slumber and are back on
the world stage.
The show is on again.
The horseman cautions you tonot allow your exuberance to
become hollow or trivial.
Be sure that there is asubstance to the news you spread
and you're willing to live upto the expectations you raise.
(12:18):
The world will welcome you withopen arms as you share an
uplifting message.
How can we turn things intopositive Looking at the bright
side of things yourself?
This series is really about youshowing up for you.
This series is about feeling soworthy of who you are that
(12:38):
you're able to move and buildthe relationships you've always
wanted, and I'm going to sharemy if I believe with you before
we end.
If I fully believed in my worthand power, I would not hold back
about what I put out into theworld.
I would use all of myheartaches and make a crap ton
of money, like Taylor Swift, andI would leave situations that
(12:59):
made me feel bad as soon as theymade me feel bad.
I would be so delulue aboutunderstanding the power I have
within.
I would move like no one couldstop me.
I would wear a crown every damnday.
So to that, friends, that ishow I would move.
That's how I'm practicingmoving this last few weeks and
(13:20):
I've definitely felt like, oh,I'm doing too much.
And then I'm like, no, I'mdoing too much, and then I'm
like, no, I'm not, no, I'm not,no, I'm not, no, I'm not.
Show up for yourself.
As we end the podcast, I wantyou to set your timer for five
minutes and I just want you toreflect on your thoughts today,
your thoughts of worthiness.
Do you really feel worthy inall parts of your life?
Do you show up for you?
(13:44):
Where are there places again,you're still not showing up?
And where are there places thatyou show up fully Till next
Sunday?
Stay cute, stay loud, keepdancing, even when everyone is
watching.
Peace.
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