September 14, 2023 • 25 mins
Do you like being alone? Are you feeling lonely because you are alone? Hi, I'm your host, Lyvita Brooks, and this episode of Hanging Out with Jesus Podcast is all about finding strength in solitude and nurturing an empowering relationship with yourself. We'll discuss how being alone can offer opportunities for personal and spiritual growth. We'll also talk about the difference between being alone and being lonely.
As we transition into the second part of the episode, we'll delve deeper into the importance of developing a healthy relationship with yourself, with Christ as your guide. I'll share four key suggestions on establishing this vital bond and challenge you to spend time alone with yourself and God every day. We'll also talk about the transformative power of prayer and the resources available to you for spiritual growth. So whether you've been wrestling with feelings of loneliness, or yearning for ways to embrace your alone time, this episode offers a fresh perspective and practical suggestions. So join us now as we intentionally hang out with Jesus, because the journey is so much better when we do it together in Christ.
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· TheHill.com
· 15 People Who Chose To Stay Single by Elizabeth Yuko
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lyvita (00:00):
Welcome to Hanging Out with Jesus Podcast, where we
equip the Saints for ministry bybringing you tips, interviews,
inspiration and information onhow to live intentionally and
daily in Christ.
For more resources, includingyour free newsletter, visit
HangingOutWithJesusPodcastcom orclick the link in the show
(00:22):
notes.
Hi, I'm Lyvita Brooks.
Author, bible teacher, founderof the Me Project Academy and
your host.
Thanks for supporting thisministry and rating and
commenting on the blog and alsoon whatever podcast platform
you're listening, because thenit makes this feel more like a
(00:45):
conversation.
If this is your first time,welcome.
This is episode 84.
Our focus is the differencebetween being alone versus being
lonely.
Are they the same?
Any advantages?
(01:05):
What does the statistics say onthis topic?
How can even knowing thisinformation about being alone
versus being lonely be importantto me as a believer, and how
does it inform me livingintentionally and daily?
(01:27):
Well, that more is coming upNow come walk with me where we
intentionally and daily hang outwith Jesus In ministry news.
I like to share a bit ofhistory today, because our
episode has to do with beingalone, which isn't for everyone
(01:52):
noise living with other people,like your parents or your
brother and sister or yourfriends.
Some folks choose to be singleand live a full life?
Did you know Susan B Anthonychose to not get married or have
children because being singleallowed her to speak or campaign
(02:15):
for women's suffrage withouthaving to deal with caring for a
family of her own?
She was quoted as saying I'msure that no man could ever have
made me happier than I havebeen.
Did you know that Oprah Winfreydidn't marry Stedman Graham
(02:35):
because, as she told PeopleMagazine in 2019, they would not
have stayed married?
And she says she doesn't regretnot getting married Not getting
married or having children?
She said The Oprah WinfreyLeadership Academy for Girls in
South Africa that has fulfilledher in ways that is best for her
(03:02):
maternally.
Now, when you think aboutformer Secretary of State
Condoleezza Rice, she made thestatement back in 2011 that the
fact is you don't get married inan abstract.
You find someone that you liketo be married to.
That's a good point, and I'dlike to add, you like to get
(03:25):
married to someone whom you loveand they love you.
Okay, and together y'all wantto spend the rest of your lives
without either of you trying tochange that person into someone
that you've never been designedto be.
If God's designed you to besingle for life.
(03:47):
Do so and embrace every momentof it.
Don't let the world dictate toyou who they think you should be
, or your mother who's buggingyou for grandkids.
Know that God's got a purpose,hope and future for your life
and, during your singleness,explore and participate in being
(04:10):
single.
This is a joy.
Now, if you are going through aseason of becoming or being a
widow or divorce, don't becomediscouraged.
Yeah, you gotta grieve.
Yeah, yeah, she gotta grieve,but remember this is a time for
you to spend time in the arms ofJesus like never before.
(04:33):
You want to stay close to God'sword.
You'll find out just howawesome, loved and powerful you
are just by being along with theLord.
Embrace this time God's got you.
What's happening in the MeProject Academy?
(04:56):
Well, saints, I just want youto know that right now I've been
doing a reset.
It's in the area of my writing.
I've been on vacation, I'vebeen on my uncle, I've been
doing all sorts of things likegetting back on a plane, and you
know my writing has been offtrack and I'm sure it also has
(05:24):
to do with you know my passion.
My excitement for writingbecame kind of dull because
everything else was likecrowding it out, and I know some
of you might find that thesummer months or unexpected
events can throw you off track.
Well, once these things beginto calm down, then it's time to
(05:48):
reset.
It's time to get back on track,back on your schedule, and for
me, they had to deal aroundwriting.
I find that having a schedule inmy life with routines has been
the saving grace of God keepingme.
Although my schedule changes,my routines haven't Only the
times in which I do them.
I'm thinking that because I putso much time into being along
(06:12):
with the Lord and finding outwhat the best time of day for me
to do certain things, likewhat's the best time of the day
for me to write?
What's the best time of the dayfor me to do podcasts?
What's the best time of the dayfor me to make phone calls.
Well, I've learned these thingsthrough spending time with the
Lord.
(06:32):
I've learned these thingsthrough trial and error as well.
So, saints, if ever you get thechance to be along with the
Lord for any length of time,take it, embrace it.
Don't let the things of theworld crowd out your time.
It's easy to let it happen, Iknow, but we have to stay
(06:54):
focused by continuing to do ourschedules and our routines.
I've also found that it's havinga long time with the Lord that
he nudges me to get back ontrack, and right now he's been
nudging me to get back into mywriting.
Y'all I remember this.
(07:15):
One day I was just talking tothe Lord and I was just writing.
The next thing I knew I foundthat I was four pages deep and
enjoying writing poems andstories, so I did a reset.
Now, if you're at this point inyour life where you're trying
(07:35):
to do a reset, where you have aministry but you kind of let it
slack and been doing it, you'reready to move, push it forward,
to make it a business, theny'all, I have what's called
fortified coaching program andit helps you to reset.
(07:58):
Now it also helps those whohave just realized that okay,
god, I know what you called meto do.
What's the next step?
Well, it's also for you,because we all have to start at
the beginning.
The Fortified Coaching Programis your foundation.
(08:22):
It's a program to design, tobuild your foundation so that
you can sprout wherever you needto sprout.
Okay, registration is gonnabegin in the end of this month,
september, and I put the link inthe show notes and it's also on
the webpage.
(08:43):
But, saints, god has called youto something that this world
needs for just for such a timeas this.
It's time to set the foundationso that you can go forward.
Check out Fortified CoachingProgram.
And now there's something elsethat's happening in the Me
(09:04):
Project Academy and it's calledNugget's Book Club.
It's for the month of October.
Saints, being alone is great.
It's where the idea originatedfor this book club.
So now, being in community isgreat, also because it's where I
grow with others as a writerand enjoy books.
(09:25):
You gotta have a balancing inlife.
You know what I'm saying.
So I hope you join me, becauseregistration is gonna end in
September 20th, so you need toregister as soon as you can.
Just come, you know, I can'twait to see what we're gonna do
with the poetry slam, you know.
So come register.
(09:46):
It's open until September 20th,and also I put information in
the show notes for you.
So, saints, I hope you join mefor Fortified Coaching Program
and for Nugget's Book Club.
There is a lot of stigma goingaround about living alone and
(10:11):
being lonely, but the problem isthat people are attaching the
stigma to, I think, the samething.
Living alone is different thanbeing lonely.
The reason I bring this up isbecause I've noticed a few
people in my circle sayingthings like girl, you shouldn't
eat by yourself, you shouldn'tgo to the movies by yourself.
(10:34):
Girl, you know you wanna bemarried.
What's that about living byyourself?
What Something must be wrongwith that person if they haven't
got married yet?
Come on, saint, seriously, allthat should be over with.
A person should be able to livealone, be alone and enjoy life.
(11:02):
You know, I did some reading onsome statistics.
Do you know that the number ofAmericans, according to this
article I read in www.
TheHillcom, says that the numberof Americans who have not
married by the age of 40 hassoared from 10% to 25% in 2021?
(11:23):
And y'all, there's this thingcalled gray divorce.
That's the rising rate ofmarriages that dissolve after
age 50.
It has doubled since 1990.
There are more people gettingdivorced after the age of 50.
(11:43):
That's interesting.
And also, nearly two-fifths ofAmericans are unpartnered.
That means they're neithermarried or cohabitating.
I wonder if it's because peopledon't understand the difference
between being alone and beinglonely.
Some people may think thatbeing alone means you are lonely
(12:06):
, when in essence, it's twodifferent things.
Hey, you could be hanging outwith your friends and feel
lonely.
That's what I'm saying.
It's two different things.
There are people who choose tolive alone.
There are people who are forcedto live alone.
There are people who don't havea choice but live alone.
(12:29):
And there are people who arejust happy that they don't have
to deal with someone else's mess.
Oh, saints, there are also booksout there about living alone,
living single and enjoying it.
There's one called Wintering byCatherine May.
(12:49):
There's another one calledSierra Meltzer, called Date
Yourself a practical guide tobuilding self-confidence and
learning to love who you are thechange you need.
I checked out some reviews anddescriptions.
Sounds interesting, so ifyou've read it or think about
reading it, let me know what youthink about it.
(13:12):
Support at www.
TheMeProjectAcademycom.
I appreciate it.
Now, before I go any further,I'd like to clear up something.
We're talking about being aloneversus being lonely, and I want
it clear that no follower ofChrist Jesus is ever alone.
(13:32):
You are the temple of the HolySpirit, you are in Christ, and
since all three are one, god,the Father, god the Son, god,
the Holy Spirit, the Godhead, ishanging out with you all the
time.
Believers, you are never alone.
God said he will never leaveyou or forsake you.
(13:53):
True, our eyeballs can't detectseeing in the spiritual realm
right now, but hey, the Word ofGod confirms that the Lord is
here with us.
He's here with us, god said.
He never leave us for seconds.
I know some of you have beenthrough some mess, like I've
(14:15):
been through.
Guess what?
Believe it, god is real.
Okay, let's, let's do somedebunking of this language by
bugging a clear definition frommy dictionary of what being
alone means versus being alone.
I'm sorry, let's say it againwhat being lonely means versus
(14:37):
being alone?
Okay, so being lonely, that'san emotion.
It's an emotional state whereyou are feeling alone or
disconnected from others, evenif you are with a group of
people.
Loneliness expresses the painof being alone.
It describes a feeling ofsadness, a tribute to not being
(15:01):
or not having connection.
It stems from feeling like ourtrue self is not seen or
understood, either by others orwithin ourselves.
Being alone is a state of beingPhysically by yourself and
saints.
I found this definition in anarticle that I want to share.
(15:24):
It's it is equating equatingbeing alone with solitude.
And guess what they say aboutsolitude?
Solitude is being alone andthat Solitude expresses the
glory of being alone.
Can you believe it?
The glory of being alone.
(15:45):
Being alone is craved by someand feared by others.
It's being content in your owncompany.
Here's the key being lonely andbeing alone.
While they all have to do withour relationship with ourselves.
(16:06):
Are you afraid of being byyourself or do you look forward
to it?
And I don't mean being alone towatch television and eat food,
or or do your own thing.
No, no, no.
I'm talking about being quietwith yourself, dancing with just
(16:29):
you, enjoying having fun withjust you.
Having a healthy relationshipwith yourself is just as
important as having a healthyrelationship with friends and
family.
It's called balance.
Y'all, it's a balance.
Having a healthy relationshipwith yourself is going to be a
(16:55):
daily practice.
We need to take time to enjoywho we are, and you do that in
Christ.
So how do you do that?
How can you be alone in Christ?
How can you enjoy whom you are?
(17:18):
How can you enjoy being in thepresence of God?
Remember, saints, I said to youthat, as believers, we're never
alone because we're in Christ,because the Holy Spirit's in us.
So here's some suggestions Ihave for you on how to be alone,
how to enjoy your long timewith yourself and your God.
(17:46):
So I have four suggestions.
One recognize who's talking inyour head.
Yeah, all right.
If the thoughts are negative,call them out and toss some
scripture on them.
You know to cast them, to makethem flee.
That means, if you hear, youknow you don't have time for
(18:09):
this mess.
Or you hear, girl, you arealready too pretty to waste your
time or spend time withyourself.
Saints, speak boldly and withconfidence.
1 Corinthians 6-9 to 20 says mybody is the temple of the Holy
Spirit, and if Jesus thought Iwas good enough to die for and
(18:32):
send the Holy Spirit to be in me, the least I can do is get to
know him, who was also involvedwith the making of me.
So, saints, recognize istalking in your head.
Number two keep promises toyourself.
If you said you're going to eatthe ice cream after you finish
(18:54):
your work, then eat the icecream after you finish your work
.
If you said you purchased an RVonce you retire, why don't do
so?
My point is whatever you havetold yourself, promise yourself,
then do it.
Number three acknowledge whereyou are.
This is a good one.
(19:15):
So take time to make peace withyour past and come to terms
with your reality.
You see, if you left, if youleft an abusive situation, give
yourself some time, but forgivethe person who has abused you
(19:37):
and then accept that right nowyou are in a one bedroom
apartment with your friendssleeping on the couch, when you
just left a two story house witha view of the ocean.
You need to know how and whyyou got where you are and accept
(19:58):
that.
Then it's time to say well,lord, what can I do to change it
?
Number four this is this oneeveryone should know Study God's
word.
Being alone gives you time todig into God's word for
direction, comfort, love,assurance, peace, forgiveness,
(20:20):
hope and a future.
Like Jeremiah 2911 says, it wasJesus custom to go to a
solitary place to commune withGod.
There he was alone.
There he fell a ship with thefather.
There he remembered who he is.
There he received instruction.
(20:41):
There he became refreshed,restored and revitalized in his
mind, his being.
So take those four suggestionsacknowledge who's talking in
your head, keep promises toyourself, acknowledge where you
are and study God's word.
These four things will help youhave a healthy relationship
(21:05):
with yourself and develop adeeper relationship with your
Lord.
There are so many advantages tobeing alone or living alone.
I just got four.
I mean, I'm sorry, I just gotfive.
One a long time maybe all youneed to get back on track to
thinking clearly and feelingbetter about yourself.
(21:26):
Two it increases creativity.
Even small amounts can have bigeffects on your productivity
and create and creativeabilities.
Four strengthen yourrelationship with others.
Wow, when you take the time tobe alone, getting to know enough
about yourself and who you areand who you are in Christ, ah,
(21:52):
you can be comfortable enough tobe around others and enjoy them
without trying to be who theythink you should be.
Ha ha ha, oh, yes.
And number four being alonemakes you comfortable in your
own skin.
(22:13):
And number five I like thisquote when you find yourself on
your own, take the time tounwind and recharge, cause it's
good for your soul.
Ha, ha, ha ha Say.
I challenge you for the nextcouple of weeks to block off a
long time, be intentional aboutit and do it daily.
(22:35):
Where you are not engaged withtexting, chatting and talking
with others.
It's time to take time, tospend time with yourself, really
getting to know you and Christ.
Being alone is a good thing andwhen you think about being
lonely, y'all.
(22:56):
That's an emotion.
It's an emotion, and if youfeel that emotion, then you
share that with the Lord.
But as you're sharing it,remember you're not alone.
You are not alone, cause he'sright there listening.
He just wants you to get quietenough so you can hear his voice
(23:19):
.
Alright, saints, let's pray.
Thank you, father, god, for ourbodies that were made in the
image of you.
Here's how to guard our time,our long time, with you and
continue growing in the wisdomand knowledge of who you are and
(23:40):
whom you made us to be in you.
For as in Jesus' blessed name,we pray with much thanksgiving.
Amen and Amen.
Thanks for listening.
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(24:02):
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(24:23):
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Also information on Nugget'sBook Club and the Fortified
Coaching Program, and so muchmore.
All this and more can be found,including my contact
information, on www.
hangingoutwithjesuspodcastcom orthe show notes.
So, until we meet again on theairways, intentionally and daily
(24:50):
hang out with Jesus.
Thanks.
Welcome to Hanging Out with Jesus Podcast, where we
equip the Saints for ministry bybringing you tips, interviews,
inspiration and information onhow to live intentionally and
daily in Christ.
For more resources, includingyour free newsletter, visit
HangingOutWithJesusPodcastcom orclick the link in the show
(00:22):
notes.
Hi, I'm Lyvita Brooks.
Author, bible teacher, founderof the Me Project Academy and
your host.
Thanks for supporting thisministry and rating and
commenting on the blog and alsoon whatever podcast platform
you're listening, because thenit makes this feel more like a
(00:45):
conversation.
If this is your first time,welcome.
This is episode 84.
Our focus is the differencebetween being alone versus being
lonely.
Are they the same?
Any advantages?
(01:05):
What does the statistics say onthis topic?
How can even knowing thisinformation about being alone
versus being lonely be importantto me as a believer, and how
does it inform me livingintentionally and daily?
(01:27):
Well, that more is coming upNow come walk with me where we
intentionally and daily hang outwith Jesus In ministry news.
I like to share a bit ofhistory today, because our
episode has to do with beingalone, which isn't for everyone
(01:52):
noise living with other people,like your parents or your
brother and sister or yourfriends.
Some folks choose to be singleand live a full life?
Did you know Susan B Anthonychose to not get married or have
children because being singleallowed her to speak or campaign
(02:15):
for women's suffrage withouthaving to deal with caring for a
family of her own?
She was quoted as saying I'msure that no man could ever have
made me happier than I havebeen.
Did you know that Oprah Winfreydidn't marry Stedman Graham
(02:35):
because, as she told PeopleMagazine in 2019, they would not
have stayed married?
And she says she doesn't regretnot getting married Not getting
married or having children?
She said The Oprah WinfreyLeadership Academy for Girls in
South Africa that has fulfilledher in ways that is best for her
(03:02):
maternally.
Now, when you think aboutformer Secretary of State
Condoleezza Rice, she made thestatement back in 2011 that the
fact is you don't get married inan abstract.
You find someone that you liketo be married to.
That's a good point, and I'dlike to add, you like to get
(03:25):
married to someone whom you loveand they love you.
Okay, and together y'all wantto spend the rest of your lives
without either of you trying tochange that person into someone
that you've never been designedto be.
If God's designed you to besingle for life.
(03:47):
Do so and embrace every momentof it.
Don't let the world dictate toyou who they think you should be
, or your mother who's buggingyou for grandkids.
Know that God's got a purpose,hope and future for your life
and, during your singleness,explore and participate in being
(04:10):
single.
This is a joy.
Now, if you are going through aseason of becoming or being a
widow or divorce, don't becomediscouraged.
Yeah, you gotta grieve.
Yeah, yeah, she gotta grieve,but remember this is a time for
you to spend time in the arms ofJesus like never before.
(04:33):
You want to stay close to God'sword.
You'll find out just howawesome, loved and powerful you
are just by being along with theLord.
Embrace this time God's got you.
What's happening in the MeProject Academy?
(04:56):
Well, saints, I just want youto know that right now I've been
doing a reset.
It's in the area of my writing.
I've been on vacation, I'vebeen on my uncle, I've been
doing all sorts of things likegetting back on a plane, and you
know my writing has been offtrack and I'm sure it also has
(05:24):
to do with you know my passion.
My excitement for writingbecame kind of dull because
everything else was likecrowding it out, and I know some
of you might find that thesummer months or unexpected
events can throw you off track.
Well, once these things beginto calm down, then it's time to
(05:48):
reset.
It's time to get back on track,back on your schedule, and for
me, they had to deal aroundwriting.
I find that having a schedule inmy life with routines has been
the saving grace of God keepingme.
Although my schedule changes,my routines haven't Only the
times in which I do them.
I'm thinking that because I putso much time into being along
(06:12):
with the Lord and finding outwhat the best time of day for me
to do certain things, likewhat's the best time of the day
for me to write?
What's the best time of the dayfor me to do podcasts?
What's the best time of the dayfor me to make phone calls.
Well, I've learned these thingsthrough spending time with the
Lord.
(06:32):
I've learned these thingsthrough trial and error as well.
So, saints, if ever you get thechance to be along with the
Lord for any length of time,take it, embrace it.
Don't let the things of theworld crowd out your time.
It's easy to let it happen, Iknow, but we have to stay
(06:54):
focused by continuing to do ourschedules and our routines.
I've also found that it's havinga long time with the Lord that
he nudges me to get back ontrack, and right now he's been
nudging me to get back into mywriting.
Y'all I remember this.
(07:15):
One day I was just talking tothe Lord and I was just writing.
The next thing I knew I foundthat I was four pages deep and
enjoying writing poems andstories, so I did a reset.
Now, if you're at this point inyour life where you're trying
(07:35):
to do a reset, where you have aministry but you kind of let it
slack and been doing it, you'reready to move, push it forward,
to make it a business, theny'all, I have what's called
fortified coaching program andit helps you to reset.
(07:58):
Now it also helps those whohave just realized that okay,
god, I know what you called meto do.
What's the next step?
Well, it's also for you,because we all have to start at
the beginning.
The Fortified Coaching Programis your foundation.
(08:22):
It's a program to design, tobuild your foundation so that
you can sprout wherever you needto sprout.
Okay, registration is gonnabegin in the end of this month,
september, and I put the link inthe show notes and it's also on
the webpage.
(08:43):
But, saints, god has called youto something that this world
needs for just for such a timeas this.
It's time to set the foundationso that you can go forward.
Check out Fortified CoachingProgram.
And now there's something elsethat's happening in the Me
(09:04):
Project Academy and it's calledNugget's Book Club.
It's for the month of October.
Saints, being alone is great.
It's where the idea originatedfor this book club.
So now, being in community isgreat, also because it's where I
grow with others as a writerand enjoy books.
(09:25):
You gotta have a balancing inlife.
You know what I'm saying.
So I hope you join me, becauseregistration is gonna end in
September 20th, so you need toregister as soon as you can.
Just come, you know, I can'twait to see what we're gonna do
with the poetry slam, you know.
So come register.
(09:46):
It's open until September 20th,and also I put information in
the show notes for you.
So, saints, I hope you join mefor Fortified Coaching Program
and for Nugget's Book Club.
There is a lot of stigma goingaround about living alone and
(10:11):
being lonely, but the problem isthat people are attaching the
stigma to, I think, the samething.
Living alone is different thanbeing lonely.
The reason I bring this up isbecause I've noticed a few
people in my circle sayingthings like girl, you shouldn't
eat by yourself, you shouldn'tgo to the movies by yourself.
(10:34):
Girl, you know you wanna bemarried.
What's that about living byyourself?
What Something must be wrongwith that person if they haven't
got married yet?
Come on, saint, seriously, allthat should be over with.
A person should be able to livealone, be alone and enjoy life.
(11:02):
You know, I did some reading onsome statistics.
Do you know that the number ofAmericans, according to this
article I read in www.
TheHillcom, says that the numberof Americans who have not
married by the age of 40 hassoared from 10% to 25% in 2021?
(11:23):
And y'all, there's this thingcalled gray divorce.
That's the rising rate ofmarriages that dissolve after
age 50.
It has doubled since 1990.
There are more people gettingdivorced after the age of 50.
(11:43):
That's interesting.
And also, nearly two-fifths ofAmericans are unpartnered.
That means they're neithermarried or cohabitating.
I wonder if it's because peopledon't understand the difference
between being alone and beinglonely.
Some people may think thatbeing alone means you are lonely
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, when in essence, it's twodifferent things.
Hey, you could be hanging outwith your friends and feel
lonely.
That's what I'm saying.
It's two different things.
There are people who choose tolive alone.
There are people who are forcedto live alone.
There are people who don't havea choice but live alone.
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And there are people who arejust happy that they don't have
to deal with someone else's mess.
Oh, saints, there are also booksout there about living alone,
living single and enjoying it.
There's one called Wintering byCatherine May.
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There's another one calledSierra Meltzer, called Date
Yourself a practical guide tobuilding self-confidence and
learning to love who you are thechange you need.
I checked out some reviews anddescriptions.
Sounds interesting, so ifyou've read it or think about
reading it, let me know what youthink about it.
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Support at www.
TheMeProjectAcademycom.
I appreciate it.
Now, before I go any further,I'd like to clear up something.
We're talking about being aloneversus being lonely, and I want
it clear that no follower ofChrist Jesus is ever alone.
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You are the temple of the HolySpirit, you are in Christ, and
since all three are one, god,the Father, god the Son, god,
the Holy Spirit, the Godhead, ishanging out with you all the
time.
Believers, you are never alone.
God said he will never leaveyou or forsake you.
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True, our eyeballs can't detectseeing in the spiritual realm
right now, but hey, the Word ofGod confirms that the Lord is
here with us.
He's here with us, god said.
He never leave us for seconds.
I know some of you have beenthrough some mess, like I've
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been through.
Guess what?
Believe it, god is real.
Okay, let's, let's do somedebunking of this language by
bugging a clear definition frommy dictionary of what being
alone means versus being alone.
I'm sorry, let's say it againwhat being lonely means versus
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being alone?
Okay, so being lonely, that'san emotion.
It's an emotional state whereyou are feeling alone or
disconnected from others, evenif you are with a group of
people.
Loneliness expresses the painof being alone.
It describes a feeling ofsadness, a tribute to not being
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or not having connection.
It stems from feeling like ourtrue self is not seen or
understood, either by others orwithin ourselves.
Being alone is a state of beingPhysically by yourself and
saints.
I found this definition in anarticle that I want to share.
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It's it is equating equatingbeing alone with solitude.
And guess what they say aboutsolitude?
Solitude is being alone andthat Solitude expresses the
glory of being alone.
Can you believe it?
The glory of being alone.
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Being alone is craved by someand feared by others.
It's being content in your owncompany.
Here's the key being lonely andbeing alone.
While they all have to do withour relationship with ourselves.
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Are you afraid of being byyourself or do you look forward
to it?
And I don't mean being alone towatch television and eat food,
or or do your own thing.
No, no, no.
I'm talking about being quietwith yourself, dancing with just
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you, enjoying having fun withjust you.
Having a healthy relationshipwith yourself is just as
important as having a healthyrelationship with friends and
family.
It's called balance.
Y'all, it's a balance.
Having a healthy relationshipwith yourself is going to be a
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daily practice.
We need to take time to enjoywho we are, and you do that in
Christ.
So how do you do that?
How can you be alone in Christ?
How can you enjoy whom you are?
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How can you enjoy being in thepresence of God?
Remember, saints, I said to youthat, as believers, we're never
alone because we're in Christ,because the Holy Spirit's in us.
So here's some suggestions Ihave for you on how to be alone,
how to enjoy your long timewith yourself and your God.
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So I have four suggestions.
One recognize who's talking inyour head.
Yeah, all right.
If the thoughts are negative,call them out and toss some
scripture on them.
You know to cast them, to makethem flee.
That means, if you hear, youknow you don't have time for
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this mess.
Or you hear, girl, you arealready too pretty to waste your
time or spend time withyourself.
Saints, speak boldly and withconfidence.
1 Corinthians 6-9 to 20 says mybody is the temple of the Holy
Spirit, and if Jesus thought Iwas good enough to die for and
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send the Holy Spirit to be in me, the least I can do is get to
know him, who was also involvedwith the making of me.
So, saints, recognize istalking in your head.
Number two keep promises toyourself.
If you said you're going to eatthe ice cream after you finish
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your work, then eat the icecream after you finish your work
.
If you said you purchased an RVonce you retire, why don't do
so?
My point is whatever you havetold yourself, promise yourself,
then do it.
Number three acknowledge whereyou are.
This is a good one.
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So take time to make peace withyour past and come to terms
with your reality.
You see, if you left, if youleft an abusive situation, give
yourself some time, but forgivethe person who has abused you
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and then accept that right nowyou are in a one bedroom
apartment with your friendssleeping on the couch, when you
just left a two story house witha view of the ocean.
You need to know how and whyyou got where you are and accept
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that.
Then it's time to say well,lord, what can I do to change it
?
Number four this is this oneeveryone should know Study God's
word.
Being alone gives you time todig into God's word for
direction, comfort, love,assurance, peace, forgiveness,
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hope and a future.
Like Jeremiah 2911 says, it wasJesus custom to go to a
solitary place to commune withGod.
There he was alone.
There he fell a ship with thefather.
There he remembered who he is.
There he received instruction.
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There he became refreshed,restored and revitalized in his
mind, his being.
So take those four suggestionsacknowledge who's talking in
your head, keep promises toyourself, acknowledge where you
are and study God's word.
These four things will help youhave a healthy relationship
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with yourself and develop adeeper relationship with your
Lord.
There are so many advantages tobeing alone or living alone.
I just got four.
I mean, I'm sorry, I just gotfive.
One a long time maybe all youneed to get back on track to
thinking clearly and feelingbetter about yourself.
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Two it increases creativity.
Even small amounts can have bigeffects on your productivity
and create and creativeabilities.
Four strengthen yourrelationship with others.
Wow, when you take the time tobe alone, getting to know enough
about yourself and who you areand who you are in Christ, ah,
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you can be comfortable enough tobe around others and enjoy them
without trying to be who theythink you should be.
Ha ha ha, oh, yes.
And number four being alonemakes you comfortable in your
own skin.
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And number five I like thisquote when you find yourself on
your own, take the time tounwind and recharge, cause it's
good for your soul.
Ha, ha, ha ha Say.
I challenge you for the nextcouple of weeks to block off a
long time, be intentional aboutit and do it daily.
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Where you are not engaged withtexting, chatting and talking
with others.
It's time to take time, tospend time with yourself, really
getting to know you and Christ.
Being alone is a good thing andwhen you think about being
lonely, y'all.
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That's an emotion.
It's an emotion, and if youfeel that emotion, then you
share that with the Lord.
But as you're sharing it,remember you're not alone.
You are not alone, cause he'sright there listening.
He just wants you to get quietenough so you can hear his voice
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.
Alright, saints, let's pray.
Thank you, father, god, for ourbodies that were made in the
image of you.
Here's how to guard our time,our long time, with you and
continue growing in the wisdomand knowledge of who you are and
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whom you made us to be in you.
For as in Jesus' blessed name,we pray with much thanksgiving.
Amen and Amen.
Thanks for listening.
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Coaching Program, and so muchmore.
All this and more can be found,including my contact
information, on www.
hangingoutwithjesuspodcastcom orthe show notes.
So, until we meet again on theairways, intentionally and daily
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hang out with Jesus.
Thanks.
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