The Lies We Carry: When a Child's Heart Believes It's to Blame

In this week’s episode of Heal with Kimile, Kimile Pendleton shares the story of a young woman who has carried an unbearable weight since childhood—the belief that her father’s abandonment was her fault. At just seven years old, she watched him choose addiction over his family, and for years, she internalized the pain as her own failure. This shadow shaped her relationships, her self-worth, and the way she showed up in the world—always trying to earn love, always waiting to be left behind.

Kimile walks listeners through the pivotal moment when this woman finally faced the truth: Nothing she did—or didn’t do—could have changed her father’s choices. With gentle clarity, Kimile reveals how our youngest selves often misinterpret pain as punishment, and how these false beliefs linger into adulthood. She offers a path to freedom—not just for this woman, but for anyone who has ever blamed themselves for another person’s actions.

This episode is a powerful reminder: The events that break your heart are rarely your fault, but healing is your responsibility.

Tune in to learn how to lay down burdens you were never meant to carry.

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