Ep. 135 Ever stop and ask yourself why you do things the way you do? From how you fold your laundry to how you handle your relationships—so much of what we do is inherited thinking. In this episode of Healthy Illness, host Coach Kelly Marie dives into the question we all need to ask more often: “Who said that?”
Through a heartfelt story about a family recipe passed down through generations, Kelly unpacks how old habits and beliefs—whether from family, culture, or social media—can quietly dictate our decisions.
Using her “Says Who” tool, she shares four simple but transformative questions to help you pause, reflect, and reclaim your own way of doing things.
✨ Key Takeaways:
The “Pot Roast Principle”: how family traditions reveal unconscious conditioning
4 questions to challenge automatic thoughts and actions
Why “this is how it’s always been done” can block personal growth
How to choose methods, routines, and mindsets that actually serve you
Permission to rewrite your own rules—with compassion and humor
💬 Try the Says Who Tool:
1️⃣ Who said I have to do it this way?
2️⃣ Why am I doing it this way?
3️⃣ How can I do this in a way that’s best for me?
4️⃣ Is this new way better, or can I think of another way to do it?
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Chapters:
0:00 Welcome to Healthy Illness
0:51 The Pot Roast Story That Started It All
2:36 Why Do We Keep Doing Things the Same Way?
3:44 From Bike Rides to Mental Shifts
4:33 Introducing the Says Who Tool
5:00 Who Said I Have to Do It This Way?
5:31 Why Am I Doing It This Way?
6:00 How Can I Do This in a Way That’s Best for Me?
6:56 Is This New Way Better—or Not?
8:03 Why Challenging Family Traditions Feels Hard
10:00 What the Pot Roast Teaches Us About Growth
11:40 Honoring the Past While Doing What Works for You
12:44 Your Way Is the Right Way
13:49 The Four Questions Recap
14:20 Mental Health Resources You Can Use
15:02 Final Thoughts: Do What Works Best for You
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