May 5, 2025 • 14 mins
In this episode, I share the game-changing question I've adopted into my daily routine: "What can I give?" Discover how shifting your focus from what you can get to what you can give can unlock incredible transformations in your personal life, relationships, and business. I’ll reveal how this simple yet profound mindset shift has helped me attract opportunities, solve challenges, and create a more fulfilling, abundant life. Tune in to learn how asking this powerful question can revolutionize your mindset and open the door to endless possibilities!
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Theresa Cesare (00:06):
Hey guys.
Welcome to Heart to Talk thepodcast.
I am the host and creatorTheresa Cesare My intention for
this podcast is to deliver toyou wisdom, inspiration, and
consciousness.
Through solo episodes andconversations amongst insightful
people.
It is my greatest honor to bringto you talks that come from the.
(00:33):
Hey, amazing souls.
Welcome back to another episodewith me.
I am so excited for thisepisode.
I mean, I'm always excited foreach episode, but I wanna share
just the most powerful gamechanging question that I ask
myself every day with you.
And this question literally hasbeen.
(00:55):
The solution, the answer toanything that I feel like has
been difficult challenge or aperceived problem.
to drive, how I show up todrive, powerful results And so
that question is, what can Igive?
I'm in the season of what can Igive today?
(01:18):
So from the very moment, whenyou wake up in the morning.
Besides, thank you for anotherday on this earth plane another
day.
I mean, truly the, magic of anew day is like, oh God, we get
to do this all over again.
Even if I messed up yesterdaybut the beauty and power and
magic of what can I give isinsane.
(01:39):
What can I give today in therelationships, my children,
myself, friends, family?
What can I give in my work?
Or my business and what can Igive myself?
What can I give the world and,what it does, it positions you
to pull yourself out of.
It's all about me.
'cause we're just all aboutourselves and it's powerful to
(02:02):
put yourself first to think ofyour needs and your, essentials
and make sure to have your ownback, but.
Watching where that energy getsin your way.
And so, I'll start with oneexample of where the power of it
comes.
Some of you might know this, butpart of what I offer in my
business and services is I host,I'm a multimedia host.
(02:24):
I host on my podcast and show,and I've been blessed and
privileged to host with, a localnews station, KOLD.
For these segments called theBusiness Briefs and Tucson now,
and I'm so flipping and gratefulagain.
That was just anotheropportunity that came to me in
the doing when I was looking forsponsors for my podcast.
(02:46):
And I was just kind of like,what do I do with my business
next?
And I just surrendered what Ithought.
My business and the power of meand my creativity had to look
like, and I said, just show meuniverse.
Literally the next week I got aDM from paul Durant with KOLD,
and was like, Hey.
(03:07):
I see that you host a show, areyou interested in hosting for
KLD?
And at first I thought it wasnot real, like a scam or
whatever.
And I looked him up, I'm oh myGod, this is legit.
So I responded.
I'm thank you.
Yes, thank you so much.
So long story short, heconnected me with, the marketing
director and just did like aphone interview and then boom,
okay, so back to like my wholepoint of asking yourself what I
(03:28):
can give to drive, how you showup to drive, powerful results so
in doing that work and hosting,it takes what I do as a host to
a new level because for so long,behind my podcast, it's all
audio.
You don't see my base.
I have the luxury of editing andno one is watching but me.
(03:52):
So, although it's powerful, I'mproud of myself.
In that I also, it's very safe,right?
Because I can control, whatcomes out, I can control how I
say things because I can edit, Ierase, and then no one sees me.
So the magic of diving intothese segments with KOLD and and
(04:12):
hosting with my face is there'sso many things that come into
play that challenge you andreally takes insecurities like.
Brings'em to the surface, Soinsecurities I didn't even
realize I had and all of that.
And so this opportunity has beena gift.
People think, oh my gosh, you'reon tv.
(04:32):
And to me it's, it's what'sbehind it?
What isn't really seen what theuniverse of God has given me the
gift of.
Healing my insecurities of likewhat people think, judgment, all
of that.
Like mixed in a bag becausepeople watch you and you have to
memorize and I have this visionof like, I have to be perfect.
I have to not let people down.
(04:53):
And that has served me, but.
Also it's been crippling,because then it's pulled me back
from letting my authenticityshow up.
So this has really allowed me topractice, getting over that,
like what people think.
am I too young, too old?
Do I look pretty?
Is my makeup okay?
All the things and you know, andthen just me wanting to do it
justice.
So where I'm going with thisagain, because all of those
(05:16):
little backend stories.
Gets us to this pivotalquestion, what can I give today?
So I started to change myenergy.
And instead of freaking out andbeing like, oh my God, am I
gonna look good enough for them?
Am I gonna deliver good enough?
I quit, like worrying about mebecause really everyone is
(05:39):
showing up and thinking aboutthemselves.
No one's caring about you,right?
We're always thinking likepeople are watching our next
move.
At the end of the day, everyoneis about themselves, right?
So why not change it and beabout them?
So what I started to do is.
Not even thinking about me, yes,be prepared, get good sleep,
(06:01):
drink my water, show up and givea hundred percent.
Do what I gotta do behind thescenes so I can show up at the
scenes ready to deliver.
And that right there is givingenergy.
And then instead of beingworried about anything else, be
worried about making otherpeople feel safe, feel seen.
(06:25):
Giving my all, giving the peoplethat I'm interviewing, just like
my full presence, not worriedabout like what am I gonna say
next?
And the minute I started toreally focus on that, I started
to show up better'cause I gotoutta my own head.
And just in the energy of thepresence of other people, the
presence of the viewers.
And it just changed everything.
(06:46):
So when I started to do that inthere, I started to be like, oh
my God, this is freaking magic.
This is a game changer.
What can I give?
So in my business, I started todo the same thing Yes,
profitability is important,right?
But more important is givingvalue.
There's no point to give aproduct if I'm just so focused
(07:10):
on profit.
But if I change the energy ofthe value I'm giving that's
boomerang energy and rightthere, you don't have to sell
because the energy and theauthenticity and the fact that
it's backed with so much valueis enough.
And so.
You're gonna notice even thework that I do and in my
(07:32):
podcast, right now I have aplatform that I, I love and get
back to that original intentionsharing, inspiration, sharing
the stories of the hero'sjourney that we're all on, And
that's what I love about thisplatform and why I started,
because I was on my own hero'sjourney.
Like I became the hero in mystory for so long.
(07:54):
It's like wanting everyone to bemy hero.
And so for this podcast, you'regonna notice I'm gonna bring on
all these incredible men andwomen that I've known.
Or will meet because I'm soexcited to give to them a space
and a place like a seat at thistable that I have created for
(08:14):
you and me to get inspiration,to share just vulnerability and
to truly just live out or bestlife to shatter those glass
ceilings'cause they're seriouslyglass.
Those are illusions, thoselimited beliefs.
And show you and me what'spossible.
And it holds me accountable whenI have a place, that is
(08:35):
expecting me to launch once ortwice a month an episode.
And that's why I do it, makesure that you hold yourself and
then bring on other people tohold you accountable.
So join me in asking yourselfevery day, what can I give?
What can I give today to mykids?
I'm gonna give them a yummybreakfast.
(08:57):
I'm gonna give them acompliment.
I'm gonna give them love.
I'm gonna hug them.
I'm gonna tell'em how proud Iam.
Because think about, think abouthow much you're, you're telling
the people you love the most,what they still need to do, how
they're not doing.
And yes, maybe there are areas,but man, if we just focused on
what is going so well thatexpands.
We're always so focused on whatcan you give me?
(09:20):
You're not giving me enough, butgive especially what you so
deeply want.
You want support, you wantanswers, you want love, you want
motivation.
You want more money give, give,and you will get that.
When you move in that and youmake that your natural
intention, it solves literally50% or more of the issues, the
(09:47):
stress, anxiety.
How you show up to drive,results The need to control and
so, as I close this episode,make it just the most simple
thing to every place in yourlife the minute you wake up,
like, okay, what am I gonna givetoday?
And start with yourself.
(10:07):
I'm gonna give myself.
Some good food in my body.
I'm gonna give myself the timeto think of what I want today.
What do I wanna feel?
I'm gonna give myself time inthe gym.
I'm gonna give myself goodthoughts and tell myself I'm
amazing.
I'm ready to do better.
I'm unstoppable.
(10:28):
Give yourself, powerfulthoughts, powerful affirmations,
and move the ickiness out.
Then give others your best.
You go to work today.
You know what I'm gonna do?
I'm gonna give work my best, andevery day it's gonna look
different.
But I'm gonna tell you when youstart.
(10:49):
Energy with that, it almostmotivates you, especially on the
days.
You don't wanna show up andyou're not feeling it because
that's normal.
Even if you love what you do,it's normal to not wanna show
up.
But if you say, you know what,today, what can I give?
And it could be simple.
Today I'm gonna give work inthis area my best, or I'm gonna
give the people at work somepositive feedback.
(11:11):
I'm gonna give my best'causemaybe.
You were kind of slacking andnot being in integrity with your
time or you know, think aboutit.
We all have those areas in whichwe know deep inside we can show
up a little better and it's inthat action.
And then the energy of what canI give that doesn't cost
anything but just intention.
(11:34):
So when you don't know what todo, you don't know where to go.
You don't know what you want.
Start with what can I give?
And your business, and then inpartnership, same thing.
Same thing.
It's like be what you wanna see,be what you want.
You know, you want beauty, youwant.
(11:56):
Fitness, you want love, you wantconsistency, you want, whatever
that is for you.
You start to show up in yourrelationships that way and you
are the example.
You get it reflected back.
We are mirrors.
Remember, Newton's third lawstates that for every action
there's an equal and oppositereaction.
So as I'm moving in my nextseason, that is literally gonna
(12:19):
be the greatest intention in myall in energy that I am stepping
into with my relationships.
With my children in love, myfriendships and my family, my
business, my work.
It's what can I give today?
What value?
I'm so excited for you to joinme in the energy of what can I
(12:41):
give today?
Friends to support guide andempower you on your journey.
I'm offering you all my freeEveryday Affirmations, ebook, 80
affirmations by category.
Just click the link in my shownotes to download it.
And don't forget about myaffirmation.
Signature deck, 48 powerfulaffirmations that I literally
(13:01):
have created for myself that haspropelled me.
To unlock new levels ofabundance, opportunities,
breakthroughs, and more, and I'mexcited to share them with you
Again, the link will be in myshow notes or you can visit my
website at theresacesare.com andlastly, because you are a
listener of the show, you get10% off candles, wellness boxes,
(13:24):
and more by my girl, thewellness expert Clarita
Escalanted, who is the founderof Claridad use code affirmation
at checkout link for this in theshow notes.
Thank you so much for tuning into this
episode.
(13:45):
Please download, rate,subscribe, and share this
podcast.
Also, be sure to visit mytheresacesare.com to check out
my inspirational merch, connectto my social accounts, and much
more may you continue to befilled with wisdom, inspiration,
and consciousness.
Otherwise, friends, I will beback in two weeks for another
episode of Heart to.
Hey guys.
Welcome to Heart to Talk thepodcast.
I am the host and creatorTheresa Cesare My intention for
this podcast is to deliver toyou wisdom, inspiration, and
consciousness.
Through solo episodes andconversations amongst insightful
people.
It is my greatest honor to bringto you talks that come from the.
(00:33):
Hey, amazing souls.
Welcome back to another episodewith me.
I am so excited for thisepisode.
I mean, I'm always excited foreach episode, but I wanna share
just the most powerful gamechanging question that I ask
myself every day with you.
And this question literally hasbeen.
(00:55):
The solution, the answer toanything that I feel like has
been difficult challenge or aperceived problem.
to drive, how I show up todrive, powerful results And so
that question is, what can Igive?
I'm in the season of what can Igive today?
(01:18):
So from the very moment, whenyou wake up in the morning.
Besides, thank you for anotherday on this earth plane another
day.
I mean, truly the, magic of anew day is like, oh God, we get
to do this all over again.
Even if I messed up yesterdaybut the beauty and power and
magic of what can I give isinsane.
(01:39):
What can I give today in therelationships, my children,
myself, friends, family?
What can I give in my work?
Or my business and what can Igive myself?
What can I give the world and,what it does, it positions you
to pull yourself out of.
It's all about me.
'cause we're just all aboutourselves and it's powerful to
(02:02):
put yourself first to think ofyour needs and your, essentials
and make sure to have your ownback, but.
Watching where that energy getsin your way.
And so, I'll start with oneexample of where the power of it
comes.
Some of you might know this, butpart of what I offer in my
business and services is I host,I'm a multimedia host.
(02:24):
I host on my podcast and show,and I've been blessed and
privileged to host with, a localnews station, KOLD.
For these segments called theBusiness Briefs and Tucson now,
and I'm so flipping and gratefulagain.
That was just anotheropportunity that came to me in
the doing when I was looking forsponsors for my podcast.
(02:46):
And I was just kind of like,what do I do with my business
next?
And I just surrendered what Ithought.
My business and the power of meand my creativity had to look
like, and I said, just show meuniverse.
Literally the next week I got aDM from paul Durant with KOLD,
and was like, Hey.
(03:07):
I see that you host a show, areyou interested in hosting for
KLD?
And at first I thought it wasnot real, like a scam or
whatever.
And I looked him up, I'm oh myGod, this is legit.
So I responded.
I'm thank you.
Yes, thank you so much.
So long story short, heconnected me with, the marketing
director and just did like aphone interview and then boom,
okay, so back to like my wholepoint of asking yourself what I
(03:28):
can give to drive, how you showup to drive, powerful results so
in doing that work and hosting,it takes what I do as a host to
a new level because for so long,behind my podcast, it's all
audio.
You don't see my base.
I have the luxury of editing andno one is watching but me.
(03:52):
So, although it's powerful, I'mproud of myself.
In that I also, it's very safe,right?
Because I can control, whatcomes out, I can control how I
say things because I can edit, Ierase, and then no one sees me.
So the magic of diving intothese segments with KOLD and and
(04:12):
hosting with my face is there'sso many things that come into
play that challenge you andreally takes insecurities like.
Brings'em to the surface, Soinsecurities I didn't even
realize I had and all of that.
And so this opportunity has beena gift.
People think, oh my gosh, you'reon tv.
(04:32):
And to me it's, it's what'sbehind it?
What isn't really seen what theuniverse of God has given me the
gift of.
Healing my insecurities of likewhat people think, judgment, all
of that.
Like mixed in a bag becausepeople watch you and you have to
memorize and I have this visionof like, I have to be perfect.
I have to not let people down.
(04:53):
And that has served me, but.
Also it's been crippling,because then it's pulled me back
from letting my authenticityshow up.
So this has really allowed me topractice, getting over that,
like what people think.
am I too young, too old?
Do I look pretty?
Is my makeup okay?
All the things and you know, andthen just me wanting to do it
justice.
So where I'm going with thisagain, because all of those
(05:16):
little backend stories.
Gets us to this pivotalquestion, what can I give today?
So I started to change myenergy.
And instead of freaking out andbeing like, oh my God, am I
gonna look good enough for them?
Am I gonna deliver good enough?
I quit, like worrying about mebecause really everyone is
(05:39):
showing up and thinking aboutthemselves.
No one's caring about you,right?
We're always thinking likepeople are watching our next
move.
At the end of the day, everyoneis about themselves, right?
So why not change it and beabout them?
So what I started to do is.
Not even thinking about me, yes,be prepared, get good sleep,
(06:01):
drink my water, show up and givea hundred percent.
Do what I gotta do behind thescenes so I can show up at the
scenes ready to deliver.
And that right there is givingenergy.
And then instead of beingworried about anything else, be
worried about making otherpeople feel safe, feel seen.
(06:25):
Giving my all, giving the peoplethat I'm interviewing, just like
my full presence, not worriedabout like what am I gonna say
next?
And the minute I started toreally focus on that, I started
to show up better'cause I gotoutta my own head.
And just in the energy of thepresence of other people, the
presence of the viewers.
And it just changed everything.
(06:46):
So when I started to do that inthere, I started to be like, oh
my God, this is freaking magic.
This is a game changer.
What can I give?
So in my business, I started todo the same thing Yes,
profitability is important,right?
But more important is givingvalue.
There's no point to give aproduct if I'm just so focused
(07:10):
on profit.
But if I change the energy ofthe value I'm giving that's
boomerang energy and rightthere, you don't have to sell
because the energy and theauthenticity and the fact that
it's backed with so much valueis enough.
And so.
You're gonna notice even thework that I do and in my
(07:32):
podcast, right now I have aplatform that I, I love and get
back to that original intentionsharing, inspiration, sharing
the stories of the hero'sjourney that we're all on, And
that's what I love about thisplatform and why I started,
because I was on my own hero'sjourney.
Like I became the hero in mystory for so long.
(07:54):
It's like wanting everyone to bemy hero.
And so for this podcast, you'regonna notice I'm gonna bring on
all these incredible men andwomen that I've known.
Or will meet because I'm soexcited to give to them a space
and a place like a seat at thistable that I have created for
(08:14):
you and me to get inspiration,to share just vulnerability and
to truly just live out or bestlife to shatter those glass
ceilings'cause they're seriouslyglass.
Those are illusions, thoselimited beliefs.
And show you and me what'spossible.
And it holds me accountable whenI have a place, that is
(08:35):
expecting me to launch once ortwice a month an episode.
And that's why I do it, makesure that you hold yourself and
then bring on other people tohold you accountable.
So join me in asking yourselfevery day, what can I give?
What can I give today to mykids?
I'm gonna give them a yummybreakfast.
(08:57):
I'm gonna give them acompliment.
I'm gonna give them love.
I'm gonna hug them.
I'm gonna tell'em how proud Iam.
Because think about, think abouthow much you're, you're telling
the people you love the most,what they still need to do, how
they're not doing.
And yes, maybe there are areas,but man, if we just focused on
what is going so well thatexpands.
We're always so focused on whatcan you give me?
(09:20):
You're not giving me enough, butgive especially what you so
deeply want.
You want support, you wantanswers, you want love, you want
motivation.
You want more money give, give,and you will get that.
When you move in that and youmake that your natural
intention, it solves literally50% or more of the issues, the
(09:47):
stress, anxiety.
How you show up to drive,results The need to control and
so, as I close this episode,make it just the most simple
thing to every place in yourlife the minute you wake up,
like, okay, what am I gonna givetoday?
And start with yourself.
(10:07):
I'm gonna give myself.
Some good food in my body.
I'm gonna give myself the timeto think of what I want today.
What do I wanna feel?
I'm gonna give myself time inthe gym.
I'm gonna give myself goodthoughts and tell myself I'm
amazing.
I'm ready to do better.
I'm unstoppable.
(10:28):
Give yourself, powerfulthoughts, powerful affirmations,
and move the ickiness out.
Then give others your best.
You go to work today.
You know what I'm gonna do?
I'm gonna give work my best, andevery day it's gonna look
different.
But I'm gonna tell you when youstart.
(10:49):
Energy with that, it almostmotivates you, especially on the
days.
You don't wanna show up andyou're not feeling it because
that's normal.
Even if you love what you do,it's normal to not wanna show
up.
But if you say, you know what,today, what can I give?
And it could be simple.
Today I'm gonna give work inthis area my best, or I'm gonna
give the people at work somepositive feedback.
(11:11):
I'm gonna give my best'causemaybe.
You were kind of slacking andnot being in integrity with your
time or you know, think aboutit.
We all have those areas in whichwe know deep inside we can show
up a little better and it's inthat action.
And then the energy of what canI give that doesn't cost
anything but just intention.
(11:34):
So when you don't know what todo, you don't know where to go.
You don't know what you want.
Start with what can I give?
And your business, and then inpartnership, same thing.
Same thing.
It's like be what you wanna see,be what you want.
You know, you want beauty, youwant.
(11:56):
Fitness, you want love, you wantconsistency, you want, whatever
that is for you.
You start to show up in yourrelationships that way and you
are the example.
You get it reflected back.
We are mirrors.
Remember, Newton's third lawstates that for every action
there's an equal and oppositereaction.
So as I'm moving in my nextseason, that is literally gonna
(12:19):
be the greatest intention in myall in energy that I am stepping
into with my relationships.
With my children in love, myfriendships and my family, my
business, my work.
It's what can I give today?
What value?
I'm so excited for you to joinme in the energy of what can I
(12:41):
give today?
Friends to support guide andempower you on your journey.
I'm offering you all my freeEveryday Affirmations, ebook, 80
affirmations by category.
Just click the link in my shownotes to download it.
And don't forget about myaffirmation.
Signature deck, 48 powerfulaffirmations that I literally
(13:01):
have created for myself that haspropelled me.
To unlock new levels ofabundance, opportunities,
breakthroughs, and more, and I'mexcited to share them with you
Again, the link will be in myshow notes or you can visit my
website at theresacesare.com andlastly, because you are a
listener of the show, you get10% off candles, wellness boxes,
(13:24):
and more by my girl, thewellness expert Clarita
Escalanted, who is the founderof Claridad use code affirmation
at checkout link for this in theshow notes.
Thank you so much for tuning into this
episode.
(13:45):
Please download, rate,subscribe, and share this
podcast.
Also, be sure to visit mytheresacesare.com to check out
my inspirational merch, connectto my social accounts, and much
more may you continue to befilled with wisdom, inspiration,
and consciousness.
Otherwise, friends, I will beback in two weeks for another
episode of Heart to.
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