The Reality of Long Distance Friendship

In this episode of Hello Hayes, we're talking about long distance friendship: how to make friends when you move somewhere new, but also, how to maintain the friendships that are now separated by miles and miles and miles. Hayes invites one of her North Star besties Matt onto the show to discuss. References: Dear Noah: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dfAzhnguXBc 00:00 Cold open 00:42 Topic intro: Long-distance Friendships 2:23 Meet Matt 4:43 Our first impressions of each other 10:03 Be each other’s biggest fans 12:14 Making friends in a new city 16:43 Scoping people out on Instagram 18:25 The risk of rejection 21:50 How to go from self-pity to action  23:30 20s vs 30s & NYC vs Chicago  24:53 “Do I want to quit?” 26:26 Nostalgia vs regret 28:17 It’s OK to be sad 31:53 Hayes and NYC 33:07 Getting honest about our LDF  35:40 “Is it my fault?” 36:25 Having trust in your friendships 38:00 Inside Out 2 40:10 What happened on Hayes’s birthday 43:00 The challenges of long distance friendship 47:00 It’s hard to say THIS 48:11 Feeling pressure to check-in 50:00 Team Voicemails  54:00 A secret Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices