May 28, 2024 • 35 mins
What if success isn't just about financial gain? In our season finale of "How Do You Say Success in Spanglish," I reflect on the journey of producing nearly 35 episodes, drawing from my personal experiences and the wisdom of our incredible guests. Inspired by an episode of Good Mythical Morning and the story of Jimmy John's, we examine the disparities faced by minorities and immigrants in accessing opportunities, and how my own career struggles led me to seek guidance from impactful audiobooks like "Atomic Habits" and "The Compound Effect"
Do you believe in taking risks to achieve your dreams? We'll discuss how personal growth and collective progress contribute to a more fulfilling definition of success. Overcoming imposter syndrome, embracing self-awareness, and understanding what truly matters in our lives are key to unlocking long-term happiness. By making incremental improvements and staying aligned with a clear sense of purpose, we can build the skills and experiences needed to reach our goals.
Balancing career ambitions with personal life is no easy feat, especially as a father. I share the importance of self-care, mental health, and cherishing time with loved ones. Drawing inspiration from "The Compound Effect," we talk about the power of small, consistent changes and recognizing our progress. As we close out season one, I express my heartfelt gratitude to all our listeners and share my excitement for what's to come in season two. Thank you for being part of this incredible journey as we continue learning how to say success in Spanglish.
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Raul Lopez (00:05):
This is Raul Lopez and you're listening to how Do
you Save Success in Spanglish.
The path to success isn't easyFor minorities and people of
color.
Many attempt this journey withlittle to no guidance.
Join me as I sit down withindividuals who share their
stories of perseverance so thattogether we can learn how to say
success in Spanglish what'sgood, mi gente, it's your boy,
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raul.
Welcome back to how Do you SaySuccess in Spanglish.
Today, my guest is me.
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I wanted to take some time, thisbeing my last episode of my
first season and almost a yearinto this and about 34 episodes,
35 episodes deep, really hopethat I've grown and gained a lot
from this and I do feel likeI've learned a lot in this first
year with everything that'sbeen going on and all the guests
I've had, all the amazingguests that I've had.
So I kind of want to just takea last breath for this season
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and talk a little bit andreflect and kind of think about
you know where I've come fromwhat Mythical Morning, and they
were comparing sandwiches fromJersey, mike and Jimmy John's
and I'll get to the point ofwhere a sandwich competition
comes into play with how do yousay success in Spanish?
But they were talking justrandomly, random facts, kind of
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they throw in there, and theytalked about Jimmy John and how
the owner of Jimmy John, hisfather, had given him $25,000
and said start a business, um,and if you fail you have to go
back to the military.
And it reminded me of, kind ofwhat got me started with this.
Um, for any, for a lot ofpeople, uh, especially who grew
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up poor and sometimes animmigrant and not having this
resources, availability orcapabilities of our family to
kind of guide us, the idea ofhaving a family member, say,
here's $25,000, start a companyand going with it, um, even now,
my age of that, I'm at the ideaof having 25 000 dollars to
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drop on a company, you knowwould be nice not there yet, to
be able to just go there andstart that.
Start that way, um.
And it reminded me of, like,why I started this, you know,
because there's this disconnect,there's this difference, this
nuance in how a lot of us whohave gathered, gained any type
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of success or are trying to gainsuccess, we travel this road.
You know, I don't know if Imentioned it in my previous
podcast, but the reason I kindof started this was, like I said
I was going through my owntough spot when it came to my
career.
I had not felt like I progressedwhere I was, I was not getting
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the promotions I wanted.
Things were being dangled infront of me.
I had worked for too many yearsat a few different companies
with very little upper mobility.
So I think I had averaged aboutseven years in my first job and
at the job I was at I wascircling almost eight years
seven years I think at that jobas well.
So it was kind of like notmoving anywhere and sticking
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around.
And so I decided, hey, let meget into some self-help stuff,
start reading.
Well, I don't like to read.
I don't like to read, but I'm areally slow reader, so reading
for me is very difficult.
So I like to listen toaudiobooks and I was listening
to a few audiobooks aboutdifferent things and self-help
and you know some great bookslike.
You know some some great bookslike um, you know Atomic Habits,
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um and uh, rich Dad, poor Dad,uh, the.
The one book I kind of changedand kind of got me into this was
Shoe Dog, and not necessarilyfor the motivational aspect of
it, um, cause I remember readingall the reviews and shoe dog
was kind of like hey, yeah, um,you know this is a great
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motivational story.
This inspired me.
This was a wonderful, wonderfulstory and I think as a business
uh, and shoe dog is a storyabout the founder of Nike, um,
and as a business, I agree.
I think as a business it's avery inspirational underdog
story for a company.
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But on an individual basis,early on I couldn't get past a
certain aspect of it.
You know the just to kind ofquickly give a little glimpse of
what happened, you know, afteryou know, graduating and
spending some time in Hawaii anddeciding he wanted to open a
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start, a shoe store.
Based off of some research hedid in college, at Stanford, he
went to his dad, was able to geta loan from him for once again,
kind of like jimmy johns, aloan to start his business.
And because his dad hadconnections as um in different
businesses, he was able to gethim a connection with someone
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who knew someone who knewsomeone in japan and got him
that initial door opening todiscuss, uh, opening a factory,
uh, well, getting a factory tobreak these shoes for him in
Japan.
And that was early in the book,really early in the book.
You know I'm probably like lessthan you know.
You're probably like a thirdway into the book at this point
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and I was like holy shit, Iwould never have that
opportunity.
You know my dad was animmigrant.
You know we were all immigrants.
You know my dad was animmigrant.
You know we were all immigrants.
You know he was a truck driverwho never wanted me to drive
trucks and made his life duty,never to let me even like the
idea of driving a truck, even tothe point of never teaching me
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how to drive a truck out of fearthat I enjoy it.
Never wanted me to work becausehe was afraid I would fear
making, you know, six bucks anhour seven bucks an hour at the
time as opposed to wanting to goto college.
So my dad was very focused onme not fucking up and going to a
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certain route and going tocollege and becoming more
successful.
And I couldn't get over that inthe book I could not.
No matter how I got there.
Every time I learned and Ilearned more about the story, I
just couldn't get over the factthat, yeah, but you had a
headstart, you had a little bitof something that I would never
have had and you gathered thishuge level of success and it's
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not the same story I would havehad.
And that's kind of what droveme to want to do this show, this
podcast, and present thesestories and these journeys of
all my guests who come on theshow.
Um, because we do have thesestories and it's we're
underrepresented and nobodynecessarily talks about it.
You're not going to not thatmany books that you're going to
read about and audio books aboutyou know the successes of
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people that we I show on theshow and you know I want that
representation.
I want people like me who aregoing through stuff to be able
to hear these stories and learnand recognize and maybe, you
know, take a lesson from one ortwo people and apply that to
what they're doing.
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Personally, I have I think I'velearned a lot from this from my
guests and have been able toactually apply that at work in
my own job.
Um, you know I've I've becomemore vocal, um, a lot more um
intentional in what I do with mycareer and what I want next,
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and being more vocal about youknow what, what I want, and more
demanding of what I need, uh,from a job, as opposed to just
working where before it was meproving myself and now it's me
expecting something back inreturn and holding my job
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accountable for that.
And so it's been working outfor me and I'm you know, I'm
happy with where I'm at my job.
I'm happy of where I'm goingand the, the possibilities that
are opening up for me, um, andwhich is great.
You know, it didn't I it'sfunny because I was like I
didn't expect this show to teachme lessons.
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Um, you know the old feeling ofyou can't teach an old dog new
tricks, and I thought I washopefully just building
something for others.
Um, but remarkably, it'sactually helped me out and lots
of times when I'm at um my ownlife and their situations, um, I
think about this show and thinkabout what others have done and
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it's motivated me to do more.
Um, not only have I been doingmore with work and becoming more
successful in my job, my dayjob, you know, I've even gone as
far, as you know, obviously,expanding this podcast to more
than just my podcast, you know,adding the Palanta series and
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the spotlight series andhopefully a couple more things
when I get to next season.
Um, and building more, and thenalso taking the experiences
through here and my experiencewith time and I've actually
started a company with my cousinthat I'll be presenting, uh in
the near future, uh to kind ofum present to the world, and so
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stuff that I would never, I'vealways would have been afraid to
do I've kind of gained thatmotivation to be like you know,
you know, do it now.
You know it's like that's funny, shoe dog, nike, just do it,
you know, and I'm no longer notthat I'm not afraid of stuff,
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but I'm willing to take morerisks and it's been as positive
for me that I hope it's been forsome of y'all, and I do
appreciate a lot of the feedback, you know.
And so I kind of wanted to gothrough some of the things I
think I've learned from thispast year, and hopefully these
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are some of the lessons you'lllearn, and obviously this is
stuff that will get tweaked.
Hopefully I can come up with abetter way of presenting this in
the future so that you know,through what we're doing here,
what I'm doing here at how Doyou Say Success in the Spanish
we can, you know, create a goodwork frame for us and something
to believe in ourselves to helpus all.
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You know I'm a big proponent ofall.
Ships rise with the tides and Iwant to see all of us do better
.
I don't believe that I got toget mine, you know, screw you.
So I hope that I'm presentingand providing enough resources
and I'm always open to hearingmore.
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So if anybody ever wants tocome and tell me hey, this would
be great, that would be great.
I, you know, a lot of what I'vebeen doing has been done by
discussions with other people.
Someone says this hey, wouldn'tit be great if you did this?
You know, I really would begreat if you did this, and you
know, and so I'm trying to takeadvantage of that.
Um, it's not enough time in theworld for me to do everything I
want to do yet and I hopefullywe'll keep just adding, little
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by little, incremental increases, incremental improvements in
life, um, as well.
So, um, you know, I'm a bigproponent of the idea of little,
little bit of progression willtake you a long way.
So, um, some of the things Ithink are important that I've
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learned through this year havebeen I think the first thing is
believing in yourself.
Um, I think we deal with a lotof imposter syndrome, I think.
Um, I think a lot of us havebeen dealt rough, rough cards in
life sometimes that we we tendto be.
I think it's also a culturalthing, but I think we tend to
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just kind of be like this iswhere we're at accept it and be
grateful for what you have andnot thinking you can do more.
And you tend to take whatyou've been given as opposed to
expecting more.
And what I've noticed is a lotof people who have been
successful have either overcomethat or never had that.
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And I think for a lot of us wemight know that one person at
our job that just keeps failingup you know someone who keeps
isn't the best.
Somehow they're confidentenough to think their shit don't
stink and they keep moving upand you just don't know how.
But they're three times moresuccessful for you and have the
work ethic and so, um, you know,believe believing in yourself,
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I think is important, man.
I think being able to come andsay you know I deserve more, I
deserve what I want, um, youknow, whatever that is, um,
because obviously success isdifferent for everyone.
One of the amazing things thatI've noticed from all my
interviews and I know early on Iwasn't asking people how do you
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say success in Spanglish at theend of all my episodes.
But you know, even within thenand people who I have asked, you
know nobody's ever said moremoney, nobody's ever said being
rich, nobody's ever said buyingrich, nobody's ever said buying
everything you wanted.
It was always something else,something deeper, something more
fulfilling.
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You know, whether it'scommunity or doing your best or
making a difference, or you knowsuccess has never really been a
never had a monetary factor, atleast towards my guests that
I've had on here Maybe somedayI'll have one They'll tell me
yeah, dude, get all the money inthe world, but you know,
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nobody's ever came here pushinghustle culture and making all
that money.
And you know, screwing theworld and get yours.
You know it's been more, and Ithink the reality is that, yeah,
there are going to be peoplethat are going to be super
successful, but not all of usare going to be, you know,
billionaires, bill Gates, andtrying to achieve an
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unachievable goal is going todrive you insane and make you
feel horrible, and so findingthat purpose is going to be
important.
So finding your why, you know,and so that's kind of what I
think.
The next part too is, you know,having some sort of preparedness
of knowing what you want andwhat you don't want.
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You know, understanding that.
You know I want this in my life, or even I don't want to work
where I'm at now, or I don'twant to keep doing what I'm
doing, which is a difficultthing to admit sometimes.
Sometimes it's hard to say andtell yourself you don't want to
do something, than it is to tellyou what you want to do,
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because we all want to be richand live on the beach and, you
know, do all this fun stuff.
Sometimes, um, and sometimesit's harder to say you know, I
don't know if I want to keepdoing what I'm doing now, um, or
I want to keep doing what I'mdoing now, but maybe I don't
want to do it here, you know.
And so those are things I thinkare important for us to ask.
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Those are things that I think wedon't tend to ask ourselves
enough, um, and then once wekind of learn that and we've
asked ourselves you know, whatdo I want and what don't I want,
and we got to kind of find out,you know, what do I need to do
to get there?
You know, what do I?
What will it take for me to getto the job I want, or the type
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of job I want?
Or, you know, do I need to goget more education or some
training, or maybe take a riskat a different job that might
teach me those skills that willround me off to.
You know, that's kind of what Idid.
I knew I wasn't happy where Iwas at, I wasn't really sure
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where I wanted to go, but I knewI wanted to go something
different and I took anopportunity to take a job as a
consultant.
That rounded me enough to getme to where I'm at now, in E, f,
g, and that's going to help addto what I don't have right now
in my career, in my skill sets,and it helped tremendously.
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You know, the job I have now Iwould not be able to do as well
as I did there if I had nottaken that job because I learned
so much in those two yearsworking with that company.
So, but obviously, once youlearn that and you know that and
you're prepared with that stuff, you know, I think the next
step is, um, not being afraid ofrisk.
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Um, there's a lot of risk thatwe uh, we tend to be very risk
averse.
We do not like the idea ofscary changes.
Sometimes some of us will notapply for the job because we
think, once again, going back tobelieve yourself, that we're
not going to get it right.
Um, or we're afraid to switchout because I know what life is
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like here.
I don't know what is going tobe in there, you know.
And so, um, regardless ofwhatever you do and yeah,
there's always going to besituations where you might make
the wrong choice but the wrongchoice is just an opportunity to
learn more about how to do theright choices.
You know, failures are justlearning lessons to success.
And so I think not being afraidof risk is really important.
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And not every risk is big.
Not every risk is I'm going toleave my job and go work at a
different company across thecountry.
You know um little risk.
Like, you know what, maybe I'llask my boss for a raise this
time around when I go for myreview, or I'll ask my boss for
a promotion.
You know you deserve it.
Sometimes, believe in yourself,you know, um, but you know,
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don't be afraid of risk.
Don't be afraid of saying andtelling yourself hey, you know,
maybe this opportunity could beworth it.
Sometimes you don't know whatyou have to lose and sometimes
you won't even realize how muchyou can handle.
Tell me five years ago that I'dbe working full time sometimes
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more than full time for my dayjob, running a podcast with two
other series, interviewingpeople on a regular basis, doing
socials, posting this, whilealso trying to start a new
business and go to most of mydaughter's soccer practices and
games, be an active dad and anactive husband in my life, like
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I probably would have told you.
I'd never be able to handlethat and sometimes I feel like I
don't know if I am handling itall the best way.
But I've taken that risk and Ifeel like I've done pretty well
so far.
And so not to pat myself on theback because I'm not perfect,
but you know, I feel, you know Itry to teach my daughter to be
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okay with risk and not be afraidof trying something new, and
I've had to start listening tomy own advice and, like I said,
the show's kind of helped mewith that.
So you know, don't be afraid ofrisks and you know, as we start
progressing through this, youstart believing in yourself and
you're getting yourself prepared, knowing what you want and not
being afraid of it.
And, like I mentioned, you know, start advocating for yourself.
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Start being vocal about whatyou want at your job or what you
want you know in your life.
You know advocate.
You know speak it to the world,speak it to your job, speak it
to your boss.
Let the world know who you areand what you want.
You know, be open about it.
Don't hide back what you want.
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You know things won't change ifyou don't say something.
You know if you want a raise,ask for that raise and if they
don't give you that raise, wellthen you know where you stand
and you know what your nextmoves are.
You know either you stay withno raise or you do something
else.
Right, my previous job that Iwas at for years, I I wanted a
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raise.
I would have been happy withlike a 10 increase.
You know now I'm making almostmore than double that I was
making at that job.
And when I started this jobthey tried to get me back for a
new position that opened up andthe salary they wouldn't give me
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with a much bigger um title youknow, a nice manager title was
still like 30k less what I wasmaking at that time and uh, you
know, had they given me that 10%, I probably would have still
been there.
You know which would have beengood, which would have been fine
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at that time, you know.
So you know, know your worth andadvocate for yourself.
And sometimes companies do not,will overuse.
You know companies are busy.
They're there to make money,not to be your friend.
They're not your family.
They don't really care aboutyou, you know, not more than
what you're able to provide forthem.
So don't get that twisted,don't get confused on that.
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So you have to advocate foryourself, because they won't.
They will not have your bestinterest in mind and they would
fire you if it helped them savemoney.
They will replace you if youhad to leave.
And you know they might comeback a few years later and say,
damn, I could have had a greatemployee if I would have just
gave you a little bit more.
But they won't do that at thatmoment, you know.
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And so you have to advocate foryourself, whether it's within
your company or outside.
You know you have to be yourown advocate.
And then also, you know, don'tbe afraid to accept help.
You know also, don't be afraidto ask for help if you need it
but don't be afraid to.
You know, accept help.
I think one of the great thingsI've read, especially my last
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episode with Dr Arlo Fernandez,where he talked about, you know,
this gifted program that he wasin and I've talked about with
my other friends where it wasthe upper bound program.
And then you know, early on myinterview with Dave Landon,
where he he mentioned that youknow he can't take the credit
for the opportunities that thatwere opened up for him, but he
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can take the credit forrecognizing those opportunities
and taking advantage of them.
You know, like sometimes helpis being presented to you and we
don't take it.
Someone would say, oh, I knowsomeone that you could talk to
and they can help you with yourresume.
Okay, I'll see, I'll see, I'llsee.
You know what I mean.
Those are opportunities for you.
Sometimes the world, you know,is giving you these situations
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and we're too proud to take them.
Accept the help, ask for help.
If it's something you reallywant and you want to make
changes, don't be afraid toaccept that help.
Sometimes that's all it's goingto take.
Sometimes that's what we will.
You know we all sometimes don'tget there on our own.
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I'm proud of how Upper Brown hashelped me and how my fraternity
has helped me shoot.
Almost a good portion of theguests is from our fraternity.
You know, because I takeadvantage and I ask for that
help and I ask my brothers canyou jump on this show and tell
me about your life and tell meabout your story?
Because I'm, you know, I envy alot of my brothers and I'm
proud of a lot of what they'vedone, and you know I look at
them as not just for guidancesometimes and, you know, for
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help, and I I wouldn't havetaken the last job if I wasn't
for one of my brothers tellingme hey, you know, this is what
you would have to do if you tookthis job, but you can do it and
I believe in you and it made ita little easier for me to be
like maybe I can.
So, you know, ask for help,seek that advice.
You know help can be big orsmall.
You know sometimes just talkingto someone is what you need and
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that help can really set youaside.
Look for resources andhopefully I can start creating
more resources, that wherepeople will be a little more
able to jump on and say, hey,I'm looking for information on
this and hopefully this podcastcan provide some help for you as
well.
But you know you can contact meas well if there's something,
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and I'm always happy to try tosee where I can help out.
So you know, same thing, don'tbe afraid to ask for help.
And then another thing that Ithink it's important to me as
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I've gotten older and somethingthat keeps popping up is taking
care of yourself that havejumped on my podcast, that have
talked about the importance oftheir mental health and how
getting a therapist has reallychanged their life and how
things were difficult or theywish they would have started
seeing a therapist sooner, orthings have gotten really bad
for them, or things like that.
And you know taking care ofyourself mentally is really
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important just as much as takingcare of yourself physically.
You know I talked about myphysical health and the stuff
that's gone in my life that havecompletely changed my outlook
and makes me wonder, you know,how much time do I have left in
this world?
And will I look back at whatI've done on my deathbed and say
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I gave it my all?
And I want to.
You know, and that's also youknow, why you need to be able to
take care of yourself mentallyand physically, because if any
of that derails you, it derailsyou from your success and you
want to be around for yoursuccess.
You want to enjoy your successand so take care of yourself.
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You know, and with that youknow, work life balance.
You know that's become soimportant for me as I've become
a father and my daughter getsolder and she's a few years away
from hating me and never wantto talk to me when she becomes a
teenager.
So I'm accepting the fact thatI got to take as much advantage
now to be a big part of her lifeand be involved with as much as
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I can.
And it's hard for a lot ofpeople, you know, sometimes.
I've gotten lucky that I workfrom home and can have the
flexibility with my job so I canmake it happen.
You know, and I even get askedsometimes like how do you find
the time for something?
I try to make the time can'tmake the time for everything.
There's a lot of things I Ipush off to the side because
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it's just not on the top ofwhat's important sometimes.
But I do try to have, try tomaintain some level of work-life
balance and I think that'sreally important for us.
You know I I was reminded of aquote that someone told me.
You know, when you're on yourdeathbed, about to take your
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last breath, the last thingyou're going to think about is,
man, I wish I would have workedmore hours.
You know it's it's never goingto be about how much time you
put in at work and how muchmoney you made from work, and
you're going to remember theother things how much time
you've been with your family,how much time you put in at work
and how much money you madefrom work.
And you're gonna remember theother things how much time
you've been with your family,how much time you were with the
people you love and beingsurrounded by those that make
you happy.
So you know, take care ofyourself.
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You know, take care of yourselfmentally, physically, and you
know, get that work-life balancethat you can, because you don't
want to burn out as well.
So you know, coach mark, will bejumped on and talked about
burnout a bit, and I think it'simportant, I think it's really
relevant and I think there is alot of things that can burn your
eye and sometimes, witheverything that I'm doing, I
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feel I'm getting close toburnout and I gotta take some
time.
I gotta say, hey, you know what, I think I'm not gonna do
anything today, I'm just gonnaveg out and play some video
games or watch a movie with mywife and kid, you know.
So, um, it's always a balancingact and you got to take care of
yourself, um.
And then I think ultimately, um, you have to progress and then
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recognize progress.
Right, you have to make themoves and the changes to do
better.
You're going to, as yourecognize things and start doing
stuff and actually being takingthe actions to get what you
want, you're going to progress,man, it's.
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There's this I'm blanking outon the book's name, but it's a
book that really I really likeand it's not a talk of my habit.
I'm confusing it now, but it'sCompound Effect Sorry, the
Compound Effect and I reallylove that book and I really
enjoyed that book and what ittalked about, because it talked
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about incremental progression.
You know how little changeseventually add up to a lot of
changes.
If you think about it as weightloss, losing 35 pounds is
really difficult, but losinghalf a pound here and then
another half a pound or anotherhalf a pound, you know, with
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time you'll get to that 30pounds.
You can't just come and lose 35pounds in one night.
And so you can't run a marathonuntil you learn how to run a
mile, and you can't learn how torun a mile until you learn how
to walk a mile.
And so it's incrementalincrease.
You know the idea that if youimprove yourself by 1% per day
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by the end of the year youimprove yourself by 365%.
You know.
So it's little things add up andso you have to recognize that.
You know you are going toprogress.
You know, and you are going toprogress little by little and
that's okay.
You know, sometimes you mightmake some big jumps, sometimes
you might have a little bit of asetback, but at the end of the
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day you're going to keepprogressing.
And then you have to recognizethat progress.
You know.
You have to remember progressis progress.
You know any little progress isgood.
You know if it's a 5% increasein your raise or 2%, you ask for
more.
Or maybe you get more PTO, ormaybe you're able to convince
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your boss to put you on the listof potential manager.
You know all those littlethings are better, or even
recognizing that, hey, my job isnot going to take me where I
want to go here at my job.
That's progress.
You've learned something new.
To take me where I want to gohere at my job, that's progress.
You've learned something new.
You've obtained some newknowledge that you can use to
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make better decisions.
And so recognize that.
Tell yourself, hey, I'mprogressing, I am making
progress, and be proud and happyof what you're doing.
You know, it is not a fast raceto the end.
It is a.
It's a marathon.
You will take your time, youbuild up, you will train and you
will get there eventually.
But you have to just keepworking at it and you just have
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to recognize that the work isbecoming positive, that there is
action occurring and you'reprogressing.
And so you know.
I think that's one of the thingsthat I've had to kind of look
at sometimes, where the truth isas you get more successful from
where I was in my early career.
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The amount of money I make nowwas the dream, and I make a lot
more than what I was my dream ofwhat I wanted to make.
And I still sometimes feel likeI'm not there yet.
I still don't feel like it'schanged my life.
Why?
Because it's not going to.
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I'm still me.
I'm still my life.
You know the things that arehere and there are still a part
of my life, and making moremoney isn't going to fill the
voids or whatever feelings Ifeel, and I have to recognize
that, be proud of where I'm at,be proud of all the little
things I've accomplished in mylife and all the big things and
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all the successes in my life,because the monetary aspect of
that was driving me insane,because I felt like I wasn't
where I wanted to be.
And then I took a second andtook a step back and I
recognized what I've achieved,you know, and so recognize your
progress, recognize what you'veaccomplished and be proud of
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yourself for any little changeyou've done, because change is
difficult.
You know I work IT.
I do a lot of stuff where I'mintroducing new products and
stuff, and people hate changeand people hate learning how to
do new things and drag it outforever as long as they can, and
so being open and honest withyourself, to be able to make
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change is is very difficult andyou should be proud of yourself
for being able to accomplishthat.
So I mean I think those aresome of the things that I've
taken away from this year.
I hope to expand on this withmore time as I interview more
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people and I learn more lessons.
There's a lot of things thatpeople have mentioned on this
podcast that I tend to vote nowand when I talk to people who've
listened to an episode anddifferent aspects of what people
say and how it goes into playand it's opened up my mind a lot
and I hope for a lot of y'alltoo, and I know everybody comes
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in with different perspectivesand have come in with different
industries they work at or jobsor different things are doing in
different stories and differentjourneys and things like that.
But I feel like each one ofthem have provided a lot of good
lessons and, like with thatcompound effect, all those
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little lessons add up into biglessons and I think for me,
having to listen to all of them,it's have.
It has made major impacts on meand so I hope at least it's
making some impacts on some ofy'all, even if it's a small
incremental impact.
So but thank you guys for agreat year so far.
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It's been a lot of work and I'mexcited to be able to provide
more.
But thank you guys for a greatyear so far.
It's been a lot of work and I'mexcited to be able to provide
more in season two.
I'll be taking a little bit ofa break to decompress for a
little bit, take a little bit ofenjoyment of my summer and plan
and prepare for some hopefullybigger and better things for the
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new year.
And, as always, thank you guysfor all the support.
I really appreciate you guyslistening in and I look forward
to season two and continue togive you guys a lot more stuff.
So I hope you join me again aswe continue to learn how to say
success in spanglish.
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And thank you for a dope year.
Peace out, guys.
This is Raul Lopez and you're listening to how Do
you Save Success in Spanglish.
The path to success isn't easyFor minorities and people of
color.
Many attempt this journey withlittle to no guidance.
Join me as I sit down withindividuals who share their
stories of perseverance so thattogether we can learn how to say
success in Spanglish what'sgood, mi gente, it's your boy,
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raul.
Welcome back to how Do you SaySuccess in Spanglish.
Today, my guest is me.
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I wanted to take some time, thisbeing my last episode of my
first season and almost a yearinto this and about 34 episodes,
35 episodes deep, really hopethat I've grown and gained a lot
from this and I do feel likeI've learned a lot in this first
year with everything that'sbeen going on and all the guests
I've had, all the amazingguests that I've had.
So I kind of want to just takea last breath for this season
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and talk a little bit andreflect and kind of think about
you know where I've come fromwhat Mythical Morning, and they
were comparing sandwiches fromJersey, mike and Jimmy John's
and I'll get to the point ofwhere a sandwich competition
comes into play with how do yousay success in Spanish?
But they were talking justrandomly, random facts, kind of
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they throw in there, and theytalked about Jimmy John and how
the owner of Jimmy John, hisfather, had given him $25,000
and said start a business, um,and if you fail you have to go
back to the military.
And it reminded me of, kind ofwhat got me started with this.
Um, for any, for a lot ofpeople, uh, especially who grew
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up poor and sometimes animmigrant and not having this
resources, availability orcapabilities of our family to
kind of guide us, the idea ofhaving a family member, say,
here's $25,000, start a companyand going with it, um, even now,
my age of that, I'm at the ideaof having 25 000 dollars to
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drop on a company, you knowwould be nice not there yet, to
be able to just go there andstart that.
Start that way, um.
And it reminded me of, like,why I started this, you know,
because there's this disconnect,there's this difference, this
nuance in how a lot of us whohave gathered, gained any type
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of success or are trying to gainsuccess, we travel this road.
You know, I don't know if Imentioned it in my previous
podcast, but the reason I kindof started this was, like I said
I was going through my owntough spot when it came to my
career.
I had not felt like I progressedwhere I was, I was not getting
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the promotions I wanted.
Things were being dangled infront of me.
I had worked for too many yearsat a few different companies
with very little upper mobility.
So I think I had averaged aboutseven years in my first job and
at the job I was at I wascircling almost eight years
seven years I think at that jobas well.
So it was kind of like notmoving anywhere and sticking
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around.
And so I decided, hey, let meget into some self-help stuff,
start reading.
Well, I don't like to read.
I don't like to read, but I'm areally slow reader, so reading
for me is very difficult.
So I like to listen toaudiobooks and I was listening
to a few audiobooks aboutdifferent things and self-help
and you know some great bookslike.
You know some some great bookslike um, you know Atomic Habits,
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um and uh, rich Dad, poor Dad,uh, the.
The one book I kind of changedand kind of got me into this was
Shoe Dog, and not necessarilyfor the motivational aspect of
it, um, cause I remember readingall the reviews and shoe dog
was kind of like hey, yeah, um,you know this is a great
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motivational story.
This inspired me.
This was a wonderful, wonderfulstory and I think as a business
uh, and shoe dog is a storyabout the founder of Nike, um,
and as a business, I agree.
I think as a business it's avery inspirational underdog
story for a company.
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But on an individual basis,early on I couldn't get past a
certain aspect of it.
You know the just to kind ofquickly give a little glimpse of
what happened, you know, afteryou know, graduating and
spending some time in Hawaii anddeciding he wanted to open a
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start, a shoe store.
Based off of some research hedid in college, at Stanford, he
went to his dad, was able to geta loan from him for once again,
kind of like jimmy johns, aloan to start his business.
And because his dad hadconnections as um in different
businesses, he was able to gethim a connection with someone
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who knew someone who knewsomeone in japan and got him
that initial door opening todiscuss, uh, opening a factory,
uh, well, getting a factory tobreak these shoes for him in
Japan.
And that was early in the book,really early in the book.
You know I'm probably like lessthan you know.
You're probably like a thirdway into the book at this point
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and I was like holy shit, Iwould never have that
opportunity.
You know my dad was animmigrant.
You know we were all immigrants.
You know my dad was animmigrant.
You know we were all immigrants.
You know he was a truck driverwho never wanted me to drive
trucks and made his life duty,never to let me even like the
idea of driving a truck, even tothe point of never teaching me
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how to drive a truck out of fearthat I enjoy it.
Never wanted me to work becausehe was afraid I would fear
making, you know, six bucks anhour seven bucks an hour at the
time as opposed to wanting to goto college.
So my dad was very focused onme not fucking up and going to a
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certain route and going tocollege and becoming more
successful.
And I couldn't get over that inthe book I could not.
No matter how I got there.
Every time I learned and Ilearned more about the story, I
just couldn't get over the factthat, yeah, but you had a
headstart, you had a little bitof something that I would never
have had and you gathered thishuge level of success and it's
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not the same story I would havehad.
And that's kind of what droveme to want to do this show, this
podcast, and present thesestories and these journeys of
all my guests who come on theshow.
Um, because we do have thesestories and it's we're
underrepresented and nobodynecessarily talks about it.
You're not going to not thatmany books that you're going to
read about and audio books aboutyou know the successes of
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people that we I show on theshow and you know I want that
representation.
I want people like me who aregoing through stuff to be able
to hear these stories and learnand recognize and maybe, you
know, take a lesson from one ortwo people and apply that to
what they're doing.
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Personally, I have I think I'velearned a lot from this from my
guests and have been able toactually apply that at work in
my own job.
Um, you know I've I've becomemore vocal, um, a lot more um
intentional in what I do with mycareer and what I want next,
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and being more vocal about youknow what, what I want, and more
demanding of what I need, uh,from a job, as opposed to just
working where before it was meproving myself and now it's me
expecting something back inreturn and holding my job
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accountable for that.
And so it's been working outfor me and I'm you know, I'm
happy with where I'm at my job.
I'm happy of where I'm goingand the, the possibilities that
are opening up for me, um, andwhich is great.
You know, it didn't I it'sfunny because I was like I
didn't expect this show to teachme lessons.
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Um, you know the old feeling ofyou can't teach an old dog new
tricks, and I thought I washopefully just building
something for others.
Um, but remarkably, it'sactually helped me out and lots
of times when I'm at um my ownlife and their situations, um, I
think about this show and thinkabout what others have done and
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it's motivated me to do more.
Um, not only have I been doingmore with work and becoming more
successful in my job, my dayjob, you know, I've even gone as
far, as you know, obviously,expanding this podcast to more
than just my podcast, you know,adding the Palanta series and
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the spotlight series andhopefully a couple more things
when I get to next season.
Um, and building more, and thenalso taking the experiences
through here and my experiencewith time and I've actually
started a company with my cousinthat I'll be presenting, uh in
the near future, uh to kind ofum present to the world, and so
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stuff that I would never, I'vealways would have been afraid to
do I've kind of gained thatmotivation to be like you know,
you know, do it now.
You know it's like that's funny, shoe dog, nike, just do it,
you know, and I'm no longer notthat I'm not afraid of stuff,
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but I'm willing to take morerisks and it's been as positive
for me that I hope it's been forsome of y'all, and I do
appreciate a lot of the feedback, you know.
And so I kind of wanted to gothrough some of the things I
think I've learned from thispast year, and hopefully these
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are some of the lessons you'lllearn, and obviously this is
stuff that will get tweaked.
Hopefully I can come up with abetter way of presenting this in
the future so that you know,through what we're doing here,
what I'm doing here at how Doyou Say Success in the Spanish
we can, you know, create a goodwork frame for us and something
to believe in ourselves to helpus all.
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You know I'm a big proponent ofall.
Ships rise with the tides and Iwant to see all of us do better
.
I don't believe that I got toget mine, you know, screw you.
So I hope that I'm presentingand providing enough resources
and I'm always open to hearingmore.
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So if anybody ever wants tocome and tell me hey, this would
be great, that would be great.
I, you know, a lot of what I'vebeen doing has been done by
discussions with other people.
Someone says this hey, wouldn'tit be great if you did this?
You know, I really would begreat if you did this, and you
know, and so I'm trying to takeadvantage of that.
Um, it's not enough time in theworld for me to do everything I
want to do yet and I hopefullywe'll keep just adding, little
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by little, incremental increases, incremental improvements in
life, um, as well.
So, um, you know, I'm a bigproponent of the idea of little,
little bit of progression willtake you a long way.
So, um, some of the things Ithink are important that I've
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learned through this year havebeen I think the first thing is
believing in yourself.
Um, I think we deal with a lotof imposter syndrome, I think.
Um, I think a lot of us havebeen dealt rough, rough cards in
life sometimes that we we tendto be.
I think it's also a culturalthing, but I think we tend to
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just kind of be like this iswhere we're at accept it and be
grateful for what you have andnot thinking you can do more.
And you tend to take whatyou've been given as opposed to
expecting more.
And what I've noticed is a lotof people who have been
successful have either overcomethat or never had that.
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And I think for a lot of us wemight know that one person at
our job that just keeps failingup you know someone who keeps
isn't the best.
Somehow they're confidentenough to think their shit don't
stink and they keep moving upand you just don't know how.
But they're three times moresuccessful for you and have the
work ethic and so, um, you know,believe believing in yourself,
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I think is important, man.
I think being able to come andsay you know I deserve more, I
deserve what I want, um, youknow, whatever that is, um,
because obviously success isdifferent for everyone.
One of the amazing things thatI've noticed from all my
interviews and I know early on Iwasn't asking people how do you
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say success in Spanglish at theend of all my episodes.
But you know, even within thenand people who I have asked, you
know nobody's ever said moremoney, nobody's ever said being
rich, nobody's ever said buyingrich, nobody's ever said buying
everything you wanted.
It was always something else,something deeper, something more
fulfilling.
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You know, whether it'scommunity or doing your best or
making a difference, or you knowsuccess has never really been a
never had a monetary factor, atleast towards my guests that
I've had on here Maybe somedayI'll have one They'll tell me
yeah, dude, get all the money inthe world, but you know,
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nobody's ever came here pushinghustle culture and making all
that money.
And you know, screwing theworld and get yours.
You know it's been more, and Ithink the reality is that, yeah,
there are going to be peoplethat are going to be super
successful, but not all of usare going to be, you know,
billionaires, bill Gates, andtrying to achieve an
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unachievable goal is going todrive you insane and make you
feel horrible, and so findingthat purpose is going to be
important.
So finding your why, you know,and so that's kind of what I
think.
The next part too is, you know,having some sort of preparedness
of knowing what you want andwhat you don't want.
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You know, understanding that.
You know I want this in my life, or even I don't want to work
where I'm at now, or I don'twant to keep doing what I'm
doing, which is a difficultthing to admit sometimes.
Sometimes it's hard to say andtell yourself you don't want to
do something, than it is to tellyou what you want to do,
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because we all want to be richand live on the beach and, you
know, do all this fun stuff.
Sometimes, um, and sometimesit's harder to say you know, I
don't know if I want to keepdoing what I'm doing now, um, or
I want to keep doing what I'mdoing now, but maybe I don't
want to do it here, you know.
And so those are things I thinkare important for us to ask.
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Those are things that I think wedon't tend to ask ourselves
enough, um, and then once wekind of learn that and we've
asked ourselves you know, whatdo I want and what don't I want,
and we got to kind of find out,you know, what do I need to do
to get there?
You know, what do I?
What will it take for me to getto the job I want, or the type
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of job I want?
Or, you know, do I need to goget more education or some
training, or maybe take a riskat a different job that might
teach me those skills that willround me off to.
You know, that's kind of what Idid.
I knew I wasn't happy where Iwas at, I wasn't really sure
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where I wanted to go, but I knewI wanted to go something
different and I took anopportunity to take a job as a
consultant.
That rounded me enough to getme to where I'm at now, in E, f,
g, and that's going to help addto what I don't have right now
in my career, in my skill sets,and it helped tremendously.
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You know, the job I have now Iwould not be able to do as well
as I did there if I had nottaken that job because I learned
so much in those two yearsworking with that company.
So, but obviously, once youlearn that and you know that and
you're prepared with that stuff, you know, I think the next
step is, um, not being afraid ofrisk.
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Um, there's a lot of risk thatwe uh, we tend to be very risk
averse.
We do not like the idea ofscary changes.
Sometimes some of us will notapply for the job because we
think, once again, going back tobelieve yourself, that we're
not going to get it right.
Um, or we're afraid to switchout because I know what life is
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like here.
I don't know what is going tobe in there, you know.
And so, um, regardless ofwhatever you do and yeah,
there's always going to besituations where you might make
the wrong choice but the wrongchoice is just an opportunity to
learn more about how to do theright choices.
You know, failures are justlearning lessons to success.
And so I think not being afraidof risk is really important.
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And not every risk is big.
Not every risk is I'm going toleave my job and go work at a
different company across thecountry.
You know um little risk.
Like, you know what, maybe I'llask my boss for a raise this
time around when I go for myreview, or I'll ask my boss for
a promotion.
You know you deserve it.
Sometimes, believe in yourself,you know, um, but you know,
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don't be afraid of risk.
Don't be afraid of saying andtelling yourself hey, you know,
maybe this opportunity could beworth it.
Sometimes you don't know whatyou have to lose and sometimes
you won't even realize how muchyou can handle.
Tell me five years ago that I'dbe working full time sometimes
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more than full time for my dayjob, running a podcast with two
other series, interviewingpeople on a regular basis, doing
socials, posting this, whilealso trying to start a new
business and go to most of mydaughter's soccer practices and
games, be an active dad and anactive husband in my life, like
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I probably would have told you.
I'd never be able to handlethat and sometimes I feel like I
don't know if I am handling itall the best way.
But I've taken that risk and Ifeel like I've done pretty well
so far.
And so not to pat myself on theback because I'm not perfect,
but you know, I feel, you know Itry to teach my daughter to be
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okay with risk and not be afraidof trying something new, and
I've had to start listening tomy own advice and, like I said,
the show's kind of helped mewith that.
So you know, don't be afraid ofrisks and you know, as we start
progressing through this, youstart believing in yourself and
you're getting yourself prepared, knowing what you want and not
being afraid of it.
And, like I mentioned, you know, start advocating for yourself.
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Start being vocal about whatyou want at your job or what you
want you know in your life.
You know advocate.
You know speak it to the world,speak it to your job, speak it
to your boss.
Let the world know who you areand what you want.
You know, be open about it.
Don't hide back what you want.
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You know things won't change ifyou don't say something.
You know if you want a raise,ask for that raise and if they
don't give you that raise, wellthen you know where you stand
and you know what your nextmoves are.
You know either you stay withno raise or you do something
else.
Right, my previous job that Iwas at for years, I I wanted a
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raise.
I would have been happy withlike a 10 increase.
You know now I'm making almostmore than double that I was
making at that job.
And when I started this jobthey tried to get me back for a
new position that opened up andthe salary they wouldn't give me
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with a much bigger um title youknow, a nice manager title was
still like 30k less what I wasmaking at that time and uh, you
know, had they given me that 10%, I probably would have still
been there.
You know which would have beengood, which would have been fine
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at that time, you know.
So you know, know your worth andadvocate for yourself.
And sometimes companies do not,will overuse.
You know companies are busy.
They're there to make money,not to be your friend.
They're not your family.
They don't really care aboutyou, you know, not more than
what you're able to provide forthem.
So don't get that twisted,don't get confused on that.
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So you have to advocate foryourself, because they won't.
They will not have your bestinterest in mind and they would
fire you if it helped them savemoney.
They will replace you if youhad to leave.
And you know they might comeback a few years later and say,
damn, I could have had a greatemployee if I would have just
gave you a little bit more.
But they won't do that at thatmoment, you know.
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And so you have to advocate foryourself, whether it's within
your company or outside.
You know you have to be yourown advocate.
And then also, you know, don'tbe afraid to accept help.
You know also, don't be afraidto ask for help if you need it
but don't be afraid to.
You know, accept help.
I think one of the great thingsI've read, especially my last
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episode with Dr Arlo Fernandez,where he talked about, you know,
this gifted program that he wasin and I've talked about with
my other friends where it wasthe upper bound program.
And then you know, early on myinterview with Dave Landon,
where he he mentioned that youknow he can't take the credit
for the opportunities that thatwere opened up for him, but he
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can take the credit forrecognizing those opportunities
and taking advantage of them.
You know, like sometimes helpis being presented to you and we
don't take it.
Someone would say, oh, I knowsomeone that you could talk to
and they can help you with yourresume.
Okay, I'll see, I'll see, I'llsee.
You know what I mean.
Those are opportunities for you.
Sometimes the world, you know,is giving you these situations
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and we're too proud to take them.
Accept the help, ask for help.
If it's something you reallywant and you want to make
changes, don't be afraid toaccept that help.
Sometimes that's all it's goingto take.
Sometimes that's what we will.
You know we all sometimes don'tget there on our own.
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I'm proud of how Upper Brown hashelped me and how my fraternity
has helped me shoot.
Almost a good portion of theguests is from our fraternity.
You know, because I takeadvantage and I ask for that
help and I ask my brothers canyou jump on this show and tell
me about your life and tell meabout your story?
Because I'm, you know, I envy alot of my brothers and I'm
proud of a lot of what they'vedone, and you know I look at
them as not just for guidancesometimes and, you know, for
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help, and I I wouldn't havetaken the last job if I wasn't
for one of my brothers tellingme hey, you know, this is what
you would have to do if you tookthis job, but you can do it and
I believe in you and it made ita little easier for me to be
like maybe I can.
So, you know, ask for help,seek that advice.
You know help can be big orsmall.
You know sometimes just talkingto someone is what you need and
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that help can really set youaside.
Look for resources andhopefully I can start creating
more resources, that wherepeople will be a little more
able to jump on and say, hey,I'm looking for information on
this and hopefully this podcastcan provide some help for you as
well.
But you know you can contact meas well if there's something,
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and I'm always happy to try tosee where I can help out.
So you know, same thing, don'tbe afraid to ask for help.
And then another thing that Ithink it's important to me as
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I've gotten older and somethingthat keeps popping up is taking
care of yourself that havejumped on my podcast, that have
talked about the importance oftheir mental health and how
getting a therapist has reallychanged their life and how
things were difficult or theywish they would have started
seeing a therapist sooner, orthings have gotten really bad
for them, or things like that.
And you know taking care ofyourself mentally is really
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important just as much as takingcare of yourself physically.
You know I talked about myphysical health and the stuff
that's gone in my life that havecompletely changed my outlook
and makes me wonder, you know,how much time do I have left in
this world?
And will I look back at whatI've done on my deathbed and say
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I gave it my all?
And I want to.
You know, and that's also youknow, why you need to be able to
take care of yourself mentallyand physically, because if any
of that derails you, it derailsyou from your success and you
want to be around for yoursuccess.
You want to enjoy your successand so take care of yourself.
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You know, and with that youknow, work life balance.
You know that's become soimportant for me as I've become
a father and my daughter getsolder and she's a few years away
from hating me and never wantto talk to me when she becomes a
teenager.
So I'm accepting the fact thatI got to take as much advantage
now to be a big part of her lifeand be involved with as much as
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I can.
And it's hard for a lot ofpeople, you know, sometimes.
I've gotten lucky that I workfrom home and can have the
flexibility with my job so I canmake it happen.
You know, and I even get askedsometimes like how do you find
the time for something?
I try to make the time can'tmake the time for everything.
There's a lot of things I Ipush off to the side because
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it's just not on the top ofwhat's important sometimes.
But I do try to have, try tomaintain some level of work-life
balance and I think that'sreally important for us.
You know I I was reminded of aquote that someone told me.
You know, when you're on yourdeathbed, about to take your
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last breath, the last thingyou're going to think about is,
man, I wish I would have workedmore hours.
You know it's it's never goingto be about how much time you
put in at work and how muchmoney you made from work, and
you're going to remember theother things how much time
you've been with your family,how much time you put in at work
and how much money you madefrom work.
And you're gonna remember theother things how much time
you've been with your family,how much time you were with the
people you love and beingsurrounded by those that make
you happy.
So you know, take care ofyourself.
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You know, take care of yourselfmentally, physically, and you
know, get that work-life balancethat you can, because you don't
want to burn out as well.
So you know, coach mark, will bejumped on and talked about
burnout a bit, and I think it'simportant, I think it's really
relevant and I think there is alot of things that can burn your
eye and sometimes, witheverything that I'm doing, I
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feel I'm getting close toburnout and I gotta take some
time.
I gotta say, hey, you know what, I think I'm not gonna do
anything today, I'm just gonnaveg out and play some video
games or watch a movie with mywife and kid, you know.
So, um, it's always a balancingact and you got to take care of
yourself, um.
And then I think ultimately, um, you have to progress and then
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recognize progress.
Right, you have to make themoves and the changes to do
better.
You're going to, as yourecognize things and start doing
stuff and actually being takingthe actions to get what you
want, you're going to progress,man, it's.
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There's this I'm blanking outon the book's name, but it's a
book that really I really likeand it's not a talk of my habit.
I'm confusing it now, but it'sCompound Effect Sorry, the
Compound Effect and I reallylove that book and I really
enjoyed that book and what ittalked about, because it talked
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about incremental progression.
You know how little changeseventually add up to a lot of
changes.
If you think about it as weightloss, losing 35 pounds is
really difficult, but losinghalf a pound here and then
another half a pound or anotherhalf a pound, you know, with
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time you'll get to that 30pounds.
You can't just come and lose 35pounds in one night.
And so you can't run a marathonuntil you learn how to run a
mile, and you can't learn how torun a mile until you learn how
to walk a mile.
And so it's incrementalincrease.
You know the idea that if youimprove yourself by 1% per day
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by the end of the year youimprove yourself by 365%.
You know.
So it's little things add up andso you have to recognize that.
You know you are going toprogress.
You know, and you are going toprogress little by little and
that's okay.
You know, sometimes you mightmake some big jumps, sometimes
you might have a little bit of asetback, but at the end of the
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day you're going to keepprogressing.
And then you have to recognizethat progress.
You know.
You have to remember progressis progress.
You know any little progress isgood.
You know if it's a 5% increasein your raise or 2%, you ask for
more.
Or maybe you get more PTO, ormaybe you're able to convince
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your boss to put you on the listof potential manager.
You know all those littlethings are better, or even
recognizing that, hey, my job isnot going to take me where I
want to go here at my job.
That's progress.
You've learned something new.
To take me where I want to gohere at my job, that's progress.
You've learned something new.
You've obtained some newknowledge that you can use to
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make better decisions.
And so recognize that.
Tell yourself, hey, I'mprogressing, I am making
progress, and be proud and happyof what you're doing.
You know, it is not a fast raceto the end.
It is a.
It's a marathon.
You will take your time, youbuild up, you will train and you
will get there eventually.
But you have to just keepworking at it and you just have
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to recognize that the work isbecoming positive, that there is
action occurring and you'reprogressing.
And so you know.
I think that's one of the thingsthat I've had to kind of look
at sometimes, where the truth isas you get more successful from
where I was in my early career.
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The amount of money I make nowwas the dream, and I make a lot
more than what I was my dream ofwhat I wanted to make.
And I still sometimes feel likeI'm not there yet.
I still don't feel like it'schanged my life.
Why?
Because it's not going to.
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I'm still me.
I'm still my life.
You know the things that arehere and there are still a part
of my life, and making moremoney isn't going to fill the
voids or whatever feelings Ifeel, and I have to recognize
that, be proud of where I'm at,be proud of all the little
things I've accomplished in mylife and all the big things and
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all the successes in my life,because the monetary aspect of
that was driving me insane,because I felt like I wasn't
where I wanted to be.
And then I took a second andtook a step back and I
recognized what I've achieved,you know, and so recognize your
progress, recognize what you'veaccomplished and be proud of
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yourself for any little changeyou've done, because change is
difficult.
You know I work IT.
I do a lot of stuff where I'mintroducing new products and
stuff, and people hate changeand people hate learning how to
do new things and drag it outforever as long as they can, and
so being open and honest withyourself, to be able to make
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change is is very difficult andyou should be proud of yourself
for being able to accomplishthat.
So I mean I think those aresome of the things that I've
taken away from this year.
I hope to expand on this withmore time as I interview more
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people and I learn more lessons.
There's a lot of things thatpeople have mentioned on this
podcast that I tend to vote nowand when I talk to people who've
listened to an episode anddifferent aspects of what people
say and how it goes into playand it's opened up my mind a lot
and I hope for a lot of y'alltoo, and I know everybody comes
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in with different perspectivesand have come in with different
industries they work at or jobsor different things are doing in
different stories and differentjourneys and things like that.
But I feel like each one ofthem have provided a lot of good
lessons and, like with thatcompound effect, all those
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little lessons add up into biglessons and I think for me,
having to listen to all of them,it's have.
It has made major impacts on meand so I hope at least it's
making some impacts on some ofy'all, even if it's a small
incremental impact.
So but thank you guys for agreat year so far.
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It's been a lot of work and I'mexcited to be able to provide
more.
But thank you guys for a greatyear so far.
It's been a lot of work and I'mexcited to be able to provide
more in season two.
I'll be taking a little bit ofa break to decompress for a
little bit, take a little bit ofenjoyment of my summer and plan
and prepare for some hopefullybigger and better things for the
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new year.
And, as always, thank you guysfor all the support.
I really appreciate you guyslistening in and I look forward
to season two and continue togive you guys a lot more stuff.
So I hope you join me again aswe continue to learn how to say
success in spanglish.
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And thank you for a dope year.
Peace out, guys.
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