Husband Material
So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode makes it easier for you to achieve lasting freedom from porn—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually mature man of God.
Episodes
What does the Bible say about abuse? According to Dr. Steve Tracy, Scripture talks about abuse hundreds if not thousands of times. In this profound episode, you'll get a clear definition of abuse, how God responds to it, why all sin is not the same in its consequences, and how to guard against toxic misinterpretations of God's word.
Dr. Steve Tracy is the president and international director of Mending the Soul Ministries. Steve and...
What is sexual attraction fluidity exploration in therapy (SAFE-T)? Licensed professional counselor Andrew Rodriguez shares the history behind the sexual orientation paradigm and offers a powerful message of hope for men seeking alignment between their attractions and their values. You'll learn how Reintegrative Therapy uses modern attachment theory and trauma reprocessing to create significant shifts in unwanted sexual feelings an...
Many movies minimize, justify, or even celebrate sexual betrayal. In this episode, you’ll discover 5 popular films that communicate toxic messages about deception and infidelity.
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Learn 8 differences between unhealthy attachment and healthy brotherhood:
- How it begins
- Core motivation
- Emotional tone
- Boundaries
- Identity and inner stability
- Sexual attraction dynamics
- Conflict and tension
- Growth trajectory
Longing for healthy brotherhood? Register for the next Husband Material Retreat at husbandmaterial.com/retreat
You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11!
This free online workshop will go through ...
"You are God's beloved son. In you He is well-pleased!" This is a powerful truth for outgrowing porn. But while that identity sounds beautiful, it often leaves us asking: What do I actually do with that? What does it look like to live like a beloved son in everyday life?
This episode breaks down 14 practical, redemptive ways to step out of a performance-driven "slave" mindset and into the freedom of true sonship. If you're rea...
What is your heart hungry for? How can you satisfy that hunger in a healthy way? Shawn Bonneteau unpacks how our thoughts and actions flow from the heart, a 5-second tool that can interrupt unwanted behavior, and how Christ transforms us without shame.
Shawn Bonneteau is a Christian sexual recovery coach who has spent 14 years inside addiction and 8 years guiding men out of it for a total of over 3,000 sessions. Shawn is...
Instead of trying harder, what would it look like to try softer? Author and counselor Aundi Kolber guides us into compassionate attention so that we can reconnect with our bodies, heal from trauma, and outgrow porn. You'll also hear how God relates to us in the middle of our mess with in-process miracles along the way.
Aundi Kolber is a licensed professional counselor (MA, LPC) and bestselling author of the critically acclaime...
Hear a vulnerable, powerful breakup letter written to pornography.
If this resonates with you, write your own “dear porn” breakup letter and share it in the Husband Material Community, which you can join at husbandmaterial.com
You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11!
This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day.
Sign up now at husbandmaterial.com/workshop
Discover the differences between "Egypt Sexuality" and "Promised Land Sexuality" based on insights from Deuteronomy 11:10-12. You'll be challenged to trust God with your life instead of trying to control your life.
This sermon was originally preached on Sunday, April 26, 2026 at the Husband Material Spring Retreat in Georgia. See upcoming retreats at husbandmaterial.com/retreat
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Have you ever felt curious or confused about IFS (Internal Family Systems) and how it can help you outgrow porn? Patrick Cagle offers the perfect introduction: the 3 types of parts within you, the 9 Cs of your authentic self, and the highly practical 6 Fs to connect with a part of you that feels activated, triggered, or sexually tempted.
Patrick Cagle is an IFS Level 2–trained therapist, a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CS...
Are you tired of fighting a battle against yourself? Jenna Riemersma offers a remarkably powerful path to healing through the "Move Toward" approach, her simplified version of IFS (Internal Family Systems). You'll learn a practical three-step tool to transform unwanted behavior and outgrow porn through curiosity and compassion.
Jenna Riemersma, LPC, is a leading authority in integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy wi...
Learn the real reason why freedom from porn feels impossible with insights from one of my favorite movies, The Shawshank Redemption.
“Your brain doesn’t want new things. It wants old things that it already knows how to survive.” —Chase Hughes
You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11!
This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Material Academy program in a single day.
How can I revive the soul of my family? Whether you're a father, a husband, or a man preparing for those roles, listen to this. Dr. Joshua Straub presents a powerful picture of what it looks like to become emotionally safe, build intimacy with your spouse, enter your child's world, and protect your family in the spiritual realm.
Joshua Straub is most renowned for his role as a husband and dad. A recovering human, he’s passiona...
How does being sexually betrayed affect men? Adam Nisenson explains the phenomenon of masculine betrayal trauma and what healing looks like.
Adam Nisenson is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT). He is known as The Betrayal Shrink, a pioneering voice in men’s mental health, and the first professional to define and name the phenomenon of Masculine Betrayal Trauma.
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What if the very traits that got you hooked on porn—curiosity, childlike wonder, and awe—are actually keys to your freedom? As Jason Mellard explains, these qualities aren't bad; they are simply waiting to be reclaimed and redeemed. You'll learn about observation vs. obsession, building with vision vs. escaping into fantasy, and appreciating beauty vs. idolizing it...
Bonus: Stay tuned for a spontaneous musical moment wh...
What exactly is a glimmer? Why do glimmers matter for outgrowing porn? Learn 3 ways to get the most out of your glimmers—maximizing moments of joy, peace, and connection.
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You're invited to HMA In A Day on Saturday, July 11!
This free online workshop will go through the entire Husband Ma...
Where is God when we suffer? How does grief intensify sexual temptation? Why do we need to "run toward the roar" of triggers and traumas instead of avoiding them?
Hear Davey Blackburn tell the heartbreaking story of how his wife of 7 years was murdered in their home during a break-in, leaving him as a single father to their 15-month-old son. Davey also describes how God has begun to write a beautiful redemption story of healin...
What if the desires you've been suppressing are not bad, but simply underdeveloped? In this episode, Jay Stringer explores five core longings that drive us—and why we need to welcome them rather than try to conquer them or shut them down. You'll hear how desire is shaped by childhood experiences, pornography, and other forces—as well as how desire can be reshaped and resurrected.
What is redemptive risk? Why is it essential for healing and outgrowing porn? In this episode, you'll learn why and how to embrace redemptive risk, the difference between dirty pain and clean pain, and three steps to consider as you discern your next redemptive risk:
- Start with "why"
- Count the cost
- Own your strength
What redemptive risk(s) are you currently taking? Let us know in the Husband Material Community!
Men need men. In this episode, Tom Zuniga champions the value of brotherhood and "chosen family"—especially in a culture where romantic marriage seems like the only place where intimacy is possible. Tom shares his story of growing up feeling lonely and different, experiencing same-sex attraction, and discovering the beauty of following Jesus in community with other men.
Tom Zuniga is the Director of Your Other Brothers, a comm...
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