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So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will help you achieve lasting freedom from porn more quickly and permanently—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually healthy man of God.

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July 26, 2021 8 min

What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised!

This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson).

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Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell will introduce the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig will explain different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We will also talk about how emotional/s...

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This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More.

Learn more about Restored 2 More here:
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The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied, and how to heal from the effects of p...

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June 28, 2021 52 min

What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.

You can find a visual summary of this episode here.

Resources mentioned (these are paid links):
The Body Keeps The Score, by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk
Polyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb Dana
Polyvagal Exercises for Safety &...

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What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, remove his self-hatred, and allow him to feel safe with women.

Dan Hitz is the Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries (a member of Restored Hope Network). Dan is a Licensed Professiona...

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What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood.

Jeremy Williamson is a Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restorationcounselingnoco.com.

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June 7, 2021 10 min

Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn.

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How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction that is both clinical and compatible with Christianity.

Dr. Ken McGill is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He is the author of Cultivating Love Book S...

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Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is!

In this episode, I'll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate your sexual and emotional maturity and my #1 most meaningful measurement.

Register my upcoming free live class, "How To Outgrow Porn," at outgrowporn.com!

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Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor Wendell Moss tells the story how porn re-enacted sexual abuse from when he was a boy, and what happened when he was confronted by the fierce kindness of God.

Wendell Moss teaches at The...

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Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it's like to be scarred by a sibling, and also what it's like to heal more deeply than he ever imagined. He has over 6 years of freedom from porn... and a passion for helping other men become the best possible versions of ...

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May 3, 2021 25 min

Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for you.

What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction?
1. Talk about it
2. Understand it
3. Appreciate it
4. Manage it

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Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model.

Download Shawn's free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here.

Shawn Bonneteau is a professional mentor and the co-fo...

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April 19, 2021 40 min

Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer.

I recommend Jay's book more than any other (this is a paid link): Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To Healing

More Resources by Jay Stringer and Drew Boa:

  • The Sexual Fantasy Framework (Free Mini-Course)
  • The Unwanted Digital Workbook

  • Jay will be joining...

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    April 12, 2021 1 min

    Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17.

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    We are not in a war against sexuality (which is good); we are in a war against evil. Come learn 7 strategies for spiritual warfare based on the Temptation of Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11... and hear my special spiritual warfare song!

    Download a free one-page summary of this episode here:
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    NOTE: In the middle of this presentation I started weeping.  Don't be alarmed! It's okay. God was ministering to me. I bel...

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    In a marriage devastated by porn, when and how should sex come back into the picture? In part two of this two-part series, Adam King and Karissa King explain how to slowly but surely restore sexual intimacy to be better than it ever was before.

    Adam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and fi...

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    In a marriage devastated by porn, how do you rebuild trust? In part one of this two part series, Adam King and Karissa King share the 5 steps every couple must take to rebuild trust (for both spouses).

    Download the free PDF guide here: 5 Steps When Trust Has Been Broken

    Adam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected...

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    We believe practicing verbal affirmation is absolutely essential to outgrowing porn. In this episode, Drew and Stephen will tell you why, and share practical strategies for how (not) to do it.

    Qualities Of Effective Affirmation: 

  • specific and precise (not generic or vague)
  • evidence-based (clearly not made up)
  • focused on the person (not the performance)

  • We practice affirming each other every week inside Husband Material small groups! App...

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