#143 Dealing with Toxic People

The aim of this week's episode is to help you deal with the toxic people in your life.

 

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Episode Transcript

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Thanks so much for listening, and now back to the podcast.
Music.
This week's HypnoSOS is a special request. How to deal with toxic people.

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You know the way. Sit down or lie down, if you haven't already. ready.
Close your eyes and gently allow yourself to relax.
Just allow yourself a little time to relax.

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All you need to do now is listen.
Listen to the sound of my voice.
A sound that will help you to go deeper and deeper into your thoughts,

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into your feelings, into your body.
And each aspect of you can and will relax all the way through,
letting go of any unnecessary nervous tension just for these moments.

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And you can, and you will, begin to notice something, that without even any
suggestions from me, your breathing has deepened.
As you sit there or lie there, your body remembers how this should feel.

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So similar to those moments between waking and sleeping, you can naturally allow
yourself to rest, rest, and relax.
You may even find there are moments when you yawn, and that's fine.

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It's perfectly natural. As you relax, as you go ever deeper,
deeper and deeper into those moments between waking and sleeping.
Moments in which you can clear your mind.

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Moments in which you can focus on any areas of unnecessary nervous tension and let that tension go.
Moments between waking and sleeping where you can start to feel warm and comfortable,

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completely in control.
And in a few moments in time, in a few moments in time, It is time for you to
take control of this process.
The more control you choose to take, the more deeply you can engage with it.

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The more deeply you engage with it, the.
The more effective it can be for you. Remember, you control,
and you can, and you will, begin to recognize that, in these moments of peace,

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there is no one else in your head, in your thoughts, in your feelings,
apart from you, this is a space of safety.
A space where no one else can penetrate.
Just you and your thoughts and your feelings. So take control now.

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It is very easy. All you need to do is silently and mentally count down from 10 to 1.
Use your out-breath to time the numbers.
And as you do this, you may even feel a sensation as if you were drifting or

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floating into an ever-deepening state of calm,
of clarity, of peace.
Deeper, deeper, deeper still.
Deeper, deeper, deeper still.

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Nothing else matters. you are in control.
And in a few moments in time, in a few moments in time, I'd like you to allow
yourself to become aware of those people who are toxic in your life.

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No need to name them, and they will appear at a great distance from you.
Here in this space, you are completely protected from them.
Here in this space, they are but the vaguest of shadows on the periphery of your mind.
They cannot intrude here.

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You are safe. And in this space, it is time for you to tell yourself a few important things.
That you are worthy of respect.
That you have a right to your voice, that you are stronger than you realize.

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And taking a moment in this safe space to gather these thoughts around you,
they start to become feelings. And,
of strength within you and around you.
And as a result of this, at night, when you sleep, when you dream,

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your unconscious mind will walk you through different scenes and scenarios in
which you are interacting with these people.
But because these are dreams, you can play them out any way you wish.
You can say what it is important for you to say.

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You can feel the right, appropriate feelings. You can respond clearly.
You can also walk away.
Understand that that. For others' toxicity to affect you, you need to allow it in.

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And in this space, in this safe and powerful space, you can close the door on them.
You can push them to the edge of your consciousness.
You take control. You have permission to say no. Give it to yourself.

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You have the right to feel safe and secure.
Give yourself the advice that you would give to your dearest friend if they
were exposed to the same level of toxicity.
It is time for you to step into that space and be your own best friend,

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your own counsellor, your own mentor.
Be the one who tells you what's right, not others.
As each day goes by, you grow in strength. As each day goes by,
you recognize that these toxic people are a prisoner of their own problems.

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But you don't need to join them in that prison. You are free.
Take a moment to think about how that feels. Take a moment to feel it, too. do.
And know that from this moment on, because you have accessed that safe space,

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you can access it again. It belongs to you.
In fact, to reconnect with it, all you have to do is push the tip of your thumb
and your first finger together,
and it acts like a trigger to bring all of these these wonderful feelings of
strength back to you. It's yours now.

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Use it as you will.
And in a few moments in time, in a few moments in time, you will hear me count up from one to ten,
and you will bring all the appropriate thoughts, feelings, and actions from these moments.
So ready, 1, 2, 3, more aware, 4, 5, 6, more alert, 7,

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8, eyes open, wide open, 9 and 10, fully wide.
As ever i do hope you've enjoyed this week's hypno sos please be kind enough
to leave me a message letting me know how you enjoyed it and yes send me any

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ideas you might have also do share it really makes a difference thank you.