May 13, 2024 • 23 mins
Embark on a journey to the subconscious with Stella and Shea Pestell as we uncover the feeling of being invisible. Have you ever considered how past experiences have sculpted your coping mechanisms, leading you to find solace in the shadows? Our candid discussion dissects the belief that being unseen is synonymous with safety, offering pathways to rewrite this narrative. We reveal how awareness of moments where visibility equates to comfort can be the stepping stones toward establishing new patterns of self-worth. By embracing the challenge to be seen in the simple, everyday instances, we guide you towards anchoring a sense of worthiness deep within your nervous system.
This episode is not just about the self; it's about the collective energy we share and the love and connections that enrich our lives. Together with Stella, we delve into the art of expanding your heart's reach, making you a magnet for meaningful relationships. Learn the importance of radiating the right energy and how your serene presence can profoundly touch others. We converse on the necessity of embodying the traits we desire in others and the power of intentional action in fostering a supportive network. As we bring the conversation full circle, we remind you that personal development isn't merely a solo voyage—it's a generous contribution to the world, much like the oxygen shared by trees. So, lean in as we navigate the invisible threads that intertwine our lives, leaving you with insights ripe for reflection on your journey to greater visibility and connection.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
welcome to our podcast.
Hypnotherapy for the soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my
co-host where we explore thepower of hypnosis and connect to
inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Today's episode is on alimiting belief I am invisible.
If you feel that you areinvisible or overlooked by
others and you would like tostart believing that you're
worthy of being seen and heard,this episode might just be what
you need.
My friend and co-host, shay, isgoing to be asking me a series
(00:55):
of questions directed towards myhigher self.
The higher self is the part ofus that knows everything about
us and is also tapped into thecollective intelligence.
For your best and most valuableexperience, I invite you to be
open while you listen, becausethat way you can connect to your
inner wisdom and receiveguidance.
(01:18):
And just a heads up, you won'thear the part in which Shay
takes me into the hypnotic stateof mind, which is a state where
we can access the informationof our subconscious mind.
Okay, without further ado,let's see a higher perspective
on I'm Invisible limiting belief.
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you for being here, and I just got a few
questions for you, based onlimiting beliefs, and the
limiting belief we're going totalk about is I'm invisible, and
so why do I feel like I'minvisible or overlooked by
others?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
The easiest way to answer this is that is a coping
mechanism.
The easiest way to answer thisis that is a coping mechanism.
So in your past, this is whatmade you feel safe and this is
still in your subconscious mind.
This pattern is still playingitself because it wants to
protect you.
(02:20):
It's really as easy as that,you.
It's really as easy as that.
So, going back and figuring outto that first event in your
life when one part of youdecided that it wasn't safe for
you to be seen in any way,either seen with your caregivers
or society, because being seenwould inflict pain and made you
(02:44):
feel that you either wouldn'tget love, would lose connection
or be threatened in some way.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Wow, thank you so much, and can you please guide
me in understanding anyunderlying emotions or fears
that contribute to this belief?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, usually is just fear of survival, and because
this is how our brain is wired,its main job is to keep us alive
, no matter the cost.
And, for example, as Imentioned earlier, with fear or
with belief, I'm invisible.
It's like, if I'm visible.
(03:24):
Or with belief, I'm invisible.
It's like, if I'm visible, it'snot safe.
And then what is interesting isto question so what does it
happen when I am visible?
Because it probably evokes alot of feelings of discomfort
and because it might be even youor not, it's not something that
(03:45):
is comfortable or common foryou.
So, for example, if you thenask, okay, so if I am now
visible, what comes up for me?
Is it shame or is it people aregoing to think this or do that,
or there can be a number ofthings how this can play out,
(04:08):
but all really stems from justfear of survival, and fear of
survival is closely linked tofear of getting love and
connection.
So that's in its core, but itcan play out in different ways.
So it's really important to seehow is it playing out for you
(04:29):
specifically, and I can give anexample how is it playing out
for for Barchi?
So this fear of being visiblewas making her contract because
she was afraid that people wouldmake fun of her, because that
was her reality when she was ateenager.
(04:50):
Yeah, by being bullied, andthat was the thing and it's.
It's obviously deeper than thatand I don't want to expand on
that, but just to give you an anexample.
It can be really.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
It's usually very simple and very straightforward
okay, perfect, and based on that, what would be maybe, if we
were to identify and challengeof any negative thought patterns
or beliefs that reinforce thefeeling of being invisible that
can relate to maybe experiencinga challenge like that?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
so so how do we challenge that Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Not challenge that but, like you know, the
reinforcement of those feelingsof feeling invisible.
What is the negative thoughtpatterns around that?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, it's really again all about safety.
And if one is focused just onsomething is not safe, what can
we do is introduce or search forthe opposite experience.
And because there are certainmoments, I'm sure, in everyone's
(05:59):
life, when being seen isactually safe and maybe that is
as simple as being seen with ourpets, or a cat or a dog, or and
just anchoring or just steppinginto or even having awareness
of that feeling, how it is, forexample, being seen by, let's
(06:24):
say, your cat, and your cat justaccepts you as you are and you
can be seen, you can just beyourself, and how does that feel
in your body?
And really tapping into that andbecause you have an experience
where being seen is okay, thatmeans that it's not always
(06:44):
unsafe.
And then instead of feeling, oh, how can I get rid of that, how
can I get rid of feeling unsafe?
We can actually extend orexpand rather a feeling of when
we do feel it safe and justexperience more of that, just
(07:05):
bringing attention or andputting more of our energy into
that belief to slowlyreinforcing it and anchoring it
in our nervous system and isthere any other more ways of
starting to believe that I amworthy being seen and heard, for
example?
I would say, find all the proofwhere being seen is okay.
(07:29):
So that's one thing, as Imentioned earlier, because what
usually can happen is thatpeople dismiss little steps.
But little steps are reallyimportant.
So, for example, every day onecan just allow themselves to be
consciously aware of being seenwith, as I said, either a cat or
(07:54):
even a family member or afriend that really loves and
accepts them, and they have thisconscious awareness of how
their body feels, what theirthoughts are and feelings and
everything.
Then they can ease into thatfeeling more often and just
slowly introduce that feeling orintroduce that concept to other
(08:17):
experiences in life.
So they don't have a person,doesn't have to go from either
hiding directly to speaking onstage, directly to speaking on
stage, but they can build littlesteps.
And also, the other thing is,which has been helpful, take
(08:40):
advantage of all these practicesthat are out there either
meditation to have awareness, togain more awareness of your
feelings, certain exercises,your feelings, certain exercises
, whatever they feel, I meanwhatever you feel are beneficial
for you, for example yoga orjogging or whatever, and so
that's that.
And also practices such ashypnotherapy or others that can
(09:07):
really help you get to the coreissue and switch that emotion,
neutralize it, dismantle it, andthen you are free of that and
then you can build on top ofthat.
It's easier to build a newfoundation once this charge is
(09:28):
removed or at least neutralized.
I should say neutralized,because it's not removed, it's
just transformed into somethingelse wonderful, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And what are some other maybe practical strategies
that someone could use in theireveryday life?
You've mentioned a few, butmaybe someone say doesn't want
to do hypnosis or some otherdeep dives.
What's some other, just habitsthey can get into?
Speaker 2 (09:52):
okay.
So if they have awareness ofand let's say I'll, I'll give
this example so they haveawareness of when it's safe to
be seen, because I'm sure thereis a moment or there are
situations in everyone's livesthat being seen is okay, that's
one thing.
And then finding the opposite,what is the opposite of that,
(10:16):
like, what are the situationsthat being seen is just not
possible in any way, or maybeeven feeling that I'm never seen
, or when I'm in certainsituations, they never see me,
and what you can do is for thatone, you can maybe even trace
back and try to find when didsimilar occurrences start or
(10:42):
when did you have similaroccurrences in your life, and
then just checking what are thesimilarities between them.
What is it that you, what isyour belief of something that is
preventing you or that it'smaking it mean that it's not
safe for you to be seen?
Just on the rational end.
(11:02):
And then find a situation thatcould be a little bit of a
stretch, because without anystretch, you can just stay in
your comfort zone, stay whereyou are.
So think of something.
Think of, let's say, you have agroup of friends and they might
not include you in theirconversation as much as you
(11:24):
would like to.
So what about if you justinitiate certain conversations
or talk about something thatyou're excited, or just do
certain things and then see howit feels?
Or go to I don't know, maybecoffee shop and have a quick
conversation with a barista orsomeone else, just something
(11:49):
that is a little bit outside ofcomfort zone, but not too much,
not to the extreme, that wouldbe too much, that would shut you
down.
And then the most importantthing with that is have a
playful approach, because yourbrain make it mean that it's
unsafe, but in reality you're anadult, you can handle
(12:13):
everything right now.
I mean you can handle not beingseen.
It's not life-threatening,right?
So think of it.
How about if I just play thisgame?
And now I decided I'll justlike to explore how feeling seen
feels and let's just play withthat, so switching it around and
(12:35):
making it more fun, more joyful, not so serious yeah, that can
be one of the approaches.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Okay, awesome, and I just have my own personal
question.
That comes up for me and what Ithink about is so, basically,
you probably do want to beinvisible to certain people, so
how does that look like?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
did you avoid certain people actually?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
not necessarily avoidance.
But how do you attract theright people?
You know there's a good thingabout being invisible, because
you don't want to be seen byeveryone.
Not everyone's your friend.
So how do you attract who'sright for you and who's not?
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Okay, that's a great question, Again, focusing on
what you want more of.
For example, when you said youwant to be invisible to some
people, and I can give anexample you want to be invisible
to some people and I can givean example.
Say that you're walking downthe street and there are some
dodgy looking people, maybe alittle gang or something and you
might be thinking, oh no, youknow, the last thing I want
(13:40):
right now is to be mugged.
That's just an example.
Maybe that's not what you werethinking, but I'll go with that
and please share if you're morespecific later.
So, instead of jumping intothat fear and oh my god, you
know what you can do is shiftinto acknowledge the fear or
(14:02):
whatever rises up and then beokay, what do I want?
Okay, what do I want like, whatdo I want?
Or just connect to trust orenergy of love or anything like
that.
Because the funny thing is,when you focus more and I know
it can sound really woo, woo andstuff, but when you focus more
(14:24):
on expression or expansion oflove, the thing is people, the
right people, will come closer,because you will want to
cultivate more of that andespecially because that's
something that will feel thatfeels good in your body and if
(14:44):
you want to expand that, thatalso means that you're giving
that to other people and theycan expand it.
So the right people who wantmore of that will come.
And people who don't want that,people who want either drama or
problems or whatever they mightnot even come close.
(15:05):
Or even if they do, they might,obviously they all can come
close but they won't get thesatisfaction from you because
you are not energetic match andyou won't get caught up in the
same energy.
For example, yeah, if someoneis afraid and if someone is calm
(15:30):
and if that person that is calmthey remain calm it can
actually help the other personshift.
Or if that doesn't happen, thisperson who's afraid will just
go away, because being aroundsomeone who's calm might not be
their default, might not besomething that they want to
(15:50):
experience, or their comfortzone feels like Because, even
though we all say, oh, we wantlove, we want love, but in
reality can we allow thatfeeling in our body or are we
also unconsciously just drawninto some type of drama or fear?
(16:13):
And there is no judgment here,but only it's important to have
awareness.
So if you have all thesefeelings of fear, you will
probably attract people who havemore fear than not.
It's just how it is.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Definitely Well, that awareness of that.
But ideally.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
What kind of people would you like to surround
yourself with?
Be specific, and also, whatdoes that feel in your body and
what would that do to you If youhad the best support system?
Do to you If you had the bestsupport system.
What would that do to you?
(17:18):
And you can even ask yourselfthis how is not having support
system benefiting you?
Now, if that is your realityand that can be a little bit of
tricky question but if you'rehonest you might see that there
might be certain beliefs thatare in the way, and if you
recognize those beliefs, you canthen start building and
(17:40):
expanding on the ones that youwant by simply acting them out.
One thing is to have mentalawareness, and then what we need
to do is embody that by takingdeliberate and intentional
action.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Yeah, wonderful, thank you.
Is there anything else you'dlike to share in regards to this
?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
yeah, that you are visible on all levels.
Even if you feel you're notinvisible, there is something in
you and you can imagine.
I mean, you probably imaginethat the energy is like, let's
say, the energy is tangible.
Imagine that there is alwaysthis cloud of energy that you
(18:25):
are in and then just expandsthrough your physical body,
which is also called aura.
But let's just go with thisimage and say that you have this
program or belief I'm invisible.
So when we walk around with thatbelief, what we're doing is we
(18:45):
are not talking about it, right,but we are signaling that
belief subconsciously to theworld, and then the world
responds and the world canrespond to all these different
ways.
But the thing is, even the factthat the world responds means
that you are not reallyinvisible.
You're just choosing to notconnect because connection is
(19:09):
not safe.
And again we are back at safetyand figuring out how to be safe
, how to feel safe in your body,how to feel safe with other
people and just being in theworld.
So I think I can just wrap upwith that thought.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
That kind of sparked an idea in my head when you
mentioned how the world respondsto you anyways.
Isn't that the illusion thatwe're experiencing?
The external world is areflection of our inner world,
and so why do we need to be seenanyways?
Why do we want support fromoutside anyways?
Isn't that just an indicationthat we need to be seen and
(19:46):
supportive of ourselves first?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, that is true, we need to be supportive of
ourselves ourselves.
But the fact that someone wantsalso to be seen, it also might
lead to because there might bedifferent desires behind.
If being seen feels like, oh, Ijust want to be seen, so then I
will feel loved, that might notgo as far because if I want to
(20:11):
kind of accept myself first, butbut the thing is, if I want to
be seen because I have thisintention of connection and with
connecting with others, I canbe part of it, part of this
experience of earth, of flow,and just everything here is in
constant movement.
(20:31):
And if I don't participate init, if I check out, it's almost
like I'm denying not just myself-love but I'm also denying
everyone else that I can connectwith and contribute to.
Like, imagine that a tree wouldbe like oh, I'm providing this
oxygen, but it's just for me,I'm not giving it, it's just
(20:52):
mine, it's all about me.
I mean, it doesn't really workthis way, because if we are
connected to everything, thatmeans that if I'm working on
myself, I'm also contributing toeveryone else's best selves and
that is expansion.
So just me having this desireof being seen, for example, or
(21:13):
being acknowledged, can alsolead to.
I want to be acknowledged byright people so that what I have
, this energy, can multiply andcan be more of that and it can
cover I don't want to saydarkness, but just things that
are not, that are in the way ofjust our pure expression and
love.
So I see it more as expansionand also allowing to feel that,
(21:38):
allowing ourselves to have thesedesires.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Definitely does.
Thank you so much.
Is there any final notes you'dlike to make or a sign off?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yeah, the final thing I would like to say is that
this topic is nuanced and thereare probably very different
versions to what I shared, andit's really important that what
I shared is seen or expressed orfelt as a view or as a truth,
(22:11):
not the truth.
So I would invite everyone justto tap into your curiosity and
see where it lands, because itmight, in the best way it can,
open up something really magicaland, in the worst way, it can
just provide knowing that thisdoesn't align and that's totally
(22:34):
okay.
So always listen to yourself,be your own best authority.
And, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Thank you so much for all your beautiful insights
today.
Appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Yeah, likewise, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Thank you for listening to Hypnotherapy for
the Soul, brought to you bymyself, shea Pestel, and my
friend and co-host, stella,where we share with you behind
the scenes live hypnotherapysessions to give you the
authentic experience of what itmeans to connect to your
subconscious mind that you cantap into.
(23:08):
Please follow us athypnotherapyforthesoulcom.
See you in the next episode.
welcome to our podcast.
Hypnotherapy for the soul.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
This is your host, shea pestle, and this is my
co-host where we explore thepower of hypnosis and connect to
inner wisdom.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
For answers through our episodes, we share behind
the scenes live sessions to helpyou tap into your inner
guidance.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Join us on this journey of self-discovery and
utilize the power of hypnosis toconnect to your higher self.
Today's episode is on alimiting belief I am invisible.
If you feel that you areinvisible or overlooked by
others and you would like tostart believing that you're
worthy of being seen and heard,this episode might just be what
you need.
My friend and co-host, shay, isgoing to be asking me a series
(00:55):
of questions directed towards myhigher self.
The higher self is the part ofus that knows everything about
us and is also tapped into thecollective intelligence.
For your best and most valuableexperience, I invite you to be
open while you listen, becausethat way you can connect to your
inner wisdom and receiveguidance.
(01:18):
And just a heads up, you won'thear the part in which Shay
takes me into the hypnotic stateof mind, which is a state where
we can access the informationof our subconscious mind.
Okay, without further ado,let's see a higher perspective
on I'm Invisible limiting belief.
Enjoy.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Thank you for being here, and I just got a few
questions for you, based onlimiting beliefs, and the
limiting belief we're going totalk about is I'm invisible, and
so why do I feel like I'minvisible or overlooked by
others?
Speaker 2 (01:59):
The easiest way to answer this is that is a coping
mechanism.
The easiest way to answer thisis that is a coping mechanism.
So in your past, this is whatmade you feel safe and this is
still in your subconscious mind.
This pattern is still playingitself because it wants to
protect you.
(02:20):
It's really as easy as that,you.
It's really as easy as that.
So, going back and figuring outto that first event in your
life when one part of youdecided that it wasn't safe for
you to be seen in any way,either seen with your caregivers
or society, because being seenwould inflict pain and made you
(02:44):
feel that you either wouldn'tget love, would lose connection
or be threatened in some way.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
Wow, thank you so much, and can you please guide
me in understanding anyunderlying emotions or fears
that contribute to this belief?
Speaker 2 (03:02):
Yeah, usually is just fear of survival, and because
this is how our brain is wired,its main job is to keep us alive
, no matter the cost.
And, for example, as Imentioned earlier, with fear or
with belief, I'm invisible.
It's like, if I'm visible.
(03:24):
Or with belief, I'm invisible.
It's like, if I'm visible, it'snot safe.
And then what is interesting isto question so what does it
happen when I am visible?
Because it probably evokes alot of feelings of discomfort
and because it might be even youor not, it's not something that
(03:45):
is comfortable or common foryou.
So, for example, if you thenask, okay, so if I am now
visible, what comes up for me?
Is it shame or is it people aregoing to think this or do that,
or there can be a number ofthings how this can play out,
(04:08):
but all really stems from justfear of survival, and fear of
survival is closely linked tofear of getting love and
connection.
So that's in its core, but itcan play out in different ways.
So it's really important to seehow is it playing out for you
(04:29):
specifically, and I can give anexample how is it playing out
for for Barchi?
So this fear of being visiblewas making her contract because
she was afraid that people wouldmake fun of her, because that
was her reality when she was ateenager.
(04:50):
Yeah, by being bullied, andthat was the thing and it's.
It's obviously deeper than thatand I don't want to expand on
that, but just to give you an anexample.
It can be really.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
It's usually very simple and very straightforward
okay, perfect, and based on that, what would be maybe, if we
were to identify and challengeof any negative thought patterns
or beliefs that reinforce thefeeling of being invisible that
can relate to maybe experiencinga challenge like that?
Speaker 2 (05:22):
so so how do we challenge that Okay?
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Not challenge that but, like you know, the
reinforcement of those feelingsof feeling invisible.
What is the negative thoughtpatterns around that?
Speaker 2 (05:38):
Yeah, it's really again all about safety.
And if one is focused just onsomething is not safe, what can
we do is introduce or search forthe opposite experience.
And because there are certainmoments, I'm sure, in everyone's
(05:59):
life, when being seen isactually safe and maybe that is
as simple as being seen with ourpets, or a cat or a dog, or and
just anchoring or just steppinginto or even having awareness
of that feeling, how it is, forexample, being seen by, let's
(06:24):
say, your cat, and your cat justaccepts you as you are and you
can be seen, you can just beyourself, and how does that feel
in your body?
And really tapping into that andbecause you have an experience
where being seen is okay, thatmeans that it's not always
(06:44):
unsafe.
And then instead of feeling, oh, how can I get rid of that, how
can I get rid of feeling unsafe?
We can actually extend orexpand rather a feeling of when
we do feel it safe and justexperience more of that, just
(07:05):
bringing attention or andputting more of our energy into
that belief to slowlyreinforcing it and anchoring it
in our nervous system and isthere any other more ways of
starting to believe that I amworthy being seen and heard, for
example?
I would say, find all the proofwhere being seen is okay.
(07:29):
So that's one thing, as Imentioned earlier, because what
usually can happen is thatpeople dismiss little steps.
But little steps are reallyimportant.
So, for example, every day onecan just allow themselves to be
consciously aware of being seenwith, as I said, either a cat or
(07:54):
even a family member or afriend that really loves and
accepts them, and they have thisconscious awareness of how
their body feels, what theirthoughts are and feelings and
everything.
Then they can ease into thatfeeling more often and just
slowly introduce that feeling orintroduce that concept to other
(08:17):
experiences in life.
So they don't have a person,doesn't have to go from either
hiding directly to speaking onstage, directly to speaking on
stage, but they can build littlesteps.
And also, the other thing is,which has been helpful, take
(08:40):
advantage of all these practicesthat are out there either
meditation to have awareness, togain more awareness of your
feelings, certain exercises,your feelings, certain exercises
, whatever they feel, I meanwhatever you feel are beneficial
for you, for example yoga orjogging or whatever, and so
that's that.
And also practices such ashypnotherapy or others that can
(09:07):
really help you get to the coreissue and switch that emotion,
neutralize it, dismantle it, andthen you are free of that and
then you can build on top ofthat.
It's easier to build a newfoundation once this charge is
(09:28):
removed or at least neutralized.
I should say neutralized,because it's not removed, it's
just transformed into somethingelse wonderful, thank you.
Speaker 1 (09:38):
And what are some other maybe practical strategies
that someone could use in theireveryday life?
You've mentioned a few, butmaybe someone say doesn't want
to do hypnosis or some otherdeep dives.
What's some other, just habitsthey can get into?
Speaker 2 (09:52):
okay.
So if they have awareness ofand let's say I'll, I'll give
this example so they haveawareness of when it's safe to
be seen, because I'm sure thereis a moment or there are
situations in everyone's livesthat being seen is okay, that's
one thing.
And then finding the opposite,what is the opposite of that,
(10:16):
like, what are the situationsthat being seen is just not
possible in any way, or maybeeven feeling that I'm never seen
, or when I'm in certainsituations, they never see me,
and what you can do is for thatone, you can maybe even trace
back and try to find when didsimilar occurrences start or
(10:42):
when did you have similaroccurrences in your life, and
then just checking what are thesimilarities between them.
What is it that you, what isyour belief of something that is
preventing you or that it'smaking it mean that it's not
safe for you to be seen?
Just on the rational end.
(11:02):
And then find a situation thatcould be a little bit of a
stretch, because without anystretch, you can just stay in
your comfort zone, stay whereyou are.
So think of something.
Think of, let's say, you have agroup of friends and they might
not include you in theirconversation as much as you
(11:24):
would like to.
So what about if you justinitiate certain conversations
or talk about something thatyou're excited, or just do
certain things and then see howit feels?
Or go to I don't know, maybecoffee shop and have a quick
conversation with a barista orsomeone else, just something
(11:49):
that is a little bit outside ofcomfort zone, but not too much,
not to the extreme, that wouldbe too much, that would shut you
down.
And then the most importantthing with that is have a
playful approach, because yourbrain make it mean that it's
unsafe, but in reality you're anadult, you can handle
(12:13):
everything right now.
I mean you can handle not beingseen.
It's not life-threatening,right?
So think of it.
How about if I just play thisgame?
And now I decided I'll justlike to explore how feeling seen
feels and let's just play withthat, so switching it around and
(12:35):
making it more fun, more joyful, not so serious yeah, that can
be one of the approaches.
Speaker 1 (12:44):
Okay, awesome, and I just have my own personal
question.
That comes up for me and what Ithink about is so, basically,
you probably do want to beinvisible to certain people, so
how does that look like?
Speaker 2 (12:58):
did you avoid certain people actually?
Speaker 1 (13:01):
not necessarily avoidance.
But how do you attract theright people?
You know there's a good thingabout being invisible, because
you don't want to be seen byeveryone.
Not everyone's your friend.
So how do you attract who'sright for you and who's not?
Speaker 2 (13:18):
Okay, that's a great question, Again, focusing on
what you want more of.
For example, when you said youwant to be invisible to some
people, and I can give anexample you want to be invisible
to some people and I can givean example.
Say that you're walking downthe street and there are some
dodgy looking people, maybe alittle gang or something and you
might be thinking, oh no, youknow, the last thing I want
(13:40):
right now is to be mugged.
That's just an example.
Maybe that's not what you werethinking, but I'll go with that
and please share if you're morespecific later.
So, instead of jumping intothat fear and oh my god, you
know what you can do is shiftinto acknowledge the fear or
(14:02):
whatever rises up and then beokay, what do I want?
Okay, what do I want like, whatdo I want?
Or just connect to trust orenergy of love or anything like
that.
Because the funny thing is,when you focus more and I know
it can sound really woo, woo andstuff, but when you focus more
(14:24):
on expression or expansion oflove, the thing is people, the
right people, will come closer,because you will want to
cultivate more of that andespecially because that's
something that will feel thatfeels good in your body and if
(14:44):
you want to expand that, thatalso means that you're giving
that to other people and theycan expand it.
So the right people who wantmore of that will come.
And people who don't want that,people who want either drama or
problems or whatever they mightnot even come close.
(15:05):
Or even if they do, they might,obviously they all can come
close but they won't get thesatisfaction from you because
you are not energetic match andyou won't get caught up in the
same energy.
For example, yeah, if someoneis afraid and if someone is calm
(15:30):
and if that person that is calmthey remain calm it can
actually help the other personshift.
Or if that doesn't happen, thisperson who's afraid will just
go away, because being aroundsomeone who's calm might not be
their default, might not besomething that they want to
(15:50):
experience, or their comfortzone feels like Because, even
though we all say, oh, we wantlove, we want love, but in
reality can we allow thatfeeling in our body or are we
also unconsciously just drawninto some type of drama or fear?
(16:13):
And there is no judgment here,but only it's important to have
awareness.
So if you have all thesefeelings of fear, you will
probably attract people who havemore fear than not.
It's just how it is.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Definitely Well, that awareness of that.
But ideally.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
What kind of people would you like to surround
yourself with?
Be specific, and also, whatdoes that feel in your body and
what would that do to you If youhad the best support system?
Do to you If you had the bestsupport system.
What would that do to you?
(17:18):
And you can even ask yourselfthis how is not having support
system benefiting you?
Now, if that is your realityand that can be a little bit of
tricky question but if you'rehonest you might see that there
might be certain beliefs thatare in the way, and if you
recognize those beliefs, you canthen start building and
(17:40):
expanding on the ones that youwant by simply acting them out.
One thing is to have mentalawareness, and then what we need
to do is embody that by takingdeliberate and intentional
action.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Yeah, wonderful, thank you.
Is there anything else you'dlike to share in regards to this
?
Speaker 2 (18:04):
yeah, that you are visible on all levels.
Even if you feel you're notinvisible, there is something in
you and you can imagine.
I mean, you probably imaginethat the energy is like, let's
say, the energy is tangible.
Imagine that there is alwaysthis cloud of energy that you
(18:25):
are in and then just expandsthrough your physical body,
which is also called aura.
But let's just go with thisimage and say that you have this
program or belief I'm invisible.
So when we walk around with thatbelief, what we're doing is we
(18:45):
are not talking about it, right,but we are signaling that
belief subconsciously to theworld, and then the world
responds and the world canrespond to all these different
ways.
But the thing is, even the factthat the world responds means
that you are not reallyinvisible.
You're just choosing to notconnect because connection is
(19:09):
not safe.
And again we are back at safetyand figuring out how to be safe
, how to feel safe in your body,how to feel safe with other
people and just being in theworld.
So I think I can just wrap upwith that thought.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
That kind of sparked an idea in my head when you
mentioned how the world respondsto you anyways.
Isn't that the illusion thatwe're experiencing?
The external world is areflection of our inner world,
and so why do we need to be seenanyways?
Why do we want support fromoutside anyways?
Isn't that just an indicationthat we need to be seen and
(19:46):
supportive of ourselves first?
Speaker 2 (19:48):
Yeah, that is true, we need to be supportive of
ourselves ourselves.
But the fact that someone wantsalso to be seen, it also might
lead to because there might bedifferent desires behind.
If being seen feels like, oh, Ijust want to be seen, so then I
will feel loved, that might notgo as far because if I want to
(20:11):
kind of accept myself first, butbut the thing is, if I want to
be seen because I have thisintention of connection and with
connecting with others, I canbe part of it, part of this
experience of earth, of flow,and just everything here is in
constant movement.
(20:31):
And if I don't participate init, if I check out, it's almost
like I'm denying not just myself-love but I'm also denying
everyone else that I can connectwith and contribute to.
Like, imagine that a tree wouldbe like oh, I'm providing this
oxygen, but it's just for me,I'm not giving it, it's just
(20:52):
mine, it's all about me.
I mean, it doesn't really workthis way, because if we are
connected to everything, thatmeans that if I'm working on
myself, I'm also contributing toeveryone else's best selves and
that is expansion.
So just me having this desireof being seen, for example, or
(21:13):
being acknowledged, can alsolead to.
I want to be acknowledged byright people so that what I have
, this energy, can multiply andcan be more of that and it can
cover I don't want to saydarkness, but just things that
are not, that are in the way ofjust our pure expression and
love.
So I see it more as expansionand also allowing to feel that,
(21:38):
allowing ourselves to have thesedesires.
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (21:43):
Definitely does.
Thank you so much.
Is there any final notes you'dlike to make or a sign off?
Speaker 2 (21:49):
Yeah, the final thing I would like to say is that
this topic is nuanced and thereare probably very different
versions to what I shared, andit's really important that what
I shared is seen or expressed orfelt as a view or as a truth,
(22:11):
not the truth.
So I would invite everyone justto tap into your curiosity and
see where it lands, because itmight, in the best way it can,
open up something really magicaland, in the worst way, it can
just provide knowing that thisdoesn't align and that's totally
(22:34):
okay.
So always listen to yourself,be your own best authority.
And, yeah, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
Thank you so much for all your beautiful insights
today.
Appreciate you.
Speaker 2 (22:46):
Yeah, likewise, thank you.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Thank you for listening to Hypnotherapy for
the Soul, brought to you bymyself, shea Pestel, and my
friend and co-host, stella,where we share with you behind
the scenes live hypnotherapysessions to give you the
authentic experience of what itmeans to connect to your
subconscious mind that you cantap into.
(23:08):
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