I Do and I Don't

When the new person you’re seeing tells you they don’t want their ex to find out about you, is it a red flag? Which boundaries should be set in the early days of relationships? Joel and Cat help listeners navigate the uncertain terrain of burgeoning love. When the new person you’re seeing tells you they don’t want their ex to find out about you, is it a red flag? Which boundaries should be set in the early days of relationships? Jo...

This week, Joel and Cat offer up some questions to pose to your partner to help deepen your connection, they help a listener cultivate intimacy with her husband though his meds have taken sex off the table, and they navigate a demi-sexual listener away from the ‘friend zone’.

Here’s the link to a list of questions that are rumoured to lead to love.

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In this episode, Cat gushes about a memorable Zoom date and listeners send in their lockdown dating ideas. Joel and Cat decide whether or not a listener should tell a friend that they have a crush on them, and Cat gets real clear on how to ask your lover for what you want.

Here’s a link to a list of virtual zoo, museum and attraction tours.

Here’s a link to the Netflix party extension, now called Teleparty.

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It’s abundantly clear that Joel is growing restless with this podcast and needs things to be shaken up. Despite this, he still manages to pull through and weigh in on issues like how adolescent sexual encounters can set the stage for adult sexual experience, and best practices for conflict resolution with your loved one during lockdown. Cat has one or two insightful thoughts on inter-cultural dating and the best circumstances under...

How can playing with power dynamics enhance your sex life and your relationship at large?  Why can’t vibrant women in their 50’s and 60’s attract men in their age bracket? How can I change my wife’s bathroom habits so they’re less disgusting? Joel and Cat artfully answer these questions PLUS Joel gets super graphic about asking for certain sex acts and Cat gets explicit about a personal fantasy – just another Monday at I Do and I D...

This week, Cat and Joel talk about how to empower your teens with next-level sex education, and Joel offers up a step-by-step tutorial on how to ‘do the sex’. They also chat about the practice of celibacy in the face of the pandemic, and how to keep your sex life alive when you’re in lockdown with your partner.

As promised, here are the links that Cat mentions in this episode:

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In the first episode of 2021, Cat and Joel explore the parameters of girl code and when it’s okay to date a friend’s ex. They also deep dive into dating outside of your community, how to communicate with your partner around wanting more sexual connection, and how to feel fulfilled while embracing the single life. 

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Joel continues his crusade to turn the podcast into a religious space while Cat places her faith in their ability to talk about things like how to manage a foreskin during head,  male partners who can’t step up when asked by the person who loves them, and what to do when you discover someone else’s thong in your casual lover’s bed.

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Hide your kids! NSFW! In what is perhaps the most obscene episode to-date, Joel and Cat offer some comprehensive and outrageously detailed tips for mastering the art of dirty talk. There are some other points covered and additional listener questions fielded, but honestly, I’ve just listened to the playback and I’m so distracted, I don’t remember what those were.

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What’s the best way forward when you’re a newly single dad in his 40’s and you’ve been dealing with years of narcissistic abuse? Joel and Cat try to help with this and other intimate relationship conundrums like whether or not great sex can make you fall in love (and Cat reveals WAY too much), and when to have the chat about wanting to keep things casual. 

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Here’s what happens when Joel and Cat are asked to share the most profound things they’ve learned in intimate relationships, (Hint: they talk a lot about God and sex). Also, they reveal the only thing to do when your partner’s father walks in on you having sex, and how to deal when your partner moves in and displays old photos of their ex in your home.

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