Part 10 of 12: The Bullshit of 'Their Truth' vs Reality

Believing something doesn't make it true. This simple fact seems increasingly forgotten in our era of "my truth" declarations, where personal feelings have somehow gained equal footing with objective reality.

What started as a well-intentioned way to honor different perspectives has morphed into something far more troubling. We track the evolution from "I believe" to "that's my truth," examining how this subtle shift created a dangerous loophole in accountability. When confronted with evidence of harmful behavior, many retreat to "that's just my truth" as if subjective perception negates the impact of actions.

The weaponization of personal truth takes multiple forms. Beyond dodging responsibility, people use "their truth" to manipulate conversations through emotional blackmail or to make serious allegations without providing evidence. Perhaps most dangerous is how this approach justifies illogical thinking and harmful ideologies by placing personal belief systems beyond examination.

We distinguish between three critical types of truth: objective truth that exists regardless of belief, subjective truth based on personal experience, and distorted truth where feelings masquerade as facts. Understanding these distinctions reveals why "my truth" culture threatens our ability to solve problems collectively—we can't address climate change, public health crises, or social inequity if we can't agree on basic reality.

For those tired of navigating this frustrating landscape, we offer practical strategies: asking for evidence behind claims, gently separating feelings from facts in conversations, and sometimes allowing reality itself to be the teacher. Because at day's end, your feelings absolutely matter—but they don't change facts. You're entitled to your own experiences, not your own version of reality. When was the last time you changed your mind because facts proved you wrong?

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:10):
The Bullshit of their Truth vs Reality.
Believing something doesn'tmake it true and if we pretend
otherwise, we're all screwed.
Introduction the Rise of myTruth Culture.
At some point in the lastcouple of decades, people
stopped saying I believe andstarted saying that's my truth.

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It's like everyone's starringin their own reality show.
The Real Delusions of Me andfacts are just bad.
Lighting, sounds, harmless,right, wrong, oh, so wrong,
because what started as a wayfor people to express personal
experience has mutated into aget-out-of-reality-free card.
Got caught lying Well, that'smy truth.

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Ignored all the facts Well, Ifeel this way.
So it's valid.
Refused to be accountable, thisis just my lived experience.
We've reached a point wherepeople think their personal
perception overrides objectivereality, and it's making society
dumber by the day.
We're one my Truth.
Away from debating if gravityis just a vibe, in this episode

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we're breaking down where theidea of my Truth came from and
how it got twisted, how peopleuse it to dodge responsibility
and manipulate others, whyreality doesn't care about your
feelings and why that's a reallygood thing and, most
importantly, how to challengethis nonsense while keeping your
sanity, because, at the end ofthe day, there's a difference

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between telling your story andrewriting reality.
So let's get into it.
1.
Where my Truth Came From andhow it Got Twisted.
Originally, my Truth had areasonable purpose.
It was a way to acknowledgethat different people experience
events differently.
To acknowledge that differentpeople experience events

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differently.
It gave space for subjectivereality, because emotions,
perspectives and personalhistory do shape how we see the
world.
It allowed people to shareexperiences without arguing over
them.
Example if two peopleexperienced the same breakup,
one might say my truth is that Ifelt abandoned, while the other
might say my truth is that Ifelt suffocated.
Neither is wrong, that's justhow they processed it.

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But somewhere along the way,people started confusing
feelings with facts.
Now it's less I feel this andmore I've crowned my emotions.
King of physics, bow peasants.
Now, instead of saying I feellike you were unfair, people say
my truth is that you wereabusive, regardless of what

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actually happened.
And that's where things go offthe rails, because personal
perception is not the same asobjective reality.
Your truth doesn't get a votein the periodic table.
2.
The three ways people weaponizetheir truth.
People don't just use theirtruth to express themselves.

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They use it to rewrite realityin ways that are dishonest,
manipulative and, quite franklydangerous.
1.
Dodging accountability.
One of the biggest abuses of mytruth is using it to avoid
consequences.
Someone lies about an event.
That's how I remember it.
They hurt someone.

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Well, I don't see it that way.
They refuse to own up to badbehavior.
That's just my truth.
Reality check behavior.
That's just my truth.
Reality check your truthdoesn't erase your actions.
It's like saying sorry, officer, my truth is that I'm a unicorn
.
Speed limits don't even apply.
If you cheat, steal, lie orbetray someone, you don't get to

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rebrand history just becauseyou'd rather not deal with the
consequences.
Your intentions don't eraseyour impact.
And calling it your truth Uh,it doesn't change what actually
happened.
2.
Manipulating others.
Another way their truth getstwisted, using it to control

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conversations and gaslightpeople.
Example 1.
The emotional blackmail play.
Person A hey, that thing youdid really hurt me.
Person B Well, my truth is thatyou hurt me first, so actually,
this is your fault.
Example 2.
The reputation smear.
Person A this person was toxicto me.

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Other people Wait, what didthey actually do?
Person A I don't need to proveit, that's my truth.
This kind of reality warping isdangerous because it lets people
avoid providing evidence fortheir claims, flip the script to
make themselves the victim andcontrol the narrative through
emotions instead of facts.

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It's Oscar-worthy Best sobstory in a fake reality.
Reality check If you need tomanipulate someone into agreeing
with your truth.
It's not true.
It's a story you're forcingonto reality.
3.
Justifying bad ideas andillogical thinking.
The final way their truthbecomes bullshit when people use

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it to defend ideas that don'thold up to scrutiny.
For example, flat earthersscience is fake.
My truth is that the earth isflat.
Anti-vaxxers I did my ownresearch and my truth is that
vaccines are poison People whoignore consequences.
I manifested a better reality.

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Your facts don't apply to me.
This is how delusion spreads.
Instead of people saying here'smy opinion, let's debate it,
they say here's my truth and youcan't challenge it because it's
my truth.
It's my truth, my truth.
And once everyone's personaltruth is treated as equally

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valid, facts become meaningless.
Next up, my truth says themoon's a disco ball.
Prove me wrong, nasa, the cold,hard reality.
Truth isn't personal.
Here's the thing yourexperience is real, absolutely
real, but reality is not up fordebate.
There are three types of truth.

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One, objective truth, realitythat exists whether you believe
it or not.
So, for example, water boils at100 degrees Celsius, gravity
exists.
If you jump off a building, youfall.
Two subjective truth how youexperience reality.
I love spicy food.
You hate it.
Both are true, but only inpersonal context.

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Three distorted truth.
When people pass subjectivefeelings off as objective facts,
I feel betrayed.
So that means you're a horribleperson.
The problem is that peopletreat subjective and distorted
truths as if they're bothobjective.
People treat subjective anddistorted truths as if they're
both objective.
It's like they've upgradedtheir feelings to VIP status.
Sorry, gravity, you're not onthe list.

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Reality doesn't care about yourtruth.
You don't get to redefine mathbecause you feel like two plus
two equals five.
You don't get to rewritehistory because it makes you
uncomfortable.
You don't get to ignore factsbecause they don't align with
your worldview.
And if we start pretendingotherwise, society collapses
into emotional chaos.

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Cue the apocalypse whereeveryone's arguing their truth
over the last Twinkie.
4.
How to challenge faulty logicwithout losing your mind.
So what do you do when someonehits you with that's my truth as
a way to dodge facts, avoidaccountability or push nonsense?
Well, one ask how do you knowthat?

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The simplest way to expose badlogic is to ask for evidence.
So what proof do you have forthat?
Can you explain why you believethat?
What would it take for you tochange your mind?
If they can't answer thosequestions?
They're not speaking truth.
They're clinging to a belief.
They're just reciting linesfrom my Truth, the Musical no

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script.
All improv.
Two separate facts from feelings.
When someone blurs emotionswith reality, separate them.
Hey, I get that you feel thatway, but what actually happened?
Hey, your feelings are valid,but feelings aren't facts.
Hey, can we separate yourexperience from what is

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objectively true?
This lets you validate theiremotions without validating bad
logic, without letting theirfeelings rewrite the
Constitution or your sanity.
3.
Let reality teach them.
Some people won't listen, nomatter what, and that's fine,
because reality has a way ofproving itself.
Someone ignores financialadvice.

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Their bank account will wakethem up.
Someone denies consequences.
Life will serve them eventually.
Someone insists on rewritinghistory.
Time is a way of sorting outthe truth.
You don't need to win everyargument.
You just need to make sure thatyou're not the one lying to
yourself.
Reality is the ultimate bouncer.
It'll toss their truth out whenthe tab runs dry.

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Final takeaway Feelings domatter, but facts matter more.
At the end of the day, you canhave your experiences, your
perspectives and your emotions,but you don't get your own
version of reality.
And if we don't get thatstraight as a society, we're all

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screwed.
So here's the question when wasthe last time you changed your
mind about something because thefacts proved you wrong?
Thank you.