April 30, 2024 • 29 mins
Welcome to day 2 of Your Next Intuitive Business Breakthrough training series! I'm sharing foundational power tools, insights, and perspective shifts that have guided me and my clients towards greater clarity, intuition, and business success.
Feeling like you can't trust your intuition without feeling overwhelmed by loud, conflicting voices? Are you sacrificing clarity and peace of mind to achieve success?
What if instead, you could have a clear understanding of your intuition's language and confidently make aligned decisions? That's exactly what we're diving into today.
If you're like most entrepreneurs, you want to trust your intuition and make decisions that align with your vision and values.
In today’s episode, we dive into understanding the language of your intuition. I’m going to give you steps and guidance on discerning between gentle whispers of intuition and louder, protective parts. Whether you struggle with self-doubt or conflicting inner voices, you can cultivate trust in your intuition and achieve your goals with confidence and inspiration.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello and welcome to day two of the free five-day
training series your NextIntuitive Business Breakthrough.
I'm so excited that you're herewith me today.
Now, if you haven't beenfollowing along, there is one
training that's housed here onthe podcast that I highly
suggest that you listen to.
(00:20):
Before you listen to thisparticular podcast episode, in
day one we talked about the mostimportant foundational exercise
that I teach first, that wewill build upon during the rest
of this week to help you to tuneinto your own intuition, so
(00:41):
that you can give yourself yourown intuitive business
breakthrough as an entrepreneur,whether you're trying to make a
business decision or decidewhich direction to go with your
work, so that you feel mostaligned and lit up by what
you're doing while you'recreating the most meaningful
(01:02):
impact and experiencing thehighest level of success with
your work.
If you have not yet signed upfor the email series that goes
along with this free trainingseries, I highly suggest that
you do.
You can find the link in theshow notes and when you sign up,
you will receive one email aday for five days that contains
(01:25):
not only the pertinent link forthe particular training for that
day that's housed here on thepodcast, but you're also going
to get extra resources, guidedvisualizations, exercises and
things of that nature that youcan use alongside the
(01:46):
information that you learn herein the podcast training series
to help you really tune intoyour intuition and get those
intuitive breakthroughs thatyou're looking for.
So today we're talking aboutbetter understanding the
language of your intuition,understanding what it sounds
like, what it's trying to tellyou, and also understanding
(02:08):
what's not your intuition andhow to tell the difference.
So first of all, in the day onetraining, I mentioned briefly
about how scientific studieshave shown that the more you
support your nervous system sothat you have a wider window of
tolerance, so that you havebetter heart coherence and heart
(02:32):
rate variability, these thingsincrease your connection to your
intuitive intelligence.
They increase your ability topick up on the intuitive
language with which yourintuition speaks right.
So the more that you do thework to support your nervous
(02:54):
system to create vagal tone, tocreate a wider window of
tolerance, to learn how toregulate your emotions, then the
closer connection that you'regoing to have with your
intuition and it's going tobecome more easeful for you to
pick up on when your intuitionis talking.
(03:15):
I mentioned this aspect overand over again because it is
such a valuable first step forabsolutely everybody to do to
support your nervous system.
It's not the only answer, but Ifind that it is the most
important first step and itallows everything else to unfold
(03:38):
more easily.
Now, as a side note, there are alot of things that I'll talk
about in a future podcast thatunderlie why your nervous system
might not be adequatelysupported.
Right, nervous systemregulation activities can be
helpful, and so some examplesare deep breathing, meditation,
(04:00):
cold water exposure.
Even doing things like garglingor singing can help to support
vagal tone.
Mindfulness helps to bring youinto the present and help to
support your nervous system.
However, as a side note, Ibelieve that there are deeper
things, for example, yourrelationship with yourself, that
(04:21):
impact the state of yournervous system.
So say, for example, if yourrelationship with yourself is
dysregulated, that is going tolead to a dysregulated nervous
system.
Right, when we have feelings ofinner guilt and shame, inner
pressure, negative self-talk allof these things put constant
negative pressure on the nervoussystem.
Versus, studies show that whenyou have self-compassion and
(04:44):
self-love and self-acceptance,these things have a positive
impact on the nervous system andheart rate variability.
I'll talk more about all ofthat in a future podcast episode
.
So, getting back to the point offocus for today, we're talking
about the language of yourintuition.
The very first thing that Ilike to tell people to consider
(05:07):
when their intuition is speakingis, first of all, as I
mentioned in the day one episodeyesterday on the podcast, a lot
of the communication of yourintuition is going to be felt
before it's heard.
Sensations, feelings in yourbody are going to be likely the
(05:29):
first signs before it hits yourbrain, and so this is why really
mastering the green flag andred flag feelings exercise can
be really helpful for you, asthis is going to be kind of like
the first line of communicationthat your intuition speaks.
Now, sometimes your intuitionmight speak in other ways.
(05:50):
You might see things or hearthings.
I know for myself.
I experience both of these.
Outside of what I'm feeling andthe sensations that I have,
most notably for me, I will heara voice speaking.
It's not like hearing someoneoutside of me speak, but I still
(06:13):
hear, whether it's associatedwith my thoughts or something
else.
There's a voice that I hearthat speaks, and this is true
for my intuition as well, asthere are other voices that I
hear speak.
I don't know if this is theexact terminology to use in
terms of hearing these things.
(06:34):
They're more like hearingthoughts, and maybe you've
experienced this too, and I wantto first give you a little
concept to consider when you'rediscerning whether the thought
that you're hearing is yourintuition or something else.
What I find from personalexperience is that your
intuition tends to speak softly,in whispers, it's gentle and
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it's kind.
Typically, the voice of myintuition will just say hey,
maybe think about this, or hey,maybe you don't want to do that.
For example, in one of my onlinecourses, when I'm teaching
people how to trust themselvesand their intuition, I used an
example from quite a number ofyears ago where I was getting
(07:25):
ready to go out for the day, andit was a beautiful sunny day,
there was not a cloud in the sky, and there was a voice in my
head that said hey, why don'tyou grab your umbrella?
And I was like, no, there's norain in the forecast, there's no
clouds in the sky, why would Ineed an umbrella?
And the voice again said maybeyou should think about grabbing
(07:46):
that umbrella.
Of course I did not grab theumbrella because at this point I
wasn't trusting of my intuition.
And guess what happened?
While I was out, there was aflash thunderstorm and I got
soaking wet.
Now, had I trusted my intuitionand I knew that my intuition
speaks in really gentle whispersthat little whisper I heard
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that said, hey, maybe you shouldgrab your umbrella.
If I wouldn't have known thatthat was my intuition speaking,
I may have paid more attention.
Now, sometimes we just need togo through the experience of
these things in order to learn,and this is where historical
data can be really helpful.
(08:30):
So I oftentimes suggest to myclients, if you're trying to get
a handle on understanding thelanguage of your intuition and
what voice is your intuition isto do a little bit of a
brainstorm where you think aboutpast situations where you may
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have heard yourself speaking ingentle, kind whispers what
happened when you listened to itand what happened when you
didn't listen to it.
This will give you reallyhelpful information, because
hindsight is always 20-20.
And you can do the same thingas an ongoing experiment, as you
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are getting used to payingattention to these thoughts that
are showing up in your mind andas you get used to the
sensations of your green and redflag feelings is to notice when
they come up and then whetheror not you decide to follow it
is to then pay attention to whatthe outcome is.
(09:34):
So maybe you might have a redflag feeling and a whisper that
says, hey, maybe that's not thebest way to go.
And let's say, for example, youignore those red flag feelings
and you ignore that littlewhisper as whatever unfolds
unfolds.
Do a little bit of a check-inafterwards and say, okay, so
(09:56):
what happened there?
What happened when I didn'tlisten to the red flag feeling?
What happened when I didn'tlisten to the little kind
whispering nudge that told menot to follow this little kind
whispering nudge that told menot to follow this, for example?
And you might notice, oh, I see, this happened and that didn't
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really feel so great, or Ididn't really enjoy that so much
, or that felt like it wasreally a difficult experience,
or I felt like I had to pushagainst everything to get this
done, even though maybe mylogical mind wanted to.
But I had all these littlenudges telling me don't go in
that direction.
But I didn't listen.
Or maybe you're getting greenflag feelings and you get this
(10:39):
little intuitive nudge that says, hey, maybe you should go do
that thing.
And then pay attention to whathappens, do a little bit of
check-in after everything is allsaid and done and say, okay, I
listened to my green flagfeelings and I listened to that
little gentle, intuitive whisperand this is what unfolded.
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And you might even want tocreate a document, like a
spreadsheet or something, whereyou keep track of all of these
things in the past and ongoing,and this will give you accurate
data to help you trust thatvoice whatever the voice is and
what it's suggesting, andwhether or not to trust it.
So this is where the next partof this exercise comes in.
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So I call this the who'sspeaking exercise.
So, as I've mentioned,typically your intuition will
speak in gentle, loving,compassionate whispers.
First of all, you might noticethat different tones of voice or
different waves of speakingmight even show up with these
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gentle, compassionate whispers.
They may or they might not.
It might just be one voice orone person, or one concept or
one type of energy, but youmight notice in different
situations that there aredifferent types of intuitive
voices that show up, and youmight notice that there are
other types of voices andmessages and tones that show up
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for you that don't feel sogentle, loving, compassionate
and supportive.
Oftentimes we can also haveother aspects that speak up for
us or are trying to get us topay attention, and one really
good example of this is yourprotective parts, those parts of
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you that are trying to protectyou, usually based out of
survival mode.
And there can be many differenttypes of protective parts,
especially depending on theexperiences that you've had
during your developmental yearsand maybe some developmental
needs that weren't fully met foryou, and those protective parts
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might show up to try to helpyou to meet those needs.
So what are some examples ofthis?
So the first example that comesto mind for me is the
self-deprecating part.
This has been a protective partwithin me that had been active
for many years and for me, it'sthat part that would say, oh,
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you're too much, you're toosensitive, you're not good
enough.
Oh, you're too much, you're toosensitive, you're not good
enough.
You'll never do that.
And this particular protectivepart is there to try to protect
me from experiencing failure,right?
So if that protective partshows up and says, oh, you're
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not good enough to do that, oh,you're not going to do that, oh,
you're too much, you need tochange, partly, it's preventing
me from getting myself in asituation that I'm going to fail
at, especially if thatprotective part is telling me oh
, you're not good enough forthat, don't even bother.
And partly that protective partshowed up for me to try to
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motivate me to do better, tochange, to fit in, to fit into
the tribe.
And there's this really commonconditioned belief that if you
deprecate yourself or if youdeprecate somebody else, then
that will motivate you to dosomething different, that will
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motivate you to change, to bebetter, that if you're not
deprecating yourself, then maybeyou won't do anything at all.
Unfortunately, while that mightwork temporarily and to a
degree, it doesn't work over thelong term and it doesn't work
the way you want it to.
But this is the survival brainspeaking up to try to meet
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developmental needs that weren'tmet many years ago.
So, going back to my experience, there was a few pieces of the
puzzle here in terms of I neverfit in when I was growing up.
I'm a highly sensitive,neurodivergent person and I did
not know any of this when I wasgrowing up, and fitting in was
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just a thing that never reallyhappened for me, and so I had A
these messages that there wassomething wrong with me, I was
too sensitive, I needed tochange.
I didn't fit in with the tribe,and so that meant that I was
wrong, I was bad, I was notworthy and I needed to change
and I needed to be better.
And then you put on top of thatparenting styles that many of us
(15:38):
were accustomed to because ofwhat our parental generation
experienced themselves.
I developed this protectivepart that believed that
deprecating myself was going tobe the thing that made me better
.
Of course, that's not true atall.
What helps you to survive isnot the thing that's going to
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help you to thrive, anddeprecating myself was a
survival mechanism to try tomeet that developmental need.
And now here's the thing.
So I'm using this as an example, but there are thousands of
different examples of protectiveparts, depending on the
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experiences that you've wentthrough the developmental needs
maybe that hadn't been fully met, for example, and the belief
system that you hold, becausewhen you have an experience, you
put meaning to that experienceand it sets up a belief, and
these beliefs that you developabout yourself, about others,
about life will impact how wetreat ourselves, what we think
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about ourselves, how we interactwith ourselves, our
relationship with ourselves andhow our protective parts show up
.
Now here's the thing ourprotective parts are there to
try to protect us and while,logically, it doesn't always
make sense why these parts showup the way they show up, they're
just trying to help us.
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So there's no sense indeprecating your protective
deprecating part, if that makessense.
But it is important to becomeaware and discern.
Okay, so I've got differentthoughts and voices that come up
in different tones anddifferent languages, and so I
see for myself that my intuitivevoice is soft and gentle and
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kind versus say, for example, myself-deprecating, protective
part is angry, mean and loud.
Can you see how different thosetwo voices likely end up
showing up for me and thinkingabout your own personal
experiences?
Are there different voices thatshow up in different tones and
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emotion and saying differentthings?
And can you see how, the moreawareness that you have about
who's actually speaking, is ityour intuition or is it a
protective part?
And there can be manyprotective parts in different
voices saying different thingsand oftentimes, if you actually
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pay attention to the protectivepart that's showing up, you
might notice that that voice youhear of that protective part
isn't your own voice.
I know for myself and so many ofmy clients when we tune into
discerning and identifying thesedifferent protective parts.
I ask them, whose voice is that?
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And more often than not, whenit comes to these protective
parts, the voices usuallyrepresent their caregivers,
usually represent theircaregivers Parents, for example.
Oh, I can see, that's my mom'svoice right now.
Oh, that's my dad's voice.
And the more awareness that youcan have about whose voice is
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it, what are they saying, andare they actually your intuition
or is it a protective part?
The more you can start to trustyour intuition by understanding
.
Oh, that's the language myintuition speaks, that's what it
sounds like, that's how itspeaks to me.
This can help you to trust theintuitive voice and it can also
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help you to identify when theprotective part is showing up,
because when it does, it'sshowing up for a reason.
It's showing up becausesomething doesn't feel safe,
likely, or because adevelopmental need isn't being
met, and your protective part istrying to meet it or trying to
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protect you, or trying to helpyou feel safe in some way.
And so if you hear a protectivepart showing up which will
likely be loud, unkind, meandisrespectful, these types of
things, then this is a sign thatmaybe something within you
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doesn't feel safe, somethingwithin you feels like a
developmental need is not beingmet, instead of maybe shaming
that part of you away orignoring it or saying you
shouldn't be here, is actuallyto give that part of you a seat
at the table.
And this is where I suggestthat, if you can discern between
different protective parts somaybe you've got three different
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protective parts maybe you'vegot the part of you that is
afraid to be visible on socialmedia because you're afraid that
you're going to be ridiculed.
And maybe there's anotherprotective part that is thinking
that you're too sensitivebecause that made other people
angry.
And so you might notice, forexample with those two, that
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they sound different, they saydifferent things, they speak in
different ways, they havedifferent tones of voice
depending on which protectivepart is showing up, and it can
be helpful for you to actuallyname them, put names to them,
and that can help you to discernbetween the different ones that
show up, like Judgmental Joe,for example, and then you can go
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oh, I see Judgmental Joe isshowing up right now and that is
telling me that something isnot feeling safe about me.
Something about where I am orhow I'm feeling feels unsafe.
For example, if Judgmental Joeshows up, you can say, first of
all A this is not my intuition,this is a protective part.
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B because a protective part isshowing up.
This is a message for me thatthere's something that doesn't
feel balanced or aligned.
I don't feel safe.
One of my developmental needsare not being met.
Okay, let's take a look at that.
What's not being met?
What am I afraid about?
What doesn't feel safe?
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And ask judgmental Joe to comeand have a seat at the table
with you and all the differentparts of you, including your
intuition, and say, hey, welcometo the table.
I see you're showing up becausesomething doesn't feel aligned,
so let's A take a look at whatthat is.
And B I understand that you'renot feeling safe right now, or
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aligned, or you're feeling likesomething is out of your control
, and I understand that you areshowing up to try to protect me.
However, what helps us tosurvive isn't what helps us to
thrive, so let's find adifferent way forward.
Thank you for alerting me thatsomething doesn't feel safe and
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let's address that, and thenlet's move forward in a
different way so that we canthrive.
Can you see how more productivethat can be, versus trying to
ignore or shame away those partsor shame yourself to try to
meet those needs that yourprotective part is trying to
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speak up for you to do.
There's a lot more nuance to allof this than what I can get
across in one short lesson, butI wanted to bring this up as an
introduction if you haven'talready been exposed to this
kind of work.
But the more important parthere for today's lesson is
understanding the language ofyour intuition, understanding
(23:29):
that your intuition will mostcommonly be speaking in gentle
whispers.
It's going to be kind, it'sgoing to be respectful, it's not
going to be forceful, and thisis why it's really important to
understand and identify who'sspeaking and trust it, because
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your intuition isn't going tocome in and hit you over the
head with a baseball bat so thatyou listen.
It's going to be very gentleand if you don't pay attention
and you don't trust it and youdon't understand that that's the
way it speaks, you might notlisten Right.
The parts of you that are moreforceful, that are going to come
in and hit you over the headwith a baseball bat and yell at
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you and be mean to you, thoseare the parts that, more often
than not, we tend to pay moreattention to because they're
louder, but those are the partsto sit down and have a
conversation with instead ofactually following those,
because they're trying to giveyou a message that something
doesn't feel safe or good oraligned, but their delivery, in
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terms of how they do that, isactually letting you know that
they're speaking from a place ofsurvival, and if you're
following this training orfollowing this podcast, then you
know that that's not where youwant to be operating from.
There's a lot more that I cansay about this topic.
I have some notes here that Iwanted to share about discerning
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between your own awareness andemotions and other people's, but
I think that I'm going to makethat a separate training.
Emotions and other people's butI think that I'm going to make
that a separate training.
I'm going to stop here so thatyou can really take in what I
said about this concept aboutwho's speaking and the language
of your intuition and discerningthe difference between that and
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potentially other parts, likeyour protective parts, and maybe
sit down and do a littlebrainstorm and think about past
experiences where whatpotentially is probably your
intuition speaking up, whathappened when you listened to it
and what happened when youdidn't, and then when other
parts spoke up, like yourprotective parts.
(25:43):
What happened in thosesituations, what unfolded and
what unfolded when you compliedor didn't comply with those
parts.
And this is going to give youdata that you can assess and
this is going to help you bettertrust what is your intuition
and what isn't.
And maybe you want to name yourintuition and maybe there's
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several characters that arespeaking on the side of your
intuition and name thoseprotective parts and there are
likely several differentcharacters of protective parts
and naming each of them can bereally helpful to discern the
difference between them.
To discern the differencebetween them.
(26:29):
So we'll wrap up today'straining module about intuition
as part of this free five-dayseries, your Next Intuitive
Business Breakthrough.
Again, if you have not signedup, I highly suggest that you go
to the show notes and sign upfor this free training series,
because you're going to receiveadditional exercises and
reflections and insights in eachof the emails that you receive
(26:51):
as part of this five-day series.
So I hope today's lessonprovided some helpful insight
for you and be sure to come backtomorrow.
I'm going to be talking aboutdecoding your intuitive language
using human design.
I'm super excited for this nextlesson in the five-day series.
I'll talk to you then.
Hello and welcome to day two of the free five-day
training series your NextIntuitive Business Breakthrough.
I'm so excited that you're herewith me today.
Now, if you haven't beenfollowing along, there is one
training that's housed here onthe podcast that I highly
suggest that you listen to.
(00:20):
Before you listen to thisparticular podcast episode, in
day one we talked about the mostimportant foundational exercise
that I teach first, that wewill build upon during the rest
of this week to help you to tuneinto your own intuition, so
(00:41):
that you can give yourself yourown intuitive business
breakthrough as an entrepreneur,whether you're trying to make a
business decision or decidewhich direction to go with your
work, so that you feel mostaligned and lit up by what
you're doing while you'recreating the most meaningful
(01:02):
impact and experiencing thehighest level of success with
your work.
If you have not yet signed upfor the email series that goes
along with this free trainingseries, I highly suggest that
you do.
You can find the link in theshow notes and when you sign up,
you will receive one email aday for five days that contains
(01:25):
not only the pertinent link forthe particular training for that
day that's housed here on thepodcast, but you're also going
to get extra resources, guidedvisualizations, exercises and
things of that nature that youcan use alongside the
(01:46):
information that you learn herein the podcast training series
to help you really tune intoyour intuition and get those
intuitive breakthroughs thatyou're looking for.
So today we're talking aboutbetter understanding the
language of your intuition,understanding what it sounds
like, what it's trying to tellyou, and also understanding
(02:08):
what's not your intuition andhow to tell the difference.
So first of all, in the day onetraining, I mentioned briefly
about how scientific studieshave shown that the more you
support your nervous system sothat you have a wider window of
tolerance, so that you havebetter heart coherence and heart
(02:32):
rate variability, these thingsincrease your connection to your
intuitive intelligence.
They increase your ability topick up on the intuitive
language with which yourintuition speaks right.
So the more that you do thework to support your nervous
(02:54):
system to create vagal tone, tocreate a wider window of
tolerance, to learn how toregulate your emotions, then the
closer connection that you'regoing to have with your
intuition and it's going tobecome more easeful for you to
pick up on when your intuitionis talking.
(03:15):
I mentioned this aspect overand over again because it is
such a valuable first step forabsolutely everybody to do to
support your nervous system.
It's not the only answer, but Ifind that it is the most
important first step and itallows everything else to unfold
(03:38):
more easily.
Now, as a side note, there are alot of things that I'll talk
about in a future podcast thatunderlie why your nervous system
might not be adequatelysupported.
Right, nervous systemregulation activities can be
helpful, and so some examplesare deep breathing, meditation,
(04:00):
cold water exposure.
Even doing things like garglingor singing can help to support
vagal tone.
Mindfulness helps to bring youinto the present and help to
support your nervous system.
However, as a side note, Ibelieve that there are deeper
things, for example, yourrelationship with yourself, that
(04:21):
impact the state of yournervous system.
So say, for example, if yourrelationship with yourself is
dysregulated, that is going tolead to a dysregulated nervous
system.
Right, when we have feelings ofinner guilt and shame, inner
pressure, negative self-talk allof these things put constant
negative pressure on the nervoussystem.
Versus, studies show that whenyou have self-compassion and
(04:44):
self-love and self-acceptance,these things have a positive
impact on the nervous system andheart rate variability.
I'll talk more about all ofthat in a future podcast episode
.
So, getting back to the point offocus for today, we're talking
about the language of yourintuition.
The very first thing that Ilike to tell people to consider
(05:07):
when their intuition is speakingis, first of all, as I
mentioned in the day one episodeyesterday on the podcast, a lot
of the communication of yourintuition is going to be felt
before it's heard.
Sensations, feelings in yourbody are going to be likely the
(05:29):
first signs before it hits yourbrain, and so this is why really
mastering the green flag andred flag feelings exercise can
be really helpful for you, asthis is going to be kind of like
the first line of communicationthat your intuition speaks.
Now, sometimes your intuitionmight speak in other ways.
(05:50):
You might see things or hearthings.
I know for myself.
I experience both of these.
Outside of what I'm feeling andthe sensations that I have,
most notably for me, I will heara voice speaking.
It's not like hearing someoneoutside of me speak, but I still
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hear, whether it's associatedwith my thoughts or something
else.
There's a voice that I hearthat speaks, and this is true
for my intuition as well, asthere are other voices that I
hear speak.
I don't know if this is theexact terminology to use in
terms of hearing these things.
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They're more like hearingthoughts, and maybe you've
experienced this too, and I wantto first give you a little
concept to consider when you'rediscerning whether the thought
that you're hearing is yourintuition or something else.
What I find from personalexperience is that your
intuition tends to speak softly,in whispers, it's gentle and
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it's kind.
Typically, the voice of myintuition will just say hey,
maybe think about this, or hey,maybe you don't want to do that.
For example, in one of my onlinecourses, when I'm teaching
people how to trust themselvesand their intuition, I used an
example from quite a number ofyears ago where I was getting
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ready to go out for the day, andit was a beautiful sunny day,
there was not a cloud in the sky, and there was a voice in my
head that said hey, why don'tyou grab your umbrella?
And I was like, no, there's norain in the forecast, there's no
clouds in the sky, why would Ineed an umbrella?
And the voice again said maybeyou should think about grabbing
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that umbrella.
Of course I did not grab theumbrella because at this point I
wasn't trusting of my intuition.
And guess what happened?
While I was out, there was aflash thunderstorm and I got
soaking wet.
Now, had I trusted my intuitionand I knew that my intuition
speaks in really gentle whispersthat little whisper I heard
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that said, hey, maybe you shouldgrab your umbrella.
If I wouldn't have known thatthat was my intuition speaking,
I may have paid more attention.
Now, sometimes we just need togo through the experience of
these things in order to learn,and this is where historical
data can be really helpful.
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So I oftentimes suggest to myclients, if you're trying to get
a handle on understanding thelanguage of your intuition and
what voice is your intuition isto do a little bit of a
brainstorm where you think aboutpast situations where you may
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have heard yourself speaking ingentle, kind whispers what
happened when you listened to itand what happened when you
didn't listen to it.
This will give you reallyhelpful information, because
hindsight is always 20-20.
And you can do the same thingas an ongoing experiment, as you
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are getting used to payingattention to these thoughts that
are showing up in your mind andas you get used to the
sensations of your green and redflag feelings is to notice when
they come up and then whetheror not you decide to follow it
is to then pay attention to whatthe outcome is.
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So maybe you might have a redflag feeling and a whisper that
says, hey, maybe that's not thebest way to go.
And let's say, for example, youignore those red flag feelings
and you ignore that littlewhisper as whatever unfolds
unfolds.
Do a little bit of a check-inafterwards and say, okay, so
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what happened there?
What happened when I didn'tlisten to the red flag feeling?
What happened when I didn'tlisten to the little kind
whispering nudge that told menot to follow this little kind
whispering nudge that told menot to follow this, for example?
And you might notice, oh, I see, this happened and that didn't
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really feel so great, or Ididn't really enjoy that so much
, or that felt like it wasreally a difficult experience,
or I felt like I had to pushagainst everything to get this
done, even though maybe mylogical mind wanted to.
But I had all these littlenudges telling me don't go in
that direction.
But I didn't listen.
Or maybe you're getting greenflag feelings and you get this
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little intuitive nudge that says, hey, maybe you should go do
that thing.
And then pay attention to whathappens, do a little bit of
check-in after everything is allsaid and done and say, okay, I
listened to my green flagfeelings and I listened to that
little gentle, intuitive whisperand this is what unfolded.
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And you might even want tocreate a document, like a
spreadsheet or something, whereyou keep track of all of these
things in the past and ongoing,and this will give you accurate
data to help you trust thatvoice whatever the voice is and
what it's suggesting, andwhether or not to trust it.
So this is where the next partof this exercise comes in.
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So I call this the who'sspeaking exercise.
So, as I've mentioned,typically your intuition will
speak in gentle, loving,compassionate whispers.
First of all, you might noticethat different tones of voice or
different waves of speakingmight even show up with these
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gentle, compassionate whispers.
They may or they might not.
It might just be one voice orone person, or one concept or
one type of energy, but youmight notice in different
situations that there aredifferent types of intuitive
voices that show up, and youmight notice that there are
other types of voices andmessages and tones that show up
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for you that don't feel sogentle, loving, compassionate
and supportive.
Oftentimes we can also haveother aspects that speak up for
us or are trying to get us topay attention, and one really
good example of this is yourprotective parts, those parts of
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you that are trying to protectyou, usually based out of
survival mode.
And there can be many differenttypes of protective parts,
especially depending on theexperiences that you've had
during your developmental yearsand maybe some developmental
needs that weren't fully met foryou, and those protective parts
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might show up to try to helpyou to meet those needs.
So what are some examples ofthis?
So the first example that comesto mind for me is the
self-deprecating part.
This has been a protective partwithin me that had been active
for many years and for me, it'sthat part that would say, oh,
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you're too much, you're toosensitive, you're not good
enough.
Oh, you're too much, you're toosensitive, you're not good
enough.
You'll never do that.
And this particular protectivepart is there to try to protect
me from experiencing failure,right?
So if that protective partshows up and says, oh, you're
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not good enough to do that, oh,you're not going to do that, oh,
you're too much, you need tochange, partly, it's preventing
me from getting myself in asituation that I'm going to fail
at, especially if thatprotective part is telling me oh
, you're not good enough forthat, don't even bother.
And partly that protective partshowed up for me to try to
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motivate me to do better, tochange, to fit in, to fit into
the tribe.
And there's this really commonconditioned belief that if you
deprecate yourself or if youdeprecate somebody else, then
that will motivate you to dosomething different, that will
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motivate you to change, to bebetter, that if you're not
deprecating yourself, then maybeyou won't do anything at all.
Unfortunately, while that mightwork temporarily and to a
degree, it doesn't work over thelong term and it doesn't work
the way you want it to.
But this is the survival brainspeaking up to try to meet
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developmental needs that weren'tmet many years ago.
So, going back to my experience, there was a few pieces of the
puzzle here in terms of I neverfit in when I was growing up.
I'm a highly sensitive,neurodivergent person and I did
not know any of this when I wasgrowing up, and fitting in was
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just a thing that never reallyhappened for me, and so I had A
these messages that there wassomething wrong with me, I was
too sensitive, I needed tochange.
I didn't fit in with the tribe,and so that meant that I was
wrong, I was bad, I was notworthy and I needed to change
and I needed to be better.
And then you put on top of thatparenting styles that many of us
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were accustomed to because ofwhat our parental generation
experienced themselves.
I developed this protectivepart that believed that
deprecating myself was going tobe the thing that made me better
.
Of course, that's not true atall.
What helps you to survive isnot the thing that's going to
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help you to thrive, anddeprecating myself was a
survival mechanism to try tomeet that developmental need.
And now here's the thing.
So I'm using this as an example, but there are thousands of
different examples of protectiveparts, depending on the
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experiences that you've wentthrough the developmental needs
maybe that hadn't been fully met, for example, and the belief
system that you hold, becausewhen you have an experience, you
put meaning to that experienceand it sets up a belief, and
these beliefs that you developabout yourself, about others,
about life will impact how wetreat ourselves, what we think
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about ourselves, how we interactwith ourselves, our
relationship with ourselves andhow our protective parts show up
.
Now here's the thing ourprotective parts are there to
try to protect us and while,logically, it doesn't always
make sense why these parts showup the way they show up, they're
just trying to help us.
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So there's no sense indeprecating your protective
deprecating part, if that makessense.
But it is important to becomeaware and discern.
Okay, so I've got differentthoughts and voices that come up
in different tones anddifferent languages, and so I
see for myself that my intuitivevoice is soft and gentle and
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kind versus say, for example, myself-deprecating, protective
part is angry, mean and loud.
Can you see how different thosetwo voices likely end up
showing up for me and thinkingabout your own personal
experiences?
Are there different voices thatshow up in different tones and
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emotion and saying differentthings?
And can you see how, the moreawareness that you have about
who's actually speaking, is ityour intuition or is it a
protective part?
And there can be manyprotective parts in different
voices saying different thingsand oftentimes, if you actually
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pay attention to the protectivepart that's showing up, you
might notice that that voice youhear of that protective part
isn't your own voice.
I know for myself and so many ofmy clients when we tune into
discerning and identifying thesedifferent protective parts.
I ask them, whose voice is that?
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And more often than not, whenit comes to these protective
parts, the voices usuallyrepresent their caregivers,
usually represent theircaregivers Parents, for example.
Oh, I can see, that's my mom'svoice right now.
Oh, that's my dad's voice.
And the more awareness that youcan have about whose voice is
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it, what are they saying, andare they actually your intuition
or is it a protective part?
The more you can start to trustyour intuition by understanding
.
Oh, that's the language myintuition speaks, that's what it
sounds like, that's how itspeaks to me.
This can help you to trust theintuitive voice and it can also
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help you to identify when theprotective part is showing up,
because when it does, it'sshowing up for a reason.
It's showing up becausesomething doesn't feel safe,
likely, or because adevelopmental need isn't being
met, and your protective part istrying to meet it or trying to
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protect you, or trying to helpyou feel safe in some way.
And so if you hear a protectivepart showing up which will
likely be loud, unkind, meandisrespectful, these types of
things, then this is a sign thatmaybe something within you
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doesn't feel safe, somethingwithin you feels like a
developmental need is not beingmet, instead of maybe shaming
that part of you away orignoring it or saying you
shouldn't be here, is actuallyto give that part of you a seat
at the table.
And this is where I suggestthat, if you can discern between
different protective parts somaybe you've got three different
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protective parts maybe you'vegot the part of you that is
afraid to be visible on socialmedia because you're afraid that
you're going to be ridiculed.
And maybe there's anotherprotective part that is thinking
that you're too sensitivebecause that made other people
angry.
And so you might notice, forexample with those two, that
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they sound different, they saydifferent things, they speak in
different ways, they havedifferent tones of voice
depending on which protectivepart is showing up, and it can
be helpful for you to actuallyname them, put names to them,
and that can help you to discernbetween the different ones that
show up, like Judgmental Joe,for example, and then you can go
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oh, I see Judgmental Joe isshowing up right now and that is
telling me that something isnot feeling safe about me.
Something about where I am orhow I'm feeling feels unsafe.
For example, if Judgmental Joeshows up, you can say, first of
all A this is not my intuition,this is a protective part.
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B because a protective part isshowing up.
This is a message for me thatthere's something that doesn't
feel balanced or aligned.
I don't feel safe.
One of my developmental needsare not being met.
Okay, let's take a look at that.
What's not being met?
What am I afraid about?
What doesn't feel safe?
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And ask judgmental Joe to comeand have a seat at the table
with you and all the differentparts of you, including your
intuition, and say, hey, welcometo the table.
I see you're showing up becausesomething doesn't feel aligned,
so let's A take a look at whatthat is.
And B I understand that you'renot feeling safe right now, or
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aligned, or you're feeling likesomething is out of your control
, and I understand that you areshowing up to try to protect me.
However, what helps us tosurvive isn't what helps us to
thrive, so let's find adifferent way forward.
Thank you for alerting me thatsomething doesn't feel safe and
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let's address that, and thenlet's move forward in a
different way so that we canthrive.
Can you see how more productivethat can be, versus trying to
ignore or shame away those partsor shame yourself to try to
meet those needs that yourprotective part is trying to
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speak up for you to do.
There's a lot more nuance to allof this than what I can get
across in one short lesson, butI wanted to bring this up as an
introduction if you haven'talready been exposed to this
kind of work.
But the more important parthere for today's lesson is
understanding the language ofyour intuition, understanding
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that your intuition will mostcommonly be speaking in gentle
whispers.
It's going to be kind, it'sgoing to be respectful, it's not
going to be forceful, and thisis why it's really important to
understand and identify who'sspeaking and trust it, because
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your intuition isn't going tocome in and hit you over the
head with a baseball bat so thatyou listen.
It's going to be very gentleand if you don't pay attention
and you don't trust it and youdon't understand that that's the
way it speaks, you might notlisten Right.
The parts of you that are moreforceful, that are going to come
in and hit you over the headwith a baseball bat and yell at
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you and be mean to you, thoseare the parts that, more often
than not, we tend to pay moreattention to because they're
louder, but those are the partsto sit down and have a
conversation with instead ofactually following those,
because they're trying to giveyou a message that something
doesn't feel safe or good oraligned, but their delivery, in
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terms of how they do that, isactually letting you know that
they're speaking from a place ofsurvival, and if you're
following this training orfollowing this podcast, then you
know that that's not where youwant to be operating from.
There's a lot more that I cansay about this topic.
I have some notes here that Iwanted to share about discerning
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between your own awareness andemotions and other people's, but
I think that I'm going to makethat a separate training.
Emotions and other people's butI think that I'm going to make
that a separate training.
I'm going to stop here so thatyou can really take in what I
said about this concept aboutwho's speaking and the language
of your intuition and discerningthe difference between that and
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potentially other parts, likeyour protective parts, and maybe
sit down and do a littlebrainstorm and think about past
experiences where whatpotentially is probably your
intuition speaking up, whathappened when you listened to it
and what happened when youdidn't, and then when other
parts spoke up, like yourprotective parts.
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What happened in thosesituations, what unfolded and
what unfolded when you compliedor didn't comply with those
parts.
And this is going to give youdata that you can assess and
this is going to help you bettertrust what is your intuition
and what isn't.
And maybe you want to name yourintuition and maybe there's
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several characters that arespeaking on the side of your
intuition and name thoseprotective parts and there are
likely several differentcharacters of protective parts
and naming each of them can bereally helpful to discern the
difference between them.
To discern the differencebetween them.
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So we'll wrap up today'straining module about intuition
as part of this free five-dayseries, your Next Intuitive
Business Breakthrough.
Again, if you have not signedup, I highly suggest that you go
to the show notes and sign upfor this free training series,
because you're going to receiveadditional exercises and
reflections and insights in eachof the emails that you receive
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as part of this five-day series.
So I hope today's lessonprovided some helpful insight
for you and be sure to come backtomorrow.
I'm going to be talking aboutdecoding your intuitive language
using human design.
I'm super excited for this nextlesson in the five-day series.
I'll talk to you then.
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