October 27, 2024 • 41 mins
Ever faced a mountain of tasks that leave you feeling overwhelmed? I’ve found that taking time off to tackle those lingering chores like returning items to Amazon or scheduling overdue appointments can work wonders in reducing stress. I delve into my background in past life regression and quantum healing, offering visualization techniques that have helped me release emotional burdens and renew my energy. These 7 self-care practices are not just about surviving but thriving as a busy mom and a professional.
Balancing the demands of being a single mom and a corporate professional during turbulent times has been no easy journey for me, Tara Mychele. From navigating the stress of workplace layoffs to the constant juggle of parenting and career, I share personal stories that many of you might find all too familiar.
Inspired by legendary coach Phil Jackson's approach to managing high-profile teams, I explore how adopting self-care rituals can elevate your life. From meditation and therapy to the power of movement through dancing and exercise, I highlight 7 key practices to keep our frequencies high and our spirits grounded. Join me as we uncover the "juicy nuggets" of life, sharing the blessings and staying present in this healing adventure. Let’s keep this positive energy flowing—tune in, share with friends, and let's grow together.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to the intuitive mentor mom podcast,
where we explore strategies forpracticing more self-love,
gratitude and finding new waysto empower ourselves in this
ever-changing healing adventureof life happening for us.
I'm your host, tara Michelle.
Let's get started.
Welcome back to IntuitiveMentor Mom Podcast.
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I'm excited to be with you guysthis week.
Oh, my goodness, for those ofyou newly listening, my name is
Tara Michelle.
I am an intuitive, I am anempath, I am a single mom.
I am also I work in corporateAmerica.
So I do a lot of things and oneof my passions is to share,
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share aspects of my life, thingsthat I move through, and really
just to share with you how Imove through various times in my
life, whether they bechallenging, whether they be
heroic, whether they be mundane,whatever it is.
I share how I move through lifebecause I really believe that
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we are all here to support oneanother and I feel that life is
happening for us.
It's not happening to us, it'shappening for us.
And who are we going to be inthis situation?
Who are we going to be in thiscircumstance?
And the context of this show isreally about that, and I share
from aspects of my life A lot oftimes I'll be talking about,
whether it's romanticrelationships, whether it's
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career, whether it's parenting,whether it's just self care,
self help with myself, and howdo I navigate all that, in hopes
that something along the waythat I share will hopefully
inspire, motivate and activateyou in whatever you're up to,
whatever your truth is, whateveryou may be challenged with,
whatever stops or blocks, youmay be feeling that something
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that I share inspires you,shifts a perspective and allows
you to, you know, expand to thenext level of your life.
So, with that said, the lastepisode I was talking about
overwhelm, okay, and I Ipersonally, have been, I have
been grappling deeply in a stateof overwhelm, and some of the
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things that I talked about doingin the last episode was really,
you know, making a list.
Those are things that I do.
I have to make a list, I haveto get everything that's in my
head, out of my head and ontopaper, because what ends up
happening is it's like, you know, appointments for the pets,
appointments for our, you know,for myself, you know the school
schedule, the football schedule,everything, the schedule for
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work, all the things I have todo at work.
It aisles up, not to mentioncleaning the house, managing a
household, managing a territoryfor my career, managing the
animals, managing everything myson's education, the support and
help that he may need.
Holidays are coming up, so allthese things and, as I shared in
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the last episode, I'm movingthrough a tough time at work.
Work is really challengingright now and, funny enough, we
just had a layoff so they laidoff several people this week.
I am beyond grateful that myname was not on that list,
because that would really sendme in a tailspin.
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That would be two layoffs thisyear and that would be really
hard.
But that doesn't mean it isn'tgoing to happen.
It doesn't mean that it's notpossible.
So I am grateful for thismoment in time right now.
But it adds to this level ofstress.
As a single parent and I'mspeaking to all parents out
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there, speaking to all moms outthere I think that being a mom,
being a parent no matter whetheryou're single or you have a
partner or you have a lot ofsupport from family it's still a
very stressful, daunting.
You know it can be achallenging task.
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It's a challenging task to dowhat we do.
So you know, like I said, therewas, there was a layoff this
week and very shocking, likenone of us I definitely was not
expecting that, not at all, likenone of us.
I definitely was not expectingthat, not at all and really feel
for my colleagues and I've beendoing all that I could to
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support them sending them, youknow, recruiter leads and
reaching out to recruiters totalk with them and, you know,
hopefully, supporting them inwhat's next for them on this
journey.
But what I went ahead and didand I went back to episode one
if some of you remember episodeone, where I talked about being
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in the gap and I talked aboutthe experience I used, was when
I went through the layoffearlier this year and I chose to
go back and listen to that,which was great.
I was like what is it that Isaid?
What were the things that Ireally talked about?
Was there anything that I mighthave missed that I'm missing
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right now Because I'm in astressful, tough time at work,
faced with all the challengesthat we're facing.
I think the industry itself isfacing numerous challenges.
The economy is facingchallenges.
We're on an election year.
There's a lot going on at thistime.
It's a very trying time.
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So today's episode that I'dlike to focus on is self-care in
the state of overwhelm Okay.
Is self-care in the state ofoverwhelm okay?
I will admit I am still in astate of overwhelm I am.
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I did take on creating my list.
I did take on taking a few daysoff and really getting my house
in order as much as I could andreally tackling this to-do list
of little tedious things, likethings I haven't taken back to
go back to Amazon, or, you know,phone calls I hadn't made or
appointments I hadn't made, oremails I hadn't checked on in
order to make appointments, andyou know things like the
parent-teacher conference day.
You know getting caught up onnewsletters for my son's school
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and making sure that all thesethings, these little tiny things
that I have to manage on aday-to-day basis, that I
sometimes will just skip becauseit's like you know what I got
too much on my plate.
I can't even look at that rightnow.
I'll look at it when it comestime.
Making sure that I got througha lot of those, and taking that
time off for myself was huge.
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Taking that time off for myselfwas huge I wanna talk about
today.
I made a list of things that Ido for self-care and it actually
ended up being seven things,seven things that are most
important when managing yourself-care.
Because, really, as a singlemom, as a single parent, as a
mom, as a mom let's just say mom, mom, in order for mom to be
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really present for her kids, inorder for mom to bring her
fullest self to her partner, toher children, to her work, her
colleagues, her friends, herfamily, her work, her colleagues
, her friends, her family themost important thing is making
sure your cups are full.
You have to make sure your cupsare full, and what that looks
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like is self-care.
But are you really clear whatyour self-care needs are?
You know, one of them is, forme, is drinking lots of water.
Okay, that's a self-care that'sfilling my cup.
It's actually not on my list,but it's one of those things,
cause I'm staring at my giantwater bottle right now in front
of me.
But I wanted to share some ofthe things that are very
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important and very crucial thatI do in states and times of
overwhelm, and I will tell youright now.
I did it today because today Iwoke up.
I was not feeling it.
I literally woke up with thevisual of a giant stake, like a
massive wooden stake, plungedthrough my chest and I was
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pinned to the ground, plungedthrough my chest and I was
pinned to the ground.
That is what I woke up in today.
That is how I felt.
I felt heavy, I felt emotional,I felt sad, I felt stuck.
I felt that it was an endlessstuckness, that there was no way
out.
No way out, I'm trapped.
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I felt trapped, okay, when Isaw that I was swirling in those
feelings, sitting on my bedthis morning.
I'd already made my coffee andI'd already fed the dogs, but I
was sitting in that energy and Iwas sitting in that energy and
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I thought to myself what is itreally that I'm feeling?
And that's when I saw thevisual, the visual of this
massive stake and let's say it'smedieval times.
That's what it felt like.
So there may be an aspect thatthis was a past life experience
that I was tuning into, becausethere may be people in my
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current life, right now,involved in that past life
experience, which is wild and,by the way, if you don't know
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and, by the way, if you don'tknow, I'm certified in past life
regression, quantum healing,hypnosis therapy, and I used to
do why?
That time in my life, thatseason when I was doing lots of
sessions with people was for meto really understand the craft
so that I could bring it intothe work that I do now.
So I incorporate that when Iwork with people individually
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and I'm able to tune in and seepast life energies.
And I'm able to tune in and seepast life energies and I'm able
to tune in and see how there'sconnections for you, and I don't
necessarily need to drop youinto some hypnosis state.
But I think that there was apractice and there was some
tuning that was occurring for meat the time when I was doing a
lot of those sessions.
And now I have the ability tosee past lives.
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I could just see them, you know.
And so there I was this morningand I was really tuning in, like
, okay, I got to get myself outof this funk, like I'm in a funk
, and I was feeling as if theworld around me, I was feeling
trapped that's the best wordImmobilized, in a state of
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complete dysfunction, robotic,numb, detached, empty.
I'm sharing these words becausethat is me tuning into the
energy of what I was feeling inthose moments and I'm going to
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tell you as a human being withthe biggest heart and so much
empathy for humanity and formyself and for people that made
me so sad to see that.
I felt that deep, that deep.
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And so that is when I saw thismassive stake through my body
and I was pinned to the grounddead.
And so I was like, oh okay, butI can remove that.
I can remove that right now,that I can remove that right now
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.
And so I took my hand literallyand I put it around that stake
and I pulled it out and I sentit back to God and I asked God
to release me from that timelineand release me from that moment
and release me from that stake.
It doesn't matter who it is thatput it in me.
It has something to do withwork.
I'm very clear about that.
It doesn't matter which of theindividuals it is, it just
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doesn't matter.
It might just be the pureenergy of the company.
I do see that there are peoplethere, but it doesn't matter.
It's not about that.
It's about who will I be in thestate of overwhelm when I
recognize that I'm immobilized?
How will I get myself out?
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So that was one of the actionsI took this morning, and then I
continued on with my day and Isaid keep putting one foot in
front of the other.
It's going to get lighter, it'sgoing to get easier.
Keep putting one foot in frontof the other.
It's going to get lighter, it'sgoing to get easier.
Keep putting one foot in frontof the other, and I did.
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I got to the point to where Icould, you know, got my son to
school, had a phone call with afriend, shared with her, like,
oh, this is where I'm at todayand really just putting it out,
getting it out of my head, andthen, also, knowing I had to do
a recording today, I had to dothis podcast today because I
have a deadline, I have acommitment to you and I have a
commitment to myself, and mycommitment to you is that I said
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every other week I would post apodcast and I would share and I
would put myself out there, andI really didn't want to.
I really didn't know what itwas going to look like today.
This is what it looks liketoday.
And I would put myself outthere and I really didn't want
to.
I really didn't know what itwas going to look like today.
This is what it looks liketoday.
And I knew that I wanted totalk about self-care Because, as
I talked about the court oflife and being on the court and
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how I see it as this basketballgame, what's funny is when I
started thinking of self-careand if you didn't listen to the
last episode, do it's great,because I talk about overwhelm.
But I talk about how I see lifeas this basketball game and I'm
one of the star players.
I'm on the court and it's fullcourt, full court press.
We are playing hard.
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You know those basketball gameswhere it's back and forth and
back and forth and up and downthe court and it is like a high
scoring game and it's going.
I feel like life is like thatright now.
Okay, and when I posted thatvideo, I knew that this week was
going to be about self-care andPhil Jackson came to my mind.
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If you're not familiar with whoPhil Jackson was, he is the
former coach of the ChicagoBulls, who then also went to
coach the Los Angeles Lakers,and he was one.
And back then I used to watch aton of basketball.
I don't watch any basketballnow.
I know nobody.
I have no idea who's playingwhat with who or where.
I have no idea who's doing.
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Well, I will say the Warriorswere my team back then.
I loved the Chicago Bulls back.
Well, I will say the Warriorswere my team back then.
I loved the Chicago Bulls backthen.
I loved the Lakers.
Sean Kemp was one of myfavorite players, scotty Pippen
this is a long ass time ago andKobe was up and coming at that
time and Shaquille O'Neal was upand coming and of course we had
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Michael.
I was going to say MichaelJackson, michael Jordan Might as
well be the same MichaelJackson, michael Jordan.
You got.
Michael Jackson is, you know,the God of music and Michael
Jordan the God of, you know,basketball and sports?
Well, basketball at least.
But anyhow, get it back ontopic here.
Anyhow, get it back on topichere.
So I started thinking of PhilJackson and if any of you know
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his story I don't know his fullstory, but what I do know and I
just started listening to someof his books because I was like
you know, he's popping in mymind why is that?
What I didn't know about him ishis love of basketball and his
love of spirituality and how heknew that somehow those two
things played a part in oneanother.
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What I also didn't fully know,I knew that there was a time
where he brought meditation andhe brought books you know the
reading of books to the team.
But what I didn't know, andalso I do know, when he
implemented those things withthe Lakers, it totally
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transformed the way they played.
It transformed them as a team,but it transformed their level
of success.
It became a whole differentlevel of success.
Because if any of you guysfollowed basketball way back
then, if any of you rememberback in that time, him, phil
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Jackson and Kobe Bryant wouldbutt heads as coach and player.
And what I didn't know is thatPhil Jackson decided to hire a
therapist that specialized innarcissism because he wanted to
better understand his team,because he had a team full of
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big players.
He had Shaquille O'Neal, he hadCarl Malone, he had Greg Payton
, he had Kobe Bryant.
He had all these big names, bigegos.
Whether ego good or bad doesn'tmatter.
These are big energies, right,big, successful, competitive,
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fired up energies and he wantedto better understand how to work
with them so that they couldwin.
That was a form of self-care.
So I'm going to draw this backto when I say the court of life
and I see it as a basketballgame.
And there was a coach andyou're the coach.
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You're the coach of your team.
You're the coach of your life.
You're the coach of your game.
You're the star player in yourgame.
You got to be all those thingsin your game because, on the
court of life, this is your game.
As the coach, he took it uponhimself for self-care,
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self-nurturing, self-care,self-nurturing.
He brought therapy, meditationand books to the team and he
knew, if he could somehow bringthat spiritual aspect into the
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game and to merge those two,that there would be this whole
new experience and expansion ofhis team.
And he succeeded.
I think he's got a book called11 Rings or something, because
the guy's got 11 rings right.
They won championship afterchampionship after championship.
Right Back to self-care.
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I want to talk about the seventhings that I do and that I took
on.
Well, I didn't do all of themtoday, but I did some of them to
raise my frequency, to remindmyself who I am, to embrace the
fact that, yes, I am managing anoverwhelming task of things,
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this being one of them, mypodcast, and I'm committed to
this because it is a platformfor me to really speak my truth,
to be my truth and to haveaccess to my purpose.
And my purpose here is to shareis to share my journey, because
there might be someone outthere today that really needs to
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hear what I have to say.
There might be someone outthere listening you.
You may be listening, reallyneeding some form of support,
knowing you're not alone, someform of inspiration or a
perspective shift, just hearingsomething newly or different to
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align you to what's next for you.
I know that that is part of mypurpose and my mission here is
to share my story.
So today I was weepy, I was sad,I was sullen, I felt empty and
I had all these thoughts runningthrough my mind.
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How much longer, god, I can'tgo yet.
God, I have a boy to raise, boyto raise.
Sometimes I want out of thisgame.
Why did I create it to be sobig?
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Why is the game hard?
Where's my partner, god?
Why does it look the way itdoes?
Why did I end up at a companythat looks the way it does?
What's happening today, god?
That's my brain.
Okay, those are things that arerunning through my mind and as I
choose to then sit on my bedwith my hand on my heart, one of
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the number one things I do ismeditate and recenter.
So if you haven't tried that on?
In the state of overwhelm orany state that you're in, just,
even if you're in a greatpositive state of life, you're
in a positive season of lifeMeditate, call back to center,
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put your hand on your heart andtake a few quiet, deep breaths
and just be in your body.
Be in your body, no thought,and if you see a thought, let it
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go and just be in your body.
That moment of recenter isrequired for me on a daily basis
to balance my nervous system,to quiet my mind, to center me,
to ground me back into thismoment.
If you already do that, I thinkthat's great.
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If you didn't realize that,that's a form of self-care for
you, recognize it and embrace itand take it in more, because
it's so vital and so importantrecenter your heart, recenter
your mind.
Another thing that I forgotabout that Phil Jackson would do
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, which is so cool, is if theyhad a losing streak, they would
burn sage.
Now, whether they're burning itfor the gym or themselves, they
would burn sage to break thecycle of the energy.
That's amazing.
So what did I do today?
I burned a bunch of sage.
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I turned on music Okay.
So number two I burned sage.
Okay, that's number two.
When I clean my house.
I just haven't been cleaning itas much as I used to because
I've been so busy and caught upin my overwhelm.
But I would burn Palo Santo orsage my favorite things to do
and I know it clears the energy,it clears the mental blocks, it
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clears the constructs of thematrix, like let's break it down
and create new energy.
So that's a form of self-carefor me.
It's cleansing my space,cleansing the energies, breaking
down all that stagnant energy.
And I know my ex used to get soupset He'd be like you've been
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burning that stuff again.
I can smell it.
You know he would come homefrom work because I had burned
it all over the place.
And often too, when I was doinghypnosis sessions with people,
I would clear the house and burnit and clear the house out.
After every session I wouldsmudge the space.
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So that is another thing that Ido for self-care.
Another thing that I do forself-care that is so important
and it really helped my state ofoverwhelm today is you move
your body.
Move your body, whether that'swalking, whether that's working
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out, whether that's dancing.
Working out and walking is abig one.
That is a big one where I liketo clear my mind, clear my space
, clear my head.
Working out is great because Iget the endorphins going and
especially I like to do myworkouts.
I have a gym set up like alittle gym set up somewhat.
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It's funny because if you sawmy gym in my garage you'd be
like that's your gym.
I'd say yes, it is.
My setup in my garage is it'ssmall but I love it because it's
in the heat.
So I work out in the heat and Ilove that because not only am I
like pumping irons and doing mything, but I'm sweating like a
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crazy person and I love thatbecause I'm sweating out the
toxins and I'm really movingthat energy through my body and
getting it out, and so it'simportant.
Movement for me is a form ofself-care and when I'm really
feeling in a funk and I start tomove whether it's running,
walking, preferably walking Idon't run anymore, but walking
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and working out is huge.
I just love it.
I feel clear, I feel myfrequency has raised, I feel
lighter, I feel more directed,focused, I go into a zone.
I go into a zone and it reallyis about strengthening my body
and healing my body.
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And often when I work out, Iwill talk to my body and ask it
to heal, to repair and torestore.
So that's another thing that Ido for self-care.
I also do the big six.
If you're not familiar with thebig six lymphatic movement, I
will try to find something toput the link down in the show
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notes of the big six lymphaticmovement.
I will try to find something toput the link down in the show
notes of the big six.
It's a lymphatic drainage.
What would you call that?
I want to say it's a routine,but it's like it's a routine.
Yeah, it's a routine, andyou're moving the lymph in the
various areas of your body, andso that's something I love to do
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as well, and I do that prettymuch on the daily.
In the morning, when I firstwake up, I often this summer, I
would go out and stand out backand put my feet on the earth and
do it out there, out back, andI would let the dogs out in the
rest of the property, back, andI would let the dogs out and the
rest of the property and Iwould do it and I would be
standing under the moon orwhatever, or as the sun's coming
up, or both.
The sun's coming up while themoon's still sitting up there
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and moving that lymph and I willsay that doing that on a
regular basis has lifted myspirits.
It has felt as if I have moreenergy.
I feel like my sleepingpatterns have gotten better.
I feel like my eliminationpatterns are better and more
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frequent and stronger, like more.
What's the word Healthy?
Yes, we're talking abouthealthy elimination, as in yes,
number one and two.
Those things are important toyour health as well as your
self-care.
So that is really important tome and I find that if I don't do
it a few days in a row, I willhear my mind say you need to do
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that, because it's as if you'rekeeping that.
When you're keeping that lymphsystem moving and keeping it the
channels clean.
You want I just keep seeing thebody in a state of movement.
You want everything.
The fluids are moving, they'retraveling out and through.
You want I just keep seeing thebody in a state of movement.
You want everything.
The fluids are moving, they'retraveling out and through.
You don't want things gettingclogged up, okay, because that
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clogs up your energy as well.
So that's another thing that Ido for self-care Meditation and
prayer I talked about oh my gosh, baths.
I took a bath this week too.
I usually will take three bathsto four baths a week.
Because it's summer I haven'ttaken that many because it's hot
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, so I'll take showers.
But lately I've been getting inthe bath and man can I tell you
, my favorite thing to do withbaths is salts.
So either a Epsom salt, whichis fine, but I like to get the
scented Epsom salts with, likelavender infused oils or
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eucalyptus infused oils.
If you have a Sprouts nearby,they sell those infused ones and
they're amazing.
They sell those infused onesand they're amazing.
So I love that.
I love taking baths and I tendto be somebody who will sit in
the bathtub for like an hour,sometimes an hour and a half,
and the water's like cold.
I don't care, I'm just enjoying.
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But the beauty is is that whenyou're sitting in the salts, you
are neutralizing, cleansing andclearing any of those stuck
energies that you may havepicked up in your frequency
field when you're out into theworld.
That is a way that I clearthose energies.
When I've been out in the worldall day, especially if I've
been working and talking topeople all day, it's like I want
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to clear and neutralize thoseenergies that are stuck inside
of my energy field.
That is one of the big thingsthat I do for self-care and I
want to reiterate that when I dothese things I feel better, my
spirits feel lifted, I feel good, I feel clear, I feel relaxed,
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I feel at peace.
And why is this important?
Because when you start feelingall those things, when you take
the time out to do those thingsfor yourself, your family gets
to reap the rewards of that andthe benefits of that Not only
you, but your family, becauseyou're less stressed, you're
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more at peace, you have moreclarity and calm and you can
just be in the space and thepresence of them.
So baths, big thing.
Okay, here's something that iskind of fun that I love and I
forget, I forget how importantit is to my self-care.
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And I was reminded justrecently because I went to a
festival a couple weekends ago,the ACL Austin City Limits Music
Festival, which is one of thelargest festivals in the US and
has been going on for many, manyyears.
And it's a three-day, it's twoweekends, three days.
So it's two weekends of aFriday, saturday and Sunday.
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This last year I went toweekend two on Saturday and
Sunday.
I did not do all three daysbecause it's oh man, to do all
three days.
It takes something.
But I got two days in and I wasamazed at how elated I was
through the rest of the week andjust feeling good and I forgot
how important it is for me.
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I forget that a part of myself-care is seeing live music.
A part of my self-care ismoving my body.
But there's something aboutsharing live music with friends
and being out with friends,whether you're getting cute for
a festival or cute for a concert, and you're comfortable because
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you're going to dance and youknow you're going to be dancing,
and the music and the sound andjust the libation, like the
liberating experience of themusic, the energy, the people,
all of it that fills my cup.
That, for me, is a form ofself-care.
And there were times when Iwould make myself wrong for the
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investments that I make going toconcerts Because, as y'all know
, concerts are no joke.
They're not 30 and 40 buckslike they were back in when I
was young.
Okay, we used to go tofestivals for like $45 and see
seven bands.
Now it's like, yeah, that's nothappening.
So it's an investment for me.
Those are things that are reallyimportant for me to feel good
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and to get through the next dayand to continue being the
strength and the purpose and thewill that I need to be for
myself and my son.
As I've shared before, it's medoing all of it and my son is
getting to an age where he'sstepping up and he continues to
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step up and he continues to showwho he is and he continues to
help and do more.
But I'm still mom.
I'm still the one.
I just thought of that song.
I'm still the one.
I just thought of that songStill the one.
Okay, I won't get into thatsong, but we're just having fun
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and I'm still the one.
Is that how the?
Is that how the lyrics go?
I don't remember, but that's asong from my childhood, so those
are.
Did I?
I actually forgot to?
I forgot to.
Oh, I got two more on here, sothe other two is that right?
Yeah, oh, so okay, live musicis one.
Okay, I don't want to collapsethis, but I'm going to Live
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music and dancing.
Now, I know that I said dancingin the movement portion and
that's important.
You know movement is important,but there's something about
dancing.
Okay, I have found that I danceafter my workouts, when I work
out in the gym, because I gotmusic going and I'll start
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dancing in between either setsor after.
I'll just dance for a while.
I also decided today to dance,just dance, like, put on music,
I put on my headset and put onsome Duleepa and just rocked my
little tush off before I, youknow, sat down to record and
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wanted to really lift myenergies again.
And then I decided to do somecleaning and cleaned up my
office and vacuumed and did allthe things, like the things that
I know to remove clutter,remove dirt, remove stagnant
energy.
So some of the things I did forself-care today was I smudged
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the whole house, I vacuumed anddusted my whole office, I danced
.
I actually marked some thingsoff of my to-do list today, but
some of those things beingincorporated into self-care and
remembering that who I am is amagnificent being of God, who I
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am is a radiant soul thatcontinues to do her work, that
continues to put one foot infront of the other, that
continues to do what isnecessary to get out of my way
but also to give myself thegrace and the moments of time to
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just respect that.
You know what I'm feelingsadness today.
You know what I'm feeling.
Whatever, today I'm feeling allthe feels and one of the most
important things I do duringthose times is I get in
communication.
I think it's very important toget in communication.
What I mean by getting incommunication is call a friend.
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Call a friend who, you know,has the capability and the
ability to listen from anonjudgmental place and just
hold space for you, not like youhave to fix anything, but just
really to hold space for you sothat you can empty that basket
of thought and emotion and feelsand it just goes into a safe
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space, a safe container, andit's out of your head, out of
your body.
Those are things that I do whenI'm in this state and I look
forward to being on the otherside of this state, to being on
the other side of this state.
But as I continue to walk thisjourney, I must do what's
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necessary for self-care, forself-care and for keeping myself
motivated and in action.
Oh, I forgot one more.
I've only shared six.
The other thing that I do, and Ischedule it every six weeks, is
a massage, and there are timeswhen I feel that I should
probably not have this massage,you know, but it's worth it,
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it's, it's worth, it's worth thehundred dollars, it's it, it's
worth the $100.
My body feels so different andso released and so relaxed and
so de-stressed when I walk offor walk out of the gal that I go
to.
I'm a regular with her.
She's amazing and I always getexcited knowing that I'm going
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to go there because I knowexactly what she's going to do,
I know exactly how it's going tofeel and I know exactly how I'm
going to feel afterwards.
And it's amazing and itreleases so much for me.
You know, she does like a deeptissue Swedish massage style and
I just love it and it's great,it's amazing and it is exactly
what my body needs, you know,with all that I take on.
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So let me just review the seventhings.
I'll recap them real quick Moveyour body number one, the big
six.
Number two, actually, meditatewas the first one, right, so?
But I'll get to meditate.
So, moving your body, doing thebig six, lymphatic massage,
meditate and prayer so important, so important.
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I pray every day, multipletimes throughout the day, and
then I do try to touch base andmeditate inside my body, with my
body, inside my space, and whenI say inside, like I really
just pull it all in.
I pull everything in and justbe within myself on that.
Meditation, taking baths, hugeConcerts, live music, huge Gotta
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have it.
Dancing and massages.
Those are some of the thingsthat I do for self-care.
There's other things I do too,but those are the big ones.
Those are the big ones.
So I encourage you, take time,take time out for you this week,
today, after listening to thisepisode, what's something you
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will do for yourself?
What's something you will do tofill your cup?
Because I promise you, whenyour cups are full, you have
energy.
Another thing for self-care ohmy God, go to bed.
Go to bed, get sleep.
I've been practicing trying toget six to seven hours of sleep.
My body pretty much typicallyonly does five, so I'm really
trying to push for that.
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Six and seven, but sleep is socrucial.
Going to bed early oh my goshright.
I try to get in bed no laterthan 10.
Sometimes I go way past 10 into11, 1130, and that's not
healthy for me.
It doesn't work for me.
My body doesn't like that.
If I can do it by 10 or earlier, oh my God, my body's happy.
These are the little things thatwill make a difference in your
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world.
These are the little thingsthat will have you experience
peak performance within yourself.
However that may look, you feellike you have brain fog, you
feel like you're losing yourmemory.
You feel like you're you know,whatever you're butterfingers,
whatever you're shaky, you'restressed out, whatever it is.
These little things, these tipsof find the seven things that
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fill your cup, find the fourthings that fill your cup, find
the 10 things, whatever it is.
You're already doing some ofthem, but incorporate more,
because you're worth it, youdeserve it, you deserve to feel
good at all times.
So, love on you.
That's what I say.
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So I just want to say thank youso much again for tuning in.
My name is Tara Michelle, theintuitive mentor.
Mom, I am just excited to bewith you when I can be, and
thank you so much for listening.
Have a blessed and beautifulday and I will see you on the
next episode, where we willcontinue to talk about things
about being on the court of lifeand what that looks like.
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I'm going to keep diving intothis because there's some juicy
nuggets in being on the court oflife and how you navigate these
spaces.
Have an amazing day.
We'll talk with you soon.
Take care.
Thank you for coming on thishealing adventure today.
If you're starting to see howeverything is falling into place
for you, consider rating theshow and sharing it with one of
your friends.
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Keep that spirit alive and joinme next week.
Same place, same time.
Have a great week.
Welcome back to the intuitive mentor mom podcast,
where we explore strategies forpracticing more self-love,
gratitude and finding new waysto empower ourselves in this
ever-changing healing adventureof life happening for us.
I'm your host, tara Michelle.
Let's get started.
Welcome back to IntuitiveMentor Mom Podcast.
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I'm excited to be with you guysthis week.
Oh, my goodness, for those ofyou newly listening, my name is
Tara Michelle.
I am an intuitive, I am anempath, I am a single mom.
I am also I work in corporateAmerica.
So I do a lot of things and oneof my passions is to share,
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share aspects of my life, thingsthat I move through, and really
just to share with you how Imove through various times in my
life, whether they bechallenging, whether they be
heroic, whether they be mundane,whatever it is.
I share how I move through lifebecause I really believe that
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we are all here to support oneanother and I feel that life is
happening for us.
It's not happening to us, it'shappening for us.
And who are we going to be inthis situation?
Who are we going to be in thiscircumstance?
And the context of this show isreally about that, and I share
from aspects of my life A lot oftimes I'll be talking about,
whether it's romanticrelationships, whether it's
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career, whether it's parenting,whether it's just self care,
self help with myself, and howdo I navigate all that, in hopes
that something along the waythat I share will hopefully
inspire, motivate and activateyou in whatever you're up to,
whatever your truth is, whateveryou may be challenged with,
whatever stops or blocks, youmay be feeling that something
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that I share inspires you,shifts a perspective and allows
you to, you know, expand to thenext level of your life.
So, with that said, the lastepisode I was talking about
overwhelm, okay, and I Ipersonally, have been, I have
been grappling deeply in a stateof overwhelm, and some of the
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things that I talked about doingin the last episode was really,
you know, making a list.
Those are things that I do.
I have to make a list, I haveto get everything that's in my
head, out of my head and ontopaper, because what ends up
happening is it's like, you know, appointments for the pets,
appointments for our, you know,for myself, you know the school
schedule, the football schedule,everything, the schedule for
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work, all the things I have todo at work.
It aisles up, not to mentioncleaning the house, managing a
household, managing a territoryfor my career, managing the
animals, managing everything myson's education, the support and
help that he may need.
Holidays are coming up, so allthese things and, as I shared in
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the last episode, I'm movingthrough a tough time at work.
Work is really challengingright now and, funny enough, we
just had a layoff so they laidoff several people this week.
I am beyond grateful that myname was not on that list,
because that would really sendme in a tailspin.
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That would be two layoffs thisyear and that would be really
hard.
But that doesn't mean it isn'tgoing to happen.
It doesn't mean that it's notpossible.
So I am grateful for thismoment in time right now.
But it adds to this level ofstress.
As a single parent and I'mspeaking to all parents out
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there, speaking to all moms outthere I think that being a mom,
being a parent no matter whetheryou're single or you have a
partner or you have a lot ofsupport from family it's still a
very stressful, daunting.
You know it can be achallenging task.
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It's a challenging task to dowhat we do.
So you know, like I said, therewas, there was a layoff this
week and very shocking, likenone of us I definitely was not
expecting that, not at all, likenone of us.
I definitely was not expectingthat, not at all and really feel
for my colleagues and I've beendoing all that I could to
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support them sending them, youknow, recruiter leads and
reaching out to recruiters totalk with them and, you know,
hopefully, supporting them inwhat's next for them on this
journey.
But what I went ahead and didand I went back to episode one
if some of you remember episodeone, where I talked about being
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in the gap and I talked aboutthe experience I used, was when
I went through the layoffearlier this year and I chose to
go back and listen to that,which was great.
I was like what is it that Isaid?
What were the things that Ireally talked about?
Was there anything that I mighthave missed that I'm missing
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right now Because I'm in astressful, tough time at work,
faced with all the challengesthat we're facing.
I think the industry itself isfacing numerous challenges.
The economy is facingchallenges.
We're on an election year.
There's a lot going on at thistime.
It's a very trying time.
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So today's episode that I'dlike to focus on is self-care in
the state of overwhelm Okay.
Is self-care in the state ofoverwhelm okay?
I will admit I am still in astate of overwhelm I am.
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I did take on creating my list.
I did take on taking a few daysoff and really getting my house
in order as much as I could andreally tackling this to-do list
of little tedious things, likethings I haven't taken back to
go back to Amazon, or, you know,phone calls I hadn't made or
appointments I hadn't made, oremails I hadn't checked on in
order to make appointments, andyou know things like the
parent-teacher conference day.
You know getting caught up onnewsletters for my son's school
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and making sure that all thesethings, these little tiny things
that I have to manage on aday-to-day basis, that I
sometimes will just skip becauseit's like you know what I got
too much on my plate.
I can't even look at that rightnow.
I'll look at it when it comestime.
Making sure that I got througha lot of those, and taking that
time off for myself was huge.
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Taking that time off for myselfwas huge I wanna talk about
today.
I made a list of things that Ido for self-care and it actually
ended up being seven things,seven things that are most
important when managing yourself-care.
Because, really, as a singlemom, as a single parent, as a
mom, as a mom let's just say mom, mom, in order for mom to be
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really present for her kids, inorder for mom to bring her
fullest self to her partner, toher children, to her work, her
colleagues, her friends, herfamily, her work, her colleagues
, her friends, her family themost important thing is making
sure your cups are full.
You have to make sure your cupsare full, and what that looks
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like is self-care.
But are you really clear whatyour self-care needs are?
You know, one of them is, forme, is drinking lots of water.
Okay, that's a self-care that'sfilling my cup.
It's actually not on my list,but it's one of those things,
cause I'm staring at my giantwater bottle right now in front
of me.
But I wanted to share some ofthe things that are very
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important and very crucial thatI do in states and times of
overwhelm, and I will tell youright now.
I did it today because today Iwoke up.
I was not feeling it.
I literally woke up with thevisual of a giant stake, like a
massive wooden stake, plungedthrough my chest and I was
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pinned to the ground, plungedthrough my chest and I was
pinned to the ground.
That is what I woke up in today.
That is how I felt.
I felt heavy, I felt emotional,I felt sad, I felt stuck.
I felt that it was an endlessstuckness, that there was no way
out.
No way out, I'm trapped.
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I felt trapped, okay, when Isaw that I was swirling in those
feelings, sitting on my bedthis morning.
I'd already made my coffee andI'd already fed the dogs, but I
was sitting in that energy and Iwas sitting in that energy and
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I thought to myself what is itreally that I'm feeling?
And that's when I saw thevisual, the visual of this
massive stake and let's say it'smedieval times.
That's what it felt like.
So there may be an aspect thatthis was a past life experience
that I was tuning into, becausethere may be people in my
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current life, right now,involved in that past life
experience, which is wild and,by the way, if you don't know
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and, by the way, if you don'tknow, I'm certified in past life
regression, quantum healing,hypnosis therapy, and I used to
do why?
That time in my life, thatseason when I was doing lots of
sessions with people was for meto really understand the craft
so that I could bring it intothe work that I do now.
So I incorporate that when Iwork with people individually
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and I'm able to tune in and seepast life energies.
And I'm able to tune in and seepast life energies and I'm able
to tune in and see how there'sconnections for you, and I don't
necessarily need to drop youinto some hypnosis state.
But I think that there was apractice and there was some
tuning that was occurring for meat the time when I was doing a
lot of those sessions.
And now I have the ability tosee past lives.
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I could just see them, you know.
And so there I was this morningand I was really tuning in, like
, okay, I got to get myself outof this funk, like I'm in a funk
, and I was feeling as if theworld around me, I was feeling
trapped that's the best wordImmobilized, in a state of
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complete dysfunction, robotic,numb, detached, empty.
I'm sharing these words becausethat is me tuning into the
energy of what I was feeling inthose moments and I'm going to
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tell you as a human being withthe biggest heart and so much
empathy for humanity and formyself and for people that made
me so sad to see that.
I felt that deep, that deep.
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And so that is when I saw thismassive stake through my body
and I was pinned to the grounddead.
And so I was like, oh okay, butI can remove that.
I can remove that right now,that I can remove that right now
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.
And so I took my hand literallyand I put it around that stake
and I pulled it out and I sentit back to God and I asked God
to release me from that timelineand release me from that moment
and release me from that stake.
It doesn't matter who it is thatput it in me.
It has something to do withwork.
I'm very clear about that.
It doesn't matter which of theindividuals it is, it just
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doesn't matter.
It might just be the pureenergy of the company.
I do see that there are peoplethere, but it doesn't matter.
It's not about that.
It's about who will I be in thestate of overwhelm when I
recognize that I'm immobilized?
How will I get myself out?
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So that was one of the actionsI took this morning, and then I
continued on with my day and Isaid keep putting one foot in
front of the other.
It's going to get lighter, it'sgoing to get easier.
Keep putting one foot in frontof the other.
It's going to get lighter, it'sgoing to get easier.
Keep putting one foot in frontof the other, and I did.
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I got to the point to where Icould, you know, got my son to
school, had a phone call with afriend, shared with her, like,
oh, this is where I'm at todayand really just putting it out,
getting it out of my head, andthen, also, knowing I had to do
a recording today, I had to dothis podcast today because I
have a deadline, I have acommitment to you and I have a
commitment to myself, and mycommitment to you is that I said
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every other week I would post apodcast and I would share and I
would put myself out there, andI really didn't want to.
I really didn't know what itwas going to look like today.
This is what it looks liketoday.
And I would put myself outthere and I really didn't want
to.
I really didn't know what itwas going to look like today.
This is what it looks liketoday.
And I knew that I wanted totalk about self-care Because, as
I talked about the court oflife and being on the court and
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how I see it as this basketballgame, what's funny is when I
started thinking of self-careand if you didn't listen to the
last episode, do it's great,because I talk about overwhelm.
But I talk about how I see lifeas this basketball game and I'm
one of the star players.
I'm on the court and it's fullcourt, full court press.
We are playing hard.
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You know those basketball gameswhere it's back and forth and
back and forth and up and downthe court and it is like a high
scoring game and it's going.
I feel like life is like thatright now.
Okay, and when I posted thatvideo, I knew that this week was
going to be about self-care andPhil Jackson came to my mind.
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If you're not familiar with whoPhil Jackson was, he is the
former coach of the ChicagoBulls, who then also went to
coach the Los Angeles Lakers,and he was one.
And back then I used to watch aton of basketball.
I don't watch any basketballnow.
I know nobody.
I have no idea who's playingwhat with who or where.
I have no idea who's doing.
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Well, I will say the Warriorswere my team back then.
I loved the Chicago Bulls back.
Well, I will say the Warriorswere my team back then.
I loved the Chicago Bulls backthen.
I loved the Lakers.
Sean Kemp was one of myfavorite players, scotty Pippen
this is a long ass time ago andKobe was up and coming at that
time and Shaquille O'Neal was upand coming and of course we had
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Michael.
I was going to say MichaelJackson, michael Jordan Might as
well be the same MichaelJackson, michael Jordan.
You got.
Michael Jackson is, you know,the God of music and Michael
Jordan the God of, you know,basketball and sports?
Well, basketball at least.
But anyhow, get it back ontopic here.
Anyhow, get it back on topichere.
So I started thinking of PhilJackson and if any of you know
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his story I don't know his fullstory, but what I do know and I
just started listening to someof his books because I was like
you know, he's popping in mymind why is that?
What I didn't know about him ishis love of basketball and his
love of spirituality and how heknew that somehow those two
things played a part in oneanother.
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What I also didn't fully know,I knew that there was a time
where he brought meditation andhe brought books you know the
reading of books to the team.
But what I didn't know, andalso I do know, when he
implemented those things withthe Lakers, it totally
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transformed the way they played.
It transformed them as a team,but it transformed their level
of success.
It became a whole differentlevel of success.
Because if any of you guysfollowed basketball way back
then, if any of you rememberback in that time, him, phil
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Jackson and Kobe Bryant wouldbutt heads as coach and player.
And what I didn't know is thatPhil Jackson decided to hire a
therapist that specialized innarcissism because he wanted to
better understand his team,because he had a team full of
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big players.
He had Shaquille O'Neal, he hadCarl Malone, he had Greg Payton
, he had Kobe Bryant.
He had all these big names, bigegos.
Whether ego good or bad doesn'tmatter.
These are big energies, right,big, successful, competitive,
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fired up energies and he wantedto better understand how to work
with them so that they couldwin.
That was a form of self-care.
So I'm going to draw this backto when I say the court of life
and I see it as a basketballgame.
And there was a coach andyou're the coach.
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You're the coach of your team.
You're the coach of your life.
You're the coach of your game.
You're the star player in yourgame.
You got to be all those thingsin your game because, on the
court of life, this is your game.
As the coach, he took it uponhimself for self-care,
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self-nurturing, self-care,self-nurturing.
He brought therapy, meditationand books to the team and he
knew, if he could somehow bringthat spiritual aspect into the
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game and to merge those two,that there would be this whole
new experience and expansion ofhis team.
And he succeeded.
I think he's got a book called11 Rings or something, because
the guy's got 11 rings right.
They won championship afterchampionship after championship.
Right Back to self-care.
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I want to talk about the seventhings that I do and that I took
on.
Well, I didn't do all of themtoday, but I did some of them to
raise my frequency, to remindmyself who I am, to embrace the
fact that, yes, I am managing anoverwhelming task of things,
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this being one of them, mypodcast, and I'm committed to
this because it is a platformfor me to really speak my truth,
to be my truth and to haveaccess to my purpose.
And my purpose here is to shareis to share my journey, because
there might be someone outthere today that really needs to
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hear what I have to say.
There might be someone outthere listening you.
You may be listening, reallyneeding some form of support,
knowing you're not alone, someform of inspiration or a
perspective shift, just hearingsomething newly or different to
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align you to what's next for you.
I know that that is part of mypurpose and my mission here is
to share my story.
So today I was weepy, I was sad,I was sullen, I felt empty and
I had all these thoughts runningthrough my mind.
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How much longer, god, I can'tgo yet.
God, I have a boy to raise, boyto raise.
Sometimes I want out of thisgame.
Why did I create it to be sobig?
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Why is the game hard?
Where's my partner, god?
Why does it look the way itdoes?
Why did I end up at a companythat looks the way it does?
What's happening today, god?
That's my brain.
Okay, those are things that arerunning through my mind and as I
choose to then sit on my bedwith my hand on my heart, one of
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the number one things I do ismeditate and recenter.
So if you haven't tried that on?
In the state of overwhelm orany state that you're in, just,
even if you're in a greatpositive state of life, you're
in a positive season of lifeMeditate, call back to center,
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put your hand on your heart andtake a few quiet, deep breaths
and just be in your body.
Be in your body, no thought,and if you see a thought, let it
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go and just be in your body.
That moment of recenter isrequired for me on a daily basis
to balance my nervous system,to quiet my mind, to center me,
to ground me back into thismoment.
If you already do that, I thinkthat's great.
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If you didn't realize that,that's a form of self-care for
you, recognize it and embrace itand take it in more, because
it's so vital and so importantrecenter your heart, recenter
your mind.
Another thing that I forgotabout that Phil Jackson would do
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, which is so cool, is if theyhad a losing streak, they would
burn sage.
Now, whether they're burning itfor the gym or themselves, they
would burn sage to break thecycle of the energy.
That's amazing.
So what did I do today?
I burned a bunch of sage.
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I turned on music Okay.
So number two I burned sage.
Okay, that's number two.
When I clean my house.
I just haven't been cleaning itas much as I used to because
I've been so busy and caught upin my overwhelm.
But I would burn Palo Santo orsage my favorite things to do
and I know it clears the energy,it clears the mental blocks, it
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clears the constructs of thematrix, like let's break it down
and create new energy.
So that's a form of self-carefor me.
It's cleansing my space,cleansing the energies, breaking
down all that stagnant energy.
And I know my ex used to get soupset He'd be like you've been
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burning that stuff again.
I can smell it.
You know he would come homefrom work because I had burned
it all over the place.
And often too, when I was doinghypnosis sessions with people,
I would clear the house and burnit and clear the house out.
After every session I wouldsmudge the space.
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So that is another thing that Ido for self-care.
Another thing that I do forself-care that is so important
and it really helped my state ofoverwhelm today is you move
your body.
Move your body, whether that'swalking, whether that's working
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out, whether that's dancing.
Working out and walking is abig one.
That is a big one where I liketo clear my mind, clear my space
, clear my head.
Working out is great because Iget the endorphins going and
especially I like to do myworkouts.
I have a gym set up like alittle gym set up somewhat.
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It's funny because if you sawmy gym in my garage you'd be
like that's your gym.
I'd say yes, it is.
My setup in my garage is it'ssmall but I love it because it's
in the heat.
So I work out in the heat and Ilove that because not only am I
like pumping irons and doing mything, but I'm sweating like a
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crazy person and I love thatbecause I'm sweating out the
toxins and I'm really movingthat energy through my body and
getting it out, and so it'simportant.
Movement for me is a form ofself-care and when I'm really
feeling in a funk and I start tomove whether it's running,
walking, preferably walking Idon't run anymore, but walking
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and working out is huge.
I just love it.
I feel clear, I feel myfrequency has raised, I feel
lighter, I feel more directed,focused, I go into a zone.
I go into a zone and it reallyis about strengthening my body
and healing my body.
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And often when I work out, Iwill talk to my body and ask it
to heal, to repair and torestore.
So that's another thing that Ido for self-care.
I also do the big six.
If you're not familiar with thebig six lymphatic movement, I
will try to find something toput the link down in the show
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notes of the big six lymphaticmovement.
I will try to find something toput the link down in the show
notes of the big six.
It's a lymphatic drainage.
What would you call that?
I want to say it's a routine,but it's like it's a routine.
Yeah, it's a routine, andyou're moving the lymph in the
various areas of your body, andso that's something I love to do
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as well, and I do that prettymuch on the daily.
In the morning, when I firstwake up, I often this summer, I
would go out and stand out backand put my feet on the earth and
do it out there, out back, andI would let the dogs out in the
rest of the property, back, andI would let the dogs out and the
rest of the property and Iwould do it and I would be
standing under the moon orwhatever, or as the sun's coming
up, or both.
The sun's coming up while themoon's still sitting up there
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and moving that lymph and I willsay that doing that on a
regular basis has lifted myspirits.
It has felt as if I have moreenergy.
I feel like my sleepingpatterns have gotten better.
I feel like my eliminationpatterns are better and more
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frequent and stronger, like more.
What's the word Healthy?
Yes, we're talking abouthealthy elimination, as in yes,
number one and two.
Those things are important toyour health as well as your
self-care.
So that is really important tome and I find that if I don't do
it a few days in a row, I willhear my mind say you need to do
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that, because it's as if you'rekeeping that.
When you're keeping that lymphsystem moving and keeping it the
channels clean.
You want I just keep seeing thebody in a state of movement.
You want everything.
The fluids are moving, they'retraveling out and through.
You want I just keep seeing thebody in a state of movement.
You want everything.
The fluids are moving, they'retraveling out and through.
You don't want things gettingclogged up, okay, because that
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clogs up your energy as well.
So that's another thing that Ido for self-care Meditation and
prayer I talked about oh my gosh, baths.
I took a bath this week too.
I usually will take three bathsto four baths a week.
Because it's summer I haven'ttaken that many because it's hot
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, so I'll take showers.
But lately I've been getting inthe bath and man can I tell you
, my favorite thing to do withbaths is salts.
So either a Epsom salt, whichis fine, but I like to get the
scented Epsom salts with, likelavender infused oils or
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eucalyptus infused oils.
If you have a Sprouts nearby,they sell those infused ones and
they're amazing.
They sell those infused onesand they're amazing.
So I love that.
I love taking baths and I tendto be somebody who will sit in
the bathtub for like an hour,sometimes an hour and a half,
and the water's like cold.
I don't care, I'm just enjoying.
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But the beauty is is that whenyou're sitting in the salts, you
are neutralizing, cleansing andclearing any of those stuck
energies that you may havepicked up in your frequency
field when you're out into theworld.
That is a way that I clearthose energies.
When I've been out in the worldall day, especially if I've
been working and talking topeople all day, it's like I want
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to clear and neutralize thoseenergies that are stuck inside
of my energy field.
That is one of the big thingsthat I do for self-care and I
want to reiterate that when I dothese things I feel better, my
spirits feel lifted, I feel good, I feel clear, I feel relaxed,
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I feel at peace.
And why is this important?
Because when you start feelingall those things, when you take
the time out to do those thingsfor yourself, your family gets
to reap the rewards of that andthe benefits of that Not only
you, but your family, becauseyou're less stressed, you're
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more at peace, you have moreclarity and calm and you can
just be in the space and thepresence of them.
So baths, big thing.
Okay, here's something that iskind of fun that I love and I
forget, I forget how importantit is to my self-care.
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And I was reminded justrecently because I went to a
festival a couple weekends ago,the ACL Austin City Limits Music
Festival, which is one of thelargest festivals in the US and
has been going on for many, manyyears.
And it's a three-day, it's twoweekends, three days.
So it's two weekends of aFriday, saturday and Sunday.
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This last year I went toweekend two on Saturday and
Sunday.
I did not do all three daysbecause it's oh man, to do all
three days.
It takes something.
But I got two days in and I wasamazed at how elated I was
through the rest of the week andjust feeling good and I forgot
how important it is for me.
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I forget that a part of myself-care is seeing live music.
A part of my self-care ismoving my body.
But there's something aboutsharing live music with friends
and being out with friends,whether you're getting cute for
a festival or cute for a concert, and you're comfortable because
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you're going to dance and youknow you're going to be dancing,
and the music and the sound andjust the libation, like the
liberating experience of themusic, the energy, the people,
all of it that fills my cup.
That, for me, is a form ofself-care.
And there were times when Iwould make myself wrong for the
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investments that I make going toconcerts Because, as y'all know
, concerts are no joke.
They're not 30 and 40 buckslike they were back in when I
was young.
Okay, we used to go tofestivals for like $45 and see
seven bands.
Now it's like, yeah, that's nothappening.
So it's an investment for me.
Those are things that are reallyimportant for me to feel good
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and to get through the next dayand to continue being the
strength and the purpose and thewill that I need to be for
myself and my son.
As I've shared before, it's medoing all of it and my son is
getting to an age where he'sstepping up and he continues to
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step up and he continues to showwho he is and he continues to
help and do more.
But I'm still mom.
I'm still the one.
I just thought of that song.
I'm still the one.
I just thought of that songStill the one.
Okay, I won't get into thatsong, but we're just having fun
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and I'm still the one.
Is that how the?
Is that how the lyrics go?
I don't remember, but that's asong from my childhood, so those
are.
Did I?
I actually forgot to?
I forgot to.
Oh, I got two more on here, sothe other two is that right?
Yeah, oh, so okay, live musicis one.
Okay, I don't want to collapsethis, but I'm going to Live
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music and dancing.
Now, I know that I said dancingin the movement portion and
that's important.
You know movement is important,but there's something about
dancing.
Okay, I have found that I danceafter my workouts, when I work
out in the gym, because I gotmusic going and I'll start
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dancing in between either setsor after.
I'll just dance for a while.
I also decided today to dance,just dance, like, put on music,
I put on my headset and put onsome Duleepa and just rocked my
little tush off before I, youknow, sat down to record and
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wanted to really lift myenergies again.
And then I decided to do somecleaning and cleaned up my
office and vacuumed and did allthe things, like the things that
I know to remove clutter,remove dirt, remove stagnant
energy.
So some of the things I did forself-care today was I smudged
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the whole house, I vacuumed anddusted my whole office, I danced
.
I actually marked some thingsoff of my to-do list today, but
some of those things beingincorporated into self-care and
remembering that who I am is amagnificent being of God, who I
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am is a radiant soul thatcontinues to do her work, that
continues to put one foot infront of the other, that
continues to do what isnecessary to get out of my way
but also to give myself thegrace and the moments of time to
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just respect that.
You know what I'm feelingsadness today.
You know what I'm feeling.
Whatever, today I'm feeling allthe feels and one of the most
important things I do duringthose times is I get in
communication.
I think it's very important toget in communication.
What I mean by getting incommunication is call a friend.
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Call a friend who, you know,has the capability and the
ability to listen from anonjudgmental place and just
hold space for you, not like youhave to fix anything, but just
really to hold space for you sothat you can empty that basket
of thought and emotion and feelsand it just goes into a safe
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space, a safe container, andit's out of your head, out of
your body.
Those are things that I do whenI'm in this state and I look
forward to being on the otherside of this state, to being on
the other side of this state.
But as I continue to walk thisjourney, I must do what's
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necessary for self-care, forself-care and for keeping myself
motivated and in action.
Oh, I forgot one more.
I've only shared six.
The other thing that I do, and Ischedule it every six weeks, is
a massage, and there are timeswhen I feel that I should
probably not have this massage,you know, but it's worth it,
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it's, it's worth, it's worth thehundred dollars, it's it, it's
worth the $100.
My body feels so different andso released and so relaxed and
so de-stressed when I walk offor walk out of the gal that I go
to.
I'm a regular with her.
She's amazing and I always getexcited knowing that I'm going
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to go there because I knowexactly what she's going to do,
I know exactly how it's going tofeel and I know exactly how I'm
going to feel afterwards.
And it's amazing and itreleases so much for me.
You know, she does like a deeptissue Swedish massage style and
I just love it and it's great,it's amazing and it is exactly
what my body needs, you know,with all that I take on.
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So let me just review the seventhings.
I'll recap them real quick Moveyour body number one, the big
six.
Number two, actually, meditatewas the first one, right, so?
But I'll get to meditate.
So, moving your body, doing thebig six, lymphatic massage,
meditate and prayer so important, so important.
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I pray every day, multipletimes throughout the day, and
then I do try to touch base andmeditate inside my body, with my
body, inside my space, and whenI say inside, like I really
just pull it all in.
I pull everything in and justbe within myself on that.
Meditation, taking baths, hugeConcerts, live music, huge Gotta
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have it.
Dancing and massages.
Those are some of the thingsthat I do for self-care.
There's other things I do too,but those are the big ones.
Those are the big ones.
So I encourage you, take time,take time out for you this week,
today, after listening to thisepisode, what's something you
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will do for yourself?
What's something you will do tofill your cup?
Because I promise you, whenyour cups are full, you have
energy.
Another thing for self-care ohmy God, go to bed.
Go to bed, get sleep.
I've been practicing trying toget six to seven hours of sleep.
My body pretty much typicallyonly does five, so I'm really
trying to push for that.
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Six and seven, but sleep is socrucial.
Going to bed early oh my goshright.
I try to get in bed no laterthan 10.
Sometimes I go way past 10 into11, 1130, and that's not
healthy for me.
It doesn't work for me.
My body doesn't like that.
If I can do it by 10 or earlier, oh my God, my body's happy.
These are the little things thatwill make a difference in your
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world.
These are the little thingsthat will have you experience
peak performance within yourself.
However that may look, you feellike you have brain fog, you
feel like you're losing yourmemory.
You feel like you're you know,whatever you're butterfingers,
whatever you're shaky, you'restressed out, whatever it is.
These little things, these tipsof find the seven things that
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fill your cup, find the fourthings that fill your cup, find
the 10 things, whatever it is.
You're already doing some ofthem, but incorporate more,
because you're worth it, youdeserve it, you deserve to feel
good at all times.
So, love on you.
That's what I say.
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So I just want to say thank youso much again for tuning in.
My name is Tara Michelle, theintuitive mentor.
Mom, I am just excited to bewith you when I can be, and
thank you so much for listening.
Have a blessed and beautifulday and I will see you on the
next episode, where we willcontinue to talk about things
about being on the court of lifeand what that looks like.
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I'm going to keep diving intothis because there's some juicy
nuggets in being on the court oflife and how you navigate these
spaces.
Have an amazing day.
We'll talk with you soon.
Take care.
Thank you for coming on thishealing adventure today.
If you're starting to see howeverything is falling into place
for you, consider rating theshow and sharing it with one of
your friends.
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Keep that spirit alive and joinme next week.
Same place, same time.
Have a great week.
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