Self-Validation + Finding Peace When They Won’t Meet You Halfway

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In this episode of Is It Me or Is It Them?, therapist & coach April Boyd explores the tension and frustration that arise in relationships when someone doesn't get you- and doesn't seem to want to.  Whether you're navigating challenging dynamics with family, in-laws, or friends, this conversation sheds light on how to stop chasing external validation and reclaim your sense of peace and agency.

What You'll Learn:

• How to recognize when you’re stuck in a pattern of frustration and approval-seeking.
• Why relationships can feel harder as you grow and start noticing dynamics that once seemed “normal.”
• The common trap of thinking your only options are “submit” or “burn it down.”
• The importance of stepping into "Option C"—taking care of yourself while letting others be who they are.
• How to shift away from giving others power over your emotional well-being.

Key Takeaways:

• Many people feel torn between maintaining harmony by suppressing their needs or risking conflict to stand up for themselves.
• Self-validation begins with accepting that others may not respond the way you hope—and that’s okay.
• It's empowering to let go of trying to force change in others and focus on what you can control in the relationship.

Questions to Reflect On:

• Are you placing your emotional safety in the hands of someone who can’t meet your needs?
• What would it look like to stop chasing validation from others and give it to yourself instead?
• How can you honour your boundaries while maintaining relationships in a way that feels healthier for you?

Listen Now:
Tune in for thoughtful insights and practical tips on creating healthier dynamics without losing yourself in the process.

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Please note:

This show is not a replacement for therapy, assessment, treatment or diagnosis. This show is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. See your physician, counsellor or local crisis support centre if needed

All identifying details about the people and the stories shared here are removed to protect confidentiality.