August 26, 2025 • 51 mins
Sandy Joy Weston shares her transformative approach to mindset shifting through movement, words, and laughter in just 1-3 minutes daily. Drawing from her challenging childhood in the projects and experience with her mother's mental health struggles, Sandy reveals how her belief in "five angels" and daily practices helped her overcome obstacles and create lasting joy.
• Sandy grew up in the projects with a mother who spent time in mental institutions, but maintained an innate belief that something greater was watching over her
• Movement, words, and laughter form Sandy's daily 1-3 minute practice to shift energy and mindset
• Journaling by hand creates a stronger mind-body connection and makes you 40% more likely to achieve written goals
• Honest acknowledgment of all emotions, including negative ones, is essential before shifting to more empowering thoughts
• Joy can be a competitive advantage in business and life
• Sandy created the "Philly Street Line Dance" that transformed the city's wellness initiatives
• "Prop Up Tuesday" highlights and celebrates individuals to create more positive workplace cultures
• Shifting your own energy and mindset can change interactions, even when other people don't change
If you'd like to connect with Sandy Joy Weston, visit her website at SandyJoyWeston.com or find her on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook under Sandy Joy Weston, M.Ed.
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Cassandra (00:00):
Good day out there to all of my listeners and I'd
like to welcome you to Is yourWay In your Way podcast, and I
am your host and my name isCassandra Crawley-Mayo.
And, for some of those newlisteners out there, the name of
my book is Is your Way In yourWay, so you can really remember
(00:20):
the podcast name and the book.
Well, I would like to.
I'm going to do something alittle little different.
This podcast is for womenthat's ready to stop
self-sabotaging, or, I'm goingto say, to mitigate those
limiting beliefs that'spreventing you from living your
(00:44):
best life on your terms.
So what I'm doing is startliving the life as God has
called you to live.
And also, today is an episodeis a soul shifting conversation
with Sandy Joy Weston, and whenyou get to meet her, you're
wondering is Joy really hermiddle name?
(01:06):
Because she brings so much joy.
I think that's fascinating.
She is an internationallycelebrated podcaster, mindset
reset coach and a wellnesspioneer.
Now, if you've ever felt blockedby your own routines or limited
by beliefs you carry, thisepisode is going to spark
(01:26):
something in you.
We talk about joy as adiscipline, how to reset your
headspace daily and what happenswhen you stop being in your own
way, and we talk about topicsrelated to self-improvement,
self-development.
It also enables you to do alittle self-reflection as well,
(01:48):
and I'm not always prayerfulthat something will be said or
done or something that's goingto give you an aha moment and
you will start becoming unstuckand say you know what?
I have a made up mind.
I'm going to do what I'vealways wanted to do, if it's
writing a book, if it's, if it'sbeing an entrepreneur and
getting out of toxicrelationship, forgiving somebody
(02:10):
, whatever.
So I'm certainly believe thisis this is the one for you.
Okay, so I'm going to bring onour, our guests, and her name is
Sandy Joy Weston.
Hey, sandy.
Sandy (02:26):
Hello Cassandra, thank you for that intro, I love it.
Cassandra (02:31):
Absolutely, girl.
I am just super excited to tellmy listeners I have studied, I
say Sandy, to prepare myself forthis interview today.
And boy, her energy, mygoodness, it just penetrates
through the screen.
So if you're having a down day,I think she's going to spruce
(02:52):
you up today, and so I am really, really looking forward to this
.
And also, we're going to diginto how positivity is more than
a vibe, it is a practice, right?
What I'm going to do, as manyof my listeners know, I'm going
to read her bio so that authorand a trailers dance team to
(03:16):
leading national wellnessmovements, sandy's mission is
(03:51):
clear to shift the world'senergy, one joyful moment at a
time.
Through her global platform,sjw Productions, sandy Joy
Weston and podcasts like let'sKeep it Real and Positive Power
Lady, she uplifts others withtools for resetting the mind,
(04:13):
celebrating the body andembracing life with a purpose
and a power.
Wow, hey, sandy.
Hey, listen.
How did your early experienceshape your health and wellness
philosophy?
What was going on in thoseearly earlier days for you in
that backstory?
Sandy (04:39):
Well, let me take, you know, my entire life.
I've always believed that therewas something bigger than me
watching out for me.
My entire life, like I was born, coming in like, yeah, I may
not have it going on right now,but don't worry, loving me and
(05:02):
going to look out for me.
I always felt, no matter howbad for things were, I always
have this feeling like, yeah,I'm good.
Like if I'd gotten a dispute,an argument or broke up with a
boyfriend, whatever, I was sad,but like I guess he's loving me,
I'm good.
You know, I I had this feelingalways.
(05:24):
I don't know why I just hadthis feeling and I also felt I
had these five angels watchingout for me, since since, okay,
and I would say, I don't knowwhy you're worried about me I
got five angels and they laugh alot.
Oh, it got to the point thateven Cassandra people would ask
to borrow my angels.
(05:44):
Realistic, can I borrow theangel, right?
Yeah, I don't know why I feltthat way but as long as I can
remember, I felt that way and Igrew up in the projects and that
was rough.
But the tougher part was my momspent a lot of her life in
(06:06):
mental institutions.
I didn't have a strongfoundation at home and I also
didn't get a lot of support fromthe school systems because they
didn't give me that much time.
They were thinking, listen, begrateful to graduate high school
, that that'll be great, youknow just.
(06:27):
And I wanted bigger things.
There was so much turmoil goingon in my house and my dad a
good man, but really couldn'tstand up to my mom and I mean
she was battling along thedemons.
I understand, they just didn'tknow what to do with my family.
But because of me and my beliefin God, who I call Neil, me and
(06:52):
God, because we're on afirst-term basis, neil, and my
wife.
I just had this feeling I wasgoing to be okay and I was
fortunate enough that I had fiveyoung people in the projects.
They were teenagers older thanme.
I moved to the projects when Iwas nine.
That looked out for me.
I mean, they were into allkinds of things, but they had
(07:13):
hope in me.
They wouldn't let me do it,they wouldn't let me drink, they
didn't want me to be aprostitute, they didn't let me
even wear.
I mean, they were like listen,we're counting on you to get out
of here.
It was great.
And then I'm like dance teacher.
Uh, I was fortunate.
My uncle paid for my dancelessons and that's what kept me
(07:34):
going my dance.
So, I was very, very fortunatethat I got a scholarship for
dance because of financial need.
Yeah, help me out of theprojects.
So my way of living and mywhole belief about joy being my
competitive edge is I saw whatit did for me, since I was very
(07:59):
little, when things were notthat great and I could see
beyond what was right in frontof me, and tapping into some
power that was bigger than me.
That brought this joy out in meto get to where I wanted to go,
and I always felt I had tospread it to so many people.
Because why was I so fortunate?
How did not everybody know aboutthis?
(08:20):
How could they not know aboutthis?
Like everybody can tap intotheir sense of being, whatever
your belief, whatever your is,you know this universal love
that's out there peace, love andjoy, which I believe we all
innately have.
You get into it too.
So I had to do whatever I could, in whatever way.
Yeah, and my middle name reallyis joy.
(08:41):
I know, isn't that amazing,those angels.
I had a rough time with my mom,but she did give me my middle
name, joy.
Cassandra (08:50):
Yes, she did Wow, and you know what that takes me
back, which I want to talk aboutour title, and the title is
Shift your Mindset in One toThree Minutes a day using
movement, words and laughter.
I love that.
So what inspired you?
(09:15):
I know you said it was aninnate thing.
You danced, you believed in joy.
You had Neil beside you, Neilwithin you, Neil all around you.
You have the five angels andall of that, which I think is
fascinating.
So, and also, how, how did youset yourself up for success,
(09:42):
Like right now, your wellness?
Uh, you got a positive mindset.
You shipped it.
Um, is that because of Neil andthe angels or because you know
a lot of people listeningprobably like, wow, she had a
kind of a tough childhood, butshe's.
(10:03):
Her mindset was always positive.
Sandy (10:06):
So all right, let's back up a little bit.
So I think it's a combination.
Cassandra (10:15):
Okay.
Sandy (10:16):
I think that I fell on a system that worked for me at a
very young age to drown out allthe craziness going on in my
home and this, and people couldsay whether you made it up or
not.
I truly believed I had fiveangels looking out for me and
(10:36):
there was nobody going to talkme out of it and that I was
going to be loved no matter whathappened and there was a way
out.
Now I could have been born withthat pippy skippy attitude, but
all I know is you weren'ttalking me out of that.
There were really bad days andreally tough days, but this is
when I say movement, words andlaughter.
I did not call it movement,words and laughter to way, way
(11:00):
long ago in life because I wasvery fortunate Another long
story to own and operate healthand wellness centers.
That's what I did for over 30years and meet the most amazing
people and coach and train themost amazing people, and
everyone was always like why areyou always getting results?
And I was like, well, I'mplaying with their, their brains
, their mindset.
(11:21):
But since I can remember, Iwould dance around for even a
minute.
I would just, and I still dotoday.
So I used movement to take mylevel up to the you know a notch
.
Put on my favorite tune, I'dmove around, not even for a
minute, and then I think, oneword of how I wanted to show up
(11:45):
that day.
So as a kid it was waydifferent.
Now I'm like, oh, I'm gonnashow up and today's gonna be fun
, and I close my eyes and I knew, or today it's going to be
filled with joy or confidence orpeace, and then I put the word
down.
I can remember doing this sincethat time I was nine.
All right, so now I got my wordand my movement and then I'd be
silly and I'd make fun ofeverything and I would laugh.
(12:05):
I did this all the time to whatwas right in front of me and to
visualize where I wanted to go.
Now I didn't know why I didn'tknow the science behind it and I
didn't have to take a leap offaith, I just knew it made me
feel better.
So I was imagine you're doingthat as a kid in the dark
situations.
(12:25):
Then I would go, starting atthe age of nine, my brother and
I would go visit my mom in themental institutions.
Well, okay, it's a bad, andthey weren't the well-funded
ones, right?
Yeah, I had figured a way tochange the mood.
So I would throw on my tapshoes.
I'd go around, I tell thepeople, okay, well, they
(12:49):
probably needed it.
But I'd say you don't need thatmedicine, just watch me, I'll
bring you joy.
And I would throw all my tapdance away until they kicked me
out.
But I saw the very young me ina very extreme setting, how, in
that little amount of time, Icould shift energy and give them
hope and me hope.
(13:09):
And so I had to do this somehowmy entire life.
Now there was no label for it,I just was doing it.
Years and years later, I'mshowing people what I do.
I go out on my front porchevery morning and I do this.
I don't know if I can stand up,but I'll do it seated.
I go, I am strong now and I'mdancing.
(13:31):
I am love now.
I am powerful now.
I am strong now and I'm dancing.
I am love now.
I am powerful.
Now.
I am filled with joy andabundance.
Peace be with you.
And I do that standing up myfront porch.
I do that every single day andI know my word for that day.
I do my movement.
I look at something like asquirrel that makes me laugh and
(13:51):
that's how I start every singleday and I write down the word
and I remember somebody sayingto me you know that movement,
words and laughter I'm like whatthey're like?
Yeah, and it became movement,words and laughter.
I'm like, what are you talkingabout?
And I was thinking years agowell, everybody must have their
system.
They do every day before theygo out in the world.
I realized they don't.
(14:14):
Sometimes it's hit or miss.
So my goal, starting even backwhen people didn't journal, was
to get people to realize it'snot complicated and it's not
time consuming, it's just everyday making an effort, whether
it's one to three minutes a day,to get in that mindset.
And what are you going to do toshift it?
You might not be doing thatdance out in your front porch,
(14:35):
yeah, yeah, what are you goingto?
Cassandra (14:37):
do wow.
So listen, do you wake up andjournal like you talked?
Sandy (14:43):
just said something about journaling um, wake up first,
take a few deep breaths, do abody scan really quickly in a
few seconds.
Nothing I do is time consuming.
I don't even have the power forthat and I think of the word
Like I do check where I am.
So if I'm really anxious thenI'm going to say my word is calm
because you don't want to goway up here.
(15:04):
If I'm feeling good, my word iscalm or joy.
I think about it.
I come down the steps, I pushthe button on the coffee pot,
let it brew.
I go out on my front porch inPhilly I don't care what the
weather is, and I do my movement, words and laughter.
And then I come in and Ijournal every day, and it's not
(15:29):
something that's longer thanothers, it's my power statement,
my word, my affirmation andwhat I'm grateful for.
And then I send love, peace andjoy to people in my family, and
then people that I know need it, and then people that are
really irritating me.
I mean, they always haveconversations about that.
Oh, yeah, yeah, okay, right,and I do that every day.
(15:53):
Not long, it really doesn'ttake long.
And then the coffee's Right,and I do that every day.
Not long, it really doesn'ttake long.
And then the coffee's done andI go get my coffee.
Cassandra (15:59):
Wow Listen.
What value do you see injournaling?
It sounds like it's valuable toyou.
What value would you share withmy listeners about that
journaling?
Sandy (16:12):
I'm so glad you asked, cassandra, because when I first
was doing it, uh-huh, it was arough road.
Nobody wanted to do it, and Iremember I gathered what I
called the powers to be.
I gathered all these scientistsin my office at my health club
(16:32):
in center city, all thesescientists in my office at my
health club in center city, andI was fortunate enough I was
right near university ofPennsylvania so I could get all
these signs.
So I had neuroscientists,exercise physiologists, I had
nutritionists, I had sportspsychologists, I had gurus, I
had spiritual leaders and theyhelped me come up with creating
a journal to see would it reallymake a difference in someone's
(16:55):
life If they journaled fiveminutes?
It was a prompted journal andthere was some research saying
that you're 40% more likely toreach your goals if you write it
down.
But we wanted to put it to thetest.
We really wanted to get it outthere, so we spent after they
got done arguing.
I really wanted to get it outthere, so we spent after they
got done arguing.
We came up with a five-minutejournal that would prompt you,
(17:20):
like it was supposed to beprompting you, so you were not
just running it yourself and Iput it out to people and in one
year, only one person did it.
And I was like devastated,because these were highly
motivated people.
Yeah, devastated because thesewere highly motivated people.
And my professor said well,sandy, no one's going to spend
(17:42):
five minutes a day doingsomething to improve their life
unless they already believe it'sgoing to work.
I'm like what?
Why didn't you tell me that,find out on your own.
And he said make it a minute tothree minutes, and they'll do
it, because now, whether theybelieve it or not, it's worth
the effort.
And then what will?
Because now, whether theybelieve it or not, it's worth
the effort.
And then what will happen is,once they see it working for 30
days, go into the next and thenext and next.
And that's why it's one tothree minutes.
(18:04):
But there's a couple reasons.
One it does.
The one thing it absolutelydoes do is it keeps you focused
on what you're going after.
When you see it, when you writeit, you reflect on it, what
you're going after, what youwant to achieve, you're more
likely to go, oh, at the end ofthe day oh, I wanted to do this.
(18:24):
Oh, my word was joy.
I wasn't really coming from joy.
You are seeing it.
So, no matter what you thinkand you're more likely to 40% of
you write it down, you know toget what you're going after, no
matter what.
No one can argue that you'rewriting it down and you're
reflecting morning and then thenext day Am I staying focused on
(18:46):
what I really want?
The second thing is for manyit's also a way to get a lot of
their feelings and emotions out.
So these are prompt journalsthat I'm giving.
But then a lot of people willjournal and write feelings and
emotions to get it out of theirbody, because they're all
healthy, you're not joyful allthe time, you're angry, you're
(19:07):
upset.
So how are you getting it out?
Some people go to therapist,talk to a close friend, hug a
tree.
Another way to get it out andwork through things is to write
it down and get it out of yourbody and then, in addition,
you're more likely to reach yourgoals because you are writing
it down and there is a body mindconnection when your brain sees
(19:29):
you writing it down and I'm aproblem in writing it, not
typing it.
Cassandra (19:36):
OK, writing, not typing.
Now why would you handwriteopposed to typing what's what's?
Sandy (19:45):
that about you think you know.
I know there's been a lot ofstudies done on the benefits of
handwriting besides typing it,and I don't want to quote it.
I could get back to you on that.
I remember them, the benefits,but I know it is different when
you're sitting there in your ownhandwriting and writing it
versus it just seems so cold tome when you're typing it, think
(20:10):
about it.
It yeah.
Cassandra (20:11):
Yeah.
Sandy (20:12):
Without knowing the research and studies.
I know it feels different whenI'm handwriting a card versus
typing a letter.
Cassandra (20:19):
Right, right, because today it's decided we don't
handwrite, we don't send cards.
Everything's on the computer,everything's social media.
You know, if a thank you card,you send a thank you, a thank
you card on the internet, youknow.
Sandy (20:34):
I have thank you cards.
I'm sending two more out today.
I'm known to handwrite and sendcards.
Cassandra (20:39):
Wow, yeah, it means something it does.
It's so impactful because if Iget a handwritten note, I'm like
, wow, they thought enough aboutme to take the time.
You know it's not superficialenough about me to take the time
.
You know it's not superficial,you know it's like.
It's not like, okay, they didthis, my computer spits it out
you send them a note, spits itout.
(21:00):
It's not automatic, it's notautomated, it's real, you know.
And it makes me think about, um,I was just sharing with someone
else that my therapist asked meone day did I like myself?
And I looked at her.
I'm like, huh, it sure took youa long time to figure it out.
I'm like, well, I never really.
(21:21):
She says so this is what I wantyou to do.
I want you to write it out.
I want to write, want you towrite out.
What is it about you that youlike?
No typing, no editing, justwrite.
And, man, you know, when Istarted doing that, it was
amazing because, you know, weall think of the negative.
We think like, well, I don'tknow, they say 80,000 thoughts a
(21:44):
day, and you know, and 70 to80% are negative, you know.
So when I wrote, I'm like, wow,I do have some great qualities,
you know, because we're so busythinking about the negative, so
I don't know the science behindit either, but I know it works
for me and it works for you.
Sandy (22:05):
Yeah, and so many people.
Once they do it, they're like,wow, there is a huge difference.
And listen, whatever way you'rejournaling it's good.
So if it works for you, theelectronic it's better than not.
But even just a little bit ofwriting.
Cassandra (22:20):
Right right Now.
I've read somewhere where youhelp people unlock their
potential.
How do you do that?
Like my listeners, you know alot of them are stuck.
There's certain things theywant to do but they're not doing
it.
How do you help people unlocktheir potential?
Sandy (22:42):
So for me it's different in how I see them before I meet
with them.
So, for example, interesting, Ifind out about them.
You know you do like adiscovery call, whatever.
Find out, you know why theywant to meet with me, for
(23:02):
example.
You know what is it that theywant to do.
And then I really do.
I spend some time visualizingthem where they want to be.
So I hold space for them.
When they can't hold that spaceor they're not capable of
seeing, so many people did thatfor me.
(23:25):
They saw something in me beforeI could see it.
We all need that.
We all need it.
That's going to say at times,but all the time, yeah, that's
true, you know, when you say youcan't get out of your way to
get out, we all have that.
You know, we all need it.
That's going to say at times,but all the time, yeah, that's
true.
You know, when you say youcan't get out of your way to get
out, we, we, we all have that.
Right, it's a matter of whatdegree.
And so I'll see them where theywant to go and I hold that space
and I do a lot of my own energywork on visualizing.
(23:50):
How am I supposed to help themon visualizing.
How am I supposed to help them?
Why am I here?
Why am I in their life?
How am I supposed to serve them?
And then when I meet them, it'sreally not what they're saying.
I can feel their energy ofwhere they are and if they
really believe what they'resaying or if they are doubting
(24:11):
it, and so from that I start alittle bit in working on
debunking some of the beliefsthat they didn't even know they
have about a certain situation.
For example, there's three mainareas of your life.
Any given time you want to uplevel, three main areas.
(24:31):
It's going to be loverelationships, body, your health
or money career.
Let's just break it down tothree.
I like to keep it simple.
What was the third one?
Uh, money career.
Okay, I don't have loverelationships, right?
How do you have money career?
Even time, they could be allthree, but there's always going
(24:54):
to be one.
You want to up one, right?
So, no matter who you are, ifthey pick that area, like what
area would you like to startfocusing on, the other areas
will come along anyhow, whenthey really think about, like
you did that exercise, which Ilove that your therapist had you
do.
Cassandra (25:13):
Yeah.
Sandy (25:15):
If you didn't have negative chatter.
I don't even like to say stuck,but taking over for now you
have what you wanted.
That's just as simple as it is.
So I allow them to that spaceto feel really good about who
they are like, not judge it.
It Like it's okay.
You have these thoughts.
They're not good, they're notbad, they're not right and
(25:35):
they're not wrong.
Are they serving you, cassandra?
And if not, then we want togradually shift them.
And it's got to be gradualbecause if you're going to have
lost lasting impact, you have tosee success.
And then you go, ooh, okay, Ican do that.
And then the next step and thenext step and finally you're
resetting and retraining yourbrain to believe more of the
(25:58):
thoughts that serve you wellversus the thoughts that don't
serve you well.
Forget positive, good, bad,ugly, whatever.
And I know when we stay stuck.
But I look at it differently.
I'm like, okay, right nowthere's something in your life
that there's too many patterns.
The way you've been thinkingabout it, whether it's something
(26:19):
from your life, external orinternal, those stories are
repeating, and they're repeatingso much that you can't get out
of your way to be able to seethat possibility.
But you got to allow them tofeel so safe and secure that
it's okay that you had thesethoughts about yourself and,
(26:39):
like you said, I don't know thepercentages and they keep
changing it, but we do have alot of negative chatter and once
you admit that and you can seeit and writing it down, I I have
them write the whole thingstream of another way because
it's stream of consciousness,and get it out.
And then I have them put a bigX through it and saying okay
(27:02):
because now what?
And then I shift to what do youbelieve?
And you do small things.
Well, I do believe.
Okay, I thought I was too old,but you know what things?
Well, I do believe.
Okay, I thought I was too old,but you know what?
I've done that before.
I've had so many successes inthat, yeah.
Yeah, I might be older thanmost people, but I have a lot
(27:26):
more wisdom and I start gettingto think about what they do
believe until we can get over.
Yeah, like, even if you can getover to 51%.
Cassandra (27:34):
Right, believe it or not?
Yes, yeah, yeah, do you havethem write it or you all just
talk through it?
Oh, I write, we write, okay.
Sandy (27:42):
Okay, they go homework assignments.
I'm like I don't want to saythat, but they all have journals
, whether it's my journal ortheir journal.
Cassandra (27:49):
Yeah.
Sandy (27:50):
They're all writing it down and then I don't do
anything.
That's time consuming becausemost of them are very busy
people.
They have a lot on their plateand then we talk about it and
there's times they're like sandytrue confession I didn't okay,
that's okay, but they're payingfor it, so they want to do it.
They want to get the most outof it, and then they write it
(28:13):
down, and then we review it, andit's good for them too, because
then they can say, oh my yeah.
Cassandra (28:21):
Yeah, yeah.
Sandy (28:23):
Why you make me do this and I go.
You'll see, You're going tohave to just talk to me.
You'll see.
Cassandra (28:29):
So listen.
So what role do you believe apositive mindset plays in
individuals overcoming thoseself-imposed barriers?
Let me say it again, yeah, sayit one more time what role does
a positive mindset play inovercoming self-imposed barriers
(28:53):
?
Sandy (28:53):
Okay, do you mind if I shift it a little bit?
No, go ahead.
Okay, let's look at it, becauseI know you don't want I don't
want people to feel like youneed to be.
This is really so important forme to people understand this.
(29:14):
Okay, having a powerful mindsetmeans you're coming from peace,
love and joy more than you'recoming from thoughts that don't
serve you well.
Even if you didn't look at likepositive and negative, neatly
your spirit is peace, love andjoy.
A powerful mindset is tappinginto that more than they're
(29:38):
tapping into thoughts andbeliefs that don't serve them
well.
That's good Right and beliefsthat don't serve them well,
that's good, right, and I'm justshifting a little because I can
tell you from my clients andmost of them have achieved a lot
but what they don't want.
I'll tell you what they say tome all the time.
They don't want to one day feelgreat because they landed that
(30:00):
big deal, and then, when theydon't have that big deal, they
don't feel great, like bangingaround like a ping pong.
They want to happen to lifemore.
They want to feel that innatepeace, love and joy.
They want to show up with itmore and not like the, which we
all want.
The external situations affectus so much.
It will affect us, yeah.
(30:21):
So look at it more like youembrace all your emotions and
not even look at them likepositive.
They don't serve, like anger,frustration.
They all serve you well.
It's just what are you going todo with them?
It's more about being honestwith yourself.
Nobody else be your dog, couldbe your therapist, could be a
(30:43):
tree, but you at least have tobe honest with yourself about
how you really feel about asituation.
Once you're really honest aboutyourself, about what you feel,
then you can shift it tothoughts that will serve you
well, because then you're goingto be like, okay, it's not bad
that I'm angry, I feel hatred, Ifeel jealousy, but is that
going to get me where I want togo?
(31:04):
No, so I'm going to allowmyself not to get stuck in there
so that I can shift out ofthose emotions quicker.
So there aren't those barriersfor me to get where I want to go
.
But I think the thing is I wantpeople to realize they don't
have to push those emotions down, because I do find, with a lot
(31:26):
of people that really want toserve and are really good people
, the thing that trips them up.
They push those emotions downbecause they think I shouldn't
feel them, I shouldn't be angry,I shouldn't be jealous, I
shouldn't feel hate.
Well, you're not a robot.
You know we are human beings.
It's okay to feel that way, butthe more that you're honest
(31:50):
with yourself, at least on whatyou're feeling, you are going to
break down those walls andbarriers, because you will get
them out in a healthy way For me.
I journal, I talk to Neil.
I talk to my dog and I talk totrees.
I go out, go out me and trees.
(32:11):
We have great conversations andthat gets it all out of my
system.
So I go through it quicker,even my husband will.
Some will know when I'm out inthe porch like oh no, she's
talking to Neil and sometimes weargue, are you sure?
But it's my, and I get it outof my body because your body
does keep score, so that you'rebreaking down those walls,
(32:34):
you're breaking down thosebarriers, so that you can then
have more of that innate peace,love and joy, which is where
your power really is.
I hope that answers yourquestion.
Cassandra (32:45):
I love that.
That's awesome.
I love that.
I like your shift.
You put it differently.
What makes sense?
Because life isn't fair.
I remember younger days I usedto think, well, I mean, I know,
(33:10):
god, I don't understand why I'mgoing through this, you know.
And then I felt, oh, he'sbeating me up.
I didn't have a name.
I just said God, he's beatingme up because I did this sin
yesterday, you know.
So I go through all I'm a lotof guilt woman.
Yeah, that's right, and I waslike right.
So you know what you said, Iliked, and I just talked to
somebody and they said when youresist it, it persists.
(33:32):
You know, you suppress it.
It's going to keep going.
You suppress it, like you said.
Yeah, acknowledge it.
I love that.
So, and and to sustain itmotivation and wellness you have
to keep doing it.
You have to continue topractice it.
Sandy (33:51):
Well, look at it every day.
I'm a gardener and if I wait topick my weeds it's going to be
overwhelming, right, it's goingto take me forever, but if I go
out every day a little bit, Ipick the weeds, pick the weeds,
the flowers can grow right and Idon't strangle my flowers.
So every day you do a little,just a few minutes, like even in
(34:13):
the morning.
You just want to set yourselfup for the day because it'll
feel better.
All you know, no matter how badthe day is, even a crappy day,
and crappy things happen andyou're right, it's still.
You won't stay there as long,right, you just won't because
you have this practice in place.
You don't have to do mine, butyou have something to get you in
(34:35):
that more powerful mindset thataligns you with your peace,
love and joy.
And just that little bit everyday and being aware of what you
really feel and what youremotions are, it'll help you so
that you won't explode.
You know what I mean, yeah.
(34:56):
And have some of those volcanicdays, not that they won't happen
, because they will, but they'llhappen less will, but they'll
happen less.
And again, I'm not asking foranything.
That's time consuming, becauseI think it's more time consuming
to spin around.
How about those thoughts thatyou spin out of control?
You get another thought, youget another one, you get nothing
done.
You're smart.
Next thing you know you'respiraling out.
(35:18):
Oh my God, she hates me.
Blah blah, blah.
I can't believe she didn't callme.
Why didn't you call me Blahblah, blah?
Right, find out.
She's on a two-day retreat.
You know what I mean.
Like, there's all these things.
Cassandra (35:27):
Mm-hmm.
Sandy (35:28):
So if we spin our head out of control.
Wouldn't you want to justgradually train your head to
think more of a thought that'sgoing to serve you well, Right?
Cassandra (35:38):
Don't get outside to it, that's right.
That's right, that's right.
And listen as you talk aboutthis one thing I always say
these are things you can't do byyourself, because a lot of
(35:58):
individuals don't want to putthat dirty laundry out.
But if you want the help,because we all need it, you know
like, oh, I can do this, Idon't need the journal, I can
think my way, I can positivethink blah, blah, blah.
My way.
I can positive think blah, blah, blah.
But we're not here to be aloneand get somebody to help you.
If it's a therapist, if it's acoach, is it yourself, is it me,
somebody out there, because youcan't do it alone, and that's
(36:21):
it.
Sandy (36:22):
You don't have to put it all over social media, that's
for sure, but find somebody youtrust, and there's so many
different people out there thatyou're going to find somebody.
Some people have that bestfriend or their husband, but
most people it's an, and theyneed somebody in addition to
that.
Cassandra (36:40):
Right.
Sandy (36:40):
Having a skin in the game Right.
By the way, most therapists, tokeep their license, have to go
to therapists a lot of them.
We all need someone.
I'm sure Everybody needssomeone.
Whatever it is, coach, minister, I don't care what it is.
Cassandra (36:57):
Right, I like that.
You are so correct.
I want to talk about.
I want to change a little bit.
Well, let me ask you this whatpersonal growth have you seen in
a client, like just think oftwo of them and what you know
this was then.
This is now Based on yourpractice and you coaching them.
(37:22):
What personal growth have youseen as a result of all that
you've talked about?
Sandy (37:28):
Well, I'll keep their names anonymous.
But the personal growth thatI've seen is even in one of my
clients who has a difficult homesituation and they're under a
lot of stress with some specialneeds children, Mm-hmm, and it's
(37:50):
a very challenging situationand both parents work full time
and they have AIDS, but still inall it can be a really like to
even walk in the house.
You could be like how they dothat.
These two people, especiallythe one I've been working with
for a few years, was able to seethat she could get stronger and
(38:13):
stronger on how she showed upwith joy or peace or love, so
that even though the childwasn't changing, she could
change the situation and changehow the encounter was.
It wasn't going to be totallygone, Of course there are going
to be trying days, but at leastbring more what she wanted more
(38:36):
joy in the home Right andthrough her daily practices of
what she does every morning andshe also works out to keep
herself mentally and physicallyhealthy and spiritually, I've
seen the transformation and howshe was able to flip that whole
hassle from a really toughsituation.
(38:56):
Yeah, because she did the workwithin her, and I've seen that
with some of my male clients too, where they're like I can, I'm
never going to be able to switchthis work environment.
It's too toxic and my boss is,this way, the owner and it's the
CEO of the company and I can'tconvince him.
I'm like I don't want to changehim.
Yes, I don't want to change him.
(39:19):
We're going to change the wayyou show up and that is going to
change the way they encounterand most people are like
whatever.
But then, I see it and they seeit.
I'm like they didn't changewhat's the difference.
You changed.
Wow, here's the deal Good, bador ugly, the most powerful
(39:41):
energy wins, right.
So if negative energy is higher, it's going to win, and if it's
positive, it's going to win,whatever energy is going to win.
So when you take the time whichI do when I go into a difficult
situation, I spend more timepreparing to show up with pure
joy in that situation, because Iknow what I'm going into, so
(40:04):
that the energy can come upRight and I'm not going down
with their energy Exactly.
Cassandra (40:12):
Exactly.
Wow, that's good, that's good.
I want to change up a littlebit.
There are two things that Iwant to know about.
I want you to tell us about thePhilly street line.
Sandy (40:27):
Okay, uh-huh, that sounds very entertaining it was so, oh
my gosh, that was so fun.
So I think it was, though itwas a while, like in 2000, 2001,
.
Philly was voted the fattestcity in the country.
At the time I had a health clubdown at 19th and market, right
(40:53):
like a few blocks from city hall, and I thought, well, here I am
owning this health club.
I gotta do something.
I have to do something.
So I tried to get a meeting umwith the mayor.
I kind of get a mayor with themayor.
I couldn't get a meeting withthe mayor and then he brought in
a fitness czar, the wonderfulGwen Foster, who was in health
education, and I tried to get ameeting for months with them
(41:16):
because I thought I really wantto help the city.
I thought I really want to makea difference.
Not that what they weren'tdoing was impactful, but I had
it to you.
So finally, after like threemonths, I got a meeting with
Glenn Foster, who was then theirfitness czar, who was going to
help with the situation, and Iwas sitting around with all
these people.
Cassandra and I can stillremember it to the day.
I didn't have an idea, I didn'tknow what, but they were
(41:38):
sitting and all of a sudden Ipopped up.
I go, I know what'll work.
And she's like, uh, miss,weston city means a line dance.
And she goes well, I go, yeah,we'd love to dance, we need a
line dance and think about it.
You want people to move Right,it's initiatives and all these
emails it's not going to do it.
(41:58):
But they want to laugh, theywant to smile, they want to
enjoy moving.
We can have doing it.
We can have seniors doing it.
You, we can have people doingit.
We can have seniors doing it.
You can have people in thehospital, like there's a way I
can create the dance.
They're never going to do it.
So she's like okay, do you havea dance?
And I'm like not yet, but giveme a week.
Philly Street Line Dance.
Well, what happened next?
(42:20):
I had no clue.
This dance took off.
They even had Leon Huff createmusic and a song for the Philly,
like do the line dance?
And I called it line danceafter Mayor Street.
Philly Street line dance.
And I was teaching it inschools.
The kids were popping andlocking it.
(42:41):
We had people doing it inhospitals.
We had people doing it insenior setters.
It was all over.
We were doing it on the artmuseum stand, you name it, we
were doing it.
And senior setters, it was allover.
We were doing it.
On the art museum stand, youname it, we were doing it.
I closed down Market Street andwe had firemen doing it on top
of it.
This line dance, so simple, Imean, it was just something that
(43:02):
came from joy, but it broughtthe city together.
They realized everybody canmove at some, and I put, you
know, some boxing in it, ofcourse, you know, for rocky and
everything.
And then what took off is that,oh my god, a dream come true.
Here I am, at 40 years old.
(43:23):
I taught the line dance, whichthey took up a notch to the 76
dance team, and I performed itwith the 76 dance team when I
was 40 years old.
No one could believe it.
There I am, 40 year old, outthere doing this, and I almost
missed my cue because I was like, oh my God, 24,000 people Hi.
Cassandra (43:46):
I know, oh my gosh, it was great.
Yeah, I wanted you to talkabout that.
Because then the last thing Iwant to talk about is Prop Up
Tuesday, and the reason I dobecause there are individuals
listening and we're talkingabout joy, peace and love and
there's so much negativity.
(44:06):
You know, in our workplace, youknow everybody's so serious and
straight and everything, andI'm hopeful that the ideas that
you talk about and I can saythis because I used to, you know
, be a manager and all of thatkind of stuff and I've had no
shame in going into work and say, okay, guys, let's do a line
(44:29):
dance, and I'm like Cassandra isreally crazy.
So just to bring somepositivity in it.
And also we're talking about toovercome some obstacles that
we're having to kind of loosenup.
So that's why I'm asking you toshare that.
And then the last thing is cropup Tuesday, maybe somewhere in
the workplace or you have asupervisor that has a team.
(44:51):
You know I can go crop upWednesday.
Tell us about that.
Sandy (44:54):
Okay, first of all, I have seen even I went down, even
the mayor, this mayor.
I went and met one of her teammembers and she was having
people start their mornings offwith a dance.
And it was so fun to see thatbecause just that little thing,
(45:15):
think about one little thing.
I mean we're not talking, youhave to break out in a whole
entire dance, but just formovement, the office together
and it puts a smile on theirface and you're starting the day
in a different way.
Now, prop Up Tuesday.
I just started Prop Up Tuesday.
Just two weeks ago, I woke upthree in the morning.
(45:36):
I got this vision.
I wanted to connect people.
My word of the year is anabundant mindset.
When you share with others, itcomes back to you.
There's enough for everyone.
And so, with this, I decided onLinkedIn, every Tuesday, here it
is I picked a name out of thisjar for somebody who somebody
(45:59):
nominated.
So if you wanted to, even forProp Up Tuesday, they put a name
in.
Sometimes they tag them and Iput the name in this jar.
Like today, I picked a name outand it was them and I put the
name in this jar.
Like today, I picked a name outand it was so amazing because I
get so excited because I don'tknow who I'm picking, and then I
put it on and I say, make sureyou give this person love all
week long.
And it's neat to see how thepeople are tagging all these
(46:23):
different people on linkedin andeven if they don't get I don't
pick their name out they stillfeel great being nominated and
you can do that in your office.
The same thing Like just even ifyou could either put names in a
hat and know what makes thatperson special.
It doesn't have to be even theemployee of the month, you could
(46:48):
have everybody's name in it andwhen you pick it out you know
what makes that person anamazing human.
Prop up any.
Prop up Friday.
Prop up Tuesday, anything.
And what I love about it isyou're highlighting what makes
that person so cool, amazing andunique.
Cassandra (47:04):
That's right, I love that.
I love that.
I love that.
Wow, prop them up, prop them up.
I know, prop them up.
And some people may say this isso silly, you know, but we need
that.
I mean, we need some energy,some excitement, some joy, you
know.
So that's why I wanted you totalk about the line dancing and
(47:27):
the prep of Tuesday.
I thank you for that.
Sandy (47:30):
Kids, the joy in a child.
Think about it.
I mean the way they smile andlaugh.
Okay, we're not going to be ascarefree because we know a
little too much.
But the more you can bechildlike, I'm all about it.
That doesn't mean you're not abrilliant business person.
They're two separate thingsExactly.
(47:51):
I remember one of my mentors,ed Snyder, who owned the Flyer,
said to me Sandy, your bestweapon is going to be you're
going to be underestimated.
I'm like why am I going to beunderestimated?
Because you're too joyful, yourway to be happy and smile.
No one's going to think you'rea serious businesswoman.
I go, that doesn't even makesense, because it does.
(48:14):
You have to be like your faceand that's what makes you
brilliant.
I'm like well, that's thedumbest thing I ever heard.
But he was right.
I would get in so many doorsbecause people didn't see me
coming, because I was just toohappy and joyful.
Cassandra (48:30):
And then look and some of them didn't want to see
like she's too happy for me.
I don't want to see her rightnow.
Sandy (48:34):
So I always say joy is my competitive edge.
Cassandra (48:38):
That's right, a competitive advantage.
Wow, sandy.
How can my listeners get intouch with you?
How can my listeners get intouch with you?
Sandy (48:47):
Very easy.
Everything is Sandy Joy Weston.
W E S T O N.
You can go to my website andfill out the forms there.
I'm on LinkedIn, instagram,facebook.
Sandy Joy Weston, m E D mastersin education.
Some people think I'm a doctor.
I'm like, not a doctor.
Cassandra (49:05):
Masters in education.
Yeah, okay.
Well, I just want to thank youfor being a guest on my show.
This was what I thought it wasgoing to be very energized, and
I'm certain we energizedindividuals and we have some
school teachers on here that maystart line dancing and Monday
morning.
That would be great becausethat would be awesome.
(49:29):
Yeah, that would be so.
Listen my listeners.
I know that something said inthis podcast has resonated with
you and I ask that you share itand it's also going to be on all
platforms.
But please share this and whenyou do, I'd like for you to
(49:50):
click subscribe, like, and thatwould be so appreciative.
And let's spread the joy andthe peace and the love to
individuals, because what youput out there, you'll get it
back.
And again, sandy Joy Weston,thank you so much.
I appreciate you and all mylisteners.
(50:10):
Like I always say bye for nowand God bless you.
Good day out there to all of my listeners and I'd
like to welcome you to Is yourWay In your Way podcast, and I
am your host and my name isCassandra Crawley-Mayo.
And, for some of those newlisteners out there, the name of
my book is Is your Way In yourWay, so you can really remember
(00:20):
the podcast name and the book.
Well, I would like to.
I'm going to do something alittle little different.
This podcast is for womenthat's ready to stop
self-sabotaging, or, I'm goingto say, to mitigate those
limiting beliefs that'spreventing you from living your
(00:44):
best life on your terms.
So what I'm doing is startliving the life as God has
called you to live.
And also, today is an episodeis a soul shifting conversation
with Sandy Joy Weston, and whenyou get to meet her, you're
wondering is Joy really hermiddle name?
(01:06):
Because she brings so much joy.
I think that's fascinating.
She is an internationallycelebrated podcaster, mindset
reset coach and a wellnesspioneer.
Now, if you've ever felt blockedby your own routines or limited
by beliefs you carry, thisepisode is going to spark
(01:26):
something in you.
We talk about joy as adiscipline, how to reset your
headspace daily and what happenswhen you stop being in your own
way, and we talk about topicsrelated to self-improvement,
self-development.
It also enables you to do alittle self-reflection as well,
(01:48):
and I'm not always prayerfulthat something will be said or
done or something that's goingto give you an aha moment and
you will start becoming unstuckand say you know what?
I have a made up mind.
I'm going to do what I'vealways wanted to do, if it's
writing a book, if it's, if it'sbeing an entrepreneur and
getting out of toxicrelationship, forgiving somebody
(02:10):
, whatever.
So I'm certainly believe thisis this is the one for you.
Okay, so I'm going to bring onour, our guests, and her name is
Sandy Joy Weston.
Hey, sandy.
Sandy (02:26):
Hello Cassandra, thank you for that intro, I love it.
Cassandra (02:31):
Absolutely, girl.
I am just super excited to tellmy listeners I have studied, I
say Sandy, to prepare myself forthis interview today.
And boy, her energy, mygoodness, it just penetrates
through the screen.
So if you're having a down day,I think she's going to spruce
(02:52):
you up today, and so I am really, really looking forward to this
.
And also, we're going to diginto how positivity is more than
a vibe, it is a practice, right?
What I'm going to do, as manyof my listeners know, I'm going
to read her bio so that authorand a trailers dance team to
(03:16):
leading national wellnessmovements, sandy's mission is
(03:51):
clear to shift the world'senergy, one joyful moment at a
time.
Through her global platform,sjw Productions, sandy Joy
Weston and podcasts like let'sKeep it Real and Positive Power
Lady, she uplifts others withtools for resetting the mind,
(04:13):
celebrating the body andembracing life with a purpose
and a power.
Wow, hey, sandy.
Hey, listen.
How did your early experienceshape your health and wellness
philosophy?
What was going on in thoseearly earlier days for you in
that backstory?
Sandy (04:39):
Well, let me take, you know, my entire life.
I've always believed that therewas something bigger than me
watching out for me.
My entire life, like I was born, coming in like, yeah, I may
not have it going on right now,but don't worry, loving me and
(05:02):
going to look out for me.
I always felt, no matter howbad for things were, I always
have this feeling like, yeah,I'm good.
Like if I'd gotten a dispute,an argument or broke up with a
boyfriend, whatever, I was sad,but like I guess he's loving me,
I'm good.
You know, I I had this feelingalways.
(05:24):
I don't know why I just hadthis feeling and I also felt I
had these five angels watchingout for me, since since, okay,
and I would say, I don't knowwhy you're worried about me I
got five angels and they laugh alot.
Oh, it got to the point thateven Cassandra people would ask
to borrow my angels.
(05:44):
Realistic, can I borrow theangel, right?
Yeah, I don't know why I feltthat way but as long as I can
remember, I felt that way and Igrew up in the projects and that
was rough.
But the tougher part was my momspent a lot of her life in
(06:06):
mental institutions.
I didn't have a strongfoundation at home and I also
didn't get a lot of support fromthe school systems because they
didn't give me that much time.
They were thinking, listen, begrateful to graduate high school
, that that'll be great, youknow just.
(06:27):
And I wanted bigger things.
There was so much turmoil goingon in my house and my dad a
good man, but really couldn'tstand up to my mom and I mean
she was battling along thedemons.
I understand, they just didn'tknow what to do with my family.
But because of me and my beliefin God, who I call Neil, me and
(06:52):
God, because we're on afirst-term basis, neil, and my
wife.
I just had this feeling I wasgoing to be okay and I was
fortunate enough that I had fiveyoung people in the projects.
They were teenagers older thanme.
I moved to the projects when Iwas nine.
That looked out for me.
I mean, they were into allkinds of things, but they had
(07:13):
hope in me.
They wouldn't let me do it,they wouldn't let me drink, they
didn't want me to be aprostitute, they didn't let me
even wear.
I mean, they were like listen,we're counting on you to get out
of here.
It was great.
And then I'm like dance teacher.
Uh, I was fortunate.
My uncle paid for my dancelessons and that's what kept me
(07:34):
going my dance.
So, I was very, very fortunatethat I got a scholarship for
dance because of financial need.
Yeah, help me out of theprojects.
So my way of living and mywhole belief about joy being my
competitive edge is I saw whatit did for me, since I was very
(07:59):
little, when things were notthat great and I could see
beyond what was right in frontof me, and tapping into some
power that was bigger than me.
That brought this joy out in meto get to where I wanted to go,
and I always felt I had tospread it to so many people.
Because why was I so fortunate?
How did not everybody know aboutthis?
(08:20):
How could they not know aboutthis?
Like everybody can tap intotheir sense of being, whatever
your belief, whatever your is,you know this universal love
that's out there peace, love andjoy, which I believe we all
innately have.
You get into it too.
So I had to do whatever I could, in whatever way.
Yeah, and my middle name reallyis joy.
(08:41):
I know, isn't that amazing,those angels.
I had a rough time with my mom,but she did give me my middle
name, joy.
Cassandra (08:50):
Yes, she did Wow, and you know what that takes me
back, which I want to talk aboutour title, and the title is
Shift your Mindset in One toThree Minutes a day using
movement, words and laughter.
I love that.
So what inspired you?
(09:15):
I know you said it was aninnate thing.
You danced, you believed in joy.
You had Neil beside you, Neilwithin you, Neil all around you.
You have the five angels andall of that, which I think is
fascinating.
So, and also, how, how did youset yourself up for success,
(09:42):
Like right now, your wellness?
Uh, you got a positive mindset.
You shipped it.
Um, is that because of Neil andthe angels or because you know
a lot of people listeningprobably like, wow, she had a
kind of a tough childhood, butshe's.
(10:03):
Her mindset was always positive.
Sandy (10:06):
So all right, let's back up a little bit.
So I think it's a combination.
Cassandra (10:15):
Okay.
Sandy (10:16):
I think that I fell on a system that worked for me at a
very young age to drown out allthe craziness going on in my
home and this, and people couldsay whether you made it up or
not.
I truly believed I had fiveangels looking out for me and
(10:36):
there was nobody going to talkme out of it and that I was
going to be loved no matter whathappened and there was a way
out.
Now I could have been born withthat pippy skippy attitude, but
all I know is you weren'ttalking me out of that.
There were really bad days andreally tough days, but this is
when I say movement, words andlaughter.
I did not call it movement,words and laughter to way, way
(11:00):
long ago in life because I wasvery fortunate Another long
story to own and operate healthand wellness centers.
That's what I did for over 30years and meet the most amazing
people and coach and train themost amazing people, and
everyone was always like why areyou always getting results?
And I was like, well, I'mplaying with their, their brains
, their mindset.
(11:21):
But since I can remember, Iwould dance around for even a
minute.
I would just, and I still dotoday.
So I used movement to take mylevel up to the you know a notch
.
Put on my favorite tune, I'dmove around, not even for a
minute, and then I think, oneword of how I wanted to show up
(11:45):
that day.
So as a kid it was waydifferent.
Now I'm like, oh, I'm gonnashow up and today's gonna be fun
, and I close my eyes and I knew, or today it's going to be
filled with joy or confidence orpeace, and then I put the word
down.
I can remember doing this sincethat time I was nine.
All right, so now I got my wordand my movement and then I'd be
silly and I'd make fun ofeverything and I would laugh.
(12:05):
I did this all the time to whatwas right in front of me and to
visualize where I wanted to go.
Now I didn't know why I didn'tknow the science behind it and I
didn't have to take a leap offaith, I just knew it made me
feel better.
So I was imagine you're doingthat as a kid in the dark
situations.
(12:25):
Then I would go, starting atthe age of nine, my brother and
I would go visit my mom in themental institutions.
Well, okay, it's a bad, andthey weren't the well-funded
ones, right?
Yeah, I had figured a way tochange the mood.
So I would throw on my tapshoes.
I'd go around, I tell thepeople, okay, well, they
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probably needed it.
But I'd say you don't need thatmedicine, just watch me, I'll
bring you joy.
And I would throw all my tapdance away until they kicked me
out.
But I saw the very young me ina very extreme setting, how, in
that little amount of time, Icould shift energy and give them
hope and me hope.
(13:09):
And so I had to do this somehowmy entire life.
Now there was no label for it,I just was doing it.
Years and years later, I'mshowing people what I do.
I go out on my front porchevery morning and I do this.
I don't know if I can stand up,but I'll do it seated.
I go, I am strong now and I'mdancing.
(13:31):
I am love now.
I am powerful now.
I am strong now and I'm dancing.
I am love now.
I am powerful.
Now.
I am filled with joy andabundance.
Peace be with you.
And I do that standing up myfront porch.
I do that every single day andI know my word for that day.
I do my movement.
I look at something like asquirrel that makes me laugh and
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that's how I start every singleday and I write down the word
and I remember somebody sayingto me you know that movement,
words and laughter I'm like whatthey're like?
Yeah, and it became movement,words and laughter.
I'm like, what are you talkingabout?
And I was thinking years agowell, everybody must have their
system.
They do every day before theygo out in the world.
I realized they don't.
(14:14):
Sometimes it's hit or miss.
So my goal, starting even backwhen people didn't journal, was
to get people to realize it'snot complicated and it's not
time consuming, it's just everyday making an effort, whether
it's one to three minutes a day,to get in that mindset.
And what are you going to do toshift it?
You might not be doing thatdance out in your front porch,
(14:35):
yeah, yeah, what are you goingto?
Cassandra (14:37):
do wow.
So listen, do you wake up andjournal like you talked?
Sandy (14:43):
just said something about journaling um, wake up first,
take a few deep breaths, do abody scan really quickly in a
few seconds.
Nothing I do is time consuming.
I don't even have the power forthat and I think of the word
Like I do check where I am.
So if I'm really anxious thenI'm going to say my word is calm
because you don't want to goway up here.
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If I'm feeling good, my word iscalm or joy.
I think about it.
I come down the steps, I pushthe button on the coffee pot,
let it brew.
I go out on my front porch inPhilly I don't care what the
weather is, and I do my movement, words and laughter.
And then I come in and Ijournal every day, and it's not
(15:29):
something that's longer thanothers, it's my power statement,
my word, my affirmation andwhat I'm grateful for.
And then I send love, peace andjoy to people in my family, and
then people that I know need it, and then people that are
really irritating me.
I mean, they always haveconversations about that.
Oh, yeah, yeah, okay, right,and I do that every day.
(15:53):
Not long, it really doesn'ttake long.
And then the coffee's Right,and I do that every day.
Not long, it really doesn'ttake long.
And then the coffee's done andI go get my coffee.
Cassandra (15:59):
Wow Listen.
What value do you see injournaling?
It sounds like it's valuable toyou.
What value would you share withmy listeners about that
journaling?
Sandy (16:12):
I'm so glad you asked, cassandra, because when I first
was doing it, uh-huh, it was arough road.
Nobody wanted to do it, and Iremember I gathered what I
called the powers to be.
I gathered all these scientistsin my office at my health club
(16:32):
in center city, all thesescientists in my office at my
health club in center city, andI was fortunate enough I was
right near university ofPennsylvania so I could get all
these signs.
So I had neuroscientists,exercise physiologists, I had
nutritionists, I had sportspsychologists, I had gurus, I
had spiritual leaders and theyhelped me come up with creating
a journal to see would it reallymake a difference in someone's
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life If they journaled fiveminutes?
It was a prompted journal andthere was some research saying
that you're 40% more likely toreach your goals if you write it
down.
But we wanted to put it to thetest.
We really wanted to get it outthere, so we spent after they
got done arguing.
I really wanted to get it outthere, so we spent after they
got done arguing.
We came up with a five-minutejournal that would prompt you,
(17:20):
like it was supposed to beprompting you, so you were not
just running it yourself and Iput it out to people and in one
year, only one person did it.
And I was like devastated,because these were highly
motivated people.
Yeah, devastated because thesewere highly motivated people.
And my professor said well,sandy, no one's going to spend
(17:42):
five minutes a day doingsomething to improve their life
unless they already believe it'sgoing to work.
I'm like what?
Why didn't you tell me that,find out on your own.
And he said make it a minute tothree minutes, and they'll do
it, because now, whether theybelieve it or not, it's worth
the effort.
And then what will?
Because now, whether theybelieve it or not, it's worth
the effort.
And then what will happen is,once they see it working for 30
days, go into the next and thenext and next.
And that's why it's one tothree minutes.
(18:04):
But there's a couple reasons.
One it does.
The one thing it absolutelydoes do is it keeps you focused
on what you're going after.
When you see it, when you writeit, you reflect on it, what
you're going after, what youwant to achieve, you're more
likely to go, oh, at the end ofthe day oh, I wanted to do this.
(18:24):
Oh, my word was joy.
I wasn't really coming from joy.
You are seeing it.
So, no matter what you thinkand you're more likely to 40% of
you write it down, you know toget what you're going after, no
matter what.
No one can argue that you'rewriting it down and you're
reflecting morning and then thenext day Am I staying focused on
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what I really want?
The second thing is for manyit's also a way to get a lot of
their feelings and emotions out.
So these are prompt journalsthat I'm giving.
But then a lot of people willjournal and write feelings and
emotions to get it out of theirbody, because they're all
healthy, you're not joyful allthe time, you're angry, you're
(19:07):
upset.
So how are you getting it out?
Some people go to therapist,talk to a close friend, hug a
tree.
Another way to get it out andwork through things is to write
it down and get it out of yourbody and then, in addition,
you're more likely to reach yourgoals because you are writing
it down and there is a body mindconnection when your brain sees
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you writing it down and I'm aproblem in writing it, not
typing it.
Cassandra (19:36):
OK, writing, not typing.
Now why would you handwriteopposed to typing what's what's?
Sandy (19:45):
that about you think you know.
I know there's been a lot ofstudies done on the benefits of
handwriting besides typing it,and I don't want to quote it.
I could get back to you on that.
I remember them, the benefits,but I know it is different when
you're sitting there in your ownhandwriting and writing it
versus it just seems so cold tome when you're typing it, think
(20:10):
about it.
It yeah.
Cassandra (20:11):
Yeah.
Sandy (20:12):
Without knowing the research and studies.
I know it feels different whenI'm handwriting a card versus
typing a letter.
Cassandra (20:19):
Right, right, because today it's decided we don't
handwrite, we don't send cards.
Everything's on the computer,everything's social media.
You know, if a thank you card,you send a thank you, a thank
you card on the internet, youknow.
Sandy (20:34):
I have thank you cards.
I'm sending two more out today.
I'm known to handwrite and sendcards.
Cassandra (20:39):
Wow, yeah, it means something it does.
It's so impactful because if Iget a handwritten note, I'm like
, wow, they thought enough aboutme to take the time.
You know it's not superficialenough about me to take the time
.
You know it's not superficial,you know it's like.
It's not like, okay, they didthis, my computer spits it out
you send them a note, spits itout.
(21:00):
It's not automatic, it's notautomated, it's real, you know.
And it makes me think about, um,I was just sharing with someone
else that my therapist asked meone day did I like myself?
And I looked at her.
I'm like, huh, it sure took youa long time to figure it out.
I'm like, well, I never really.
(21:21):
She says so this is what I wantyou to do.
I want you to write it out.
I want to write, want you towrite out.
What is it about you that youlike?
No typing, no editing, justwrite.
And, man, you know, when Istarted doing that, it was
amazing because, you know, weall think of the negative.
We think like, well, I don'tknow, they say 80,000 thoughts a
(21:44):
day, and you know, and 70 to80% are negative, you know.
So when I wrote, I'm like, wow,I do have some great qualities,
you know, because we're so busythinking about the negative, so
I don't know the science behindit either, but I know it works
for me and it works for you.
Sandy (22:05):
Yeah, and so many people.
Once they do it, they're like,wow, there is a huge difference.
And listen, whatever way you'rejournaling it's good.
So if it works for you, theelectronic it's better than not.
But even just a little bit ofwriting.
Cassandra (22:20):
Right right Now.
I've read somewhere where youhelp people unlock their
potential.
How do you do that?
Like my listeners, you know alot of them are stuck.
There's certain things theywant to do but they're not doing
it.
How do you help people unlocktheir potential?
Sandy (22:42):
So for me it's different in how I see them before I meet
with them.
So, for example, interesting, Ifind out about them.
You know you do like adiscovery call, whatever.
Find out, you know why theywant to meet with me, for
(23:02):
example.
You know what is it that theywant to do.
And then I really do.
I spend some time visualizingthem where they want to be.
So I hold space for them.
When they can't hold that spaceor they're not capable of
seeing, so many people did thatfor me.
(23:25):
They saw something in me beforeI could see it.
We all need that.
We all need it.
That's going to say at times,but all the time, yeah, that's
true, you know, when you say youcan't get out of your way to
get out, we all have that.
You know, we all need it.
That's going to say at times,but all the time, yeah, that's
true.
You know, when you say youcan't get out of your way to get
out, we, we, we all have that.
Right, it's a matter of whatdegree.
And so I'll see them where theywant to go and I hold that space
and I do a lot of my own energywork on visualizing.
(23:50):
How am I supposed to help themon visualizing.
How am I supposed to help them?
Why am I here?
Why am I in their life?
How am I supposed to serve them?
And then when I meet them, it'sreally not what they're saying.
I can feel their energy ofwhere they are and if they
really believe what they'resaying or if they are doubting
(24:11):
it, and so from that I start alittle bit in working on
debunking some of the beliefsthat they didn't even know they
have about a certain situation.
For example, there's three mainareas of your life.
Any given time you want to uplevel, three main areas.
(24:31):
It's going to be loverelationships, body, your health
or money career.
Let's just break it down tothree.
I like to keep it simple.
What was the third one?
Uh, money career.
Okay, I don't have loverelationships, right?
How do you have money career?
Even time, they could be allthree, but there's always going
(24:54):
to be one.
You want to up one, right?
So, no matter who you are, ifthey pick that area, like what
area would you like to startfocusing on, the other areas
will come along anyhow, whenthey really think about, like
you did that exercise, which Ilove that your therapist had you
do.
Cassandra (25:13):
Yeah.
Sandy (25:15):
If you didn't have negative chatter.
I don't even like to say stuck,but taking over for now you
have what you wanted.
That's just as simple as it is.
So I allow them to that spaceto feel really good about who
they are like, not judge it.
It Like it's okay.
You have these thoughts.
They're not good, they're notbad, they're not right and
(25:35):
they're not wrong.
Are they serving you, cassandra?
And if not, then we want togradually shift them.
And it's got to be gradualbecause if you're going to have
lost lasting impact, you have tosee success.
And then you go, ooh, okay, Ican do that.
And then the next step and thenext step and finally you're
resetting and retraining yourbrain to believe more of the
(25:58):
thoughts that serve you wellversus the thoughts that don't
serve you well.
Forget positive, good, bad,ugly, whatever.
And I know when we stay stuck.
But I look at it differently.
I'm like, okay, right nowthere's something in your life
that there's too many patterns.
The way you've been thinkingabout it, whether it's something
(26:19):
from your life, external orinternal, those stories are
repeating, and they're repeatingso much that you can't get out
of your way to be able to seethat possibility.
But you got to allow them tofeel so safe and secure that
it's okay that you had thesethoughts about yourself and,
(26:39):
like you said, I don't know thepercentages and they keep
changing it, but we do have alot of negative chatter and once
you admit that and you can seeit and writing it down, I I have
them write the whole thingstream of another way because
it's stream of consciousness,and get it out.
And then I have them put a bigX through it and saying okay
(27:02):
because now what?
And then I shift to what do youbelieve?
And you do small things.
Well, I do believe.
Okay, I thought I was too old,but you know what things?
Well, I do believe.
Okay, I thought I was too old,but you know what?
I've done that before.
I've had so many successes inthat, yeah.
Yeah, I might be older thanmost people, but I have a lot
(27:26):
more wisdom and I start gettingto think about what they do
believe until we can get over.
Yeah, like, even if you can getover to 51%.
Cassandra (27:34):
Right, believe it or not?
Yes, yeah, yeah, do you havethem write it or you all just
talk through it?
Oh, I write, we write, okay.
Sandy (27:42):
Okay, they go homework assignments.
I'm like I don't want to saythat, but they all have journals
, whether it's my journal ortheir journal.
Cassandra (27:49):
Yeah.
Sandy (27:50):
They're all writing it down and then I don't do
anything.
That's time consuming becausemost of them are very busy
people.
They have a lot on their plateand then we talk about it and
there's times they're like sandytrue confession I didn't okay,
that's okay, but they're payingfor it, so they want to do it.
They want to get the most outof it, and then they write it
(28:13):
down, and then we review it, andit's good for them too, because
then they can say, oh my yeah.
Cassandra (28:21):
Yeah, yeah.
Sandy (28:23):
Why you make me do this and I go.
You'll see, You're going tohave to just talk to me.
You'll see.
Cassandra (28:29):
So listen.
So what role do you believe apositive mindset plays in
individuals overcoming thoseself-imposed barriers?
Let me say it again, yeah, sayit one more time what role does
a positive mindset play inovercoming self-imposed barriers
(28:53):
?
Sandy (28:53):
Okay, do you mind if I shift it a little bit?
No, go ahead.
Okay, let's look at it, becauseI know you don't want I don't
want people to feel like youneed to be.
This is really so important forme to people understand this.
(29:14):
Okay, having a powerful mindsetmeans you're coming from peace,
love and joy more than you'recoming from thoughts that don't
serve you well.
Even if you didn't look at likepositive and negative, neatly
your spirit is peace, love andjoy.
A powerful mindset is tappinginto that more than they're
(29:38):
tapping into thoughts andbeliefs that don't serve them
well.
That's good Right and beliefsthat don't serve them well,
that's good, right, and I'm justshifting a little because I can
tell you from my clients andmost of them have achieved a lot
but what they don't want.
I'll tell you what they say tome all the time.
They don't want to one day feelgreat because they landed that
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big deal, and then, when theydon't have that big deal, they
don't feel great, like bangingaround like a ping pong.
They want to happen to lifemore.
They want to feel that innatepeace, love and joy.
They want to show up with itmore and not like the, which we
all want.
The external situations affectus so much.
It will affect us, yeah.
(30:21):
So look at it more like youembrace all your emotions and
not even look at them likepositive.
They don't serve, like anger,frustration.
They all serve you well.
It's just what are you going todo with them?
It's more about being honestwith yourself.
Nobody else be your dog, couldbe your therapist, could be a
(30:43):
tree, but you at least have tobe honest with yourself about
how you really feel about asituation.
Once you're really honest aboutyourself, about what you feel,
then you can shift it tothoughts that will serve you
well, because then you're goingto be like, okay, it's not bad
that I'm angry, I feel hatred, Ifeel jealousy, but is that
going to get me where I want togo?
(31:04):
No, so I'm going to allowmyself not to get stuck in there
so that I can shift out ofthose emotions quicker.
So there aren't those barriersfor me to get where I want to go
.
But I think the thing is I wantpeople to realize they don't
have to push those emotions down, because I do find, with a lot
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of people that really want toserve and are really good people
, the thing that trips them up.
They push those emotions downbecause they think I shouldn't
feel them, I shouldn't be angry,I shouldn't be jealous, I
shouldn't feel hate.
Well, you're not a robot.
You know we are human beings.
It's okay to feel that way, butthe more that you're honest
(31:50):
with yourself, at least on whatyou're feeling, you are going to
break down those walls andbarriers, because you will get
them out in a healthy way For me.
I journal, I talk to Neil.
I talk to my dog and I talk totrees.
I go out, go out me and trees.
(32:11):
We have great conversations andthat gets it all out of my
system.
So I go through it quicker,even my husband will.
Some will know when I'm out inthe porch like oh no, she's
talking to Neil and sometimes weargue, are you sure?
But it's my, and I get it outof my body because your body
does keep score, so that you'rebreaking down those walls,
(32:34):
you're breaking down thosebarriers, so that you can then
have more of that innate peace,love and joy, which is where
your power really is.
I hope that answers yourquestion.
Cassandra (32:45):
I love that.
That's awesome.
I love that.
I like your shift.
You put it differently.
What makes sense?
Because life isn't fair.
I remember younger days I usedto think, well, I mean, I know,
(33:10):
god, I don't understand why I'mgoing through this, you know.
And then I felt, oh, he'sbeating me up.
I didn't have a name.
I just said God, he's beatingme up because I did this sin
yesterday, you know.
So I go through all I'm a lotof guilt woman.
Yeah, that's right, and I waslike right.
So you know what you said, Iliked, and I just talked to
somebody and they said when youresist it, it persists.
(33:32):
You know, you suppress it.
It's going to keep going.
You suppress it, like you said.
Yeah, acknowledge it.
I love that.
So, and and to sustain itmotivation and wellness you have
to keep doing it.
You have to continue topractice it.
Sandy (33:51):
Well, look at it every day.
I'm a gardener and if I wait topick my weeds it's going to be
overwhelming, right, it's goingto take me forever, but if I go
out every day a little bit, Ipick the weeds, pick the weeds,
the flowers can grow right and Idon't strangle my flowers.
So every day you do a little,just a few minutes, like even in
(34:13):
the morning.
You just want to set yourselfup for the day because it'll
feel better.
All you know, no matter how badthe day is, even a crappy day,
and crappy things happen andyou're right, it's still.
You won't stay there as long,right, you just won't because
you have this practice in place.
You don't have to do mine, butyou have something to get you in
(34:35):
that more powerful mindset thataligns you with your peace,
love and joy.
And just that little bit everyday and being aware of what you
really feel and what youremotions are, it'll help you so
that you won't explode.
You know what I mean, yeah.
(34:56):
And have some of those volcanicdays, not that they won't happen
, because they will, but they'llhappen less will, but they'll
happen less.
And again, I'm not asking foranything.
That's time consuming, becauseI think it's more time consuming
to spin around.
How about those thoughts thatyou spin out of control?
You get another thought, youget another one, you get nothing
done.
You're smart.
Next thing you know you'respiraling out.
(35:18):
Oh my God, she hates me.
Blah blah, blah.
I can't believe she didn't callme.
Why didn't you call me Blahblah, blah?
Right, find out.
She's on a two-day retreat.
You know what I mean.
Like, there's all these things.
Cassandra (35:27):
Mm-hmm.
Sandy (35:28):
So if we spin our head out of control.
Wouldn't you want to justgradually train your head to
think more of a thought that'sgoing to serve you well, Right?
Cassandra (35:38):
Don't get outside to it, that's right.
That's right, that's right.
And listen as you talk aboutthis one thing I always say
these are things you can't do byyourself, because a lot of
(35:58):
individuals don't want to putthat dirty laundry out.
But if you want the help,because we all need it, you know
like, oh, I can do this, Idon't need the journal, I can
think my way, I can positivethink blah, blah, blah.
My way.
I can positive think blah, blah, blah.
But we're not here to be aloneand get somebody to help you.
If it's a therapist, if it's acoach, is it yourself, is it me,
somebody out there, because youcan't do it alone, and that's
(36:21):
it.
Sandy (36:22):
You don't have to put it all over social media, that's
for sure, but find somebody youtrust, and there's so many
different people out there thatyou're going to find somebody.
Some people have that bestfriend or their husband, but
most people it's an, and theyneed somebody in addition to
that.
Cassandra (36:40):
Right.
Sandy (36:40):
Having a skin in the game Right.
By the way, most therapists, tokeep their license, have to go
to therapists a lot of them.
We all need someone.
I'm sure Everybody needssomeone.
Whatever it is, coach, minister, I don't care what it is.
Cassandra (36:57):
Right, I like that.
You are so correct.
I want to talk about.
I want to change a little bit.
Well, let me ask you this whatpersonal growth have you seen in
a client, like just think oftwo of them and what you know
this was then.
This is now Based on yourpractice and you coaching them.
(37:22):
What personal growth have youseen as a result of all that
you've talked about?
Sandy (37:28):
Well, I'll keep their names anonymous.
But the personal growth thatI've seen is even in one of my
clients who has a difficult homesituation and they're under a
lot of stress with some specialneeds children, Mm-hmm, and it's
(37:50):
a very challenging situationand both parents work full time
and they have AIDS, but still inall it can be a really like to
even walk in the house.
You could be like how they dothat.
These two people, especiallythe one I've been working with
for a few years, was able to seethat she could get stronger and
(38:13):
stronger on how she showed upwith joy or peace or love, so
that even though the childwasn't changing, she could
change the situation and changehow the encounter was.
It wasn't going to be totallygone, Of course there are going
to be trying days, but at leastbring more what she wanted more
(38:36):
joy in the home Right andthrough her daily practices of
what she does every morning andshe also works out to keep
herself mentally and physicallyhealthy and spiritually, I've
seen the transformation and howshe was able to flip that whole
hassle from a really toughsituation.
(38:56):
Yeah, because she did the workwithin her, and I've seen that
with some of my male clients too, where they're like I can, I'm
never going to be able to switchthis work environment.
It's too toxic and my boss is,this way, the owner and it's the
CEO of the company and I can'tconvince him.
I'm like I don't want to changehim.
Yes, I don't want to change him.
(39:19):
We're going to change the wayyou show up and that is going to
change the way they encounterand most people are like
whatever.
But then, I see it and they seeit.
I'm like they didn't changewhat's the difference.
You changed.
Wow, here's the deal Good, bador ugly, the most powerful
(39:41):
energy wins, right.
So if negative energy is higher, it's going to win, and if it's
positive, it's going to win,whatever energy is going to win.
So when you take the time whichI do when I go into a difficult
situation, I spend more timepreparing to show up with pure
joy in that situation, because Iknow what I'm going into, so
(40:04):
that the energy can come upRight and I'm not going down
with their energy Exactly.
Cassandra (40:12):
Exactly.
Wow, that's good, that's good.
I want to change up a littlebit.
There are two things that Iwant to know about.
I want you to tell us about thePhilly street line.
Sandy (40:27):
Okay, uh-huh, that sounds very entertaining it was so, oh
my gosh, that was so fun.
So I think it was, though itwas a while, like in 2000, 2001,
.
Philly was voted the fattestcity in the country.
At the time I had a health clubdown at 19th and market, right
(40:53):
like a few blocks from city hall, and I thought, well, here I am
owning this health club.
I gotta do something.
I have to do something.
So I tried to get a meeting umwith the mayor.
I kind of get a mayor with themayor.
I couldn't get a meeting withthe mayor and then he brought in
a fitness czar, the wonderfulGwen Foster, who was in health
education, and I tried to get ameeting for months with them
(41:16):
because I thought I really wantto help the city.
I thought I really want to makea difference.
Not that what they weren'tdoing was impactful, but I had
it to you.
So finally, after like threemonths, I got a meeting with
Glenn Foster, who was then theirfitness czar, who was going to
help with the situation, and Iwas sitting around with all
these people.
Cassandra and I can stillremember it to the day.
I didn't have an idea, I didn'tknow what, but they were
(41:38):
sitting and all of a sudden Ipopped up.
I go, I know what'll work.
And she's like, uh, miss,weston city means a line dance.
And she goes well, I go, yeah,we'd love to dance, we need a
line dance and think about it.
You want people to move Right,it's initiatives and all these
emails it's not going to do it.
(41:58):
But they want to laugh, theywant to smile, they want to
enjoy moving.
We can have doing it.
We can have seniors doing it.
You, we can have people doingit.
We can have seniors doing it.
You can have people in thehospital, like there's a way I
can create the dance.
They're never going to do it.
So she's like okay, do you havea dance?
And I'm like not yet, but giveme a week.
Philly Street Line Dance.
Well, what happened next?
(42:20):
I had no clue.
This dance took off.
They even had Leon Huff createmusic and a song for the Philly,
like do the line dance?
And I called it line danceafter Mayor Street.
Philly Street line dance.
And I was teaching it inschools.
The kids were popping andlocking it.
(42:41):
We had people doing it inhospitals.
We had people doing it insenior setters.
It was all over.
We were doing it on the artmuseum stand, you name it, we
were doing it.
And senior setters, it was allover.
We were doing it.
On the art museum stand, youname it, we were doing it.
I closed down Market Street andwe had firemen doing it on top
of it.
This line dance, so simple, Imean, it was just something that
(43:02):
came from joy, but it broughtthe city together.
They realized everybody canmove at some, and I put, you
know, some boxing in it, ofcourse, you know, for rocky and
everything.
And then what took off is that,oh my god, a dream come true.
Here I am, at 40 years old.
(43:23):
I taught the line dance, whichthey took up a notch to the 76
dance team, and I performed itwith the 76 dance team when I
was 40 years old.
No one could believe it.
There I am, 40 year old, outthere doing this, and I almost
missed my cue because I was like, oh my God, 24,000 people Hi.
Cassandra (43:46):
I know, oh my gosh, it was great.
Yeah, I wanted you to talkabout that.
Because then the last thing Iwant to talk about is Prop Up
Tuesday, and the reason I dobecause there are individuals
listening and we're talkingabout joy, peace and love and
there's so much negativity.
(44:06):
You know, in our workplace, youknow everybody's so serious and
straight and everything, andI'm hopeful that the ideas that
you talk about and I can saythis because I used to, you know
, be a manager and all of thatkind of stuff and I've had no
shame in going into work and say, okay, guys, let's do a line
(44:29):
dance, and I'm like Cassandra isreally crazy.
So just to bring somepositivity in it.
And also we're talking about toovercome some obstacles that
we're having to kind of loosenup.
So that's why I'm asking you toshare that.
And then the last thing is cropup Tuesday, maybe somewhere in
the workplace or you have asupervisor that has a team.
(44:51):
You know I can go crop upWednesday.
Tell us about that.
Sandy (44:54):
Okay, first of all, I have seen even I went down, even
the mayor, this mayor.
I went and met one of her teammembers and she was having
people start their mornings offwith a dance.
And it was so fun to see thatbecause just that little thing,
(45:15):
think about one little thing.
I mean we're not talking, youhave to break out in a whole
entire dance, but just formovement, the office together
and it puts a smile on theirface and you're starting the day
in a different way.
Now, prop Up Tuesday.
I just started Prop Up Tuesday.
Just two weeks ago, I woke upthree in the morning.
(45:36):
I got this vision.
I wanted to connect people.
My word of the year is anabundant mindset.
When you share with others, itcomes back to you.
There's enough for everyone.
And so, with this, I decided onLinkedIn, every Tuesday, here it
is I picked a name out of thisjar for somebody who somebody
(45:59):
nominated.
So if you wanted to, even forProp Up Tuesday, they put a name
in.
Sometimes they tag them and Iput the name in this jar.
Like today, I picked a name outand it was them and I put the
name in this jar.
Like today, I picked a name outand it was so amazing because I
get so excited because I don'tknow who I'm picking, and then I
put it on and I say, make sureyou give this person love all
week long.
And it's neat to see how thepeople are tagging all these
(46:23):
different people on linkedin andeven if they don't get I don't
pick their name out they stillfeel great being nominated and
you can do that in your office.
The same thing Like just even ifyou could either put names in a
hat and know what makes thatperson special.
It doesn't have to be even theemployee of the month, you could
(46:48):
have everybody's name in it andwhen you pick it out you know
what makes that person anamazing human.
Prop up any.
Prop up Friday.
Prop up Tuesday, anything.
And what I love about it isyou're highlighting what makes
that person so cool, amazing andunique.
Cassandra (47:04):
That's right, I love that.
I love that.
I love that.
Wow, prop them up, prop them up.
I know, prop them up.
And some people may say this isso silly, you know, but we need
that.
I mean, we need some energy,some excitement, some joy, you
know.
So that's why I wanted you totalk about the line dancing and
(47:27):
the prep of Tuesday.
I thank you for that.
Sandy (47:30):
Kids, the joy in a child.
Think about it.
I mean the way they smile andlaugh.
Okay, we're not going to be ascarefree because we know a
little too much.
But the more you can bechildlike, I'm all about it.
That doesn't mean you're not abrilliant business person.
They're two separate thingsExactly.
(47:51):
I remember one of my mentors,ed Snyder, who owned the Flyer,
said to me Sandy, your bestweapon is going to be you're
going to be underestimated.
I'm like why am I going to beunderestimated?
Because you're too joyful, yourway to be happy and smile.
No one's going to think you'rea serious businesswoman.
I go, that doesn't even makesense, because it does.
(48:14):
You have to be like your faceand that's what makes you
brilliant.
I'm like well, that's thedumbest thing I ever heard.
But he was right.
I would get in so many doorsbecause people didn't see me
coming, because I was just toohappy and joyful.
Cassandra (48:30):
And then look and some of them didn't want to see
like she's too happy for me.
I don't want to see her rightnow.
Sandy (48:34):
So I always say joy is my competitive edge.
Cassandra (48:38):
That's right, a competitive advantage.
Wow, sandy.
How can my listeners get intouch with you?
How can my listeners get intouch with you?
Sandy (48:47):
Very easy.
Everything is Sandy Joy Weston.
W E S T O N.
You can go to my website andfill out the forms there.
I'm on LinkedIn, instagram,facebook.
Sandy Joy Weston, m E D mastersin education.
Some people think I'm a doctor.
I'm like, not a doctor.
Cassandra (49:05):
Masters in education.
Yeah, okay.
Well, I just want to thank youfor being a guest on my show.
This was what I thought it wasgoing to be very energized, and
I'm certain we energizedindividuals and we have some
school teachers on here that maystart line dancing and Monday
morning.
That would be great becausethat would be awesome.
(49:29):
Yeah, that would be so.
Listen my listeners.
I know that something said inthis podcast has resonated with
you and I ask that you share itand it's also going to be on all
platforms.
But please share this and whenyou do, I'd like for you to
(49:50):
click subscribe, like, and thatwould be so appreciative.
And let's spread the joy andthe peace and the love to
individuals, because what youput out there, you'll get it
back.
And again, sandy Joy Weston,thank you so much.
I appreciate you and all mylisteners.
(50:10):
Like I always say bye for nowand God bless you.
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