September 2, 2025 • 18 mins
In this transformative episode, we explore the powerful practice of "future self-training" - showing up as what you want, not what you currently have.
When you make dua with conviction and then live as if it's already unfolding, you're practicing the highest form of trust in Allah's wisdom and timing. The gap between asking and embodying is precisely where many prayers feel unanswered – not because Allah hasn't accepted them, but because we haven't fully received them in our behavior.
Learn practical ways to embody your future self in every area of life: dressing with dignity regardless of your tax bracket, speaking with the authority of someone who knows her worth, and parenting from wisdom rather than reactivity. Discover how to train your nervous system to hold new beliefs safely, creating a bridge between your current identity and the woman you're becoming. When you genuinely embody the version of yourself who already has what you've prayed for, your brain's reticular activating system begins working for you, highlighting resources and opportunities that were previously invisible. The path to your goals stops feeling overwhelming and starts becoming inevitable.
Ready to reclaim your role as an active participant in your prayers? Start living like the woman Allah has already answered your duas to become. Your future self is waiting for you to step into her shoes today.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, dr Kamal Aftar.
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
I am so glad to be back with yetanother very, very powerful
topic Today.
What we're talking about issomewhat of an extension of the
(00:26):
podcast how to have what youWant, and that's podcast number
207.
We're talking about trainingfor the reality you want to have
, showing up as what you want,not what you already have.
And all of this sounds verysimple, but it's one of the most
spiritually demanding andmentally advanced things you can
practice, because this meansthat you don't show up as a
(00:48):
woman who's frustrated,underappreciated or exhausted.
You show up as a woman whoknows her worth.
That's non-negotiable.
That's how you have to show upif that's what you want, even if
no one else has yet reflectedthat back to you, even if no one
else has yet reflected thatback to you.
Do not show up as someone whois waiting for proof, waiting to
feel confident, waiting for theperson to change, waiting for
(01:12):
results.
Show up as if your vision isalready a reality, and then you
can watch the world catch up,inshallah.
This might sound borderline,delusional to some of you, but
really it's complete devotion toyour goals, devotion to the
part of you that's already whole, already chosen, already
(01:32):
complete.
It does not matter what yourbank account reflects, it does
not matter what state yourmarriage is in, how your body is
, what your to-do list lookslike, what you've caught up with
and what you haven't.
The only thing that matters isyou have to become what you want
.
And this is the question youneed to get used to asking
yourself Am I showing up for mycurrent circumstances or am I
(01:55):
showing up for my future self?
Make this your upcoming week'spractice, because when you start
acting like the version of youwho already has the peace, the
power, the intimacy, the peace,the power, the intimacy, the
money, the education, thesuccess you sort of collapse
time, because here you'reshowing up as what you want.
This whole idea of showing upas the version of yourself you
(02:16):
want to be is one of the mostpowerful mindset shifts you can
train for.
This is where you dress for thejob you want.
Shifts you can train for thisis where you dress for the job
you want, not the job you have,because that shifts your
identity.
This is where you show up asthe parent you want to be, not
(02:37):
the one you've defaulted intoafter a long day.
Speak to your kids as theversion of them you're raising,
not the version that's currentlymelting down in front of you.
And that same applies to yourevery role in life as a wife,
friend, leader, believer.
Future self-training is hard.
At first it feels like you'restepping into a role that
doesn't belong to you yet.
It's not believable and yourbrain fights it.
(02:57):
And when your brain fightssomething that it's trying to
believe, your body will let youknow that there's a mismatch.
And this is where coachingmakes a massive difference.
It helps you rehearse yourdesired identity until it feels
safe, until it clicks.
And once it does, once you getfamiliar with the version of you
who already has what you prayedfor, achievements stop being
(03:20):
about continuous pressure andthey start becoming more aligned
and easy.
You then no longer needconstant motivation because you
just act like her, because youbelieve you are her.
And this is why so many peoplestay stuck because they're
waiting to feel different beforethey act different.
But that's not how identitychange works.
(03:42):
You don't become the confident,joyful, deeply fulfilled woman
by thinking about it, you becomeher, by rehearsing her over and
over until your mind and bodyand spirit stop resisting and
start believing that reality.
Once you embody the woman whoalready has what she prays for,
you become the magnet for it.
(04:04):
When you ask Allah SWT forsomething, you're declaring
belief in His mercy, in Hispower, in His ability to create
something from nothing.
But most of us fall short inthis belief.
We ask, then we hesitate.
We ask, and then we sit downand wonder if we're worthy.
We ask, but we continue walkingthrough life as if it's still
(04:25):
deprived.
The gap between asking andembodying.
That's the part where so manydu'as feel unanswered, when
they're actually not.
And it feels that way notbecause Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala has not accepted them,but because we have not received
them in our behavior, in ourthinking, in our lived sense of
being.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala doesnot need time.
(04:46):
Time is a construct of thehuman mind.
He doesn't need steps orsystems or progress.
He can just say be, and it isso.
When you make dua with fullconviction, becoming the version
of you who knows, your Rabb hasalready responded.
You dress like her, you speaklike her, you lead your family,
(05:06):
your community.
You dress like her, you speaklike her, you lead your family,
your community, your businesslike her.
You are preparing yourself toreceive what you asked for,
because Allah subhanahu wata'ala does not place a desire
of things in your heart for noreason.
This is why showing up as whatyou want is an act of worship.
To me, it's husna dhun in motion.
Want is an act of worship to me, it's husna dhan in motion,
(05:28):
it's tawakkul in your actions,which goes beyond your tongue,
which goes beyond your thinking.
You're saying, ya Allah, Iasked you for this and I know
you heard me, so I'll live likeit's already unfolding for me.
Make it good for me.
This pure surrender is to theonly one power that is Allah,
because that level of deepsurrender and belief will show
(05:49):
up in your behavior.
It has no other choice, and I'mnot telling you all of this to
hint that if your life is hard,it's because your iman is weak
or you're not making duaproperly.
I'm not saying that yourunanswered duas are your fault.
If that is how my message islanding for your nervous system,
then try to hear it another way, a different way.
(06:10):
What you're doing instead isreclaiming your role as an
active participant in yourprayer, not a passive recipient
Although you can get the answerto your du'as as a passive
recipient.
But instead here you're someonewho asks with conviction and
then moves with conviction.
Someone who trusts that whenyou ask al-mujib, the one who
(06:31):
responds something alreadyshifts, even if you can't see it
yet.
If you have not been able tomaster this design, there's
nothing flawed about you.
You're not behind, you're notbroken.
But if you want to experiencewhat you're praying for more
deeply, one way to begin isgently start training yourself
to live like it's alreadyunfolding.
(06:52):
You're not forcing anything.
You're not bypassing pain orpretending your situation is
better than what it actually is.
You're not forcing anything.
You're not bypassing pain orpretending your situation is
better than what it actually is.
You're choosing to orient moretowards your life from a place
of trust.
That is the adab of dua.
You ask, you believe, you embody, and that level of spiritual
maturity is what I was talkingabout.
Is what takes time.
(07:12):
It's not instant.
You don't snap your fingers andsuddenly embody the next
version of yourself.
You grow into it throughconscious repetition, gentle
self-coaching, continueddevelopment of nervous system
safety and deepening trust inAllah's wisdom.
If you dress like the person youwant to be.
Every time you get ready,you're affirming your direction.
(07:34):
You're telling your body andmind this is who I'm, your
direction.
You're telling your body andmind this is who I'm stepping
into.
You're preparing yourself towalk into the rooms you've been
called towards.
Act like the friend you want inlife.
Show up with presence,celebrate without over
explaining, hold space withoutjudgment.
If that's the kind offriendship you want to flow in
your life, that's what you haveto embody for it to start
(07:57):
flowing naturally.
When your energy matches whatyour heart's been asking for, it
comes easier.
Be the spouse you want to comehome to Speak with tenderness,
lead with honesty, holdboundaries with grace and
respect.
Let your love come from a placethat's already full.
The more you honor yourself inyour giving, the more your
(08:20):
relationship becomes a space ofsafety and sincerity.
You don't wait until the spousechanges.
You become the change.
The invisible trap that slowsmost people's progress that
people fall into is the beliefthat they have to wait for
external proof before they'requote-unquote allowed to think
in advance, before they'reallowed to believe and feel and
(08:43):
act like the version ofthemselves they want to be, and
that belief can sound like.
Once I have the money, the time, the body, the perfect
circumstance, then I will feelconfident and powerful.
That's the exact belief thatkeeps you where you are stuck,
because if you're asking in Duafor a successful business or
traveling the world, yourcurrent self isn't built from
(09:06):
that and if that's the case,your future self will never be
able to contain it, even ifAllah is answering your Dua.
You don't need evidence of asuccessful business and a round
ticket around the world in orderfor you to prove to yourself
that you can have it.
Become the future self that hasthese things, and they will
(09:26):
come to you, inshallah.
You don't need the money tostart identifying as wealthy.
You need the thinking patternsof someone who builds wealth.
You don't need the designer bagto feel elegant.
You need the self-respect thattells you that you're worthy of
quality presence, beauty inwhatever form you have currently
access to.
Why luxury comes with brandnames and labels.
(09:49):
It is more of a state of being,a level of self-respect, a
decision that you make that saysI will treat myself with
dignity, no matter what taxbracket I'm in today.
Who knows, you can be that onewoman who is enjoying the
business class experience whiletraveling in economy.
You can be the woman whotravels the world while walking
(10:10):
around your neighborhood justbecause you're in curiosity and
joy.
You can be the woman who ownsher own time and energy while
working nine to five.
How do you do that?
By not over identifying withyour current conditions, by
collapsing time in your mind, bycreating more and more of an
identity of the future self.
(10:31):
The most powerful shift happenswhen you stop looking for
evidence in your bank account oryour closet and you start
creating evidence from yourmindset.
When you start to believe inthe reality of the future self,
your brain, through thereticular activating system,
will start to notice everyresource, every opportunity,
(10:52):
every person and pathway thataligns with your belief.
You will become the magnet tothe very solutions that you
thought didn't exist.
So start speaking like theleader that you're becoming.
Speak as if the room is alreadylistening.
Parent like the wise woman youadmire.
Create like the artist thatinspires you.
Put your message into the worldas if it is eagerly awaiting
(11:16):
your creation.
Rest like that woman who seesstillness as sacred.
Walk like a woman who alreadybelongs into the room that she
walks into.
All of this will reshape yourcertainty in the brain that
you're carrying.
If you're serious about steppinginto the future self, you have
to move beyond just saying thethings right in your head.
(11:37):
You can repeat all of themantras and all of the
affirmations and end the mindsetshifts, but if your body
doesn't believe them, then yournervous system will constantly
be telling you we don't trustthis.
Yet the futureself-transformation towards the
reality you want begins whenyour mantra has an honest
resonance within your body.
(11:57):
You have to just ask yourselfdoes this belief feel safe in my
body?
Does it land?
Does it feel true, not justlogically but viscerally?
And if it doesn't, that doesnot mean that you're broken or
this method is not for you.
It just means that there's agap between your current
identity and your thought andyour future identity.
The gap needs a gentle bridging, and for that you need to keep
(12:22):
trying a version of a beliefthat's slightly better than the
previous one and stillcontinuing to check in with your
body if you believe thatversion yet or not.
This is climbing the beliefladder, because there's a huge
difference between repeating I'mabundant while bracing for your
next overdraft.
Notice, maybe your next beliefis that I have enough for today
(12:44):
and that's enough to carry youinto the future self.
Pretending with words butignoring your body's cues keeps
you in fantasy land.
That's why you can journal allday and make vision boards but
still feel like nothing changes.
When you embody a belief, whenyou progressively, with
incremental, small doses, beginto process actually becoming the
(13:07):
future self that is much moresustainable and much more
effective.
Becoming the future self, thatis much more sustainable and
much more effective.
You're training your nervoussystem to hold a new baseline of
safety, power and possibility.
You do it in a stepwise,incremental manner.
It only feels like a delusionif you try to create a long jump
.
This method is not only doable,it's one of the most effective
(13:28):
ways to move forward.
If you dream of earning adoctorate degree, whether it's
in medicine, psychology,education, but right now you
feel too stretched, too busy,too behind to even start, then
to get to your goal.
You don't need time in yourhands.
Right now you need to beginidentifying with the version of
you who has the degree.
(13:49):
You don't need the initialsafter your name to start
carrying yourself like someonewho belongs in academic,
clinical or intellectual spaces.
You need to start identifyingas that woman because again,
once that happens, the filtersystem of your mind comes online
to look for resources that makethat goal possible, then you'll
(14:11):
find that you all of a suddenhave more time that you thought
that you did.
You will start identifyingwhere you're wasting time, where
you're stressing out withoutany need, where you haven't
tapped into a resource that canhelp you get to your goal,
because the brain will findproof for what it believes.
If you believe the futureversion of yourself that has the
(14:32):
doctorate degree, your mind andbody will lead you to it.
When I say that you don't needcredentials to start carrying
yourself like an expert, I'm notsaying that you should claim
yourself an expert withoutactually having the knowledge.
I'm asking you to embody theinner world of the woman who has
done the work.
Embody her discipline, hercuriosity, her belief in her own
(14:55):
capacity to learn deeply andcontribute meaningfully.
This is how your brain willstart to show you that you have
the time that you thought youdidn't.
You have the money to get tothat goal and it will become
really creative.
In showing you these resources,you don't start posting
financial advice as if youalready earned your doctorate in
(15:15):
economics, but you do startliving like a scholar, someone
who studies, someone who refinesher thinking, someone who has
confidence in herself, whoprotects her time like it's
sacred.
You become that someone whotakes her work seriously so you
can get to that doctorate ineconomics.
This way, you're creatingconditions that make that future
(15:37):
possible.
When you believe in yourconfidence, your brain stops
fixating on obstacles, it startsscanning for pathways.
You begin to notice theopportunities, the mentors, the
articles, the windows of timethat were otherwise invisible to
you before.
Your filter system of yourbrain starts to work in your
(15:59):
favor, surfacing all of theinformation and all of the
solutions that align with whoyou believe you are.
And when you start acting likeher, thinking like her,
organizing your life like her,the path to your goal, any goal
stops becoming overwhelming.
It starts becoming inevitable.
(16:19):
Rehearse the woman you're tryingto become, train for the
reality you want, and you can dothat without any of the
external circumstances changing.
With that.
I pray to Allah, subhanahu wata'ala.
Ya Allah, let me walk as thewoman I asked you to make me,
place my heart in certainty thatyou already heard me.
Guide me to move like someonewho trusts herself.
(16:41):
Let my thoughts reflect whatI've prayed for and let my
actions align with what Ialready know is unfolding.
Ya Allah, make the outcomes ofall of our du'as in our favor.
Ameen, ya Rabbul Ameen, pleasekeep me in your du'as.
I will talk to you guys nexttime.
Welcome to Islamic Life Coach School Podcast.
Apply tools that you learn inthis podcast and your life will
be unrecognizably successful.
Now your host, dr Kamal Aftar.
Hello, hello, hello everyone.
Peace and blessings be upon allof you.
I am so glad to be back with yetanother very, very powerful
topic Today.
What we're talking about issomewhat of an extension of the
(00:26):
podcast how to have what youWant, and that's podcast number
207.
We're talking about trainingfor the reality you want to have
, showing up as what you want,not what you already have.
And all of this sounds verysimple, but it's one of the most
spiritually demanding andmentally advanced things you can
practice, because this meansthat you don't show up as a
(00:48):
woman who's frustrated,underappreciated or exhausted.
You show up as a woman whoknows her worth.
That's non-negotiable.
That's how you have to show upif that's what you want, even if
no one else has yet reflectedthat back to you, even if no one
else has yet reflected thatback to you.
Do not show up as someone whois waiting for proof, waiting to
feel confident, waiting for theperson to change, waiting for
(01:12):
results.
Show up as if your vision isalready a reality, and then you
can watch the world catch up,inshallah.
This might sound borderline,delusional to some of you, but
really it's complete devotion toyour goals, devotion to the
part of you that's already whole, already chosen, already
(01:32):
complete.
It does not matter what yourbank account reflects, it does
not matter what state yourmarriage is in, how your body is
, what your to-do list lookslike, what you've caught up with
and what you haven't.
The only thing that matters isyou have to become what you want
.
And this is the question youneed to get used to asking
yourself Am I showing up for mycurrent circumstances or am I
(01:55):
showing up for my future self?
Make this your upcoming week'spractice, because when you start
acting like the version of youwho already has the peace, the
power, the intimacy, the peace,the power, the intimacy, the
money, the education, thesuccess you sort of collapse
time, because here you'reshowing up as what you want.
This whole idea of showing upas the version of yourself you
(02:16):
want to be is one of the mostpowerful mindset shifts you can
train for.
This is where you dress for thejob you want.
Shifts you can train for thisis where you dress for the job
you want, not the job you have,because that shifts your
identity.
This is where you show up asthe parent you want to be, not
(02:37):
the one you've defaulted intoafter a long day.
Speak to your kids as theversion of them you're raising,
not the version that's currentlymelting down in front of you.
And that same applies to yourevery role in life as a wife,
friend, leader, believer.
Future self-training is hard.
At first it feels like you'restepping into a role that
doesn't belong to you yet.
It's not believable and yourbrain fights it.
(02:57):
And when your brain fightssomething that it's trying to
believe, your body will let youknow that there's a mismatch.
And this is where coachingmakes a massive difference.
It helps you rehearse yourdesired identity until it feels
safe, until it clicks.
And once it does, once you getfamiliar with the version of you
who already has what you prayedfor, achievements stop being
(03:20):
about continuous pressure andthey start becoming more aligned
and easy.
You then no longer needconstant motivation because you
just act like her, because youbelieve you are her.
And this is why so many peoplestay stuck because they're
waiting to feel different beforethey act different.
But that's not how identitychange works.
(03:42):
You don't become the confident,joyful, deeply fulfilled woman
by thinking about it, you becomeher, by rehearsing her over and
over until your mind and bodyand spirit stop resisting and
start believing that reality.
Once you embody the woman whoalready has what she prays for,
you become the magnet for it.
(04:04):
When you ask Allah SWT forsomething, you're declaring
belief in His mercy, in Hispower, in His ability to create
something from nothing.
But most of us fall short inthis belief.
We ask, then we hesitate.
We ask, and then we sit downand wonder if we're worthy.
We ask, but we continue walkingthrough life as if it's still
(04:25):
deprived.
The gap between asking andembodying.
That's the part where so manydu'as feel unanswered, when
they're actually not.
And it feels that way notbecause Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala has not accepted them,but because we have not received
them in our behavior, in ourthinking, in our lived sense of
being.
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala doesnot need time.
(04:46):
Time is a construct of thehuman mind.
He doesn't need steps orsystems or progress.
He can just say be, and it isso.
When you make dua with fullconviction, becoming the version
of you who knows, your Rabb hasalready responded.
You dress like her, you speaklike her, you lead your family,
(05:06):
your community.
You dress like her, you speaklike her, you lead your family,
your community, your businesslike her.
You are preparing yourself toreceive what you asked for,
because Allah subhanahu wata'ala does not place a desire
of things in your heart for noreason.
This is why showing up as whatyou want is an act of worship.
To me, it's husna dhun in motion.
Want is an act of worship to me, it's husna dhan in motion,
(05:28):
it's tawakkul in your actions,which goes beyond your tongue,
which goes beyond your thinking.
You're saying, ya Allah, Iasked you for this and I know
you heard me, so I'll live likeit's already unfolding for me.
Make it good for me.
This pure surrender is to theonly one power that is Allah,
because that level of deepsurrender and belief will show
(05:49):
up in your behavior.
It has no other choice, and I'mnot telling you all of this to
hint that if your life is hard,it's because your iman is weak
or you're not making duaproperly.
I'm not saying that yourunanswered duas are your fault.
If that is how my message islanding for your nervous system,
then try to hear it another way, a different way.
(06:10):
What you're doing instead isreclaiming your role as an
active participant in yourprayer, not a passive recipient
Although you can get the answerto your du'as as a passive
recipient.
But instead here you're someonewho asks with conviction and
then moves with conviction.
Someone who trusts that whenyou ask al-mujib, the one who
(06:31):
responds something alreadyshifts, even if you can't see it
yet.
If you have not been able tomaster this design, there's
nothing flawed about you.
You're not behind, you're notbroken.
But if you want to experiencewhat you're praying for more
deeply, one way to begin isgently start training yourself
to live like it's alreadyunfolding.
(06:52):
You're not forcing anything.
You're not bypassing pain orpretending your situation is
better than what it actually is.
You're not forcing anything.
You're not bypassing pain orpretending your situation is
better than what it actually is.
You're choosing to orient moretowards your life from a place
of trust.
That is the adab of dua.
You ask, you believe, you embody, and that level of spiritual
maturity is what I was talkingabout.
Is what takes time.
(07:12):
It's not instant.
You don't snap your fingers andsuddenly embody the next
version of yourself.
You grow into it throughconscious repetition, gentle
self-coaching, continueddevelopment of nervous system
safety and deepening trust inAllah's wisdom.
If you dress like the person youwant to be.
Every time you get ready,you're affirming your direction.
(07:34):
You're telling your body andmind this is who I'm, your
direction.
You're telling your body andmind this is who I'm stepping
into.
You're preparing yourself towalk into the rooms you've been
called towards.
Act like the friend you want inlife.
Show up with presence,celebrate without over
explaining, hold space withoutjudgment.
If that's the kind offriendship you want to flow in
your life, that's what you haveto embody for it to start
(07:57):
flowing naturally.
When your energy matches whatyour heart's been asking for, it
comes easier.
Be the spouse you want to comehome to Speak with tenderness,
lead with honesty, holdboundaries with grace and
respect.
Let your love come from a placethat's already full.
The more you honor yourself inyour giving, the more your
(08:20):
relationship becomes a space ofsafety and sincerity.
You don't wait until the spousechanges.
You become the change.
The invisible trap that slowsmost people's progress that
people fall into is the beliefthat they have to wait for
external proof before they'requote-unquote allowed to think
in advance, before they'reallowed to believe and feel and
(08:43):
act like the version ofthemselves they want to be, and
that belief can sound like.
Once I have the money, the time, the body, the perfect
circumstance, then I will feelconfident and powerful.
That's the exact belief thatkeeps you where you are stuck,
because if you're asking in Duafor a successful business or
traveling the world, yourcurrent self isn't built from
(09:06):
that and if that's the case,your future self will never be
able to contain it, even ifAllah is answering your Dua.
You don't need evidence of asuccessful business and a round
ticket around the world in orderfor you to prove to yourself
that you can have it.
Become the future self that hasthese things, and they will
(09:26):
come to you, inshallah.
You don't need the money tostart identifying as wealthy.
You need the thinking patternsof someone who builds wealth.
You don't need the designer bagto feel elegant.
You need the self-respect thattells you that you're worthy of
quality presence, beauty inwhatever form you have currently
access to.
Why luxury comes with brandnames and labels.
(09:49):
It is more of a state of being,a level of self-respect, a
decision that you make that saysI will treat myself with
dignity, no matter what taxbracket I'm in today.
Who knows, you can be that onewoman who is enjoying the
business class experience whiletraveling in economy.
You can be the woman whotravels the world while walking
(10:10):
around your neighborhood justbecause you're in curiosity and
joy.
You can be the woman who ownsher own time and energy while
working nine to five.
How do you do that?
By not over identifying withyour current conditions, by
collapsing time in your mind, bycreating more and more of an
identity of the future self.
(10:31):
The most powerful shift happenswhen you stop looking for
evidence in your bank account oryour closet and you start
creating evidence from yourmindset.
When you start to believe inthe reality of the future self,
your brain, through thereticular activating system,
will start to notice everyresource, every opportunity,
(10:52):
every person and pathway thataligns with your belief.
You will become the magnet tothe very solutions that you
thought didn't exist.
So start speaking like theleader that you're becoming.
Speak as if the room is alreadylistening.
Parent like the wise woman youadmire.
Create like the artist thatinspires you.
Put your message into the worldas if it is eagerly awaiting
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your creation.
Rest like that woman who seesstillness as sacred.
Walk like a woman who alreadybelongs into the room that she
walks into.
All of this will reshape yourcertainty in the brain that
you're carrying.
If you're serious about steppinginto the future self, you have
to move beyond just saying thethings right in your head.
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You can repeat all of themantras and all of the
affirmations and end the mindsetshifts, but if your body
doesn't believe them, then yournervous system will constantly
be telling you we don't trustthis.
Yet the futureself-transformation towards the
reality you want begins whenyour mantra has an honest
resonance within your body.
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You have to just ask yourselfdoes this belief feel safe in my
body?
Does it land?
Does it feel true, not justlogically but viscerally?
And if it doesn't, that doesnot mean that you're broken or
this method is not for you.
It just means that there's agap between your current
identity and your thought andyour future identity.
The gap needs a gentle bridging, and for that you need to keep
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trying a version of a beliefthat's slightly better than the
previous one and stillcontinuing to check in with your
body if you believe thatversion yet or not.
This is climbing the beliefladder, because there's a huge
difference between repeating I'mabundant while bracing for your
next overdraft.
Notice, maybe your next beliefis that I have enough for today
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and that's enough to carry youinto the future self.
Pretending with words butignoring your body's cues keeps
you in fantasy land.
That's why you can journal allday and make vision boards but
still feel like nothing changes.
When you embody a belief, whenyou progressively, with
incremental, small doses, beginto process actually becoming the
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future self that is much moresustainable and much more
effective.
Becoming the future self, thatis much more sustainable and
much more effective.
You're training your nervoussystem to hold a new baseline of
safety, power and possibility.
You do it in a stepwise,incremental manner.
It only feels like a delusionif you try to create a long jump
.
This method is not only doable,it's one of the most effective
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ways to move forward.
If you dream of earning adoctorate degree, whether it's
in medicine, psychology,education, but right now you
feel too stretched, too busy,too behind to even start, then
to get to your goal.
You don't need time in yourhands.
Right now you need to beginidentifying with the version of
you who has the degree.
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You don't need the initialsafter your name to start
carrying yourself like someonewho belongs in academic,
clinical or intellectual spaces.
You need to start identifyingas that woman because again,
once that happens, the filtersystem of your mind comes online
to look for resources that makethat goal possible, then you'll
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find that you all of a suddenhave more time that you thought
that you did.
You will start identifyingwhere you're wasting time, where
you're stressing out withoutany need, where you haven't
tapped into a resource that canhelp you get to your goal,
because the brain will findproof for what it believes.
If you believe the futureversion of yourself that has the
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doctorate degree, your mind andbody will lead you to it.
When I say that you don't needcredentials to start carrying
yourself like an expert, I'm notsaying that you should claim
yourself an expert withoutactually having the knowledge.
I'm asking you to embody theinner world of the woman who has
done the work.
Embody her discipline, hercuriosity, her belief in her own
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capacity to learn deeply andcontribute meaningfully.
This is how your brain willstart to show you that you have
the time that you thought youdidn't.
You have the money to get tothat goal and it will become
really creative.
In showing you these resources,you don't start posting
financial advice as if youalready earned your doctorate in
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economics, but you do startliving like a scholar, someone
who studies, someone who refinesher thinking, someone who has
confidence in herself, whoprotects her time like it's
sacred.
You become that someone whotakes her work seriously so you
can get to that doctorate ineconomics.
This way, you're creatingconditions that make that future
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possible.
When you believe in yourconfidence, your brain stops
fixating on obstacles, it startsscanning for pathways.
You begin to notice theopportunities, the mentors, the
articles, the windows of timethat were otherwise invisible to
you before.
Your filter system of yourbrain starts to work in your
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favor, surfacing all of theinformation and all of the
solutions that align with whoyou believe you are.
And when you start acting likeher, thinking like her,
organizing your life like her,the path to your goal, any goal
stops becoming overwhelming.
It starts becoming inevitable.
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Rehearse the woman you're tryingto become, train for the
reality you want, and you can dothat without any of the
external circumstances changing.
With that.
I pray to Allah, subhanahu wata'ala.
Ya Allah, let me walk as thewoman I asked you to make me,
place my heart in certainty thatyou already heard me.
Guide me to move like someonewho trusts herself.
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Let my thoughts reflect whatI've prayed for and let my
actions align with what Ialready know is unfolding.
Ya Allah, make the outcomes ofall of our du'as in our favor.
Ameen, ya Rabbul Ameen, pleasekeep me in your du'as.
I will talk to you guys nexttime.
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