It's About DAMN Time

Does saying “no” feels like a betrayal…

This week, I’m joined by the incredibly insightful and hilarious SaKarra Fite, and we’re talking about the people-pleasing habits that hold us hostage.

From family pressure to generational patterns to simply not wanting to let people down, we get real about where it starts...and how to break free.

We unpack the cost of being the “go-to” person, how boundaries got a bad reputation, and why so ma...

When I was a kid, I had to make a dozen donuts last two weeks.

At the time, I thought I was just rationing snacks… but really, I was learning to ration my whole damn life.

In this solo episode, I’m breaking down how scarcity mindset has shown up for me...from childhood habits to family money beliefs, from skipping guac at Chipotle to turning down big opportunities in podcasting.

And I’m not just talking money…...

We always talk about getting to the bag, but what if the real block is the emotional baggage that came with the bag?

In this episode, I sit down with Anthony Weaver, host of the About That Wallet podcast, to dig into something we don’t talk about enough in our community: money trauma.

From growing up with syrup sandwiches and lunch money guilt to navigating the pressure of being the “financial fixer” in your family — we unpack how t...

Toxic workplaces don’t always come with a warning sign.

Sometimes it starts as a vibe you can’t shake the anxiety before logging in, the shift in your spirit, the way your joy slowly disappears. And if you’ve ever had to question if you were the problem…this one’s for you.

In this CLASSIC episode, I catch up with Stephy Kiss for a real, unfiltered conversation about getting fired, letting go, and figuring ou...

You ever make a promise to yourself... and then break it?

Yeah. Me too.

In this solo episode, I’m unpacking something I’ve been sitting with for a minute: the trust issues we have with ourselves.

We talk so much about being let down by other people, but what about all the times we’ve let ourselves down? All the times we said we’d change, show up, commit...and didn’t?

This ain’t a lecture. It’s a mirror.

We’re d...

What if grinding harder isn’t the answer?

In this episode, I’m joined by the multi-talented media force and community advocate Ron Brown for a vulnerable, funny, and layered conversation about what it really takes to keep going when you’re tired, frustrated, and questioning your own pace.

We get into the reality behind the highlight reels—burnout, guilt around rest, creative comparison, and the mental gymnast...

We talk a lot about dreams. About purpose. About “someday.”

But let’s be honest—most of us aren’t stuck…We’re just not moving.

In this solo episode, I break down five questions that’ll tell you real quick why you’re not where you want to be...pulled straight from a Justin Kelly TikTok and a hard conversation with someone I love.

This ain’t a lecture. I’m answering them out loud in real time. I’m holding mysel...

This episode wasn’t planned… but it was necessary.

Fresh off a job interview (and still in my feelings about it), I hit record and let it all out—from second-guessing myself, to almost talking myself out of a blessing, to that one moment when a friend’s words washed over me and reminded me that what’s for me is already mine.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your own head, constantly overthinking instead of just doing the damn thing, let ...

There comes a time when you gotta stop shrinking, stop explaining, and just start being.

On this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m joined by the unapologetic truth-teller herself, Cookie Brown, host of The Dirty Bag Podcast.

We talk about what it really looks like to live in your truth—even when it makes people uncomfortable.

From people-pleasing patterns to the fear of being misunderstood, Cookie and I dig into the raw, unfilter...

Everybody’s talkin’ about how they want the soft life these days—no stress, no mess, just trips, massages, and somebody else taking the trash out.

But here’s the real: if you ain’t giving that energy to yourself first, how you expect somebody else to?

In this solo episode, I’m breaking down the other side of the soft life. The stuff folks don’t always post about. The part where you realize that before you ge...

Ever wanted to help someone who's struggling—but didn’t know what to say or do?

In this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I get real about what support actually looks like when you're dealing with depression, burnout, and emotional exhaustion.

Spoiler alert: it’s not always a phone call or a “let me know if you need anything” text.

I open up about where I’ve been the past few weeks, how isolation became a lifeline, and why asking “wha...

We always hear about resilience. About being strong. About pushing through.

But what if that strength is silently breaking us down?

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, I sit down with podcast legend and mental health advocate Dominic Lawson to have the kind of raw, honest conversation two Black men rarely get to have in public.

We unpack what it really means to be “the strong one,” why so many of us suffer in silence, and h...

In this raw and unfiltered episode of It's About DAMN Time, Jarratt opens up about the silent struggle of being "everyone's person"—the strong friend who holds it all together while feeling like the world is crumbling underneath.

He shares his personal battle with mental health, the burnout that comes with always being the go-to support system, and how the constant weight of expectations can leave you running on empty.

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Ever feel like you and your partner speak totally different relationship languages?

In this It’s About DAMN Time classic, I sit down with licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jannis Moody to break down attachment styles—how they’re formed, how they show up, and what they mean for your relationships.

Whether you’re Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, or Disorganized… this one will have you reflecting and rethinking how you show up for love.

I’ve...

It’s about DAMN time we talk about something that’s been running my life for way too long—people-pleasing in relationships.

Y’all, I’ve said it a million times, I’m a habitual people pleaser.

But today, I’m sitting down with sex and relationship therapist Jazmyne Thomas, who is a recovering people pleaser, and we’re getting real about how to break free, set boundaries, and stop losing ourselves in love.

We’re diving into:

✔️ How to r...

Are you surviving… or actually living?

In this raw and relatable episode, I’m joined by the bold and brilliant Leigh LaRie from Dirty Roses Podcast to unpack what survival mode really looks like—and how to break free from it.

We get vulnerable about our own experiences:

▶️ Losing jobs

▶️ Divorce

▶️ Hustle culture

▶️ Functioning depression

▶️ Generational conditioning (especially in the Black community)

…and how survival mode can quietly be...

Ever feel like you’re the emotional support system for your entire world?

Like everybody depends on you for motivation, guidance, and advice—but when it comes to you, there’s nothing left in the tank? Same.

In this solo episode, I break down the hard truth: if you aren’t the rock for yourself, you will erode.

This week, I share my personal breaking point, the moment I realized how much energy I was giving away, and what happened when...

Y’all, let’s be real—asking for help is HARD.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent most of your life figuring things out on your own, carrying the weight, and feeling like it’s your job to hold it all together. But what happens when you don’t have a choice?

In this solo episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m getting real about the past five months—losing my job, struggling financially, and realizing that sometimes, you just gotta say “Henc...

Let’s be real—sometimes the common denominator in all our problems is us.

But self-accountability isn’t about self-blame; it’s about self-growth. In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and podcast producer extraordinaire, Stephy Kiss, to talk about what it really means to take responsibility for our actions, choices, and the patterns we keep repeating.

We’re getting into:

✔️ The hard truth about why we struggle with self-awa...