It's About DAMN Time

It’s about DAMN time we talk about something that’s been running my life for way too long—people-pleasing in relationships.

Y’all, I’ve said it a million times, I’m a habitual people pleaser.

But today, I’m sitting down with sex and relationship therapist Jazmyne Thomas, who is a recovering people pleaser, and we’re getting real about how to break free, set boundaries, and stop losing ourselves in love.

We’re diving into:

✔️ How to r...

Are you surviving… or actually living?

In this raw and relatable episode, I’m joined by the bold and brilliant Leigh LaRie from Dirty Roses Podcast to unpack what survival mode really looks like—and how to break free from it.

We get vulnerable about our own experiences:

▶️ Losing jobs

▶️ Divorce

▶️ Hustle culture

▶️ Functioning depression

▶️ Generational conditioning (especially in the Black community)

…and how survival mode can quietly be...

Ever feel like you’re the emotional support system for your entire world?

Like everybody depends on you for motivation, guidance, and advice—but when it comes to you, there’s nothing left in the tank? Same.

In this solo episode, I break down the hard truth: if you aren’t the rock for yourself, you will erode.

This week, I share my personal breaking point, the moment I realized how much energy I was giving away, and what happened when...

Y’all, let’s be real—asking for help is HARD.

If you’re like me, you’ve spent most of your life figuring things out on your own, carrying the weight, and feeling like it’s your job to hold it all together. But what happens when you don’t have a choice?

In this solo episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m getting real about the past five months—losing my job, struggling financially, and realizing that sometimes, you just gotta say “Henc...

Let’s be real—sometimes the common denominator in all our problems is us.

But self-accountability isn’t about self-blame; it’s about self-growth. In this episode, I sit down with my good friend and podcast producer extraordinaire, Stephy Kiss, to talk about what it really means to take responsibility for our actions, choices, and the patterns we keep repeating.

We’re getting into:

✔️ The hard truth about why we struggle with self-awa...

In this week’s deeply moving and inspirational episode, I’m joined by the amazing Kenda Lawson—visionary educator, masterful storyteller, and host of The B Word podcast.

Together, we explore what it means to find beauty in life’s struggles, uncover gratitude in the darkest moments, and use trials as stepping stones to discovering our purpose.

Kenda’s journey of resilience and gratitude is one for the books. From enduring childhood t...

What’s stopping you from showing up as your full, authentic self?

In this solo episode, I get real about the ways I’ve been holding myself back—not just in my podcast, but in my life. I’ve spent too much time shaping myself to fit other people’s expectations instead of just being me.

And if I’m being honest? It’s exhausting.

I share a personal reflection on how people-pleasing, fear, and lack of discipline have kept me from stepping...

Welcome back to It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, we’re diving into a topic that doesn’t get enough love: sexual confidence. It’s not just about what happens in the bedroom—it’s about how embracing your sexual self can empower you in every area of life.

I’m joined by the amazing Jazmyne Thomas, a Sex + Relationship Therapist and Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who’s here to break it all down for us.

Jazmyne takes us on a journey int...

Have you ever felt like you're stuck in the same cycle—same relationships, same habits, same excuses—just circling but never landing?

In this episode, I’m talking about holding patterns: those moments in life when we know we need change, but we keep delaying it.

Inspired by a real-life conversation with a friend, this episode unpacks:

✨ Why we stay in situations that no longer serve us

✨ How comfort and fear keep us stuck

✨ The importan...

It’s been a minute, but I’m back.

In this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m giving you a life update—raw, real, and unfiltered.

The last few months have been tough: job loss, financial struggles, and battling my own mental health. But through it all, I’ve learned some hard lessons about resilience, the power of community, and the importance of asking for help—even when it’s uncomfortable.

What You’ll Hear in This Episode:

Hey y’all, it’s the final episode of the year, and we’re closing out 2024 with a deep dive into resilience—what it means, how it shaped me this year, and why it’s the word I’m carrying into 2025.

This year wasn’t a cakewalk. I faced job loss, strained relationships, personal setbacks, and a whole lot of uncertainty. But through it all, one lesson kept showing up: resilience. In this episode, I’m sharing my raw reflections on how lif...

Welcome back, DAMN FAM, to It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, I'm diving deep into a topic that hits home for a lot of us—overthinking. If you’re anything like me, you've probably spent nights replaying conversations, analyzing your every move, or holding yourself back from making big decisions because of that internal critic.

Well, let’s talk about how overthinking is more than just a mental loop; it’s straight-up self-sabotage.

In t...

In this week's episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I'm digging deep into the realities of facing life's challenges head-on.

It’s been a week of raw emotion—from career uncertainties to reliving the loss of my dad two years ago, and navigating the stress of the recent election results.

I’ve felt every bit of anxiety, fear, and doubt that so many of us experience during tough times. But instead of backing down, I’m choosing to fight for...

This week’s episode dives into an essential but often unspoken topic:

How to share your sexual desires and fantasies with your partner—without the shame or awkwardness.

Just in time for the final days of National Kink Month, I’m sitting down with Safiya Darling, a Black Sex Educator and BDSM/Kink Specialist, who’s here to break it all down.

Safiya shares her expert insights into what kink is, common misconceptions, and why so many p...

In this insightful episode of It’s About DAMN Time, host I dive deep into the importance of living authentically and how embracing vulnerability can strengthen your connections.

Reflecting on personal experiences from this past weekend's Afros & Audio podcast conference, I share how networking, emotional expression, and being truly seen by others can enhance personal growth and create meaningful relationships.

I emphasize the po...

Welcome back to another episode of It’s About DAMN Time!

This week, I’m diving deep with Shanna Stevenson, who is entering a new chapter in her life at 40. We talk about everything from the emotional journey of going through a divorce to what it means to truly find yourself after years of putting everyone else first.

This episode is all about transformation, self-discovery, and the importance of mental health.

Shanna opens up about ...

In this episode of It’s About Damn Time, I sit down with Marquita Henderson, who recently celebrated her first anniversary of going vegan, to explore her journey of self-discovery through a plant-based lifestyle.

We dive into how switching to a vegan diet has not only transformed her relationship with food but also improved her overall health and well-being.

We talk about the health implications of our family histories and how that ...

In this episode, I share my personal journey of facing panic attacks and the emotional turmoil following my job loss.

I discuss the challenges of job searching, the importance of support and communication during tough times, and how I am embracing change by building a podcast agency, D.A.M.N Solutions.

I emphasize the need to overcome self-doubt and take action, reminding y'all that you have nothing to lose and should pursue your pa...

In this episode of It’s About DAMN Time, I’m diving deep into my personal journey of health, wellness, and self-discovery.

I’ve always believed in the power of accountability, but recently, I’ve been challenged to truly practice what I preach. So, I’m opening up about the real struggles I’ve faced on my wellness journey and the importance of holding myself accountable—not just for me, but for my community as well.

We all know that s...