It’s about DAMN time we talk about something that’s been running my life for way too long—people-pleasing in relationships.
Y’all, I’ve said it a million times, I’m a habitual people pleaser.
But today, I’m sitting down with sex and relationship therapist Jazmyne Thomas, who is a recovering people pleaser, and we’re getting real about how to break free, set boundaries, and stop losing ourselves in love.
We’re diving into:
✔️ How to recognize when you’re people-pleasing in relationships (hint: it’s not just about saying yes all the time)
✔️ The emotional and sexual toll of always putting your partner first
✔️ Why people-pleasing is actually about control (yep, we’re flipping the script on that one!)
✔️ How to start asking for what you want without guilt
✔️ How to tell your partner that you’re done sacrificing yourself
✔️ And why saying ‘no’ doesn’t mean the relationship is over—it might actually make it stronger
Plus, y’all KNOW I had to throw in some personal stories about how this has played out in my own love life
(I was NOT ready for these realizations, but here we are 😅).
And of course, Jazmyne came through with some game-changing insights that will have you rethinking everything you thought you knew about keeping the peace in love.
If you’ve ever found yourself shrinking, compromising, or doing things just to keep your partner happy while ignoring your own needs, this episode is for YOU.
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