It's Hard

It's Hard

Welcome to It's Hard -- a sober curious podcast + community that has authentic conversations allowing people to learn, grow and feel less alone as they reimagine their relationship with alcohol. Join me, Utah based Sober Twenty-Something, Paige Boner (yes, that is really my last name + yes the podcast name is 100% intentional), for authentic, raw, and fun conversations about something that a lot of us are navigating, our relationship with alcohol. The sober curious movement picked up after 2020 and now has become a nationwide phenomenon. People of all ages and backgrounds are actively choosing not to drink. However, the sober community is still mostly centered around those who struggle with alcoholism and addiction. There is room for more content regarding the active choice to stop drinking. With every episode, my mission is to showcase a world where it is normal to say no to a night out, wine with dinner, and a hangover Saturday morning. I hope you feel seen and understood through my show, to know you aren’t alone in the journey to reimagine your relationship with alcohol. I am not an expert, just learning right alongside you and hoping to find community in the hard stuff. Join me for new episodes every Monday -- I hope these make mondays a little less hard. @itshardpodcast // www.itshardpodcast.com

Episodes

August 27, 2023 38 mins

First, I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart. To all of you who have supported It's Hard over the past 4 years, I am forever grateful. In this episode, I explain why I made this difficult decision to move on from this chapter in my life. It wasn't an easy choice but I know it is what is best for me in the long run.

In this transition, I am thrilled about my time being shifted toward Sober Squad -- here to cultivate a c...

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Toxic relationships are heavy and hard to understand. Why me? Why would this happen? Did I deserve that? Today, I talk openly about my personal experience in a toxic relationship and how studies have shown the way alcoholism and addiction play a role. It is highly likely that you or someone you know has experienced or is experiencing abuse and toxicity in a relationship, you aren't alone. 

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May 22, 2023 27 mins

Do you often google: "How to know if I should stop drinking?" or "Do I have a problem with alcohol?" and come up with the same unhelpful results? This episode is centered around encouraging you to ask yourself the questions that will help you come to the conclusion of how alcohol plays a role in your life and what you want that to look like moving forward. I am not giving professional advice on how to get sober, but rather helping ...

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We Talk About:

  • What drinking was when she was young
  • When/why/how she drank for the first time
  • My Dad's struggle with alcohol + how it impacted her
  • My drinking habits
  • My decision to get sober + her thoughts on it

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May 8, 2023 21 mins

How to accept your past with drinking. We all know we made mistakes, embarrassed ourselves, and failes miserably. How can we move forward and accept that part of our past? 

Today I talk aboout:

  1. Remembering/Reflecting on what you did in your past. Who did it impact? Who might you have hurt? How and why?
  2. Forgive YOURSELF
  3. How to Apologize Properly
  4. Decide to put your best foot forward
  5. Show graditude towards those who stuck it out with yo...
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May 1, 2023 32 mins

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Emerson Hannon is an engineer turned full-time blogger/content creator based in Minneapolis, MN. She has been sober for over 6 years and she comes on the show to share her experience through choosing sobriety and enhancing her life through this choice. 

What we talk about:

  • Finding sobriety through trial and error
  • Bachelorette Parties
  • Blogger events
  • How sobriety impacts health and wellness 
  • Fun things to do while sober
  • Getting sober 6 ...
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April 10, 2023 32 mins

It's been nearly 2 years since my last drink, but I still crave the buzz of alcohol, getting drunk with friends, and the taste of a true IPA. In today's episode, I share what I do when I have those feelings. 

 

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What did you grow up believing you couldn't talk about? My friend Sandy and I are starting a new series where we chat openly about the stuff we were all taught to keep quiet growing up. Today we talk openly about alcoholism. 

Catch Sandy and I every first Thursday of each month for this new series!

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March 27, 2023 49 mins

Fiona Peterson joins the podcast today to share her story of choosing sobriety and becoming a new mom within the same year. Fiona understands her privlege of being able to CHOOSE sobriety. She got sober and found out she was pregnant just a few weeks later. Today, she shares her story of choosing sobriety while becoming a new mom and how it has impacted her life. 

 

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Answering your questions about sobriety! 

  1. Participating in holidays that are surrounded by alcohol? 
  2. Sober friends?
  3. Tips for a sober friend attending a bachelor/bachelorette party?
  4. Is it appropriate to ask someone if they will ever drink again?
  5. What to say if your friend says "I miss when you used to drink"? 

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Adam Kirr is a non-alcoholic beverage advocate and recently sober. Today he shares his journey from blacking out in college, to drinking in moderation to being sober. He shares how reducing alcohol consumption can benefit our health, why dating is harder when you don't drink, and the BEST NA options in his opinion. 

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Alex Zauner has been sober since 2014. Before the sober curious movement, before NA bars, before delicious NA options. The only option for her when getting sober was going to recovery. Today, she has created various modalities that help people on their journey of getting sober. She does 1 on 1 coaching, group coaching, and has started more than one sober community that meets weekly. In this episode, she shares how the power of comm...

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Paige shares easy ways to tell people you are sober, sober curious, you aren't drinking or you don't drink. She also talks about the sad truth that people will bully you about it and full blown not support your decision. How do you overcome that, how do you set boundaries with those people?

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February 20, 2023 39 mins

Do you serve alcohol? What do you do at your bachelorette? How does sobriety and being a bride work? Will your partner drink?

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February 13, 2023 49 mins

EPISODE RE-RELEASE - This episode is from May 2022 when I was one year sober. 

TW: This episode contains mention of suicidal ideation + alcoholism.

I got sober one year ago today. In this episode, I talk about why I got sober and what the journey has looked like ever since. Sobirety has impacted my mental health in ways that I never would have imagined. What better way to kick off Mental Health Awareness Month than with my biggest me...

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Lets talk about sex! Disclaimer: my journey to overcoming my sexual trauma is still underway. Another disclaimer: I don't go into any unneccesary detail, this episode is focused on mindset, mental health, and overcoming trauma. 

Sex while sober can be hard. Add trauma from past sexual experiences on top of that, it is a doozy. I am here to share my personal experience as I work through sexual trauma without alcohol. Buckle up baby!

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January 30, 2023 17 mins

Dry January is coming to a close, and with that is the thought of "what does drinking look like now?". Are you going back to how it was before? Are you making small changes? Is sobriety in your future? I am here to talk you through alllllll these feelings you might have in these final days of an alcohol free month!

 

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January 23, 2023 53 mins

The #1 question I get asked is "what do you do if your partner drinks??". I thought, who better to bring on than MY partner to talk openly about this dynamic. 

What we talk about:

  • His thoughts when I decided to get sober
  • Boundaries with alcohol
  • My insecurities when I got sober
  • What he wants as a partner
  • How to meet each other where we are at
  • Communication 
  • Triggers

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Chelsey is sharing the voice recording of her having a live mental breakdown in a foreign country. She talks about the honesty of feelings, contemplating checking yourself into a hospital, considering drinking again after more than a year of sobriety, and MORE. We listen to the whole recording, it is raw, vulnerable and so honest. 

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