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February 28, 2023 44 mins

Have you ever been more curious than you should be about your partner’s past lovers? Where one question about their past turned into five, which turned into ten, then felt that very uncomfortable pang of jealousy? This type of jealousy is called retroactive jealousy. One of the more insidious types of jealousy because it is referring to the past, which no one can undo.

Retroactive jealousy can not only ruin an otherwise healthy relationship, it can also be detrimental to your mental health going forward. So on today’s episode, we have invited retroactive jealousy expert Zachary Stockill to fill us in on everything we need to know about this type of jealousy.

Zachary Stockill is the author of
Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy, The Overcoming Jealousy Workbook and The Breakup Recovery Workbook. He is also a podcaster and educator creating programs around raising awareness and educating people about retroactive jealousy, and has founded www.retroactivejealousy.com. Needless to say, he is the ultimate expert in this field and he wants to share his knowledge with all of you.

In this episode you will learn about what retroactive jealousy is, how to identify if you are suffering from retroactive jealousy, actionable tips on how to remedy retroactive jealousy, and practical tools to help create a healthy dynamic in your relationship when feeling retroactive jealousy, and much more!

This episode is packed with juicy knowledge and advice, so you don’t want to miss this one!


Topics discussed in this episode:


  • What is retroactive jealousy?
  • How Zachary discovered retroactive jealousy
  • Why retroactive jealousy isn’t reserved for straight white men
  • The shame around retroactive jealousy
  • How retroactive jealousy can come off as normal
  • The myth around jealousy
  • When is walking away the right choice?
  • Honoring your higher self vs. your ego
  • Advice for those who are aroused by a partner’s sexual past
  • The Madonna-Whore Complex in Freudian psychology
  • What to expect from Zachary’s program Get Over Your Partner's Past Fast
  • Actionable tips for anyone suffering from retroactive jealousy
  • Tools on how to trust your partner’s desire for you
  • How to learn about your partner’s past in a safe and healthy way
  • Last piece of advice for retroactive jealousy sufferers




Connect with Zachary Stockill by visiting his website
https://www.retroactivejealousy.com/

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