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Ever wondered why your accomplishments sometimes stir mixed reactions among friends and colleagues? Join me, Fabio, as we unravel the emotional tapestry of success, where admiration and envy often walk hand in hand. Through the lens of social comparison theory, we'll explore how personal triumphs can inadvertently trigger feelings of inadequacy or inspiration in others. Society often paints success as a zero-sum game, adding to the complexity of these emotions. But fear not, for we'll equip you with the tools to focus on the genuine support from those who truly celebrate your journey, illustrated by the tenacity of icons like Sylvester Stallone.
You'll hear candid personal insights on navigating the tricky waters of support and envy. Together, we'll consider the importance of uplifting others as we progress in our own paths. Sharing stories not only empowers us but also creates a vibrant community of listeners who help one another overcome challenges. Your voice matters, and I invite you to reflect on your experiences and share them. Let's redefine success as a journey of collective growth, not just individual achievement. So, tune in and be inspired to walk your own path to success while lighting the way for others.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Did you know that research shows 70% of people
experience envy when someonearound them becomes successful?
Yes, that's right.
I know it's not really shocking, but I mean, 70% of people is a
(00:21):
lot percent of people, is a lotmore than half of us might you
know in a secret feel resentfulwhen others achieve what we
desire.
But here is the thing success,while it brings admiration, also
brings its fair share of envy.
(00:43):
It's a paradox.
Paradox, you know.
It feels amazing to succeed,but the reactions from others
can be complex and evenoverwhelming.
In today's episode, guys, weare gonna dive deep into why
true success attracts bothsupport and envy, and how you
(01:04):
can rise above these mixedemotions.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success and welcome.
Success is not just aboutachieving personal goals, all
right.
It's about how it affectseveryone around you your friends
(01:25):
, family and colleagues.
As you grow and achieve more,you're going to likely notice an
interesting shift.
So some people start cheeringyou on, while others become
distant or even envious.
So this is something almosteveryone faces at some point.
(01:48):
In fact, true success oftenbrings out two extreme reactions
.
People either admire yourachievements or resent them In a
secret, mostly Because you knowthere are also coward people
(02:08):
around us, so you don't see them.
But why is that?
Why does success spark suchstrong emotions?
Today, we're going to explorethese dynamics.
I'm gonna help you tounderstand how success changed
relationships, both for thebetter and for the worse.
We're going to also discuss howyou can navigate these feelings
(02:33):
, both from others and withinyourself.
But before to go forward, asalways, please subscribe.
So I know this is the rightdirection to drive you, to guide
you, to lead you towards yourjourney to success.
Let's go forward.
Let's go forward.
(02:53):
So if you have ever achievedsomething great, you know
whether it's a personalmilestone, a career achievement
or any kind of success, you aregoing to probably experience
both admiration and criticism.
It might seem strange at first.
You know, when a personcelebrates your success while
(03:16):
another cuts you down, this canbe confusing and frustrating.
After all, you work hard to getwhere you are.
Come on.
So why do some people feelintimidated or envious of your
success?
Often, these reactions arisefrom insecurity.
(03:43):
First of all, youraccomplishments as a reminder of
their own struggles, which youknow can stir feelings of
jealousy.
On the other hand… those whotruly support you will be happy
for your success and will cheeryou on.
(04:04):
But the balance betweenadmiration and resentment is
really fragile.
So it is important to recognizethat this is not personal.
It's natural right.
It's a natural part of thehuman experience.
We are all human beings here.
So understanding this can helpyou deal with negative reactions
(04:24):
more effectively and appreciatethe support you receive more
deeply.
Okay, now let's take a closerlook at why support and envy
arise from success.
Psychologists have long studiedhow people react to other's
success.
One key reason is socialcomparison theory.
So this theory suggests thatpeople measure their own worth
(04:49):
by comparing themselves toothers.
When someone reaches a goalthat others haven't, it can lead
to feelings of inadequacy oreven hostility.
So this doesn't mean thesepeople are bad or malicious.
You know, it's not about that.
It just means they aregrappling with their own
(05:11):
internal struggles, often tiedto their perception of success.
There is more, of course, to it.
Societal pressures and mediacreate unrealistic expectations.
We often believe that successis a zero-sum game, you know,
where one person's successequals someone else's failure.
(05:33):
This mindset, of course, fuelsenvy, and the truth is, success
doesn't need to come at anyoneelse's expenses.
Okay, your success doesn'tdiminish someone else's
potential or opportunities, andthere are so many opportunities
in this world, so it cannotcannot diminish it.
On the other end, genuinesupport comes from a place of
(05:57):
abundance, so where peopleunderstand this, so there is
enough success to go aroundright.
So when others genuinelysupport you, it means they see
your achievement as a reflectionof what's possible for them.
So this kind of support isempowering and creates a
(06:18):
positive ripple effect Apositive ripple effect.
One of the challenges in dealingwith success is knowing how to
respond to both support and envy.
So often people don't know howto handle the negative emotions
that arise when others reactpoorly to their success Can be
tough, can be really tough Tostay, you know, focused and
(06:41):
grounded when surrounded bypeople who might not have your
best interest.
So the key is literally tomaintain perspective.
So when faced with envy, remindyourself that it says more
about the other person's feelingthan it does about your world.
(07:01):
So it's not about you.
On the flip side, always valuethe genuine support you receive
and cultivate thoserelationships.
They are the ones who will liftyou up in times of struggle and
celebrate your victories withyou guys.
Let me tell you a story thatalways inspires me now.
(07:22):
So it's about sylvesterstallone.
You know sylvester stallone andhow rocky came to life.
And uh, well, before stallonebecame the star we all know
today, he was strangling.
Of course, we were stranglingbadly, and he was broke,
couldn't pay the rent, andthings got so tough that he had
(07:44):
to sell his dog.
You know, I think maybe youknow the story he had to sell
the dog because he couldn'tafford to feed him.
I cannot even imagine howdifficult that must have been,
truly, but here's what reallygets me.
So, no matter how hard thingsgot, stallone refused to give up
on his dream.
So he wrote the script forRocky in just three days.
(08:04):
You know the story he alwayssays to us.
You know, studios love thescript.
They were ready to pay goodmoney for it, but they didn't
want Stallone to star in it.
They want to cast someone else,someone famous.
Most people might have takenthe deal.
I mean, he needed money, right,but Stallone, nay, most people
might have taken the deal.
(08:25):
I mean, he needed money, right,but Stallone, nay, he said no,
he believed in himself that much.
Eventually, the studio gave himyou know the rule, let him play
the rule.
And, as we know, rocky became amassive hit Three Academy
Awards and just like that,stallone was a star.
But let's go back to our pointwhy I'm saying to you this story
(08:45):
.
You know the story right.
Any of us know the story.
What we don't know, what youdon't know for sure, is that the
part we don't always hear aboutit basically is that with all
that success, he noticedsomething shift, so some of his
close friends started to pullaway, so he could sense the envy
(09:10):
they get it.
You know, sometimes when weachieve something big, the
people closest to us can feelleft behind.
It's normal, we're human.
Anyway, the story really stuckwith me, so it's a reminder that
success can bring out all kindsof emotions in the people
around us Also.
Good people, yeah, good humanbeings, guys.
(09:31):
So don't be angry with them,it's normal.
But, just like Stallone, Ibelieve it's important to stay
grounded, you know, stayempathetic and understand that
sometimes it's not about usActually, maybe it's not about
us at all.
It's about what they're goingthrough.
You know their past, their fear, how the past impacted towards
(10:01):
their path, you know.
So, to recap, true success is adouble-edged sword.
It attracts both admiration andenvy.
While support from others isuplifting, envy can be painful,
of course.
However, it's crucial tounderstand that envy is often
(10:26):
rooted in personal struggles,fears or insecurities.
So success doesn't diminishothers.
It can inspire them too.
So by recognizing you know allthese dynamics, you can better
(10:46):
navigate your relationships andstay focused on your journey.
So embrace the support, thesupport you receive, and
approach envy with empathy.
That's the only thing you haveto do, guys, in this case.
In this way, you also have agood energy to go forward.
You know on the path you arefollowing right now.
(11:10):
So remember your successdoesn't define anyone else's
world, and there is always roomfor more success in the world.
Now I would love to hear fromyou have you ever experienced
envy or support because of yoursuccess?
(11:32):
How did you deal with it?
Share your thoughts in thecomment below, and if today's
episode resonated with you,please share it with someone who
might need this message.
Your support, as always, meanseverything.
So, of course, if you click thebutton, I'm going to be happy,
(11:54):
as always.
If you share, I'm going to bedouble happy.
You know, by sharing, you arehelping others rise above the
challenges they face too.
So thank you for joining metoday on Journey to Success.
Keep rising, keep shining andremember success is not just
about what you achieve.
It's about how you lift othersalong the way.
(12:15):
See you in the next episode.
Cheers.
Did you know that research shows 70% of people
experience envy when someonearound them becomes successful?
Yes, that's right.
I know it's not really shocking, but I mean, 70% of people is a
(00:21):
lot percent of people, is a lotmore than half of us might you
know in a secret feel resentfulwhen others achieve what we
desire.
But here is the thing success,while it brings admiration, also
brings its fair share of envy.
(00:43):
It's a paradox.
Paradox, you know.
It feels amazing to succeed,but the reactions from others
can be complex and evenoverwhelming.
In today's episode, guys, weare gonna dive deep into why
true success attracts bothsupport and envy, and how you
(01:04):
can rise above these mixedemotions.
Hi guys, my name is Fabio fromJourney to Success and welcome.
Success is not just aboutachieving personal goals, all
right.
It's about how it affectseveryone around you your friends
(01:25):
, family and colleagues.
As you grow and achieve more,you're going to likely notice an
interesting shift.
So some people start cheeringyou on, while others become
distant or even envious.
So this is something almosteveryone faces at some point.
(01:48):
In fact, true success oftenbrings out two extreme reactions
.
People either admire yourachievements or resent them In a
secret, mostly Because you knowthere are also coward people
(02:08):
around us, so you don't see them.
But why is that?
Why does success spark suchstrong emotions?
Today, we're going to explorethese dynamics.
I'm gonna help you tounderstand how success changed
relationships, both for thebetter and for the worse.
We're going to also discuss howyou can navigate these feelings
(02:33):
, both from others and withinyourself.
But before to go forward, asalways, please subscribe.
So I know this is the rightdirection to drive you, to guide
you, to lead you towards yourjourney to success.
Let's go forward.
Let's go forward.
(02:53):
So if you have ever achievedsomething great, you know
whether it's a personalmilestone, a career achievement
or any kind of success, you aregoing to probably experience
both admiration and criticism.
It might seem strange at first.
You know, when a personcelebrates your success while
(03:16):
another cuts you down, this canbe confusing and frustrating.
After all, you work hard to getwhere you are.
Come on.
So why do some people feelintimidated or envious of your
success?
Often, these reactions arisefrom insecurity.
(03:43):
First of all, youraccomplishments as a reminder of
their own struggles, which youknow can stir feelings of
jealousy.
On the other hand… those whotruly support you will be happy
for your success and will cheeryou on.
(04:04):
But the balance betweenadmiration and resentment is
really fragile.
So it is important to recognizethat this is not personal.
It's natural right.
It's a natural part of thehuman experience.
We are all human beings here.
So understanding this can helpyou deal with negative reactions
(04:24):
more effectively and appreciatethe support you receive more
deeply.
Okay, now let's take a closerlook at why support and envy
arise from success.
Psychologists have long studiedhow people react to other's
success.
One key reason is socialcomparison theory.
So this theory suggests thatpeople measure their own worth
(04:49):
by comparing themselves toothers.
When someone reaches a goalthat others haven't, it can lead
to feelings of inadequacy oreven hostility.
So this doesn't mean thesepeople are bad or malicious.
You know, it's not about that.
It just means they aregrappling with their own
(05:11):
internal struggles, often tiedto their perception of success.
There is more, of course, to it.
Societal pressures and mediacreate unrealistic expectations.
We often believe that successis a zero-sum game, you know,
where one person's successequals someone else's failure.
(05:33):
This mindset, of course, fuelsenvy, and the truth is, success
doesn't need to come at anyoneelse's expenses.
Okay, your success doesn'tdiminish someone else's
potential or opportunities, andthere are so many opportunities
in this world, so it cannotcannot diminish it.
On the other end, genuinesupport comes from a place of
(05:57):
abundance, so where peopleunderstand this, so there is
enough success to go aroundright.
So when others genuinelysupport you, it means they see
your achievement as a reflectionof what's possible for them.
So this kind of support isempowering and creates a
(06:18):
positive ripple effect Apositive ripple effect.
One of the challenges in dealingwith success is knowing how to
respond to both support and envy.
So often people don't know howto handle the negative emotions
that arise when others reactpoorly to their success Can be
tough, can be really tough Tostay, you know, focused and
(06:41):
grounded when surrounded bypeople who might not have your
best interest.
So the key is literally tomaintain perspective.
So when faced with envy, remindyourself that it says more
about the other person's feelingthan it does about your world.
(07:01):
So it's not about you.
On the flip side, always valuethe genuine support you receive
and cultivate thoserelationships.
They are the ones who will liftyou up in times of struggle and
celebrate your victories withyou guys.
Let me tell you a story thatalways inspires me now.
(07:22):
So it's about sylvesterstallone.
You know sylvester stallone andhow rocky came to life.
And uh, well, before stallonebecame the star we all know
today, he was strangling.
Of course, we were stranglingbadly, and he was broke,
couldn't pay the rent, andthings got so tough that he had
(07:44):
to sell his dog.
You know, I think maybe youknow the story he had to sell
the dog because he couldn'tafford to feed him.
I cannot even imagine howdifficult that must have been,
truly, but here's what reallygets me.
So, no matter how hard thingsgot, stallone refused to give up
on his dream.
So he wrote the script forRocky in just three days.
(08:04):
You know the story he alwayssays to us.
You know, studios love thescript.
They were ready to pay goodmoney for it, but they didn't
want Stallone to star in it.
They want to cast someone else,someone famous.
Most people might have takenthe deal.
I mean, he needed money, right,but Stallone, nay, most people
might have taken the deal.
(08:25):
I mean, he needed money, right,but Stallone, nay, he said no,
he believed in himself that much.
Eventually, the studio gave himyou know the rule, let him play
the rule.
And, as we know, rocky became amassive hit Three Academy
Awards and just like that,stallone was a star.
But let's go back to our pointwhy I'm saying to you this story
(08:45):
.
You know the story right.
Any of us know the story.
What we don't know, what youdon't know for sure, is that the
part we don't always hear aboutit basically is that with all
that success, he noticedsomething shift, so some of his
close friends started to pullaway, so he could sense the envy
(09:10):
they get it.
You know, sometimes when weachieve something big, the
people closest to us can feelleft behind.
It's normal, we're human.
Anyway, the story really stuckwith me, so it's a reminder that
success can bring out all kindsof emotions in the people
around us Also.
Good people, yeah, good humanbeings, guys.
(09:31):
So don't be angry with them,it's normal.
But, just like Stallone, Ibelieve it's important to stay
grounded, you know, stayempathetic and understand that
sometimes it's not about usActually, maybe it's not about
us at all.
It's about what they're goingthrough.
You know their past, their fear, how the past impacted towards
(10:01):
their path, you know.
So, to recap, true success is adouble-edged sword.
It attracts both admiration andenvy.
While support from others isuplifting, envy can be painful,
of course.
However, it's crucial tounderstand that envy is often
(10:26):
rooted in personal struggles,fears or insecurities.
So success doesn't diminishothers.
It can inspire them too.
So by recognizing you know allthese dynamics, you can better
(10:46):
navigate your relationships andstay focused on your journey.
So embrace the support, thesupport you receive, and
approach envy with empathy.
That's the only thing you haveto do, guys, in this case.
In this way, you also have agood energy to go forward.
You know on the path you arefollowing right now.
(11:10):
So remember your successdoesn't define anyone else's
world, and there is always roomfor more success in the world.
Now I would love to hear fromyou have you ever experienced
envy or support because of yoursuccess?
(11:32):
How did you deal with it?
Share your thoughts in thecomment below, and if today's
episode resonated with you,please share it with someone who
might need this message.
Your support, as always, meanseverything.
So, of course, if you click thebutton, I'm going to be happy,
(11:54):
as always.
If you share, I'm going to bedouble happy.
You know, by sharing, you arehelping others rise above the
challenges they face too.
So thank you for joining metoday on Journey to Success.
Keep rising, keep shining andremember success is not just
about what you achieve.
It's about how you lift othersalong the way.
(12:15):
See you in the next episode.
Cheers.
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